Go and get into a relationship make we rest. E dey your body. Hisss

you are so selfish and a terrible husband, a woman is not mentally okay but all you think about is s** se*, can't you do something meaningful with your life than talk about it. When have it become a problem with who should initiate it? you are just looking for approval to start misbehaving outside. We are not ready to grant you that part, if you want to cheat on your wife and destroy your marriage just go ahead and face the consequences of your action.

Your wife is not mentally, emotionally okay. Her hormones are not working properly, alot is on her mind, you need some time to find out what is really happening to her. Stop making the whole process too difficult for her, talk with your wife as friends and not like a fighting mate. She will start initiating it when you treat her well, assist with house chores, take off some bills, share her more love, care, attention, pamper her, spoil her with gift. Don't stay there expecting so much when you are doing nothing to help the situation.

Poster If I understand you well, you are the only one initiating sxx and your issue is that you want her to also initiate sxx. your love language is that you also want to be desired by her initiating the sxx abi? Are there times you initiated the sxx and she refused you? If no, Oga you are very lucky to have that woman if your only problem is that she isnt initiating sxx. If na me you marry with this your complaint, you wont even see that sxx anytime you initiate it except I am a full time housewife and you pay me salary for doing chores and taking care of your children if not, that sxx, you nor go see am again o and that outside wen dey your eyes, I go let you go there. Nonsense

Oga just admit say your eyes day street, go and get another woman outside and see exactly what you are looking for, hissssssssssssssss out from the post..

My guy, is it just the "initiating" that's paining you to the extent of trying to get a babe outside?
Not that she's resisting your advances, but not initiating?
Well, to each their own and I can't trivalise how you feel.

Kindly have a deep conversation with her on this and tell her everything. How you feel undesirable and thoughts of having someone anywhere desiring you is beclouding your mind.

I feel it will make her start doing this.

Meanwhile, hope every other thing is fine and working well in your home right ?
Cos most times, when women are encumbered with many things, the last thought on their mind is having a...ex
And in unstable marriages, they do it as a responsibility/duty, not necessarily because they enjoy it.
So, expecting a woman in this category to initiate it, is asking for the impossible

Men with initiate sex all the time. Initiate it and go with the flow. Some women are not wired to initiate sex and there is nothing wrong with it. When you initiate it did she deny you? I don't get it, why has it become a problem for some men when their wife did not initiate sex.

You want to compare her sex-life 4 years ago as a single lady to her sex-life now as a married woman? She was initiating it then because she wasn't carrying the responsibilities that is on her now.
This is why I keep telling my friends that I don't want to do live-in with a man. These men don't know how a woman can be drained and exhausted with chores, taking care of kids and also going out daily to help themselves stand financially.

A lot of men are going through this and I seriously don’t like Stella’s red pen on this one. Instead of castigating the man, encourage him to be more patient. Na only women dey go through hormonal change? What about in a household where the man does all these house chores and is still starved of sex or the wife makes it look like she’s no longer sexually attracted to her husband? Cos most men don’t talk, yall think they are okay. This one wey still speak out una go attack am

Haaaa 😲😲😲 one year? 14:,14.guesx the signs might have been there before the marriage, but one party ignored , because of the many years of dating.

Last lasd, it would have been better they were never married

Some people are not really into sex that much unless you initiate then, they pick up. Maybe she is one of those. If she responds once you initiate, then I don't think this should be an issue unless, there's more to it

Sexual compatibility people how far? Test drive supporters how far!

I see you made reference to the fornication outside marriage and surprised things are no longer the same.

One of the reasons lots of you give for fornicating is, to test sexual compatibility to know if your sex drive match each other. but what a lot of you don't know is that , is your self-centeredness that's speaking.


If you have the love of Christa and you obey God you will always find a middle ground.even if you both have different sex drives.
Everything for you people is me me me. Even in your chronicles you are talking about yourself. Thinking of how to go out to commit adultery to please yourself .

No self control, I don't blame you when you didn't have it as single man and kept yourself till marriage, is it in marriage you will now have self control?

Self control zero
Patience Zero ....
everything is instant self-gratification for you people

If you love your wife as Jesus Christ loves the church you will pray for your wife, be gentle with her and be hopeful and show tolerance like Christ...that is how Christ loves the church and you wont be saying you want to replace her.. when you were fornicating did Jesus Christ replace you or he flung you to the side?

Love is long suffering and doesn't seek his own gain. Read up on love and learn how to love your wives you men.

If a woman brings this issue here, the same woman you call the weaker vessel you won't hear her saying she wants to go outside nor would she be told by blog visitors to go outside but you men who are mandated to love your wives like Christ , a lot of you are so weak that any small thing you are going outside you are going ...

When you expressed your displeasure what did she say? Didn't she expressed her own too?

As a christian, seeking fulfillment outside your marriage is not the answer. It will damage your relationship with God, your wife, and yourself.
Instead, have an honest and loving conversation with your wife to understand what has changed.
Many factors might have affected her interest including stress, emotional struggles, health issues, hormonal changes etc
Remember that marriage is a covenant, not just a contract. Feelings may change over time. Continue praying for your marriage, asking God to heal whatever has caused the distance between both of you.

Ashawo man!