Stella, I write this in tears.
I just discovered my Genotype is (AS) .
I’ve always known my fiancés own (AS too). We are close to getting married, I cant imagine life without him. I feel so miserable like someone punched me in my belly.
I have this conviction that we might not necessarily give birth to an SS from stories I have heard and families I have known. I am scared to death because I love my fiancée wholeheartedly.
My questions are. (For the doctors in this blog)
Is there any preventive measure?
Cant SS patient live too?
Please Even though l will get a lot of abuses, i need advises too. God Bless You all .
*A stitch in time saves nine.....
Poster u know the answer and u still ask..... Just quietly work outta ur relationship and avoid 'had I known'.... E no get magic wey u fit do, SS must come in and u will spend money maintain ur child's health,if not children....#alinko
ReplyDeleteOga sir, who told you SS must come in are you God? It's not a must but it's a risk. I knw 2 coupls who are both AS and none of their kids are SS. It's a game of chance, poster r u ready to gamble with ur life and dat of ur unborn kids? If your answer is yes, pls carry go. If otherwise, pack your load and run forget love in this mata.
DeleteMama V.
Fine boy, sexy boy , beta pikin.. I just like you
DeleteStan you ve big head , but little brain. If you don't have anything to say. You keep quite than tolking shit out of your mouth.
DeleteIt's not worth d risk. U could spend all ur life n money from hospital to hospital. Better end it before u hate urself in future n hate him cos of d stress b even resent d kid cos always falling ill n vice versa
DeleteAnon 12:59.
DeleteDo you know all the little details? Most times, after getting preg, they go and do a test to check the genotype of the baby. If it's SS, they remove the preg and start all over again.
You just know all their kids are not SS but you don't know the pains they went through to achieve that.
Poster. Please the pain and worry isn't worth it. When you are pregnant, you will be thinking and praying and worrying which can increase your bp. Honestly. It is not worth it.
What happens if you now give birth to SS. The pains the child will go through. The pains you would go through watching your child in pain.
It's not a life I would even wish for an enemy.
Prevention is better than cure. There's a reason for that saying.
Please. Please. Let Go of your relationship.
Ss must come in...mama v,i have a friend u cannot tell dat she is ss except she tells u,wen i ask her how she manage it she said dey dnt wait 4 her 2 get sick,her moda is a nurse fat every 6mnts dey change her blood n d family is rich dey can afford it......As + As must av SS,just pray dat not all ur kids r SS,so poster like Stella said a stitch in time.........
DeletePls. Shut up if u don't know anyfn,u think its easy. Av a friend who is ss and she's 40 and not maaried. Its stressful poster. I know of a patient who lost both her kids to ss. Plsdont be blind by love.
DeleteAnon 3.21, if I don't knw d details I won't comment. I knw all d details, Infact one of d couple didn't even knw their genotype till they had all their 4 kids. Thank God none was SS. Wat they have are AA, AS,AS,AA. The other ones, their faith worked for them, they don't believe in genotype, they have AS,AS,AA. I knw them very well enough to knw d details. So AS AS must not have SS. I don't encourage Pple to take d risk cos I have 2 siblings who are SS so I knw d risk involved. I also broke up wit a long time Boyfriend years ago cos of this genotype mata. Thank God today am married to an AA and we hv a SS free home.
DeleteMama V
I can tell you for sure that your two first children will not be ss. Go ahead with ur marriage. The first two children are not always as. However, if u decide to give birth to more u will start having ss. Go ask a dr about this. Pls don't break up
DeleteAnon 9:53 abeg carry your false information commot. You think this is beer parlour where you peddle old wives tales
DeleteIn this age and time, people need to know their genotype before they start to date
DeleteIf you are ready to play "try your luck" game and also ready to do series of D & C, you can go ahead.
ReplyDeleteThis issue has been dealt with severally here.
Seriously I wouldn't advice you go ahead with that marriage
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Can't ss patient live too.
ReplyDeleteHow callous. You want go bring a child into this world and allow the child go through untold pain. Use your head now. Forget this union. You can find someone else.
The pain this child will go through will cause wahala between you and this love of your life and you will eventually break up. Think now. Good luck
Any girl who has attained d age of 18 (adulthood) n doesn't knw her genotype is stupid... Dear Poster, forget abt ur conviction n dnt allow sentiment be cloud ur sense of reasoning. U just discovered u r AS, how old r u btw? Y dd u wait till u were ready t get married before u knw ur genotype. Well I see ur mind is made up already. Break up is a No f u @ ds stage so I wud tel u t kindly marry ur fiance whom u luv wholeheartedly but in no distant time frm now u will run back t us t advice u on how t manage ur sickle cell child. Mschew!
ReplyDeleteMy dear, i am AS, and married to AS. We both have 3 health kids! You can go for counseling at The Sickle Cell Foundation Clinic. Think its opposite Luth. If you have money, you can travel. Look, everything is in Gods hands. What would be, would be. It is not a death sentence. Its Gods mercy and compassion. Goodluck
ReplyDeleteLady X if I may ask how many SS foetus did u terminate? Well I agree with u that its not a death sentence but not every one can go through what u might have gone through to have 3 healthy kids.
DeleteSweetheart not all As+As has ss these days o, it's God, just be prayerful and trust in d Lord He'll surely see u thru.
DeleteA friend of mine and her hubby are both As, families were against their union cos of this ss stuff but to God be d glory she has 2 healthy kids. So in all u do put God 1st.
Tired of this AS AS issue! Pls go back to old posts on this blog and you'll get the answers to your question.
ReplyDeletethese things can be so annoying, imagine me, i have always thought i was AA (have the report sef) only for me to go for a test this year and it shows that am AS. am still plan on going for a confirmation though, but am keeping my distance from my AS boyfriend and its really giving me wahala.
ReplyDeletePls go for another oone those guys in d lap are crazy I Amm AA I have known dat since I was 10 only for me to run another one 26 dey told me I was AS I had to run it again in 4 diff lap n I got my AA result back
Deletelap? fear God with this your English.
Deletedid u jus say u jus discovered???dz whole years,ur university days nko??u ddnt bother knowing ur genotype??dz z really annoying,aswear..got no advice for u cos i go jus abuse u taya..lemme jus hold it
ReplyDeleteGo back to former posts. If you are really a blog visitor, you would have been a part of the former discussions. Btw why are you just discovering? What were you doing with him since? Having sex and hoping that a miracle happens? You can't imagine life without him, hope he can say same about you, especially if you give him two sicklers?
ReplyDeleteSharrrap there, talk talk. If u don't have gist shut d hell up @anon 11:09. I must talk. Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeew
DeleteYes. There's preventive measure and its calling off the marriage. As much as you have faith that you won't have a genotype SS child, faith is not a plan.
ReplyDeleteWe cannot stress enough why certain basic knowledge about your health is important. The least you should know are ur blood type, genotype, allergies, HIV status, and importantly your blood pressure readings. These information can help you make good decisions. Madam, its sad that you found out late but its better than being sorry. Please my heat felt advise to you is to kiss him goodbye and wait for your true love.
The blessings of God makes rich and He adds no sorrow to it. Prov 10 v 22
Listen to Dr Okey inugo?God bless you.
DeleteDr Okechukwu am crushing on you oh. *winks*
DeleteKeep crushing,when u see him live na hin u go no say,life get part 2.Arab money onise face ur boyfriend.
DeleteToo many dick hungry ladies on here. They keep crushing all around. Shior!
DeleteAshewo, leave someone else's husband alone. Crushing ko crushing ni.
DeleteStella abi u blog din turn to pimp?
Dr ökechukwu, there are other preventive measures but just expensive. Haven't u heard about CVS? I am talking from experience cos I was also in that position before. My dear u and ur fiance can book an appointment at d national sickle cell centre idi-araba. Is just opposite Luth. There are ways u can prevent having ss kids but is quite expensive, Infact there is even an ongoing research about a condom that u and ur partner can use if u both are AS and u won't have SS kids. Speaking from experience.
DeleteAnonymous, I am aware that you can do a chorionic villus sampling to determine certain abnormalities. However the action required after determination is what I am concerned about. Remember that it is ideally done at or after 10 weeks. If an SS fetus is indicated, you then have to abort. How many abortions yo be done cannot be pre determined. Why go thru all of this?? Its also expensive, putting a financial strain on the couple.
DeleteIts not wise to see blindness and embrace it because there is an eye doctor in the neighborhood.
This dr okechukeu is a fake dr. Which medical school did u attend?
DeleteAnon 5:00pm shut up there joor! How okey take be person husband? So u think coz u drugged him, raped him and got pregnant it automatically makes him your hubby? Idiot u better take several seats in ur village market square and stop trying to pour sand in my garri. Okey my love hope u are good! *tongue out*
Deletenills CVS procedure as a preventive measure, but if the baby is SS u have to abort. There is a 25% risk of having SS in every pregnancy. The question u should ask yourself is do u luv useful so much to sacrifice your relationship, are u financially buoyant to afford such procedures, how many kids do u want, are u psychologically, physically nd emotionally stable to go thru the stress of the procedure nd abortion if need be. Having a SS child should never be an alternative so if u are not ready for the above. Then peacefully quit d relationship goodbye. XxxbarbieXxx
DeleteI don't know why nigerians love asking Jamb question all d time. Stella has posted something like this before. What do you want us to tell u? That u should go ahead with d wedding? Like stella said; a stich in time says nine. If u like marry d guy, next year u will send another pathetic story for stella to post.
ReplyDeleteSharrrap jor, if she'd seen it b4 u think she'll still be asking? Mumu. Abi Stella told u her hands were painning her while she was typing?
DeleteIdiota.
You only live once dear.........do what makes you happy! Lifez too short to deprive yoursef of happiness***
ReplyDeleteSugar o......no kill me
DeleteMake that things sha no kill. #yimmu
Delete#hian. Make wetin dey sweet u no shorten life sha
DeleteMake that things sha no kill. #yimmu
DeleteThat would make sense if there were no innocent children involved
DeleteDear poster, this is carelessness and ignorance on your part.
ReplyDeleteKnowing fully well that your fiance is AS, nobody needs to preach it into your ears before finding your way to the nearest hospital for blood test.
Am actually surprised that before now you don't have a knowledge of your genotype....i got to know mine at the age of 10
Your crying out for advice already indicates the fact that you know the danger in you an AS marrying another AS so do the needful.
prevention is better than cure! but if you insist, i wish you luck
Smelly pussy has now re branded as peppermint, jobless girl. U will soon join your papa for aro
ReplyDeleteAn African proverb says 'the stubborn fly would end up following the corpse to the grave'
ReplyDeleteThat's all I'm gon' say.
You can detect the genotype of your baby while pregnant. If the genotype is SS which there is no cure for it, you can abort it. My question to you is why did you want to go through all this stress, i don't think is worth it. Good luck
ReplyDeleteThe best preventive measure you can take is to not go ahead with the marriage plans. Thereby saving yourself and unborn children a lot of pains and heartache.
ReplyDeleteI'm not one of such that'll advise you to start praying. God gave us hearts to love but He also gave us brains to think. Use your head.
Darling please encourage yourself to stand. U love him today but will u love him 2moro when d hassles in marriage begin and d sick child(ren) you both brought to this world suffers in so much pain?
ReplyDeleteKnowing your blood group n genotype should be among the things discussed in your 1st month of hooking up as new lovers. U'll be fine darling, take heart.
What u knw wil save u... No matter d love u hav for him, genotype is a serious issue except u hav GREAT faith dat it wil change cos notin is impossible wit our God. Bt prevention is stil better than cure. D last decistion stil rests wit u. More grace
ReplyDeleteI dnt think you shld risk it, wen dating a person that is the first thing to do know ur blood group/genotype.
ReplyDeleteYoung lady this situation is Irredeemable just take a walk and moveon.
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster!!! There is sumtn we call pre-natal Diagnosi!!! U would check the genotype of d child b4 its born. Buts its pretty expensive... U would regret ur life and marriage cos d aim of marraige(reproduction) will be defeated. U will be in constant pain all through ur marriage.... Please do not get married to him. Except of cos u can bear the consequences. Love can be Over-rated @ tyms!!!
ReplyDeleteThe aim of marriage is reproduction? You are very foolish.
DeleteYes, it's true, the aim of marriage is companionship and reproduction. Believe it or not.
DeleteMy dear poster!!! There is sumtn we call pre-natal Diagnosi!!! U would check the genotype of d child b4 its born. Buts its pretty expensive... U would regret ur life and marriage cos d aim of marraige(reproduction) will be defeated. U will be in constant pain all through ur marriage.... Please do not get married to him. Except of cos u can bear the consequences. Love can be Over-rated @ tyms!!!
ReplyDeleteAnd afta diagnosing d unborn child turns out t b SS nko?
DeleteMy dear poster!!! There is sumtn we call pre-natal Diagnosi!!! U would check the genotype of d child b4 its born. Buts its pretty expensive... U would regret ur life and marriage cos d aim of marraige(reproduction) will be defeated. U will be in constant pain all through ur marriage.... Please do not get married to him. Except of cos u can bear the consequences. Love can be Over-rated @ tyms!!!
ReplyDeletePls I beg you in the name of God, don't take that chance of punishing ur unborn kids.... just let the man go... because the both S MUST cross AND U HAVE AN SS AS- AS
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S S....
And the both ss meets ... I know the diagram looks stupid. as a doctor I advice against it... unless u want to be having an abortion if u find out if the baby in ur womb is SS Which as a catholic am so against.
pls I know it sure will hurt u just let the relationship go
Stella why did you give this idiot and self centered person a space in your blog, if i recollect this same As issue has been treated several times in this blog.Now i understand what the Dr that said Nigerians need to be educated. This is the reason why we as Nigerians are stuck in the past. This kind of shit is not obtainable in developed world.I live outside nija and i have a friend with an Ss child, once i followed her to the monthly routine for her son, the shocker i got was that every single person in the waiting room where either an africa and indians.@ poster Let me give it to you, Knowingly bringing a sickle cell child into this world makes you no different from an Abortionist and a murderer.
ReplyDeleteSo I cannot give advice unless u insult her rite, ur living outside Nigeria does not make u less than an illiterate cos u just proved u are one.
Deleteabeg there is no shocker there. blacks and Indians are carriers. Oyinbos get their own wahala. If you go to a waiting room full of people with Crohns disease, they would be mostly Jews.
DeleteAbeg, singles in the house, go and do a genotype test if you haven't already, and once in a serious relationship ask ur partner his /hers. It saves a whole lot of stress and heartache. I'm in the medical field and I know the kinda pain and stress and expenses undertaken when one or more members of a family are sicklers .
ReplyDeleteNo matter how strong your faith is, if God doesn't give you the go-ahead pls don't!!!
Awwwww, how sad.
ReplyDeleteMy dear,as hard as it may seem, you both have to move on separately. Don't marry please, you might regret it on the long run. You really don't want to risk bringing an SS child into this world.
God has his reasons for revealing the truth to you now before it is too late. Accept the truth in good faith and move on. Believe me, you will survive.
May the Lord heal you both and bring you your perfect match to you soonest, Amen.
Ur pain is understandable but pls for future peace of mind n happiness, let go of ur spouse n find d right genotype match for urself... what is love when u bring children. into d world to suffer cuz of ur carelessness n selfishness... do d right thing n let go pls... God b with u
ReplyDeleteAs Stella said 'A stitch in time saves nine'
ReplyDeleteFind ur husdand go front,to avoid stories that touch.
A word is enogh for the wise.
Vee
"Can't SS patient live too" You are a bastard for even thinking to go ahead and marry knowing fully well U'd be birthing SS.Do you know what you will be putting the child through because of Ure own selfish interest.That child will loathe you for the rest of his or her life if it comes to their knowledge that they are put through all that pain just because you are In love.My name is Joan and I'm a sickle cell patient.Thank you
ReplyDeleteSweetie y not direct ur anger to d people that brought u into this world instead of insulting someone else.
DeleteNa wa o, sorry u hear.
Thank you Joan. People use sentiments and religion to deceive themselves and others!
DeleteYou just have to let him go..sorry.
ReplyDeleteNne, to be frank with you, this love you are professing for your bobo eh, will vanish when you have an SS. The pain of having a suffering child and having sleepless nights once the attacks come. To be frank, you can't even wish it for your enemy. To tell you the truth, if I am that child, I will hate you both for what you are making me go through in life. That is all. Over to others. No need to abuse you seeing that what you stand to reap will be more than the common abuses that might come.
ReplyDeleteCry! Cry!! Cry!!!
ReplyDeleteDry your tears
Move on
I beg you in the name of God
End the relationship.
It's difficult,i know
But, with time, you'll be fine.
It's better gambling into the marriage
Hoping not to have AS kids and you end up having them
The agony will last for a life time esp when the kids start having crisis or even die.
May God not allow us know the graces of our children.
Call off the relationship, with time, you will heal.
GIVE TIME TIME!
#hugs#
its better to let go sweetie.
ReplyDeleteI have a friend that dated her then fiancé for 6years only to find out after her intro that they were both AS. they had conducted a test earlier in the relationship, and probably a mistake on the result which showed her she was AA.
she thought her world had crumbled. she will never find another, she wouldn't be able to love some one else.
Fast forward to present day. she's got two lovely kids with another man whom she later married. her first son just turned 4 a few days ago.
she keeps thanking God she never allowed her emotions be-cloud her futuristic reasoning.
dear poster, you hurt now ...yes!
its painful, yes!
the thoughts of starting all over kills you..yes!
Will you die? No!
So, let go! save yourself pain and agony in future...spare your children torture and torment.
LET GO!
Hummmmmmm,I beg u in God's name,dnt bring children in2 dis world 2 suffer,pls 4get love in dis matter,by d time u bring in children wit sickle cell,n d crisis begins,u wnt beliv what d love of ur life will turn in2
ReplyDeleteHmmm...dear poster, what can I say? I am AS and for many years everyone I came across, liked or dated was AS too. At that time, I decided to join the Sickle Cell Foundation just to know more about people leaving with the SS blood condition just incase I ended up with a Sickly child. I know there are hospitals where Genotype preselection can be done and I know of a particular hospital in Abuja that charges a minimum of N2million for that procedure. This is not hear say, I contacted the hospital myself. I also know that the genotype of the foetus can be checked at a few weeks and can be evacuated if not favorable. But, in all of these, I will say Prevention is Better than Cure! I know couples who do not have any SS offspring and I also know couples who have as many as 2 to 3 SS offspring! I'd suggest you ask God for direction. You may also want to visit hospitals and talk to professional about this. Google is your friend, im sure you'll find hospitals who specialize in such on the web. Finally, wisdom is profitable to direct. Please calm down and think through this deeply and be sincere with yourself. Remember Love isn't selfish, Love is Health and Love is Wealth.
ReplyDeleteHow many times ll we discuss this issue here, selfish bunch!! Poster if u discovered dis ur fiancee u love whole heartedly has HIV, ll u still marry him
ReplyDeleteI feel ur pain dear, but it's better u let go. Its for the best, so that u can have healthy kids in future. Though I know of AS that got married n are still married till date. They have been 4 like 13yrs now with three kids, all AS. The lady has been pregnant like 11times, but during each pregnancy, there is a test she does @3mnths or so of d pregnancy, Dat test tells d genotype of d child she is carrying, whenever she does it if d genotype is SS, she gets rid of d baby. So in all eleven pregnancies, she has been able to have 3(three) AS kids. Heard d test is very very expensive though, but something like that do exist. I wish u a good life dear, Remember to pray about everything, and worry about nothing.
ReplyDeleteMy dear pls hold ur heart. Sometimes, u may think u can't live wtout somone but truth is, if he dies, u won't die wt him. You'll only cry and in a few months, u wil move on. Forget him. That's d only option for u. The possibilty dt u won't birth a sickler is almost none. And if u ever do, this love btw u two now wil go sour nd u wil regret marryin ds guy. Ur child wil hate u, u wil waste ur resources, both time nd money strugglin to save a life dt ll stil be lost. I may sound harsh but pls, assume ur fiance is dead nd move on. Didn't want to blame u but hw can a grown up adult not know his/her genotype, esp a female? Men can easily get over a break up nd find somone else but its not dt easy for women. Dnt worry. God is wt u
ReplyDeletei hate post like this cos they are from seriousness humans.....lol.....you are in tears indeed, if u are you wont come to a blog for answers you would have gone to doctors to give u advice and the way forward already.......mcshweeeeeeew
ReplyDeleteHmmm well am no doctor but I do know dat its neither safe nor healthy..
ReplyDeleteDear poster, I dont doubt d fact dat u love ur fiancee but have u thought of what will happen to dat love wen u eventually get married but find out dat ur love is not strong enuf to keep ur children alive nd healthy! !!
Can love be able 2 give u happiness wen u keep losing ur children one after d other??? Am not saying its going to be ur portion but b4 u both take dat risk
I suggest u think about it thoroughly nd pray over it too. I know dat God will show u d ryt way to follow.
I know dat nothing is impossible for God to do. So think nd pray!!!
U want to chook ur hand inside fire and u re asking sdkers if it will burn? Use ur head dearie...
ReplyDeleteHaney
Pls get a life u sulk
Deletepeppermint
This peppermint person,you seriously need to get a life before the bitterness in your heart destroys you. Even the grammar you're typing to abuse another person is incorrect. Smh..
Deleteª♍ so so sorie abt Ʊя situation.. I must understand what you going thru.. Dr. Okechuckwu! You attention is highly needed.
ReplyDeleteLet the guy go its not easy yes ! God will bring your own to you .rather see ur doctor for further advice
ReplyDeleteSo sorry madam but how some dat in dis age and time pple are still guessing their genotype? My candid advise is for u both to path ways though it will not be easy but its better to face d little pain noW than bringing ano innocent child into this world to suffer for what he or she knws nothing abt. Hope some pple will not come and start telling her to pray. Its better not to put the powers of God to test.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry dear. As somebody who has friends that went through this, I know how much you must be hurting. They both decided to call it off since they figured the pain to come was not worth the stress. One is married to the love of her life (she met him after she broke up with her a s boyfriend) and the other one is in a relationship now. One thing you must know is that while love is the most awesome feeling in the world it sometimes wilts under adversity leaving you filled with regret. Everyone has heard stories of people who felt they'd die without their partners only to fallin love with a better person later and even thank God that other relationship didn't work out. I wish you all the best as you try to do the right thing for the both of you. Choose wisely as your choice is your destiny
ReplyDeleteexactly. the emotional and financial stress of having a SS child drives couples apart
DeleteAs much as i believe in love, i know that there are some situations where love is just not enough and this is one. You are not there yet, so please really think it though. the torment and heartache may just be what you cannot bear. i am speaking from the experience of a sister and the marriage just could not take it. not to talk of the fact that their ss daoughter died. Please have a rethink
ReplyDeleteYou have come with your issue. Love is a beautiful thing, but there are some things that even love cant stand the test of. One of them is loosing children. Please walk out now while you still can. You will hurt, you will cry, you will feel like dying but you will be the better for it down the road. Even ignorance is not an excuse, not to talk of when you want to open your eyes and do it. Be wise...God bless.
ReplyDeleteI know some ppl will tell you to pray and I believe in Prayer. But my dear d Lord knows why you had to find out now before you become a "Mrs". Do not put the Lord thy God in a test.
ReplyDeleteIts not easy but you have to move on
Poster, yes they can, my sis is turning 41 in June, she has 3kids. But it wasn't easy, she lived must of her life till her mid 20s in the hospital, though a lot older than I am, my earliest memory of her is being on one admission or the order. The pain of crisis no be here oh! And simple malaria, cold etc can easily kill them. They need round the clock care and deformities can also set in.
ReplyDeleteAs an AS, who has had to make the decision too, you have to look at the bigger picture. Crazily my sister went ahead and married AS, she has 2 SS and one AS, the 12yr old niece has badly deformed hands from a severe crisis that led to bone enlargement. All the best. Paulette
What I am saying with this long story is, they are people who do it, but think it through practically. Be fair to your future kids
Your sister is very mean and unfeeling. Gush!
Deletekai that your sister is an evil being. Sorry to say but it's just the fact.
DeleteArezu saying u don't knw ur genotype b4 now?Some ladies are just amazing....I dnt knw what to say concerning this matter mhen!
ReplyDeleteGod help u ooh.
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Yes there is, check the genotype of the foetus if it is an ss baby the doc will do a medical abortion. That's about the only solution I think. Ss can live quite alright but you'll hate yourself for birthing that child when crisis starts and for putting that child in that painful situation. A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage in this case an ss child. But if you dont mind aborting then go on ahead. My 2cents
ReplyDeletePoster, yes they can, my sis is turning 41 in June, she has 3kids. But it wasn't easy, she lived must of her life till her mid 20s in the hospital, though a lot older than I am, my earliest memory of her is being on one admission or the order. The pain of crisis no be here oh! And simple malaria, cold etc can easily kill them. They need round the clock care and deformities can also set in.
ReplyDeleteAs an AS, who has had to make the decision too, you have to look at the bigger picture. Crazily my sister went ahead and married AS, she has 2 SS and one AS, the 12yr old niece has badly deformed hands from a severe crisis that led to bone enlargement. All the best.
I understand how u feel.as I hav been there.Having a best friend in school who was SS helped because i was a witness first hand to her pains.I left the love of my life and married someone else.It is hard.8 yrs after and a couple of healthy kids,I still wonder if i threw away my happiness for healthy kids.I am okay but not happy.And i understand that.Because in life we hav to make sacrifices.I love my kids to the moon and back but sometimes I wonder.People talk as if it is easy.It was one hard decision to make..Be strong and do the sensible thing.I did.
ReplyDeleteanon 11:04 AM
ReplyDeletei did say i have a report (medical) to show that am AA, did that when i got admission. no even think of insulting me you hear.
Until we begin sue our health professionals eh things no go better for our health system. My friend always thought that she is AA until her yhen boyfriend who is AS took her to a lab owned by the catholic church to check the whole mandatory test( as required by the catholic church). Mind u she don do all the test before and they tell am say she be AA. Casala burst when result comot oh. They didn't blive the result so they ho other places go re-do am oh and it still came out the same. She even go the place where she get her AA result and after every every they apologised to her oh. Why am i ranting like this? I'm so pained cos lots go thru dis. People will be quick to judge without knowing what really happened. Meanwhile the guy left her bt nt without blaming her for trying to trap him into marrying him oh. She get sickle cell anaemia bt when u see her u no go blive. I think her own na SC.
ReplyDeleteThank God you found out now. I have a pal,a very rich guy,he has 3kids. The 2girls are SS.
ReplyDeleteDo you want that for yourself?
Pls,take heart.
If you go ahead wit the marriage,u will regret n ur hubby will hate you for dragging him into this marriage of regrets.
SS crisis is not a child's play n ur kids will blame u for it.
Have you thought of adoption? Are you willing to invest in all the trial conception options that are out there for AS/AS couples? You can go ahead but know what you signed up for. I would be so mad at you if you bring in kids to this earth to go through the hell that SS children have to put up with when you had options. I have seen a family of SS kids gone...just like that! Kids with access to good hospitals in the Netherlands where they resided. The father was too scared to leave them in the hands of our health care system in Naija after he lost the first one. My dear, you have options...are you willing to take them?
ReplyDeletePoster,,u asked if AS children can live but u dont mind if the child lives in pain,discomfort and fear of knowing he/she could drop dead at any time....pls think very well and act wisely...
ReplyDeleteSome guys are funny. They will be doing I can't live without you until the stress of SS kids hit. Then he sees an option in an AA chic and you will be left wondering where his devotion has gone. We are the ones that usually cater to these kids anyway, while some men can't stomach what we go through for them. Add the trauma that this brings and you will be shocked. I know some wonderful SS kids but I also know their stories and their pain. They don't wish it on anyone...you now want to dip your toe in on account of not being able to live without him. See you see road...
ReplyDeleteHope say u sabi pray well well. Go to Faith Tabernacle Ota (aka canaanland). I have heard several testimonies of people that had their genotypes turned from AS to AA and even from SS to AA at canaanland. God can do your own too. Pele. It is well with you.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry dear I no it aint easy but just let it go to prevent stories dat touch. Ok
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ReplyDeletewhat kind of question is this, shebi u no go ask us for help when u born SS. abge stella give her plenty seat.
I read some comments here abt detection of genotype of a foetus @ 3 months of conception and I was laughing really hard. Assuming it takes an AS woman 3years to conceive and she went for d test only to discover dat she is carrying an SS foetus, will she be able to do away with d baby dat takes her 3 yrs to conceive? So dear poster be guided.*Ronks*
ReplyDeleteWELL DEAR POSTER I UNDERSTAND THE PAINS UR GOING THROUGH. BUT WHAT CAN YOU DO, U CAN'T JUST GO AHEAD AND MARRY THE MAN KNOWING FULLY WELL WHAT'S INVOLVE IN THE FUTURE. THE MEDICATIONS, THE PAIN AND AGONY OF BEING SICK OR SEEING UR BABY GOING TO THE CLINIC EVERYDAY AM SURE U WOULDN'T WANT TO SEE ALL THAT. I WOULD ADVICE U JUST LET IT GO OK. GOD WILL GRANT U UR HEART DESIRE.. COS SAME THING HAPPENED TO A FRIEND OF MINE HE WENT AHEAD TO MARRY HIS SWTHRT KNOWING FULLY WELL WHAT'S INVOLVE, THE LADY GOT PREGNANT BUT THE WORST PART AFTER GIVING BIRTH SHE DIED AND THE GIRL IS STILL ALIVE BUT THE FARTHER IS RICH TO TAKE KIE OF THE MEDICAL BILLS. MY DEAR MOVE ON OK, GOD BLESS U
ReplyDeleteDon't ever dare venture into marriage with a man with AS genotype...U will live to regret it in future..Don't mess with ur future and that of ur future kids...Prevention is better than cure...God will provide a suitable husband with AA genotype for u soon! Trust him!
ReplyDeleteIt is possible that your children may come out AS but there is also a high chance that atleast one will come out SS. Unfortunately, the lack of health insurance in Nigeria makes it damn near impossible for sickle cell patients to live longer. It is actually possible for sickle cell infants to be Cured. Yes, i said cured. I am a US trained medical doctor, and it is possible through bone marrow transplant. The bone marrow of a first degree relative (ie normal parents, siblings) is most effective. If u guys can afford to pay for health care here in the US and get all these test and procedures done, then look into it. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteyes, it can be cured but even in the US, it is rather expensive and to the best of my knowledge, it's not covered by most insurance plans. For the average Nigerian, going ahead with this marriage is not advisable and should be discouraged.
DeleteWhy risk it? It's not advisable girl, bringing a child to suffer on earth, dont leave to regret ur actions later because of love.
ReplyDeleteThe bigger question is: do you know his hiv status, do you know your own?
ReplyDelete@Queen Hadassah, my dear, i never had any SS, in all my pregnancies. i am truly blessed and i thank God!! I have 3 healthy kids. Its a 1 in 4 chance of you getting an SS, if you are both AS. Its just God in my case. And i am grateful
ReplyDeleteMrs poster, it is really a hard decision to make. I have a nine month old son who was diagnosed with sickle cell anemia at 6 months. It has been hell watching ur child in such unbearable pain over something he has no knowledge abt. My dear, it is not funny. I believed d lab results which said my husband is AA n I AA too during our prenuptial testing. If I knew earlier I would hv still married him but would hv know dt I will not try having kids. Think abt it
ReplyDeleteAll I need tell you that I know a family who lost 3 out of 4 kids to sickle cell. don't do it, for the sake of your kids and your peace of mind. I've seen them scream, I have heard them cry. Trust me, no one deserves that kind of pain, NO ONE.
ReplyDeleteCome to think of it, if you found out that he's HIV positive, would u go ahead for love sake? my dear sista, leave sentiments & take the bold step......i have found myself in d same shoes before so i know wat it feels like, i know its so so difficult but you just have to take bold step sis, God help and give you the Grace to carry on.
ReplyDeleteHello poster, please do not let people who know know nothing about love and happiness deceive you and lead you astray and you end up making the greatest mistake of your life. You both can marry yourselves if you are fully aware of the medical solutions available to you and then make your choices. I was faced with this same decision 8 years ago, oh I prayed to God confused etc. at the end my husband decided we have to go for it, guess what it's 3 kids down all AA and 7 years of a blissful marriage. This is just a battle you need to confront and if you arm yourself with knowledge on the subject, you are sure to conquer all, above all love conquers all.
ReplyDeleteI understand how u feel my dear because I have been there. I though my fiancé was AA from his previous test and only to find out he's actually AS after our intro. it felt like my world has crashed buh I had to tell myself the plain truth and moved on. I still miss him dearly because I vnt met anyone close to being loving like him. except u"r ready for d and c which is morally wrong,i"l advise u just move on and see it as a sign u weren't meant to be.i know God will put a smile on our faces soon....
ReplyDeleteI understand how u feel my dear because I have been there. I though my fiancé was AA from his previous test and only to find out he's actually AS after our intro. it felt like my world has crashed buh I had to tell myself the plain truth and moved on. I still miss him dearly because I vnt met anyone close to being loving like him. except u"r ready for d and c which is morally wrong,i"l advise u just move on and see it as a sign u weren't meant to be.i know God will put a smile on our faces soon....
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