Someone is crying for help, and instead of helping, we just throw a spiritual quote at them and walk away. Some clergies even do this to their members.
Sometimes, we're just being hopeful, and we emotionally convince ourselves when we say "things are going to be fine someday." One question that often comes to mind is, when will that day be? What if we never get to see that day eventually come? I have seen dreams fade away. I have seen people pass on without ever seeing that 'one day' they had so much looked forward to.
When I lost a friend, I paid a condolence visit to his family home and met his aged mother in tears. She said something that broke me. She looked at me and said, "Your friend is no more. The better tomorrow he always promised me would come, he didn't live to see it."
Immediately, tears ran down my cheek. All through my time there, I couldn't muster the strength to say a word. It was a sober moment for me. My late friend's mother was not angry at hope. She was grieving that hope ran out of time, and that is the hardest truth of life. Sometimes people do everything right, they pray, they work, they believe, and the better tomorrow still doesn't come in their lifetime. That doesn't mean their belief was foolish. It means life is not fair, and it doesn't always reward effort with result. When life sometimes become unfair, it leaves people vulnerable to pain, and sadly, some eventually never get to see that 'better tomorrow' they hoped for.
Nobody talks about the part where you have to keep believing in yourself, yet nothing is working out. Not as if you are not doing your very best, you just can't get it right. Sad enough, nobody sees the struggle. People only see the failure. They don't see the nights you couldn't sleep, the applications you sent, the businesses that collapsed, the prayers you prayed. They just say, "He's not serious." But you know you gave it your best.
No one wishes to be down or not doing well for themselves. Sometimes, all a person may need is that one phone call, connection, or support to get their bearing in life.
If God has been kind to you, please, in all humility, extend a helping hand and support someone today who is going through a difficult time. That one help can change their story and entire life for good. Telling people "it's well" when you can actually do better on their plea for help isn't something encouraging. Maybe "it's well" should not be the end of the sentence. It should be the beginning of action. Instead of just saying, "It's well, brother," we should say, "It's well, brother, what do you need right now? Is it ₦5k for food? A phone call to someone? Someone to just sit with you?"
In all I'll say, life to some extent isn't fair. Pray for grace always.
When I lost a friend, I paid a condolence visit to his family home and met his aged mother in tears. She said something that broke me. She looked at me and said, "Your friend is no more. The better tomorrow he always promised me would come, he didn't live to see it."
Immediately, tears ran down my cheek. All through my time there, I couldn't muster the strength to say a word. It was a sober moment for me. My late friend's mother was not angry at hope. She was grieving that hope ran out of time, and that is the hardest truth of life. Sometimes people do everything right, they pray, they work, they believe, and the better tomorrow still doesn't come in their lifetime. That doesn't mean their belief was foolish. It means life is not fair, and it doesn't always reward effort with result. When life sometimes become unfair, it leaves people vulnerable to pain, and sadly, some eventually never get to see that 'better tomorrow' they hoped for.
Nobody talks about the part where you have to keep believing in yourself, yet nothing is working out. Not as if you are not doing your very best, you just can't get it right. Sad enough, nobody sees the struggle. People only see the failure. They don't see the nights you couldn't sleep, the applications you sent, the businesses that collapsed, the prayers you prayed. They just say, "He's not serious." But you know you gave it your best.
No one wishes to be down or not doing well for themselves. Sometimes, all a person may need is that one phone call, connection, or support to get their bearing in life.
If God has been kind to you, please, in all humility, extend a helping hand and support someone today who is going through a difficult time. That one help can change their story and entire life for good. Telling people "it's well" when you can actually do better on their plea for help isn't something encouraging. Maybe "it's well" should not be the end of the sentence. It should be the beginning of action. Instead of just saying, "It's well, brother," we should say, "It's well, brother, what do you need right now? Is it ₦5k for food? A phone call to someone? Someone to just sit with you?"
In all I'll say, life to some extent isn't fair. Pray for grace always.
Thank you for sharing boss
ReplyDeleteSometimes when words fail you..you've got nothing to say but exclaim it's well..not necessarily meaning you don't want to help.. sometimes you don't have the means of helping tooo..but I get your context here.. Nigeria,all over the world is economically not friendly for anyone now..things are tight...
ReplyDeleteI also feel some people don't want to help so you don't outshine them ..so sometimes it's just God,grace and connections, but also keep,working hard some day, it's going to pays
God help us all...see our struggles and bless us all
You are a troll
ReplyDeleteYou are a troll, miserable and a sadist.
ReplyDeleteUsing this blog to troll, you're not different from what you described up there, you're the one with no hope or ever going to receive good news, back to sender.
ReplyDeleteGreat write up Teejay. Please Lord heal dem Anon from bitterness. Please help them to know they didn't come to the world as trolls. Change their destiny . Make them useful in this life.
DeleteJust like what I prayed for today 🙏🏾. Let my betterment come in my lifetime and soon too. God I beg you 🙏🏾
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