Hmmmmmmm.....
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
ADVICE NEEDED
Over the weekend, I visited my boyfriend and while we were watching a movie on his phone, he received a call from someone who whose name he saved as Blessing.
Over the weekend, I visited my boyfriend and while we were watching a movie on his phone, he received a call from someone who whose name he saved as Blessing.
During the conversation, my boyfriend used masculine pronouns to refer to Blessing, like Bobo, Guy LOL . which struck me as odd given the female voice I heard.
When the call ended, I asked him about the caller and he said she was just a friend and that I was over reacting. I questioned the inconsistency in his words and actions, pointing out that if there was nothing going on, he wouldn't have used masculine pronouns.
I then asked him to call her back to prove my suspicions wrong, but he refused. Left for me, I would never disrespect him like that as I don't even keep male friends or receive odd calls that would create rooms for disrespect to him.
What should I do?
You are probably the main chic..Most sidechics know immediately what to do if they call and their guy is with the wife or main chic....What you can do is watch if its a pattern with him but please avoid confrontations when you both are alone ooooooo.....so that he doesnt get angry and mistakeny kpai you...
You have not officially caught him but be watchful
Are you married? Did he make any vows to you? Abeg shift
ReplyDeleteAll these energy over a boyfriend? Do you lack love at home? Relax your beautiful head my dear, if he does anyhow dump him and move on to the next. Stop worrying your pretty head.
ReplyDeleteStella you are so dramatic eh, your mind dey far o, how you take reason this "kpai" now now??
ReplyDeletePoster your Bobo is a suspect and your feelings are right
She's right have you not been seeing how men have been kpaing women over minor issues
DeleteDon’t let him gaslight you
ReplyDeleteMove on
sabi you both are just dating, if you are not okay or don't trust him enough with his explanation. Just walk away.
ReplyDeleteIronically back in the day, there was a boy in my class whose name was Blessing( which was actually rare for a boy)... and so many more like that. Dont overthink it unless he give you reason to .
ReplyDeleteShe said she was hearing a female voice.
DeleteShe get luck say he no use Emeka or Frank to save the female sef😅
DeleteAnty you must not put everything in mind after all he no dey marry you
Shift biko 🙄
Stop wasting your time and end that situationship. My dear, you have been given a golden ticket to something better, use sense. Man got you watching movie on a phone, giving you eye problems in addition to his theatrics. Just ghost him.
ReplyDeleteSomeone is disrespecting you in broad day light and you are there asking what you should go. You know he is cheating but you are coming here to ask us what you should do...my dear leave him ASAP if he if truly loves you, he will come looking for you. Stop going to his house
ReplyDeleteYou’re not wrong for feeling uncomfortable, but avoid turning it into an investigation. The real issue is not the call, but his refusal to reassure you. Have an honest conversation and tell him the situation and his reaction made you uncomfortable. If he’s consistently defensive, secretive, or dismissive of your feelings, then that’s the bigger red flag.
ReplyDeleteHe was lying
DeleteTrying to make a girl a guy is lying
Nothing left to ask about
Stella your advice made me laugh 🤣😂.ls true sha, people kpai people for nothing these days.
ReplyDeleteI ASKED OPEN AI FOR HIS INPUT AND THIS IS HIS RESPONSE
ReplyDelete1. Initial Advice and Perspective
There are a few different issues tangled together in what you described, and it helps to separate them before deciding what to do.
First, the pronoun confusion (“Bobo,” “Guy”) is not strong evidence on its own. People sometimes use masculine slang loosely, joke with friends, or even call female friends “guy” or “bro” casually. So that alone doesn’t confirm anything.
Second, his reaction—calling you “overreacting” and refusing to call the person back—doesn’t automatically mean he’s hiding something either. It could mean he felt interrogated or put on the spot. But it does show a breakdown in trust and communication in that moment.
Third, your response—asking him to call her back to “prove” it—crosses into a kind of verification test. In healthy relationships, trust isn’t usually built through on-demand demonstrations like that. It often backfires because it turns into control vs. defense rather than understanding vs. clarity.
What matters more here is not “Was that call suspicious?” but:
- Do you generally feel secure in this relationship?
- Has he given you real reasons (not assumptions) to doubt him before?
- When concerns come up, can both of you talk without escalating into accusations or dismissals?
A more useful next step would be a calm conversation later, not in the heat of the moment. You can express how you felt without accusing him and ask for clarity.
Important pushback: Avoiding male friends or controlling social contact as a measure of “respect” can become unhealthy if it turns into mutual restriction instead of trust.
2. Suggested Conversation Script
You can say:
“I want to talk about something that happened when we were watching the movie. When you got that call from ‘Blessing’ and I heard you use words like ‘Bobo’ or ‘Guy,’ it confused me. It made me feel a bit uneasy, not because I’m accusing you, but because it didn’t add up in my mind.
When I asked about it and you said I was overreacting, I felt dismissed. What I needed was clarity, not an argument.
I’m not trying to police who you talk to. I just want us to clear misunderstandings without tension.
Can you help me understand who she is in a way that gives me peace?”
3. How to Judge His Response
Healthy response signs:
- He listens calmly
- He explains clearly
- He reassures without attacking you
- He acknowledges your feelings
Unhealthy response signs:
- Anger or insults
- Dismissal of your feelings
- Refusal to explain
- Vagueness or inconsistency
- Shutting down communication
Core question:
“When I feel uneasy, does this person help me feel clearer—or more confused and smaller?”
You didn’t ask AI about the female voice
DeletePls add that part and update us
lol. I appreciate the full disclosure🤣
DeleteSDK you're right, for the guy to call the female caller bobo it's just a way of letting the caller know the situation on ground (make she code say him babe dey).
ReplyDeleteBut seriously she needs to be careful because this kpai here and there don too much.
Nnenne how do I tell you this? He is cheating
ReplyDelete