Hmmmmm......
SAD
My thirty-two year old son got divorced last year. I and his Dad were so worried for him on how he would navigate being single.
He has a four year old daughter who he dotes on.
Our fear for him stemms from childhood. He rarely talked and looked up to his siblings for support.
He married a lady he loves so much and I believe, transferred that love to her.
She cited irreconcilable differences as reason for divorce at the court. Would you believe he defended himself at the divorce proceedings and won custody of his daughter.
After the divorce, he changed and rarely talks to anybody except his daughter, whom he got a nanny for. Now his face and features hardened as if he grew up overnight.
Someone his father and I can call anytime, we are even scared to talk to him anytime he pays us a courtesy call, same with his siblings.
We think the divorce changed him but we are at a loss on how we can help him. Anytime I think about him, sadness overwhelm me...
You are scared of your son? Pikin wey you carry for nine months?You dont communicate with him verbally? what about emotionally? when did you give him a hug last?Why not start from that? The next time he comes visitng,give him a hug....
take him into the room and tell him he can talk to you...tell him that you are his mum and are there for him...His hardened face is from hurting...I am sure he cries to sleep most nights
You can also help him by getting close to his daughter and allowing her visit with her Nanny and stay over.
People like him end up transferring the love he had for his wife to his daughter...So i hope that he wont start abusing her?I am not saying that he is doing so or will do so........
Sow him love and watch him break down and open up.
You better draw him close before he kpai himself
ReplyDeleteIf he loved his wife, why the divorce then?
ReplyDeleteHe just started life. Let him be, he will navigate life thick,thin,happy or unhappy. Remember, it's his life and not yours.
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