''Dear Stella,I am a 21 year old yound lady with a baby girl (age 2years) for a guy
whom i love so much and i believe the feeling is mutual.
When i took in, my parents went to a man of God to enquire about the
guy and his family and they were told not allow me marry the guy
because his people are bad, so parents did every thing possible to
separate us, but we stayed together despite all the troubles until i
had my baby and my parents stop my bf from coming to see our baby
claiming that in our town, if a girl gives birth in her parents house
the baby belongs to the girl's family; they even ask me to stop
collecting things from the guy.
My bf out of annoyance shouted at my parents and said all kind of
unpleasant words to them.
My bf and I started having issues as a result of this because some
times he will ask me to bring the baby to his house and when i am
unable, He accuses me of supporting and joining my folks to deniel him
of his baby, this issue became too frequent that i just couldn't take
it anymore so we broke up but before we broke up, i made him apologize
to my parents for the things he said to them, which he did and they
forgave him.
So when we broke up he left Lagos for Abuja where Family lives. After
some months he started asking me to come back to him, for the love we
once shared, for the sake of our daughter and that he cant imagine
himself getting married to another woman, i was so adamant about all
his plea until after 11months of our break up and just this month he
came down to Lagos and we made up.
He told me to keep praying for him, that the next he will be coming
down to Lagos is come pay my bride price and do all neccessary thing.
No one has ever loved me the way he does; we play, laugh & cry
together, in fact he makes me happy.
Same month we made, my parents took us (my siblings and I) to another
man of God concerning a Family issue; when the man of God saw my baby,he enquired about my baby's Dad, i told him that he is currently in
Abuja and he (man of God) told me not to marry my baby's Dad, that he
is only decieving me, that if i want peace of mind i shouldnt even
enter that family.
I have been crying since then because i really love this guy, he loves
me too and we have a very lovely baby together.
Should I hold on to the love we share or listen to what these men of
God have said about my relationship? So confused!!!
Confused girl
xoxoxox''
*why do i have this feeling from reading this that your parents set up the scenario with the two Pastors?how can anyone look at an innocent child and just assume the father is from a bad family?
*Some parents just dont know when to STOP!
Go and see another Spirit filled AUTHENTIC man of God without letting your parents know and come back here to tell us what he says
Na wah Oº°˚˚°ºo! Am as confused as d writter.
ReplyDeleteHmmm. I think u shld ask God for directions. Sometyms,all we need do is kneel down to pray b4 acceptin defeat. I m in a similar situation at d moment. Tho m a graduate n in my late 20's n hv picked a date 4 my intro bt my mum calld me last month to say her pastor said I can't marry d man I love. Made up my mind to go see her man of God myself n ask him why. I m always of s opinion dat God can change any future!anythn positively. If he can gv a "wombless" woman a child,then he will turn any future to d glory of his name.
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Deleteplease lady forget pastor go and acquire knowledge
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Girl, I am a "Man From God" and I can tell you one thing; Go and get a good education and get a job before talking about marriage. You life needs to be beautiful for you to share it with anyone or else they will use you to do "yeye". From your sentence construction, I see that you are half educated. Maybe thats what your parents want for you. Like Onyeka Onwenu said,"If he loves you he will wait for you". He has already failed section 1. LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH!!!
ReplyDeleteGbam, gbamer, gbamest!!
DeleteStupid fuck-nizer! Who dash you Pastor? Abeg park well. No come show yaself here ewu Gambia! You are not competent atall to give meaningful advice to pple. So plz, next time stick to bringing opinions on prOstitution matterS! Ashawo guy man. Mtcheeew
DeleteMumu Cleo. He didn't say that he is a "man of God", he said he is "a man from God". Therefore, he is right. Or are you a "woman from satan". Read well before making a silly comment.
DeleteCleo, are u ok at all?
DeleteI think cleo is d blog visitor dat sent in dis msg to stella,she felt insulted by watever Fucknizer said
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ReplyDeletestella you've said it all.
Religious bondage...a yoke too heavy...not easily broken! I wonder why the writer believes she has to see a "Man of God" before getting married...terrible terrible bondage!!! No comments!!!
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Mscheww...Don't believe the pastor dear,that's how one told my cousin he will get a girl pregnant and my cousin is sooo scared of girls!
ReplyDeleteWell to ur story it maybe ur parents planned with those men of God? Or d prophecy is 4 real, u know dear sometimes not every relationship grantee happy ending! To me I wil advice u to fellow ur heart,and ask GOD to direct ur part.
ReplyDeleteU took the words straight out of my mouth.. am so sure your folks set these things up...follow your heart dear.
DeletePls ♏v̶̲̥̅ dear can u ask ur mum how many men of God she met before marrying your dad? It ɪ̣̝̇Ƨ̷̜̩̌̋ obviously a set up by ur parents. I̶̲̥̅̊ d☺̣̣̥̇ŋ't advice u to see anoda man of God pls, Sdk I̶̲̥̅̊ no agree with u on dat one o. U are too young to be doing that type of thing ,fast and pray to God and u will get a sudden inner peace or fear. Stay away from him for a week and seek God's Face. .Stop visiting prpohets and others.
ReplyDeleteI have same feeling too dt ur parents set u up wt d pastors. Anyway sha I beg of u be careful wat u decide cos; 1. U av a child wt him. 2. Ur parents matters too cos God 4bid u marry him and get in2 prob as predicted my d 'pastors' wahala don gbege be dt. 3.its ur lyf, nt ur parents cos if u marry someone else and its 'good' (frm d rear) u myt hate all those who made u nt marry d father of ur child. My advc is dt u kal ur mum/dad (whoeva u r closer to) and beg, cry in a polite and a confused daughter manner to tell u Y dey dnt want d guy (nt y d pastors said u shldnt). But most imptly pray to God, HE will guide and direct u and lyk d yorubas said 'a o ni is fe oo' (u will nt marry wrongly)
ReplyDeleteChoi!!!this mara is for my ogaz at d top.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm,my dear meet another pastor without your parents knowledge. Cos I think your parents are behind this fake visions
ReplyDeleteMy dear there are no guarantees in marriage even when there is love, care and understanding,prophesy or not. If he is the one for u he is the one for you. You just have to commit it to God. When I was about to get married my mum was initially against it cos he wasn't wealthy but very ambitious at the time and my family is. An authentic man of God however told me he is a good man but might stray when we are both old and grey. so... I weighed my options marry the love of my life, my best friend n maybe he ll have an affair when we are old or not marry him and live an unfulfilled life with someone else. Well, we now have a beautiful daughter n another on the way and I couldn't be happier. I trust God completely besides I keep him pretty busy in the bedroom #giggles
ReplyDeleteMy dear girl, work out your own salvation. I agree with f*knizer, get proper education, if he loves u, he'll wait for u. I was under so much pressure to get married and one of my "concerned" Aunty took me to a so called man of God. Infact, it was a question and answer segment for that I lost concentration in d visit. One thing that made me laugh about the whole session was that, when I told the man I had plans to resign my job in order to further my education, the man said, that is not my destiny. He then went further to say "I see a man, light skinned, almost half cast, coming for you, u like yellow men abi?" I didnt respond, then he said that is what the spirit is telling him, that I shouldn't go to school but wait for this "yellow man".
ReplyDeleteTruth of the matter is, light skinned men are not my fancy, i am not even attracted to them, never dated them, never wished to marry them. I knew what I wanted! So this man's prophesy didn't move me at all.
Many people get deceived by pastors because they don't know what they want. After all that episode, d pastor/prophet gave me his contact which I never saved. Instead he started bombarding me with calls.
To cut long story, I travelled to study, it was in d course of study I met my "dark skinned" hubby. Happily married 3 years and stil counting.
So my dear girl, leave prophet. What do you want? Follow your heart and aim beyond the skies.
Marie
Stella thank you oooo....i feel same too and trust me some parents do go a long way to make sure their children abide to their advice. I've seen this same thing happen to a friend too and trust me, today her parents are regretting their actions, begging the guy to forgive them. I keep telling my friends that when it comes to the issue of marriage, pray on ur own to GOD and he'll answer you, he will surely show you signs if its a wrong or right move. All those naija fake pastors...mmmmm it is well
ReplyDeleteI really don't understand dis new tradition of seeing a man of God b4 marriage lately! Am sorry to say some of the so called men of God can't even see beyond their nose!
ReplyDeleteFuck-Nizer, my thoughts exactly, at 21 you have a child already and you live with your parents. Are you done with college? Do you have a good job, a steady source of income? If none of that is in place, abeg go back to the drawing board and forget marriage for now. You don't want any man and his family to start "messing" you in the future. Education is very important girl. And this so called boyfriend of yours, how is he going to support you and the baby, does he have a good job? Please think twice before doing it. Give your baby to your parents and go back to school.
ReplyDeleteSweetheart pls my candid advice is u should arrange urself b4 u marry o! Marriage no be clapping event o!! No be track and field also. Get an education if u don't already av one, get something doing dat brings u money, LOVE is not enuff for marriage,ofcourse it will keep it going o but my dear relax,pls tell ur guy to hold on, put ur self in order pls!
ReplyDeleteGod bless u really good my bro
ReplyDeleteStella u talk well
ReplyDeleteDear Poster,
ReplyDeletePlease go to school,u will need it whether or not u marry or don't marry this Man..Marriage no be beans o,it goes far beyond packing into a man's house,cooking and sleeping with him whenever he wants.. Get yourself Educated first,u are just 21yrs old for crying out loud.. And about your baby daddy,if u don't believe d pastors, y not try praying on your own or if u aren't dat grounded spiritually, try another man of God without your parents knowing.. But first of all, Go to schoool oooo!! I don talk my own
An 18yr old black girl from the States is the youngest person in history to be called to the British Bar. You're here asking questions. You are not mature enough for these things. Can you imagine a woman of 30 telling this story? Marriage and kids, that's grown folks business. If your parents and your bf love you, they would allow you to get educated, set your career path and decide whether you even want marriage.
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ReplyDeleteFuckinizer.....double thumbs up! Very well said
ReplyDelete@your parents wahala,,when u get belle for the same guy and the guy is ready to marry you,then your parents brings inn a pastor,then after 2years of ur baby and a settlements with ur guy,ur parents bring inn another man of God?hehehe wise up lady,fellow ur hearts nd make ur own mistakes nd also be able to learn from ur mistakes and move on,goodluck,from swiss
ReplyDeleteLove is very important plz dnt listern to any prophet just follow ur heart and fast n pray on ur own n ask God to show u if this is ur husband u will see it ur self. but then again plz u need to get something doing b4 u think of marriage just think about it.
ReplyDelete@cleo... No vex. I understand that your eyes does "auto correct". I did not claim to be a Pastor. Infact If Jesus Christ showed up with an I.D card and called me to be One, I will beg him and ask "why has thou forsaken me".
ReplyDeleteI also do not comment on "Prostitution matters" not because of anything negative but just because I feel if you have nothing to contribute to a discussion, you should keep quiet.
I cannot see your advise to the writer just abuse. Abeg no vex. If its my body that is intimidating you, no vex. Na my wife force me go Gym and I gat to show evidence of HARDWORK! Hehehehe. Like SDK go say"One Love"
Nice one.
DeleteI also share Stella's thoughts, but girl, get an education. At 21, you still have a lot to attain in life.
ReplyDeleteSometimes these pastors i believe cause all the problems by their professies! now the parents r against the marriage how will it work! they have even succeded in turning the parents n the man against each other, n the girl now in limbo. i believe this marriage would have worked without any profesy from any pastor. When am gonna get married i'd rather go for counscelling coupled with parental advise then ask my pastor to only pray for us period!!!! No Professies because i wouldn't be needing any of his visions make he no even start to see anything concerning me n my hubby unless it something Good!!!!!.
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I am a prophet who sees things n such matters r very delicate. infact matters of the spirit r soo delicate n tricky that if not handled properly can turn to something else. n most of these pastors r yet learners who don't know how to handle such even though they r spiritually advanced than the ordinary person. i wont say am not a sinner. but am a virgin still, i wont want to disclose any secrets God has revealed to me here bcos they r secrad n not everything should be spilled to the knowledge of the whole world. i see alot of visions but n most at times i will tell u its because of the visions we c that will cause the problem at the end. pray pray pray sometimes common sense can work out miracles u can c someone running to the pastor for visions when they could just use 'common sense' to solve it thats y God gave us a brain to use it! I wonder why a pastor would tell anyone they r bad. y not try to see the good side of the man n his family. why then does he not give them ways n means to make the marriage work cos everything is possible in this world. some even get confused n their own lifes don't work well i must say. not judging them though, i speak carefully cos i understand matters of the spirit delicate n should be handled as such. some of this pastors even carry the issues so large that in actual fact they cause it to happen. no issues is too big for God. all this problems they see as big i tell u is a little issue in the eyes of God. some tips on common sense u shud consider be4 going to men of God
ReplyDelete1. investigate wel into the mans family marriage is not a rush r they devoted christian church etc.
2. two families should be best of friends to support each other don't stand divided nly then can u be defeated.
3. do the kids really love each other what job those the guy have is that okay support the family. r they willing to sacrifice to stay together even if they not so rich n work together to achieve it.
4. Go for counselling n don't hide anything u aren't satisfied with from him/her its her job n he/she won't reveal ur secret. go there with the mind u r going to make changes to ur bad sides so each can be satisfied.
5. learn to control ur anger. very important
6. go for medical checkup
I tell u what, what u too need is the support from both families if u take to my advise this marriage will work n work excellently!
7. stay calm cool n relaxed when u go to see ur pastor go with the guy. i won't judge the kind of pastor u go to. no thats not in my portion to.
8. Pray n seek for guidance from God
9. remember its u n ur hubby when u do get married. not family members, friends etc.
10. love him alone. n u'll be marveled if u love him more then everyone without doubt u'll create a harmony for the both of u.n he can't leave u. he'll love u more to.
there r plenty of solutions to problems if only they would listen but most atimes people can't follow what they r told sincerely because they want an easy way they like to go to pastors for prophecies
pray and seek for God's conviction by yourself!
ReplyDeleteSweetheart! Dig deep, your parents set up the two supposed men of God to tell you that bullshit... If it bothers you a lot, go for deliverance at a mfm church, whatever you hear, believe it. As for your parents, they don't want your happiness... shikena!!!
ReplyDeleteThe same thing i was thinking #20.
ReplyDeleteBe independent financially first,then get married to him,then see how the ball rolls.
Be prayerful yourself.
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DeleteSori to say dis but nigeria pastors are in a class of their own.60% of them are nt of christ they say or do for their financial gain,if jesus shd come today 80% wil nt make heaven.one can stil marry and go to school at same time millions have done it and are stil doing it,the advantage of early marriage is way above late marriage
ReplyDeleteI dont trust this pastor!
ReplyDeleteWhen I was 19,I visited my coz church. The man of God looked. At me n told me I need deliverance,dat a slippers was buried in my womb,n if I don't hv d deliverance session for 5days,no kids for me in future. I told. My coz n d delivrance commenced d next day. He took me to a room,told me to pull off my clothes n rubbed olive oil all over me n even stuck a finger in my pussy. We did this 2x a day for 5days. The church is called Voice of God at Onitsha off Awka Road.
ReplyDeleteFor real??? U kidding right??
DeleteBuahahaha fool!
DeleteAhhhh! This is awful. Pls dear, reveal the demons name cos he might be with another church. Sorry o.
DeleteAhhhh! This is awful. Pls dear, reveal the demons name cos he might be with another church. Sorry o.
DeleteStella,abeg na. Write on fake orgasms. I don tire to dey fake am. I v bn married for 13years n I don't think I've had a real orgasm up to 10times in all these years. Am tired of acting.
ReplyDeleteWere u circumcized?
DeleteBuy a vibrator.
DeleteFor once people have giving some constructive advice on this blog! If u love ur man!marry him! After you have gotten some education and money of ur own! So matter wat happens in marriage you can stand on ur feet! Ur parents do not have any legal right to deny the man his child! Evenif u two are not together!
ReplyDeleteYou better marry the guy. This is why kids should not have kids. How can your parents be trying to cause problems within your family and you let them. The guy loves you, wetin remain??? Go to court and get married with faith. All the negative things they have said, let that be your inspiration. This guy loves you o. That is hard to find outside. Do you want to have kids for different fathers??? My dear, go to court, get married and pack your child's things to abuja. Be assertive and act like an adult, your parents will respect you. Dont forget to complete your education and have a career in your husbands house. And please, never let any pastor or parent come between you again. When it comes to your family, close mouth, eyes and ears to outsiders.
ReplyDeleteThis is my first time of commenting here. Stella,well done! My young girl,I think u r making a big mistake,infactuation has taken all over you. You are suppose to be thinking about your future now,at this age of your life you can't even differentiate from love and lust. Please,face your future and forget what is happening now,when you get to the age,you won't need any one to advice you on what to do. Don't be desperate,please!!!
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ReplyDeleteMy dear,you don't need a man of God to sovle your problems.talk to God yourself....he hear...he see..just pray to him.
ReplyDeleteI don't think any parents who want their child to leave d father of her baby n marry someone else. These prophecy thing sometimes can be very real, one needs to be careful when making life time decisions. Sometimes we might pray n not see things not because we didn't pray well but because we are blinded by sins, a lot of men of God really see visions because of how spritual they are. My dear I would urge u to be careful n not throw away th advice of ur parents cos I don't think dey would lie so dat u can jump frm one man to another if they did not really believe in the prophecy. And I don't think the man u want to marry is really well to do or comfortable, I think dat is their fear as well. N at 20 u nid to get an education n a job cos marriage no be beans. If u still insit on getting married try praying on ur own but I doubt u wld see any vision if u are d type dat still engage in sinful acts, hence dat is y plp still visit pastors cos dey believe dey are men of God n can see these things we can't see. So u can decide to visit another pastor to be sure. But biko go back to ur drawing board.
ReplyDeletei know lots of people who married early n to tell u what r very happy together. some even married right after shs but r doing some courses to upgrade. life isn't all about finishing school b4 marriage even my best friend has a babe n is married shes very happy n she still in poly. 4estinies r diff. at 21 she ain't too young. now adays the people grownups tag as young r even smarter then those who claim elderly so my dear do ur thing get married if u will n still further that education n don't forget to kee
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My dear you don't need a man of God talk to God on ur own n let his will be done simple
ReplyDeleteLet me start by thanking u Aunty Stella for posting my write up, i am really grateful, laughed so hard at your caption tho.
ReplyDeleteTo everyone that gave their views, i do appreciate. Let me state here that i am not despirate to gett married; not at all, as a matter of fact i am in school (part time) and i am not the one going to these pastor but my parents.
Anyways, thanks to you all for ur advice, stay blessed.
*In Stella voice* ONE LOVE
Let your parents raise your daughter with supervised visitation rights for the dad. Go to school to improve yourself while he works on himself as well. Continue to date him quietly until you have finished school. By then your parents will be a bit relaxed and trust you to make your own decisions. Then you marry him if feelings are still same.
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