It was a stress free pregnancy devoid of any form drama. My blood pressure was normal and all test and scan i did was just too ok. my EDD was April . April came but no sign of baby's coming. I managed to wait though my tommy was like a woman carrying four babies.
My visit to clinic became weekly.
In the month of May,I went to clinic may 1st and Dr sent me for scan which showed that my baby was very such OK and relaxed. The scan however predicted may 3rd to 5th latest. In my mind, why can't this baby be removed now as I could feel its head (pressure )when walking.
Fast forward, to May 5th,no show, mum was dead worried but hubby was relaxed
He made me relax till my next appointment which was 8
May 8th,I dressed well,carried my baby bag, stopped over at mum's house, dropped the bag and headed straight to clinic
Got there waited for my turn and went in
Dr sent me upstairs to get checked immediately
I was 2cm(,thank God o)
I came back and showed dr the report
. He said I should go home since I wasnt in labour and I should come when I start feeling pain. I then asked if there was another option,he said I have the option of being admitted for induction .
Wow so something like that dey since?
Oya start doing it immediately.
Not so fast,you need to go get your stuff.
Fiam,see me on top okoda( thank God he has blessed me now o)
Carried my bag from mum's house,stopped at her place of work and informed her of the new development. See cry,hay,this pikin,you want to go and force yourself? Please don't go o,she called her brother's wife (they are colleagues)that one came and started preaching on the benefits of natural labour. I just left them and headed towards the hospital.
I made sure I was already checked in before I called hubby(to avoid another preaching)He didn't believe not until he called mum.
Not too long,they both showed up and saw I wasn't joking. I came out and told them I must have my baby today. I couldn't wait.
The nurse called me in ,one other woman rushed in and said her water broke though her time hasn't reached.We were both pumped in our anus and we took turns to poo (different toilets tho,inside the labour room).
After we stopped pooing, a tablet was inserted into our vijay simultaneously at exactly 11am. Few hours latter,small,small,pain started. By 2pm,the woman shouted "e de presse o" nurses checked and asked her to push and her cutie was out.
So I was now alone. She ordered malt and drank.
Seeing her,I also ordered for ,nurses stopped me but I insisted. Immediately I took it,I started throwing up. The pain came from no where and tripled within minutes.
Hubby and mum were outside.
I shouted my lungs out. The pain was unbearable I started beging the nurse to do something about the pain but she said nothing.Hubby and mum were allowed in at intervals
As e dey pain me, I was pressing real hard. The nurse will just look up and say "you de press?na you sabi o"
She came and asked if my water had broken?hian,please I don't know o
"U see water? HA, "no I never see " she then ruptured the membrane
Na now the pain enter better stage.And I followed the pain by pressing thinking it would relief me.
The CMD came and said I was progressing well as a priming after checking ..
6pm,I hard this urge to poo,they checked and saw my baby's head.
I was asked to push but no strength in me. The nurse and nanny did their best to help but no power. I was too weak. She tore me,there was enough space for baby to pass through but I couldn't.I had pushed for too long when I wasn't supposed to.
The nurse now climbedd the bed and started pressing my tommy then my girl flipped out.
Behold she was born. But I was weak too weak.
My baby didn't cry. She had drank too much water . The nurse gave her the beating of her life and she let out a loud cry after sneezing twice. She weighed 4kg and was charcoal black(people laughed at me then)
The placenta was out as well ,she was cleaned and dressed.
News went to hubby and mum that baby was delivered.
Then attention shifted to me again,my bed was full of blood. Very unusual. Then they started stitching
Hubby and mum requested to see me but they were denied (ehen,I could hear my mum saying she told me to wait o) hubby was calm as always. Then the nanny and nurses started running up and down the stairs
Dr came and noticed my cervix had torn, resulting to uncontrollable bleeding
8pm ,I was still being stitched (without Anesthesia_)meanwhile,these were nures who just took over for night shift.
My labia minoral was torn and the urethra was open .
They were confused to an extent because the bleeding wasn't reducing despite the weavon they were sewing there. One of them had to call the CMD and he came from home immediately because he had already closed for the day.
He asked them to rush me into the theatre immediately. This was 9pm. I was taken there and I kept asking after my baby.
Nurses told me she was OK that grand ma and daddy were with her. I insisted on seeing her,she was brought . I held her and she was busy sucking her thumb.
Then I had hope
While in the theatre,a light was fixed directly to my vijay,and another round of stitching commenced (still without Anesthesia) He did what he could do and left the rest(according to him) God will take charge of the rest..
After all said and done,hubby came in with mum and his friends (didn't know he had called everybody) He gave me a sweet wet kiss and thanked me for being strong for him.
I was happy.
They brought a wheel chair to take me to the ward but I insisted on "walking" even though nurses didn't want to,hubby told them to allow me.
My both hands were held and I limped to the ward.
Next day,we were discharged
Two whole weeks, I couldn't sit
Mum insisted i sat on "joko" to fasten healing but I couldn't . Even to put pad self was war.
She pressed it hard with very hot water and I did sit bath thrice a day .
On her naming,I managed plastic chair for few minutes and went to lay.
Healing took a while and resuming gbenshing was war.
6yrs later,I had my son at home before getting to the hospital.
My daughter will be 9 on may this year
Note- the labia minora is still open (not covering my urethra)and one of the stitches found its way out last DEC,and I had it removed on the 31st
God bless you Stella for sharing pardon my gbagaun and the long epistle.
What are all these big names?Labia and Aretha and Minora...Fear and goose bumps didnt even let me go to google to see what is still open...My God so your kinikan has no closing?wow!
This is your story can traumatise someone and is also a lesson to listen when to push and when not to...Jeeez!
9years later you still have stitches that came out and had to be removed?9years?JESUS CHRIST..what are the ropes still doing inside you?
Sorry for all the questions.