Is there anything wrong with a woman giving her man money to help him out in a committed relationship?
That is what we are gonna tackle today in our couch session....get your popcorn and cola ready!
BV Mizz Majesty
''So, I've been dating my better half for sometime now and things just went downhill financially for him at a certain point and being that I work and earn a decent income, I always "offer" to give him money when he's in dire need.
My boyfriend absolutely hates this...It drives him crazy whenever I give him money to help him out.
Sometimes it even results in a minor quarrel when he refuses to accept the money. I know he has a bright future but things are just rough for him now. How does he expect me to sit there and just fold my hands while he suffers due to financial disturbances here and there.
He never asks me for money but I just give him because I just want to help him out with little money here and there to sort himself out whenever he has an issue...at least till things get better...I know it will. He always complains that I'm stripping him of his masculinity...
I have a good job and I'm a woman of very few needs as I live a very simple life so I have cash to spare and what's wrong in helping him out? We are friends afterall and friends help each other out. Isn't that what love is all about?
Even while growing up, my mother would warn us not to give guys money that they in turn would look for girls to provide for with the money and that nature has made a man to be a provider.
As an adult today I dont think twice if my man needs money and I have it.
Has any of you been in this kind of situation before? That stubborn boyfriend of mine never asks me for a dime and it pains me that I'm meant to be his first point of call when trouble comes. He knows I have the money but he never asks and he'll just be there suffering in silence and looking for other people that can help him out. Anytime I bring it up he will say I'm not letting him be a man and he's meant to be the one doing things for me...Isn't this pride?
Meanwhile I know "without a doubt" that he will do the same for me if tables were turned, so what seems to be the problem? Why do we Africans emphasise so much on gender roles?
*Giving is Okay if you are not going to expect that he must Marry yo because you invested time and money on his head..Giving is also Okay if you are giving with the heart of a child of the living God but then some broke axx brother turn it into a day job to collect from their mates and then become too lazy to pursue a career or look for a job.
I will only invest my money in a man who has a dream and knows how to wake up to pursue it.