You have been praying to God to send love your way and just when you almost lose hope at 36years of age,your prayers are answered..
love shows up on your doorstep.......forbidden love. (well in the eyes of man)
Reasoning with your head says NO but your heart says YES....yes yes yes yessss!!!
''My name is Abosede, I'm 36yrs of age; a virgin; a born again Christian; an evangelist (with no jewelries, no hair extention or make up)!
I'v been waiting on the Lord, trusting Him for a husband with much prayers and fasting for years but none came, until..............
My problem is i have fallen in love in a forbidden territory!
My case is.....there's this young, single, and very good looking muslim guy; a very devoted one as a matter of fact he's a cleric (an alfa) residing in one of the flats in a building where i reside... we are neighbours.
We'v been neighbours like 3yrs now, he lives alone, working in one of the popular banks in the country (We both reside in Lagos). A gentle man to the core,easy going,very humble and very friendly,i could go on and on with his kind of personality!
Everyone in the compound talks good of him cos of his gentle,humble and philantropic nature and Lately now he's beginning to look my way. Initially when he moved in, it was just ''Hi'' ''Hello'' kind of thing each time we came across each other in the compound.
But as time went on, infact last year November to be precise when i celebrated my 36th birthday i invited my neighbours including him to my small get together party in the flat where i share with my mum.
Since then, we'v become kinda close, cant even explain how it all started But the thing is suddenly i've fallen so much in love wIth him which i cant even explain; a muslim ....not considering my Christian background and faith-an evangelist, a devoted and committed worker in Jesus' Vineyard! (Lord help me!)
I have been praying seriously to kill the feelings/passion and try as much as possible to avoid him,but all to no avail. The more i try to avoid him,the more the passion increases!
When he made his intention known to me in January 2014 that he wants to marry me,he told me that since the very first day he moved into the compound when he sets his eyes on me,he wanted to marry me.
he said he had been nursing love feelings for me but was just too scared to come out to declare his love considering the fact that i'm a born again Christian and hes a Muslim!
he wasnt too sure the kind of person i was then he kept it cool but it wasnt easy for him cos his heart blazes with his love for me.
The problem i can't even pray to ask God His Will concerning him being a Muslim and i undertstand so well the stand of God according to His Holy Word -The Bible associating with unbelievers (I may be wrong)!
I can't even discuss it my any of my close Christian brethen cos i'm so scared of who and what τ̣̣ђёy would think of me not even my parish pastor or my spiritual father whom i usually share my problems with!
Please SDKers pardon my long epistle, just needed to pour out my heart since i'm not bold enough to share it with people around!
He's been begging and crying to accept his proposal that he doesnt care about whether his family or co-muslim associates will kick against it, he says what matters is us together and that we could work it out irrespective of religion and that what matters is Love and understanding and also our undying love for each other!
He said we could still practice our faith respectively even in marriage and that what matters is understanding and tolerance and bla bla bla........
Please what should i do? who has been in this situation before?
We have both fallen so deeply for each other!
There's been no sexual attachment between us (God forbid i cant even do any of such till after wedding cos thats the oath/vow i'v taken with God)
Plsssss i need your opinions on this before i make up my mind.!
Thanks!!!!!''
*hmm this is tough,let me take a seat on this one and let those who know the sensitivity of this matter respond.
Madam, if he loves you so so much like he claims, let him become a Christian to prove his love. maybe this is the intention of God for you to convert him into this marvellous light.
ReplyDeleteAbeg, the back seat don full?
DeleteAbeg, the back seat don full?
DeletePoster, this isn't God at all!!! Stop this relationship now for ur own good! Of course his ppl will agree becos they know u will/must become a muslim. Even if he decides to follow u to church 2day, pls not that he will certainly go back to islam...with u! I know ppl that claimed to be in love with muslims(as u are claiming now!), got married and of course divorced! Don't be deceived! Break it now!!!
Deletesatan had prepared to sift you like with, Virginial if u marry this guy u might get lost. U have answered most of your questions. How can u be in a relationship and ur spiritual father doesn't know? My dear, that is prodigal, haba! Time is still on ur side and u need to use that time effectively and build your relationship in Christ not be forming activity in church. How can an evangelist marry a muslim, do want to die? Yes! U have preached against so many things the devil supports and your weak points are before him to use against u. Abeg! End dis yeye compound relationship are u a kid?
DeleteOde! Foolish talk "if he loves her he should change to a christian." No mind the fool o. My dear follow your heart, your pastor will discourage you. Your story is similar to mine. We are happily married with a set of twin. I still attend church and he does his things. He is the happiest thing that ever happen to me, and I would not change a thing.
DeleteHmm my sis. Think of where you will spend your enternity on the last day. Marriage, Children, Family,Riches, pleasure of this earth everthing is Vanity upon Vanity ask the Holy Spirit to take Control of your life. Remain in Him that man the grave could not hold captive JESUS CHRIST the Son of God.
DeleteThen what religion will the kids produced practice? Don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers. The problem might show up in the present but in the future. You know the truth already stick with it.
DeleteDon't get unequally yoked with him.
ReplyDeleteI know u are lonely and u feel u aren't getting younger but pls don't marry someone that does not share the same fate with you.
Muslim should marry muslim.
Christian should marry christian too.
If loneliness dey do u go and adopt a child or buy
a cat.
Hmmmm.I m in dsame kinda shoe wt u dear. D diff is my man has agreed t change to christianity. He has even dropped his muslim surname n asked me t choose any of his names wheneva m ready. I had t agree t his proposals cos he his d best man I hv ever dated. I m grateful t God 4 him.
DeleteAll i can say is continue to pray about it but i hope desperation to get married is not the reason you have "fallen" for this Alfa.
DeleteFollow your heart. You are the one to bear the consequences (should any arise).
compatibility based on religion is usually a tough one...cos no matter what, it will definitely cause some issues in future.
ReplyDeletewhat I think you both need is to sit down and have a deep discussion on the following:
1. how best can we maintain our love and marriage regardless of religious differences?
2. where are we gonna get married? Christian church or mosque?
3. who is willing to convert???or can we maintain our respective religions????
4. when we start having kids, what religion do we want them to imbibe?
3. do we think the difference in religion will affect us on the long run?
if all of these are answered removing sentiments arising from love/emotions/feelings for each other... then you both have a clearer understanding on the path to follow when you become man and wife.
if these questions cant be conclusively answered, then my sister, DO NOT BOTHER ABOUT THIS MARRIAGE!
U r the only reasonable person dat gives a good advice. U've said it all.
DeleteBlogLord have summarized it for you.
DeleteDiscuss the issues above with him and make a headway from there.
I wish you all the best.
Hmmmmm. Na wa oooo. Love, they say is a dangerous game. With your feelings, you may not even hear God if He speaks which I am sure He may have been speaking. Take time out to pray, seek counsel from very independent, exposed and open minded matured chriatians who can pray along with you and seek God on your behalf. Let God know it is his will that matters most to you and dat is what you will do despite your feelings at the moment. Pray, pray, and pray again. You can call me on 08038270798 . . I will be here to counsel, pray with and support you. Much love sis.
ReplyDeleteU r not alone I cudnt hv aqreed much less. God has been speakinq buh she's turned a deaf ear. + share it wif ur pastor n spiritual father. Becareful dear not 2fall in2 d devil's trap. Lastly talk 2him abt becominq a xtian n c. Wat his reaction is. Den mayb u can deduce if he qenuinely luvs u or not.
DeleteU r not alone I cudnt hv aqreed much less. God has been speakinq buh she's turned a deaf ear. + share it wif ur pastor n spiritual father. Becareful dear not 2fall in2 d devil's trap. Lastly talk 2him abt becominq a xtian n c. Wat his reaction is. Den mayb u can deduce if he qenuinely luvs u or not.
Deletehe might even be d devil himself
DeleteRenee pls keep quiet. Your advice is very annoying. Up there u went as far as asking her if she wants to die as a result of marrying a Muslim?
DeleteI am a christian too, but my father was a Muslim while my mom is a staunch christian. Each to his own...but u saying here again and suggesting that the man may be the Devil himself is taking it too far..Haba. Its an intricate issue so don't pass any extreme suggestions that reeks of gross discrimination against a faith other than urs.
If u are a believer of Christ, good for u. But the Christ that I serve and am used to will not speak like are doing even against idol worshippers.
Don't forget that this young man was/is a human being FIRST before he chose the religious belief that suits him. Stop condemning him abeg. The way you speak makes me even assume that u are not a true follower of Christ yourself. Am outta here
Don't team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? II Cor 6.14
ReplyDeleteGod's standard will never change,pls dont fall for devil's wait.
You must hear clearly from God on this and pray that is will be done on the issue.
Try win him over to Christ and be sure is real repentance.
Paul
Yay! Don't keep d gentleman waiting. Say YES already. All d best, poster.
ReplyDeleteIf I were you, I won't go there. Alfa lohun lohun.
ReplyDeleteI feel ur plight dear bt u juz av 2 understand dat love is nt usually enof..problem might arise wen u start raising ur kids...dey either go 2 mosque which d father will want or follow u 2 d church,which name wil dey bear? (Muslim name or xtian),wat abt d festive period? Am a Muslim bt smtyms religion ought 2 be considered in choosing ur spouse...and my honest opinion is 2 pray 2 God and seek counsel of Ur spiritual father....
ReplyDeletewell spoken
Delete@Renee, u must b a full 4 writing "well spoken" after saying loads of nonsense up dere. Ewu gambia, get a life n if u dnt av anytin gud to say, shut d f up biatch.
DeleteTorr
ReplyDeleteLemme join Stella on her seat
Hi there,
ReplyDeleteI am a Muslim married to a Christian and also had the same challenge initially. We were initially friends and could take it beyond friendship for 3 years because of our religious background and the fear of what people will say. The day we decided the union is all about us and accepting each other and not what others will think or say was the day we decided to take it further. I don't want to comment about how God sees it because I'm not god and it all depends on your connection with your personal creator.... But please take time out to discuss and agree on how thing will be in the marriage. If you will both practice what you believe in or convert, how naming ceremonies will be handled, how the home will be run and if you are comfortable with it you can go ahead and God will be with you. I am the Muslim in my own case and the man as well. We all need to accept and tolerate each other with is the first and most important thing for me.... my 2 cents
Abosede hun, there's no denying what you feel but Ihave a couple of questions to ask you.
ReplyDelete1. Where will your kids be named in the mosque or in a church?
2. Your bible says the husband is the headof the home, that will mean if suggests they adopt Islam you wont put up a fight?
3. If the man talk say him no want those your bible stuff wetin you go do
4. If you decide to go ahead with the union you will have to AGREE with his values o..no begin quarell o.
Weigh your feelings and your response to all the possible scenarios above and make a decision.
Jah Bless!
Thanks. You just said all I wanted to say.
DeleteSummary,I will say go ahead as long as you are Ok If after the marriage, the guy says 'u must turn Muslim, all our kids must be raised Muslim, no more Bible in the house,
hmmm. this one get as e be. Stella i follow you sidon on that chair too cos i was once in this situation, but ogbeni, my papa for don pursue me comot for house that time, if i had opened mouth to mention it see. But in this case, make the experts talk this talk…*singing Rihanna's...we found love in a hopeless place…*
ReplyDeleteSee temptation, a very sweet temptation lmao,the devil is very Cony sha,he knows this sister wants love desperately, so he now sets a very good trap and unfortunately in the Christian world, you have already backslided.You need to seek for mercy.
ReplyDeleteHave you forgotten,''the bible says i know the thoughts i think towards you, thoughts of peace and not of evil but to give you an expected end'' that thought is of the devil because you can't be happy,its two diffent people entirely; you can serve God&Mammon;you can't serve two masters.
Please, you have lost your feet as a believer, run to the cross and make amends, remember Gods promises for your life;God doesn't look at your age and considers your blessing,he blesses you in his time and his blessing is joy forever more. i know how you feel and it hurts to be single at that age sometimes, but as a believer remember you work by faith and not by sight;cast out the thoughts of Alpha,its the devil
Thank u kaycee, u ve said it all. @poster pls think abt what kaycee has said. I think he has told u d truth. Love is not enuf in marriage o. God bless u.
DeleteOh father in heaven! kaycee and chinyere, do u mean Muslims worship the devil???
DeletePoster,marry him and start having babies asap....so far he can make you happy....we are all one in the eyes of God weather christain or muslim....
ReplyDeleteMadam its whether and not weather. Thank me now.
DeleteCeeCee
My Dear, to me Religion does not really matter as long as dere is love. Love conquers all. Yes av been in ur situation before and I chose luv. Bt later, I changed my mind cos he was a Cheat and still is. If he didn't cheat, I would av ignored our religious difference and marry him. So before you jump into conclusion, pls find out more about him.
ReplyDeletePlz my dear do something ooo. I hear say tony wan commit suicide. No matter what plz death isn't what I knw u will wish him. Plz my dear help him understand that! Then u too, not †̥O̅ worry a man who will love u for u will come Ơ̴̴̴͡k⌣̊? Peace...............
DeletePrinkles abeg have mercy, the guy wan kill himself. Make Tony no die oh.Biko nne. Mrs O
DeleteMove on my dear, make he go die, he's a cheat, fake, unreliable and too young!!.
Deletestella i no gree. U must say something.
ReplyDeleteWow if only u wore jewelry, hair extension and make up if only!
DeleteLol mz Daisy
DeleteSo so true
Go back and read this cos I know u know this: 2 Corinthians 5:7_ For we walk by faith, not by sight.
ReplyDeleteDon't be like Abraham who God made a promise to n when it wasn't forthcoming(so he thought),he sought out an alternative(Ishmael)whose descendants are still a prob to d world. 36 years and a Virgin? Why are u about giving up on God? Why are u about allowing what u see make u do sth that may not be what God wants for u? Have u talked to God about this? Did He say this seemingly "perfect" dude is ur husband?
Anyway,God can never lie,He may not do it @our own time buh He's gonna do it definitely. It's already too late to give up now dearie.
Check your history again. Don't be biased.
DeleteYou really need to go on your knees and ask GOD for guidance, you can't decide on this on your own....seek the face of GOD concerning this matter....so ask not to regret it later. that is why you spiritual father is also there, speak to him and to HIM, I pray that the Lord will open your spiritual eyes to see if it's God's will for you!
ReplyDelete*Deep sigh*
ReplyDeleteDear poster, please pray about it and follow your heart.
What matters is love,trust, respect and understanding.
Just pray for wisdom from God so he can direct you.
I just pray he doesn't change after marriage and force you to change religion. I also hope he won't later remember he is entitled to have 4 wives...
Weigh the consequences before you commit yourself.
Pray my dear, pray...
This is a tough one.... i would advice u seek d face of God n ask ur spiritual father for guidance... since d alfa said u can practice ur religion after marriage, u should seriously b careful as he can change after marriage n say u must become a Muslim... in whatever u decide to do, I pray God guide u n see u thru it all.
ReplyDeleteIt's a sensitive one. But I will suggest you go ahead. Depending on your man, ur respective religion shouldn't be a problem. I have been married to a Muslim for a good number of years and so far, I have no regrets. Infact he reminds me whenever I don't go to church.
ReplyDeletennem biko start considering to pack out from that compound ooo b4sumfin weird go happen.......i have speaketh
ReplyDeletegbam , gbammer, gbammest
Deleteare you sure you are a born again xtian? Don't you know what ur Bible says about being unequally yoked with unbelievers? I honestly doubt u r truly born again becuz if u r then this shdnt even be up for discussion. Don't let age pressure u into making the biggest mistake of ur life. Seek Gods timing in everythin. He is never too late and he is never too early either. Don't make Him angry.
ReplyDeletewell as a born again christian, its not possible to marry a muslim knowing fully well you wld have to switch religion to be with him, Love knows no religion, tribe etc there is just one solution he either becomes a christian or you a muslim, my advice to you at 36yrs old you shld go for it since you both Love each other mayb u met him for a reason, God knws best
ReplyDeleteMy advice. If you truly love him, marry him, maybe convert him to a Christian, and up that is a soul you have won for Christ, from him, souls can be won for Christ too... Remember the story of Paul when he was Saul right... God sends his blessings to us even thorough our enemies... So my dear.... Do go ahead with him, but still pray and the decision is still urs, not ur dad, mum, spiritual fathers and mothers or sdkers ok. Pray until something happens.
ReplyDeletePls ignore this comment,u can never change a man. U can't convert him_he may agree initially buh wif time he goes back to where he started from. If he's ur husband,itz God's work to touch him n turn his heart towards Jesus,u can't do it. This is one lie d devil has used in dragging most believers away from what they believed n they ended up having miserable marriages n lives as well as losing d most important relationship ever(with God)
Deletewell said Ada! Are u the Holy Spirit that wants to change him?
DeleteYou Renee are you living in heavenand have inside information that he cant change? Please! As long as you DONT know God's plan for her, which you REALLY dont, dont come and be saying things so boldly! If you REALLY want to help her pray for her. We ALL have different destinies!
DeleteWe are ALL one in the sight of God! He loves us all. He created us! So because hes a Muslim hes the devil? (as u wrote). Please dont be ignorant! God loves us all!
And what if he is REALLY the man for her? How do you know hes not? Did God whisper it to you? Please please this is someone's future! Pray for her if you REALLY want to help her!
A Christian marries a Christian and a Muslim marries a Muslim. Yet we see real problems in marriages. Go and marry a Christian like yourself please, only this time your problems will not be religious based.
DeleteA Christian marries a Christian...yet they divorce before you can count to 10. Its not about that. There are Christians married to Muslims whose marriages have lasted. For example my neighbours, elderly man and woman. Hes Muslim, shes Christian. Been married for God knows how long. Almost all their kids are married. Some of the kids are Christians some are Muslims. Their love will make you want to marry. Again they are MUSLIM and CHRISTIAN! They've grown old together!
DeleteNobody knows the future except God, nobody knows the heart of man except God. Nobody knows why its pinching that Renee girl so much that she commented on every post except God. The best thing is for her to seek God's will. No one knows except Him if this is a good or bad decision to be with the guy.
He seems all perfect ...right. Run for your life. There is a way which seemeth right unto a man but the end thereof is destruction. Ruuun and relocate if possible. Do you know why? That man that seems so perfect came to ruin your life,he came for the purpose of turning you away from your christian faith. That the neighbors talk good about him is no excuse,the fact he is a philanthropist is no excuse. If he is not born again,he is not born again. run
ReplyDelete"He hath blinded their eyes, and hardened their heart; that they should not see with their eyes, nor understand with their heart, and be converted, and I should heal them." (John 12:40). That is what Satan is doing Poster. Ur spirit is being manipulated and needs healing. That man is a monitoring spirit and has been sent to destroy. The entire compound speaks of him and u hear it all the time. If u knew how satan and his network operate u will run for ur life, abeg
Delete100000000000 trillion likes are you a man and single residing in abuja if yes I wanna take you out. In fact be you a woman show no still spoil
DeleteTosky abeg I dey Abj too o! Am so bored at home, take me out bikonu... As job never come make I dey find awoof outing! Lol
Deletehmmm poster, this is a very tough decision,muslim brethren can be very difficult and also you know the way this church people behave, they might treat you like a total outcast and this will take the grace of God for you to survive knowing how deep and close you are to the church.my candid advice is for you both to be strong as one to overcome this stage but can you really handle the future? the future is the most important part of it all....think think think
ReplyDeleteThe bible is Gods gift 2 us..2 direct us.....remember the part where it says.."Do not be unevenly yoked"....all may see well now but with time religious differences will pose a problem.......Gods gifts maketh rich and addeth NO sorrow........jst pray and ask for direction..........
ReplyDelete"...before I make up my mind"-what exactly are you saying? I cant't believe you are even considering it! Poster beware. They say what you know you don't eat, you shouldn't bring it near your nose to smell. That was your first mistake. You think you already know him abi. God's standard is God's standard and it hasn't changed ever since. You know His word and what His demands are. Don't throw away all those years of chaste fellowship with God for what is not. Think about it; if you really want God in this, you have to do it His way or else hin hand no go dey o! Face your God and ministry, your own miracle from God is just around the corner don't settle for less. "..though it tarries wait for it, it shall surely come" - bible. Remember God is not unfaithful to forget all those years of your labour of love to Him and His cause. Your harvest time is nigh please stay on course and remove that annoying distraction. My 50cents!
ReplyDeleteI so much luv dis comment. How can u even think abt it. African women n their desperation 4 marriage really gets me so pissed. Marriage isn't d ultimate mbok.
DeletePoster, am sure you are in "love" with him only because he is available. You need to look else where. It will NEVER work. How can oil and water mix? What religion will your kids practice? Have you thought about it at all? My dear stop deceiving yourself and stop being desperate. If you were a 23 year old, you won't even look his way because you know you CAN'T marry a Muslim. Now you are desperate and believe your biological clock is ticking so you think you are in love.
ReplyDeleteMove on dear.
You havent talked to your Pastor about it,your co Born again Christian brethren,you havent even talked to God about it anf i am sure your sweet lovely mom that raised you well doesnt know..
ReplyDeleteBut you are quite comfortable to ask for advice from SDKers?!! People that will just give you advices carnally? People who dont even really care about you? People who dont love you? People who dont even know you?
You havent even prayed about it. In all your Christian glory?!
Nne clap for yourself.
hmmph... Mscheeww... Let me even help her and clap. Milo! Kpa kpa kpa kpa kpa kpa kpa kpa kpa! Milo!!! Mumu poster
DeleteWho's this renee girl? You're in every post please try and be scarce. I'm tired of seeing your name and not so bright opinion. Abeg miss small you hear? Thank you in advance
Deletehmm ,this one pass me, but my dear follow love biko
ReplyDeleteMy dear, the only thing I can say is pray harder, but the problem here is that u r already in love and your mind z biased already.
ReplyDeleteTalk to your spiritual father or mother let them counsel you.
Wish u d best dear
My dear, if you think you've found the right man don't let things like religious differences or what other people think affect your decision, you say you've been praying to God for a husband, it looks to me like God has already answered your prayers, and you are the one hesitating.
ReplyDeleteReligion is always going to be a big problem for you.. You wouldn't even be able to worship God the way you do now since you are an evangelist..
ReplyDeleteHow would you decide the kids religion? Its not even about you now,what about the future.. Mehn,I would ay don't marry him but then again,that's my own opinion
it wouldn't work. Look at the long run,marriage isn't a day thing,what happens 10yrs from now. I don't even think you would be allowed to continue been an evangelist... Hmmm. This feelings should be killed bow because what is to come in the future might make you regret your actions I'd you marry him
but then again,who knows
Pls sister, flee from all appearances of evil. It might seem so juicy now but the end is what u cannot see. Ask yourself this questions, which religion will my children belong? If the pressure becomes so much tomorrow, am i ready to become a Muslim? My dear dnt be desperate, u cannot wait this long on God and he gives u something that confuses u. When your own comes, apart from inner peace, u will have notin to be confused about, u will be proud to talk abt it. God is not asleep, he will certainly reward those that diligently seek him. The blessings of God maketh rich and added no sorrow.
ReplyDeleteJust wait for a while, ur best is already here, am seeing it. God strengthen u. Take charge my dear.
If you Love God, u ll obey Him....."Don't be equally yoked wif unbelievers"...many ll advice u to go ahead buh sis, u and I know dat if u Love Jesus, you ll not do it!....
ReplyDeleteD reason why u pray about it and u r not getting affirmative answers is, ur mindset is biased...u r now praying wif so much on ur mind, u r in love, ur age etc.....
Infact, if u do it, u r not born again....
Many pple here will advice u to go ahead cos of ur age, buh u as a christian, knows dat God doesn't work dat way...few pple ll tell u d truth...and Stella's blog is not for issues like dis, it shld be between u n ur spiritual father....
Ur Christianity is about to crumble!
If u didn't know, u might be spared!
#my2cents#...
Luskii.....u pointed out some facts...gbam!!!
DeleteLuskii.....u pointed out some facts...gbam!!!
DeleteYou will always be an infidel in the sight of other muslims, but if he truly loves you. Marry him, after all the bible also gives space for when a beliver and an unbeliver are joined together, that you will be the one praying for him. Then you need to. Ask, will I be the only wife, or others will follow? If he is a yoruba muslim, my dear go ahead. But if he is Northerner, things could get really complicated with his family, friends and siblings. That's my own two cent's.
ReplyDeleteThe bible didn't give space to marry an unbeliever but if you got converted in your marriage Apostle Paul says you should let your character bring the unbelieving spouse to God
DeleteMa sis Is hard ooooooh!!!!! I believe is a test of ur faith n ur commitment to God.won't say kick him out cos e dosnt practice ur faith.....wu knows it might be Godwil for u ..just pray n ask for d holy spirit direction ..36 yrs is not joke dear.Wish u well.
ReplyDeleteMy sister, your case is so simple please get an amplified version bible and meditate on 2 cor 6: 14 till the light in the word comes alive. We have a companion for our earthly race-The Holy Ghost, the revealer of the secret things of God according to 1 cor 2: 9-11, engage Him (HE is like a person, not abstract) on a fact finding mission with an open heart, ready to obey.
ReplyDeleteThen read luke 1:5-13 (I just did this morning), see how long they waited but continued on the right path and how we still refer to them till eternity. And then 1 cor 10:13. We are all facing on battle or the other but one thing is sure it shall for us turn to a testimony. The grace of the most high willuphold you at this moment and the Holy Ghost will speak to you.
Anon 11:13am.....u're so spirit filled,,am encouraged...
DeleteAnon 11:13am.....u're so spirit filled,,am encouraged...
DeleteThis one is ga gaani o. @ poster, I'll advice you to follow your heart on this one since both of u have strong feelings for each other. Don't forget to pray about it though, don't forget also that both religions u mentioned were imported by d slave masters and jihadists. They r not indigenous to Africa, so tread carefully, don't lose a potentially good person because of religious beliefs. After all, religion they say, is the opium of d masses . my 2 cents.
ReplyDeleteClick my name for all your celebration cakes n cupcakes, Cheers
Seek for the will of God and evryoda tin will fall in place... You could be God sent to him to change his faith.... Pray!
ReplyDeleteChimoooo dis one tough gan!!! Walahi, sister Mary I no getam por advice heha!!! Ama come back later!!!
ReplyDeleteGirl, Sister in the Lord advice yourself,
ReplyDeleteThose half trouser people ...... my leg no dey before dey go say i talk
I Zip my Mouth
My dear I feel ur pain, am a believer as well. Pls do not marry him, when God wants to bless u and answer ur prayers d devil wil bring its own gift 2.just be more patient and God wil give u what u want remember hannah in d bible.besides the major important tin as christians is to MAKE HEAVEN, pls don't allow anytin to deprive u of dat glorious home remember ders no marriage in heaven.am writing this cos I it was impressed upon me by the Holyspirit. Dnt compromise ur faith 4 anytin.Jesus loves u and is bringing ur husband ur way soonest. Dnt settle for d devils gift when Gods gift is on d way.REMAIN BLESSED
ReplyDeleteMy dear sister the bible says be nt equally yoked with unbelievers.dont allow the devil use u as a play tool. That man is of a different faith he isn't someone u can marry.watch n pray my sister
ReplyDeleteIn his religion, you are called 'Kafiri' meaning an Infidel.
ReplyDeleteEven if you guys can make it work. It will be a looong walk to freedom.
My sister. Am some worth in this position. It can be sad finding love in the weirdest places. For me its a sad No to go ahead with the relationship. I wished things were different cos I love him like a bad habit. But I know so much of Christianity to convert.. Family sef no go hia am. Maybe if you'll remain a Christian after marriage. However. I'll just say don't bother. Over anonymous they worry me. If I write my initial sef dem go catch. I go shock if nobody tell me say na me post ds one sef. SingleNhappy Nne
ReplyDeletePoster you have found love in a hopeless place. Light and darkness doesn't go together.
ReplyDeletePersonally I can never marry a muslim. Those people are heartless when it comes to religion. Pray and think about it. God will send your own man soon.
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I hav precisely d same problem sinc 2011. I am a very conscious true muslim lady dat wear hijab. I'v had 3 xtian men on my neck begging me for marriage. I dont seem to knw hw such rship can work wit me cos i CANT under any circumstance refuse to be a muslim n also remove my HIJAB. D man in d U.S keeps pestering me till date n i dont seem to get muslim brothers around me(am going to be 37 soonest). Mayb dey assume am married.
ReplyDeleteI advice dat mayb i swap d man in d U.S disturbing me wit u for d 'alfa'. SDK am sure u can be of help to do dis if my submission make any sense to u. O.A.K.
Lol, hugs dear. Swapping is what really got me touched. I have brothers who are Muslims but sadly they are younger ( 30) and not even ready to settle down. Very naughty too. I think you should funkify your hijab like the Emiraties do, that way you look fashionable and unmarried.
DeleteAnon 11:23 am....wats d probability that d man in d US will love d poster and that the Alfa will live you.....dont just settle for anything all in the name of marriage or else ur long wait and perseverance will be wasted....it is well...
DeleteAnon 11:23 am....wats d probability that d man in d US will love d poster and that the Alfa will live you.....dont just settle for anything all in the name of marriage or else ur long wait and perseverance will be wasted....it is well...
DeleteHmnn my dear u knw d ans already. U just nid it to b re-echoed in2 U̶̲̥̅̊Ʀ ear. Its a no no all d way. "Bit b not unequally yoked wit an unbeliver" u knw na. God Almighty will send U̶̲̥̅̊Ʀ own to u , just b more patient.datsall
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmm @poster this is hard oh. I know quite a number of xtain who married Muslims and had nice relationship with their husband and some did not. Again read 1corinthians 7:12-16. It talks about it. It's well. Do pray about it.
ReplyDeleteGo with your heart. Do what you know will give you eternal happiness. You are not young so don't let what people might or might not say stop you from being happy. I am a Muslim married to a Catholic who never thought he could be married to a non Christian too but we are both happy and in love and we practice our different religions with no problem. It's called being liberal and accepting of others.
ReplyDeleteI hav precisely d same problem sinc 2011. I am a very conscious true muslim lady dat wear hijab. I'v had 3 xtian men on my neck begging me for marriage. I dont seem to knw hw such rship can work wit me cos i CANT under any circumstance refuse to be a muslim n also remove my HIJAB. D man in d U.S keeps pestering me till date n i dont seem to get muslim brothers around me(am going to be 37 soonest). Mayb dey assume am married.
ReplyDeleteI advice dat mayb i swap d man in d U.S disturbing me wit u for d 'alfa'. SDK am sure u can be of help to do dis if my submission make any sense to u. O.A.K.
You are a christian and u r thinking like this?
ReplyDeleteWell, lemme quote ur bible 4 u "will two work together unless they agree?
Another thing, how do u expect a man 2 look at u wen u r dressed annoyingly? Probably maxi skirt, rubber thread hair, no makeup, no earring, etc......
If I were an unbeliver, I won't listen to someone who looks that way and comes to preach salvation to me cz I would rather look good than "untidy.
Dear Poster: ur being "a virgin; a born again Christian; an evangelist" is not enof f u t know wen God speaks. U might b a committed christian but ur intimacy wt God will b lacking. How does God speak t u? Does he speak t u thru dreams, visions, revelations etc. My dear feelings r good but dnt let it take prominence over God's will f ur life. U shud talk t God abt wot u feel @ d mo even though d bible in 2 Cor 6 v 14 enjoins us: "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?" but there r christians who r haPpily married t muslims n dey practise their distinct religion freely.
ReplyDeleteSeek God's face diligently, he will def speak t u. His will matters a lot.
U have to be careful becos d devil is not sleeping ,looking for who to devour. I know dat ageis not on ur side but look @ it ids way u are a preacher of d word what will u tell GOD if dis guy isn't meat for u? What will u tell who u preach to? Are u really sure d guy has not read quran on ur head to make u love him? Is ur love n attreaction to him naturalav I know @ dis state u are u can pray becos of ur state of mind but u can discuss dis with ur spiriyual father don't be shy becos of d step u want to take is abig one. Please ask for direction frm ur spiyual father. U don't want to share dis with dem becos u already think dey will condem u pls marriage is alife time commitment n ur calling is very important which u must guard jeasously becos dat ur purpose in life don't be deceive by d devil, he is like a raoing lion looking for who to devour. U may be under a spell ». Tira) pls be wise n careful think of ur calling
ReplyDeleteMy dear, my aunt was in your shoes, fell in love with a muslim and her family basically cast her out, but she was forming 'love in tokyo' and refused to listen. Fastforward today, the man has 4 wives and has basically abandoned her!!!! Advice: At first it will be a bed of roses, but 5 to 6 years later when the real marriage sets in, IT WONT BE EASY AT ALL!!! Think well o, your future kids? your fam? your religion?.
ReplyDelete#ThatFineDoctor...
Stella, Biko shift, make I follow you siddon dey wait for comments to roll in . This tory be as e get.
ReplyDeleteChai. This one go hard ooo.
ReplyDeleteMaybe both of you should move to the USA n practice Xtianity or Muslimity.
Infact,I no know.
Sounds like my big aunt talking!lol...I'm just imagining she's d one writing this,only that she's changed some details like her location.
ReplyDeleteWell,Im taking a seat too on this one
I want to advise u as a fellow Christian. Pls and pls run dear sis. Fine u av been praying for a life partner for long and hoping yo get married, but I dont think he is for u. Marry somebody u share the same faith wt. Somebody that you can hold hands together and pray sharing the same faith. I think the devil jst want to distract you cos ur miracle is on the way. The alfa too will definitely get s devoted muslim sister to marry. There is no how u wont av issues if u both marry each other. A world is enof for the wise.
ReplyDeleteI think you should go ahead and marry this guy. Religion or no religion what matters is love. We discriminate a lot in Africa. Both of you can still keep your faith after marriage. Westerners that brought religion to us don't even practice it any more. Marry the guy joor.
ReplyDeleteHave u prayed about it? You can talk to God about it and listen to what he says.
ReplyDeleteGod has a plan for everything. Maybe God wants you to save him. The best thing is to pray and ask God for direction rather human beings.
ReplyDeleteIf he loves u dt much and if it's the will of God he wld change to Christianity, maybe dts why God choose u to b able to change him.
ReplyDeleteMy darling virgin sister, I believe that above all things we are first human before we are religion (Christian/Muslim). As long as both of you are willing to accept each other, c'est finis
ReplyDeletehmmm.......abeg stella make i sitdown ur leg for dis one wait comments***
ReplyDeleteMy dear sister in the Lord. Love is a beautiful thing I agree but trust me if you're such a staunch Christian after you get married got will begin to see and experience things that you feel strongly against. My aunt married a Muslim who loved her to no end would even wash Hey clothes for hey then. Would encourage her to go to church. After marriage hmmmm he banned her from church and the kids too were forbidden. He apparently had another family where he spends most of his time in another city(as a Muslim more than one wife is permitted innit). My advice if you really love him that much convert to Islam (as a christian that shouldn't be the case)and be ready for all that comes with it eg another wife/wives etc. The choice is truly yours to make. As the saying goes advice is what we ask when we already know what we want to do
ReplyDeleteYou people are something else! So because he is a muslim, he is now a No-Go area? What ever gave you all right to judge? God created the heavens, the eart and everything therein. In situations like this, the people that are supposed to keep quite and learn from other people's comments are the ones to type gibberish.
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster, you will be the greatest fool if you don't marry that man. How many of your so called fellow born again bachelors have ever looked in your direction? We both know the answer to that.
if you like, keep deceiving yourself and , if you like, give heed to these rubbish comments.
By the way, if anybody says, don't marry him, tell the person to provide husband for you.
Nuffsaid
Anon 12:01pm......u are all about her getting married but not concerned about her happiness in marriage....so because commenters cannot provide husband for her...she should risk trading her peace and happiness all in the marriage???i see that for people like u....marriage is ur all in all even if u're not happy afterwards...SMH
DeleteAnon 12:01pm......u are all about her getting married but not concerned about her happiness in marriage....so because commenters cannot provide husband for her...she should risk trading her peace and happiness all in the marriage???i see that for people like u....marriage is ur all in all even if u're not happy afterwards...SMH
DeleteOne question: The man wakes up after marriage and decides to marry a 2nd, 3rd, 4th . . . wife. He is practicing his religion; isn't he?
ReplyDeleteThe Bible talks about it in 1 cor 7:13-14
ReplyDeletenot advisable at all. you guys are going to be having kids... whose religion are they going to be following, yours or his? think it through!!! my 1 cent mind!
ReplyDeleteIn Idi Amins voice 'Freedom of speech i can guarantee you, but freedom after i cant'. Food for thought. Freedom to serve ur God now is guaranteeable, but freedom to serve ur God after dis union is unguaranteeable. Maybe we should advice you to choose love at the expense of ur one and only TRUE LOVE CHRIST. An enormous blessing accrues to a muslim if he succeeds in converting his spouse to islam, on d contrary if it fails, he is pressured to take a second wife who is a true muslim all in a bid to frustrate you. And can u stop him from marrying more wives? No. He is entitled to 4. BEWARE ! BE WARNED!! DONT FALL A VICTIM!!!
ReplyDeleteMarry a muslim???..MBA NU.
ReplyDeleteMadam Poster am not going to tell you yes or no because u wear the shoe and know where it hurts but ask yourself if you would be willing to convert to Muslim because it will come up later unless your hubby is willing to convert. if he is not willing to convert don't deceive yourself. I am writing bec i came from such background, growing up we use to attend church with mum and mosque with dad on special celebrations but their came a time when dad could not stand family pressure, mum has to convert or divorce.
ReplyDeleteHow will you pray together?
ReplyDeleteYou know as a family/young couple. You always have to pray together.
Shey una go 'kirun' ni? Or will you pray in Jesus name?
Or you haven't thought of that?
Your so called equally yoked Christians will cheat on you. How many Christians are faithful. Many are just church goers . Fashola's wife is a Christian o.
ReplyDeleteMy only fear is that if he remains a Muslim, he may marry other wives.
Pray, let God's will be done in your life. But it seems both of you are compatible. Rose
ATTN TO: March 5, 2014 at 11:25 AM
ReplyDeleteSTELLA ABEG HELP DO PARTNER SWAP OH!
this might just solve the whole ish. you never know!
Thank u all for ur advice, i'm so grateful, God bless u all!
ReplyDeleteI'v read and digested all ur opinions, will take a bold step to speak to my mum, my parish pastor and my spiritual father about it as some of u had advised!
I was just too scared and shy to talk abt it wt dem but nw i just have to speak out to save my future and my relationship with God!
As per some dat asked if i was truly born again to succumb to such a thing.....hmmm if only u were in my shoes but thanks to u all all the same!
Most importantly, thanks Stella for posting my story cos u if u didnt i wuldnt be reading comments frm ur honourable blog visitors!
God bless u all, i appreciate!!!!!!!
there are still more comments. Godspeed, dear
DeleteMy dear religion compatibility is such a big deal and will definitely pose an issue in the future...so please think very well...
ReplyDeletewww.bride2mum.com
A muslim is always a muslim and they pick their religion anyday. Hunny, pls I know wot u feel cos av been in yr shoes too, I ran away. I don't know bout d guy now but am bout to marry a very swwet loving xtian brother. That yr alfa will parry 2,3,4 wives! Hw u go feel? Babe, u better run abi make I borrow u legs.lol. The Lord strengthen u always and bring the right man yr way. One love sis.
ReplyDeleteWrong dear!!! The bible says be yea not unequally yoked with unbelievers...islam and christainity are poles apart.islam supports 4wives...christainity says 1 wife.islam believes in allah,christainity in God,heaven and hell....what about train up a child in the way that he should grow? Can't u see ur children will be confused? Hw many family altars will u have? What names wud ur children bear? Names glorifying God or praising allah? This marriage will compromise ur faith and with God ,no compromises....cos the standards of God can never be lowered for anybody.and b4 u tell me his ur challenge from God or u plan on converting him,convert him and make sure he's really a christain b4 u say take the vows or join islam.......remember u cannot serve God and mammon....make the choice
ReplyDeletei completely agreed what what Kaycee wrote:
ReplyDeleteSee temptation, a very sweet temptation lmao,the devil is very Cony sha,he knows this sister wants love desperately, so he now sets a very good trap and unfortunately in the Christian world, you have already backslided.You need to seek for mercy.
Have you forgotten,''the bible says i know the thoughts i think towards you, thoughts of peace and not of evil but to give you an expected end'' that thought is of the devil because you can't be happy,its two diffent people entirely; you can serve God&Mammon;you can't serve two masters.
Please, you have lost your feet as a believer, run to the cross and make amends, remember Gods promises for your life;God doesn't look at your age and considers your blessing,he blesses you in his time and his blessing is joy forever more. i know how you feel and it hurts to be single at that age sometimes, but as a believer remember you work by faith and not by sight;cast out the thoughts of Alpha,its the devil.
you said it all Kaycee.
@Abosede, your miracle husband is on the way infact He's almost at your door step but d bad/corny devil wants to use the muslim brother to rob u of that miracle. ask yourself 'Do i still hear from the Holy Sprit'? i pray God's mercy interval in your case speedily b4 your marital destiny gets ruined' Godforbid.
If you can get past yourself and truly honour the Lord, not considering that you are a virgin and advanced in age for marriage then you would receive greater than you think at this time.
ReplyDeleteIf you would honour Him in life, in or without marriage and give any child(ren) He entrust to you the best upbringing to find Him through Christ Jesus the Lord and you stay with the Lord then He would give you a name better than that of sons and daughters.
Don’t look at what people around you are doing and what has even come your way… look to the Lord and what delights Him. You might think your sanctification means little to Him but you are wrong – the things He appreciates the most are those freely/ willingly given to Him not necessarily out of obedience to stated laws and commandments but the heart overflow.
Love without obedience is no love… Solomon also loved foreigners to the promise and ended up compromising his position and office. The greatest love is to love the Lord….when we see this and walk in this realisation then everything else pales away.
The best is yet ahead for you… Isaiah 56:3-6, Revelation 3: 7-13
My dear, two things I c here, one: that u are at d verge of ur breakthrough , n the devil wants to deceive u to go for less. Two: even if u can tolerate this guy, what abt his family? If he is an Alfa, then he must have a strong Muslim back ground. Can u cope with that cos they will definitely come around and u don't expect them to stop their practice becos u are in the house. Also concerning naming its definitely going to be their way, if u were not a strong Christian I will say yes but with ur level of Christianity n his level of commitment I feel it will be a little bit difficult cos after a while the love n the infatuation u feel now will go aside n u face the reality in marriage .
ReplyDeleteI know of a sister that got married to a Muslim brother cos they were so much in love, after a while the guy had to build a mosque in their compound cos they were well to do n all kinds of pple come into their compound from one meeting to another speaking in arabics at times n definitely she couldn't mingle thus becoming a stranger in her own house n later became a shadow of her old self but could not complain to any one cos she was warned. And don't forget as an Alfa when ur kids grow might want to send them to Arabic sch. Are u prepared for all that? Pls LOOK BEFOREULEAP
My dear sister in Christ, pls don't marry him. He may seem all nice and friendly now but but once he is married 2 u, u will see his true colours. He will force u 2 give up ur religion n convert 2 Islam. I sincerely believe that God is about to bring your God given husband. Do not let the enemy have an upper hand in your life. U have waited this long. Do u knw if your God given husband is just around the corner? All this is a distraction and a ploy of the enemy to deceive, frustrate, scatter and alter your life. He is a canker worm. If u marry him, you will look back with regrets, start all over again and say, had I known!!!!
ReplyDeleteStella, abeg give me one of ur seats
ReplyDeleteMy sis, take heed to what the bible says;it may tarry but your own will come,dont settle for less.Ok think about it if u marry this guy how will u feel if he carries his mat, incense etc to pray in the room,can your heart bear it knowing the true way to worship God, I think this is a way the devil is using to distract u from your walk with God.I advice u to run,if possible relocate since u are neighbours and I believe with time u will get over it and smile at the end.You will come back and share your testimony on this blog and we will all rejoice with u.
ReplyDeletePoster....i have a story to tell which u can learn from.....I had a friend during my university days,,we were also room mates...her dad is an Alhaji while her mum is a christian to the core....According to her,,her mum sponsored her dad thru skool when they were dating years back cos her mum was already working as a typist somewhere in Lagos.....her dad loved her mum so much and when he made his intentions known to the family about marrying her mum,,his family kicked against it becos she was not a muslim....her father stood his ground and eventually they got married....the man allowed the woman to continue in her christian faith,,but when they started having kids,,issues started coming up....the man wanted his children to be a muslim,,while the woman also wanted her kids to be a christian....Eventually,,the kids started doing more of the muslim thing,,their dad taking them to alasalatu where they heard islam is the only way,Jesus is just a prophet and other things different from what their dear mum used to teach them from the bible,,,then confusion sets in....when the first child gained admission into d uni...he became a born again christian and a student pastor,,their dad disowned him cos of that...the second born,,a lady who is my friend also joined RCCG in skool,,became a worker,,became a deaconess...i cant count the number of times i had to cover up for her whenever her dad visited and she was probably in one meeting as a deaconess or engaging in one church activity or the other...during the ramadan fast,,they all eat "sare" with dia dad in the morning,,and still eat normal breakfast,,lunch and dinner...and at nite they will still pretend and "break" the fast with him.....Eventually dis man got to know all these and accused his wife of tuning the backs of his children against him,,,he moved out of the house,,married another wife who started bearing kids for him and those kids from the new wife are the ones he refers to as "his kids"...he instructed all his family members not to have anything to do with his first wife....my friend suffered in school,,cos at that time their mum was not working again,,and their father was less concerned about their welfare...their mum had to start selling smoked fish and her elder brother who was having a job with a low income at that time was assisting too....did i say that their dad is highly influential but he refused to help his son to get a better job except the guy would convert to a muslim??...when my friend was getting married about 6yrs ago,,her dad refused to attend because she got married to a Christian and they had a church wedding....but at that time my friend sef no send the man cos she had a good job already in a bank and her hubby is doing well too as a medical doctor........Poster,,am sure u dont want to lay foundations for future problems,,u are so bothered right now becos of ur age(which i understand)....but u have waited for so long to now think of settling for less....God will not bring u dis far to leave you....its better u speak with ur mum and ur spiritual father to pray along with you because right now you may not hear God when he speaks to you since your heart is speaking with you too....DO NOT BE EQUALLY YOKED WITH UNBELIEVERS,,so the scriptures says...
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, you almost made me cry. See devil at work. after all these years of serving God? but why? a virgin at 36, no make-up, no weapon etc. forsaking the things of this world and holding earnestly to the garment of Jesus Christ. The devil knew he has lost you so many years ago that is why he is staging a come back in the form of this Muslim man. Ruuuuuun for your life. Its never late to get married. Hold on to what you believe. I tell you, your husband is already at your doorstep. this is just another lie of the devil to distract you. If you marry this man, will you also go on the streets to win souls for God? will you also hold midnight prayers in your house when your in-laws are around?. will you also attend night vigils in your church?. what happens at the birth of your child, who names/dedicates him. abeg. am just angry. Shalom.
ReplyDeletemost of d comment here are so sentimental, I guess bloglord say some sense,,dear poster since ur emotions is now involved ur prayer and request will be biase, am a Muslim lady and I know how u feel,most of. D times we don't know how God Works,most times not the way we think at all,nobody knows the future,
ReplyDeleteu will say Cuz of ur faith it's forbidden yea dat tru,even Islam forbids a beliver marrying unbeliever but who are the unbeliever? is it someone who doesn't share same faith with u or someone who doesn't belive in one God,anyways dat aside,will u say Cuz he's a Muslim he's liable to marry 4wives or so,how abt Xtain dat marry many wives too,anyway dat not it,Islam only accept. men to marry up to 4 wives with great condition even must be with the concent of the wife at home,anyway dat too aside,
wat I can suggest u do is put ur emotion aside and ask the one God that we both serve for directions, serious fasting.and prayers is required dou dis is hard Cuz ur emotions is involve,but u can ask people who u think are tru beliver to help u pray abt it,but don't give in the details or condition, just tell God to clarify dis road for u he. guide us to the right path and not make u go astray,ask him to pray too,and madam,the Lord has make our hrt our weakness,even marrying ur fellow faith doesn't guarantee ur happiness, forget ur age and emotions. just seek God with neutral mind
Anon 2:37pm.....so how many myslim men actually took permission from dia first wife before marrying another....we are not saying christian men dont do that too but Christianity is against polygamy while ur own islam is fully in support it to d level of 4 wives sef....so any christian guy who marries more than one wife is acting against d instructions of d bible.....get ur facts right pls....
DeleteAnon 2:37pm.....so how many myslim men actually took permission from dia first wife before marrying another....we are not saying christian men dont do that too but Christianity is against polygamy while ur own islam is fully in support it to d level of 4 wives sef....so any christian guy who marries more than one wife is acting against d instructions of d bible.....get ur facts right pls....
DeleteDear Poster, Please it's your decision but i'll advice do not marry him. I have a christian friend that married a muslim even after all the agreement, the guy at some point now remembered he's a muslim and forbade my friend entering the church, the children even go to muslim school though I don't see that a problem. The man married another woman under her nose. She has never taken her children to church for dedication and baptism and that kills her* NEVER*. Now she reads koran to try and save her marriage she's a shadow of herself. This is a well exposed and learned man as my friend calls him. The marriage is shaky now. please my dear don't rush into it. Pray and take your time. But please my two cents do not marry him. Cheers
ReplyDeleteHmm. Really wonder why we can't meet, fall in love and marry who we love. Do we really know what Muslim and Christianity entails? It's all about same God people but different mode of worship. If I were you poster, I will ask God for a sign that he is my husband not basically because he's a Muslim. We can't go far with this religious and ethnic differences. Love requires sacrifice remember, giving up Christianity for Muslim isn't sinful...Let God be the judge. Good luck.
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Anon 3:19pm.....no talk wetin u no know ooo....giving up christianity for a muslim ke???poster sef will not do that....
DeleteThis is a serious case,but sometimes I wonder how some people think n reason.ignorance truly is a big disease.imagine someone saying christains worship God n Muslims worship Allah.pls,what is God n Allah?is God not Allah in arabic,Eledumare in yoruba n God in english,chineke or chukwu in igbo.Gods name in different languages.if you want to convince d poster,do it knowledgeably. Poster,I will not decide for you based on religion cos God knows best.we have good muslim n christain,so also d bad ones.have seen couple frm diferent beliefs n they are living hapily,while those with d same belief have problems.Pray to God for direction.have seen somebody in ur shoes,rejected d offer then n now regreting,but that won't b ur case.pray hard,do it wisely.religion is foreign,age is not on your side.you can't get a perfect partner anywhere*opinion*there are some sacrifices you will have to offer but not d one that will ruin you.saying these cos I have friends who are suffering now cos they chose to marry someone who sharess d same belief with them.let God dcide ffor u,nt let any human run your life for u.choose wisely.May God be with us all.peejay
ReplyDeleteThose of you advising her to flee, are you ready to marry her? I know a lot of deeper life members wey don enter menopause. Their men go outside to marry waka waka babes and bring to the church. Please brothers make una dey consider those sisters o. Rose
ReplyDeleteit is a very pathetic issue. i ll suggest you don't let yourself be clouded by the love you feel for yourselves right now. Hold the bull by the horn and ask yourself just one question. Have you have ever thought it biblically right to marry someone of a different belief. If no, please don't go there unless you are ready to sacrifice your faith. c'est finis. You might not be able to contain the aftermath of the consequence.
ReplyDeletePoster stop your stupid lies cos no true spirit filled Christian who is an evangelist will marry a Muslim......not because they are not humans but because the bible says except a man be born again u will not see the kingdom of God...Muslims do not believe in the trinity, or Jesus being the son of God so how can you be yoked with a man who has no spiritual connection to the God u claim to love......don't fool yourself
ReplyDeleteMY DEAREST BORN AGAIN SISTER, please let it be known to you today that "ANYBODY THAT MARRIES AN UNBELIEVER WILL DEFINITELY MAKES THE DEVIL HIS/HER FATHER IN LAW"
ReplyDeleteAfter rain,comes sunshine..
ReplyDeletethis may be your greatest trial and a huge step to that which God has planned for you..
please do not relent ok?,trust in him for joy cometh in the morning.
everything has been said,these are the most honest comments i have read,i am so touched.do not go on with the relationship,move out of the compound if it gets too much,God will never give you something that would take so much worry and confusion to decide on.continue your ways with him,he will give you the very right person when you lest expect it and i have a feeling it would be in a short-while,just when you overcome this temptation that you are faced with.
shalom!
Dear poster, Anon 10.15am (i.e. the first commenter) said it all. If the man loves you as he professes, let him prove it by converting to Christianity.
ReplyDeleteAnother commenter made a valid point too. That the man could change after marriage and force you to become a Muslim. Also as a Muslim, he's entitled to 4 wives. Can you cope with that??
Plus the bible said, "Do not be unequally yoked." Remember, it is iron that sharpens iron.
Pray ooo, so that you would not fall into temptation.
~OLORI~
just when God is about to bless you with your husband, the devil has quickly rushed a man into your life. Flee oooo.
ReplyDeleteIssues like this are very very sensitive.
ReplyDeleteBut first I want to ask what makes anyone of you think that a Christian will see heaven before a Muslim ?
By the way I am Christian.
Religion is a very personal thing. It's all about your standing with God. There are Muslims who are more steadfast with God than many pastors. Yes Jesus is the way, truth, and light. But I know that God will not forsake a righteous man that is in good standing with Him, just because he didn't have the privilege of being born and brought up as Christian.
How many times have you been offered food in a Christian home? I'll be in a Christian home and they will be eating in front of me without offering me even water. What is Christ like about that ? But when with Muslims reverse is the case.
Anyway back to the topic.
I was once married to a Christian. They will never mis church on Sunday. Always the first to get to the alter when they make any announcement or something.
Everything was right I was marrying a fellow Christian abi. Oh did I mention I'm born again spiri-koko.
Then I married this born again man from born again family, only to be confronted by his parents after marriage and kids were involved that I need to do their family rites. Mehn I saw jazz live just like Yoruba film.
His mother would bring different stuffs to the house. Drink this, bathe that, hang this, etc. They came up with different things. Things that are too sensitive to share on the internet.
But long and short of it is I left. Cause I didn't want to join there ways. And did I mention the whole family is super educated, so this is not matter of illiterates.
Essence of my story is not to say marry the Muslim brother. I'm just trying to say marrying a Christian brother may not guarantee you a place in heaven, just like marrying a Muslim also will not.
Marry whoever you do because God has shown you that is His will for you, not because of religion.
When I had issues in my marriage, I would stay up all night carrying to God and I kept asking why why Why didn't You stop it? Why didn't You tell me?
After many nights of crying one day I was sitting quietly and I heard God say "do you remember that day you were about to step into the bathroom and I told you to pray about him yourself?"
Then I remembered. I never actually really prayed about it myself. We just went to my pastor and his pastor and they both said we were perfect for each other. So we married.
So Abosede, take some time away from that house go somewhere quiet and pray. Do not forget to leave your emotion and gishgish feeling at home when going so you can hear God.
Anony 5:32 stop confusing church goer with being born again..... I come from a family of believers and we don't do fetish things..... People go to church don't mean they r Christians.... A lot of you ladies marry without praying and when problems start to blame God.... No marriage is without problems but there are some major things God will show u when you truly pray and seek his face....
DeleteDon't ever ever fool yourself no man is righteous so being good can never take you to heaven..... I don't care how nice you are if you are not born again I. E confess Jesus a your lord and saviour you will not make heaven.... And even after that you must live holy by the help of the Holy Spirit..... So any born again Christian who thinks God will sanction a marriage with a Muslim is living in deceit..... He loves All of humanity but they must acknowledge him as lord and saviour to make heaven.....sorry I may sound sanctimonious but that is what my bible which I believe says
DeleteI see that a lot of the "so-called Christians" do not really know their Bibles.
ReplyDeleteThe fact that you were born into a Christian family or you go to church does not make you a believer.
Poster, please read this
http://bible-truths.com/yoked.htm
I pray God orders your step and help you to make the very best decision. I also pray that you will not get your own ideas mixed up with what God is saying to you. AMEN!!!
Thank you anon 2.37, "who is an unbeliever"?
ReplyDeleteThat is the question on my mind
An unbeliever is one who has not confessed Jesus as their personal lord and saviour.....
DeleteWe don't need another prophet Hosea that God asked to marry an unbeliever. In the new testament, God was specific about our relationship with unbelievers. So stop lying to yourself.
ReplyDeleteYou are a believer(born-again) he is a believer (Muslim born-again) in his faith at the end both of you pray to same God but in different faiths. If he will allow you to practise your religion freely without hindrance, i do not see anything wrong with it. But bear in mind that some Alpha's are psycho he might not be all you think he is, maybe you should give yourself some time before taking decision.
ReplyDeleteDo not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.if u re really a Christian and u serve God,leave dis man and God will bring you a better person.have faith!or will u readily change ur faith to Muslim?if u can,then go ahead!
ReplyDeleteI have seen such marriages work, but what I notice is that either one or both are not fully committed to their religion. When the reality of life sets in and they both become spiritual, one person either switches, or issues start coming about.
ReplyDeleteYou both are very entrenched into your religion. When you have problems, and they will come in marriage, how will you solve them? Who do you turn to? Your pastor or his imam?
I suggest you critically evaluate Islam and see if it is a religion you can practice and live with. If you can't do go into it.
If you believe that Jesus Christ is the way, the truth, the light, then don't bother, because you won't be able to watch your husband and kids go to hell for not accepting your beliefs.
I'm muslim married to a muslim who won't even let me read the book of Proverbs (I think that's ignorance on his part). If you're faced with that situation, what will you do, and how will you feel?
Think it through very deeply oh. It's not a small matter.
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ReplyDeleteHi sister abosede,i would like to meet u in person perhaps we could become friends,i'm also a devoted christian looking forward to settle down,i'm 34 and if u dont mind connect with me through my email olanrewajupeters10@gmail.com
ReplyDeleteI will be waiting to hearing from u
Babeei run run run
DeleteHope no be jazz sha. Better run.
ReplyDeleteDont get yoked with an unbeliever but please sister be yoked with Pastors and Special Christians who commits all sorts of atrocities but its over looked because they are"born again christians" You are not serious. My God is the ultimate judge, not you and i. Christians these days are so arrogant. They believe that once you wear that tag"born again" you are omnipotent. Sit there. Marry him jare. Are christians not marrying second wives and having baby mamas everywhere. Marriage is luck. Each person story is different. I know a lot of moslem guys that are very disciplined. Its all luck. Our society encourages bad behavior, not the religion!!! Good luck! Do you know what Christ sent you to do in his life? God knows everybody's partner. That you marry a born again doesn't guarantee you happiness. Think!!!!
ReplyDeletePlease just to offer you my three cents. RUN AS FAST AS YOUR LEGS CAN CARRY YOU SIS. Devil is very cunny. The devil wants to mess up God's big blessings that's about showing up in your life. You amy not be able to think straight now. Please muster enough strength to run away from that environment for now to TRULY seek the face of God. God is not mistaking about HIS words. You need to return to God for help cos your emotions is at d peak now. You can't marry him cos the word of God is clear. What you're going through is pure lust cos of all the qualities you've mentioned about him. SEEK GOD NOW oo. It's dangerous giving such things of this magnitude space in your heart or else it will become a stronghold.
ReplyDeletePls seek Gods face in prayer and fasting,do not allow d flesh lead u.pls do not get desperate cos of ur age. God works in ways we don't understand,. Pray harder dan before and seek his face for he is a convenant keeping God. . Biko backseat occupiers lap me abeg since no space
ReplyDeleteWell, I wud like to commend ur efforts, for u to even stay untouched for dis long, is enuf for u to be more careful, more watchful and more prayerful. Devil is a liar! And he finks he is smart. Ur story is similar to dat of JOB in d bible, wen devil tested him wiv all sorts and he overcame d devil even used his own wife And household against him but he overcame and God blessed him more than he expected, God replaced JOB lost yrs. I will tell you d truth from d spiritual angle. That Muslim guy isn't ur husband! He is a distraction and if u fall my darling d devil will win d battle, but I reject such for you, IJN. Ur own hubby is jst arund d corner, be patient and more prayerful. Don't pray for meaningless finz like God shld kill d feelings and stuffs. Pray for a sign from God, pray dat every distraction on ur way blocking ur own man shld be removed by fire! ,ask God to show u dis Muslim guy true intentions becos clearly u re carried away by d physical ritenw, u dnt rily knw his heart, ask God to expose d devil! In ur situation. U cnt keep urself for dis long and then end up with something lower than u deserve. Don't let d devil rub u off d real blessings, which I bliv is very close to u, infact closer to u than u know. But u v to first overcome dis stumbling block/ temptation which is d Muslim dude. This is a strong battle and temptation, u nid to prepare for war. Dry fasting with prayers for 3days and am so sure God will speak to u! A word is enuf for d wise. Do not stain ur spotless garment becos of desperation and impatience. God is a faithful God, he will never, ever let u down! I also advice u avoid him seriously. May God see u thru!
ReplyDelete2 corinthians 6:14 says a Christian should not be yoked unequaly with unbelievers.. This is a big test to your faith and believe, the sunlight you are seeing now ain't real.. There's a counterfeit for every originality. Be careful so as to not loose the blessing of waiting for 36years.. don't be a locked up Christian, mingle face temptation n cross them over. Having only ur neigbour notice u means uve got change one or two about you.. i think when you consider the future (kids) how u wanna raise them! For Christ or muhammad? This is an Alfa oohh not just a common Muslim.. WATCH IT
ReplyDeleteEhhnn. Born again Christian, you beta don't allow devil to toy with ur heart. He seem harmless now, wait until u marry him (boko boko tins). you think bible says not to unequally yoke with unbeliever for nothing? think of your final destination. Bunmi
ReplyDeleteMy dearest sister, God's standard can never be change for any man pls marriage or not think of life after death. If you are a born again as u said than do d right by following the standard.
ReplyDeleteDon't do it.......please
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