THURSDAY IN HOUSE NEWS

 Hailings.....

THURSDAY MEMO

I salute everybody...............
My new laptop arrived yesterday but i saw some scratches and was advised by BV Martins to return it, so I am off to send it back by speed post.........
If you are in Naija or anywhere else and need to get IT, phone or laptop guidance, please ping Martins, es also selling phones and other accessories......

Hmmmm please pray for BV OyinGATE oooooooooooo.......she fell out with someone and was attacked in the other realm......Just pray for her cos shes nowho we used to know anymore...I cant talk much until she contacts me again to say that she has recovered.......Our voices as one can pray for her........

Hmmm people need to be careful where they go to look for trouble honestly.....Oyingate did not even look for anyones trouble...let us wait for her return to hear th full story...please God keep her alive for us.....

Please this is officially asking that you people let BV Baci to breath, it is too much now...Let her breathe......Please baci can you ignore them? cos it looks like its in code that you people are talking...I dont wanna enable it so i ask you to ignore for my sake, if you love me...I need this place to be clean and you write so beautifully........I love to read your writeups and clapbacks but someone is trying to turn you into a trouble maker and jam your head with some here....Read the room...

Hugs to everyone.

Shout out to my haters, e don tey una drag hair for my kpekus, wetin happen?

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WEIRD FACTS
----: Forgiveness is the number one trait linked to happiness in humans.
---- Having no friends could be as deadly as smoking, a Harvard University study suggests.
---- Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck.
----: By trying to suppress a sneeze, you can rupture a blood vessel in your neck or head and die.

---- When you finally get something good, enjoy it. Don't always go looking for something better.

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WHAT SHE THOUGHT

---She spent too many years measuring her own worth through the eyes of people who never valued her.

---She tried harder than she should have, gave more than was asked, and adjusted herself in ways she didn’t even notice at first.

---She thought love meant effort, that being chosen required becoming smaller, softer, easier to keep. When they pulled away, she assumed it was her fault.

---She took silence personally. She replayed moments in her head, wondering what she said wrong or what she could’ve done better. Over time, self-doubt became familiar. Not because she lacked value, but because she kept offering it to people who didn’t know what to do with it.

The truth is, they never had the capacity to hold her the way she deserved. Their lack of care was never a measure of her worth, only a reflection of their own limitations.

But she didn’t know that then, so she stayed too long, hoping effort would turn into understanding.

Eventually, something softened and strengthened inside her at the same time. --------She got tired of explaining herself, tired of chasing clarity from people committed to confusion.

----She stopped shrinking to fit into places that required less of her. She learned to trust her own voice instead of waiting for permission to use it.

Now she knows better. Her worth isn’t something to be proven or earned.

It never was.

And she no longer hands it to people who can’t see it

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I hope you read this and understood.

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AN OLD SOUL IN TODAYS WORLD

Sometimes it really feels like this generation wasn’t made for people with old souls. Everything is just so busy, and people talk so fast, they move fast, and unfortunately lose interest fast.

You’re expected to always be available, always posting, always keeping up. But old souls like us don’t live like that. We take our time. We notice things. We feel things so deeply.

We are comfortable in silence. We enjoy long talks that wander, music that actually means something, and moments that don’t need to be shared with anyone else.

While everyone else is glued to their screens, old souls are thinking, observing, and always remembering.

That can make us feel invisible or out of place at times, like we're on a different wavelength than everyone else around us.

This generation seems to value attention more than connection. Being busy is praised, being loud is rewarded and old souls like us would rather be real than relevant.

We would rather choose a small circle over a big crowd.

It’s not like we dont like this generation, we just don’t really fit into it.

Feeling like we were born in the wrong time can be exhausting. It can make us question ourself. But maybe old souls like us exist to balance things out.

To slow the pace. To remind people that not everything needs to be rushed or posted or even proven.

Being an old soul today is hard. But it also means we carry something extremely rare and that .... is what truly matters in this life.

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WHY WORRY WHEN YOU CAN PRAY

The most useless thing about worrying is that it is simply a waste of time,energy and happiness..

It will steal your present joy and keeps you in constant roller coaster of sadness..

Don’t you know the most funny thing about worrying? The things you’re worrying about may never happen..

Research have proved that over 85% of the things humans worry about never later happen..

So,why entertain worry?

Is it worth it?

Oya go back in time, check the times you have worried about something, stayed awake for something, deprived yourself of something, went hungry over worrying cos there was no appetite, you were lashing out on everybody because your head is full, check, did that thing you did all these for later happen?

No!

No,check!

It all boils down to courage because worrying comes with its sister FEAR.. Fear of the unknown.. and that's the absence or opposite of faith.

Ah! This is your last card o, if you spend it now, thunder fit fire you .

Alas, if you summon the courage and spend that last card,use am chop ! Another one will find its way to you..

The issue is ,where is the courage nau?

What I’m telling you now is that your worry will not happen.. it never did..

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AN IMPORTANT WORD FOR THE UNDEFEATED WOMAN

Dear Undefeated Woman,

*Can I ask you something personal?**

When last did you do something just for you?

Not for your husband.

Not for your children.

Not for your home.

Just. For. You.

You can't remember. Can you?

That's the challenge.

You've been so busy being everything to everyone that somewhere along the way you disappeared.

You stopped having dreams.

You stopped aspiring towards greatness,

You stopped laughing freely.

You stopped even knowing what makes you happy anymore.

And now you're tired.

Not just physically tired.

Soul tired.

The kind of tiredness that sleep doesn't fix.

Here's what I want you to know today.

A woman who has lost herself cannot pour into anyone else.

Not her husband. Not her children. Not her home.

You cannot give what you don't have.

So this is your permission.

To rest.

To laugh.

To dream again.

To do that one thing you've been putting off forever.

You are not selfish for needing yourself back.

You are human.

And God never asked you to lose yourself in the process of loving others.

Go find her.

She's still in there Waiting for you to come back home to yourself.

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UNDERSTANDING BOUNDARIES: WHAT IS NOT PART OF YOUR JOB 

Many workers lose their peace not because of the job…

But because they don’t know their boundaries.

Let’s talk about it

First, what are boundaries?

Boundaries are limits — what you agreed to do and what you did NOT agree to do.

What is NOT part of your job:

Doing every single task in the house when you were hired for a specific role

Working without rest from morning till night

Running personal errands that were never discussed

Being disrespected or insulted

Taking blame for things you didn’t do

Being available 24/7 without break

Why this happens:

• No clear agreement from the beginning

• Fear of speaking up

• Trying to “please” too much

What smart workers do:

1. Ask questions before starting

“What exactly are my duties?”

2. Agree clearly from day one

No assumptions

3. Speak up respectfully

“Ma/Sir, this was not part of what we agreed”

4. Stay professional, not emotional

Don’t fight — communicate

Truth is…

If you don’t set boundaries, people will set them for you.

Balance is important:

Don’t be rude…

But don’t allow yourself to be overused.

Remember:

You were employed for a role — not for everything.

Respect yourself enough to set limits.

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HEARTBREAK WILL VISIT YOU, BUT DON’T BUILD A HOME INSIDE IT.

That pain you feel when someone leaves, betrays you, or chooses someone else over you feel like your world has ended.

But hear me dear you didn’t lose them ,you found yourself. Crying is okay. Breaking is human.But remaining broken is a choice.Heal. Learn. Rise.

 NOT EVERYONE WHO SAYS THEY LOVES,YOU,LOVES YOU RIGHT.

Some people will call it love, but it will feel like confusion, disrespect, and emotional torture.That is not love.Love does not constantly drain you. Love does not make you question your worth every day.

Learn to walk away early.The longer you stay in the wrong place or relationship, the harder it is to leave.

 FOCUS ON YOUR OWN LIFE, NOT JUST RELATIONSHIPS.

In your 20s and 30s, you are building your future,not just chasing love.Abeg Go to school. Learn a skill. Build something with your hands.Make your own money. Stand on your own feet.Buildsomething with your hands so that when others leave ,you can stand on your feet.Love without stability can become suffering.

STOP IGNORING RED FLAGS BECAUSE YOU ARE LONELY.

Loneliness has pushed many into the wrong arms and cost them years of their pains.That small thing you are ignoring now,That attitude ,that disrespect, that inconsistency It will not get better with time. It will get louder so pay attention early. Save yourself later.

 INVEST IN YOURSELF LIKE CRAZY

Read books. Grow your mind. Pray. Heal your inner wounds.Work on your character. Build confidence.Because if you don’t know who you are,Life will introduce you to people who will define you wrongly.

SCHOOL IS IMPORTANT… SELF DEVELOPMENT IS VERY POWERFUL.

Your degree is good, but your mindset will determine how far you go.Don’t just study to pass exams,Study to understand life.

Learn communication. Learn emotional intelligence. Learn discipline.These are the things that will sustain you when life gets real and hard.

 PROTECT YOUR HEART, DON’T HARDEN IT.

Yes, people will hurt you.Yes, you will cry.

Yes, you will feel like giving up on love.

But don’t become cold. Don’t become bitter.Heal don’t hate. Because one day, the right man or woman will come and you must be whole enough to receive love again

 PRAY NOT JUST WHEN YOU ARE IN PAIN.

In my younger years, I waited until things were falling apart before I turned to God.

Now I know better. Prayer is not just for emergencies, it is for direction. Ask God before you choose a partner.Ask God before you make decisions.Ask God to shape you into the person you are meant to be.

TIME IS NOT WAITING FOR YOU.

Those years you are wasting in confusion, wrong relationships, and procrastination,

You will look back and wish you used them wisely. Start now. Start scared.Start small.

But start.

 DO YOU KNOW YOU MORE POWERFUL THAN YOU THINK?

You have survived things you never thought you could.You have cried nights no one saw.You have fought battles silently.And you are still here.So don’t settle. Don’t shrink. Don’t give up on yourself.

If I could summarize everything in one sentence, it would be..Choose yourself early, so life won’t force you.

To every young woman or man reading this piece of mine.

Love deeply, but don’t lose yourself.

Dream big, but back it up with action.

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