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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

MARRYING A SECOND WIFE AND THE CONSEQUENCES

Hi Stella,

I am a 41 years old chartered accountant, I married a lady 14 years ago, she was 22 when we married. I had 3 children out of the marriage, the eldest being 12+ and the youngest 9. I could no longer tolerate her due to her sleeping around with other men (she is self employed and doing pretty well with my initial capital given to her). 

I took the bold step about 2 years ago when I caught again with another man and chased her out. My children are actually passing through a lot emotionally at the moment. After leaving my house, I have heard of several men still sleeping with her - that rules out the possibility of reconciliation. I am a serious Christian and I do love my children. 

At this moment, I am sure if I marry a new wife, it may not be an eternal sin against me, but presently, I pay N1m as school fees per term for the children, go on vacation every year, try to treat the children as far as my salary can do etc. At the moment, a new wife could be a distraction and put pressure on my expenses?

 How do I cope with a new wife with 3 children already? Could I ever get a woman that can accept grown-up children to treat her as her own child?

 What type of woman do I even marry- younger or much older woman? How do I start from here? I am getting tired by the day taking care of 3 children without a nanny (though the first 2 are in boarding school and the last is in primary 5), what do I do. Only constructive advise needed

This is a tough one honey,make i siddon for corner read comments.

becareful sha so that all these desperate ladies do not come unto you for financial reasons and tear your family apart.

Why are you looking for a wife?for love or to help you out.you dont sound like someone that can trust a woman again,please look for an older nanny.

*sitting down for corner*

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CROSSROAD BETWEEN TWO MEN

 Stella,may God bless you for your good deeds. Someone introduced me to your blog last year October and since then i have been addicted to your blog and the SDK family.

I have a problem that has been weighing me down for a long time now.I am a girl of 24 in my finals now. I have never been really lucky in relationships till i met this guy. He schools in Ghana but we are from the same state he makes me feel so special and does his best to provide the little he can for me.

I have a guy that leaves abroad that is on my neck for marriage he is from my local government and God fearing,he is very caring too and people are saying i should consider him.He is 43 and is settled. My boyfriend is just in his 20O Level and we are age mates.I need honest advice from your blog readers.Thanks Stella and may God continue to bless You. 

you are still young,why are you letting people pressure you into marrying?you wanna marry a man almost twice your age?nothing wrong with that but interests might clash!...e be like say you get longa throat syndrome abi?

hian!...make i fold my hands and legs and pretend to be a mammy water.