Reading why she stopped mentoring people made me excalim ''This life'!!!''
During a ministration, Tope Alabi shared how her past efforts to support others ended in betrayal.
She said, she once housed and supported a singer and her family, even handling payments to ensure fairness. But things turned sour when the woman’s husband refused to play instruments for her, citing family tradition, and later revealed her private prayers to rivals.She that another artist she helped also turned against her, causing serious challenges. She said: “Different arrows were shot at me, but God rescued me and my family. That’s why I stopped mentoring.”
Ndi arrow. Ha abiakwa
ReplyDeleteI’ve stopped mentoring too because I always met with deep betrayals. Many people hate you even while benefiting from you because you are a constant reminder of what they wish they were.
ReplyDeleteSome even wonder, at times to your hearing, why you deserve what you have.
Give them bread, while teaching them how to bake theirs, but no, they want your own bakery that you’ve built over the years.
Very painful thing.
You are correct. Even in the career world they are there
DeleteVery well written. Many people hate you even while benefiting from you.
DeleteJesus is our example. You help because Christ commands us to do so and not because we are expecting anything from those we helped
Better rewards does not always come from those we helped rather God raises helpers for you when you need help too. .
@Zaram, it’s not a matter of expecting returns from them because the greatest rewarder is God Almighty. The matter is the deep rooted hatred you realise they have for you and the secret plot to destroy you; which makes you start wondering where you went wrong.
DeleteI believe it’s safer to help anonymously or from a distance.
Anon 18:06, if you had not replied Zaram, I would have, and in your exact words.
DeleteGod bless you.
Zaram got the comment wrong this time.. annon 18:06 👍
Delete@Zaram if you know the attacks that came on my siblings and I, because our parents exposed us to several spirits by “mentoring”. Sexual abuse, drug abuse, emotional abuse, injuries… from “mentees” who lived with us and have moved on with their lives. Now my parents are old and reaping those regrets alone. So stop all these “JESUS JESUS”. Na so church people brainwash my parents and today those same church people are the ones mocking them.
DeleteYou are not Jesus and if an aspect of your life repeatedly exposes you to attacks, look into it. Na so Samson do until Delilah take am down. Some mentoring na validation seeking in disguise. No be God send you. Go and heal.
I somewhat believe her because these gospel artiste I do not think most of them are actually gospel. The love of money has blinded thier eyes. I saw one with the daughter of one of these big churches and they both entered private jet. I was wondering what was happening.it is well, God knows who is who these end times. Religious deception is hitting us hard
ReplyDeleteWhat does she mean by family traditions? Her husband can't submit under a woman leader or what? Hmmm
ReplyDeleteHmmm 🤔🤔🤔
ReplyDeleteIt's well
ReplyDeleteWhen you’re going to help someone just help them with no expectations of any kind, cause 9 times out of 10 they will disappoint. Give and forget.
ReplyDeleteI feel your pains like Siamese twins gum by brain ma'am ✌️
ReplyDeleteI too have stopped having close female friendships.
ReplyDeleteWhy? The more I did, the more they attacked me. Several delays and confusion in my life, because of friends. Financial issues- once they see that I have entered small money they come with fake affection. Money wey I suppose use plan my future, I go use am dey solve problems wey I no create. And they would acting as if I am an angel. Until they are either satisfied or they observe that I have nothing else to give.
Then attacks on my character and reputation start coming up. My secrets and insecurities leaked to strangers, etc.
They always come broken and confused but leave energised and insultive.
One day I sat down and told myself that this has been a pattern since I was in high school. Why? I realised that I had to heal from seeking friendships at all cost or being compelled to help the downtrodden. Me sef fit get rich friends. Why must I always be the benefactor friend? The smarter, encouraging, hard working and admired friend?
So I stopped. Since then, my life has been peaceful. I have more money. I have improved my self care. No one is talking about me for no reason. My career is improved and I make more money.
These women have tried to access me. They have used people, used lies, used schemes, I am not budging. Why? Because sometimes you need to see that some types of relationship are spiritual attacks and you need to manage them as such. With more wisdom and caution.