They should have been asked to take the oath togetherBetter
Hahahaha babe has seen that it will be hard oo.
Lol ... She probably still has one ex somewhere she can't trust herself around. Can't blame the poor girl .
To chook dey hungry me bad
Wisest thing she did.
I will not cheat on my husband but I also will not agree to no oath takingWhat nonsense? What if the man dies tomorrow and I have to remarry?Or what if he starts misbehaving after 6 months and the marriage packs up? Then I ll forever be tied to the effect of swearing before one juju or something? Mmba!
Why did they not tell the man to swear nit to sleep with any other woman too. Stupid set of people. You go girl
D babe dey sincear Na LMFAO she's trying her best bit to lie na
She must be a wayward womean.so she intended to give her something to other men to gbensh
All this twitter fake stories.. 😌😌🙎
I don't think she did the right thing by refusing.She should sleep with only her husband.She can sleep with others when he becomes an ex husband or dead.Whether her husband was asked the same question or not is immaterial.We ought to be accountable, for ourselves. If other people are not, that's them.
Me sef, I'll refuse
Why only d lady? What abt d guy? Stupid tradition
Mchewwwww rubbish, thank God she didn't take the Oath. I will do the same except both of us will take the oath together..
The man should take first cos na dem dey cheat pass..Nonsense
Nothing women no go see for this our obodo nigeria....smh will the man swear the same oath?rubbish
Africa my Africa, anything goes. Why didn't they ask both of them to take the oath????????
Omo see gone! Maybe they were both asked to take it together but she had to go first ...
I think she did d right thing too How can you asked me to take an oath, both of us will ve to take it if need be for it.
All for Twitter followership. I believe this not
See gobe. Why not ask d man to say d same. That was how a man was telling my mum dat a supposed suitor asked d daughter to take an oath before d wedding cos d man stays abroad. The old man then told d idiot dat he will take d same oath so dat it will apply to the two ofthem but d mofo refused. So d idiot was asked to run along. You want to tie a girl and be sharing ur community prick abi?
Maybe her fiancé is weak in bed and she has a secret lover that is servicing her Toto very well.
Haba.. so she can't stay faithful be that.. Hmmmm... Marriage these days...
Enter your comment... Her refusal to take the oat, means she was never going to be faithfull in the marriage. I pity her supposed husband to be. The lady get spare Dick even before the marriage date was fixed.
Good thing she did not. That was how one lady was made to take same oath, few years later, marriage packed up. Dude moved on while lady is still moving about trying to break some senseless oath.
Why shd dey tk it together?D lady go like fucking too much.As a married woman,fuck ur husband only.
Mtcheww. Nonsense. Traditionally biased idiots.
Stella stop dis rubbish tak
That would have just been a criteria for the hubby to put pressure on the lady and neglect his duties. After all the woman don't take oath. Like Stella said both parties should have take the vow. That's what makes it an oath.
both should have agreed or be compelled to take the oath. they want to tie her down with that
They are mad so it's only a woman that should be bound to such stupid oath. Why didn't they ask the man to swear? The lady did the best thing jare.
Together forever. Oath or no oath, we do it together.
Yes it happened in warri but d guy is from Kogi state, but they have resolved d issues and are getting married today, I pray the marriage lasts though
What, I laugh in yoruba. They should ask d both of dem to swear.
The babe did very well jare.See how they are trying to cage her so cheaply.They are aware their son is irresponsible and want to psych her into dying there when the demon reveals himself.Anyone that think that babe is promiscuous hence her refusal is sick upstairs. Why try to chain nd mistreat someone's daughter coz she accepted to marry their son...rubbish.Stupid family with an archaic and deeply selfish tradition.That girl's senses and her God is real, she might even be an SdK bv.I am so happy for her beautiful decision, let me go and lick stew in celebration.
What nonsense ,we they allow the same for their daughter I raise hand for the gal She na real babe Am sure na Edo babe like me
Hahahaha, did she see the small pee pee that made her not to agree to be faithful. Chai
u will definitely do dis wen u married to a successful Benin man. All na format e no dey work.
Hi5 to dat lady.Women will always be subjected to take terrible oats while the men go Scot free. Nonsense!
Yes she did the right thing. What nonsense?
The. Babe no need stories in the future.o na eke nkwucha
The man needs to do that first...though I don't believe this shit
Stella I don't get, she did the right thing as how?
Yes ooo she did the right thing by not answering them
Stella me sef sorry. Mtcheew
Better a cancelled wedding, than a divorce.
As in to say dat women are more promiscuous or what? End time oath taking.
Fuck d hoe
Sounds like Nsukka in Enugu state. Na them get that kiind tradition. 😒
I will never cheat on my husband and I will never take an oath that I will never cheat on my husband. Oaths have spiritual(negative) consequences whether they are broken or not.
The lady did the right thing by refusing to swear with palm wine. That's diabolical
That's the same as going to swear in a shrine
She's not ready to be faithful, that's all. Why are you asking the man to take oath ? For what ?
Nna, go back nd read properly,biko!
Really, what if the man die nko. I won't swear to any stupid oath. ndi ara
Hmm Na waooo
Nope my dear she can still cheat just dat she's not wise enough! Those who swear only do doggy position . Na from front she swear no be thru back!
God forbid . E good as she no take . Na wetin. On top of man.
It was better cancelled. What nonsense.Was the man told to swear too?Even if he was, what sorta rubbish is that? That's how they gonna rope the lady down forever even if the man turns out to be a monster or dies. Wtf is wrong with Nigerians for crying out loud! Gosh
A society controlled by men. All they do is set rules that favors them all in the name of tradition. After all they think they are doing us a favor by marrying us. What is good for the goose is also go for the gander. If at all I agree to take this oath, the man must take it first. I am very proud of the lady for not taking this oath. Rubbish.
If the man will take d oath, then no wahala.If the man is exempted from swearing, then they should all get the fuck off!Rubbish!She did d right thing!
As in, arrant nonsense.
Good she didn't swear. Anything that involves swearing with fetish stuff or oath taking, most times have negative issue attached to it.The man never ready to marry. Yeye!
Emjay will u swear? What a debased and backward mind some African women have?
Why was the man not made to take the same oat. That is how we tie ourselves in bondage
E good as the woman no swearWhat arrant nonsenseWhy dem no ask the man first that kind yeye questionNonsense and ingredients@Galore
Yes she did the right thing by not swearing. Why exempt the man from also swearing?He should marry his mum then.
Dats y Linda keeps calling u a failed yahoo boy...u no just get sense
She did the right thing. I would refuse too. Unless my hubby was asked to swear too. Men taking advantage of women since forever. Bastard! And he'll end up cheating on her from lagos to London. Smh
She did the right thing if u ask me. So women are the only ppl that can swear never to cheat, what Abt the man. Nonsense.
Oh just shut up. Why was d man not asked to swear too? Abi he's a goat, not a human being. D man has a motive. Even if I have no intention of cheating on my spouse I'll not swear any rubbish. Useless set of illiterates, it's only a woman that u people have power for. They should ask the man to swear too now.
Emjay I won't swear took if huzy no follow swear. Hian leave English. Na me n him dey inside d marriage now
@spidex.. Wtf is sincear?.
It doesn't mean shit. It only means her hubby intends on cheating on her in d future and wants to take steps to prevent her from doing dsame. If it was done in good faith, then they should have taken the oath together.
Thank you for speaking my mind.
Of course it's not a Nollywood movie neither is it a real life story, it's a true twitter story... Ndi twitter and imaginary story
No, this is monumentally wrong. What's good for the goose is good for the gander...
The man don't need oath.
U are a GOAT...I detest u a lot. Tueh.
I'm married to a Benin man, and I didn't do shit. He keeps threatening me about traditions and crap, not knowing I've been cheating on him since he started cheating on me for a long time. I haven't died or gone mad. Stupid randy men trying to control d women they re cheating on.
You don kill me laugh here @ monkeynofine. You mean juju no dey catch up doggy style ?
The man don't need to swear to any oath. He's the man here, he can gbensh and marry more.. Lol
The woman for say ,I will not cheat on my husband with another manThen,she can go ahead and cheat with a lady😃Men,Una think say Una smart bah?@Galore
Your offensive mouth odour no dey make u talk better thing everytime.
Tank goodness she didn't swear oooo which kind usless oath taking b dat
Being accountable is different from oath taking. Marriage vows no do them again now na oath swearing. Some women will swear their destinies away all in a bid to bear mrs.
Sense is far from you. The oath taking has nothing to do with cheating. They use it to tie women down so the man can be gallivanting around. Backward people.
Gbam! And to think some women were condemning her. That's how some of you will sell your rights all coz of mrs.title and u end up being miserable. Awon ode!
Hmmmm me I willnt swear oo,cuz even after I swear anything can happen abeg make d guy parkwell na by oath.
Thank u o...people are not seeing the spiritual side of it just jumping on the judgina train without thinking well.
Choose your battles wisely , and early too.And I think a man who loves a woman should familiarise her with the traditions and ways of his people so you don't just waste her time for nothing like this one here.And ladies, learn to ask questions too.My Opinion: It's not a big deal for a woman who truly loves a man to take such oaths but when it's one sided, it simply spells doom.Some of this traditions go beyond the marriage. Even if she should divorce the man tomorrow, once she sleeps with another man she's doomed for life.I know of a place where it is the man that falls sick if the wife cheats. And if she doesn't confess and do some sacrifice with a goat, the man might just die.I know some of y'all will nod at this one, lol.
She's not ready to be faithful or she's doesn't want to be tied down spiritually. Is the man ready to be faithful too. Some of you men will destroy someone else's daughter all in the name of stupid tradition. Continue thinking through ur anus till kingdom come. Ode
I believe whatever oath, bounds or vows you take with your partner ends when death happens to the other. Then if you are divorced I don't think you have any bounds together whosoever. According to the twitter handle, she was asked to swear she won't cheat on her husband so that means in marriage. He can't be hour husband if you are divorced or when he is dead. But is till won't swear. Unless he is also sweating that he will be faithful to me in marriage. Not because I'll cheat but then why should I swear when he is not swearing
What nonsense?! She did the best thing, some desperadoes would have taken the oath.
Oath !!!😦Am glad she turned down that archaic plan. Yimu 😒
Hahaha... She did the right thing oooYou never can tell what tomorrow holds ooo
Wrong application! Trust wud av been given a chance
Must she take an oath? The bible says let your yes be yes,nothing more. What if she gets raped at the long run? Ndi nmadu ana atinye onwe ha na bondage
What type of oats? Quaker or for making swallow?
So if she gets rape by chance then what happens? Stupid tradition! It's only in naija we will be hearing rubbish.
Hahahaha...@MonkeynofineBia Mayor can you swear never to cheat on your woman? Why are you men so selfish?? I wouldn't want to cheat on my husband,but I will never take an oath. Allow me do what comes from my mind,do not subject me under some kind of pressure.
Its part of custom and tradition for the woman to kneel,drink palm wine while repeating the words (oath) during a marriage ceremony failure to do it will be seen as disobedience and the marriage ceremony can be postponed indefinitely,.. If the marriage crashes you are expected to return the bride price and get on with ur life... If u can't deal pls don't fall in love with some South South guys abeg
Are there any marriage ceremonies without oaths, vows?
My dear...Twitter and fake stories
Na lie jor. It's Edo or Calabar
Even if they tell both me and my man to take an oath, I won't try it. Oaths/Covenants are very strong and once taken will be very difficult to undo. If we get tired of each other and decide to move on nko? Then one stupid ancestral oath will now hold someone back. Nah!
Yeah @peacemaker,i agree with you,she must be a wayward womean but definitely not a wayward woman.anumpama di kaa gii
Thank you o.. Swear ko swear ni.
Who told you she is not ready to be faithful?you are saying crap!What if their marriage packs up or the man dies?naa you go break or cancel the oath for her?nonsense
HahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahChoi u just kee me aswear!
Very smart babe!
Its better for the wedding to be cancelled than to take an oath.As for me,myself and i,will never take anykind of oath in this life nor the next
She did well. Infidelity is permitted for men but an abomination for the female. Doule standards.
Anything "oath" my hand no dey.
All these fake twitter stories.....
Loud it monke face, exactly d what I want to hear.
The lady would have been doomed for life cos even if the guy leave her the jazz will continue to work. Smart babe
My view on how to treat women. 1.Don't compare your wife to other women. You don't know what their husbands are going through. 2. NEVER expose your wife's weakness to your family or friends or run to them whenever you have issues. Problems are best solved between you and your woman. 3. Don't think you are man so you can use intimidation, shout or violence to communicate your moods. Agreesive men don't make a happy home.4. Speak gently and calmly to your wife. Never raise your voice at her, it demeans her and shows you think she is stupid. 5. Do your responsibilities as man...don't leave every to your woman.6. Never blame your wife if she doesn't take care of the home everyday. She is swamped with house work and helping you raise the kids.7. Don't be wasteful spending money on drinks, friends and extended family.The wife and children are your first responsibility.8. Sex is also important to women. Her pleasure should be considered before your own.9. Never compare your wife to your ex-girlfriends. If you loved them so much why didn't you marry them instead of your wife.10. Never shout down your wife or challenge her in front of the children. The children are watching. They won't listen and obey her too.11. Tell your wife she's beautiful even if you know she's looking normal. Women love compliment. 12. Don't forget that women also want attention and someone to share their thougts with. Never be too busy for your wife. 13. A prayerful man is a better equipped husband. Pray always for your wife and family. Don't leave the prayers to your wife. 14.Treat your wife like a queen. Buy her gifts, take her shopping and once in a while, cook for her. 15.Please don't forget your these anniversary dates. Wedding ,engagement,the first time you kissed. I beg you. These dates mean a lot to women. (Don't ask me why). I also don't know. 16. Your mother should not have the final say in your marriage. You married your wife, not you and your mother. Let her talk in her own husband's house. 17.There are 5 days each month that you have to say "I'm sorry", "yes baby" and "I love you" more than 7 times a day. That's when she's menstrating. Copied
Madam anonymous I am not in ssupport of a man cheating on woman or getting married to two wives or more but it is a sign of total godlessesness when both spouse cheat on each othe. On what gground are you going to stand to ask God for a change. Don't you know every action is a seed and this seed will become a tree and bear fruit that you will reap whether now or in the nearest future?
She did the right thing
The food nko... I hope their didn't throw it away! I won't dress up n makeup n won't eat. Who Dia marriage epp?
I wouldn't do it either. Not because I have any intention of cheating but according to biblical principles my yes is yes and my no is no. If that is not good enough for them then........
It's so true. I heard about a man who made his wife go through it and then after wedding,he will only sleep her for procreation and no other time,he continuously starved this woman while he goes out to enjoy with his concubine.The lady tried to divorce him but he refused to collect the dowry. So this kind of oath exist but only the ones that are not wise enough take it.The husband and wife should take the oath if they must or nothing.
Nigerians and hypocrisy, people don't have the fear of God but fear tradition like mad, I mean it's the same oath we take at the altar with the bible, but most pple already feel God is merciful so they can always cheat but will not dare it with small gods.
But both parties will still take same vows at the church. Oh I forgot Christians take God for granted, those vows at the altar mean absolutely nothing to them
Why is it that women are always made to go through somethings that are debased ?.why did Jesus not condemned the adulterous women in the bible ? The punishment for the sin of adultery is not a one sided issue because God will judge both genders.so if a woman must take an oath the man should also do the same.moreover some of this there so called oath have a lot of implications beyond the ordinary. Also a real child of God should avoid oath taking.
The lady did the right thing,what if the man starts abusing her,she wont leave because of the oath.If it happens the man is a one minute man she stay glued to the man because of oath.She did the right thing biko
For me it's not about if the lady or the man was asked to take an oath, but about how people have fear for our traditional gods but disregard and ridicule ALMIGHTY GOD. Its easier to take for granted Oath taking before God cos He's merciful. Its oath and allegiance couple pledges in church before God using Bible to exchange vows. Same applies to court how some will still lie after taking oath with Holy Book, but they dare not lie if cutlass or iron is used cos they'd meet their doom straight ni.#passengerpassingthrough
But don't we take an oath of fidelity during your church wedding? It's the same thing people.
@Esther MgboluLafff wan faint me for here.Some have head but have no brain naim be this pissmaker case.Marjorie
DonMayorJustify your statement that the man doesn't need to take an oath as well as the woman.If she must take the oath, what is the reason?By the way, u say she has to take it to stay faithful to the man.Then u think the man doesn't have to do same so that he stays unfaithful to the one who is faithful to him. This is simply WITCHCRAFT!!!Control freaks! Wanting to have your life to yourself while you think others shouldn't have their basic freedom so that u can manipulate them too.If this story is true, the lady did just perfect. There's no equity in that pronouncement. It is like lending someone your life savings knowing that the fellow is a pauper would has maintained track record of swandering resources at his disposal. Only a fool will yet take part in such deal either by proposing or accepting such.Marjorie
Yes u are ryt and that secret lover is you bah?There are no uncertainties here Pissmaker! The only thing on the write up is certain so stick wiv that.How u take manage pass English language for WAEC?
While as a married man fuck the whole world bah???I can you have head but where is your brain???Empty case!Marjorie
Loooolz @ anon 18:00
MayorHe can marry more what??? Like he can continue polluting the world? Indeed you have head but no brain.White men done use the title MAN wey u dey use anyhow take invent things to better your life. Y are u still living below expectation when other people have gone ahead of u? There is more to being a man, start thinking, talking and acting like one. Africa men take your rightful place and forget a these menial topics(witchcraft).Marjorie
Thanks for the information @ precix cakes but my question is ....Was the bride not aware of this oath taking ceremony? Am a man and married for 15years and I don't agree that she should take any oath unless the man takes it first. He is the head and should lead by example if his intention is pure and innocent.
The place you are talking about is Agbor,delta state
Peace maker bring ur sister & daughters to swear onuku
Enuguezike in Enugu state still do it but there men takes care of their wives cos they don't waste time in divorcing them if they mess up
Why should the woman take the oath alone. She gave herself brain. What nonsense.
My hubby people say if a married woman starts sleeping around with other men and the husband knows and refuses to talk that things will be difficult for the man .They told me this before marriage , I had to tell my papa say abeg u go need to tell them too say if a married man sleeps with any other woman apart from his wife , he will run mad for life and that the madness no get cure.Trust my papa na, him give them the history when I was absent na so hubby tell me , I pretended not to be aware my papa passed dat message.
Just imagine!! Men anyway most men are extremely selfish. Girl did d right thin biko
Hahahahhah join golden morn to the 'oats' LOL
Not believing this story.
Stellz, by now you ought to realise "gender equality" in cases of marriage or infidelity can never be attainable, especially in countries like Nigeria. It will be a monumental waste of time and energy to keep the debate on. For one, traditional marriage, which is one of the 2 valid marriages in Nigeria, clothes the man with the right to marry more than one wife. Surprisingly, a lot of people, women included, favour traditional marriage to marriage under the Act (Registry or Church wedding). A lot of people have more regard for the payment of the dowry or bride price than the marriage certificate issued at the Registry or in a licensed church.Clearly, the instant cases is about a traditional marriage where the man can sleep with and marry other women but the wife is not permitted to sleep with or marry another man. Polygamy is accepted by tradition but polyandry is considered a taboo. So how can you wonder whether the man was asked to make the same oath? Of course he wasn't. That would be untraditional. It's only marriage under the Act that somewhat insulates the wife. She can file for divorce on grounds of adultery if her husband cheats (we all know it's still the woman who will be under attack if she chooses to exercise this right). Secondly, once a man marries under the Act, he can no longer marry a 2nd wife, even under tradition, without dissolving the 1st marriage. If he goes ahead to pay the bride price of another woman while his 1st marriage subsists, that amounts to bigamy, a criminal offence (of course, a lot of women are still discouraged from filing criminal charges against their husbands, plus a lot of courts will frustrate the complainant till she has no choice than to withdraw the charge and settled her marital issues at home). You see? Even when the law protects a woman's interests, it's still almost impractical.I'm not sure why the lady in question refused to swear but I commend her guts. I'm a stickler for honesty, no matter the backlash. It's also possible that her faith forbids her swearing. We should also consider the fact that she was blindsided. Perhaps she had no idea that she will be asked to take such an oath. A lot of oaths taken in traditional marriages are fetish because the "enforcer" of the oaths are the village deity.
There s not trust in d relationship from d beginning.
Relax guys, traditional marriage is also known as polygamous marriage. It allows the man marry other women but it forbids the wife "having" other men.If you want "equal rights", which is more enforceable in theory than in practice, insist on marriage under the Act, which is conducted at the Registry or at a church licensed to wed couples and issue Marriage certificates.Most traditions are unfair to women and has been in existence for centuries, but it is what it is. You either subject yourself to it or refuse to be bound by it.
You guys fail to realise that this is a traditional marriage. The husband is not expected to be faithful because he can marry other women. It is unfair but that's tradition for you. It's marriages conducted at the Registry or at a church authorised to wed and issue certificates, that both parties take the same oath and infidelity by both the man and the woman, is forbidden.
If the man refuses to accept the return of the bride price, the lady in question should file for the dissolution of the marriage at the customary court. The customary court has the powers to dissolve traditional marriages where the man refuses to accept the bride price.It will be paid into the court's Registry and for all intents and purposes that marriage ceases to exist in law and tradition. You can "cage" a wife by refusing to collect the bride price you paid. I hope lady gets legal advice.
That's my place with our strong tradition.
Ah hear.. Them no serious at all
I wonder if HIV/AIDS would recognize that she was trying to be a dutiful and honest wife when she decides to account for herself alone and leaves the husband to do as he pleases and catch all sorts out there to bring home to her. Abeg ces la vie, you're not making any sense in this context. They both need to be accountable to themselves and each other otherwise the good one among them suffers due to the bad one's conduct/actions/extramarital activities. It is not in every situation that you have to bury your head in the sand as long just because you're the one doing what is right. No no!
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