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September 1, 2013

Why Do Young Women Marry Older Men?




Ex beauty queen Susan Hart is 'reportedly' Married to Chief Sunny Kuku.
If they are truly married,isnt this man old enough to be her father?please correct me if i am wrong.

Now to the question which bothers my mind and which has no reference to these two in the picture,why do young women marry older men? men old enough to be their Fathers age mates oh..Isnt sex part of a marriage anymore?
What is the attraction between a younger woman and an older man?Her beauty and youth?His money and status?
Please if you are married to an older man,tell us why you did it and if sex happens because i dont believe any union survives without sex, and yes.......... some older men cant 'jump' except with their fingers and tongues.lol



152 comments:

Anonymous said...

Duh!!
4 money, status and security!!
Young men r available in billions 2 take care of d sexual aspect!!
Billie jean

Moi said...

LOL.. I wan even say grand father! LOL. When there is money women will marry anything! Hehehehehe.. It is obvious she is getting sex elsewhere :) See the baba self dey feel funky. LOL.

Logic and Rationale said...

Firstly I think you should have separated this question from the subject of these two people. You are tagging them with questions that may not really apply to their lives.
Secondly, your rationale are only from a western and secular understanding of marriage. We are made to believe that a young woman marrying an older person old to be ones father is not right. This was never the case in the past. We unfortunate want to create a kind of civilization that has no basis for rationality. And who told you that old men cannot have sex? Is she complaining that her man cannot satisfy her sexually? You forget that men's urge for sex still lives with them even when they are eighty but it is not the same for women when she reaches menopause. Have you ever slept with an old man and found him incompetent? Many ladies like yourself are married to people not old enough to be your fathers but you still go in the closet to use dildos and vibrators. Is your understanding of marriage only based on sex? Where is companionship? What is your point here?

Anonymous said...

RE: What is the attraction between them?Her beauty and youth?His money and status?

WELL, FOR A MAN WHO IS SPENT, HAVING 'LIVED' HIS LIFE, THE ATTRACTION TO A YOUNG WOMAN IS AN EGO THING;

AND FOR THE WOMEN: YOU WILL FIND THAT THERE IS HARDLY EVER ANY ATTRACTION, RATHER THE 'motivation' CAN BE EXPLAINED STRAIGHT AWAY IF YOU LOOK AT THE STATE OF THE NIGERIAN ECONOMY. MORE PRESSING THAN THE SHAME WHICH WAS ERSTWHILE ASSOCIATED WITH THIS KIND OF 'ASSOCIATION' IS THE PRESSING HUNGER, POVERTY AND HOPELESSNESS THAT EVEN A UNIVERSITY DEGREE CAN HARDLY ASSUAGE NOWADAYS!

If the economy was to improve so that a University graduate could be sure of a job which can take care of her rent, car loan, dressing, feeding etc, you will find that most of the older men will thoroughly be insulted if they dared to approach most otherwise middle class women.

YOU WOULD THINK THE SCOURGE OF HIV WOULD SLOW THINGS DOWN; BUT APPARENTLY, POVERTY IS A MORE MENACING AND AGRESSIVE CONITION, AND SEEMS TO TAKE PRECEDENCE HERE. It is very very unfortunate*

Anonymous said...

Hehehe...well said Billie

Anonymous said...

Coughinggggggggggg. Make i first close from church. Cause our topic today na Death. So i need to consitrate

Evie Daniels said...

You just summed it up...

Anonymous said...

Stella what a stupid question. For MONEY, MONEY and nothing but MONEY and STATUS! After attaining all that, then these gold diggers proceed to having affairs/ lovers with young men. Serves the older perverts right, for marrying women young enough to be their daughters/ granddaughters.

Anonymous said...

I wonder o, but that's how it has always been sha since Adam and Eve.
Abimbola

Anonymous said...

Is the reason behind asking this question to get people to criticize the ex-beauty queen? She has made her choice and is ready to live with it. Go make yours and take him with all the good and the bad and pleeeez stop sounding bitter.
Jesus still loves you and me and all of us!

Anonymous said...

Stella im only 30 but very attracted to men.only 50 and above. I.find.them.sexy. They protect me. They are great in bed. Better than younger men. More sensual and more sexuallly aware. I feel.that they guide me. And also they have been.there ans can advise me. I love them

Anonymous said...

Mind your business Madam Stella. Or better yet, why don't you do a post on why hungry Nigerian girls marry white men? Too close to home huh?

Anonymous said...

It's for the money of course.

U think Shade would have married Okoya if not for his money. Even the just married Osun State beauty queen would not have married the Rep if not for his financial strenght .Money can reaaally buy love o

Anonymous said...

Young women marry older Men cos young men ready to settle down are few. Do u know d nos spinsters between 30-50? And most young men have turned spinsters into ATM! Me don't care anymore o! True don escape thru windows! Abeg! Each Mallam to his kettle ni!

Anonymous said...

It's for the money of course.

U think Shade would have married Okoya if not for his money. Even the just married Osun State beauty queen would not have married the Rep if not for his financial strenght .Money can reaaally buy love o

Anonymous said...

Young women marry older Men cos young men ready to settle down are few. Do u know d nos spinsters between 30-50? And most young men have turned spinsters into ATM! Me don't care anymore o! True don escape thru windows! Abeg! Each Mallam to his kettle ni!

Anonymous said...

Older men are the best people to marry i am a beautiful lady and I prefer older men they are more matured and know how to love i have decided not to Marry a young guy, not worth my time.

Anonymous said...

My dear 4 money... I'm dating a single guy of 38 nd I'm 24.. Marrying him has been a task for me.

Anonymous said...

I'm married to a man 20yrs older And yes my man can jump o! I met him and he didn't look his age. He's a very intelligent man and very rich too. His wealth is a plus for me because I can't train any man biko. A man that will use my sweat to chase small girls. My middle name is oriaku not odoziaku. I love my husband. he is very hands on. When my kids were tiny he would bath, change diapers, babysit and he plays soccer with our son every evening and On saturdays, he takes a long walk with our son. I'm blessed.

Anonymous said...

Loool! Young guys dont v respect for girls,they aint gat money and they are jst there for sex,only sex! So whats d use..

Anonymous said...

Very correct

Anonymous said...

Money...especially by a beauty queen.

Anonymous said...

E no concern u stella! Who told u men cant do? Dey there! And i am just ths lady dint gt married to ds man lookn old like ds.. dey hve bn married fr sometime i guess.

Anonymous said...

Stella wetin concern u,u too talk.

Anonymous said...

Yes its true!
A friend of mine is 25 and her husband is 55,
30yrs difference, she has evrything she wud ever need!
I cautioned her bf she married bt she insulted my life, becuz I'm datin a poor yung guy,
And shez wiv a rich man.
She said she'll rather have 2minuite sex all her life and be rich dan to have correct sex and be poor!
Such is life. Money money money!
I feel so bad!
E be like say I go dump dat bf of mine and look fr rich old man to marry!
Advice me ! Tanx

Anonymous said...

Are they married? The coding of this marriage pass Davinci code o.She's been absent for yrs.last time I looked, she just split from Tee Mac. Madam hart still looks lovely. To attempt ur poser stella, like most relationships,this a symbiotic. You must bring something to the table! She needs the good life and he wants a "private dancer". As long as both parties abide by the clauses in their unwritten agreement all will be well! Again I ask, re they married for real? Someone must know for sure. Signed:wide eyed!

Anonymous said...

Status and financial security! And I also think its probably because these older men understand how to treat a lady well and give the lady all the attention she needs unlike their younger men counterparts who are egostic and full of shit. Signed:badass bitch

Anonymous said...

Please where are the young men that are available ? The ones that still wear diapers and cannot afford taxi fare ?? Smh

Anonymous said...

I am 27 and my husband is 50. He was a widower who had lost his wife and kids in a ghastly motor accident. Sex is still fantastic. I really don't know how he does it. He satisfies me because he is so energetic and passionate always wanting to please me first. He must make me come multiple times before he comes. We have sex many times in the week, because he can't resist me. We role play sometimes I can be a police woman etc. Anyway the main point is it is not every one that marries an older man that is marrying him for money and status. I am from a rich home, so money was not the motive. Before I met my husband, I have been used by my 2 previous boy friends. And I had given up on love. But then my knight in shiny armour arrived. I feel in love with him the first day I met him, but I was forming. And he kept on chasing me. Finally I accepted and it's been the best 3 years of my life. You can think what you want but don't generalise oh. Even the young bf I had before my husband could not satisfy me it was all about him. I try as much to not think of the future and we live for now. We may not have that much time together but whatever time God gives me to spend with my soul mate I will make it worth while.

Anonymous said...

Stella are you older than your husband?
Anyway,it depends on what you mean by older men what age range are you talking about? 5yrs gap between a lady and her spouse is older, 10 is older, 15 is older, so whats your point really?

As for me, my hubby is 18yrs my senior and i love it that way. small boys come with soooo much stress. Right from my teenage years i knew i was not meant for small boys. I am 30, married at age 24, my hubby treats me like egg, he loves me and over looks my excesses. if i had married my mate or smone who is 2-5yrs older, i guess maybe i will be back to parents house by now.
older men pamper their women, the women glow with pride,they are successful(omotola, Daisy Danjuma, Caroline Danjuma,Joke sylva,Ireti Doyle,Jumobi mofe-Damijo) to mention a few. see,when you step out with your older hubby, all eyes will be on you, women age fast you hear... with an older hubby you cant be bothered, infact the man will look younger for you. Days of "starting from the scratch are fast fading" God forbid, the man makes it to the top, you will be treated as a second class citizen esp if you are the type that "over loves" your hubby, it u die today, the man will quickly re-marry tomoro. its still small small girls that will help u chop your man's money.

All men carry wahala ooo, but with an older man as in 10-30 years age difference, the wahala is minimal.
if you are a woman and u like to fuck round the clock, abeg stick with your young hubby, because with older hubby, that aspect dey tire them sometimes. but be rest assured that they are very fertile.

There are some good and matured younger guys, but they are scarce. if you are a matured younger man with a good job, pls hola, i have many single sisters looking for you.

Thank you stella for the space.

Mrs Anony.

Anonymous said...

On point sir,wonda wat brought about dat kind of question from .is dere age difference incredible or wat?

Anonymous said...

I'm married to old man,21year different,blessed wit 3kids,all I can tell u is day I'm blessed.and sex is great.better than my ass hole ex bf.

brownhottiee007 said...

Honestly they are easy to talk to and they listen,I need one seriously,finacial security will be a plus

Sapele Babe in Lagos said...

At last! They dated for soooo long. Na wa o, Money talks. Bull shit waka. No be everybody fit do " e go beta Marriage"

Anonymous said...

Looool, u dey think how u wan enter heaven for there.. No worry we go wait make ur church close.

Anonymous said...

Stella u re married n won't understand how dis young men lie n decieve women,take advantage of deir money all in d name of marriage n relationship,our young men re now d gold diggers. Esp does dt hve good jobs n small money they believe they r good catch n use dt medium to cheat.
I dnt like how u hve asked dis question here so pple insult d young woman I think it's rude n a bit too much of u even if I usual like ur other amebo job ooo.
My grand father was 25yrs old than my grand mother, she had 8 children for him. N Dts d only man dt ever saw her naked.like some one comment earlier let's stop all dis civilisation age is just a number n if u go to the abroad/white pple u all like to copy pple marry older men n even younger ones. Wateva rock ur boat jor.
N let me say that stella don't let and old man hang ur leg up, u will confess.

Anonymous said...

yes ooo !..am with you Oooo !for this!..so also me!..older men know what life is all about and guide their wife's in d right part !..mine spoil me silly ! ..He is very intelligent,clever,Smart ,energetic and think fast aheard; look after himself well,far younger than is age,yes he is loaded!...,even the younger Lads always admires him!..lolz .
Am over blessed Oooo....Lord i thank you.

Jameelerh said...

They are a lot of advantages of marrying an older man.

He is successful
He is mature
He is more stable in life
He is more responsible
He is sexually experienced as well.
He is less likely to stray
He will have more time for you.
Less likely to be abused (Domestic violence) or his family wahala
You will be more open-minded about everthing and that would help you live in the present.
What else do you need from a man?

Anonymous said...

Stella,I usually tell my hubby if I had my way I would marry an older man.our so called young husbands r just sometin else.i knw an older man will appreciate u the more and he will be tired of hoppin from one woman to another.

Anonymous said...

*is ...signed~wide eyed

Anonymous said...

i am proud of my older husband. i am 29, he is 48. i have never been happier. In my life no man wakes me up with flowers, but my older hubby does that consistently for the past 3 years. if i had known i wouldnt have wasted time wen he asked me to marry him 6yrs ago. i was busy forming mumu for love for a younger guy, fine boy no money, aiming at sucking me dry. Baba God i thank u that i married my husband. he loves my kids so much, plays with them, helps me change diapers, sometimes i dont even do anything in the house, he helps me clean, cook and take care of the kids when i am tired. mind u, we are talking of a multi millionaire here. Even with his status, he has time for his family, he listens to me, teaches me things, very patient with my excesses, best of all, he prays for me and the kids everyday.

Kai... God punish those bad advisers, asking me not to marry him then cos he was old. what else can a woman want?
God bless my dear "older"husband.
Nony

oma said...

Totally on point

Adedolapo Adegbite said...

Like seriously,d way stella put it is totally wrong,different strokes for different folks,once stella is not in support of something,she automatically doesn't want us to like it too! Ds isn't fair on ds couple's part,nd y are some pple so myopic dt dey tag all women with money,wot if she rlly loves him? Nw who is stella to say old pple can't perform? Av u slpt with 1 b4,I'm a pharmacist nd I know men can still father babies even @ d age of 75yrs! P.S my bf is just 4 yrs older dan I am,but Stella and most pple shd learn 2 respect other pple's choices! Haba! Tis der lives.

Anonymous said...

Well as 4 me money is not enuff 2 marry my papa mate but these days husband scarce so my advice 4 single ladies if u pass 30yrs abeg take any one u see, d idea na 2 born pikin d rate of fertility problems is alarming.

oma said...

Its nt nice that u put up thier pics , ask the type of questions u did and at the same time drew ur conclusions,I guess ur implying her husband doesn't satisfy her.That isn't nice at all. I don't know what the definition for older guy is by your standards but men usually have strong sexdrives way into their 60's nd even 70's. If a woman is 20 and marries a 40 year old guy,technically speaking that guy is old enough to be her father but does it mean that a 40year old man doesn't have sex drive anymore. Although maturity isn't always about age however most really young men are very immature and childish. Some women just prefer older guys aside from money and status,tho they play a part.

oma said...

Totally on point.

hilda D Diva said...

Young guys r Gold Diggers

Anonymous said...

Thank u Jameeler! Look at then end of the day, some marry for money. True. But some others marry for love. In fact in my opinion, it is easier to fall in love with an older man. They treat u better and are even way more attentive in bed than the younger men. I'm married now but if I could do it all over, I'd probably be with an older man who knows how to love and respect a woman. After all, how many of us married women come on Stella's blog to complain about their husbands and the rudimentary sex they are having. Abeg! All man to himself.

Anonymous said...

The guy i'm dating presently is 20yrs older Dan ME. Trust me,d sex is awesome! Some young guys can't even give head as goood as he does ,he touches me in d righ placess nd fucks me different wonderful styles. I'm never broke cos he's always at alert financially.guess he's afraid i'm gonna run off with some younger dude that's y he's always dere for me. So Stella don't get ït twisted,dating older men is d ish.

Anonymous said...

Stella what a stupid question. For MONEY, MONEY and nothing but MONEY and STATUS! After attaining all that, then these gold diggers proceed to having affairs/ lovers with young men. Serves the older perverts right, for marrying women young enough to be their daughters/ granddaughters.

Anonymous said...

Stella what a stupid question. For MONEY, MONEY and nothing but MONEY and STATUS! After attaining all that, then these gold diggers proceed to having affairs/ lovers with young men. Serves the older perverts right, for marrying women young enough to be their daughters/ granddaughters.

mia's boudoir said...

Please please please, stella this is so wrong.. older men are the it thing now.. why would I want to carry d excesses of a younger self-absorbed guy whose only aim is Sex and money he can get from you...

Anonymous said...

U talk am finish jareeee.
My mistake was marrying a man 11yrs my senior.It should have been 20-25yrs age difference.I probably would have happier.��

Anonymous said...

Lmfao..ohh my gosh, some of dese answers in support are cracking the hell outta me..well
I'm still a teenager but I can't talk bad about the act cos my dad married my mum when she was 29 and my dad was 50. Like mama doesn't even work but collects all sort of salary from him (I mean aside the normal money he gives as per husband to wife. He actually pays her salary; like she works for him in his firm). She enjoys like cray, always on holiday and sheesh. Dad is kinda old now but still works, so what we talking about ?? . I always tell her whenever she buys her new stuffs or takes us out 'she is the real winner in this life'..choi, she dey always chop money.. Well it's good for me cos I always fap the money too, hehe ! Ohh and about sex ?? Dad must be giving her well cos best believe we are 5 Children even at that age, he got married. In conclusion, I'm just here tryna curb my own old papi abeg. Seeing my mum and dad is the damn reason y I chase young boys away from me, no I don't need them in my life mehn. My current bf is 11 years older dan me sha (not old enough,still looking for 20 years older at least).

Anonymous said...

Well said anon 3:05. I married my husband when I was 25, and he was 47. He is 60 this year. 13 year down the line, We have five beautiful kids together including a set of twins. Before I married him, I had dated younger guys. But I wouldn't trade any of them for him. And guess what people, the sex is unbelievably out of this world!!!#tongue out!!! It's not always about the money people!!!!!!!!!!

NAMELESS said...

Making babies is the easiest part na. Lady pharmacist, Can a 75 year old man bump and grind? Can he make a woman sweat and scream "Give it to me some More?". If i hear....

Anonymous said...

Love this comment

Anonymous said...

I'm 25 and my husband is 65.Best believe I can't be happier

Anonymous said...

Your Head is there..the Man I've been in love with for a long time is gonna be 50 in a few weeks..he's really great in bed,sensual,very very intelligent and yes a millionaire a hundred times over. But its not his money really that turns me on..its his mind..dresses Well,great sense of humour and VERY youthful..and I'm his baby girl. Lol. I'm 29 by the way.

Anonymous said...

U go girl! Praying for mine!

sweetie said...

Mine is older dan me.ever since I got married to him lov has b reading meaning to me,I forgot dus young guys in my life in d past,guys dat ill feed wit my money,struggle wit him to succeed in life but at d end of it he ll makes me use tears as my bathing water.I found joy,rest of mind,good life,happiness in my older man.he taught me how to become somebody in life.

Anonymous said...

Sdk I prefer older men cuz dey are very caring and so gud on d bed unlike d young ones who are not !!!

Anonymous said...

I'm 19. And I've always wanted to marry an older guy. I hope I find my dream man

Anonymous said...

Shet!!! This one dey pain! Looool

Anonymous said...

young ladies will marry old men coz of security(both financial and morally)they know what they want in young women...it so happens that young ladies are ready to settle but young men to settle with are not not there.An old man treats a lady with respect, treats her like her own daughter, just bear in mind ladies are too emotional, its just the little things a man can do to a lady which make a big difference..

Qoute me right, thou i'm not married to an old man...hehe

Anonymous said...

@adedolapo;go and rest..Since your friend Funke married Rotimi Makinde u never let us rest..Abeg Sit down and stop justifying rubbish..It obvious its for money,how come none of em married a poor old man? U telling me if this man was one poor man she would still have loved and marrried him? Abeg spear us your plenty plenty justifications abeg,tell that to kids like u..olojukokoro omokekere. Be looking for old men to love o..Ole(thief),Ole (lazy girl)

Anonymous said...

My hubby is 13years older than me, so caring, loving, humble n hard working. Am glad I married a man much older.

Anonymous said...

You took the words out of my mouth. I'm for the older men

Anonymous said...

My hubby is 13years older than me, so caring, loving, humble n hard working. Am glad I married a man much older.

Mena UkodoisReady said...

The men go for the younger women for their youth na.

I think for women so inclined; its because older (responsible men) have seen it all, made their mistakes and learnt from them and they know how to care for a woman. As for famous older men, women are very attracted to power.

That said it has its down sides, when the men cannot meet up in some department due to illness or natual ageing process.

I read that Catherine Zeta Jones is *allegedly* separated from Micheal Douglas, they had this airtight prenup sha.

Anonymous said...

Dolapo,nobody is talking abt fathering a child,we are talking abt sex,abi sex is purely for baby manufacturing to u? Smh

Anonymous said...

I'm 19. And I've always wanted to marry an older guy. I hope I find my dream man

bunny said...

Oh my goodness, I've always liked and admired old men with swag.... And from the comments above I now wish 4 1 Asap. I love em old. God pleasssssssssssssss provide

Philo said...

How old are you? How old is he? If you are in your early 20s and he in his 40s, y not? He go still dey perform na. Wait toll he's 60ish, your fingers go hear am for your toto. All of una wey dey fuck and marry quarter to die because of money, know this: you are all murderers and God is watching you.

Anonymous said...

Haa! This your own husband na gbewudani o. Na him dey clean pikin yansh.

Anonymous said...

Haba! 11yrs no do?

Anonymous said...

Anon 4:25 ah! I.hope we are not in love with the same.man.oh. They sound too alike. Pls is urs a lawyer? Na wa if ur answer is.yes!

Anonymous said...

I'm 26 and my swit@ is 54. I love dis man with all my heart. I will have go for a younger lover buh wen I had a lil problem he was dre for me(mind u not financially probs) my young lover boy tld me point blank dat he can't wait for me buh he was d only shoulder I lean on. When we talk of sex He dey KAMPE, he is sexually active he do tel me am lazy. God bless u Olu.
Adeola!!!

Chacha said...

Chineke, you even put oga TY Danjuma's name for there? O girl take ya time o. I don tell you na only the money and security, das all

Anonymous said...

When he's 70 and you are 47, Kasali and Okon will come in handy. Be nice to the Gate man and house boy o, na investment in your future.

Anonymous said...

She started dating him almost immediately after she left Tee Mac, the news was trending at the time. How come you didn't get a scoop? Ok, i see, you are only wide eyed not wide eared!!

Anonymous said...

Thank you Anonymous No 3.

Anonymous said...

Older men are sooooo much better in every way. Especially Maturity. It has nothing to do with money. I wil go 4 an older guy any day anytime. Ten yrs is okay sha.

Anonymous said...

Y'all are fools buh I don't blame u cos u guys are still young and bitter, I wud marry a man 40yrs older cos he has been tru what I'm goin tru and he understands every bit of it, an old man wud guide u like his daughter, security go dey wela. Even if u fumble e go understand say na ur age dey worry u. Buh our young men are sooo childish, can hardly do anything on their own and are highly dependent on deir wives. Biko I don't want dat. I want a man dat will love me and shower me wif love(an older one) nat one dat is still goin tru puberty and does not understand what it means to be a husband. As 4 sex, dat energy an older man possesses is d same 4 his younger self, libido hardly diminishes in men I'm sure even young men don't do it d right way dat's y their wives go bou sleepin wif other men even older men

Anonymous said...

Eureka!!!The summary of all comments:Young men are gold diggers.Young women are gold diggers too. When they all grow old,they become the gold to be dug by the next generation! Signed:wide eyed!

Anonymous said...

Ride on babe !...God will keep u both in  good health "...enjoy

Anonymous said...

gbam !supported !..am with you!

ah ah said...

the lady herself no young biko
mrs kanu nwankwo, bianca, daisy, sade, stella (obj?),caroline, and lots more ALL did it successfully.

ah ah said...

The woman herself is not a spring chicken o.

Its not a new thing though

Mrs Kanu Nwankwu, Bianca, Daisy, Caroline, Shade, N. Anumudu, Stella obj? (not to sure of the age difference) and lots more, do it succesfully

Anonymous said...

older men are far beta than young men,if I available my way I would available gone for older men,my friend got married. yesterday to an older man, believe me I dey envy her cuz I know she go enjoy d marriage, I was happy for her cuz no one will fill d vacuum of an orphan, God bless urslf union babes.

Anonymous said...

Abegi mk I hear!my husband is jus 4yrs older dn I am,he cooks, washes fr me n my kids,bathes dem n even does shopping sometimes and he's very handsome .search ur hearts properly u will realise its d wealth u saw first n decided to 'love' him!

Anonymous said...

Una dey follow married men, una dey justify unasef, after u all will open your mouths and insult Beverly. Useless, shameless people. Gboko Gboko. Don't worry, chop prick and whatever you like now cus when he dies, shishi una no go see collect from him will.

Anonymous said...

U are an idiot,do u think old men are that easy to come by,especially responsible old men. Look for attraction first and genuine love in ur relationships,not money or age. U can marry older man with money and not be happy. Whether old or young,love is the most important.



Anonymous said...

Jameelerh said:

They are a lot of advantages of marrying an older man.

He is successful
He is mature
He is more stable in life
He is more responsible
He is sexually experienced as well.
He is less likely to stray
He will have more time for you.
Less likely to be abused (Domestic violence) or his family wahala
You will be more open-minded about everthing and that would help you live in the present.
What else do you need from a man?

hehe Jameelerh,i get and of coz he'll treat u like a daughter,wen he calls u baybee he means it

bunny said:


Oh my goodness, I've always liked and admired old men with swag.... And from the comments above I now wish 4 1 Asap....
Bunny i'm searching for open minded lady like u, can i know more about u, no jokes hun

Anonymous said...

Young guys are not sincere dis days talkless of giving any lady security of all sorts dat is y old men are preferable cos life is too short to waste on stress and pain.given by young guys.take note sex is not food

Anonymous said...

Olodo dats y the older men are there,u drive posh cars@anon 1;33

Anonymous said...

Anon 4:04, u have obviously missed my point.#rolling eyes.

Anonymous said...

This is soooooo true

Stella let me tell u sometin: I'm 24 yrs and at dis moment in my life I'm so ready 2 marry this 43 years old man in my life.

Why? Believe me wen I say he is d best tin dat eva happened 2 me! I dated a guy closer 2 my age 4 4yrs and dis guy cheats on me like crazy, once gave me an STD which I had 2 treat 4 a while. We broke up and d day I was eatin in a joint on my own, this man walked in2 my life. I despised him on sight( he is not very tall) so I ignored him. He trailed me to my house and stalked me 4 a week. At a stage d whole tin became funny, I gave him my number, we started talkin and this guy swept me off my feet! Stella has anybody eva bought u flowers b4? I shit u not, dat jazz is real! Forget mornin text and silly pings, this man knws hw to woo a lady. Stella this flowers bring tears 2 my eyes. Is it money aspect? Wen I started goin out wit him, my life changed! He started depositin certain amounts in my acct every friday witout me askin. Nne my life changed, every guy dat talked to me suddenly had body odour, I couldn't stand them again. My whole mind centred on dis man. We dint have sex until 3mnths later, mind u, d chemistry was there, heavy gropin and all. Wen I kept hesitating do u knw wat he did, he arranged 4 our first time 2 be at hilton hotel, london!!!! Jesus, me dat has nvr left nigeria, went 2 london 2 hav first sex! I wasn't even a virgin but he made d whole tin seem special! Stella, do u tink I will allow anoda man touch me after dis man? Stella, dat is impossible! No matter hw big ur dick is and hw fresh u are, u can never compare to my man. If dis is juju, I dnt wna wake up!!!
We quarrel and he gives me time 2 cool off cos he knws na age dey worry me. Wen we settle I will b cryin and he will cry and laugh wit me. Den he will tell me not 2 worry dat dis phase will pass and he will be here 4 me 4eva. Stella, pls pray dis man stays alive 4 me. I shit u not, I love him wit all my life

Anonymous said...

Anon 12;35 u said it all..
Irawo

Anonymous said...

Hahahahaha!touche'. My dear,I must ve missed it somehow.BTW,"wide eyed" means innocence.wanting to know and learn like a child.I guess sDkers often interpret it literally! Signed:wide eyed!

Anonymous said...

Chei! Nna men, y'all are making me wanna go for older man o! There's this doctor 12 yrs older than me who has been on my case for years now. I have a boyfriend who is the same age with me, and honestly the older dude has way more tolerance for my BS.lol and he listens alot and is just way more chilled. My BF is a hot head like me.

Anonymous said...

LOL. Stella this thread sure backfired on u boo. U intended for people to shred the beauty queen and her likes for marrying older men, but it turned into an appreciation for older men!lol. I love it! I've never dated an older man before, and never even considered it, but the testimonies on this thread is making me more open minded abourrit.

Anonymous said...

Don't mind all these useless goldiggers.... they are following people's husbands.... you exchange your youth for security because you are too lazy to work.. continue... you will all reap what you sow.

Julit said...

E dey pain u? Search which heart? Abeg Gaan lick stew!

Anonymous said...

Runs Girls and husband snatchers having a field dray on this thread.. Hahahahahahahahahaha.
Who needs a "Spent" man? Someone else's remnant. After being rejected by young men and they have "Le Le" (old in the shelf, no one pricing the market again), they will now follow awon daddy wa. See dem boasting as if they have a choice. It's frustration that drove most of them to the arms of awon baba agbalagba o, now, the older men need younger blood to remain relevant, that's y most of them, despite their age still Bury their wives.
All runners and snatchers in the house, I hail o.

Anonymous said...

We believe u jare. With ur 2 short sentences. Eisssssshhhh. Sharap there.

Anonymous said...

If i had come across an older man den dunno if i wld ve been interested bt now life's perspective as changed still dunno if i wld be interested bt one thing is for sure."we all in pursuit of happiness"

Anonymous said...

Marry them n know d difference,very weak men,active when dating,n would cheat all the time,makes me wonder,am married to a guy 15yrs older,since after d wedding,na fight I dey take collect my right,no marry them o! They r of no good,even the protection you no go see,you will find out they r babies.

Anonymous said...

My parents fight like two teenage gals all d time and they have been behaving like this since I was very little,let's say 6yrs old nd i'm 21 now they still haven't changed.my Dad calls us out to come and see wen dey r fighting sometimes (e wa wo iya Yin ma shiii naaa o) Normally,if a woman is trying to pick a fight with her husband shebi d man is just supposed to ignore or just grab hez car keys nd chill somewhere for like an hour or even pet d woman and tell her sorry or something.abi now? But no my dad will shout back @ her,call us bastards and even clap on her head (lmao). Now my point is maybe if she married someone rily older Dan her things might not be like dis cos my dad is just a 3months older Dan my mum.I think d small age difff is one major reason they fight like kids or even market women wen it gets tough.lmaoo(its not funny jor)

stella dimokokorkus said...

the anonymous saying this thread backfired on me.you are so wrong,it is going exactly how i planned it..i didnt plan for anyone to cuss out susan for being with an older man and all the comments cussing her out were delelted.i wanted people to tell their stories and they are doing just that...their pic just fits perfectly with my story,it aint about them.

so enjoy the comments you hear?

TAINK YOU.

Adedolapo Adegbite said...

@nameless,if my uncle @ d age of 76 yrs old can still set doggy 4 his wife of 35yrs old,I fink old men shd be able to grind @anonymous1,babe I av a good career,nd good prospects,I'm very comfortable and trust me ion nid shit 4rm any guy 2 make it. P.S d fact dt I respect oda pple's choices don't mean I can do wor dey do,nd I think u should learn social interactions rather than calling pple names on social media without even knowing a thing bout dem b4 opening ur mouth 2 judge dem! Like I said,I'm dating a young hardworking lawyer dts not even upto 30yrs but if a 50 year old unmarried man makes my friend happy,yes I'll support her!

Anonymous said...

I am 23 and my lover is 53. He's the best thing that has ever happened to me. In issues of the hrt, u gat no rules. Love first, others follow.

Anonymous said...

Nigerians criticize 2 mch,nd such critism somtymz leads pple astray bcos of d fear of pple condemning dem.I'm 22yrz old,nd in luv wif a 50yrz old divorcee and sincerely spkn he lukz mch younger than his age nd stl full of lyf,he's d most understanding guy I've met nd very respectful,he has never forced me 2 av sex bcos he knows I'm nt sexually active yt evn though he somtymz av d urge,u wil neva c him gt upset unlyk those young guys who go abt lukin 4 pple 2 practise their useless sexual skills wit.D only rson y I've withdrawn a little 4rm him is bcos I knw pple wil think I'm dating him bcos of his money,som may evn say I'm d cause of his broken marriage,evn tho he has bn divorced a lng tym ago b4 relocating 2 9ja,his ex wife n kids re nt evn nigerians.My point is Nigerians shud stp dis stupid stigmatization,and allow pple 2 follow their hearts,bcos alot of ladies wil leave d few gud guys dat truly care abt dem bcos of wat pple wil say,and end up wit a younger guy which dey re nt evn sure if dey wil b compatible in marriage.

Adedolapo Adegbite said...

P.S @anonymous again,yes young girls marry old poor men,but we don't get to know about dem cos dey are not popular and hello,susan Hart is an ex-beauty queen,so d kind of circle she is in doesn't allow her mingle with 'old poor men'

Anonymous said...

My hubby is 11yrs older than I am,am 25 and he's 37,will be 26 in December.my reason for marrying an older guy is simply cos of my parents.pop luvs mumsy die and he contains he excesses so muvh so dat sometimes we'll be teasing him dat he's spoilt his wife.I grew up learning from them that a woman is s'posed to be treated with respect,love etc.I also grew up looking out for it in guys my age but I found them a bit shallow for my liking cos I had a role model at home.my hubby has to be someone dat I respect cos am a handful and he handles,pampers,spoils me,treats me like a queen,and prays for us too.am sooooooo blessed!
Spicy.

Anonymous said...

11yrs senior u well now! U join the people wen stella dey talk abt.

Anonymous said...

All of oh na dey claim my hubby is older very caring very this and that but I get one question for oh na! Which person old hubby dey carry uni girls up n down?

Anonymous said...

Eeeeeya. Smh for them o

Nelly Ozojie said...

If u ask me, I will say its all in the pursuit of happiness. I won't mind marrying an older guy, as a matter of fact I once dated one but had to leave cos I knew ppl will say I was after his money. He is 16yrs older dan my 23 and I can say dats d best r/ship I hv eva had. He has a very high tolerance 4 all my bull shit, he is calm wen I'm being hot headed and jst let's me rant. Na me go still come say sorry after realising my foolishness. I can boldly say I loved him first, d idea of money attraction came later.

ykiluminati on yahoo plus plus said...

chai na wa oh.... well my driver is 50+ caring and loving he needs a babe ASAP... lolz nobody is interested. naija babez are just thieves, always want the already made goods, that is how aunty becky, madam low cut, my neighbor clocked 50 last week and shez still single, i even tried to help her get one baby sef but plenty abortions when she was young no gree her born.

Barb said...

Well said! chop cyber knuckle!

Anonymous said...

My lover is 50 to my 32. I will marry him if he ever asks me. He's mature, supportive, emotionally balanced and genuinely is concerned about my happiness and well being. I am benefiting from his past failed relationships which made him mature enough to realize, what he puts into his relationship is what he gets out of it. He bends over backwards for me, I'll bend over doubly backward just because I know he's got me. All of this makes us very connected on every level, which spills over into our sex life. Age doesn't matter there, he's healthy and fit, so he can thrust and last. He's also taken the ego out of the bedroom and knows that me asking for something different isn't a sign he's not satisfying me or that I'm cheating which makes our love making spectacular.

See the attraction to an older man isn't necessarily material gain, sometimes it's emotional fulfillment and being respected as a woman and not being treated as an adversary because I'm a woman, like younger immature men tend to do.

Anonymous said...

Nelly Ozojie nne u better go after ur heart and forget what people will say cos they will always talk! Look at all these celebs that people keep talking about yet they do what they want at the end, and look happy doing it! Annie, mercy johnson, stephanie, genevieve, omotola, heck all the damn celebs are always being talked about. If u keep living for others, u will never be happy trust me!

Rough Diamond said...

Me I no mind old man too! Infact dat's my prayer point!

Senera said...

My dear I support u. U have said it all. Am 25 and my hubby is 18yrs older than me and treats me well. Loves his daughter so much and fucks well than my ex bf. I will marry older men in my next world. Forget young boys

Anonymous said...

Abegi!

Anonymous said...

Hahahahahahahahahaha, GBAMEST @ anon 11:19, na dia older hubbies o. Na as e take catch dem sef, e still dey continue business after e don put dem for house. See all of dem trying to console themselves here, daughters of poor parents turned runs girls and rescued from poverty. Lol.

Anonymous said...

Ur driver ke !???! U get small craze o....no be dat kain old man naija babes dey find....na smart 50yrs and above dude ...LMAO.

Anonymous said...

The previous history of these old men scare me. First 2 wives died, na bla bla. And truth also is, most babes married to older men are highly jazzed up, una wan deny am?
No matter how beautiful you paint your stories, any time I see that combo of old papa and small geh, i always pity the gehs, like ' what a waste ".
Cheating is not age dependent and men never get tired of cheating. If that older man you married is so loaded. Then jejely enjoy his money cus you're definitely not his only pussy. If we decide to take a vox pol on this, you will discover that the older men cheat way more than the younger man, after all, na who dem dey call "Sugar Daddy" or "Aristo"? So, please stop deceiving yourselves. Your testimonies can only convert fellow runs girls and the ones wey market for fall press. How many children from good homes with solid pedigree will date an older man? Not to talk of marrying them? In Buanca's case, see the whole mess it resulted into with her father? In omotola's case, her dad was dead and Matthew was a lifeline at the time, in Caroline Danjuma's case, she was almost a bread winner and the man changed she and her mum's fortunes. I could go on and on. The only edge a grandpa has over a younger guy is Finance and thank God these days there are young guts doing exploits and marrying and taking care of their wives wella.

Anonymous said...

Anon 10:06PM, your head dey there. True talk! Most of them are just lying.

Anonymous said...

I swear this is the best post ve seen on this blog..I'm just here on the bus laughing like a fool..hhehhehehehhhe dese comments are killing me..more of this. Plz. Love you sterra baby abi na mama (well at least for this awesome post).. lolzz

NAMELESS! said...

Tufiakwa. Adedolapo, different strokes for different folks. Your uncle at 76 still dey set doggy for him wife, what an irritating sight that would be. This my beautiful body for one wrinkled old man? Again I say tufiakwa. I am married to a handsome young, hardworking man with a good job, I have a good job too, we have a set if twins, I'm enjoying my marriage and by the grace of God we will grow old together. All of you in the "Old papa " racket, i wish you luck and I wish you a happy marriage.

Anonymous said...

*guys* not *guts*

Nelly Ozojie said...

U r right. Thank you :)
Seems I'm d only person dat revealed my identity on this post, everybody went anonymous. Lol

reggy said...

wanted an older man but fell in love with a guy just 3years older,getting married soon,the thing is that he act like his 40 or derabt so i guess i still got myself an olderman in a younger man's bodyhe hates problems and treat me like a queen,told me am his soul mate,he always put me 1st in everything

Anonymous said...

The fact that you can hardly find a pretty young girl getting married to an old poor man speaks volumes about the rationale and basis for this kind of union.

Horpeelady Omohorlar said...

And some wld upload picz of dem together n title it ME N MA BOO!Is he ur boo or ur ancestorz?*rolling eyez*

Anonymous said...

I relate wiv u,dere are indeed old men in young men's skin. My husband is 2yrs older buh he has all d quality of an old man. Pampers me,treats me like a queen,doesn't like me to get angry or upset,listens to me deeply,teaches me more abt God and humans, satisfies all my needs not minding his own needs,and can sex me up and make me melt like butter. Waow I bless God for d day I met dt man,cos if I hadn't listened to my spirit I wud ve missed him and still keep searching for a very older guy cos dt has always been my desire but God still met my needs infact more dan my expectatn and foreva grateful.

Anonymous said...

1st of all,age is a mind thing.There are some young men who are more mature in all ramifications than some older men.sometimes I personally marvel @ d maturity of some young stars and stupidity of old folks..As 4 sex I personally think its a matter of compatibility than anything else..you can fuck an older man and scream for more and be all so wet sweet and juicy and fuck a small boy who u'd term a one minute man who will leave u with bruises.(dry knacking)pls excuse my french peeps lol...my personal experience is thus,I dated a man who was 20 years older when I was 20 and trust me guys that man still remains the love of my life.i loved him then and will love him forever...as 4 d sex it was mind,soul and body blowing...I can NEVER EVER get better i know wat I'm talking about...he is my soulmate.i still miss him and truth be told when I want an orgasm with my husband I ve to imagine he's d one I'm making love to.btw I'm married with 4 kids and 35...dis is a feeling I've had 4 15 years so trust me I know it's love....for all those who wanna cuss me out,and preach about marriage and bla bla bla,pls shut up already...stella wanted real people's experiences and I've just dropped mine.....

Anonymous said...

Wonderful experiences I must say!!! And a deep food for thought. Lesson learnt marry your friend, and someone who has @ least 50% of all d qualities cos no one is perfect. Yet to have mind blowing sex.... I pray my husband will oblige me lols!!! Covers face# runs#

Anonymous said...

And 4 all d olodo's dat want to start imagining things,I've never cheated on my hub.ive been married for 10 years and been faithful.i still think about my ex alot and miss him badly but dats ow far it has gone.my hub is 41 and quite a nice chap I must say but then again I'm in love with a much older man.so bottom line is u can genuinely love an older man irrespective of d odds.my ex is a multi millionaire and my hubby is almost a billionaire...do d maths people.love aint about d luxury and comfort..in the true sense of love,I will choose penury against wealth......I'm anon 139,for some money is love,but for me love is money and everything else that's good...

Anonymous said...

My dear we re in d same shoe...sumtimes 2 go home self dey tire me

Anonymous said...

You know out of all these , I didnt see one lady come out and talk about career , all they are talking about is older men , older men , security and shit.. Nobody wants to work anymore , they just want men that have worked all their lives come and just "sweep them off their feet" and take care of them for the rest of their lives.. After that they will ask the man to open a make up studio or a salon for them and they will sit there scoping all the young boys , see what our young women are turning to .. Nobody is looking up to the likes of Oprah and Alakijas , they are looking up to the women that got "lucky" to get a married man and became second wife..

The truth is , the moment the man sense you are getting old , he will go for another youth , simple as that and he go pain u dieeeee... If the topic was about guys and older women , I know you guys wont be saying all these.. Your daughters will come home with older men and you sons will come home with older women.. What comes around , goes around.

Adukeologe said...

I am an active reader of your blog Stella but that's all I ever do, I never comment. This time though, I have decided I mustn't just keep taking, I must give back.

It always breaks my heart to read how clueless yet opinionated Nigerians can be. I could almost say that majority do not stop to be objective before they speak. But then I realise that our culture does not encourage this, parents would boss their kids around and do not stop for one minute to listen to the child's thoughts, even universities do not teach their student to critically analyse (compare both sides of an argument, compare the dated and the recent etc.). In England if you fail to do these, you'll equally fail the course.

I grew up without my father present so when I started dating, I was only ever attracted to older guys. I longed for some kind of emotional security that I just did not find in the young ones. I got what I was looking for or so I thought, d first was like warm and comfy slippers, never cheats, always there.... But uuuuhn we never talked enough and he didn't satisfy me sexually. The second was like all my Christmases came at once, we would talk endlessly, we had the most amazing sex together with his warm fluffy body (yuuum), he would do my shopping as well as his on his way from work, if he dint like something I'm wearing ( like those oooold panties u just don't wanna be rid of) he will simply change it. Oh! And he was sooo handsome, but I never had cause to worry UNTIL bla bla bla happened (not relevant)... However he had an ego like being young prevents me from being upset.

Adukeologe said...

After him, i became close with this white guy 31 years older than me. I always said if he was just 15 years younger, I would have married him. While writing my dissertation I would spend hours at the library, he would bring me food and take me to the dorks to eat it, he would take me fishing, teach me to swim, play tennis, ride bicycle ..... Everything that my father wasn't around to do. When I was Ill, he would buy me everything to help, he would drive me around the countryside when I was down and let me decide what I wanna do. He would never press me to talk if I'm not up for it. He drove 2 days to Italy from England in his car just to help me move my things while I just flew in with my hand luggage ( I was going for my masters so I had plenty to move). He had the hotel we stayed booked, his room was next to mine and he wouldn't step in my room to even sit, we where only ever in the courtyard eating 5 course dinners or touring.... Oh! He even had my school all checked out and helped me with my accommodation etc. I kept thanking God each day that he put Mark in my life as he became the yardstick by which I measured the subsequent men... My family suspect Mark was in love with me but I shrug it off, he never said anything and i was glad he didn't.

After him, I dated a younger guy who although we talked and played a lot, only ever gave me doubts and pains all through the relationship. He would cheat endlessly, deny me to all the whores, even slapped me once just cos he was speaking with his ex and practically undressing her over the phone and I objected to it. I got so tired and down. I went to a prayer retreat center. No noise, no signal, just 350ish hectares of natural land, greens, water bla bla la and prayed and cried to God. I needed my own man, who would adore me and treat me right. I felt lost and I needed to be found. I left him and till now he still wants me back.

Adukeologe said...

Shortly after, I agreed to date this guy I went to high school with. He is so different from what i would normally go for but He had pursued me relentlessly for 3 years, I would be so rude to him yet he will still come back and speak to me so gently. Oh! Thank God that I did, I have no doubt he was especially designed for me. He is only 6 months older than me, but he is so mature that I forget that ( i am 25). He is young but rich, he buys everything in my name as well as his, but mostly in mine. I am in Lagos for a year and just cos 4 months ago I called mom in England and she wouldn't pick, I started being worried and cried when she eventually did, he decided I had to go see her o. I thought it was a joke. He paid for my trip to England and America and back to England and Nigeria and I shopped like crazy too......this is someone my sisters said to me was too young, he won't be responsible yet, he can't care for me bla bla bla (enemies of progress lol). He is so faithful, his friends respect him for that too.

Oh! Before you say I'm a lazy girl who wants to fend off a guy. Pls know that I am an Interior Designer (not decorator) and my current residential project alone is in excess of 15 million. ;D ... Ok Ciao

Adukeologe said...

So there is no hard and fast rules to love and happiness people. Open your hearts to the unconventional. Don't be so bitter and sad. If the older ones work, fine, if not go for the younger ones. Mind your own business. Don't use all this pain relief medicines on someone else's wahala...... These are my thoughts.

Anonymous said...

Anon 143,shut up already and stay focused, the topic is not about career!!!

over sabi- signed eyes wide shut...hehehehehe

Anonymous said...

and if you mention Alakija again, like it was hard work that produced oil bloc. Shiorrrr!!!

Anonymous said...

Stella, biko, why didnt you post my comment????

Signed Eyes Wide Shut...

Anonymous said...

Adukeologe, I enjoyed reading ur narrative tremendously! Wonderful piece! And I am amazed that you are just 25. U got me shocked at the end when u revealed ur age. I almost scrolled back to start to read again. LooL! Such an articulate lady you are. Esp one this young.

Believe it or not, most ladies ur peer are either disgruntled or unserious with life! But you seem very intelligent and focus. And I pray the lord will bring u a desirable man that will compliment your person. Godspeed my lady!

TDW said...

Whatever works for you, that's my policy.
I'm married to my man just 6 months older and I'm quite satisfied. Things are not all rosy as regards finance, but we do ok and we will do better.
He gives me the best sex ever - takes care of my needs for he lets go...gets down there real deep. Lord have mercy!
And house chores? He does them all - bathrooms, rooms, the yard, laundry if am unable - the whole 10 yards.
And he is really prayerful - like I got pains in my body, he prays over me and it's gone. And still waits patiently for us to have our baby, no pressures.
Encourages me whatever I want to do. I love him. He's my man 24/7/365.

As I said whatever works for you. Black, white, red, yellow, younger, older, agemate, slim, fat, six packs, christian, muslim - ENJOY HIM, he's your man!