Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives.

The first Narrative is for a blog visitor who might be reading this right now...can you please tell us in the comment section why you did what you did?I mean that was a ''Dear John letter of dismissal'' after yo axx hit the diaspora..lol

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

TRYING TO COPE AFTER A ''DEAR JOHN''

Hey Stella, how are you and how is the family. I want to thank you for realizing your writing gift and giving us the opportunity to share our burdens with the world. Please post my chronicle...

My name is Buzor and i have been carrying a heavy burden since last year and the weight of the burden got worse on the 10th of November 2014 when the woman i was dating and loved with my whole heart said she had to be true to her self and broke up with me. 

I and Cherish (the name i gave her cos she had no english name) started dating on the 6th of may 2012 whilst we were still in the university. Our love life grew so well and every thing was going on fine until when we both came back to Nigeria. She stays in the eastern part of Nigeria whilst i stay in abuja. Then i began to complain after a while about the decline in our communication and this brought up a lot of issues because i seemed to have been complaining about it a lot and she was telling me that i should stop pretending that i love her the way she is when i know that she cant ever change. 

Yes i admit that the poor communication situation was really hurting me but i just couldn't leave the woman i love cos of distance, so i kept up with her despite the whole thing. Then my darling Cherish went for national service in calabar and then our communication became so so bad and when i would complain about it then she would tell me that she is going through a phase in her life and that i should understand.

 At this point i became so scared because she was having a lot of suitors who were ready to get married and plus her mom had started talking to her about getting married. In other to probably make her miss me and realize that losing me will be a sad thing then i began to break up with her but to my loss, i was the one who kept coming back each time i broke up with her. 

Then she finally came to abuja to process her visa, i took the opportunity to introduce her to my mom as the girl i would want to get married to. But the moment she got to the country she traveled to, she broke up with me after 3 months and since then i have not been able to move on. I am using this medium to achieve two things. 

Firstly, i want to use this medium to tell Cherish (she introduced me to this blog) that i still love her a lot despite the fact that i have deleted her from my Facebook and Instagram just cos i am trying my best to forget the loss. 

Though months have gone by and the distance still remains, i still think about you every day and when ever anything good happens to me, you are still the first person i think about. Secondly, i want my fellow blog visitors to please advice me on how to move on from this feeling of losing someone that i cant stop loving. Cheers.

*chewing bitter kola* Ehyaaaaaa..Yo kept breaking up with her severally and now she has broken up with you and it hurts?Hisss!..I have no pity for you oh

Deal with it and move on....she has done just that.

Did you bother to find out if she was travelling abroad to meet a suitor?thats prolly what she did.Abeg move on ojare.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

LACK OF SELF CONFIDENCE FROM STRETCH MARKS

Stella good day. I Am a 22 year old lady. Currently on my NYSC programme. All my life I have never been in a relationship, Stella am scared.I Am scared because I lack confidence in myself. Not that am not beautiful. I am. I don't like self praise but am good person with a good heart, friendly and funny. 

I am afraid because I have stretch marks. 

That I have them isn't the problem . Have them in the normal places. Problem is that I have them on my boobs and they are rather pronounced unlike the faint ones I see on people.  These awful things popped out while I was in junior secondary school due to puberty! Mind this: I have only used pears baby oil, vaseline and Palmers body cream all my life. Never used toning cream (comfortable in my colour). I feel so bad and unlovable when I look at myself in the mirror. Am mad at nature! Mad that am like this and this has always made me scared of entering a relationship in my entire life. 

All my life I have just been wishing I came in another skin. Many people are on queue and am continually giving them no no no. Am grown and I still feel bad about myself, Stella. I want to ask fellow bvs: does stretch marks really matter to guys? I swear if I start making enough money eh,  hmm laser treatment straight way! Am awfully scared of entering a relationship even when a person I like approaches,am always like 'no he won't like you.' People are always like 'pretty girl like you don't have a boyfriend bla bla bla ? They just see the smiles on me they don't see my fears and insecurities and wishes. I just feel bad for me. So guys,does it really matter at all?

Ah over to the guys but i think you need to love yourself and work on your mindset...A man will love you even if you have one eyes....he needs to see that self confidence in you to be confident to love you.