According to her, she wanted her children, who were taken to live with their father after her marriage ended, to be able to find her when they grew older.
She said: "I didn’t come into the industry thinking of becoming a star or anything because coming into the industry, I did not even know what star meant. I have not heard that word star but for me, it was more of when my children grow up, they would be able to find me".
"It’s a very emotional thing, and I just wanted a situation whereby I am not lost, or I am hard to find, because these children were taken away from me when they were very young. You know, in Nigeria, we believe the father owns the children, so when the marriage breaks, the father takes the children most of the time back then, but not now things have really changed.
Back then, the father, the father's family takes the children. I tried, I did not want to leave my children, but when even your own family will tell you to take the children back to their father. I now thought that okay.... now that they want to take my children, how would they find me in future?.
Because at some point when they first took them, I would go and sit by the junction of the house, when they are taking them to school, I would jump on Okada and follow them to school. But at some point, they would change schools, but I felt okay.. I did not want this for my children, let me allow them.
I would cry, and I thought, if I allow them, how would I find them, or how would they find me?. That was the only thing that was coming to my brain... that okay atleast if I became popular, not star. I was not thinking of stardom, they would be able to ask one or two producers and say my mummy is so.. so oh. That was my own naive thinking."
This is touching.
ReplyDeleteMotherhood, women can do anything for their children.
ReplyDeleteChaiiiiiiii
ReplyDeleteso Touching
Hello Iya Boys
Chai, love of a mother for her children, I believe the decision paid off. Thank God the narrative about custody has greatly changed.
ReplyDeleteWow
ReplyDeleteYou did well aunty Bukky
Oh God. This is so emotional. Thank God things have changed now Abey
ReplyDeleteGod bless you..
ReplyDeleteI still don’t understand why children have to be separated from one parent when things are not going well between the parents, whether it’s due to divorce or separation. Whatever issues exist between the adults, I believe children should not be made to suffer or lose the opportunity to have a relationship with both parents.
ReplyDeleteSo, whrn the parents are separated, where should the children now stay?
DeleteIt doesn't matter who they live with, they shouldn't be denied access to the other parent(unless the situation is dangerous). Especially if that other parent wants to be in their lives.
DeleteNow the children now bears gee name because she's famous. Women the best revenge is still success
ReplyDeleteSo emotional
ReplyDeleteThank God for you mama.
ReplyDeleteAwww, love of a mother
ReplyDeleteAwww so emotional.
ReplyDeleteMothers and their love for their children, nothing can come in-between.
Emotional story there. Why would little kids be denied a mother's love?
ReplyDeleteOh dear Bukky,thank God las las you win ๐ฅฐ
ReplyDeleteSo touching ๐ฅบ
ReplyDeleteGod bless all mothers, I'm shedding tears reading this, life can be hard. Thank God you later reconnected with them.
ReplyDeleteIt was really bad back then. The children would be taken away and one parent will not see them for years. The children will grow up and start searching for their father or mother.
ReplyDeleteMy husband has this trauma and it made him hate both parents of his for years until recently. His dad took them away after separation and he was just 6 while his younger ones ones were 4 and 2. He kept searching for his mother for years cos she didn't visit them. He cried for years. When he eventually saw her, he didn't recognize her, he was happy when he knew it was her and hoped to follow her but she couldn't take him or any of the siblings away because of her new husband and also his father was very wicked and would threaten his ex wife to stay away from them.
He grew up hating both of them for their separation and remarrying because their remarriage made it difficult for the children to enjoy life. The new wife was torturing them. They couldn't run to their mum even if it's to stay with her for a while after finding out where she was because she also had a new husband and kids and the new husband did not want the older kids in his house.
His story makes me sad.
Now, technology has made things easier. People now communicate via phone or social media secretly.
May God comfort and make it up for your husband, his siblings and their mom. ๐๐ฟ๐
DeleteHeartbreaking experience.๐ ๐ข
ReplyDeleteBig warm hugs to Bukky Wright and her children, and anyone who has been made to go through this forced estrangement of mother and children!๐ซ ๐ค