DOGS Corner

This talk about Nigerian women placing priority on money and provision before agreeing to date Nigerian men really needs to be addressed. 

This notion that Nigerian women are materialistic and only date for survival and status and that foreign ladies are better. Let's break this down bit by bit. There is a lot to unpack here.

Like attracts like. 

The quality of a man, determines the quality of women he attracts. High quality men, attract high quality women. If your money is all a woman notices about you then maybe check yourself.

 A high quality woman won’t be impressed by your spending. Sure, it is a nice and welcome addition but she’s looking for something deeper. When a man’s emotional maturity and intelligence is lacking, knowledge and conversational depth is minimal, has no understanding of intimacy beyond sxx, has little understanding of what it means to provide leadership and cannot immediately define where his relationship is headed, he thinks money is all he needs. 

The shepherd doesn't know where he is heading but he blames the ship for demanding incentives before she follows.

But we Nigerian men are something aren’t we? O yes, we are loud, we are braggadocios, clubs in Dubai, Durban, Johannesburg testify. 

The Nigerian man is the life of the party. He sprays, he declares ‘money na water’. 

 Desperate Nigerian men, with nothing going for them but with change to spare, have women at their beck and call. O well, shxt attracts flies. But take the money away and how of the man is left?

Few women outside Nigeria, can tolerate the practical life of near slavery it means to be married to the typical Nigerian man. What? She will wash, cook and clean for him and his kids, give him sxx on demand, slave up for in-laws, contribute financially to the home and still tolerate his cheating? She voices out concern and she is told that ‘a wise woman builds her home’ and while this may be true, what is in it for her? If she doesn’t do most of the above, she gets labelled a bad wife.

If we say our ladies are only after money, probably because that’s all we show them. We think money covers for a lot and maybe it does. But does it cover for genuine connection and affection? And we are surprised that paternity fraud is rampant in Nigeria?

Admittedly, some ladies clearly state they can’t date a man without financial muscle and that’s fine. If this rubs you the wrong way, you don’t have to date them and if you date them, don’t complain. 

There are ladies out there who don’t care about the coins you have to spare or the pot you have to piss in. They just need you to be real, treat the heart they’ve given you with care and stay faithful. Your money will go nowhere with them but your heart will. 

Here’s a secret. You can be that man to a lady out there. Find her and when you do, show her you have a lot more going for you than money.

 In the end, a woman is only what you make of her.