I decided to post this mail because of the state of mind of the poster who woke up using google to find out how to commit suicide!
Perhaps if we can encourage her that God has a special plan for her,she might renew her mindset?
Sometimes we take God's blessings for granted and complain until we meet someone whose prayer point is to be like us.
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Please permit me to rant and if you so desire you can share my story. The truth is I am extremely depressed and have been having suicidal thoughts. I don't know how much longer I can continue like this because frankly I have lost the will to live. I turn 40 in a few months, I am unmarried, no child, and to top it up I have been out of work for almost two years now.
All my sisters are married with children (both younger and older), all my friends that I went to primary, secondary and university with are married with children. My job was the only thing that kept me going, at least it was an avenue to channel all my energy, but now I don't even have a job.
What makes my situation so painful is I have never been the loose or promiscuous type. The first time I had sex was in my final year of university. I have always been monogamous. I have never dated 2 men at a time and have always been 100% faithful in every relationship I have been in. Despite this I have never had a meaningful relationship. The few men I have been with all ended up disappointing me in one way or the other.
What kind of life is this?.
I can safely say that being good does not pay. The promiscuous girls I knew in school are all well married with children to boot. There is nothing I haven't done, I have cried, fasted, prayed, you name it.
How have I offended God?
I have constantly sought his face over the years, why does he not hear my prayers?. He answers the prayers of others. He even answers those who do not even pray. Why does he constantly turn his back on me?. Can't I also smile the way others are smiling?. Even if he can't give me all, can't he give me just one, be it a husband, a child or a job. I have been praying and crying for years now. At a time I was told to go for deliverance, that maybe it's a generational or ancestral curse issue, or maybe I have a spirit husband. I went to MFM for deliverance on 3 different occasions, yet my situation remains the same.
I am not a mean person. When I was working I was constantly helping and assisting others. Even now that I don't work, I still try in my little way to offer assistance to those in need, often times to total strangers. Why has God forsaken me? Does he delight in my tears, does he delight in my pain? Why is life so unfair.
I know your readers are going to come with all sorts of comments of how I should have faith, how everything will be ok etc. the truth is that I am the one wearing the shoe and only I know how it is pinching me. It's very easy for someone sitting in her husbands house, surrounded by her children, who probably got married in her twenties to tell me to have faith.
Unless you have walked in my shoes, you can never understand my pain. I don't even have the strength to pray anymore because I am all prayed out. I don't deserve this pain I am going through. I have done nothing to deserve this unhappy life. I cannot continue like this. I have nothing to live for.
I woke up this morning and was googling how to commit suicide. It has actually come to that. It's not necessarily the fact that I am unmarried, it's everything...
it's the hopelessness.....
the helplessness........
the childlessness.....
the loneliness.....
the joblessness....
I am just one human being. I cannot continue to carry this cross. It is toooo much for me. Haba now. God what did I do wrong that you are punishing me like this?. I don't think I can last till my 40th birthday. I just don't have the strength.
This depression is eating me up and I have lost the will to live.''
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Don't give up now pls
ReplyDeletePraise and worship God while waiting
waiting for your miracle
All shall be well
I was sure by now
DeleteGod You would have reached down
And wiped our tears away
Stepped in and saved the day
But once again, I say "Amen", and it's still raining
As the thunder rolls
I barely hear Your whisper through the rain
"I'm with you"
And as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise the God who gives
And takes away
[Chorus:]
And I'll praise You in this storm
And I will lift my hands
For You are who You are
No matter where I am
And every tear I've cried
You hold in Your hand
You never left my side
And though my heart is torn
I will praise You in this storm
I remember when
I stumbled in the wind
You heard my cry to you
And you raised me up again
My strength is almost gone
How can I carry on
If I can't find You
But as the thunder rolls
I barely hear You whisper through the rain
"I'm with you"
And as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise the God who gives
And takes away
[Chorus]
I lift my eyes unto the hills
Where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord
The Maker of Heaven and Earth
[Chorus x2]
Am more or less in ur situation too.As a male and 33 yrs old; no job(Msc holder o),still staying in my parents house,my fiancee just dumped me etc but am still strong. Killing urself makes u a loser cos it never solves any problem but only creates one for ur loved ones. So pls just keep ur head up and it wiil be well
DeleteMadam Poster please thank God for the ridiculous so that you can expect the miraculous..it is well with you ma
DeleteThis Casting Crown's Song has pulled me through the hardest times in my life, Poster we all have sent you mails, please KNOW THAT YOUR VICTORY IS NEAR, hence THE DEVIL WANTS to PUSH YOU OVER!
DeleteIjebu chic please what's the title of this song?. I Want to search for it, thanks
DeleteU remind me of my aunt...almost similar situation...all hope was lost...she was even a virgin at dat...no hope...even me I lost hope for her...she was also a very born again christian of I can use dt word...at some point she stopped bein a Christian. ...very educated ...all her uneducated sisters like my mum were married wt kids and were grandparents alredy....bt God answered her 2 yrs ago...@44 she got married to a man who has neva been married before...it al happened like a joke...up til now she hasnt got any kid...bt atleast she can share her pain n burdens wt her husband. ..life is nt black and white...nobody deserves d grace n mercy we receive daily...same way u av classmates who r happily married...u also av mates who r long dead...u av ppl who r battling wt illness...and even some of des ppl u r envying now av a major storm waitin ahead of dem...d future myt hold better things for u dan for dem...ppl die, loose children. ..get into unfortunate situations. ..wat am I sayin...dont compare urself wt dem...u can only hold on to God...
DeleteKilling urself or living in despair can only rob u of wat lies ahead of u...its only in naija dt ppl think life ends at 40...abroad...ppl r even just startn schl at 40...taking on new careers...getting married...avin children...60yrs old r dating n gettin married...dont let d cultural pressures in naija drive u to an early grave...40yrs is less than half of ur life if ul be around til 100...meanwhile its 80% for someone else who is goin to die at 50...so dear...take it easy on urself...
I think u shld try n get a job...or start doin small things....relocate...mayb leave lagos or wherever u r to a quiet environment. ..start life afresh again...
I pray d almighty wl make d rest of ur life d sweetest...He wl bless it abundantly...he wl favour u...and give u back in multifolds all u av lost in life, goodwill and health...
Pls dont give up...my heart reachhes out to u...
God bless
Wow I shed a tear for this poster because I have been in your shoes. I'm not 40 tho but its the experience that matters here, all your friends are progressing and it seems its just you that God has forgotten. Dont loose hope please, I also thought of ending my life but hope has kept me alive,when hope is dead life is lost so try and have hope and faith in God. I don't have mich now except a job but I believe deep down that God will elevate me. My future will be greater than my today is always my prayer point. I've also learnt to stop playing the good girl card with God, just tell him despite the fact that you're trying to be a good girl you are still a sinner. Ask for forgiveness and learn to stop worring its hard I know but with time you'll will. Take all your problems and dump iy on Gods feet challenge him and see if he wont answer. Pray also against whoever is holding your destiny. Believe me some families actually hold their first borns destiny so he or she will take care of the younger ones.
DeleteGod be with you and strengthen you
Dear poster all hope is not lost, the fact that things aint going the way you want it now doesn't mean its going to be this way forever. God is watching over you and he's going to put a smile on your face sooner than you think, committing suicide is never an option but a one way ticket to hell and that's worse than what you going through right now. Keep on praying, cry to God and he's going to answer you.
DeleteAm a 29yrs old single mum, no job or any man to call my own but I wake up every morning thanking God for the breath of life and the opportunity of seeing another day. I might not have my dream job, a man of my own but am never giving up cos I know someday soon my story is going to change. So dear poster don't you give up now cos your/our miracle is on the way.
Poster,God is not wicked.He knows the end from the beginning.Many single people use this period to better their lives.When you upgrade yourself in all ramifications,and steadfastly continue your spiritual walk with God,suitors will come in droves.You may even become confused who to pick.Yes! Now that you ve tilted towards depression\borderline suicide,it will reflect all over you.No man,not even a user,wants to be around someone who has such aura.Mind you,Marriage may not be an end to all your problems.Happiness is not what you find in matrimony,it is what you bring into it.If not,you will go into it, then look back,and term your single era the best years of your life.Keep calm, you will marry,but you need to position your soul and body for that to happen.Now,get up,love life,count your blessings(we all ve testimonies) and appreciate the fact that you have health at least.As we speak,Someone is being amputated, many are battling cancer,Hiv,Ebola sef!Those ones would gladly swap problems with you. Abeg cool down! Finally, get counselling urgently. Being suicidal is a major issue on its own.God keep you.
DeleteMmmmmm.
ReplyDeleteMy dear,I have a cousin just like you. Very kindhearted woman n very intelligent but NOTHING to call her own. She was almost 42 when she got married to a Medical Doctor.
I don't know but "bad" girls get married earlier than "good"girls n to richer guys too.
My advice is that you keep yourself busy. An idle mind is the workshop for ill thoughts. Again,do not stopp praying,continue with calling on God's name. He'll answer you.
Pls when you have this suicidal thots,read your Holy Books or Inspirational books. God will do it for you soon,Amen
My love pls don't stop praying ur miracle is just about to happen. God blessings will never depart from u. E hugs. Pls hang on and keep keeping on dear.
DeletePoster, I know there is nothing u hvnt heard b4! Pls don't kill urself. At this stage, look into urself and ask urself wat u want!
DeleteWrite ur probs and choose the ones u can personally solve. Job?? Try ur hands on anything (no matter wt it is), child?? Pls, try and take IN for smbdy (it is not a crime to b a single mum), husband?? (pls get a boyfrnd. Go out of ur way n approach a man (no matter his age) / but pause* marriage (jst wnt u to feel loved).
Then b thankful to God. I hv said it b4, it is not evry lady that is destined for d fairytale bla bla bla. Some women are destined to get wt they deserve themselves. It is not desperation, it is being true to urself!
Too many bad girls are getting married cos these bad girls always know wht dey want. They go all out to get it without folding their arms n waiting. But we good girls are too proud (myself included). We feel we are soo good n evythng will fall in place. Humility is wt is excelling bad girls. And wt makes them bad? Sex???? My dear, there are way too many thngs dt make up life than sex.
So look deeeply inside u, ask for God's guidance, take the bull by d horn and start WORK! Also check urslf physically, men of today tnk of their dick's satisfaction more than good characters. So, are u appealing to d eyes? If no, please n please start work! Stop complaining and face urself squarely (u will get all ur desires)! God never ever ever abandons his children! Urs can't b different ok? All the best!
Poster i nearly shed tears while Reading ur story. I could actually feel the pain like i am in your skin.
DeleteAunty, all i can say is DON'T GIVE UP!!!. Be positive in thinking, continue with ur expectations of good things from our God. I bet you that God is packaging something heavenly for you. Husband, kids, job. Yes, i said it. God is about opening your case file and i tell you that once he starts working on your case, you will be too exhausted with activities to have time for testimony.
Biko, take away suicidal thoughts from your mind and let positive ideas and thoughts flood your mind.
Are you in Abuja? There is a friend of mine that i would have connected you with. She is blessed in talking to people. She will be able to make you see life from another perspective and by the time she is through with you, you will slap yourself twice for thinking about suicide in the first place.
My dear you better find place where dem go wash ya head for stream. At times in life, we need higher spiritual intervention to sort us out. This ya matter don pass
ReplyDeleteordinary. Ndo
u're really stupid for this comment and ur name...May God help her and u wey no get any problem....
DeleteYour owners r very stupid, kemmmy. Is what i said wrong? Poster, siddon there dey do smesme. Oi ti mo aiye.
DeleteAnd u stupid kemmmy, see how u've spelt ur name sef, like the idiot u r
This one na serious Ogun idile oh. Boya ko fi ese ike tooo. Suicide is not an option. And those who plan to commit suicide dont speak up. I hope you are not just seeking for attention. Get up and do something and stop wallowing in self pity. Get a job, no matter how small the pay is. Life begins at 40.
DeleteMy dear u v a brighter destiny dts y the devil is fighting u. It may be true or false atimes with the saying that promiscous girls marry better, I v seen gud ones too end up with the best man. Life differs dear n so is our destinies. When u v a very good one, the devil comes in his multiple ways to frustrate you so as for u to end it urself. I v given it a thought n my conclusion is that we shd live our lives as if pleasing God is the only reason for being alife. Every other thing shall be added unto you at his own time, the foolishness of God is wiser than man. Don't end ur life in frustration.
DeleteKemi don't cuss,i heard it's a form of prayers in white garment churches o!there is another that has to do with burying the person from neck down and saying some prayers,they say it's like burying the old things and coming out new,and dey say e dey work!hmmmm!i don't know sha but it's obvious spiritual things are too complicated for us to understand.@poster u actually need deep faith and patience,i can feel ur pain,but God knows u more and will sort u out.
Delete@Kemmmy thanks for ur comment, very stupid comment @Ogun idile. So u dnt have issues of ur own @Ogun idile, may God forgive u, nonsense talk. Even if it's ogun idile that is d problem with her, is that d way to talk? Smh.
DeleteYou've graduated to looking for ways to kill yourself? Wonderful!!!!
ReplyDeleteAsk am. rubbish.
DeleteBoth of u are stupid, you know, just pray you never find yourself in a hopeless situation and no longer find the will to live
DeleteJulit and Lovelace I pray u don't have a problem someday that will make u feel helpless. Cos u have got phones and hands u just post whateva u like not caring how d oda person in d receiving end feels. This only shows u do not know what love is, u don't need to knw sumbdy b4 u love dem. If dis was ur relation would dis have been ur comment
DeletePls think carefully b4 posting cos words spoken can Neva be taken back
Both of u are stupid, you know, just pray you never find yourself in a hopeless situation and no longer find the will to live
DeleteBoth of u are stupid, you know, just pray you never find yourself in a hopeless situation and no longer find the will to live
DeleteI feel your pain poster because we kind of have something in common. I am almost 40years old too with no child, no husband but I have a job that I can't really predict the payday. Yes, all my younger ones, friends, cousins, neighbors are married too. The only difference is I am not suicidal and I won't think of being one because I am so certain that the thoughts He has towards me are thought of peace to bring me to an expected end. Please do not be depressed, it is the devil's gimmick of trying to steal your joy. Remember the devil came to steal, kill and destroy. It I s a passing phase and it shall come to pass someday. I
ReplyDeleteMy sister you better find a solution to your problem. You are waiting? And almost 40. Uhnnnnn
DeleteYou are right, likewise am 36 married when I was 28 and my husband took my virginity. I lost my marriage my job, the man I stayed with when he had nothing frustrate me out of the marriage when he became rich because I have no child, my dear I lost all left with my life but am still hopeful that I will rise again, please don't take your life, I know how u feel because am in your shoes please it is a phase that will pass. But I wonder why the good ones always go through this. It is well
DeleteMena which problem does.she have!?Nigerian Women..
Deleteok i'll profer a solution a la Mena style...Marry the volcanizer on your street
2.Move around with a placard that reads "HELP I WANNA GET MARRIED".
Ladies time doesnt wait for females..but can you give yourself a chance at happiness if the man n child dont show up?
if statistics are taken 99% of women would likely mock any female over 40 for being UNMARRIED.
We've got a TERRIBLE mindset this side of the world!
Ladies stop turning these women to emotional wrecks and mental cases by what we say and our attitudes towards them.
BEING SINGLE And over 40 is NOT a DEATH SENTENCE.
@mena......may God 4giv u!!!!
Delete@poster, let me assure of 2 tins which are (1)u aint d 1st
(2)Niether wil u b d last
My dear, 4get al dis stunts we pull on blogs o! Everyone has one or 2 tins bothering dem bor al we need do is kip praying cos even d bible says"pray witout ceasing"
U say u don't have anytin right? Ao abt us? ur fellow sdker's? So u only pretend 2 love us shey?
I wil kip praying 4 u n pls hold on cos ur happy days shal b longer ijn(amen)
My dear, that's the hypocrisy of it all. A lady rushes to marry a guy she knows has issues for fear of remaining single. When problems start, people will ask why she rushed in? If she decides to take her time and choose carefully, people will say she has a problem or some other derogatory comments about her biological clock. It's societal pressure which pushes some women to settle for men they have no business being with. While it maybe ideal to get married before 40, being single at 40 is not the end of the world. Some women get married in their 20s and get divorced in their 30s with or without kids. Some get married early but die from marital stress before they reach their 40s. My darling, that you are alive is reason enough to be grateful. So what if you get all you want and you find out the stress of it all is too much for you to bear? Please take it a day at a time, trust God and be grateful for life.
Deleteso not being married is a problem. Marriage is not a criteria for success. pls. Mrs O
DeleteObumunwa nothing more to add.
DeleteMena, how can you say such considering the situation of the poster? Are you trying to make her feel worse? Na wah ooooo.
DeleteAnon, It will come when it will come. Yours and the poster's will come like kings. I like the fact that you are not being too stressed about it. Continue hoping in God.
Life is not fair. I don tire to encourage sef, I'm sure she's heard it all. If she's already googling about suicide methods, she's lost all hope.
ReplyDeleteSorry poster, but keep trying. Maybe God was going to shower you with these things you so desperately desire next week, next month or next year, but you chose to kill yourself before they arrive.
Keep hoping, keep praying. You don't have the worst problems, I assure you.
Take heart sister, I know it's a very difficult time for you but please don't lose hope.
ReplyDeleteGod will never leave you nor forsake you, always remember that.
You didn't state what part of Nigeria you are.... Maybe someone on this blog can help you with a job.
Your happiness is on the way. Don't lose hope please.
Eeyah, so touching; i feel like reaching out to you and giving you a tight hug. Don't worry poster, just keep praying and hoping and God will surely open ways for you.
ReplyDeleteI smiled when i got to the part where you said you said you no longer have the strength to carry on. Believe me, it is when we're at our witts end that God arises to our help.
I refer you to that 1st banner; so deep and
true.
Click my name for all your celebration cakes and cupcakes, cheers
You are right! You will read comments like "have faith, hang in there". Etc. But I will specially say a prayer for you this morning I/we will be waiting for your own testimony. I am single but putting aside my request. God loves you. *i dare God on your behalf*
ReplyDelete@ Juliette God bless you, my case is very special because after reading all the comments I realized How blessed I am. Single mother @ 37 with a beautiful child and lots of money by his grace, sometimes feels down bcus no husband but from today I promise myself that I will never complain again
DeleteWow. ..what can I say? To other young girls in the house please don't waste your time waiting for a prince charming as soon as you are 29 make sure you hook any guy with pregnancy Atleast you will have a baby. Titimadame.
ReplyDeleteBollocks! Have you read the Alibaba post?
Deletesee advice...is that what u did? na war o...keep this advice for ur daughter mbok.
DeleteTitimadame r u for real? Hmmm eleyigidi gan ooo. Ds ur advice carry weight... *lips sealed*
DeleteTitimadame r u for real? Hmmm eleyigidi gan ooo. Ds ur advice carry weight... *lips sealed*
DeleteGbam! I love your advice jare.
DeleteFather in heaven,
ReplyDeleteplease help your child.
Alpha and Omega,
Please show her your awesomeness!
He that neither sleep nor slumbers,
please overwhelm her with miracles!
I pray.
AMEN! It is well with her
DeleteAMEN! It is well with her
DeleteAmen , poster may God hasten to deliver you
DeletePoster....i am short of words and like u said,u are the only one who knows this pain,no one else. But I'd like you to look back and thank God,u are not sick and un the hospital,some people are praying for just one day more to breath,I knew if a woman who has been sick for the most part of her like,uses a prosthetics on both of her legs from waist down and she still thankful to God,this is a woman who could jog from Bodija to UI before she got sick.... Moral of my story- There's Always Something To Live For....Ask for God's grace to carry on and all will be well I promise
ReplyDeleteThe JOY coming ur way can't be compared to the pain you feeling now.DONT ATTEMPT SUICIDE.my aunt got married when she was just about 40 though she doesn't have a child yet but surely that's on the way.if u can't keep praying,keep praising him for what he has done.God is too faithful to fail, he has heard you.
ReplyDeletePlease do not commit suicide!...You may be closer to your miracle.I believe God is working behind the scene. He will reward your goodness in due time. Killing yourself does not solve any problem, you will end up in hell.
ReplyDeleteOh dear God hasn't forgotten you...he sees your heart,you just let him do his works and you'll finally find happiness and all you desire.
ReplyDeleteOmg!!! Am so touched, my dear sister it can't get any worse, there is hope pls remove suicidal that's from ur mind, alwys rem that delay is not denial nd God's time is d best.He sees nd knows all.Ve faith my darl.Love uu
ReplyDeleteSincerely, having faith at times like dis is difficult, but on the other hand dats all we've got. FAITH. Pls remove d tot of suicide cus it solves nothing. I am certain that has u have shared your issues the Lord shall complete that which he started in ur life. U shall rejoice all the days of ur life. Amen
ReplyDelete@ the anon on Ali babas post,I hope my comment made you feel a bit better?@ Delish,I also saw your respone I couldn't comment on that post but Tnx dear..@ the poster,pls,pls and pls I know how you feel,I've also had very dark days in my life and just when I lost all hope God came through for me.I'm a married woman and I tell you women especially in this part of the world always paint the rosiest of pictures about marriage to their single friends meanwhile they go to bed and cry their eyes out when no one is watching..it takes a lot more than fast cars and fancy clothes to make a marriage work...pls don't think you are missing out on so much nne..at least you have a job,while there are so many married women who will kill to ve a job no matter how small...we can't have it all...please hang in there...there is always light at the end of every tunnel..God bless and heal your soul.
ReplyDeletePls don't give up,God is still in d biz of doing good n making miracles,I knw of a lady like u,but she is much younger,me nko?am married n seriously looking for a job,sometimes I feel God has forsaken me,but my saving grace is whenever I wake up I tell myself,its yet another day to trust God.
DeletePrayers often cannot get us to where we want to go,but I tell you,praises works magic.
Hang in there,I will pray for u in my praise time,cos am also seeking the face of God for a job.
I know of a lady, she is a family friend, she is 41 now and unmarried with no children, but if you see her, she is one of the happiest person I have ever seen, please poster, always remember that there is the mark of God in all that happen to us he loves us and will never desert us, the reason why he doesn't. Answer immediately most times, is because this world is ruled by devil and not him, so please have faith in the promised everlasting life after death, if you commit suicide, you lose the gains this life and the promised everlasting life.
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Who am I to judge God....the lord is your strenght ma besides all glory be to God that make me overcome that sickness
ReplyDeleteDear Lord, please do not let your daughter down. You are the God of the 11th hour.
ReplyDeletePlease, Please, Please give her something to hold on to. A sign! Anything!
Hope, Help, Companion.
@OP.
ReplyDeleteYou never wan die. You are just seeking attention. Person wey wan kill herself no dey write bloggers.They just do it.
So my friend, take a shower and go begin find job. Na so u want die but u follow use salt and hot water bath last week. Death never hungry you. Take your time o!
U are heartless!!!
DeleteNot just heartless and insensitive, ignorant as well. Do you know what suicidal tendencies are? You think all people who commit suicide just wake up, lock their doors and kill themselves? Some people battle with suicidal thoughts for months or years. Some speak out and are dissuaded by counselling or encouragement, others still go ahead to kill themselves. A lot of frustrated people normally cry out for help and the response they get goes a long way to determine what they do next. If you have nothing encouraging to contribute to such a sensitive post, kindly keep it moving.
DeleteGbam @Op. Person wey won commit suicide dey announce am? Abegi! I'm nt being insensitive bt truly mailing Stella wen u ve made up ur mind in killing urself is like begging us to hold u jor. All d same I pray God to come to ur rescue asap. It's well wt u darl. E hugs.
DeleteLmao!
DeleteLol. Anon haba nahhh!!! Take am easy on her abeg.
DeleteSometimes, we just need that one person to tell us it will all be okay.
DeletePls Poster, Suicide is a sin. Don't suffer on earth and still go to hell.
It will end in praise and your testimony is sure in Jesus name.
My dear please just hang on a little more. Remember that God starts his own work when man is tired... Committing suicide is d worst because you will end up in HELL. That is eternal damnation.... God is about to start his work in you since it looks like you have exhausted all your strength. Just hang on for a while.
ReplyDeletehmmmmm i dnt even knw wat to say. bt maam be strong. I am sure God has a plan for u.
ReplyDeleteDear poster,it's not so bad to think about suicide,am sure it's d devil that will b putting such words into ur mind. There is a lot to live for. Keeping praying and God will answer you,have faith and all will be well ok
ReplyDeleteOMG! This is so touching someone pls help this lady out plzzz!!!
ReplyDeleteOMG! This is so touching someone pls help this lady out plzzz!!!
ReplyDeleteMy darl girl,dont worry no more.your story can be likened to that of Job.pls if u are not very familiar with the story,take time out and read it.God let Job go thru what he did bcos he was for a testimony,just like u.believe me he is watching ur every move and thot. (be careful what u think and say) and he boasting to the devil that this one can stand your test.pls my dear girl,rejoice because ur breakthrough is nigh! And when it comes,pls rem.to come back and let us know bcos it will be a big testimony for us..God loves u and is proud of you..very proud.dont disappoint him with your thoughts and frustrations..your time of abundant blessings is here..you will see.
ReplyDeletePoster trust in God...suicide is not d way out
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My dear hang on, the morning comes after the darkest part of the night. Hang on! The bible says in isaiah 49:23 that those who wait on the Lord will not be ashamed. Remember suicide is not the answer oooo, instead it leads to hell which is worse than depression. When there is life there is hope. God is a good God, the devil always tries to make Him look bad. Your change is near just hang on!
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DeletePoster, I'm a extremely disappointed in you for this post.im am annoyed, really! All I can decipher is that this post is an affront to God.You think your life is bad ehn, you think you re living the worst life on earth? If you think so, I don't mean to be rude Aunty but you may be turning 40 but you're still a baby!
ReplyDeleteFirst you're alive which is the greatest gift God can give His children,and I'm assuming you're in perfect health which is a privileged unparalleled to none in this world, so please what exactly is the issue? You're not married and so, didn't you read the testimony of a BV that married at 40 and has two kids or so to the glory of God, you don't have kids and then, people have kids in their late 40s early 50s and you can adopt,so it's not over for you yet and as for job you can still get.
Aunty I'm sorry if I'm being rude but this is really annoying! Go to Luth terminal ward and see for yourself what's up.Your life did not turn out the way it's supposed to be or the way you panned out, sorry to break it to you Aunty that's the story of all our lives, it never turns out how we plan it, it's always either better or worse, what's important is that we hold onto God and make the best of our situation.My aunt just died about 5hrs ago after battling liver cancer for 6 months and guess what, she has children but died like was childless, the last time she saw or spoke to any child of hers was about 15 yrs ago and you think your life is sad. Aunty pick up yourself,go to God in prayers and enjoy your life, being depressed doesn't change anything and killing yourself would make you a fool!
Try and start a business or look for a job or just get busy doing something. Trust me with God, all good things would come and this is a lesson for everyone, good things don't always happen to good people and bad thing don't always come to bad people.If you're being good, be good because it makes you happy and not for the reward! God will be with you, it gets worse before it gets better, hold on and sit tight.God bless you! And by the way, Im bereaved, may the soul of my aunt Lilian rest in perfect peace.
lady buchi a tight hug from me to you. some bvs here dont have what she is complaining about but they still thank God. most nigerians are living under a 100dollars a day in a filthy environment but you see them smile with hope not lost. All this she mentioned is not a guarantee to happiness. people are in worst situation than you abeg chop sense. infants and children with no parents or relatives to shower them love but when you visit them you see them laughing and thanking you for the token given to them. Am really disappointed with the poster. you need a spiritual over haul.
Delete@LadyBuchi, ehugs/ ekisses to u for this comments. Tnks for your words of encouragement.
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Ohhhh Buchi, thank you sooooooo much. I love the fact that you were harsh in your writing. The poster about will get the message.
DeleteSorry about your Aunt's death. May her soul rest in peace.
committing suicide will make u ultimate loser,take a walk to a general hospital, there is a lot to be thankful for sis!so far there is life&good health,there is hope.
ReplyDeletehmmmm....please just hold on. That's all I'll say
ReplyDeleteThat's all ur zero iq can vomit? Ode
DeleteHe is jealous for me.loves like a hurricane.I am a tree bending beneath the weight of his wind and mercy.Oh how he loves us!!. God never promised us marriage!!.You were made for a greater purpose than marriage.Use this season to find that purpose,achieve it and he will reward your hearts desire.Seek fufillment in God because no one can fufill you(not even your spouse).Tell God how you honestly feel and thank him for what hes done and is about to do.ill be praying for u.
ReplyDeletePls my dear Sister! Suicide is not an option,hang in there! Your miracle is on the way...
ReplyDeleteAm a single mother who lost her husband months ago and am expecting twins in the next two months and I don't have anybdy helping me,my inlaws left me cus they didn't even want me marrying their brother because of tribal differnces....I live on the mercies of pple..... Pls continue praying and God's light will shine on you.....Shalom
*Weeping* ds is indeed too much.....but pls sis hang in there....u think urs is d worst on earth???? there are some people in ur situation that even have no home, family members n even a phone to even Google suicide n they are getting on. God is lurking around d corner, HE will see u through this, d best is yet to come, do not take ur life my fellow sis, God will put a big smile on ur face soon...Remember...WHEN YOU ARE DOWN TO NOTHING, GOD IS UP TO SOMETHING. My sis, u will testify on ds same blog very soon, u will come with all smiles to lift UP HIS NAME....ehugs darling.
ReplyDeleteTo the poster, you haven't offended God. Everyone on this earth plane has a role to play here on earth. You see before we all were born, we signed an agreement with God on what we are suppose to do when we arrive here on earth. God is merciful and kind, but not sentimental. He won't change things to soothe us here on earth. Why? you ask, it is because of that agreement (destiny). You might think you are left out because all your sisters and friends are married, but believe me he has something special for you. Most times God's true children have to endure, remember Job in the bible. Please take heart, continue to pray and don't think about suicide. That is one big sin, you will than have to face God and tell him why you quit your life before you were suppose to retire. Again God does not give you what you can't handle. I am telling you this from experience. God bless and protect you always.
ReplyDeleteI'm fed up with these same ol' stories all the damn time! You think been a goody two shoes will get you a husband? Ok continue!
ReplyDeleteTruly, Life is a journey and most times it’s hard, frustrating and lonely. But my dear, don't let the events around U to control ur emotions or ur way of thinking. Let Go and Let God. He has countless options and numberless ways of answering our prayers and supplying our needs. His mercies are new every morning. No situation is hopeless for Him. No problem is too hard for Him. Nothing is impossible with Him. Just keep believing in Him. Don't give room for depreSsion, instead sing praises to him whenever U'r down. It will surely end in praise for U. Be strong. #BadTimesDontComeToStay. #GodIsInControl #TrustInHisTiming
ReplyDeleteThis email just demoralized me this morning. I feel so much for you poster, i don't even know what to say! I'm not weaing your shoes, but believe me i know exactly how you feel just by reading your email.
ReplyDeleteI don't want to tell you to have faith, wait on God, etc 'cos like you said it's easy for one who isn't wearing your shoes to say those things. I wanted to suggest deliverance, but you said you've done it 3 times already. I wanted to ask you to pray and fast fervently, but you said you have don't that. I want to suggest that you should make friends that will keep you happy, but that's likely to be unhelpful 'cos they might have those things you don't have.
So this instead of all that, poster i beg you in the name of God to hold on a little longer. I truly am begging you my darling. Please don't give up just yet. Please! Remember Job? He held on no matter what. Can you do the same? Can you hold on a little longer? No matter the things that are going on in your life, can you just hold on a little more? Suicide is NOT the answer my love. Believe me you don't want to spent eternity in hell. I beg you to hold on 'cos i believe in my heart that the light is almost here. It's almost time for God to bless you. You have waited this long, why give-up now?
I will pray for God to lift your depression and give you peace. ONE LOVE.
The Lord is your strength. Trials and temptation will come but you will overcome them IJN.
ReplyDeleteI don't even know what to say, there are people that are in more difficult suitations than yours,but there is no genuine reason to take your life away just keep hanging on.
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Dear poster, I have walked EXACTLY in your kind of shoes. The best solution isn't to hope, though that is part of it; but the best solution is to be thankful for what little you have achieved. Trust me honestly, thanksgiving works. Searching google on how to commit suicide was so me a couple of years ago. I found a way but didn't have the courage to do so. When that happened I started abusing GOD and blaspheming at every given moment of my life so I could make HIM angry enough to end my life. Whossai. I'm still here. After endless prayers, hoping, worrying, abusing and ranting, I decided on being thankful. That's when things began to happen in my life. So my dear, just start being thankful today no matter how little you have. Meditate on SDK's pix above (Philippians 1:6) and you'll feel better. Just don't stop being thankful. Remember that even while being thankful the devil reminds you that you're a failure. A great lie from the pit of hell to shatter you more. Ignore the evil intuitions and continue being thankful. You'll do just fine. Stay blessed dear poster, and GOD be with you.
ReplyDeleteMemphis,with this comment you can do no wrong in my eyes!
DeleteMemphis, this is the best comment so far.
DeleteMemphis, Memphis!!!!!!!!! Lips sealed.
DeleteAwww....ma dear,I kw that feeling but you've gat to live on.Good things come to those who wait.
ReplyDeleteYou might just be a step away from your joy,So live life and try to explore.
Poster, I'm a extremely disappointed in you for this post.im am annoyed, really! All I can decipher is that this post is an affront to God.You think your life is bad ehn, you think you re living the worst life on earth? If you think so, I don't mean to be rude Aunty but you may be turning 40 but you're still a baby!
ReplyDeleteFirst you're alive which is the greatest gift God can give His children,and I'm assuming you're in perfect health which is a privileged unparalleled to none in this world, so please what exactly is the issue? You're not married and so, didn't you read the testimony of a BV that married at 40 and has two kids or so to the glory of God, you don't have kids and then, people have kids in their late 40s early 50s and you can adopt,so it's not over for you yet and as for job you can still get.
Aunty I'm sorry if I'm being rude but this is really annoying! Go to Luth terminal ward and see for yourself what's up.Your life did not turn out the way it's supposed to be or the way you panned out, sorry to break it to you Aunty that's the story of all our lives, it never turns out how we plan it, it's always either better or worse, what's important is that we hold onto God and make the best of our situation.My aunt just died about 5hrs ago after battling liver cancer for 6 months and guess what, she has children but died like was childless, the last time she saw or spoke to any child of hers was about 15 yrs ago and you think your life is sad. Aunty pick up yourself,go to God in prayers and enjoy your life, being depressed doesn't change anything and killing yourself would make you a fool!
Try and start a business or look for a job or just get busy doing something. Trust me with God, all good things would come and this is a lesson for everyone, good things don't always happen to good people and bad thing don't always come to bad people.If you're being good, be good because it makes you happy and not for the reward! God will be with you, it gets worse before it gets better, hold on and sit tight.God bless you! And by the way, Im bereaved, may the soul of my aunt Lilian rest in perfect peace.
For the fact that theree are people worse than her doesn't mean she shouldn't worry about her own situation.
DeleteThe Lord is your strength. Trials and temptation will come but you will overcome them IJN.
ReplyDeletePoster, I'm a extremely disappointed in you for this post.im am annoyed, really! All I can decipher is that this post is an affront to God.You think your life is bad ehn, you think you re living the worst life on earth? If you think so, I don't mean to be rude Aunty but you may be turning 40 but you're still a baby!
ReplyDeleteFirst you're alive which is the greatest gift God can give His children,and I'm assuming you're in perfect health which is a privileged unparalleled to none in this world, so please what exactly is the issue? You're not married and so, didn't you read the testimony of a BV that married at 40 and has two kids or so to the glory of God, you don't have kids and then, people have kids in their late 40s early 50s and you can adopt,so it's not over for you yet and as for job you can still get.
Aunty I'm sorry if I'm being rude but this is really annoying! Go to Luth terminal ward and see for yourself what's up.Your life did not turn out the way it's supposed to be or the way you panned out, sorry to break it to you Aunty that's the story of all our lives, it never turns out how we plan it, it's always either better or worse, what's important is that we hold onto God and make the best of our situation.My aunt just died about 5hrs ago after battling liver cancer for 6 months and guess what, she has children but died like was childless, the last time she saw or spoke to any child of hers was about 15 yrs ago and you think your life is sad. Aunty pick up yourself,go to God in prayers and enjoy your life, being depressed doesn't change anything and killing yourself would make you a fool!
Try and start a business or look for a job or just get busy doing something. Trust me with God, all good things would come and this is a lesson for everyone, good things don't always happen to good people and bad thing don't always come to bad people.If you're being good, be good because it makes you happy and not for the reward! God will be with you, it gets worse before it gets better, hold on and sit tight.God bless you! And by the way, Im bereaved, may the soul of my aunt Lilian rest in perfect peace.
Always be thankful for the little u have. Be thankful for life, food, cloths etc. More doors will open. I think ur negative in ur thinking.
ReplyDeleteI've had terrible relationship. I will soon be 25 but my hopes r high n I am positive. I fantacise being in my range over, having my babies and my loving husband. I dream about my business being so big that no one will imagine. My business will have branches in all major cities.
But I have only 2k in my account but I am 2 positive.
I just have a believe that there is a light at the end of my tunnel. Be positive and keep ur faith alive. Instead of thinking about ur problems be thankful for what u have. Learn to fantacize. Think about ur husband and kids how beautiful they will be. There is power in ur thoughts. We r the architect of our life. God has already given us the tool to curve it which is our thought and words.
I don't believe in deliverance cus Jesus has delivered us from the curse of the law. Cus curse is he that hang on a tree.
Read the stories of people that went from nothing to something great. That's what ur meant to do with ur google account.
Visit: www.thesecret.tv.
Atleast google this.
Wow! Just yesterday I was low in spirit it was so bad I was eating everything and anything in sight .but God woke me up with this to remind of his faithfulness.poster I may not b 40in few months time but I certainly feel ur pain,In as much as right now its hard for u to see God's love and hand in your life ,d truth is He Loves you ,you are a work in progress ,he needs to break u down to bring out the best in u each person process defers from d next.suicide is not d answer believe me have bin there,be encouraged.so sorry but God loves u still.
ReplyDeleteI read this with tears in my eyes. I feel ur pain dear, and like you said, you wear the shoes and you know where it itches more. I'll say please don't give up on God cos He has not given up on you. Suicide will not only end it all but it is the begining of an eternal life in Hell. Stay strong dearest, ur miracle is just a step ahead.
ReplyDeleteplease poster don't think of suicide. God hasn't forgotten you. Please just do anything that will strike you from that mood and be happy. This year will not pass you IJN. #bless
ReplyDeleteplease poster don't think of suicide. God hasn't forgotten you. Please just do anything that will strike you from that mood and be happy. This year will not pass you IJN. #bless
ReplyDeleteI just can't give up now, I've come too far from where I started from, nobody told me d road won't be easy and I don't believe, he's brought me dis far to leave me. ( d song I sing anytime I feel down).
ReplyDeletetrust in d Lord poster, marriage will come in God's appointed time. focus on other things, how to get a new job or start up something and stop comparing yourself with others.
Aawwww,I sing ds song too (Mary Mary) Somtimes with tears,sometimes with hopes,but all times,it gives a surety and ts a huge soul-lifter. @Poster,as Memphis said,start being 10nkful pls,I know ts hard,trust me,it is cos it seems nothing is workn 4 u,but pls,let ur thanksgvn be more than ur Prayer Requests,ds shames d devil,but trust me God sees u nd He's gonna mk ur waiting worth it @ d end. Pls,get ODM devotionals and I'll Join u in Intercessory prayer and Just know dt sorrow may last 4 nyts,but Joy comes in d morning. Der's light after ds tunnel,just hold on and Hold tight,all will be well. *e-hugs*
DeleteMary Mary pipi!
DeleteSinging along....
DeleteNobody told me, d road won't be easy, and I don't believe, you've brought me this far to leave me.
Madam Poster those who put their trust in d Lord shall be like mt.Zion....
There is no failure in Jesus at all, just trust and be thankful. STOP d comparison!!!!
God please surprise her nd answer her prayers before she does something weird. I hope to hear ur testimony poster
ReplyDeleteWhen I was thinking dat am d only one with problem den I read this,instead of saying thank you lord,I ave to ask why God why? Well he's unquestionable God. Ur own problem is little atlist u see who train u for school. After I fuck my pussy out to write waec in 2003 at d end no money to collect result. U grow up to meet ur mum in sick bed mental problem, among 7 children no one is educated, dad married more dan 8wifes only my mum side was backward, my dad abandon my mum dew to her health conditions. .. wen d local penis no gree pay me again and d suffering was tumuch I decided to travel buy sponsor who I paid 15 millions too, babe since 2005 till now na ashawo I still dey, d ashawo sef no progress but I still thank God... Each time I am thinking of better problem go surface dat will make me stick to d job..... babe relax ur own good ur toto no dey blow winsel join.... my has 28 children all married except me .... *tears* babe were ur own end na there some people own start. If u see my beauty u go bow each time I see people sending pics to sdk na I hide I dey hide my face not bcos o anything because of my job. Who know me fit come open my yacht. In all am d happiest.
ReplyDeleteBabe,you're strong ohhh.you gat me laffing.live on jare.
Deletesis im in no place to judge u. But maybe if u just stop that work and do something better the problems will stop...we all have our problems and ive decided to stop asking God but just praising him...maybe u do the same
DeleteWhy not give your life to Christ, and look for a decent man to plan your life with. Is never too late. I was once a coded runz girl due to poverty but still I always go churches night vigils, prayer mountains with dry fasting that God I don't want to sell my body for basic needs. God answered my prayers, I met a man that accomodated me and helped me to get a factory work . Few years later he traveled and left all he's funiture for me but I was sad that my hope is gone.. but lord. Made him to remember me after like 4times of VISA processing I got my VISA to UK. Now I'm living a decent life though I'm not rich but I'm not hungry and my kids are born here livin a quality life.
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DeleteLeave that job u r doing. Give ur life to Christ and see Wat God would do
DeleteThe Yoruba people in one of their characteristics when it comes to God call Him 'Aseyiowu' meaning one that does what pleases Him. And in actual fact He does. He is Oba Aseyiowu. Take it easy sweetheart as NOTHING lasts forever, be it pain be it enjoyment. Life is good and sucks most of the time. Just relax and be calm. One of the surest thing is death so never force it. I've tried to take mine too and I simply did not die. Praise God always. Turn to praise. I mean be 'praisefull' and praise filled. Your case is not the worst as I am used to telling my friends and believe me I've actually seen men with 'WORST' situations. Imagine being on death row.........
ReplyDeleteYou might think it is all over but know that Jehovah see's your pain and He wants to help you. Like you said its easy for me to say have faith cos m not in your shoes but know that everything would be alright.Take Job in the bible,he went through a lot but he never cursed God.I don't know you but do know I would be praying for you and soon you would see the hand of God in your life.May Jehovah give you peace like a calm river and may He expand your territory to the ends of the earth.You would be celebrated just watch and see,your joy is on its way.
ReplyDeleteLove from British Columbia.
Dear poster, I concur with the opinion that the promiscuous ones get married faster. I don't know why that happens, but it's the fact. However, the happiness in those marriages are the "facebook" kind. They won't tell you.....
ReplyDeleteRelax dear....... how I wish SDKers can organise a birthday party for you maybe at the beach.....you could meet lots of cool guys too. Don't commit suicide.... that's like suffer on top suffer, cos it's hell direct. It is well with you.......
Beloved poster, I can't say I understand how u feel becos am not in ur shoes. But I can safely say dat if GOD is GOD u will have every cause to smile and u will be a living testimony to others. Pls don't take ur life, its not over till its over. There is always light at de end of de tunnel. Keep going, u are getting there. e-hug.
ReplyDeleteIt is well BV. Don't be too hard on yourself for God's time is the best. I understand u perfectly well, but keep waiting on God. Our God will make u smile at the appointed time
ReplyDeleteMy dear sister! Suicide is not an option plssss!!!! God ways are not our ways. He has brought you this far because he has a special miracle for you! He will cause His face to shine on you! Am a single young pregnant widow with twins(due in october) who lost her husband months ago and my inlaws threw us out of the house,am currently staying with a friend and doing menial jobs... I have gone through a lot and live on the mercies of pple I meet.. So I have put my faith in God because He promise never to forsake or leave me stranded! Have faith my sister!!!! Its well with you in Jesus name!
ReplyDeleteDon't give up yet, I know many people who are in worse situations than u are right now, they didn't give up and when God remembered them it was significant. Even in the bible all those women that were barren all gave birth to significant children. Its well
ReplyDeleteDear poster I'm sorry for your predicament! Dunno if that's soothing enough! But my dear mayb you should read the entire book of Job! And then mayb you should change your attitude, praise God instead of the prayers and watch! Read psalms more often it will guide you on that! God isn't yet through with writing your story! Yes its easier to say but I'll still say be patient a little God will come through for you! God bless you!
ReplyDeleteI don't know how u feel, I won't claim 2. But I just want 2 say dat marriage does nt define u. Everyone does nt hv d same destiny. Your plans 4 u are not always God's plans 4 u. U hv a greater purpose other dan bearing children n been a wife, even if dat is wat u desire, it might b part of his ultimate plan bt it is not his ultimate plan. Wen African women make marriage a do or die affair, doing everything just 2 get in2 it, it's terrible. I want u 2 know dat God's love is lyk d sun, constant and unchanging, and wen d cloud seems 2 b covering d sun, u just hv 2 walk on d clouds. Go out n watch d sun rise, Dats proof of his love, it's always dere, n if dere are clouds, know dat above dose clouds, n in d dark of night, d sun is still shining, u cnt simply c it, bt it is n soon d clouds will break, soon morning will come .
ReplyDeleteMake urself happy, only u know how. Read ur bible, begin practicing ur hubby.
Sis i can imagine ur situation and ur pains too, i just want u to know dat some of ur mates didnt live up to 40, some died @ infancy,teens, twenties etc u are alive thou are not fufilled yet but u need to be hopeful. God ways are not ours, remember d story of Kumiyi second's wife. I dont know what else to say but be happy with urself, u may change ur location or go visit one of ur sis.
ReplyDeletePoster please don't blame God.I'm in my 20s but I've seen so many fins in my life dat right nw,I'm very gud at encouraging my family and friends...my dear I no it won't be easy nw,bt just believe in God.He'll do it,he never forsakes His own,dat I no 4 sure.the fin I always tell pple is dat watever situation u're passing tru 2day will be a story for encouragement 2 others nd laughter for u tomorrow. I know u may say u're already old,nd ur tomorrow is nt long,bt take dis 4rm me...sorrow may last in d night but joy comes in the morning.for the few years I've spent in this life,I've gone tru so much esp wif my family nd I've decided never 2 loose hope in life bcos its nw a story 2 me,nd God's blessings keep coming.Poster still believe in God cause ur victory is near. (Nelly A)
ReplyDeleteSweetheart I feel your pain. I am in the same boat as you. I will not tell you what you think the readers will say bcos you have done it all(prayer etc). I have also thought about ending my life as well. But I will advice you to eliminate all your friends that you genuinely know you can't trust, deactivate your Facebook account (if you have one), take a long walk and appreciate your environment. I suggest you do it far from home. And think about worse situations. That will give you hope that better days is yet to come
ReplyDeleteMy bf and i broke up when i was 31 years old, and a couple of weeks after we had discussed marriage and having kids. My whole world came crushing, but i never lost faith in God. A month after i missed my period, told my ex, and he advised that we kept the baby. My son is the best gift God ever gave to me...My bf and i back together, and we planning on getting married soon. My sister...God will do it for u. Next year by this time..God will bless u with a husband, a child, and everything u desire.
ReplyDeleteOuch.....Touching story.....Madam....No matter wat you facing at this point in life....Suicide should never be an option....just a lil mo patience.... Errr'thinq gon' be fine....
ReplyDeleteWithout faith you cannot please God.have faith,God hears and answers.do not despair find joy in The Lord,he has not forgotten you.
ReplyDeleteEven stella is speechless!
ReplyDeleteI feel for u poster, I pity u sef, this is soo sad! This is exactly what I'm experiencing, I'm so broke, no one offers to help, except I sleep with dem,
My small work money can't help, my parents are jobless.
I feel so abandoned and helpless.
Truly good pple never survive in ds dead cruel world, its always bad and ashawo pple who thrive.
That's life.
Speechless is just the right word I cld find right now!!! Depression isn't something to be taken lightly and believe me, if you haven't been depressed to the point of suicide or you are an experienced psychologist,you can't know what the poster is going through. Believe me, I have been to that stage before and only ONE thing kept me going..FAITH. I then begin to look at those I'm higher than in societal ranking and I still bless God for what I was then. The only advice I will give you to to search for that ONE thing that could give you closure and make u live normal again. No preaching or quoting can take the depression away, only YOU can. Believe in yourself and hold on to it. I have seen pple with husband but are unhappy and end up been sad throughout their marriage yrs, I have seen pple lose grown-up kids and end up been childless and they have reach no child bearing age!! So poster, life has its up and down and believe me, everyone has its own share they r trying to suppress. One thing you need to avoid now is loneliness,make friends and hang out. Just do anything to keep the hope alive. I love you
ReplyDelete#no1 egba boy #repping abk city
God is always working. Go out and volunteer to help others bringing your wealth of experience to add value to their lives. Our destinies are different same as all our struggles and challenges. Please do not consider suicide as an option because it is not. God Bless.
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ReplyDeletesister dont give up on God......i believe he has a better plans 4 u,u cant tell wat 2morow holds
ReplyDeletePoster take it easy o..
ReplyDeleteSucide z never the best ansa .!
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sister dont give up on God......i believe he has a better plans 4 u,u cant tell wat 2morow holds
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Dear poster. It is well. I was actually almost suicidal few weeks ago. Bad things just kept coming my way. And I also wondered if there was God. My life just kept crumbling b4 me. There was no one to run to, no one to go to. Etc. But at the point when ur weakest is when God takes over. I can tell you that. Am saying it not bcoz things are good for me now. But because I have got my hope back. I say it is well with you because I have an aunt who is exactly in your same situation. But hers is even worse because she is close to 50, jobless, no hubby or kid. Life has been so unfair. She even has high blood pressure n some other sicknesses. So my dear, u are better than many out there. Find strength in reading books. Thats what helped me. Tryjoel olsteen books.
ReplyDeleteMy dear I wudnt tell U to have faith as u say but please my dear suicide isnt the solution to the problem. From your ranting you are a christian and U didnt give urself life,God gave you life and he will take that life when He wills He didnt ask you to take it urself or help Him take it. Just give yourself away to God. STOP PRAYING FOR ALL THE THINGS YOU NEED!!! Yes I said that! Stop!!! Since you have prayed for years STOP!!! God already knows ur wants and needs because you have asked for years . Just start thanking Him dont even ask for water just thank Him as much as you can everyday just say Thank you!!! You would get through this with Him!!!
ReplyDeleteMy sister, you have every reason to thank God. 4 years ago, i was like you, worse actually cos i didn't have a phone, not to talk of google. No wife, monex, kids, job. Tho am not where i want to be yet, but i met a lady who believed in me and we have 2 wonderful girls. I still don't have a job yet but God is faithful. Suicide is for cowards. Be strong.
ReplyDeleteTruth is at this point she is past all the God will do it that will swarm this post. She needs practical advice and solution to her problems. My advice will be go out more often to social gatherings, don't hold back and expect men to speak with you. Mix with people. Secondly, if you can afford to adopt a child or get someone to live with you for the time being, this will help with the loneliness. Ofcourse, don't give up. Cheers
ReplyDeleteOh No, I haven't walked in your shoes but I can feel your pain poster, I can feel is so well like it's mine.
ReplyDeleteYou said you have never been promiscuous, well I have cousin that was born 1975 that I can beat my chest that she's still a Virgin, no husband, I see her smiling and I begin to wonder how can she still be smiling or even attend church religiously and very active too, she has always been the churchy type, I guess serving God with all her heart is what gives her peace and a reassurance that all well be well and that at God's appointed time a husband will come.
Poster try and serve God for what you can do for him but not what you expect, instead of taking your life(which is a worse hell Literally by the way) invest your time in helping those that need help, like Volunteering to work in an Orphanage, been around those kids Might give you joy u never imagine, pls don't take your life oo, abeg Ejoo.
And don't be too choosy if a Divorcee or a Widower comes accept them like that.
ReplyDeleteFROM MY INBOX....
She sent this one in after i mailed her.At this stage,it would take God's intervention to stop her..I AM REALLY SO SPEECHLESS that someone wud google how to commit suicide..I AM SOOO SPEECHLESS....does it et so bad?if you do,do you know where you are headed?
her new mail says
''Stella, I am broken and defeated. I know you have good intentions but I am truly at the brink and have neither the strength nor will to talk to anybody. What is the point, I know you will only tell me to have faith and to hold on and that God will do it. My dear, that is the same thing I have been hearing for countless years. Nothing has changed.... 3 deliverance sessions at MFM yet nothing has changed, countless nights of crying myself to sleep yet nothing had changed, constant fasting and praying sessions, yet nothing had changed. I can't count how many times I have gone to lie down at the alter of reddened camp and just cry and weep to God to please hear my cry and change my story. At least the people that go to babalawo and go diabolical they see results. I have been holding on to God for years now because that is all I know, yet no results.
God bless you Stella for your concern but I have truly reached my breaking point. I really cannot talk to anyone in my present state.''
Poster i nearly shed tears while Reading ur story. I could actually feel the pain like i am in your skin.
DeleteAunty, all i can say is DON'T GIVE UP!!!. Be positive in thinking, continue with ur expectations of good things from our God. I bet you that God is packaging something heavenly for you. Husband, kids, job. Yes, i said it. God is about opening your case file and i tell you that once he starts working on your case, you will be too exhausted with activities to have time for testimony.
Biko, take away suicidal thoughts from your mind and let positive ideas and thoughts flood your mind.
Are you in Abuja? There is a friend of mine that i would have connected you with. She is blessed in talking to people. She will be able to make you see life from another perspective and by the time she is through with you, you will slap yourself twice for thinking about suicide in the first place.
Dear poster, I almost cried while reading your comment. Pls dear don't give up. Even those u think that it's all well with them are going tru there own personal struggles. Everyone has there own problems and struggles in life which they will not come and tell you. Life is beautiful and sweet for you to just take your life like that. Things may not be working out the way u planned but that does not mean it won't later work out. God told us in His word that He will never leave us not forsake us. He also told us in Psalm 46:10 to be still and know that He is God. My dear, be still, don't give up. Keep hoping on him, it is not how far but how well. Am sure you will laugh at last. God will surprise you when u least expected. I am telling u out of experience. Allow Him to grant your desires at His own perfect time. His timing is always right. Cheer up...
ReplyDeleteAll hope isn't lost. Make yourself happy first then other things will follow. Without happiness, a lot of fulfilled people have committed suicide. All hope isn't lost
ReplyDeleteAT THIS STAGE I HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO POST HER EMAIL HERE.
ReplyDeleteSHE SEEMS HELL BENT ON IT AND I DONT WANT TO CALL HER BLUFF.
MAYBE SOMEBODYS EMAIL WILL BE THE HEALING WORD SHE WANTS TO HEAR.
PLEASE DONT TYPE TOO MANY WORDS.
HER EMAIL IS
ifeanyiadamagu@yahoo.com
Oh God please save ur daughter. .remove that thought of suicide out of her mind and bless her with her desire.
DeleteGod pls send your help to this lady fast,soothe her soul,show her a sign.... Wish I could do something to help
DeleteGod bless you Stella.
IF YOU KNOW ANYONE WHO KNOWS ANYONE WITH THIS NAME PLEASE BE ALERT AND START MAKING CALLS.GOD IS PROBABLY TRYING TO USE US TO STOP THIS SUICIDAL MOVE!!
ReplyDeleteBetter still if anyone has a brother that is of age the should try and do a connection.
DeleteOr any SDKER that is in his 40s and is looking for a life partner should reach her, who knows...
I might not be 40 but I have lost hope countless number of times. The only reason I didn't contemplate suicide was my Mother(the fact that people will mock her and that she didn't deserve to go through the pains of losing her husband and then the trauma of her child commiting suicide)
ReplyDeleteBut in all I went through, I came out strong with one lesson in mind.
GOD ISN'T WICKED. He said in the Bible; ' the thought I have for you are for good'.
You are a miracle waiting to happen.
As young as I am I have a huge debt hanging on my neck as a result of the money I spent in pursuit of good health, I had no job(jus recently got interviewed for one),I don't even know where the money I'll spend for transport, feeding and clothings for the training will come from.(I borrowed money to get a suit for my interview and I am yet to pay back)
I lost my father and bestfriend when I needed him most. Family turned their back on us. You don't know how painful it is to watch your mum cry because her parents turned their back on her, because she can't afford your medical bills or your tuition fee.
You don't know how difficult it is to see all what your father laboured for go down the drain.
You do not know the emotional traumas some people go through daily. And suicide isn't a option.
@ 40, your life might not be perfect(it might be the worse you envisaged for yourself) but I want you to know that there are much worse situation out there.
I'll like you to listen to this song and see if it will soothe you like it did soothe me. Castings Crown- Praise you in this storm.
Will be back with the lyrics!
I was sure by now
DeleteGod You would have reached down
And wiped our tears away
Stepped in and saved the day
But once again, I say "Amen", and it's still raining
As the thunder rolls
I barely hear Your whisper through the rain
"I'm with you"
And as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise the God who gives
And takes away
[Chorus:]
And I'll praise You in this storm
And I will lift my hands
For You are who You are
No matter where I am
And every tear I've cried
You hold in Your hand
You never left my side
And though my heart is torn
I will praise You in this storm
I remember when
I stumbled in the wind
You heard my cry to you
And you raised me up again
My strength is almost gone
How can I carry on
If I can't find You
But as the thunder rolls
I barely hear You whisper through the rain
"I'm with you"
And as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise the God who gives
And takes away
[Chorus]
I lift my eyes unto the hills
Where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord
The Maker of Heaven and Earth
[Chorus x2]
I AM NOT GOING TO PROTECT THE IDENTITY OF SOMEONE WHO IS HELL BENT ON KILLING HERSELF
ReplyDelete#Chai!
Deletelife is tuff oo!
See as stella is making frantic effort.
I sincerely hope she listens oo, for crying out loud, she is only 40.
Stella ure on d right track. Pls poster help is on d way dear.
DeleteChai this is sad! I can only say to u that suicide should never be an option.
ReplyDeleteDo not give up on prayer, as God is ur only hope at this point. Do not despair pls. Pray like Jacob did. Tell God u'll not let Him go until He blesses u.
Even if it means locking urself away from everything and everyone for a few days, do so and pray until u get a release.
What kind of support network do u have? Are u parents and siblings supportive? Pls tell them how u feel, ask for help! Don't carry this burden alone.
I don't know where u are, but if no jobs are forthcoming, try voluntary work. It will help u take ur mind off ur problems as u focus on others, and who knows what else might come of it.
I will also pray for u right now. It shall be well my dear. Pls share ur testimony when it happens!
Hummm I know hw she feels. I had someone in her shoes but she passed on.
ReplyDeletePoster it is well with you please hold on a little longer and you will see God unending miracles and favour.
Poshkayy
sister stop asking God for things...just start praising him...thats all
ReplyDeleteI can't say I understand how u feel because I am not working in your shoes but all these things you mentioned don't in themselves make you happy, happiness must be cultivated from within, my sister got married at 40 to a guy that had never been married before. My sister the bible says in all things give thanks, people are dying in hospital beds everyday with billions in their accounts and their family around them,and they would give anything to breathe the air you are breathing, give thanks and see your life change, take up a hobby, read, smile, join the children church, exercise, go to events meet people. You only get to live once, don't spend it depressed disgusted and suicidal. May a difference you are still young, everything will come to you in the right time.
ReplyDelete2con 4;17
ReplyDeleteFor our present trouble which is only for a short time, is working out for us a much greater weight of glory(Basic english bible)
Madam life is never fair, if u want to look at tins tru ur own point of view, good ppl do not usually earn wat dey deserve. This is where GRACE comes in, and den INTERCESSION.
1.U need to stop comparing ursef wit ppl, u don't no the grace and the ppl interceeding for a loose gal?so dia is no basis for comparison here.
2.Nobody is aving it smooth, life is a constant battle, the earlier u brace ursef, the better, cos I cn assure u,there are tougher battles waiting for u in future. U want marriage, marriage az it hurdles, u want kids, dey com wit serious teenage palava.
3. Gaan learn patience oo, yoruba wld say suru ti o lojo (patience wey no get end) madam stop hurrying, life isn't a race or competion. Since u tink u av lost everytin, its time for u to hold on to God lik job, cos u av nothing to lose anymore(akoding to u)
4. If u want a man, work on ursef, I watchd one of my fustratd very pretty teacher back in secondary sch gradually fade, dis woman must be the 1st person to color block in nigeria, she wz always lookin hagard n all. My point is, I hope ur situation, isn't somhow affectin ur physical appearance?
And mayb losing ur job is a blessing in disguise, mayb just mayb God wants u to av dat time, to stat looking for a mate. Stat attending parties, church meeting, smile more and enjoy life, it is d only 1 u have.
Lastly,sucide isn't an option, u don't own ur life, u neva chose to live, God was the one dat ordained ur existence, d worst u can do is giveup, and not getup frm bed. Taking ur own life wld be cheating. So plz madam hold on to God, I believ dat very soon smthg gud wld come up, and bcos it az taking dis long, smthg better is in store. Plz don't forget to invite me wen ur goodies arrive. Be strong #Inugo
Were do I start 4rm?,poster sincerely feel ur paiN,depression aint a gud tin @ all,I rememba being depressed too two yrs ago,ntin seemed to be working out,I cried helplessly each day,was fraustrated,gave up sincerely,fastforward to 2013 nd 2014 hw I got my groove back I dunno,nt lyk everytin is rosy nw oh,bt I had to encourage myself nd see d brighter side of life,I stopped tinkin nd bordering myself abt dose tins dt borderd me,nd today m happy,just try nd do dat too,it is well dear ehugs,God isn't sleeping
ReplyDeleteDear poster, like the picture above says, God didn't bring you this far to leave you alone now.
ReplyDeleteSuicide should never be an option. Please and please don't let the devil have the last laugh. It's a good thing you are reaching out. You will still come and share your testimony on this blog and outside.
Please just hang on.
At least you have reasons to be depressed.
Poster, I get depressed also.
But guess what?
There is nothing I can point to as the cause of my depression. No reason whatsoever.
I have thought of ending my life on many occasions....jumping in front of a moving train or vehicle,
And you can never guess cos I'm always smiling.
Poster nne, killing yourself is not gon add value to our economy. It's only gon land you in hell fire.
What makes you happy? Do it. Don't stop talking to God, cos if He brings you to it, He will surely bring you through it.
There are people who are going through worse things than you are.
Don't give up; not now, not ever.!
Peace be unto you.
Dear poster, I understand you perfectly because I am actually a very depressed person but I am working hard on it everyday of my life. Now it's easy for some1 to say you should be thankful because if there is life there is hope but I want you to understand depression isn't about what you don't have or how you expect your life to be its way more than that. People don't have anything and they are happier than a lot of people! Am going to use myself as an example I can say to the glory of God that I ve got it all but I just don't understand why i think of ending it all! I ve done better than most people my age and when I say that I mean you name it and I ve done it but when I started thinking of ways to take my life I was afraid for everything then I started making plans for my kids when I am gone and stuffs like that! I could be in the midst of people looking very happy but deep inside I just wanted to end it all! It's called very dark places at least that how I understand it, but guess what you will be fine! It's not a days job and no matter what anyone say to u it might not add up because it's your soul that needs rescuing but how do you cope with this? pRAY not for what you want God to do now, pray for Gods grace on your soul! Just say every morning dear Lord please rescue my soul! My soul needs you; my soul needs light it looks simple but it will work! Am only saying people get depressed basically not for a certain reason but while overthinking issues we like to think its because of our expectAtions! Dear poster you could have it all and still be depressed! It's your soul that needs light! I wish you all the best because it's not everyone that wins the battle against depression above all I wish u AMAZING GRACE!!! Cos you sure will need it love!
ReplyDeleteDear poster, I understand you perfectly because I am actually a very depressed person but I am working hard on it everyday of my life. Now it's easy for some1 to say you should be thankful because if there is life there is hope but I want you to understand depression isn't about what you don't have or how you expect your life to be its way more than that. People don't have anything and they are happier than a lot of people! Am going to use myself as an example I can say to the glory of God that I ve got it all but I just don't understand why i think of ending it all! I ve done better than most people my age and when I say that I mean you name it and I ve done it but when I started thinking of ways to take my life I was afraid for everything then I started making plans for my kids when I am gone and stuffs like that! I could be in the midst of people looking very happy but deep inside I just wanted to end it all! It's called very dark places at least that how I understand it, but guess what you will be fine! It's not a days job and no matter what anyone say to u it might not add up because it's your soul that needs rescuing but how do you cope with this? pRAY not for what you want God to do now, pray for Gods grace on your soul! Just say every morning dear Lord please rescue my soul! My soul needs you; my soul needs light it looks simple but it will work! Am only saying people get depressed basically not for a certain reason but while overthinking issues we like to think its because of our expectAtions! Dear poster you could have it all and still be depressed! It's your soul that needs light! I wish you all the best because it's not everyone that wins the battle against depression above all I wish u AMAZING GRACE!!! Cos you sure will need it love!
ReplyDeleteHello Poster, i am really touched, i am encouraging you not to lose hope, God hears and knows your name and He will definitely surprise you. We are in the same kind of situation but i am working and still believing God and i know He will do a miraculous thing in my life and urs too cos he created us and He has a purpose for us. Please cheer up and dont lose hope ur miracle is on the way.
ReplyDeleteDon't stop having faith poster. Please don't. God isn't asleep. I'm sure u know every disappointment is a blessing, what. If u get married today n u die d following day or or husband does or d both of u? Will u still blame God? Thank him for everything, u re alive hale n hearty, not in d psychiatric hospital or orthopaedic hospital neither re u. In a critical condition. It is he who is alive that alive complaints. Can u go thru what Job went thru? After getting married n having kids n acquiring wealth, can u face urself when u lose everything again? Bless God, please. God bless u.
ReplyDeleteGod will give u reasons to smile soon.
ReplyDeleteGod is able. He sees all ure going through poster. Trust in Him with all ur heart and let Him do what He only can do, give u joy.
DeleteFirst of all. Poster. Marriage. I repeat. Marriage. Does not and can never define you. Many married women wish to be single.
ReplyDeleteA married coz of mine once told me. If not cos of African mentality I would have advised my sisters not to get married. I understood what she meant. Now. No job? Do you have any skills?.
Some States offer skills acquisition classes at very low prices in their local government headquarters. Like 2k. You only buy materials when you need them for practicals or so. You could check if the local government you're at does it. Try and register. When you're done start your own biz. You could ask for financial help even from SDKers. Leave marriage. Establish yourself first. In the process you might meet someone. And even if you don't. God has not forgotten you. He said his will for you is the best.
You don't have to succumb to African mentality that if you're not married as an old woman you're a disgrace. When you are settled financially, you could adopt. And be happy. In everything still give thanks to God.
poster you are really broken. I can feel it from your words.
ReplyDeleteIt looks like all doors are closed and all hops dashed but hey! God is not sleeping. believe it or not, he is not.
stay strong and rest assured your situation will change. I don't know how but I know....
suicide is never an option cos it will only lead you straight to hell. why suffer here and then give yourself a one way ticket to hell?
be calm and stay positive.
Anonymous 9:14 AM, thank you for that contribution, it showed great insight. To our dear sister, I an not about to tell you that the road ahead of you is an easy one because it is not. However, I can guarantee you that it is a road you can travel, but its best if you don't travel it alone.
ReplyDeleteThose who have told you to hold on to God and be patient are not wrong but unfortunately are not balancing that advice realistically because it leaves you often holding your breath, waiting!
Thank you for reaching out. You did a right thing. Please don't kill yourself as that will make matters worse as you will end up in an eternity wishing you could die but won't be able to. Going diabolical leads to the same end, so please don't.
First, you need to stop going this road alone. You need to be in a support group. This forum is a great place to start but you need people (women) who will tell you more than just "pray and wait" because while praying and waiting is good, you need people who will love and support you around you.
People who acknowledge that its OK to hurt and will nurse your smile back.
So, here is my suggestion, why not a few of the readers on this post become that person. I am a male so, obviously that kinda disqualifies me. But you women, please do more than just say "peace be with you" to your sister and not be party to make that peace happen!
I challenge you all!
NB: Some Churches also have support structures that do more than just pray for you or ask you to go pray. I for example know that Daystar has one.
Ify, I only have one thing to say to you.
ReplyDeleteWith all you have on your plate, it shows that Osebuluwa has great faith iin you.
Chineke believes in you and sees you as a problem solver.
Its in you. When you stop giving up and start looking at how to solve the problems, you will be amazed how easy the solutions are.
I dont know what the solutions are but I am sure you have been prepared thru life to handle it.
Just look at it deeply. Your solution is right in front of you and it isnt suicide
I want to share a few secrets wif u.it helps wen am depressed. I listen to gospel songs alot esp wen am so depressed dat I don't even have strength to pray.
ReplyDeleteRead and memorise the following scriptures;isaiah 49:14-16,24-26. Hab 3:17-19.u will NEVER bow ur head in shame.
I perfectly understand how the poster feels, at a point I contemplated suicide 2...A University degree with no job, so many failed promises, unstable relationship...So many people walk on the streets and they seem normal, a closer check on what goes on in there minds and you will be perplexed...To the poster; I want you to believe that God did not create anyone to suffer, he has his plans for you...You are unique, special, wonderfully made and I believe that God is able to do that which he says he is able to do...Cast your burden upon him, he is a listening father!
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile any kind hearted BV who is looking for someone to do menial jobs for him or her should please contact me...I am a University graduate but the economic situation in the country has made me resort to driving okada for a living...Right now my okada is faulty and I have just been diagnosed of stomach ulcer...Learnt how to make liquid detergent at NYSC camp, so I am thinking of delving into that, but as usual d dream has been hampered by lack of funds...I will love to wash plates, do laundry work and anything to raise capital...Anybody who wanna give me a menial job should hit me up!
You don't have to worry
ReplyDeleteAnd don't you be afraid
Joy comes in the morning
Troubles they don't last always
For there's a friend in Jesus
Who will wipe your tears away
And if your heart is broken
Just lift your hands and say
Oh
I know that I can make it
I know that I can stand
No matter what may come my way
My life is in your hands
With Jesus I can take it
With Him I know I can stand
No matter what may come my way
My life is in your hands
So when your tests and trials
They seem to get you down
And all your friends and loved ones
Are nowhere to be found
Remember there's a friend in Jesus
Who will wipe your tears away
And if you heart is broken
Just lift your hands and say
Oh
I know that I can make it
I know that I can stand
No matter what may come my way
My life is in your hands
With Jesus I can take it
With Him I know I can stand
No matter what may come my way
My life is in your hands
Some people have brain but they don't know how to use it. How can you tell someone that they have problem because they are not married at 40 years. Life is never about marriage, marriage is not even for everybody. If you don't have anything nice to say to a depressed fellow, then STFU!
ReplyDeleteAs for poster, committing suicide is NEVER the answer, just hang on, it won't get worse than it is already. It can only get Better. If you die, u enemies will win. I challenge you to Stay alive and you will see the manifestation of GOD's power.
In His Own Time,He makes everything Beautiful!
ReplyDeleteSurely u believe dat darling
Remember too dat those who wait upon d Lord shall have their Strength renenwed like an Eagle...
Don't give up dear...Ur Miracle is on d way!
I say DONT!
Sending u bear hugs darling!
HMmm wot a world! Ppl r really passing thru a lot. Somtimes I feel its me God has forgotten d most but wt ds kind of story I can't help but seal my lips of ingratitude. Am in my late 20s_ no job(afta abt 5yrs of nysc), no definite r\ship. Infact somtimes I feel lyk questioning my existence bt I thank God cos der lots of ppl am beta than.. Dear poster pls u dnt hav t take d life u did not join God t create. Its well! Hell isn't a funny place t b cos u might end up der if u take ur life.
ReplyDeletePoster, you know the saying...."its always darkest before the dawn". I feel you are in your darkest moment now because you are very close to your dawn! Your breakthrough is extremely close and the devil knows this, that is why he has put this evil thought in you(contemplating suicide)! Why did you not have this thought last year and the year before? It is because your breakthrough was not close! The devil will do anything to make you r heart desire not come through, don't succumb to him! Just hold on a little more. God be with you.
ReplyDeleteBrendaN
My dear, never lose hope in God. No time is late for our God. It is devil that is trying to convince you to commit suicide is not of God. I'll advice you make church your second home (a good church) and u'll see the hand of God in your life. I don't know where you reside but if u're in Abuja come to Dunamis church at Area 1, Abuja. It is well with your soul. Amen
ReplyDeleteNEVER EVER GIVE UP.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, never lose hope in God. No time is late for our God. It is devil that is trying to convince you to commit suicide is not of God. I'll advice you make church your second home (a good church) and u'll see the hand of God in your life. I don't know where you reside but if u're in Abuja come to Dunamis church at Area 1, Abuja. It is well with your soul. Amen
ReplyDelete@poster, u never start. u want to end your life cos of worldly things, no child, no job, no husband. oya, stay on a fast lane and see what the next coming vehicle will do to you. maybe when you land in the hospital, you will learn to be thankful and happy. Am 39+. married to the most terrible man on earth yet single. no child, working but collect salary once in 3 months. My good morning most times is responded with a slap or curses from my supposed hubby. Yet am the most happiest person on earth. Most women in my church use to shield their husbands from me with the fear I might snatch him hahaha because, I dress simple but sweet, laugh as if the whole world belongs to me. People flock around me for encourage and get shocked when I tell them what am going through.Why will I not be happy and thankful.... Am alive!!!, I have hope!!!, I have faith!!!!. My tomorrow is definitely going to be better than today. God did not consult any man even my parents before he created me so he will NEVER consult any man before he releases my blessings soon.
ReplyDelete@poster, be happy, be joyful. Do you know how old pastor Kumuyi's (deeper life) second wife was before he married her? (63)!!. she is more joyful now than those who married before her. Did you hear that Kefee the gospel singer married two husband's and still died young and childless?. Rejoice, our life and destiny is in the hands of the lord. He created you and must definitely have plans for you. I feel like shouting.... Am alive and my tomorrow will definitely be better than tomorrow.
Shalom.
Remember Justina? The nurse that died from Ebola? She was ENGAGED, PREGNANT & had a JOB but look at how her life ended. Remember Dr Adadevoh? She had a SON, & A BRILLIANT CAREER but look at how she still died...then REMEMBER JOB! He suffered because of his righteousness; God used him to boast to the devil... One day you will understand why you have faced these challenges. Until then begin to pray the prayer of Jabez. It is well with you!
ReplyDeleteMy dear sis if I tell u my story u'll kneel down and praise god . If I tell u my story u won't stop crying and best of all u won't commit suicide !!! .
ReplyDeleteI am also a single mom and single as of today,cus today is all I can see,but I hold hands with u in faith,that before the end of this you will testify,just believe,I believe that I will come back to SDK to share my testimony,God has special and powerful ways of doing his things,believe in ur heart,concerning ur job,God will replace it with u didn't expect and as for prince charming?he's only waiting for u to believe he's on d way.I believe I will testify,please I beg u,just believe and u will testify.
ReplyDeleteapplauze7@gmail.com
My dear dnt gv up hope,cos doing so wil gv d enemy room to rejoice over u,instead cast all ur worries to God for he cares for ,only if u knw how to let go of ur burdens he is actually waiting for u to tell him dis,sometimes we need to take bold step on our own for God to intervene in our case,I remembered vividly2yrs ago wen I was down wt illness ,I spent all my money,attend all type of deliverance ,had access to a powerful man of God number to pray for me still nothing hapened.until I knew how to challenge God wt his words n tell him his words are never lies,today God hv continually showed me how to move him to grant my request n made be bold enough,trust him n remind him of his promise .
ReplyDeleteMy dear sister, am sorry to say this but you have absolutely no right to take your own life.
ReplyDeleteI want to paint some scenarios so that you can know you are not the worst hit.
A woman who had 6 promising children and lost five to one sickness or the other.
What if you were married with no kids?
Remember the Sosoliso plane crash ,where a mother lost 2 or 3 kids at once? What will you advice her to do?
The Dana Crash, a whole family was wiped out, father, mother and 4 kids??
What if you were married and lost your husband?
What if you lost your own life during child birth?
What if you had 2 kids and you were diagnosed of breast cancer? A friends sister died last year and today her kids are at the mercy of people.
Haven't you read about kids who killed their parents? It is all on the internet even in Nigeria.
What if you were married and unhappy?
What if you were suffering from an ailment?
So for your mind 40 is too old to get married? You lie, I know a lot of people that got married at over 40 and had kids.My only worry is the job bit, you need a job so that you can conveniently take care of your bills.Maybe you are thinking about marriage too much such that you have become a shadow of yourself, have fun, look good, lose a bit of weight if you are a bit big and live life, change your environment, change your friends.
Avoid judgemental lots who will keep asking you stupid questions like when are you getting married, why are you not married and other rubbish.
If you get a job, adopt a little girl, accept as your own and make her your companion for now, marriage is damned over rated, if not for kids, a lot of people will not get married, marriage is not life, it is not air, marriage is not eternity.
Dear sister, Thank God for the gift of life, sometimes we only pray because we need miracles from God, praise God and worship him all of the time, thank him you are alive and healthy, the people that died from Ebola are human beings like us, Justina was engaged and 2 months gone.Cheer up!
I feel so sad for you, dear poster but please be cheerful. God is not asleep! He does not slumber! He who keeps you is always awake! Ps: 120.
ReplyDeleteDepression is a phase that comes at least once or twice in every human life. We all go through it and one day, just like the past does, it will fade away.
I'd advice you to look for a mentor, someone who is good listening and tell him/her your thoughts, it helps. Continue to pray, and never ever ask God 'why'. He created you and knows the reason why you are in this world so, keep praying to him in thanksgiving atleast for life.
Lastly, never ever give up to the point of opting for suicide. Suicide means Hell! You can never merit Heaven if you commit suicide because you never gave yourself life, so you have no right to take it in the first place.
Look up to God always, He alone is the author and finisher of your faith.
God will see you through. His word says 'My Grace Is Sufficient For You' and it will be sufficient, just trust in Him. May God grant you the grace to listen to his voice now and always. Amen.
Beloved poster, let's set priority right. If you are coming to God to receive a child when you are not married; which God are you praying to? How is it going to be? It is so easy to say; "what did I do . . ." But it is easier to say; "Lord have mercy on me a sinner . . . Jesus save me"; just 3 words and that's a more meaningful prayer. The word is; seek ye first the kingdom of God and its righteousness and every other thing will be added to you. It is not going to Mfm FOR deliverance, it is giving your life over to the Lord and repenting of your sins. As it is, if any man comes your way for sex, won't you open your legs just to have a child? Is that what the Lord asks of you his beloved. Why not surrender to him and have peace of mind first and see him mold your life to his own perfect model. Do not think that suicide is a way out, it is only a way into the tunnel of the eternal abyss; JESUS loves you. . . HB
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tighttttt hugs.
We are all fighting different battles in life.. Suicide is a coward's way out.. I believe when you hear other people's predicaments, u will thank God for ur life... Nothing is too late.. You could get all ur yearning within the shortest possible period.God isn't sleeping.... Make ursef accessible.. Go out and have fun, up ur social life and men will be attracted to u... But remember, a relationship doesn't have to end up in marriage.. What u shld be looking at is having babies cos of ur biological clock.. But hey, some women have given birth after menopause set in..And if marriage comes along the way.. That's beautiful.. For the Jobless situation, u knw what naija is saying.. Search within u and bring out that fun part of u and live life! Keep ur head up, God is still in control... Cheers!
ReplyDeleteI just wanna say thank you lord, was depressed this morning, decided to fast and ask God for all the thing I want with the hope that he will not put me to shame.
ReplyDeleteAfter reading your story, words have failed me.
All I can say is thank you Jesus!
For all you have done, I am grateful.
I am not where I wanna be but I am not where I used to be
Dear poster, this too shall pass!
I await your testimony
BVs, pls if you have a job offer connect this poster, that is a start.
Y'al should stop preaching and be a blessing
Me, I still dey find work, can't help.
Hold on for one more day. I came here in early this year and posted about some issues I was experiencing anonymously, someone here prayed for me and things worked out to GOD's glory. Poster hold on and see the marvelous things my GOD can do.
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