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Thursday, 29 June 2017

Five Signs Of A Childish Adult

There are two types of ages: the physical and emotional age.


 A childish adult is basically a person whose physical age is that of an adult, but whose emotional age is that of a child.



Looking for Who to Blame

When an adult hardly takes responsibility for his/her actions, and constantly looks for who to blame, that’s might be a sign of emotional immaturity in an adult. Typically, when things go wrong children look for who to blame, while adults take responsibility and try to figure out how to fix the problem.



Poor Impulse Control


Children tend to be impulsive when they are hurt or mad – they speak recklessly or take impulsive action without pausing to think about the consequences. Adults that mimic such behavior when reacting to issues show signs of emotional immaturity. Adults are typically better at self-control and understand themselves enough to calm themselves and resist the impulse to act before they think in a given situation. This is not to say that adults don’t occasional have ‘slips’, but this happen less with an adult than a child.



Immature Defense Mechanisms


One primitive defense mechanism is denial: ‘I didn’t say that!’; ‘I never did that!’, when the individual actually said so. These are immature defense mechanisms used by a child to protect himself/herself or escape tight corners. Another primitive defense mechanism, is attacking or being hostile to anyone who says something different or has a different view from yours. Adults that have such immature defense mechanisms can to a large extent be considered childish adults. They still have a lot of growing up to do in this aspect.




Need to be Center of Attention


This point speaks for itself. It’s safe to say that an adult whose priority is to always be the center of attention still has some growing up to do.




Lack of an ‘Observing Ego’

Emotionally mature adults have outbursts, but what’s different about them is that after their outburst, they soon after realize, with their ‘observing ego’, that their outburst was inappropriate. They can see with hindsight and admit that such behavior was against their value system. On the other hand, children have not yet been able to internalize guidelines for respectful behavior and develop a value system. As a result, they don’t have the ability to judge when their actions are out of line and thus blame others. Adults whose behaviors are in line with this child like response can be considered childish adults.

Damilola Ojo


20 comments:

Miss Ess said...

Good to know.

Esther Okoro said...

If that is the case,then,there are many childish adults.






God Bless Everyone.

Anonymous said...

Akuko na egwu mick ejeaya...

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

Let me try and bring their names here. Dem full here

��Dreamcatcher �� said...

Poor impulse control and need to be centre of attention is sooo ME 🙆

Jeni_zee said...

Abeg where does a 49years old man that keeps malice with wife and friends fall into? Which category biko? Kids don't keep malice

Justyswt said...

Lol. So many here.

Love.Eating.Pussy said...

Examples of childish adults:Tonto dike and churchill....Their marriage and seperation saga fits into these laid examples.

Teemah said...

So many attention seekers everywhere,anything to make the world notice,even if it means behaving like a baby.

Anonymous said...

I know cos my hubby is childish adult.

ukwu dimond said...

Hhhhhhmmm

Anonymous said...

My hubby is so childish he hides his phone whenever he's chatting with old women friend, and he is always deleting their messages even in email,always begging tgem their pictyres i call them two stupid fools.

Anonymous said...

Stella I can't access your site easily these days. What is wrong? Please fix it, it's giving me headaches.

Sharon Aminu said...

😀😂😁@jeni

wideawake naija said...

Smiles. Then we are all childish adults. I see myself in 3 of em.

Anonymous said...

My hubby is number one.A very childish adult.

Mummy G Square said...

One childish adult in the same office....can make work life miserable

code009 said...

Its not that serious, I laugh when I encounter any childish adult sorry I can't help you. Lol

Anonymous said...

eyahhh u need help to change if not u will be a failure

Olaide Davies said...

Used to be a " notice me " somebody but I've grown up

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