Women and their wahala sef!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
DATING YOUR FRIENDS EX
Hi Stella I hope my message meets you well. I really need you and blog visitors advise on an issue bothering me.
In 2013 my best friend was in a relationship with a Muslim guy but she's christian. His mom and her mom patronize each other because my friends mom sells lace. The guy used to buy her so many things and take her out. I was happy for my friend cuz she hardly ever got into a serious relationship like that.
About 4 months later she told me they broke up I asked why she gave me excuses about how the guy always complained about the way she dresses. She has very big butt and hips so there's really nothing she can wear that won't bring out her curves. She also made mention about how she was never serious with the guy and how it was the guy that was always all over her.
Fast forward to 2014 we were talking about the break up when she suddenly said me and mr A have broken up he needs a Muslim girl do you want to date him? I was shocked. Wondering why my best friend will ask me such a question. But I let it go. It's important to note that I never met MR A the whole 4 months they were together.
Sometime last year I got introduced to a guy I really liked his name was also Mr. A so I sent his picture to my best friend asking if this was him while I was silently hoping it wasn't. But unlucky for me it was Mr. A
I like Mr. A so much although nothing like sex yet. I'm sure he likes me too. He is 32 while I'm 22 but when we're together it's like we're age mates.
So I decided to call it quits cuz I couldn't be with somebody my best friend has been with and to my shock my best friend told me that I could go ahead and be with him that she doesn't care. That it's just for the mean time till j get somebody else i like right?
And I said yes. But deep down I'm scared things might get serious cuz we're both Muslims and understand each other so well.
He hopes to get married before his 35th but the problem now is if things eventually go smoothly between us and we go stronger in the relationship. What type of eyes will my best friend look at me with and her mom that knows me so well and knows Mr A too what will she say. What will the world say? All our friends that know my best friend dated Mr A now it's me dating him.
I'm so confused right now. Please advice me if to go further with this or just quit. I really like mr A cuz I see a very bright future with him.
Hmmm....what if you damm all people will say and he still doesnt marry you?everything in life is a risk,you didnt snatch him so you should have a free mind..I dont know what your friends intentions are so i advise you to thread cautiously and eventually have it at the back of your mind to severe ties with her if you marry Mr A.....dunno what else to say!...make i read comments
NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
Please I would like to remain anonymous,
Please I need the advices of my fellow BV because am at crossroads right now.
Please be patient to read my chronicles cos it's quite long
I wrote earlier to this blog of how I was broken by a. Failed relationship which ended in 2008 and since then I haven't been in any relationship, I tried dating but it wasn't just working. Early last year I reconnected with an old secondary school friend we tried dating but it didn't work out, we both had our faults but the problem I had with him was he doesn't no how to keep in touch so we just lost touch.
Around First week of December 2015 he called me very early in d morning and was forming my runaway girlfriend where have u been that he. Wants to take me too his family towards Christmas and I told him he was joking cos we are in separate towns, so when he was around for the Christmas he stays like 20mins drive from me I went to see him as per we are friends, his parents weren't home so I was happy but before I left I met the sister and he introduced me as his girlfriend she laughed and was like since when that she has never heard him talking about any girl talk less of girlfriend so I told her we are not dating, so as I was about to leave I met the mum and coincidentally his parents know my parents and the mum was all smiles, so she invited me to come over for the Christmas I didn't want go so I don't give them false impression but he begged me and I went they were all nice and all so he said we should give the relationship another shot and see how it goes.
The problem I have is am 29 he's 30 so the age gap isn't there and he still doesn't know how to call, he does chat and me I do calls and I have told him about it so am getting turned off already cos of this problem.
Meanwhile I met someone else from church he's nice, calls me 24/7 I asked about his age he is 41 so I was like no way that's too old for me he's been begging me that age is just a number like five of his family members have called me to beg on his behalf that I should give him a chance n all, but I am confused this other one stays abroad and all this abroad waka I don't like I asked him why he wasn't married at 41, he was like he hasn't seen who he wanted he's on my neck.
They are both graduates and masters degree holders and doing well for themselves so please my fellow BV's I really don't know what to do.
Hmmmmm.....what do women really want?
make i read comments today abeg!