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''Am an ardent reader of your blog.. Although, I have never for once commented, have gained a lot.. God bless you for this platform.
I am a 21- year old lady, dating a man 10 years older than me.. He is serious and wants marriage with me.. I have met his people and gone out on family occasions with him and he has spoken with my mum on phone once.. The first problem is; I come from a family where my parents especially my dad chooses virtually everything for us. My parents are not in support of the Relationship on d basis of ethnicity (we are from the same ethnic group but from different States) and the course he studied..
He has gotten his second degree and is currently in search of a job and am still on as an undergraduate. My dad said he would not give his support and will only do so if God speaks to me to go further with the relationship. My dad says all demeaning things about him and it depresses me most times..
The question is:
how do I hear from God concerning this issue? I have prayed to God but have not heard from him and my dad keeps asking what God has said, I don't want to say what God has not said.
Second problem is:
Boo wants something very serious and has been wanting to communicate with my parents. I don't want to keep telling him that my father is against the relationship so as not to discourage him. I am a law student with very good grades and I still have law school and service to go for. I still have about 4 years before I can become a full-fledged lawyer plus service. Boo wants us to be married at most, in the next three years.
I don't think my parents will release me until after my service.
Aunty Stella and Bvs, what do I do? Am confused. I don't want to waste his time if my father still refuses as he is not getting any younger.
Please use your red ink Aunty Stella.
*Deep loud sigh*
Speak Lord
ReplyDeleteCan someone plz bless me with food stuff? Finding it difficult to feed
DeleteChronicle is here
DeleteCan someone plz bless me with food stuff? Finding it difficult to feed
DeleteBuahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahhaahA
DeleteWonderful!!!!!!
You and your dad are crazy menh.....
He should do the praying for you naa??
Btw,your boo is still jobless naaa,he. Should find something doing first.
And you are still young 4 all this talk....focus on ur education.
You don't have a problem, your dad would change his mind before the end of the 3rd year.
DeleteYoung lady! YOU BETTER LISTEN TO YOUR PARENTS AND FORGET THAT RELATIONSHIP!
DeleteMy gosh! 10 years difference and Jobless! My child, he wants to hold you down, and he will be in CONTROL of your life if you make the mistake of going ahead with that relationship!
@31 he has never had any serious relationship in his entire life? He is looking for a small girl he can intimidate and manipulate!
Pray instead for your academic and career success! You are TOO YOUNG to be thinking of marriage!
Later, marry your agegroup after you have graduated and got a job, so that your thinking, hustling strength and humor will be on the same page.
Portable na wa 4 u.
DeleteWhich kind crush are you.
How can you say someone's dad is crazy. I guess your dad is also stupid! The crush do die sef. You ain't properly trained.
Franca pls are you in Lagos, if yes please how can I contact you to give you food stuff.
It is well with you
Well said portable. Am sure if the guy came with a range rover pops wont be doing all this long yarning lol. Anyways, on a more serious note, your happiness is all that matters in the end. Your parents have lived their lives its time to live yours.
DeleteWhat do you want? You sound like you are too used to pleasing people. My boo this, my dad that. When you know what you want and couple it with prayers, you will be fine. Just keep your eyes open. You don't really sound so in love with your boo to me, if you were, your thinking and approach would be different. All the best.
DeleteWell at 21,dating is OK...you shouldn't be asking God such questions now.there is a time and season for everything.face your studies,come out with good grades hopefully your man will have a job then and then only will you speak to God on the marriage issue.
DeleteGod will not answer yes audibly for you to hear,you will just feel that inner peace and know that he is the one.
There is a time for everything pls.tell your man that.let him find a job first.
As for your dad,let him leave his kids alone and stop deciding EVERYTHING FOR YOU. Tell your dad that the course a person studied does not guarantee success.
Is well o
ReplyDeleteU are too young forget marriage for now n enjoy wat ur 20s have foru
DeleteBaby girl chill first..
ReplyDeleteHe doesn't have a job yet and he's thinking about marriage already? Your boo should be thinking about finding a job first and making money, then marriage later!
Your father is right in this one, trust his judgement plz. And like Linda Eze will say.. Broke guys can love for Africa! Lol
Shine ya eyes oo and face ya studies now!!
That he doesn't have a job now doesn't mean he won't have in future. Once he is hardworking and has a vision for a better tomorrow things will change. Encourage him and pray for him. If he loves God, is honest, has integrity, is faithful, is generous and loves you to bits don't throw him away for not having a job for now. Who knows tomorrow? Your father means well but tread carefully.
DeleteSee them! U will soon send us ur chronicles speaking frm experience love is sweet wen broke. Let him go and make money then come and talk love cos that wen he will hv money to cheat on ur smelly pussy
DeleteDon't go and marry...
ReplyDeleteBe there listening to your parents that are quarter to go!...
Their time don pass mehn!...
Who says you can't achieve your heart desires in your husbands house?...
Don't end up as a frustrated gwegz!...be wise!...
But the boo is jobless naaaa!
DeleteWhat's the rule again?
No to broke ass!!!!
Linda your advice is not complete oh. Did you read the part where she said her boo is jobless? Remember your anthem on this blog about money? Hian.
DeletePoster, I got married in university and my husband was working. He's older too. So I suggest he settles the issue of his finances first. Secondly, if you're a christian and you attend my church, trust me y'all won't do anything wedding until your fiance settles the issue of joblessness he is currently facing. That should be his major priority and since he's saying, next three years then both of you should relax till then.
P.S: I hope you were following the Tiwa/Tbillz saga. No matter how much a woman earns she still needs her husband to be the man, including FINANCIALLY!
I can bet my flat ass that linda didn't complete this chronicle
DeleteSo you change your slogan this time right ?? .. Lol.
DeleteAbeg she's jus freaking 21,,Wetin she know...boo is jobless my dear trust me u will regret getting married to a jobless man..na love u go chop...if e love u make e wait for u to finish school...
Delete@fuck you don't tell me she's just 21 that's how alot of ladies turn quez my mum got married at a very young age and she's doing well.
DeletePoster, don't make the mistake of listening to this 2-side mouthed linda.
DeleteMake hay while the sun shines. Your parents are sponsoring you to school, not that they are hungry and pushing you to get Marry so you can get off their hands and feEd them with your husband's money, which he does not have because he is jobless!
Love without money will turn a marriage sour! A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE!
@fuck you, that is how you people will say they are too young and allow them turn gewgs. 21 is not young o!
DeleteHmmmm...this life shaa!
ReplyDeleteSome pple wants to be in your position academically and you re here disturbing us about a man at this your early age?
Continue waiting for God. He is on his way with plenty answers for you ok?
lemmi talk like my mum when suitors are coming for u at an early age "goan read ur books".Ur dad is telling u to goan hear from God cos he is not ready to release u and u cannot even hear from God.So,my advice call ur dad sit him down sometimes our parents opinions are even the ones that keep us at a point in life cos we hate to hurt them.Do not be rude he wants the best for u, many of us our parents refused our husbands for over a year but we will still get married at the appropriate time.You are still young honey u dont know what Daddy is seeing that u arent seeing.Think about it,young love can be blindfolding
ReplyDelete100 likes
DeleteOn top wetin? You said he's jobless for now, let him secure a better job, set up a befitting home for you and I think by the time he's through will all these, you would probably have finished or about rounding up.
ReplyDeleteContinue to pray and tell your dad to pray about it too, why must he wait for your to tell him what God said concerning the relationship? All the same, best of luck dear
*Larry was here*
So for 21 years of your life, you have never interacted with God? And the first thing you want to hear from God is "marry him"; isn't it? And after that, you pack him in one corner and "enjoy" your life until perhaps it is time to conceive and nothing comes, you write again and ask; how do I hear from God? Oh my goodness, how savagely we treat this great creator of the universe!
ReplyDelete"Little girl", pick up the New testament, what the Lord will tell you is the first sentence he preached; "REPENT for the kingdom of God is near". Note; the kingdom of God first and not marriage!
With the encouraging words here I started my own business with 50k, I buy things from onitsha to sell in owerri for instance I buy chifon tops for 1500 and sell at 1800 lowest in the place I work but they complain its costly. Pls are my charging much? Which other place do you sugest I buy things that will be cheap and what kind of place do I take my goods to sell till I become stable. I also sell flat wears too. Please help me out with advice and suggestions cos i dont want to be liability to anyone. Thank for your help.
DeleteBv queenregina
Queen Regina do advert about what u sell nd put up ur number and send to sdk
DeleteAhhhh but like seriously, this does not sound like a chronicle to me. You are trouble free and trying to find one for yourself.
ReplyDeleteTruly
DeleteTell d man d truth let him decide if he will push futher,wait for your father to make a decision or for him to just move on.don't waste d man's time.with the way you speak,there is little or nothing you can do to change your father's attitude in dictating your life so free d man.let ur man decide
ReplyDeleteI'll read comments.
ReplyDeleteNwokem (even though you be woman), please kindly focus on your studies, I didn't say you are too young to marry, but still a little too young to start gbenshing,( I know say you no talk that part, umuaka ugbua!)
ReplyDeleteErrh, 10 years is a lot oo, think about it again, did you say 3 years from now? Why he wan start now to know your entire generation if he never ready, shuu.
My opinion is, friend zone him, or better still find a way to let him know your papa no want. Your education comes first, marriage no be akamu. I doubt if you will finish this your 'charge and bail' course, no offense, if you enter this marriage.
Your father knows you are marrying an OWUTE. Hungry go kill you ooo. Better wait since you are 21 and look for a guy that can take care of you.
ReplyDeleteYour father instead of coming out that you are marrying a broke ass guy is saying you should wait till you hear from God. You want to hear from God when the guy has already tasted and finished the cookies abi?
anyway wetin concern me
Babe, you are not yet done with 'growing up' ok?
ReplyDeleteWhy is your dad even in the picture of this relationship
When you are not even done with school?
I don't think he is as strict as you described in your write-up.
Face your studies, there is really no cause for hurry here...
Growing up ke. I got married at her age and still married. With over 10yrs in marine but I didn't go about marrying a man that was jobless. Mine was also 10yrs older. And I was still in 200l. He didn't stop me from completing my education neither did he stop my career..
DeleteI don't agree she is too young or that the man is too old for her. If you say she is not wise enough, then I agree. From my experience I learnt that our parents may not have good reasons for saying no, but usually it's their sixth sense. And babe does it work??? Remember what our parents/elders see sitting...
DeleteMy advise; continue with school and meet new people, that way u understand men better and it will help you make better decisions. Also a man trying to rush you into marriage usually has something to hide. Take you time and open your eyes wide.
A Lot can happen in three yrs...you may no longer like him or him you; or you both might have built something unbreakable. Then u'll be bold enough to make a case before your parents and they will trust your judgement more....i mean you are older and if with the time you are dancing to the same music, it might be the right music. All the best
End time pikin
ReplyDeleteEnd time proposal. Lol
DeleteHmmmmmm! See chronicle, he doesn't av a job yet n his first priority is to cage u with marriage? Receive sense abeg!
ReplyDeleteU no get problem. 4 years from now u will b d one thanking ur parents , that's wen u meet a better and more lovely person.
ReplyDeleteThree years to come before he can marry you and you are already sending in chronicle, you better forget about men matter for now and study your book.
ReplyDeleteYou are still very much young to decide who you want to marry, am sure before next four years to come your dad will allow you marry any man of your choice.
Y does he want to meet ur dad if d marriage will take place in 3 years time ? Which kain caging be that? Tell him when d 3 years time comes, he can come c ur people , cos we don't know tomorrow. Maybe he will be d one to jilt u or u may be d one to end d rlshp, so u guys should just take one step st a time, u are just 21,finish school first na, ur dad can change his mi d if he sees that in 2 years time, d guy is still dating u, so tell ur guy that u guys shd just be dating and ur parents won't appreciate when a man is r ready to marry in d next 5 months nd he wants to come know them. That when he's ready in 3 years time , he should come that fine not now, that u spoke with ur mum nd she said he should come wen he has a house, a job nd is financially ready
DeleteChildish chronicle...poster you think we have time for this rubbish abi??
ReplyDelete#GbeduWayDeyBurstBrain!!!
DeleteChildish chronicle...poster you think we have time for this rubbish abi??
ReplyDeleteDid you read it at all?
DeleteMy dear face ur studies I think that should be ur priority and not how ur dad is going to consider ur bf. Ur father knows what he is doing and stop questioning him.
ReplyDeleteWell said
DeleteExactly.... Dear poster, d truth is u are still very young u v a lot ahead of you and you're starting off well! Leave marriage matter for now if he wanna stick around good for him if not let him go! U ve plenty of time hon.
DeleteThis is my space, will be back to comment.
ReplyDeletePray about it.
ReplyDeleteJesus is Lord.
I can't believe you want to marry a man that is 10years older than you. Please flee from such relationship. My husband is 10years older now I look at him as one grumpy always angry old man. 5years age differences is okay except you are a third that wants a sugar daddy.
ReplyDeleteNothing wrong with 10yrs gap my dear.
DeleteNothing wrong with 10yrs old. I married a man 10yrs older than me when I was posters age. It's been 10yrs now. I'm 31 now and he is 41
DeleteMy husband is older too.go find what's wrong with your husband oh no be age make am angry and grumpy biko.
DeleteMy advice is to wait till he secures a job.if you want to marry someone you will struggle with ,then find and marry your classmate there.if you're to marry an older man,he should at least have financially secured himself biko.
DeleteDon't even know how to put mouth and tell you this.
ReplyDeleteYou are 21.......grow some more, meet more people, slow down a bit with this guy.
I didn't read where he is making a special effort to get on your parents good side...........and i don't think you are ready to fight your parents......It's not even alright to.
There is a 10yr gap...... it might appeal to you if you are looking at the angle of "maturity".......but why a girl so young though. It's becoming a pattern for abusers.
He is talking marriage and he has only spoken with your mum once...... Then i see you making calculations to fit into his time frame for the relationship.
He has created a timetable for himself and somehow just want to get into it without a clear direction of what happens after school.
The head and tail of my english and excess dots is...... YOU WILL NOT MARRY THAT GUY.......that's the way i see it.
Do not force anything.....if you guys are seriously in love...Wait!
Achieve things together and work on your parents.
Finally, pls and pls.......pls i beg you now...... DO NOT GET PREGNANT!.....as a way of forcing their hand......pls, it will backfire and you will live in perpetual regrets. This guy is still a "leg in leg out" kind of person......flee from sex now pls. God be with you!
Well said empress.
DeleteI think u r still young to worry urslf with marriage talks.. give time a chance..
ReplyDeleteTo ur first question, does God speak to u?, has he ever spoken to u?, do u knw the signs n patterns he uses to talk to u?..watch out for the signs then..
To ur second question. Tell boo to jst keep the marriage talk for now.. concentrate on ur studies.. time will tell if both of u will end up together or not.. life isn't that complicated..
What does he do for a living asides the second degree. Does he have a place of his own? Car ? Marriage no be by mouth...what are his plans for the future and how is he going about it ?? Is he financially capable when the three years starts approaching ?? You haven't lived your life yet sweetie. You are just 21...think deep about this
ReplyDeleteCome Rob the beggy beggy, but you were just begging and cussing out bvs because they refused to help you organise your made in Ejigbo wedding 2 days ago.. Now you don follow dey advice?? Hmmmm oriegwu!
DeleteOby O..How pathetic can you be ? And you think I was the poster in the wedding post ??? Nitwit
DeleteOby! Oby! Oby! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteOh get lost my friend! Like you will admit you are the groom.. What do we have the anon option for?
DeleteOby o you are a Pig
DeletePig like your mum!
DeleteI mean continue praying about it, you'll definitely hear from God, relax.
ReplyDeleteJesus is Lord.
God ll speak to u IJMN
ReplyDeleteAnyone who claims to pray & hear the voice of God should quickly make an appointment for schizophrenia screening test...
ReplyDeleteLmao
DeleteNo one cares if you choose to be a rosicrucian, agnostic, atheist or whatever category you fall under. Just respect yourself and keep our almighty God away from your lips. You don't like him? Keep off. That's my problem with you "enlightened" sheeple. Stick to what you believe in and leave the Christians alone.
DeleteAtheist please dont joke about the things of God
DeleteI don't know whatever it is that made you lose faith in God,but please do still remember that He created the universe and also the reason you are alive.
DeleteJust don't forget that if you don't praise Him,stones will praise Him on your account. I pray that one day whatever misunderstanding you have about God will be resolved. I will be praying for you.
In case if you want to know if people actually hear from God,then be my guest.
Make Una chill, jor.
DeleteGos doesn't need anyone to fight his battles for Him. He can do all things...so chill and leave atheist alone
I will read comments
ReplyDeleteLolzzz....
DeleteLady, 21, 200level and u re putting urslf under marriage pressure, u re not serious, may God bless you dad for his wisdom. The guy in question doesn't even have a job and is thinking marriage, toh! E pass me oo.
Babe, go back to schl and have good grades, reward ur parents' effort with d good grades even if u don't want it, get a job and get married; wedding n marriage re both expensive, emotions don't pay bills!
Girl, you don't have a problem at all. In the next 3 years your feelings for him might have changed or he might have taken a walk already. Cool down and concentrate on your studies. Your dad only wants the best for you even though he's the strict type. It's for your own good.
DeleteWhy don't u wait until you both have actual jobs and have established yourself before you think of marriage. Seriously at 21 you should be focusIng on yourself and studies not marriage. Don't get me wrong, it's good u have someone but for now try and establish yourself and let him try and do the same before u guys start thinking of marriage. At least the two of you should have a stable source of income.
ReplyDeleteAlso if u think he's the one explain to your parents that it's your life and your choice.m
I stopped reading when you said he's jobless. How do you plan a marriage with no source of income?
ReplyDeleteHe will have money in three years time..
Delete😅😅😅
DeleteMy friend finish your school first before you start thinking about a man.
ReplyDeleteReally ? Later now u will b d one dat will first call her quez
Delete*gwegz
DeleteI bet your only option right now is hearing from God which is the best thing to do if you ask me.
ReplyDeleteIt takes prayer and fasting to actually 'hear' from God in issues like this. Tell your boyfriend you need space to talk to God.
Present yourself boyfriendless to God, it shouldn't be a situation where you are telling Him you have someone and just want His consent/approval or something.
Remember, the effectual fervent prayer of the righteous availeth much.
And pls, concentrate on your studies, man issues should not affect that.
Bless your heart.
I don't get why young girls rush into marriage. Why not calm down and at least finish schooling before thinking marriage.
ReplyDeleteYou Father is a joker! How come he hasn't heard from God himself? Hahaha
ReplyDeletePlease keep waiting on God He will and you. Tell God you honoring your Father by waiting to hear from Him.
But her boyfriend is even jobless without cash or s house , so wat marriage is he talking about ?tell him u want to finish school first
DeleteGod bless my parents😘😍
ReplyDeleteOya over to other sensible peeps like me to advice her😂
At 21 I dare not! cannot introduce a guy as my bf talk less of marriage. Your parents are so nice. Don't be in a hurry omode yi. You still have years to spend with your husband so enjoy your total freedom now.
DeleteMy dear,let me be honest with you *clears throat* GO TO LAW SCHOOL,DAT PLACE IS SO STRESSFUL THAT HADES MOVED COZ OF THE STRESS, if you finish den. FLY IF U LIKE
ReplyDeletePoster ur a joker... ur father is only asking for what God has told u because he feels that you are too young for such commitments.concentrate on your education,you still have 4 years to go.... Leave man matter for the Gwegwes in the house
ReplyDeleteUr dad might change his mind towards him as time goes by if ur boo would still stuck by you
ReplyDeleteStick
Delete21 years old?odikwua tight..
ReplyDeleteHook him up with one of ur older frnds or ur good single cousin n face ur sch nne. Time still de ur side n besides. U said he ain't working. How Una wan take finance am mbok?
ReplyDeleteBy the way, that hearing from God part from your dad may be pure stunt. Fathers of female doctors and lawyers have an exaggerated image of what their daughters would marry. I bet your guy doesn't fit in that image.......hence the merry go round.
ReplyDeleteStella use your red ink na.
ReplyDeleteHey boo please obey your parents and wait a little and concentrate on your studies while he gets a well paying job. You don't want to marry and keep doing dry fasting for daily meal or beg please look well before you leap. All the best dearie.
ReplyDeleteWhat do you want? Get married before service or law school? Think we'll and make a wise decision. Girl, don't let a make 'wife' you before your time. My policy: finish your education with good grades, serve, enjoy your 'singlehood', work, make some money, add value to your life. You are still young.
ReplyDeleteYou can keep dating him but let him know your plans. Don't be rushed my dear and never you go against your parents wish cos of a man. and close your legs! Don't come here with stories that touch about baby dada or abortion.
First of all how does God speak to you ? Has he spoken to you before ? Is he going to tell you "yes marry him" ....am sorry but your dad sounds delusional...this is the reason why Africa is backwards. In terms of critical thinking and judgement you let religion becloud your sense of reasoning...get done with school and get a job with your broke ass boo then we can listen.
ReplyDeleteI support your family. He doesn't have a job yet and 10yrs older than you. If you were to get married now, you don't expect your family to continue paying your tuition.. So please leave thay relationship and focus on your studies..
ReplyDeleteYou can only think marriage if the man was financial capable now. Not like he must have it all now but at least have something doing
NA WA AT 21, MY DEAR FACE YOUR STUDY AND LISTEN TO YOUR FATHER.
ReplyDeleteImagine you have never known your father. So 21 years after you were born and your father appears to collect your bride price; how about that?
ReplyDeleteJobless and u want to marry him, i hope u wont come back here begging for baby pampers, antenatal money or asking us to contribute towards ur wedding preparations. U re too young for all this pls. Think twice. Marriage is not egwu umuazi. Its not a child's play. Think and choose wisely so that u wont jump in and jump out. Althou money is not everything but its also one of the tools towards a happy marriage. Pls dnt make a mistake u will regret later in life.
ReplyDeleteMy2cent..
Sweety you're 21... don't be in a hurry to jump into marriage, your dad knows what he is doing,be patient. I could tell u a story about this friend of mine that all but fought her dad to let her marry her "boo" but am already tired of typing so... well,it didn't end well and her dad was right! Sounds to me like you need a looooong talk with your mum. Le boo will have to wait! Don't let him use that "am not getting any younger" line on you... That's hardly your fault and there is nothing you can do about it. And hey, if you're sexually active with him, use protection!! You're young and you sound naive. older men can be pretty manipulative. All the best.
ReplyDeleteIt's like your dad love watching nollywood movies esp the ones acted by Pete Edochie.
ReplyDeleteAdd value to your life and focus on God, He will direct your step(s).
Hahaha...d guy one do catch dem young...young girl face ur book...if u come out with good grades n put ur head down men will rush after u...don't allow anybody to manipulate u...dat guy is wiser dan u...
ReplyDeleteSmallie. Go out, have fun and study hard, meet people. You are still a baby okay.
ReplyDeleteSeems the guy is fucking you already. You think marriage is a walk in the park ? Go and learn how to wash your undies clean and other personal hygiene and come back in few years time to talk about marriage.
Madam,abegi finish your school first b4 getting married.
ReplyDeleteI guess the guy don gbensh ur Toto tire. And d thing come sweet dey u sotey u want to abandon ur education. for the sweetness of prick and Toto.
End time child.
Madam,abegi finish your school first b4 getting married.
ReplyDeleteI guess the guy don gbensh ur Toto tire. And d thing come sweet dey u sotey u want to abandon ur education. for the sweetness of prick and Toto.
End time child.
Lmao
ReplyDeleteIt's just like me worry myself about this, am 21 and any guy that will come ask for my hand in marriage will hear it from my dad. Am not even ready, I have 6 more dicks to fuck, I've not even gone to a club. So marriage it's not what u run into, darling it's a forever kind of thing. So u better wise up. Tell him to wait till u finish ur law school.
After eating amala with ewedu and gbegiri with correct beef this evening I dunno wat else to say to you my sister am heavy walai
ReplyDeleteBaby girl, hearing from God is an indirect punishment hahahahaahahahahaha. Parents and their funny ways of saying no and giving punishment. When I was much younger, if I offend my dad by coming into the house after 6pm, or I refuse to do house work, he will ask me to get the bible. Mumu me will go and bring it... then my dad will get the longest verse and ask me to start reading. And as I'm reading, he will be making emphasis on each word lol. I will feel like dying that moment to wake up when food is ready lol.
ReplyDeletePlease my dear, stop wasting your time to hear from God because that is an indirect 'No' from your dad in a more subtle way. Please focus on getting your certificate, get a job and you will see different varieties of men.
Please they are so many things to achieve at your age biko. I'm just regretting why I didn't get more certificates before settling down. No it will be difficult to do so. Children, hubby, family, and work kai!! Make good use of your age now - biko forget men.
Too much nollywood movies...
ReplyDeleteYou are still very young at 21 you don't really need a husband for now concentrate on Ur studies first and pray for him to get a good job.
ReplyDeletePray 4 Gods will. If he is yours, God ll change d minds of ur parents.
ReplyDeleteReminds me of myself at your age...
ReplyDeleteFinal year in Law faculty, with a guy 10 years older. He was in Year 4 when I entered year 1 and somehow, I started dating him . 1st and only boyfriend all through Uni. I was such a good girl sha...come to think of it, loyalty is still my thing till today..though we did nasty stuff sha, abortions etc (God has forgiven me oh, I was young and stupid.)
Anyways, he started pushing marriage. I knew my parents wouldn't agree. We were not of the same religious beliefs though we both claim Christianity. Plus, I'd gotten pretty much in control of the relationship and he was more or less trying to use the years we'd spent together to emotionally blackmail me...
I kept telling him lemme not tell my mum about us oh, cos if I do and my mum prays about us, that would be the end. He laughed and said that can't be true. He kept pressuring me, till I told my mom.. Who declared fasting and at the end of that week, we broke up...
He then went round to various friends saying all sorts about me, I mean all sorts...when I heard, I straight up started seeing one sugar daddy that had been on my case for years...I enjoyed that period sha..till after law school when I met my bloke, fell hopelessly in love and got married at 25. Today, I love my life!
I sometimes try to understand my feelings back then and I think I must have felt pity for him more than anything else and so I stayed as long as I did...so my dear, don't tie yourself down. Mine was jobless like that and I made lots of sacrifices even my fees , bring food from home, money etc...smh..still, he couldn't handle a little shaking, he was motuhing off crazy things...
So face your school, better man de front
You do not have peace about this situation. When God speaks, you will feel at peace. Women do not marry anymore without securing their future. Do not be in a haste to put yourself in serious trouble. Let him wait or move on.
ReplyDeleteReading these comments. Nobody has been able to address the posters first concern,"How do I hear from God?". Poster, God has been speaking. You are probably the one not hearing. Let me help you a little. The circumstances around you are speaking. Your last sentence is God speaking.You have Doubts. You doubt if you should continue as it seems you are wasting this boo's time. You're probably not that into this guy. That's why. So Don't force yourself. God IS speaking through the circumstances around you. You are still young. You've still got a few more years to go in school.Your dad doesn't like the guy one single bit. The guy sef-no job. The pressure you are feeling is majorly from this guy -simply because he is much older than you. If you were dating someone within your age bracket you probably wouldn't be pressured for marriage. You'd be thinking of finishing school and what career to pursue and what you'd like to achieve before you settle down to have kids etc.. But this your guy,ehn, isn't even ready for marriage financially. So stop giving yourself problems. God is speaking. Loud and Clear!
ReplyDeleteReading these comments. Nobody has been able to address the posters first concern,"How do I hear from God?". Poster, God has been speaking. You are probably the one not hearing. Let me help you a little. The circumstances around you are speaking. Your last sentence is God speaking.You have Doubts. You doubt if you should continue as it seems you are wasting this boo's time. You're probably not that into this guy. That's why. So Don't force yourself. God IS speaking through the circumstances around you. You are still young. You've still got a few more years to go in school.Your dad doesn't like the guy one single bit. The guy sef-no job. The pressure you are feeling is majorly from this guy -simply because he is much older than you. If you were dating someone within your age bracket you probably wouldn't be pressured for marriage. You'd be thinking of finishing school and what career to pursue and what you'd like to achieve before you settle down to have kids etc.. But this your guy,ehn, isn't even ready for marriage financially. So stop giving yourself problems. God is speaking. Loud and Clear!
ReplyDeletePLEASE PLEASE DON'T LISTEN TO PEOPLE SAYING YOU SHOULD GET MARRIED OH
ReplyDeleteMARRIAGE IS NOT ICE CREAM AND CUPCAKES,THOSE ONES MAKING MOUTH THAT THEY GOT MARRIED IN SCHOOL AND HAVE GOOD CAREERS ARE LIARS.
MOST OF THEM ARE PRIMARY SCHOOL TEACHERS THAT ARE PAID 30K MONTHLY
I BEG OF YOU,JUST CONTINUE TO DATE THIS GUY BUT FORGET MARRIAGE TALK FOR NOW,BEFORE YOU KNOW IT YOU ARE PREGNANT FOR FIRST AND SECOND CHILD(MAY GOD HELP YOU TO CONTINUE THE SCHOOL SEF)
FOCUS ON YOUR SCHOOL,LAW SCHOOL NOR BE MOI MOI(YOU NEED FULL CONCENTRATION TO COME OUT OF LAW SCHOOL)
I DON'T UNDERSTAND NIGERIAN GIRLS AND MARRIAGE SHA
THEY FEEL ITS A POOL OF WEALTH