Na wah!........One has to go and we need to decide fast!
Blog visitor says
''Hi Stella, Good morning.
I need advice from you and my fellow SDK readers. i have two men in my life that wants to marry me. i dont know which is the ideal one. am stuck and confused because i have to let one go. now one of them is very rich and nice. gives me everything i need. but he never has my time. he is always busy, hardly calls and is about 10 years older than me.
The other guy is ok but not very rich, he is very stingy but is caring and has my time. am stuck. who should i get married to? please i need sincere and mature advice. thanks...''
*Wow,this looks like double one chance oh!...i weak !
Choose the rich man. We only live once. Don't marry a stingy man.
ReplyDeleteExactly Poster,choose the rich guy biko...afterall,money answereth all...
DeleteMaureen is that you? Choose the Rich one 4 the 1million times. U 4got 2 mention he ve a child. Hehhehee...
DeleteAbeg, go for the rich Dude. He is mature and they are somethings he will overlook because of his age. He gives you everything you need..... So, whatelse do you want???
DeleteLinda, where is our birthday cake??? Hope you had fun yesterday.
Go for the rich guy, you two can always make out time for eachother along the way.. Do not I repeat, DO NOT go for the stingy guy cos the worst thing on earth is marrying a stingy person tufia! Some poor guys are still generous and would give you the last and only meat on their plate for instance. But to marry a poor and then stingy guy na curse biko.. Life is meant to be enjoyed.. Moreso, there's nothing wrong with marrying a guy who is 10yrs older, na when u marry man wey reach to born your mama wahala fit de but people still do it anyway so who d heck am I to judge? Lolz
DeleteImma is that you? News flash, the rich guy already moved on after he found out you lied to him. Just hold your sting caring guy well before he discovers he was just an option too
DeletePoster pls choose the rich man!!! Because any man that is stingy when he's poor will never allow u smell his kobo even as a wealthy man. Pls being conservative is not the same as being stingy, pls don't get it twisted dear, just marry the rich man already....abeg no go do the " I love u baby, e go better" style....comfort matters oo!! #MyOpinion
DeleteIf u marry a stingy man,u marry HELL!!!talkn 4rom experience,wen ur mates will b havn a good life,deir hubby's takn good care of dem evidently,urs will giv u 10k nd to him,hez givn u 1million..my dear,no go enter wetin go make u see ur mates 2morow begin hide face,b wise!
Delete@poster, I would say d answer lies within ur heart. Use ur tongue to count ur teeth. If I say u shld marry d stingy one, ur own dn finish be that, he will use love n replace his financial responsibilities, thereby subjecting u to be d breadwinner, that is if u re working. On d other hand, d one that has money n doesn't have time for you is another problem. Money isn't always everything, before u know it u go de carry him money go de sleep with small small boys, cos there's is nothing that can drive a woman crazy as much as loneliness. So pla use ya tongue count ya teeth, d answer lies wthin. But if I were u o, I won't marry any of them,
DeleteAbeg rich man jare,no go choose stingy man cos na u so hear am
DeleteNone of the above. R these the only 2 single men left on earth? Why do our precious women act like there is a "best before" date attached.
DeleteLook for a man who would treat u like a valuable addition to his life and whom you will adore.
Haba
You need the rich guy, fine but on a second thought, stingy guys are always faithful Inshort, u won't have any problems of infidelity. Even if he wants to cheat, girls will always keep a distance bcos of dis stinginess.
DeleteThe rich dude who doesn't av ur time now that ur still courting, will he ever have ur time when u eventually marry?
He's very rich and always busy, away match isn't far from his legs o...
Money isn't everything dear, I believe u tagged dis guy stingy cos he isn't spoiling you as much as the rich dude is and again he might do much more than him if he has as much he does, so give it time my dear.
Some guys even pretend to be selfish just so they could find you out...
Babe go for d rich abeg..... poor men too dey make life difficult for person ....
DeleteLol......what about the time? But the second guy is stingy and that is a big no
DeletePoster, have you prayed? What are their spiritual lives like? A man who feats the Lord will learn how to keep a marriage from God.
Marriage is one of the greatest decisions we make in life, so pray like your life depends on it cz it actually does.
My sister never ever ever in your life marry a stingy man no matter wat. You would regret. And besides 'stingy and nice' don't go together. That's all. Just be dulling yourself. Leave 'stingy' to be
DeleteMr Rich is the man
DeleteDoc, you are the only person that responded with sense. See these gold diggers, she should marry the rich guy who hardly calls...ermmm could it be he is married or with someone else. This is how blind you ladies are. Most she marry these two? Lady none of these men are yours. The fit no good, find another. Desperate things.
DeleteAnon 4:05, just as you have a right to express how you feel, we also have a right to state our opinion so whats the insult for? Calling us above gold diggers? Na your generation be gold diggers and will continue to dig goal but na charcoal dem go find.. If you think us going for comfort and peace of mind is gold digging? Then you can die in poverty if you like.. Anumanu #twerksout
DeleteMy dear, non of these men is good for marriage... My advice is for u to pray for ur man to come.. Pple are advicing u to go for da rich one but life is not all about money. Communciation matters a lot wen it comes to relationships nd marriage. So choose wisely.
DeleteAnon 4.05 If it were 2 b ur sister nw she won't b a Gold digger,rubbish anyway its d exact thing happening 2 a frd of mine but in her case d rich guy has a daughter and is stingy,den d not so rich guy is so generous 2 a fault and 9ce(her pastor hooked her up wit d not so rich guy)nw she is very confused cos she has bin wit d rich one 4 4yrs (wit notin 2 show 4 it),but d oda one dey re jus 1mth plus and a lot of changes.poster like I adviced my frd marry d rich one but my frd shld marry d not so rich one.
DeleteSee as all d babes mouth dey sharp. Go for the rich one,without even remembering that she is dating two guys. If its a man now,Una go don curse am tire shei? All men are dogs,all men are cheats. My pipilee no go support double dating,dats y I love her, very good ,decent girl#ilovepipilee
DeleteNa wa o. If ur man does not shag u well na us u go ask whether to leave or not, like we are the ones who feel the penetration and can measure for u the level of enjoyment. If he beats u, na us u go ask...like we are the ones who feel the bashing and know how painful you've been badly hit. if u have two men and u are confused, that is u who is the one sleeping with both or whatever oo, please sister, tell me how any one of us here can make a concise judgement for u? When YOU who knows and sees all yourself is confused? U know them by name and character, how can we tell u? Are we seers? I tire o
DeleteGo for the rich guy. You need alot of money to be happily married. Bola
ReplyDeleteMarry the rich guy
DeleteLife's too short to be stuck with a stingy man.
Incase you decide to choose the stingy one, send me the rich guys' number.
And I might just bring my success story with the rich guy to sdk's blog
No timeeeeeee
P.s I hope he can fuck well? I need a good strong power tool to shine my congo#shines teeth.
VIRGIN GIRL
Pinkshell aka Virgin girl keep looking for a strong power to shine your congo, always shining teeth. Mtcheew u too love money, poverty mentality na bastard.
Delete@ 3;59. Hian, u ppl n pinkshell sha. Can't rememba eva sayin I wz a virgin. Besides I find dis story very silly.
DeleteLol anon 3:59 u don kill pink shell lmao.
DeleteAnon, leave pinkshell alone.
DeleteIs she the only one allowed to use 'shineteeth'?
And as long as you're not the poster, don't talk to me, write to me or comment under this thread.
I rest my case.
VIRGIN GIRL
To me I advice u go for d one that is not stingy..he will definitely have ur time wen married... Build a better future for ur kids
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ReplyDeleteOmo see gobe, is not easy to get stuck with a stingy guy for life cos no be love we go chop, go for the rich guy, his money will cover for the time.
Choose the rich guy sharply. Who needs time when there is money to spend I look at my ex and I can't help but thank God I didn't end there. Probably by now I'd been a divorcee.
DeleteA man who is stingy in little will remain the same even if he becomes Dangote.
I prefer a man who would buy me 10k bicycle from his 30k salary than the one that will buy tokunbo camry from his million dollar account.
U don talk am finish
DeleteWell said sweet mother! He that is faithful in little, would be faithful in much! A rich man can also be stingy!
DeleteMy dear u didnt tell us anything negative about d rich guy abi r u sitting around doing nothing? Dat stingy man will bring generational curse to ur children plz o.
DeleteSinging in Tony Tetuila's voice....I'm in love wid 2 women I don't know which one 2 take x2 hahaha
ReplyDelete#Story Story....Story!!
*lips sealed and watching*
D rich man
ReplyDeleteNone of the above.
ReplyDeleteExactly my choice, if i am obliged to choose.
DeleteAfter all, i didn't see where it is stated that is a crime for a man to be both rich and caring.. None of the above mbok!
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So you go fit run go marry the rich guy abi? Your head de there bahahahhaa *ole tinz
DeleteDepends on what you value most. Is it the time or the money? Stingy guys are often times the most faithful (it's more cost efficient to keep one partner). Who makes you happy among them? Who are you at peace with? Who loves you more? If you marry the stingy man can you cope with him? Apart from the fact that he's tight fisted (according to you) are you okay with other things he does? These are questions you should ask yourself, I believe the answers will give you an idea of the path to follow. Money is not the ultimate but it can cause serious problems in relationships where it's absent or being hoarded. The man you want to be with might not have it all but at least he should have a considerable amount of the attributes you desire in a partner.
ReplyDeleteGo for d rich guy.stingy men is a no 4 me,talking fem experience.
ReplyDeletemarry the rich guy. you can have enough money to console yourself when the dogs start their useless behaviors
ReplyDeleteNo be small @"dogs start their useless behavior"
Delete@anons 11:26am & 3:54pm,from your comments i guess it's safe to assume you 'ladies' have only dated dogs...might it be a case of like attracting like?
DeleteAsk God for direction
ReplyDeleteI bet 90% here will say marry the rich dude.
U see y I said I don't like u bloglord, u are a fuckn pretender! I bet u married a church rat abi, mschewwww. My dear bv u better marry d rich guy, n 4get what 2 faced bitches like dis 1 will say.
DeletePoster,even the poor stingometer who has time for you now will also be scarce when money comes,age is just a number and money can buy u fountain of youth so pls go where ur bread is buttered. Live well,eat well,dress well,reduce stress and high blood pressure with poverty and management.
ReplyDeleteSpot on!
Deletelol.something tells me you knw who to marry but you just want validation.sweetie follow your hrt.
ReplyDeleteLol..@validation! I always tell people that before anyone embarks to seek any advice whatsoever from people, there is always an answer he/she has in mind.
DeleteI just Hope she makes a right choice sha.
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I wud av said T̅ђє̲̣̥ 2nd guy bt he's stingy. Veri tough
ReplyDeleteOluwaBlesyn
That's the ish dear.
DeleteIt would have been better the second one is caring and average(not poor, not rich) than stingy. Mbanu!!!
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Life is too short to marry a stingy man, pls go for the Rich man biko.
ReplyDeleteChoose the rich man o, with a stingy man you go suffer taya.
ReplyDeleteGo for the rich guy o,even if he doesn't have ya time.with ur money you can make ur self happy always,nd d man will be left with no choice than to think twice nd create time for you.#shinesteeth
ReplyDeleteGo for the rich guy o,even if he doesn't have ya time.with ur money you can make ur self happy always,nd d man will be left with no choice than to think twice nd create time for you.#shinesteeth
ReplyDeleteNo idea
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LMAO........ If you marry he rich man, you will end up cheating on him cause u his wont av his attention and you will feel neglected. Why do u even av to depend on your man for everything, if you are independent and hardworking, your man will be intimadated, dat will make him respect u more.....
ReplyDeleteBESIDES, I THINK YOU SHOULD MARRY THE SECOND ONE BECAUSE IF YOU REALLY LOVE THE FIRST ONE, YOU WONT FALL IN LOVE WITH THE SECOND ONE.......... THINK WELL
Thank you oo!!! Get a job you lazy ass cow and stop looking at the men's money. Stupid girl
DeleteAnd you could even spell 'ambitious'
DeleteVIRGIN GIRL
@ambitious lady, well said.
DeleteWhat makes you peeps to think the stingy guy would not neglect her also?
DeleteDid it ever oocur to you peeps that she might end up spending all her salary at home if the stingy man refused to play his role?
Is quite obvious you peeps are not married because no married woman who knows what it means to run a home would advise her to marry a stingy man!
By the time you are not able to have savings from your income and he is saving his, then you would know how far!
honey,
ReplyDeletehow can he be stingy and caring? Or do you mean caring by mouth? If he is stingy now, he will be stingy tomorrow.Even if he becomes generous,he will always rub it in your face. Stingy people are not happy people. ANd it will sure rub off on you one day.
On the other hand, a man who is way older has no time for mushy stuff.all he does is give you vanity to make you happy.
I'd say stick to the richer, older man.
Oyibo
honey,
ReplyDeletehow can he be stingy and caring? Or do you mean caring by mouth? If he is stingy now, he will be stingy tomorrow.Even if he becomes generous,he will always rub it in your face. Stingy people are not happy people. ANd it will sure rub off on you one day.
On the other hand, a man who is way older has no time for mushy stuff.all he does is give you vanity to make you happy.
I'd say stick to the richer, older man.
Oyibo
Money is not everything dear... it is better you marry who gives you attention. Every woman needs undivided attention from her spouse, moreover, because a man doesn't give you money as you want doesn't mean he is stingy. A Lot of men will shower you with gift and money when dating you but immediately you are a wife, the stream will stop flowing cos they've got what they want from you - you'll become a TROPHY WIFE!! God fearing is d ish thing when choosing a life partner not riches. Remember uwa na eme ntughari!! A rich man today, a poor man tomorrow and vice-versa. A word is enough for the wise.
ReplyDeleteNwa ikuku..nwa Mbaka!
DeleteN after d attention nko?garri n groundnut 4dinner after rigorous sex abi?
DeletePoster pls marry d rich guy jor.... Life is too short to marry a stingy guy.
ReplyDeleteVery easy. The rich one! Shikina!
ReplyDeleteMy dear go 4 d rich guy? D tinz dat makeup love is money? Abi u wan die 4 poverty
ReplyDeleteI cn date or marry a man I v little feelings for but when it comes to stinginess, count me out cos am allergic to a cheapskate. Cnt deal, nothing angers me than seeing someone not sharing d one he has be it big or small. Though if u can cope with a stingy man, u alone can make ur choice.
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ReplyDeleteMa dear, I'll advise that u go for none. Would av said u go for d rich guy if it wasn't a lifetime issue. Buh this is marriage, there'll be a time wen money means nothing to u, soon all u'll want is to av ur man by ur side. I can't as well say u should go for d stingy guy, cos u go see luv e go tire u. Wen u wanna make ur hair, buy clothes etc, is it his love dat will solve d problems? So my dear, I'll advise that you wait for anoda person to come, buh if u r impatient, den go for d rich cos d money can make u happy to an extent.
ReplyDeleteWhat do you desire? Attention or money? If you're from a wealthy family maybe you should go for the one that gives you attention. If you are a pauper then maybe the rich guy would do you good. But you seem to want attention from your to be husband which every sane woman desires. Hmmñ this is hard. But the final decision must be made by you. Go for the stingy guy.
ReplyDeletePersonally, i love attention! So, the former is a No for me. There is more to marriage than money.
ReplyDeleteAgain, Stingy guys disgust me alot... So, the later is a no go area for me... There is more to marriage than care.lol
From what i stated above dear poster, you can easily deduce that i'm more confused than you are.. Sincerely i don't think this is something advice can solve, you sure know what you want and where the shoe hurts you, people will come up with different ideas forgetting that want works for A, doesn't work for B most times. So, you sit down and tell your self the truth..
The good thing is that this ain't an exam/interview that you must have to choose between option A and option B to score a point.. No! You have a choice here to ignore both options please. Marriage ain't manage,the journey ahead is a very winding one full of uncertainties that what these two husband prospects lack may rise to play a very big role(positive/negative) in future then the "Had i known" becomes a daily chant for you but God forbid.
Sweetheart, let no one deceive you, not even your age nor your self. Be wise while tackling this please! Then after a choice is made by you, do not forget to invite us biko.
*May Angel Raphael, the Patron Angel of the youth and those seeking a marriage partner assist and direct you in your choice. Goodluck hun!
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All u nid to do is to go on ur kneels and ask God for guidance and wisdom in choosing ur bone of ur bone. If u marry the rich man cos of his wealth, wat if he gets poor tomorrow(just saying), wat will u hold on to? If u marry the stingy guy and he kips being tightfisted, how will u run the home peacefully? So u see my dear, it all boils down to God. My two cents tho
ReplyDeleteStingy Man???? Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
ReplyDeleteHmmm..Dear poster i noticed you did not mention love? Doesn't it matter to you? If all you want is riches then marry the rich man who has no time for you and before you know it you will start looking for younger guys outside your marriage who will keep you company. I am not materialistic by nature so may be that is why i will never understand those who are. Before you make up your mind please ask yourself this question, If you marry this rich man today and things go wrong tomorrow and the money disappear's, what will you do? Disappear too? Think deep. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteMarry d rich guy... older men r more sensitive n they know how to treat a lady right..
ReplyDeleteWhich of them do you truly love.. Money can never be everything
ReplyDeleteIt is your choice to make , if you think money is all that matters in your marriage go for the rich dude.
ReplyDeleteBut if you value contentment, attention, love, if you want a home, a friend go for the average guy.how well do you even know the rich man who hardly calls and you barely see? Hmmm
The word "stingy" is relative, some people are not wasteful and don't spend money on frivolities, doesn't mean they are stingy..You probably labelled him stingy because you keep comparing him to the richer guy.
My take about life is when you make a decision, live with the consequences, not tomorrow now you will start lamenting.
The rich guy will probably treat you like an acquired property and you may not have a say or opinion in your own home.All the best in your decision.
Only you can make that choice. See God's face,he knows before we ask.
ReplyDeleteTrust in d lord wt all ur hrt and lean not on ur own understanding.in all ur ways acknowledge him,and He shall direct ur path.Provb
ReplyDeleteSometimes i wonder if pple pray at all. Hum,choosing a marriage partner requires prayers and allowing God s will not urs. It also isnt gambling. See how u r here gambling fr hub as if d them be ludo game. If pple seeks God s help in marriage and other matters,am sure there wldnt be any dv,cheating and all sort. My dear pls go to God in prayer. He instituted marriage and d devil is neva happy wen u get it right.it might be one of d guys and it might also be none of them. I am a living testimony.i started telling God about my rightfl partner wen i was 16. I Him dt i want my hub t be d 1st person dt wl ask fr my hand in marriage. He sld block every fake. He did it fr me.when my hub came,we prayer and prayed. God used so many pple to confirm him fr me. 5 yrs now and i v no regret. My marriage is close to perfect
Weigh both options..from your story your choice is based on two factors (money and attention)
ReplyDeleteIf it's attention you want, go for the stingy one
If it's money you want then go for the rich
Simple as abc!
Does d rich guy luv u?and do u also luv him? Is he God fearing?Ope he doesn't also stray wit oda women?if ur answers are in d affirmative, den go for him and talk to him about his not aving time for u and see if he can change a little for u.
ReplyDeleteTwo types of Men dat i prayed wouldnt come my way: Stingy Men and Men who dont have my time.Ha,i cant even begin to fathom how i can deal wit d latter...not have my time?!Odiegwu!Sorry,i cant help u póster!
ReplyDeleteMarry the rich older guy.A man that sits with you all the time is a 'woman wrapper'.They usually don't make any money because they spend lazy time being possessive! Fall out is that they hold you back from making your money too! You can't live on love and fresh air!
ReplyDeleteGurl, life is too short to marry a stingy man. Na love go pay your bills? You call mortgage company and say "I got love check for you" or "I got love for you," they will foreclose your house and your ass will be out on the street. Abeg my sis, you no like better thing? Good luck.
ReplyDeleteif u r an independent lady,earning a good salary, or at least a manageable allowance, pls go fr d 2nd guy. hav married a rich dude who is never home, my kids n I dont lack we travel to any country we pleàse. bt I am lonely. my christian ethics wont let me cheat on him. I cry all d time. am very beautiful bt I dont knw y he doesnt want to b around me. my story is gonna be another long blog post. choose happiness dear.
ReplyDeleteWoman,ur husband is busy maaking money for u and ur kids. Just go and get urself nice sex toys. Marrying a stingy man is d worst thing that can happen to any woman. I am sure u if its possible for u to have a taste of a stingy man,u will keep doing thaanksgiving in ur church every week for ur rich hubby. U don't have any problem. Inugo?
DeleteWoman,ur husband is busy maaking money for u and ur kids. Just go and get urself nice sex toys. Marrying a stingy man is d worst thing that can happen to any woman. I am sure u if its possible for u to have a taste of a stingy man,u will keep doing thaanksgiving in ur church every week for ur rich hubby. U don't have any problem. Inugo?
DeleteTell.her Paula!
DeleteHow many women have the pleasure of traveling and getting exposure as you and your children. Make sure you have savings and invest in toys and hobbies.
The true currency of marriage is romance jot finance. I bet you'll regret if you follow money instead of romance fos when you write your script on " married but lonely" na only you go waka act am. Pls go with the stingy man, at least he is not stingy with his time and person
ReplyDeleteI would say " rich giving guy" but money isn't every thing, so it all depends on you as an individual. Search yourself to know what will make you happy. If you marry the rich guy and later become rich yourself, what next?
ReplyDeleteThe Alex
Marry a man that has regards for u.
ReplyDeleteSeek d face of God
ReplyDeleteIt depends on your background. If your family is rich and you are financially ok, then marry the one that has time for you, because i don't want to hear that you slept with a driver or gateman. If your family is not financially ok or you love money more than attention, marry the rich man and keep quiet forever because, he is not going to change. Rose
ReplyDeleteDon't listen to anybody that will say money is not everything and so you should marry the not so rich stingy guy. Every woman deserves the best, so my take on this is that you should marry the rich one and damn the stingy Mr caring.
ReplyDeleteCompanionship matters a great deal,you and the stingy one can build your life together,and marriage can change his being stingy,the rich guy will never be around most of the time when you need in,am in a dilemma myself,there is riches not over the top riches,but we can afford anything we desire,my hubby is ever rarely around,trust me when you are in that situation most especially if you are the romantic type,you will choose companionship over riches,someone to the the simplest of things with,watch TV,take walks together,discuss events of the day with,i didn't believe I could ever cheat on my hubby,i met an old friend on fb and we got chatting,first it was abt how lonely I was in the marriage,you know,pls stay with who has your time,when you taste the wealth and you are financially independent too,it won't meant jack anymore,all you will be craving for will be attention and companionship,so if your values of marriage is to have and to hold till death do you part,go for the caring one and forget the riches but if you are the time that has a mind set I want to be rich,regardless of whatever I see then go for the rich one but trust me you will end up cheating on him,companionship and attention matters more than money.
ReplyDeleteMarry the Rich man provided he respects u... stingy men r irritants.. 10year is just an ok age for a hubby..
ReplyDeleteNa lie.. marry the richer one... older men r more caring..forget the stingy one, he is no good... he must then be caring by mouth.. money is nt every thing yet u can't survive without money in a world like ours..
ReplyDeleteMarry The Rich one biko.
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ReplyDeleteYou should go for Vagina swap test, it might be an infection.
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Marry the rich Man joor! Most men are cheats and unfAITHFUL at least you know whta u are getting the stingy one becomes rich tommorow and more stingy and whom said stingy men dont cheat? they are the ones who sleep with runs babes and then would give them 200naira for TP and bye see you some other time....Rich guy abeg make u know wetin u get RUBBISH! IAM SO ANGRY BECAUSE I MADE THIS MISTAKE AND THE POOR GUY I MARRIED HAS BECOME COMFORTABLE NOW AND UNFAITHFUL AND VERY SECRETIVE WISH I HAD GONE FOR THE RICH DUDES FALLING ALL OVER ME ATLEAST I WOULD KNOW EXACTLY WHAT MY ISSUES ARE THAN BE WITH THIS UNREPENTANT LOW LIFE MAN!
ReplyDeleteI was in your position 7 years ago and I chose the rich man cause my friends and family (except for my brother) chose the rich guy , mind you I thought the "not so rich guy" was stingy cause he was not doing what hubby used to do because I have set the standard, but as we speak , I am probably in the most boring marraige ever.. He comes home , goes straight to bed , little time he has , spends it with his son. I have become a trophy wife , the only time we talk or act like we are cool is when we are out. Trust me I have every material thing I have needed , my 2014 G-wagon just got delivered two days ago but I am still not happy and constantly find myself thinking about the not so rich guy , who is doing good for himself now and married with two kids ( went searching on facebook).
ReplyDeleteI dont want to cheat on my husband , I am not that kind of woman , but I am bored as hell and I have tried everything possible , I even go on vacation with my son alone .. Now my brother looks at me and reminds me how he told me , to just take a minute and think about it , but I was so eager to get married at 25 now I am just 32 and already feel like I have been married for 40 years , no matter how you think you job or your children might fill the void , you didnt get married for your job to do that for you or vice versa.. We have totally lost the bases of being married , most women get married for comfort , some to escape and when they find themselves in situations , they go he does not treat me well , hes this , hes that , all men are the same .. I think we are always the architect of our own misfortune. I have found myself here and I might as well lay on the bed I made even though I am not happy and probably would never be.
I hope all the young women out there , lucky enough to have a man that loves you should think twice before letting them go for money , family name or pressure.. The loneliness and regret is not worth it , dont let all these women out there that are married deceive you , they look good outside but inside only they know what they are going through.
As for the poster, ask yourself this , if money truly makes you happy , how come most of the rich men in the world dont have wonderful marraiges ? How come they get divorced with all the money ? What would you rather be? Middle class and happy as hell or rich and bored and unhappy? I am in the situation now and I would trade my life for that Honda driving mother, loving mother, nice bungalow and once in a year holiday.
NB.
Alot of men are always cool until they marry you ..
Thanks.
Mrs B
Mrs B, God will fix your marriage and turn things around for your good. Amen.
DeleteHmmmn! but it cld av bin worse if money was absent. My pastor wld say 'Dere is no romance without finance'
DeleteMadam,get urself some sex toys and stop being an ingrate! Do u know hw many married women would love to trade places wit u? The man is busy working for ur comfort. A stingy man is worst than a leper! Hunger has not dealt with u shaa,otherwise u will appreciate what u have!
DeleteMadam,get urself some sex toys and stop being an ingrate! Do u know hw many married women would love to trade places wit u? The man is busy working for ur comfort. A stingy man is worst than a leper! Hunger has not dealt with u shaa,otherwise u will appreciate what u have!
DeleteMadam! Don't let your story be like the prince and the pauper! At least you are crying in a jeep! Some women are crying in hunger and shabbiness! Learn to entertain yourself! You have resources at your disposal! There are blogs to read! Movies to watch! Shopping to do! Novels to read! Technology is at your finger tip!
DeleteAnytime he gives you that attention,,enjoy it to the fullest!
Anonymous 6:28pm you are an utter idiot.... Sick lacking low self esteem creatures like u should not be giving advice.... Are u mad? She is an ingrate? Who told u a rich man cannot make time for his family? I know rich couples who have great relationships.... How dare u trivialise what she is going through..... Money can never buy happiness.... If hat friendship, time and love shared between couples is absent then the marriage is dead..sex toys can never replace that affection shared between couples, it's not only about the sex...... Poster you do not need to marry any of these two men, stop being desperate.... Wait for a man who loves you, has time for you and earn enough to give u the basics of life.... Wealth comes in stages and u will eventually get there.....
DeleteMadam get a divorce na...y are u soundn self pitious like this ni...ur unhappy in ur 2014 g-wagon,plz y don't u give it up,find a man who loves u,n c d oda side of life...what if d oda man ur missing is beating his wife everyday n keeping girlfrends,how u wan take know that one na,except say u b winch!stop being ungrateful n crying crocodile lines with sdks space abeg!
DeleteAnon 9:32 poverty iz a bitch hunger don solder ya brain make ritualists no kidnap you o
DeleteNo idea.follow your heart
ReplyDeleteI love the new background of your blog aunty stella...very attractive!
ReplyDeleteMy annoyance is how come you are dishing two Niggaz at the same time.Yet u ppl conclude that are men ar d same or cheat.
ReplyDeleteI don't get it,are u confused or is it that you're a bitch.I hate indecisiveness and cheating in any form.
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U don't have a problem at all poster. Next plss.
ReplyDeleteAeegurl...
Go for d rich guy, once u start avin babies he wil av time cz men cherish babies a lot.
ReplyDeleteOluwaseyin you are so silly and childish..... Don't ever make this mistake u are advising.... Any man who truly loves a woman will make time for her, moreso at this wooing stage.......if he has no time now he will not have it again after getting the kill and putting in the house..... Even if u like born triplets he will not change.....pull your ears and advice yourself
DeleteFollow your heart
ReplyDeleteDeep down you know who is good for i
I have a similar problem too: 1ST GUY:God fearing,faithful,not rich,no job yet but searching for,overprotective,arrogant,Nigerian,8yrs older. 2ND GUY:Normal christian,faithful,rich,working and has his own company,allows female frnds alone,too busy,15yrs older,not nigerian.
ReplyDeleteBetter go 4 d not nigerian!what?u want 2b keeping other male friends...I know ur type!RUNS GIRL...
DeleteDear Poster... please don't let anybody preach money isn't everything abeg! to you. My dear like my pple dey talk am "Owo ni keke iyin rere"in other words that if not everything...money is almost everything. Stingy Man is worse than the devil....Im sure you do not plan to take care of your kids alone let living like a single mother. My dear better go and cry in a Ferrari than Bajal.
ReplyDeleteDo not marry a stingy man. Stingy meaning he has but is not willing to give. In that marriage you will carry plenty of the financial load and you will become resentful sooner than later.
ReplyDeleteDo not marry someone who does not give you his time. In that marriage you will feel neglected and undervalued.
Shine your eyes, few things are worse than unhappy marriages,
Your own sef better..mine doesn't give me money yet,he doesn't have my time,doesn't call,nothing. Last time I called him and had something to say to him,before I could say jack robinson,he said he was busy,I said "won't you at least try knowing why I called?" He said "why will I when I just told you I was busy?"He didn't even say he'd call me back ooo...When I talk,he'd say "you are not my priority and your emergency isn't in anyway better than mine".Friends say I should use my head cos I'm so single and shouldn't go about telling people I have a bf and all..really dunno why I put up with such a person. Oh well..anyway,all I'm saying is just use your head.
ReplyDeleteShebi, you know you're dating yourself? Where's your selfworth? That dude does not value you one bit! Use your own advice 'use your head'
DeleteCinderella
Babe,u r officially dating urself! In fact,stop saying u have a bf. He no even send u sef. Ur own case is quite different. Better forget d arrogant idiot!
DeleteBabe,u r officially dating urself! In fact,stop saying u have a bf. He no even send u sef. Ur own case is quite different. Better forget d arrogant idiot!
DeleteAnon 4.05 do you honestly want us to tell you you are as single as can be?
Delete@ annoy 4.05, y do I ve dis feeling u and my friend have d same man? Lol. Does he live in lekki and drive fj cruiser? We have to treat his f***k up if i'm rite
DeleteUR BOYFRIEND?
DeleteAlready giving u this ish?
U Berra run with ur leg touching the back of ur head!
You must have daddy issues o...Wch kain loff is ds biko!#singlegirlinDENIAL
DeleteAnd people are out there asking de reasons why marriage dont last in nigeria again,,,
ReplyDeletetomorrow when things get wronge into his accouts you come here again to rats like an idoits,,
i can never give any nigerian girl money again till i got married to her,,she should manage de same way she use to b4 she meet me,,after marriage i bless her
@anon 4:45pm u r very stupid. I thank God for my man.he spent alot on me before and is spending much more on me.eat ur money alone na . bastard. Btw my spouse is nigerian
DeleteAnon 4:45, which nigerian girl wants to be stuck with somebody like you that cannot even express himself in simple English? Abeg shift make I see road
DeleteVIRGIN GIRL
You will be single till ur 67 n half yrs old.bastard!...go n marry Jamaican na..oloshi
Deleteyou know what is in your heart,n u know wat u want n wat mks u happy.so mk the decision yourself
ReplyDeleteI hate stories like this....Sincere and mature advice you say??? For starters, are you a sincere and matured person??? You don't need any advice...you need a wakeup call and prolly a bitchslap* back to reality...we are 14yrs into the millenium and people still ask questions like this??
ReplyDeleteFuck off..always forming "tush". Anu mpam!
DeleteD bible made me to understand dat God wil give us our heart desire so, @ poster u alone knows what u desire in a man,,seek God's directns,,commit eveytin in his hands,,may God ans u & direct u as u seek his face..Good luck
ReplyDeleteMarry the rich guy. Love after sometimes becomes friendship.with either guys, you will need money to sustain you because without money, love dies quickly. Trust me I know what I am talking about
ReplyDeleteA stingy man is one who has and yet refuse to give! I am allergic to stingy men. I can't even stand them. Its better to cry in a ferrari than to marry a stingy fellow. He would prefer u use napkin instead of diapers. Ur family nkoh??? He can never give u anything for ur parents who suffered to raise u. Pls and pls,marry d rich guy! Don't even think twice cos stingyness runs in d vein. Even if he becomes rich tomorrow,he wil still be stingy. Its difficult to wash away even with 100 days dry fasting. Don't get it twisted darling, go for the rich/mature guy,he will pamper u and take good care of ur aged parents.
ReplyDeletesee poster, ur stingy caring guy is just a younger version of d rich dude. give him money and some ten years, they'd b d same. Like Dr Oke said, these are not the only guys in d world. am pretty sure if u av a lil patience u wud find rich n caring in one person cos belive me, there are rich n caring guys in dis world
ReplyDeletePlease if you are confused, do not choose any of them, especially if you are talking about marriage. One really has to be sure and tipsy-in-love (not drunk-in-love, because you need to have small open-eye) to enter into the institution of marriage.
ReplyDeleteMarry the rich guy abeg! I once was in a relationship with a stingy man, suffer head almost killed me and I spent my own money on top. Even sparing just 1k will almost send him into cardiac arrest. I left him one time...biko ! I no fit shout.
ReplyDeleteNone of d above go 4 yomslaw instead. Those his big teeth will keep u at alert, u won't have time 4 loneliness eva.
ReplyDeleteMe no like stingy. Them drive me crazy.
ReplyDeletelol... only you dey service 2 niggaz, your punani no dey hurt? lol the truth be say the stingy guy dey handle/flog u well hehe :)... check am u go see say na true.
ReplyDeleteAttention?,What do I need it for?,Even a stingy man would be stingy with his attention! Attention aka sex is overrated! Whenever you have sex, ride him to the bone and get your fill until next time! Occupy your mind! Money buys respect and pleasure! Use it well!
ReplyDeleteIt's a toss up between 'stingy with time' and 'stingy with money'...in my humble opinion,a man that truly loves you won't be stingy with his time or money.
ReplyDeleteI got married in 1998 (I was 18 years old). My marriage is arranged marriage. My
ReplyDeletehusband starts cheating on me 2003. I was very upset of course I had a big fight and
he promises me that he will never do that again. I took his words and stayed with him.
Then I found about his sex affairs in 2010. He never stopped. By 2010 I had 3
children with him. I demanded divorce. Of course another fight. I involved his family and my family they said to me all the men’s do that. He will stop and since I have 2 daughters it would be better if I stay with him. During those years our relationship sucks. We were at point where I will crave for sex and if I ask him he will insult me and he won’t do it. I start thinking about other men’s. I got at the point where all I want to have is sex. Thanks Allah I did not commit any sin. In late 2010 we started consoling. Consoling helps our relationship.Now he will still not come to me but if I ask he won’t insult me anymore and that was once in a month if I get lucky twice a month. A month ago I found out he has been with other women’s and he never stopped cheating on me. My oldest one is 7 years old and my middle daughter is 5 and my son is 3.I don’t know what to do. His family and my family is saying the same thing again that one day he will stop. I should be more pation with him. Since I have 3 kids and I am 30 years old no one will marry me. If I leave him and find other men I will bring a shame to my family and will ruin my children’s life. and one of my friend also advise me to use spell on him long time ago wish i refused before, when i saw that thing is getting bad every day, so i want to search for spell casters online i found a lot of wonderful things DR,Airiohuodion is doing for people out there having different kinds of problem so i explain all my problem to him and he help me out to bring back my husband out of his problem, right now will are together even more than before we started. if you also heed his help contact him direct at:
airiohuodiontemple@gmail.com thank you once again DR.Airiohuodion
U are an idiot for wasting my time to read this ur gbagaun only to discover u are advertising ur fetishness here. U are very very stupid.
DeleteBut Stella why na? Better use the Dr to acquire basic education jazz, cos any man wey u jazz go soon clear eyes after this nonsense Abidjan English wey u type so. Nonsense
Lol @ Sisi Eko ..
DeleteU and Linda Eze are my favorite on this blog..
U guys say it as it is..
Aunty Stella please stop allowing these fetish people comments..
SDKb belongs to Jesus !
Lwkmd @ Abidjan English. Buahahaaa
Deletelet go of both and check your own self too.how do you classify a stingy person? let's just say some1 that hardly release money. do you know if that person really has that money? do you know how the guy is coping? you that is not stingy what have you done for the guy with the little you have? you flash your bf on his birthday and expect him to buy you jeep on your own bday..it doesn't work like that.miss Isaac is that ya? follow your heart.
ReplyDeleteMoney!money!!money!!! What if the poster is Dangote's daughter? Should she still go for the rich guy? No be everybody dey desperate for money o. Some have it. Poster, go for your priority. Rose
ReplyDeletei am grateful to my fellow sdk members for all the advices given even if some were very insulting. well some of you said i should know the difference between stingy and conservative. now let me make that clear. the stingy guy gives me 5oonaira at times to cook for him just imagine.
ReplyDeleteBefore he takes me out, he must know what we are going to drink or eat as well as compare prices. hence he would choose the cheapest place. he rather stay in darkness most times than buy fuel in the gen. this is somebody than earns over 300,000 monthly. pls is that being conservative?
The only time he gave me 2,000 to make him soup, he started asking if the soup things were up to that amount. the most annoying thing is that he loves sex too much.when he has never dashed me one naira.
He expects when we get married we would both pay the rent and everything together.
All those men sharping their mouths that i am greedy, if i were your sister would you still say that? now my dear sdk members is this selfishness or being conservative?
He is a stingly motherfucker drop him fast fast and do not have sex with him again he is mad. Please drop him sharply from this second do not pick his calls again. Walahi una get mind o I no fit rara. Read this next sentence slowly MARRY THE RICH GUY!!!!!
DeleteMoney answereth all things o
b4 i married my husband,he rarely gives me money..maybe bc he dont want me to eat and go or bc he want to know how money conscious i was...After our marriage...i keep and save his money for him.
ReplyDeletehow can ur husband be stingy..then i cook stingy soup,buy stingy clothe for his children..no be man go tell em make he upgrade.lol
Dump him quickly and sharply..... i mean the stingy one.
ReplyDeleteGosh you are so good, i cannot tolerate a stingy man like that. I will rather buy a dildo than have him.
Please marry the rich one oh.