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NARRATIVE NUMERO UNO

Hello Stella, please hide my ID....LOL

 I have been seeing this guy let's say for a month. He is 9yrs older than me, he is igbo am yoruba. I noticed some traits in this man, which worries me a whole lot. He talks down at people including me, always angry, tells me to shut up. Let me sight some real life examples. 

For like the last 3 weeks, I have been spending the weekends at his place. There was a day we went to a get together, about two weeks ago,the party was over,he was still hanging around with friends, and I wanted to leave, we both agreed to leave, I then went to wait for him in the car to hasten him up, I was there for over 2hrs, as I was about to take the lift to go and get him. I saw him emerge through the stairs, I won't lie I made a scene, because I was really mad.

On another situation, I arrived his house, I saw a condom pack, and blood like stains on his bed spread, I made a scene since he was playing a game with his friend,and he made me wait endlessly,for his explanation, I left, he then called back about 30mins later, telling me he was masturbating with the cd, and that his feet got pierced by some broken fragments of bottle outside his apartment.

In the other room I saw some female wears in his wardrobe, which he claims are for his ex, and I wonder what they are still doing there.

Another thing he is so insecured, if I don't pick his calls at that point in time it's trouble, he makes it look like am doing something bad, if I have a phone call or notification, he must make a statement of mistrust, he even makes me pick calls I ordinarily don't want to pick, I do that to show I have nothing to hide.

He talks down to people,like service providers, and myself. He did  two weird things this last weekend, we went to visit some of his pals, on our way out of the gate, he noticed a sienna parked close to the house, he then reversed into the compound back and told the gateman to lock the gate, he then stepped out with the gateman to address the guys, as he came back I then asked him what happened, he then told me to shut up and get down from the car, that I am supposed to be back in his friends house, I then followed suit, those ones also followed him to address the men, as we were about to leave one of his friends asked me why he was so scared, and I was like he is so paranoid.

Then on Sunday we went to see a football match in his friends place, we got there and you know how guys do the football arguing, one thing I noticed about him he likes shoving his beliefs down ones throat  which he portrayed once more, as the match went on at a point he stood up and kicked a throw pillow on the chair. After a while he changed the station to Nta,while the match was on, those ones were like you can't do that, even if the game isn't going in your favour. 

He then asked one of the guys that they should go and continue playing there ps4, I noticed from that one's response that he wasn't down for the game, and I tried to tell my boyfriend to let it go. Immediately he was like let us go which he said so hurriedly, no goodbyes, and as soon as we stepped out and one of the guys came to lock up, he was like we came to watch match in a wrong place. I felt embarrassed. 

I just need advice on how to deal with this guy or am I taking things extremely?

*You ask if you are taking things extreme?honey you aint in a relationship,you are in a SITUATIONSHIP....you deserve more than what you have settled for,you have probably spent all your girlfriend time doing wifey stuff since you spend most weekends there.

Pack your bags and head back home and try to keep whats left of the woman in you..I know some people here might not agree with me but you need to pack your bags,PUT YOUR SHOES ON and run from that relationship....LEAVE!!!