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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
ASKING LE BOO ''HOW FAR''
Hello Stells of life, i am sure you do not know the gravity of how you have affected the lives of people you might never know. I am glad to state that i am one of them.
To the reason i decided to come out of an observant,silent reader and campaigner of this blog*side eyes*.
I have been dating le boo for 6 years now(though on and off), but we always come back together for some reasons,we've never broken up though. just some silent months of ego feeding.
He is kind,compassionate,helpful,mature,understands my needs but emotionally unavailable.
For the period of 6years,i have never seen le boo emotionally dependent on me and i believe no matter how much of a man you are,you should still have some soft moments you share with your woman(abi you be rock).
However,the main issue is that,he is just comfy being single,or should I say not permanently attached. I have been hinting him,that i'm ready to be a wifey and i want to start my family already*he is financially stable,goes on vacation twice a year* so i know say money no be the problem.
I have been getting the urge to ask him directly,let me know before i mistakenly turn aunty gwegwegwe*just 26 now*. i know some people might say i am not his main chick,that is not the case here.
So my question is,can i get to ask him or get my parents to ask him,when he will be ready to take the relationship to the next level? He is in his mid thirties,age is not the issue.
kindly make use of your sweet red pen,your sweetie needs it gaaaaaan. LOVE YOU LOTS mama boys.
*If after 6 years whether off and on,you do not know your place in your man's life then honey you have been dating yourself oh.
Get your parents to ask him what?
It's either he doesnt want to marry now or you are the side chick...
Study your relationship again well and you should know what to do.
If you guys are active in the sack,then you might just be a bed warmer.
My analysis is from your chronicle but i might be wrong oh.
Why do I picture a Toke and Maje scenario? My dear, that man doesnt seem like he has found the woman that breaks him, yet. U havent touched the core points of his emotions, hence his 'drag feet' moves. He's still waiting for something. I perfectly understand the type of guy you're referring to.
ReplyDeleteNow, strategy 1 would be to ignore and remove your mind from the relationship a tinny winny bit. And open other dating channels to see what happens. You might change and he might notice and talk about it.
strategy 2 would be to ask him yourself. Like. ... okay.... have 'THE TALK' with him to try understand whats going on in his mind.
strategy 3 would be to have your mum/dad do the 'young man can I know your intentions' kinda talk. Let's see how he acts afterwards.
strategy 4 would be to ask for a break and see if he would reach out to you and drop all forms of his egoistic nature to prove his love.
your boo is a choleric man. They don't break. They don't shake. Very content in themselves. (I'm a choleric woman and I've had this complaint severally though mine is better cos I'm 20% Melancholic too). When a choleric man loves, the only way you know is that she's the only one who can hit his 'spots'. If you haven't done so for 6 years... hmmm....
Why do I picture a Toke and Maje scenario? My dear, that man doesnt seem like he has found the woman that breaks him, yet. U havent touched the core points of his emotions, hence his 'drag feet' moves. He's still waiting for something. I perfectly understand the type of guy you're referring to.
ReplyDeleteNow, strategy 1 would be to ignore and remove your mind from the relationship a tinny winny bit. And open other dating channels to see what happens. You might change and he might notice and talk about it.
strategy 2 would be to ask him yourself. Like. ... okay.... have 'THE TALK' with him to try understand whats going on in his mind.
strategy 3 would be to have your mum/dad do the 'young man can I know your intentions' kinda talk. Let's see how he acts afterwards.
strategy 4 would be to ask for a break and see if he would reach out to you and drop all forms of his egoistic nature to prove his love.
your boo is a choleric man. They don't break. They don't shake. Very content in themselves. (I'm a choleric woman and I've had this complaint severally though mine is better cos I'm 20% Melancholic too). When a choleric man loves, the only way you know is that she's the only one who can hit his 'spots'. If you haven't done so for 6 years... hmmm....
Queen you're right. She should open other dating options. Abeg. Your village is fine when you haven't travelled. Look around you boo
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ReplyDeleteThre may not be someone else. But he's just not found his emotional anchor. And that's very key
ReplyDeleteAnd he would be angry because she's probably a wife material and he doesn't understand the disconnect.
ReplyDeletePlease stop this thing Abeg. Don't we read WNB here were people gbensh for 10 years and marry. Abeg if you want to say it's biblically wrong then say so. Don't use it as a formula or marriage recipe. Abeg!
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ReplyDeleteMadam revelation, biko just thank God. Cos I know many very christian sisters that struggled to find life partner. And it makes me wonder why. If your answer came speedily, bless God for it and count yourself favoured.
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ReplyDeleteComparism they say is the thief of joy. Learn to be grateful for the little things and don't covet what you see on Facebook, it just might be a "facade".
ReplyDeleteFirstly when you start running a business in its first year, try as much as possible not to pay yourself salary, its difficult I know, but just learn to survive on the basics. Reinvest the profit you make back into the business. Study and ask questions about the needs in the area and stock your store with such items. Overtime, that place may be too small for you.
Furthermore, try and have an arrangement with bread distributors to stop by your shop in the mornings so that you can stock up. Be courteous, ask about their well-being and you may not need to be chasing again.
Also, the way you dress is the way you will be address. Dress in a manner that will not make people think you are just another lady running a provision store. Be friendly, but also present yourself in a way that you will be respected.
Lastly, be thankful, what we desire is what we should speak. A closed mouth is a close destiny, ask God to take this provision store to places you didn't imagine. The popular Marks and Spencer brand was founded by a Jewish man in England, selling few pieces of clothes on a wheel barrow. Read books of start up stories of various businesses and companies and be inspired. Create the environment you seek. All the best.
P.S arrange your table and chair in such a way that you can snap facebook pics and upload. Put a laptop install a payment platform on it.
Cheers!
It depends
ReplyDeleteFor me, it is not black and white
It could be he wants to marry you or not
I have seen couples who wed after ten years of dating.
The reason a man meets a woman and marries her in less than four months is probably because those men do not want to marry someone who knows their in and out. It is not so much about love, it is about the thrill of marrying a new person where both of you would discover yourselves in marriage. There are advantages and disadvantages to that. Usually, when the thrill goes, some cannot cope, they start wanting their ex or start going outside for some thrills. Dopamine is not love.
Either your man is waiting for the one or he likes the thrill of breaking up and making up. There are some men who loves drama in a relationship for reasons best known to them, but that cannot continue when you get married. Also,how is his health status? How is your behavior? Could it be he is waiting for you to grow up and start acting maturely?
I am not of the school of thought for women to have more than one active relationship if sex would be involved. There are so many diseases out there. Drop some hint to your man or ask him directly...what are the plans for the future, do not involve your parents. Six years is enough for you to know where you stand with him, he needs to tell you . I am sure you did not grow with him, that's why, you met him rich. Women who stood with their man through it will not hesitate to ask
All the best
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Maybe he's inlove wit someone else
ReplyDeleteEven if a man mentions marriage there is no guarantee that he will marry you
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ReplyDeleteLol atheist you be case.
ReplyDeleteLet him show you he loves you not just say empty words.
ReplyDeleteFor me the lack of emotional connection is the worst red flag of everything poster mentioned. Please flee, you must never force anyone to have feelings for you because it is a never-ending battle that will kill your self esteem. Enough said.
DeleteIt's not about how fast but how well. How well do you know someone in 6 months? What works for you will not work for everyone, some rush like you did and end up marrying a married man or a fake dude.
ReplyDeleteDon't be a kill joy xxx. That yours knocked you up an dumped you doesn't mean every man is that way. Granted, She shld talk with the guy to know her stand, but don't always be in a hurry to relate your life experience with other people's own. You choose the wrong baby daddy.
ReplyDeleteYou wee be there claiming bf , one day he wee bring wedding iv to you, don't Gan start dating.
ReplyDelete@Atheist,be deceiving urself
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ReplyDeleteHe is studying you. He wants to get a PhD in you. Babe pls have some dignity and dump the niggur. Six years fa? Habamana . nothing I won't read on this blog. Oya read my lips, he won't marry you. Kpomkwem.
ReplyDeleteThe last time I checked, you have to be up to 40 before u qualify as a gweg. 30 up is a toddler gweg. 26 eemm she's not a gwegz. Baby gwegz lol
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ReplyDeletePoster u are really funny oh, telling ur parents to ask him kwaa, NNE chill biko DAT kind ain't ready to settle down or he doesnt want to settle down with u
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ReplyDelete6 years on and off ==== 1year on 5 years off ....u can also get the gods of your land to ask him when he is taking your relationship to the next level(dustbin). Nonsense!
ReplyDeleteAlainitelorun.... Kill yourself naw as the corporate chic you is. Some of those people you see will kill to be in your position. You better embrace what you have and build yourself to be who you want instead of Wishing for something you know nothing about. O je sope tie..
ReplyDeleteAsk him straight up
ReplyDeleteI dated my husband for over 6 years i don't even like saying how long sef hiss. Everyone knew us together. Anyways at some point i asked him what is our plan for d future its not enough to just tell me we would end up together! His reply then vexed me and i just blanked him ( his reply was are you proposing to me). I told him no i just need to make plans. after that i let him be weekends if not working i siddon for my papa house. He was now over doing the checking up on me etc but at dt time i had opened up my mind to other possibilities. Luckily i was leaving the country soon so told my parents i am leaving single and unattached o dem no get any potential inlaw anywhere till further notice. We later worked things out and ended up together. But always good to analyse relationships and have a time line biko
ReplyDeleteMy sheep hear my voice and I know them and they follow me: jn 10. To seek the lord is to fast & pray. He did not say that " his pastors alone hear his voice". No we never had sex till he paid my bride price to my dad. We dated because you' be got to work out your salvation with fear & trembling. Jesus isn't going to work out your marriage for you. Just like you study for exams even if you are a genius. We love kids and the lord expects godly offsprings. He tells us when to go for them.
ReplyDeleteMy sheep hear my voice and I know them and they follow me: jn 10. To seek the lord is to fast & pray. He did not say that " his pastors alone hear his voice". No we never had sex till he paid my bride price to my dad. We dated because you' be got to work out your salvation with fear & trembling. Jesus isn't going to work out your marriage for you. Just like you study for exams even if you are a genius. We love kids and the lord expects godly offsprings. He tells us when to go for them.
ReplyDeleteSide chicks be asking stupid questions since 1900.....HE IS NOT INTO YOU.....MOVE ON
ReplyDeleteThank you all for your nice responses. Really appreciate
ReplyDeleteWhen a guy keeps a pic from the past,that means he is not ready to move on,he just moved because the last girl left him.have you ever asked him how his last relationship ended? It could be that the lady left him to go marry because he wasn't ready then. Be sure you are not a rebound case.
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ReplyDeleteDon't assume ooo. Before he will say u don't know his mind u just concluded. It's better to ask him straight up. Face to face. To avoid him saying u jumped into conclusion.
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ReplyDeleteI just broke up with my boyfriend. He showed no emotions, didnt talk about our future together and really couldn't bothered. I have finally given myself 'brain'. Ladies please don't waste your time with a man that clearly doesn't want to be serious with you.
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