Saturday, December 07, 2013
Miley Cyrus' Wrecking Ball African Remix....My Two Cents.
Someone sent me this video and said it was funny,i watched it and i am sorry i don't find it funny...i saw one girl dancing and twisting her waist and her parents pulling down the roof because of that.I saw another young boy almost having sex and his father beating him and then both parents almost bring down the house...............whats funny in that?
This is the problem with some parents...when you find your children in such sensitive circumstances,do you beat them or sit them down and educate them?
When your daughter is ripe enough for boys to start asking her out,do you confine her indoors or sit her down and talk to her about sex,condoms and the pill or what?
When your son starts to notice the opposite sex,do you blow hot or you educate him?
Aint feeling this video..if you keep raising the roof every time you find your child in such compromising circumstance,you don't stop them,they will only shift base to somewhere you cannot see them,instead of making you their friends and talking to you,they will go to someone else,instead of coming to you when they are in trouble they will go to someone else!
Beating and shouting only makes your child fear you,it doesn't stop them.
Are you a parent?have you sat down your kids and discussed sex with them?i am not saying encourage them but talk to them about the dangers of premarital sex and why they should desist?
how did you approach the subject and what was their reaction?
*please correct me if i am wrong,disagree if you must,but this is my two cents and i am sticking to it.
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the video waz js tryn to show wat most naija parents do nd tryn to make it funny nau
ReplyDeleteIt was funny jor me like.
DeleteHahahaha, I enjoyed the video totally abeg, pure comedy, pls how our parents handle us here is the best! It's in the bible sef (spare the rod and ...)We must not imitate the western world in everything joor, their kids lack morals(judging from movies)where they call elders by their manes and throw insults at them.a little beating won't kill anybody.
DeleteMy best part of the video was when the guy was hanging from the rope and daddy was giving him "igbati"(whatever it means)from the back! Oops that didn't come out well, hahahahahahaah
This goes to show that Stella doesn't have an iota of humor. The video is off the chain... Dem too try abeg, cut wm some slack and stop dictating the tune of ur follower's reaction joor.
DeletePost or not I've aired my piece.
When I saw this video, I laughed and laughed and laughed! Why? E funny die!
DeleteStella TTTTTTTTTTT....take those seats. "Manage" them.
The boys are just showing that African parents don't condone nastiness. Simple! You think you're 16 and you wanna be an adult too quickly? Factory reset coming your way. You go chop igbati.
It's a parody. Wey the pipo wey go sku? Make una help Stella
We all know beating isn't always the answer. But let's not forget where we are coming from. If you're 35 and above, talk true Abeg. Your mama "sit you down when you fuck up"?
My sweet mother was a teacher. Before you say "I"....you go hear gbosai! Gbosai !! So Stella forget this your 2 cents. I will filter my kids bumbum if I have to.
Its funny joor!
DeleteThis ur 2cents is the reason why. Young pple don't open up to adults, they show u something funny and u turn it into a life. Lesson. Zero sense of humor
LMAO! Very funny video.
DeleteStella where's your sense of humour? Why u forming seriousness all of a sudden. This video is very funny. Maybe u just don't understand the video
DeleteWell said stella! Though the guys were portraying African parents be like.... Early sex Education works for me!
ReplyDeleteThis is one of the best words I have ever read on your blog, Stella , you are so right I was even a bit offended cos its treatments like this that make kids grow up mean. Aggression breeds aggression.. Even with all Nigerian parents strict discipline, we still have men putting sticks in women's vaginas and burning people...
DeleteIt wasn't funny to me as well.
ReplyDeleteOmG laughing so hard, I cried! Funniest thin everrrrr! U need to have a sense of humor to appreciate this lmaoooooooo!
ReplyDeleteAbeg stella calm down ...I get the joke
DeleteHaba bringing a girl to your parents room even if you would not get some smacking you would def get scolded o
It was so funny sha, its better to use the rod than spoil the child
At a time you have to stop being your childrens friend and start being their parent
Why are you asking for correction if you plan to stick to these your two cents?
ReplyDeleteYou are right though. Parents should talk to their kids more. Things are changing now though. In those days, it was punishment upon beating. My mum was the beater, my dad was the talker. I respected my dad more and tried harder not to disappoint him. I never got any sex education from home but because I loved books, the book "Every woman" gave me a good sense of direction. In Secondary school, I was counselling other girls about periods, hormonal changes, ovulation period, sex etc. They all thought my Principal mum taught me but I got all the knowledge from books.
I'm definitely giving my boys the sex talk when they are of age.
Rubbish, who cares if you are sticking to your two cents......you should have enough sense to know this is just a hilarious video and it made me laugh.....did they say it was to teach parents to beat their children?.....use your common sense to decipher some things
ReplyDeleteCouple of months back, i. Found love letters written by my 13 year old nephew. I also found some sexual diagrams he had drawn as well. Was surprised and just short of words. Me, who has written several articles on sex education for young people; was short of where to start talking to my nephew. Hmmm
ReplyDeleteStella this is 9ja the Cain answers all. It may look outdated n horrible but u knw wat, it shaped us to who we are today, respect for elders knowing right from rong, self values, n not selling ones self cheap. I'm so proud growing up in a Nigerian home. Back then wen my moms special flying slippers was in effect I thot she adopted me but today I sit wit friends n laugh. it strengthened me.
ReplyDeleteRespect for elders? Don't you see how children insult elders in Nigerian blogs?
DeleteKnowing right from wrong with all the predominant 'runs' behaviour and 419 tendencies in today's youth that they see nothing wrong in (all na hustle)
Self values with the bleaching, going naked on the streets in the name of fashion?
Anonymous abegi!
anon 10.43, i feel you so much. Same thing here. My mum was very harsh then and i used to think she hated me but today am really grateful for that "harshness " as it helped in shaping my life.
DeleteI beg to disagree with you @anon 11.23. Na the kids of those days na them respect elders pass till date. Back then and till now, I still fear cane and the sight. I was not really flogged as a small kid cos the sight of it landing on my body was enough to make me do the right thing. I always got to school early cos of fear of the cane landing on my body and it helped me later in life to sticking to time and all. Back in the days, flogging helped to train the kids. I am not saying that parents shld flog their kids mercilessly but check out the diff btw kids of those days and kids of nowadays. Check out the atrocities kids in foreign lands commit all because parents are banned from flogging. Yes there are better ways of training by talking to them, but I tell you, na the talk talk most of the time that have resulted in most kids of nowadays behaviour.
DeleteEven some modern day parents still reserve some form of canes in their homes and once the kids sight the canes, my dear they maintain themselves. 'Spare the rod and spoil the child'. My two cents too.
Shyla
I was once at the airport one christmas and a lady was trying to check in with her kids. The queue was actually very long and everyone was just uncomfortable. And these kids were jumping up and down. Even as their mum was shouting that they should stay in one place otherwise she would flog them, they only laughed at her and boldly told her that she could not flog them cos they would report her to the cops. Everybody laughed and their mum told them that they were now in nigeria and she would flog them if they misbehaved. They saw the seriousness in her eyes and I tell you, those kids went and sat down cos the language of the cane was not something they wanted to experience and it got the required result.
DeleteShyla
Shattttap der! Didn't u read the line where she said "it shaped us to who we are today". That was in reference to her own generation(being shaped). Wat u are talking about is the later generation who got their "rods" spared, I think u said the rest.
DeleteMajority of Nigerian parents in Nigeria do not spare rod, till date. And how do you know which generation the anonymous is in? She write her age?
DeleteI'm not saying I disagree with flogging children, I'm saying flogging does not result in all the virtues she listed here otherwise Nigerian children would be the best behaved in the world.
And madam 'shattap der' you just proved one of my points.
We don't have to follow westerners? K, live in mud houses, don't receive western education and see WHR DAT takes u, we always act like we HV a better society, HV u bin to American embassy and seen d line, we all want to go to a society that wasn't raised with a cane? We r just scared to admit we were wrong and change, d same society created the politicians u insultfor being randy, fforgetting they are old enough to be ur fathers? Results that's what matters, we r not animals, we learn without a stick too, knowing the reasons to do right when no one will flog u sounds better.
DeleteAnonymous the Great
LMAO!! So with all the "rod" Nigerian kids have been getting, we should be the best in the world isn't? WRONG! Nigerians are soo mean! With all the beating, we have some of the worst creatures on earth in Nigeria... So aggressive beating "the Rod" is not always the answer!!
DeleteAm out*
Come back o...don't go out yet
DeleteSo you mean all the white kids who bully their fellow students and push them to commit suicide are also nijah kids
Abeg any1 that dosnt have the fear of God in them can kill weda you like it or not
And we aint saying its the only ans just that its needed most of the time
Stella its a satire, and I find it Hilarious its showing what typical naija folks will do. When I was younger my boyfriend's mom found me in his room sitting on d bed doing nothing he wasn't even in d room d woman warned me never to enter her sons room den went nd found him nd scolded her heart out, the guy was abt 23 then sef wasn't a kid. Most embarrassing day of my life. But ya I find d video funny.
ReplyDeleteOMG! This happened when I was much younger the year I finished secondary school, my BF and I were in his room doing some heavy making out, I was wearing a Skirt but my panties were on the bed, the mum walked it and she saw it!!!! I wanted to die even b4 she scolded us, it's still embarrassing, lol
DeleteLove this video! It made my day! Thanks stella
ReplyDeleteAbeg Stella go and sit down and get a sense of humor. even Miley cyrus that released the video was tongue lashed by Americans not even Nigerians. This is just for fun. (yin-yin-yin-yin-yin-yin see your mouth). Where you not flogged by your parents while growing up? Rubish
ReplyDeleteKoboko# auto correcting Nigerian children's brains since 1806. Its very necesssary here o. Though they r a couple of other ways to go about correcting a child
ReplyDeleteI can't see the video. Anyway from ur explanations, I get it. To them (Oyibos) its funny when parents starts wrecking their houses when they notice their children are having sex. Because in the real sense Oyibo person will not do that. That's why the video its funny to them, but to us, its the real deal, if ur parents didn't wreck when they finds out u re having sex, then they are not good parents. C 'est fini.
ReplyDeleteSpare the rod n spoil d child!
ReplyDeleteStella u can't compare western environ wit african environ ooo!
Imagine if u don't av to discipline ur kids in africa wit d rate of d kind poverty wey dey outside.
Day time robbery for done turn nitemare for everywia. Prostitution nko.
4 africa u wld still find kids, wey dia parents no get shi shi, but dey ar very satified n contented. Na beating oo!
Some children be EKWENSU (satan), too stubborn, u av to beat dem to teach dem.
In America where hitting kids aint in dia culture,tk a look at how far it az gotten dem, esp d black americans.
D manner at wich dey spik to dia parents, most of dem end up as junkies, drug dealers, n gangstars.
Concerning sex education, africans are bcomin enlightened, dey teach dem dis tins in sch, even companies lik 'always' pad, carry info to churches n co.
I believe u shld punish a kid for doing rong, but MODERATION IS THE KEY!
BTW d video is funny!
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DeleteTalk about sex education and Africa, talk about aids prevalence in Africa compared to the west, and drugs, I bet u want u children to attend der schls also cos of asuu, they made that society without canes
Deleteyou didn't need to spoil their song before making your points! those guys are known for that, your two cents or whatever changes nothing! you could have made that topic a post on its own
ReplyDeleteStella dnt dcv urslf the rod is rily hlping us here,spare d rod spoil the child,I rmber wen we were yung ,if u tink of d beatin you wld recve at home,you will co-ordinate yourslf.that is y most kids brought up overseas are spoilt.
ReplyDeleteAnd no spoilt kids in Africa, yahoo no1, terrorism no1, aids prevalence no1, schl systems messed up, corrupt gov, and u think this system is working, name I aspect that d cane made u better and i'll prove u wrong
DeleteWow just what I had in mind... recently my 5yrs old daughter woke up in the night to find hubby and I making love, she did not say anything and we also didn't counsel her on what she say. Two days later, she went to her dad asking him what we were doing? And he said '' mummy's back was paining her so I was giving her a message" I listened to the conversation between them and did not utter a word. Later I turned to hubby and wanted us to discuss the right approach to that awkward moment... yes my daughter is five and no we don't sleep in one room but my kids tend to join us in our room in the night and we just let them...I am still feeling shy about it because this is the first time. Pls advice
ReplyDeleteStop letting your kids join you in bed if you plan to make love. Its a bad habit that can mess a child up. When my kids insist on sleeping in our room, I suggest joining them in theirs instead and then sneak off later when they are asleep. You are lucky your child said something. Some kids witness it and keep quiet, then they re-enact the action in school, to their friends, playmates or when visitors are around.
DeleteUna door no get key?
DeleteStella you miss the point of this video! You are right in all you've said but guess what, the video has an even bigger message besides the comic relief it provides. These young ones of today need to understand that there are consequences for their actions (at least there ought to be). They need to know that acting stupid on social networks is just plain STUPID. of course the parent's reaction was exaggerated but that's just to make it funnier. This video is freaking hilarious.
ReplyDeleteThey'll beat you like a wrecking ball! Hehehehe.
And also Stella my mum beat me o! Well well! But she's my bestie today. There's nothing i don't or can't tell her. I believe in using the rod, as long as you do it with love and make the child understand why he/she is being caned or punished. Please in our generation a lot of us were brought up that way and we've turned out very fine. There are some issues that mere talking cannot change. Trust me, I grew up around some people that only understood the language of koboko, if you like talk/lecture from now till next year na lie! Lol
ReplyDeleteDid the cane or self realization stop u from doing wrong once u left or parents house, wasn't fear of a disappointing look worse than fear of the cane, if or parents knew it all y did they send u to schl, I guess they wanted u to think for or self known they did they best they know not they best there is to bring u up.anon the great
DeleteI put the link up bcos of the "igbati" I saw in that yoruba post oh, but this video is hilarious mainly bcos its a spoof!
ReplyDeleteD plot doesn't mean much, its not even meant to be elaborated on @ all. Shuo
Hahahahaha!
ReplyDeleteStella, you missed the whole point of the Video.
ReplyDeleteI think you just wanted to discuss this topic and used this stale video to water the ground first.
Lol... I understand u annonymos but u see that's the thing this generation is goin down the drain cause of western influence...this idea of sit-down with a kid as tho he is ur mate... U can Definately not compare growing up in the 80's, 90's and now...it's sad but our parents and grandparents did it....wats this generation lacking?with all these points uve clearly stated the root cause is from the home..no morals no values...u find even the parents nowadays are comfortable with the lifestyle of there kids...
ReplyDeleteThe ppl that grew up in those days are the politians today with so much morals, they are the society that praise money today no matter d source, if u can't communicate with or children a way they will understand they will fail, unless u too r a product of a failed society. Anon the great
DeleteStella its never that serious! its just a joke video that was made for laughs. You need to chill on that Stella...we don't need a lecture.
ReplyDeleteGosh stella y r u so takin dz personal?dz iz suppose. 2 be a comic like just laff it off.....I tot u had a sense of humor !
ReplyDeleteLove this video!
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Naija people killllll me. Blaming western influence for the rot in our society. Guys, talk true..runs na western influence? Husband snatching na western influence? Kidnapping and armed robbery unko? Oh and ritualistic killings?. You all face the hard truth Jo. We beat to correct without telling children why XyZ that was done is wrong. Parents compare their kids with everyone else's so the kids in a bid to please Mum and Dad turn into something else. We can't blame western influence for everything. But then again, this is a typical Naija thing...blame everyone else but the main cause of the problem. Discipline is good and it is practiced everywhere. In the west, beating is frowned upon yes but not other forms of discipline. In Naija or Africa, it isn't...different strokes for different folks.
ReplyDeleteAunty Stella, you have enough exposure....you can see that the video was showing that no matter how much shouting and beating is done, it won't stop a child that wants to explore. The girl shaking her bum had a serious case of low self esteem and a need to feel among. The boy had no idea of consequences of his actions. The video has pointed out that teens will have these issues and it is up to parents to address it before the kids learn the "solution" from other places. You understand?
People like u are d hope for Africa. Anon d great
DeleteAwwww, i can't watch the video. My phone is low on MB. But i can relate to what y'all ate talking about.
ReplyDeleteStella this is Africa where discussion like you are saying doesn't work.
My Married colleague (former) once went to the supermarket of our care taker's wife to buy something. The woman's two over spoiled kids were there. my colleague greeted the woman and said to the children 'how are you doing'. They didn't even greet her nor did they respond to her own greeting. And she jokingly told their mum. You know what the woman said, THEY ARE NOT IN THE MOOD.
These kids are 7 and 9 yrs each. The woman demands respect from everyone but can't teach her own kids to give respect.
What are my saying, parents play alot of role in how their kids are shaped up later in life.
My dear, you de talk of greeting. Ahh forget that one oh. Kids of these days lack home training. Their parents no sabi at all. Small pikin will be waiting for you to first greet am. I always love seeing the few trained kids that greet adults, at least you know they have some form of respect o jare. Well that's y plenty kids are now in the news for the wrong reasons.
DeleteYou are actually too old to get what is is funny. Leave that to the under 25..
ReplyDeleteIt was just a fun video Stella...guess u watched with too much seriousness...its just what Nigerians parents do....they are not preaching anything...its just fun fun and fun
ReplyDeleteParent r so judgemental......stells bring ur kids d way u want and let others do the same. No need to rant all this two cents
ReplyDeleteBtw the video , was so funny ....I almost fell off d chair, thanks to d person who shared the video ...lol, too funny
This is so hilarious, thumbs up to them jore.
ReplyDeleteAnd itz funny... chop igbati lol
ReplyDeleteAm commenting from experience, am a mother of 4kids who lives in the so called western world believe me is good to sit a child down and talk to him but an African kids needs the beating as well bec they r Africans with African blood flowing in them. Talking alone works well for Oyibo bec their kids actually listens but our African kids don't. What am trying to say is that an African child's needs both talking and beating to drive home the message.
ReplyDeleteAs in African kids are goats, and HV smaller brains, u HV low self esteem
DeleteAm commenting from experience, am a mother of 4kids who lives in the so called western world believe me is good to sit a child down and talk to him but an African kids needs the beating as well bec they r Africans with African blood flowing in them. Talking alone works well for Oyibo bec their kids actually listens but our African kids don't. What am trying to say is that an African child's needs both talking and beating to drive home the message.
ReplyDeleteThe video was hilarious menh! But at d same time, it gave d message! When I was much younger, ma mum was ma worst enemyn always picking on mi n I so believed I was d adopted one. She is only 20yrs older than mi. Now I'm much older n wiser, ma 16 yrs old sis is so crazy abt d social media scene n got carried away! Ma mum gave her d greatest lecture I've heard from her in ma lifetime. But she didn't heed til I caught her misbehaving again n gave her d greatest beatin of her life, plus lectures! She is calm now. Beating is d african tin. When it's done wit d intent to correct out of love.u shd get d results u wann. It is only sumone u don't love or even care about that u wld jus talk to n leave him or her to make their decisions. My own 2 cent.
ReplyDeleteCos African kids are goats, and violence is our thing, I get ur point
DeleteY don't u jus make ur point n move on? ITK.
DeleteI live in abroad and have seen the effects of not beating a child.Am so glad that my parents beat my when necessary.It really shaped me,I talk to my kids and discipline them the naija style.They are very respectful and well mannered both inside and outside.I told them a story of what I did when I was small and how my father gave me the beating of my life,and I stopped.I still love my father to death.Nigerian children abroad that are discipline from when they small do not give us as much problems as the ones that are talk to and you make them your friends.In the western countries,it is said that your kids should be treated as your friends,and that's what is killing them.Please people let's not forget our African/Nigerian culture.
ReplyDeleteSo why did u leave Africa if the culture is so sweet, the worst kind of liars r those who lie to themselves. Pls take or kids to Africa, just heard militancy and bk is the in thing for the youths der
DeleteAunty stella, truth b told d video is funny, shows what african parents really do but that's not d way it actually should becos upon all d igbati some still nor go hear, igbati doesn't work everytime #engeez3000
ReplyDeletestella were u traumatize from beating as a child.....abeg chill. This video is so funny and creative , LMAO . well done to whoever did it . Chop Igbati ....brilliant
ReplyDeletestella go drink fanta and biscuit.....HISS eyes rolling
ReplyDeleteSo u cant post a simple hilarious video without passing your beliefs down out throats. Your two cents was totally not needed , just post it and let your readers decide for themselves. IT IS NOT ALL ABOUT U . We are not babies and are parents too. we decide how we want to bring up our children
I had a great laugh watching it and its on replay this morning. Really funny video
LOL, Thank u for posting the video Stella, i havent laugh this hard in a long time
ReplyDeleteIt a pity/shame that u ruined the post with ur two cent ranting.
I almost didnt watch d video blc of that and i am glad i watched it. Get a lighter sense of humor Stella and stop been so judgemental. Igbati worked in our generation , let parents decided what they want. your two cent rant was not necessary at all and almost spoilt how good the video is
if u follow miley cyrus career then u appreciate how funny this video is . it shows many elements of her ridiculousness. i love it , love it
ReplyDeleteThis is a great spoof video and well done to who made it
i agree with the MAJORITY here , Stella u almost spoilt this post with your two cents. ***rme
SDK my fav blogger, don't tell me you've lost your sense of humour.
ReplyDeleteThis video is very funny. Quite an entertaining piece at that...Naijaboys ride on...welldone
Stella, your 2 cents are disappointing. I come here because you're funny and make me laugh. Your reaction to an absolutely hilarious video questions your sense of humor. Abeg, go take a seat jor. Old mama feeling funky with herself. If you like, go buy condoms for your children in the name of "feeling among". You'll reap exactly what you sow. I have lived in the US for many, many years and I can confidently tell you that "talking" to African kids raised in the West is rarely enough. You need to see the horrible things Nigerian kids are doing here in the US.
ReplyDeleteNice 1....
ReplyDeleteDon't see anything funny in that video.....
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