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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
WALKING AWAY .....
Please Stella, use your red pen.
Stellastica bae, I dey hail o. May God keep blessing you for all your good works in Jesus name Amen.
I have always known I would get to share my story with you and my fellow BVs someday. I believe this is the time. Please forgive my epistle.
My ex-husband treated me badly when I was with him. It intensified when I got pregnant. He cheated on me and even beat me up during one of our confrontations and left me for dead that day. It was my sister that took me to the hospital.
He peddled lies against me and managed to turn his family against me. Presently, his father hates me (his mum is late). When I couldn't take it anymore, I packed my things and left him for good. I was 6 months pregnant then (mind you, this isn't the 1st time I left his house but this time, it was final). My dad invited his father (against my wish) several times to come so as to settle the issue but my father-in-law refused saying since I have already left twice, hence the marriage wouldn’t work. Due to the fact that I was already heavy, my father kept persisting for a meeting but his dad refused.
Plenty times, I told my dad to stop bothering himself but he refused reason being that he knows how we Africans think. The fact that he is a Catholic knight, the shame it would bring to his name, and that I might not get married again because I will be deemed a second hand chic gingered him into persisting. But his efforts yielded no good results because my father-in-law refused to follow Igbo customs and meet up with him.
My ex-husband was nonchalant most of the time; today he’ll beg me, tomorrow he’ll curse me if I refuse to see him. He never agreed that he was at fault rather he blamed me for invading his privacy (yes I’m team snoop) which was what led to my finding out about his philandering ways. My siblings never wanted him in the first place so they all supported my decision to not go back to him. Seeing other people with their husbands and kids together made me sad a times and I would long to make up with him but he showed no remorse at all. I think the few times he told me to come back on my own (without his dad meeting my dad first) were because of our son, which to me isn’t enough. At a point, my father stopped trying.
I eventually birthed my son and this guy contributed nothing to the buying of baby things. It was my eldest sister that took charge of everything. My dad had to call him to tell him that even though we were not living together, it didn’t change the fact that my baby is his son so he should contribute for his upkeep no matter how little. He agreed and contributed when he was in the mood. I never bothered him because I had something doing and my family was there for me. My ex spent most of his time calling me names like 'ashawo', 'borehole', 'express', flat breast', etc. , whenever I tell him I will never marry him again.
Two years have passed and he is claiming he has changed and he wants me back. He said whether his father wants it or not, it doesn't matter and that we are already married and that he loves me (I don't believe him one bit because whenever I say no to his advances, he calls me names and apologize in two days and blames it on the devil). Stella, I don't love this guy anymore. I have tried telling him that in a subtle way, I have screamed it, I have wailed it yet he doesn't want to let me be. I even told him I can't be with someone I don't love or trust. Today he is cool, prophesying undying love and tomorrow, he is calling me names even though he knows I have nobody in my life yet.
He is even using our son against me that I don't want to give him a normal life. He threatens to take our son away from me. He knows my weakness is my love for my son but I can't see myself marrying him again. I am a better person alone. I just want to get a job when I’m done with NYSC next month and build my career. I don't need a man like him in my life at all. I am CERTAIN I will be MISERABLE if I ever cave in to his demands. He shattered my dreams once, I don't want him to do that again. I don't know how to make him see reasons with me. I need him to move on. I really don't know what to do. I really want to be strong but I don't know how to. Please advise me. I really want to know whether my decision is okay and the ways I can let him know I’m done with him for good.
Thank you.
HIAN!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
A PREGNANCY WITH TWO OWNERS
Dear Stella,
Unbelievably, I never thought I'd be one to send in a story like this as I'm extremely private in my relationship and I tend to give advice to people but I've gone and done the worst. Please I need matured advice and this is a real story. Stella please keep me anonymous. I'll try to keep it short.
Been dating dude "A" for about two years and he wants marriage. I did too but after a while and plenty study, I felt different. He attempted to get me pregnant without any prior conversation about it. After almost a year of protecting myself, I gave in but pregnancy did not come. I felt maybe an infection was the cause, note, I had taken in before for him but I didn't let it pass two weeks, didn't even tell him. So there was no question of his inability to get me pregnant. I started doubting myself thinking I had probably messed up my system with drugs.
Meanwhile, we were breaking up and making up and during this time, I met someone else. We started hanging out but I couldn't focus because "A" was persistent and because of our proximity and work relationship, we got back together. I had to let the other guy go.
A and I started treatment for infection though he was clean and I wasn't. His mom even sent me some herbs I broke up with him again by December because I knew I didn't want to get married to him. Guy "B" and I met up again and started afresh (we hadn't had sex). Because the pregnancy didn’t come in the past with A, I didn't bother with precautions again. Guy A and I met up and for old time sake, we had sex.
The feelings were still there, he didn't offend me and I just can’t marry him though he loves me to pieces. Guy B and I had sex for the first time that week (protected) but the condom broke along the line and I didn't think much of it. Guy B wants to get married and I do too but now I'm pregnant and I keep trying to calculate how this happened. The pregnancy right now is about a month and I don't know which guy it belongs to. Dude A will be ecstatic but I respect him too much to give him someone else's child. Dude B will be cool about it also as he already has a child and he's ready for a family but I won't give him someone else's child too.
My dear BVs, this is my predicament. I'm joyful that I'm pregnant but scared of what will happen as I haven't told any of them. What do I do? I do know I will have the child, I can afford to, but what do I do about both men?
HIAAAAAN!!!
Reading comments.
ReplyDeleteBrb.
******LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS******
I bet you're the type that comes here to shout that they support premarital sex, can you see the shame you've brought on your dignity
DeleteYou can't do dna till after the baby is born
Anyways give your life to Christ, He loves you regardless
The 2 chronicle got me ugbeunu, I will stick to my reading comments mbok, can deal.
DeleteU can actually do a DNA at 6 months of pregnancy but not sure it's applicable in Nigeria.
DeleteMy dear poster 1. Never go back to him. Hold your ears o! Make I sound am now. Never go back to him. You will destroy yourself. Can't you have a hard heart? What do you mean by how do you make him understand. Leave men alone for now and focus on yourself o! If not for your son, I would have said to change your line but I would still do it. Gradually change your line and never add people related to him to your new line. Let him be calling your old one until he is tired. Find a way to crush him. He will never change o! Whatever you do, don't listen to anyone saying you should go back to him. You're on the right track. Don't derail.
DeletePoster 2, better come clean. Don't go and play a fast one because you want or do no want to get married. Come clean and if anyone still wants to marry you, fine. If you do otherwise, it will still come out tomorrow and by then, it will be too late. Whatever you do, COME CLEAN NOW!!!
Poster 1.you have said all good about yourself and all bad about your husband ,can you in the same way tell us all bad about you and good about your husband ,we really need to read both side because "we are good lawyers about ourselves and good judges about others . No reasonable man will let his (good) wife go out of his house ,for a man not to be worried more care about you for years of your absence it means that you are a chronic disease on the throat
Delete@poster: please don't ever go back...
DeleteDon't make the mistake of going back!
@poster2: congratulations
Poster 2. In jennifa voice, u ll do autopsy wen u born d pikin..
Delete.....from paris with 💞
Poster 1.you have said all good about yourself and all bad about your husband ,can you in the same way tell us all bad about you and good about your husband ,we really need to read both side because "we are good lawyers about ourselves and good judges about others . No reasonable man will let his (good) wife go out of his house ,for a man not to be worried more care about you for years of your absence it means that you are a chronic disease on the throat
DeletePoster one.....sorry. those names he called you sound all too familiar, I wonder why they all attack that......you'll be fine by God's grace with whatever decision you take. It is well...
DeletePoster 2- when the player gets played. Yes! Life don play you. Do you not have any respect for your Body as a woman? How can u be between relationships and gbenshing anyhow? You sounded very confused. Look, tell both of them the truth and birth the child. When you birth the child, you will do a paternity test and you can take it from there. You have already made a mess of the whole situation, don't make it any worse and mess up the future of the child with plent story.
DeletePoster 1- Don't you know how to ignore someone? Firstly stop collecting the small change he gives you. Cos that's what is making him feel like he has access to you and the child. I'm sure your child hasn't even started school yet. So manage with what you have and what your sister gives you. He won't have a case when he's not contributing a thing. He can't even take a 2 year old from the mum, as the child has never lived with him. I doubt the law permits that sef. And why are you afraid again? Let him threaten nau if he likes. For the last time, tell him off and warn him that you know you're rights. Find a way to block his numbers from contacting you. And stop collecting money from him. The guy is so irritating I know his type. He is mentally ill. Is it that has money that's why your being this patient with him? Options abound, even police report for him to avoid you because of his threats and insults to you. But you must first stop collecting money for upkeep from him.
*you know your
Delete*is it that he has money that's why you're
Poster 1:
DeleteYour husband finally realised himself by saying with or without his father after tasting all other holes that you are the best.
If you can mend fences with him, go back. Every marriage has its challenges. You will be happy when you start making your own money after your NYSC.
Please does anyone know where I can get misoprostol in lagos mainland I am desperate please
DeletePoster 2: Is it not safer to marry a man who loves you to pieces?.
DeleteStart your family with A and let B go. It good to know that women have Topup their games in double dating *sad face*
Confessed to A and seek his decision. If he is good at it, go ahead and go for DNA after birth. If he decides you flush it, its still una decision. Never inform B.
Seems A will go any length with u for love.
But why cheat?
Go for test o.
Ashton Dave- I weighed and weighed your stupidity.... Then my scale broke! Maximum stupidity attained. Henceforth, do not let thoughts that come out of your brain be shared. They smell of stupidity. That comment is very stupid.
DeletePoster one I have one question for you. Did u guys not date? Anyway, since u r already walking, kip walking.
DeletePoster two. Double hiaaaann!
Ashton Dave, I am not a perfect person, he is not a perfect person but u too ain't perfect too. I ain't judging him for using foul languages @ me wen mad, I do too. I say worse too bliv me. But I say dem cause I know nothing will make me go back to him. And d day I won dis case against him was the day he raised his filthy hands against me and his unborn child. Dat alone is a major write off for him. So m not looking for sympathy cause I ant perfect, am only asking a qns which is 'how do I make him leave a stupid bad 'bitch' like me d hell alone! How do I make him understand dat he is bipolar and needs help ASAP! How do I make him move on already? If u have no answer to my questions, do me a favour and shut d fuck up! Thank u
Deletechikito, go and change your display name, then come back n gv advice to poster 2. runs girl insulting her mate? uwa ntorr
DeleteAnon 17:09 sorry oo. Check Whitewood Pharmacy in festac or Pharmacare.
DeleteAnon 17:09 sorry oo. Check Whitewood Pharmacy in festac or Pharmacare.
Delete@Anon 30:43- So if I change my display name will it erase the alleged poverty in your family? Or is it written on your forehead too? I'm not forcing her to take my advice, you sudden anonymous. I see my display name pinches y'all....: I'd prefer you choke on it.
DeleteMadam that wants micropostol, shebi you have done successful termination of the pregnancy and your breasts are leaking milk, so you need the drugs to dry up your mammary glands. Kontinue o. You better calm done before you let down 47 foetuses and it's time to marry, pregnancy no show up. Lemme whisper something to you, IVF doesn't work for all o. It's not a guarantee that you will have a child through the procedure. The best clinics don't have 100% success. Ask Nordica or Bridge Clinic, they will tell you. For the sake of nothing, check any HealthPlus pharmacy. Derz one on Allen after oshopey plaza. Thank me later!!!!!!
DeleteNancy Dunamis.......... She'll do AUTOPSY?! LMAOOOOOOOOOOOO! Please if you don't know how to type DNA test just keep kwayet!
DeleteAston Dave. You are very stupid for that comment. Mumu
DeleteJust negodu 🙅🏽
ReplyDeleteDon't negodu her o...I bet you also one of them saying have 3 boyfriends, have 4 boyfriends - help her carry small shame now- all you can do is negodu
DeletePoster 2.. This your case is serious oh.....run away for one year, give birth to the child then come back and do a DNA text (?)...lol...this matter pass me abeg
DeletePoster 1... Finish your nysc. Get a job ( if you can) take care of yourself and your baby.. Leave that bad news of a husband......or do you want to go back to him?
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DeletePoster one ur man seems like he needs a wife, but he doesn't hv d money to marry another...dats why Hez begging u..hmmmm I dnt know wat to say hon..may God see u tru dis
Delete@Poster 2 wtf! ����
DeleteAnon 15:11 you're sick #byebitch
DeleteDouble hian! Can u imagine?
ReplyDeleteHum
DeletePoster 1 please stay clear of him yea they say change is the only consistent thing in life but my dear still keep away from atleast you can take care of your son harden your heart jor
Poster 2 your case is in God's hands kos seriously we can't also tell you who is d father over to d doctors
Poster 2.. since u can afford to take care of the pregnancy urslf.. I think u shud let these two guys know what u did.. dnt try to cover up, jst be truthful to both of them.. after that let them go.. the one that wants u will come back.. if they both dnt come back.. it's fine, life goes on.. when u birth the child.. u will do a DNA to knw who owns the baby and let the owner knw.. Life isn't that complicated!!!
DeletePoster 1 Jesus can fix your home.
DeletePoster 2 you need Jesus
See what "Okafors law" has caused poster2. I don't want to be in your shoes.
DeletePoster1, run away from that abusive man please. Reminds me of one bad mouthed Abuja guy called Ikem. Tueh
Let me read comments. Hian ochimooo
ReplyDeletePoster 1. Pls dont accept him back, am glad u have move on and called him ex already. I dont think he deserve you. Am sure he has realize the value of what he has now that he lost it. Why is he begging, his Dad should get him another wife nau. Mtcheeeew!
DeletePoster1: your horseband has not repent, beg today call you names tomorrow
DeleteIf you go back to him he keep beating you and apologizing
Otaswifey *repented*
DeletePoster 2 congratulations and may you have a safe delivery.
ReplyDeleteYour baby is so lucky to have two fathers instead of one like most of us.
You were trying to get pregnant simply because a guy said he wants to marry you. He hasn't even taken one bottle of schnapps to your father.
You were trying so hard, finally you've gotten what you want. Enjoy it.
Lmao @ bottle of schinaps
DeleteLmao
DeletePoster 1 you did good leaving a bad situation please don't go back.
DeleteFocus on raising your child and getting ahead in life.
A man who says one thing and does another is no man to live forever with. If you go back after all his crocodile tears it would be worse than before but you can still pray about it. You both could visit a counsellor or a pastor to do some talking into his head.
After all you both took your vows to stick together.
Focus!
Seriously oh
DeleteI'm here to read comments stella pls hand me some popcorn! With sugar
Haaa..this one pass me..
Your 2nd paragraph got me in stitches.
DeletePoster 2, how can you sleep with 2men in one week when it's not a day job? Better wait till you birth that baby before you marry. Just leave town.
Poster one, you took the right decision. Change your number or don't take calls from him anymore
After they will be shouting marriage is overrated but most of them are so desperate to get married even it means tieing the man down with pregnancy and you expect the man who married u because of pregnancy to treat u right? Ladies will never learn
DeleteAs in ehn, his mum even knew about your infection....ewwwwwww
DeleteI tire o.
DeleteHshhhhaaaaaa doppelganger I love your comment. She really tried. Poster 2 Well done. Tell us when it's time for naming ceremony
DeleteKwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwa.
DeleteThis girl u r not normal gaskiya.
Kia I always look for ur comments all the time cos the really make me laugh😸😸😸😸😸
DeleteIt's well
DeletePoster one, get another man if u don't wanna go back to ur husband. Or stay alone. Ballz in yo court.
ReplyDeleteSee the reason why double dating is bad....chai
ReplyDeletePoster 1: just live ur life, and don't give in to his tactics. As regards telling him u are done for good, keep telling him that one day it will sink. Even if he calls u names. Frustration is really dealing with him. But he can only take ur son away if u let him.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I don't want to judge but still, what were u thinking. Anyway u have to tell both of them u are pregnant. And make sure u get a DNA test once the baby is born. That's what u brought upon urself.
Poster 1....leave dat man alone
ReplyDeletePoster2...give d child to your father
608 comment 2016
Who is the father?
DeleteMeans you dint understand her write up
Poster2 you messed up yourself big time
Since you wanna keep the baby, good luck. You will do dna after you put to bed
Stella let the pop corn go round on my bill.
ReplyDeletePoster two. Condom broke indeed. U didn't use condom with B. Fear no dey catch u o!
ReplyDeleteTake ur chance, afterall both guys r cutting shows u don't know.
Don't mind her,she knows we bvn's go lash her that's y she said she used condom, if I hear so u no knack raw.lol
Delete@Poster 1, honestly I don't know what you want us to tell you, follow your find and go with your brain. But don't forget that there's evidence of violence already, it will surely get worse.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2, they say only woman can tell the true father of her child, but I will always say it that, it's only for those who are not promiscuous. To be candid, go and see a doctor who will probably help you to calculate your ovulating period, yet don't forget it's not 100% guaranteed
*Larry was here*
Poster one:
ReplyDeleteDo you need a restraining order against him?
If he has become a dangerous stalker, that is what you have to do.
Make him sign an undertaking or something.
He's the kind of person that'll want to ruin your appearance or kill you, if he finds out that you've found love with someone else.
Poster two:
Did he inform us when you were double fucking?
You can't know the paternity of the child without a DNA test.
You're at a crossroad now o, and you'll have to wait till the baby is birthed, before raising someone's hopes.
You should fighting out how to do it, since you could figure out how to double date without getting caught.
Pele.
#WhiteDiamondOut
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DeleteFigure*
#WhiteDiamondOut
Poster 1. Please don't go back. The man wants to run ur self esteem down so that u will feel like without him u are nothing.Don't fall for it. Focus on your studies and career. Allow him access to his son too. He can spend some weekends with him.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. That is a result of having sex with 2 men at once. One is already a baby daddy. Y didn't he marry his baby mama. I wan marry you and actually marrying u are two different things o.
I disagree. This kind of man should not have access to the child. He is abusive. If the poster filed any case against him at the station for beating her up with pregnancy, she can use that to gets restraining order in court for the child. Until the child is old enough to decide for himself or herself
DeleteForgiveness is Still the key
DeletePoster 2 did you have sec with 2 people within 1 week?? If no, figure out when you had your ovulation and fertile time then who you slept with at that time. This will help you know who the baby daddy is
ReplyDeleteThis na collabo belle ooooo... Hahahahaha
ReplyDeleteSorry for you guys.
ReplyDeleteMtcheww
Poster 1:tell your ex-husband that you have hiv/aids, he will Usain bolt on u.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: terminate that pregnancy
Poster 1:tell your ex-husband that you have hiv/aids, he will Usain bolt on u.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: terminate that pregnancy
Hahahahahahahha
DeleteFunny chronicles.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 this is so funny.. anyways Goan do ultrasound and calculate d date
ReplyDeleteHello
ReplyDelete#1. Sigh.. With all those names ? Heaven knows I won't go back to such man. Honey carry on with your life and fuhgeddaboud him. Let him call and beg till Jesus comes don't go back.
ReplyDelete#2 wow.. water don pass garri like this o. Mehn! I no know weytin to tell you oo.
2. Congrats to you. No advice.
ReplyDeleteposter one.... since you don't love him again... stop bothering yourself and focus on whatever you are doing and your son... silence is the best answer given to... (complete the rest) poster 2....just negodu!!!!
ReplyDeleteHello
ReplyDeleteOK.... Will just sit on the fence
ReplyDeleteNo ink to comment today
ReplyDeletePoster 2, the baby is for A...
ReplyDeletePoster 1, please i beg you dont go back. It will only get worse. I am talking from experience. That what my greatest mistake. Now i wish i just didnt come back. Foolish me.
ReplyDelete.
Silly silly silly, all I can say.
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Poster 1. You don't want the guy again. You don't love him again. You don't need him again. What advice do you want again. Sometimes you have to be selfish and do what makes you happy. You are a human being & you deserve to treat yourself better.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. Your write up gave me a headache. If you even hint to any of them that you're confused you will lose both of them. Quietly choose a father. Sometimes it's not the biological dad that a child calls daddy.
Rubbish
ReplyDeletePoster one. Dont go back to that man. He's only trying to run you down and make you feel miserable.
ReplyDeleteKeep your head up high and live your life to the fullest. Wish you well.
Poster2. Your case is " stalemate ". I hate abortion but seems that what you are going to do here. I can't even believe I'm giving such an advice.
You should have stick to a guy. Wish you well in your decision making.
Poster 2 just give the pregnancy to A and forget this story. I made that mistake so many years ago and right now regretting that if I knew what I know now then, I would have given the pregnancy to my husband instead of aborting it then. Just be smart and give it to the one that is more serious and has prospects. God help you
ReplyDeleteDon't go back poster one. He is immature my goodness, wtf is borehole and flat breast? He would tear you down.
ReplyDeletePoster two, your type never ceases to me. What happened to getting married FIRST before pregnancy? Hiss. Enjoy the dual fatherhood. I hope you have twins, fraternal twins, one each belonging to the two men.
AMEN!!!
DeletePoster 1, how can you think of going back to a man who called or calls you degrading names like "ashawo", "borehole" "flatbreasts" God forbid bad thing. Pls where did you meet dis animalistic hubby of yours? He has no atom of respect for you. Pls move on with your life and pray to God to send you a good man
ReplyDeletePoster 1. I will advice you don't go back to your ex husband cause he hasn't changed at all. With what you said about him calling you names when u refuse him its a clear sign that he doesn't feel sober. He jes wanna ruin ur life
ReplyDeletePoster 2. You sef ehn! You should av waited for at least a month or 2 before allowing dude B, well i heard there are some places you go for pregnancy test and the result comes out with almost the day or the week you took in. Dunno how sure it is o but maybe you ask around so at least u fit calculate person wey get pikin.
Poster 1,don't go back to ur hubby who has emotional issues and behaves like a lil boi
ReplyDeletePoster 2,I don't envy u at all.but it has happened, go to ur gynea,with the dates and do ur calculations
Poster 1- run and don't look back,dat man don't value u ...once had an ex like dat...he can call u anything whenever hr is pissed and the next minute he is apologizing... My eyes no gree open for four years cos I loved him...not until a friend of mine saw his mags on my fone and was like "so na dis guy dey send all dis nonsense" as if d insults wasn't enough,he started hitting me too....naso I pick race..my dear sister I repeat run and never look back
ReplyDeletePoster 2- all my life have never tried sleeping with two men @ d same time and d only reason is Bcos of wat u said up there but the deed has been done....so my dear have ur bundle of joy....how many pple know their real fathers anyway but be careful next time ...and I would advice u don't marry any of them now a child or pregnancy is not enough reason to get married...marriage weighs a lot more
I wish u both well
Poster 1 zero your mind abt ur ex he is a no good man, even if you moved out for no other reason but for the child you are expecting he should have begged you to return. Poster 2 if you are able to open your legs for 2 men you should be able to calculate urself.
ReplyDelete@ poster two.. .stop feeling guilty. Give the baby to the highest bidder.
ReplyDelete😂highest bidder indeed.
DeleteRepent
ReplyDeleteFor d kingdom of God is at hand......
DeletePoster1, if you're no longer interested like you said then cut all contacts with your ex, if he wants to send anything to his son he can through your father or other family members. Give him space.
ReplyDeletePoster2 give the pregnancy to either you choose its only you who knows the father of your child, several men have raised and still raising other men's kids without any hassle. Or you can still do it, you've done it before so no biggy I know you know what I mean.
Poster I, move on forget about him, a Leopard will never change its spot,most times when we are with someone,we tend to believe he's the best for us,big lie. Stop communicating with him, he doesn't deserve you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 :remove the stuff and start trying all over,or you can give it to the man who deserves it. I know someone who did same,she was dating one ex politicians son and got pregnant by her married boo, she jejerly gave it to her single guy,most people don't know who's their real father cos of mum shagging two men same time.
Pls I need a bowl of popcorn!!!
ReplyDeleteBrb
ReplyDeleteNa wa
ReplyDeleteStella pls tell poster 2 that she should conduct a DNA test now that the baby is still in the stomach on a closed note tho let her trick both guys on different occasions and pretend she needs a lab test done thereby getting both bloods from them and the doctor knows how to get the babys blood she would know the father. But na money kill am oo!!!
ReplyDeleteGreat idea! She can like to bear the cost of her stupidity financially, so no be matter of money kill am Biko.
DeleteStella pls tell poster 2 that she should conduct a DNA test now that the baby is still in the stomach on a closed note tho let her trick both guys on different occasions and pretend she needs a lab test done thereby getting both bloods from them and the doctor knows how to get the babys blood she would know the father. But na money kill am oo!!!
ReplyDeletePoster 2...you were already in a relationship and you still went ahead to have sex with someone else. May God have mercy on you. I don't even know what to tell you, but the decision is yours. I have heard of stories like this, but I didn't think they were real. When you where gbenshing two guys at once, you didn't tell us, so carry your cross.
ReplyDeletePoster 1...Don't even listen to him, that guy doesn't love you like the way he's claiming, don't even fall for all those love rubbish... Start your life afresh with your child, build your career, trust me if he sees what you've become in the next future, he will regret losing you. Some guys just think we, women can't do without them. Mtchewwww... Forget the morafucker mbok.
How can you be reading chronicles everyday and still make funny costly mistake? Learn from your own mistake and that of others to become wiser and avoid unnecessary stupid decisions just saying. Stella has been shouting tie your leg like mermaid you no hear, use condoms you say no way. I tire o! Even married couples use condom as a form of contraceptive then you that you are not married can't do it. Inform the two men to get ready for a DNA test after delivery and trust me it doesn't come cheap. If I were you I will abort and start a fresh slate, but no am not you. My opinion.
ReplyDeleteThis Stella ehn,na the advise whn them ask u b dat?
ReplyDeleteJust negodu
ReplyDeleteU like to test and taste b4 marriage. Ds is d result.. Ashawo people evrywr.. sha all u need to do is let us knw ur cycle and d days u had d sex with dem. So we cn help u calculate, since u hv turned us into calculators.
ReplyDeletePoster one: Leave that man, he will never change. He will make you miserable. He doesn't deserve you. My dear put yourself together and make a name for yourself, the era of waiting for a man to meet all your needs is over, it only breeds abuse of all kinds. Please be careful too, so that he doesn't attack you... He is dangerous.
ReplyDeletePost two: No words!!!
Hmmmmm.....double wahala for dead body...@Poster 2...there is nothin you can do oooo! Hian! Cos marrying either of the men leaves you with uncertainty about the paternity of the child.
ReplyDeletePoster 1...you want to rturn to a man that inflicts you with emotional injury? Calls you names? Pls think again.
Chai.......
ReplyDeleteBwoooii! Did i type first chronicle?
ReplyDeletePoster i beg you in name of all things holy,dont ever go back to that looser. Things will only get worse. Choi! This brought back memories O.
Poster two congrats.
SHantelle
Poster 1,don't go back to him if you don't want to.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, congratulations!
Poster 1:Please never you go back to that man,he has no regard for u and doesn't love you too.I guess he's just missing your baby and needs someone to abuse again.Some women dey try sha...he called you flat breasts,ashewo,borehole and express and you are thinking of going back to him???? Ok oo
ReplyDeletePoster 2:Hmmmm,you were really desperate o.I don't knw what to advise sha...follow your heart!
Stella I think I will take your popcorn and read comments... But find below my 2 cents.
ReplyDeletePoster1:please workrights, develop your career and raise ur son, he would not change. Just give the father visiting rights.and keep your gate close
Poster 2: now u r confused after having the best of both worlds and loose guarding Abi? I'm sure know what paternity test is?
Finally:submit all to Jesus.
Poster 2 I am 100percent sure that the pregnancy belongs to guy A.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 it serves you right. Y'all preach what a man can do a woman can do too or do better isn't it? Your men sleep around Y'all sleep around too isn't it? Now who is pregnant? Is it the men or you? See your life now. Condom no tear anything guys, she simply slept with the 2 guys without protection. Congratulation girl.
ReplyDeleteThis is bad.
ReplyDeleteP1...if you hate yourself, go back to that man.
ReplyDeleteP2...Hianity!
Poster 2 am sure it's A or you wait for DNA
ReplyDeleteP1...if you hate yourself, go back to that man.
ReplyDeleteP2...The Hianity of this situation! Please once the baby comes you can do a DNA and tell the father then. Right now, don't be like those women who peg pregnancy on one man and then it ends up being for another. Confess your sins to both, let them both wait till you deliver. After that close leg small sometimes ah ah.
Poster 1- I would advice u do a proper divorce, and move on. Poster 2- no comment. Can any BV single Lady avoid sex for the sake of Christ. I don't like the results and shame it brings. Pls single ladies am begging, abstain from sex, reserve it on or after wedding nights. Bikonu
ReplyDeleteI doubt he will give her a divorce. That guy is troublesome
DeleteChikito how did u know? I know aw many times he was told to come collect his money? He refused! Anyways it's God dat will keep helping me. I just have to learn how to be strong and stronger and stop shivering whenever he threatens to take my son away from me
DeleteI know. He reminds me of one of my toasters that's a bone in my throat. I actually cried over the phone one day begging him to leave me alone. Extremely poor attitude, yet he won't stop calling and offering me gifts. I no want oh! For where. Anytime he changes location he must call me. With that local Igbo accent "baby I'm in here and here" me: abeg who is this? Then he calls his name. Please when last did I see or hear from you that you're updating me with your movement? Wetin concern agberos with overload? Then he will start abusing me. And calling me all sorts of names. Once I block the number another five months he will call with a new one. The day I cried begging him to leave me alone, he became calm and said "now I know you truly love me" I almost died!!
DeleteHe won't take your son from you. He has no legal right to. He can't nau! Not in this Nigeria that women rights are flying upandan. Keep calm. And of course, take the matter to God in prayer. He is the ultimate judge.
DeleteP2: Condom burst? Hmmh are you sure you are not infected?
ReplyDeletePoster1# ur ex hasn't changed,wouldn't advice u to go back.
ReplyDeletePoster2# still having unprotected sex with guys u ain't married to? No thoughts given to HIV/AIDS? Or to the numerous STDs out there? Do u hv a regular menstrual cycle? Do u know ur safe nd unsafe days? Do u even remember the actual date u had sex with both guys? If yes,calculate nd if u hv a period of 5 days btw,u know the baby belongs to the second. Most sperm cell die in 2-3days nd some could still be viable for atmost 5days. Any still alive afta 5 days is unable to cause conception. If u dnt know the answers to the above questions,then only a DNA test can determine the father of your baby. Best wishes dear.
Emotional violence! Infact that your hubby na learner where my ex dey. But guess what? It made me stronger and wiser. Infact i grew thick skin....i'v reached that stage where insults no longer get to me.
ReplyDeleteThere was a time he wld talk and talk, I will just get up,shake my body and tell him i just dusted his words off me. Other times i will roar with laughter. Chai! Na that one dey pain am pass!it will be as if i added pepper to his injury cos he isnt getting the desired result.
The last was when he tried to get physical with me. Bwoii! We fought so hard on that day,next thing i ran out,carried his gallon of fuel and threatened to burn down the building.That was how his neighbors started coming out to beg,str ppl and passers by sef started entering the compoud cos of the noise they were hearing.
Finally i took the bold step! Thats how i turned celeb overnight. Calls from his friends,niece and nephews(smallie's o,they will use their parents phone and be calling aunty shantelle),his elder sisters that have bn married more than 10yrs and enjoyin their marriage telling me to forgive their (stupid) brother. His parents nko?they wer not left out. Mind you that wasnt the first time of breaking up, we alws made up. Always thought things will get better cos he wld cry,kneel,beg,roll....shuo! That guy na real manipulator.Infact his whole family didnt let me rest.
There was a time his mum had to go see my parents....After every,she left.
After somtime she and her hubby started calling daddy dearest again to know if has talked to me.My dad was like 'Shantelle is an adult,whatever decision she makes,we wld stand by her'. By that time sef my big bro (he didnt even consent to the relationship from the beginning)was already planning to get my ex arrested. Choi my tory long o...sdk page won't contain it....
Poster all i'm saying is dont go back. Dont!
Ehn....na me,i didnt forget to go annon.
SHantelle
Some of these men their family members know they have issues. Yet they will be pushing them to innocent girls. Just negodu!
DeleteNA GHOST GO MARRY THEM? SOME GIRLS BE FIGHTING TO MARRY THEM SEF.
DeleteNon-Invasive Prenatal Paternity Testing
ReplyDeleteIn 2013, DNA testing company "NATUS" announced the availability of a prenatal paternity test that gives results as early as the fifth week of pregnancy. According to the company's press release, this non-invasive testing requires a small sample of blood to be taken from the mother, usually from the arm. The DNA in this blood sample is then compared to DNA collected from the alleged father in the form of a cheek swab, hair sample or blood sample.so it's up to u to do futher research and kw if u can send ur samples for test. Thank me later
You can conduct a DNA test to know who the father is by getting their blood sample. It's called non-invasive parental paternity. But I don't know if they do it in Nigeria but if they do you just look for a way to convince them to follow you, preferably lie to them, though I don't support your choice of lifestyle but I hope i've helped
ReplyDeleteAmniocentesis dna testing
ReplyDelete@Poster 2 can check online for pre-natal paternity test and see if she can afford one...Moments of indiscretion! How do you get your supposed 'sex-mates' blood for the test?
ReplyDeleteDo a paternity test before the baby is born so as toascertain who the father is.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 sorry 2 say either u have low self esteem or u re stil below 23.how can a man who has nt paid 5okobo on ur head be pleading with u 2 get pregnant 4 him nd u agree . His mum knws abt ur infection shuoo.ur mumurity no get part 2.u better sit down nd knw hw many weeks pregnant u re calculate who u had sex within dt period.unless u were rotating dem daily.
ReplyDeleteP1: I think u must 've done somethings wrong in dt relationship too. Or u guys were just immature at d time. Marriage has its trying times u guys can still work things out. U re walking away due to 3rd party interferance. A woman should build her home not destroy it.
ReplyDeleteP2: u got served! 've faith, A is d father of ur child, marry him
poster 1: Please dont go back to that man, at least if not for you think of our son growing up with that kind of man. there are so many things you can do.
ReplyDelete1. Get a good lawyer and seek advice regarding how to get full custody
2. Start recording every phone calls u receive especially does one where he abuses and call you names- this will be good in court
3. No man fights for worthless things. He now realizes your worth but does not want you to realize how great you are. Do not let him put you down. You are more than that. Keep growing for yourself and your child.
4. Finally, let the authorities know about what is going on. (i mean the police, NGOs that support women, friends and family).
GOD BLESS YOU
Poster 2.
ReplyDeletethat was west africa examination question part one.
part 2 will come like the same way one of my guy beating up the mother
before she confess told him how there gate man give her belle
Poster 2.
ReplyDeletethat was west africa examination question part one.
part 2 will come like the same way one of my guy beating up the mother
before she confess told him how there gate man give her belle
Poster one call a family meeting and tell your ex to hug transformer, the guy should let you be. Cos he had seen that you have great future now d guy want to comevand destroy your life.
ReplyDeletePoster Two am speechless o.
ReplyDeleteDid I just waste my time reading poster 2's chronicle.....it's a lie!....."he attempted to get me pregnant without any prior conversation" Wharri fuck is dat???? He took ur pussy while u were in d parlour without informing you?????
ReplyDeleteYepaaa! Anon u don kill me oh!! I am in stitches here - afi 'he took ur pussy while you were in the parlour.....' 😁
DeletePoster 1. Follow your instinct. Its rarely wrong. If you feel strongly that your life will be miserable with him then dont go back. Ever heard of the saying Once is a mistake, twice is foolish.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,as you make your bed so you will lie in it. You chose the action. Deal with the consequence. When we keep saying premarital sex is wrong. Staying away from premarital sex saves a lot of heartaches. Well this is one heartache you could have saved yourself from. Since you are so quick to offer your cookie jar even when you are not sure of what you really wanted, deal with it. You wanted a child. You can afford it. So keep the child. Youve got what you wanted.
Poster 2: no woman no cry. I dont know if I will be proud to call u a woman bcos u no get sense. How can u be sleeping with two guys. What will u teach ur children. Our people say that a child that dances surugede does not know that surugede is the dance of the spirit. So deal with it.
ReplyDelete#1: My darling, the truth is, in most cases, if you search hard enough, you'll see at least 1 reason to end a marriage where you are no longer in love with your spouse. I see cases like this on weekly basis. The minute some ladies want out of their marriages, they paint their hubbies as monsters. Don't get me wrong, indeed some husbands are actually more in touch with their animalistic sides. My question is why now?
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How do I put this delicately?...sweetheart are you sure he is guilty of all these allegations? You mean you sat pretty while he was being a nightmare? Are you completely blameless? It seems like an overkill. Being in a physically abusive marriage is reason enough to quit but usually when a lady goes on and on listing all her hubby's vices, it's because she's trying to convince herself to leave him and garner support from people to justify her decision. I apologise if you don't fall under this category because it is very common.
The choice is yours, really. We can only make suggestions and draw inferences from the little information you furnished us with. You know exactly what is going on and how you feel. If you choose to go back, you are the one to live with the consequences same as if you decide to move on. Whatever you decide, our lives go on and many of us will forget about you and your predicament before the month runs out. So please, my darling, be very careful and think hard because you're about to make one of the biggest decisions that will change the course of your life forever.
Here's my advice, though.
1. Be sure your decision to leave isn't based on some guy out there exhibiting all the fantastic qualities you wish your hubby had. Because, this same monstrous hubby of yours will be another woman's Mr. Wonderful.
2. Don't ever think divorce will bring you instant happiness and freedom. Sometimes it gets a lot worse before it gets better. Life after divorce, especially as a single mum, is more daunting than people realise. Make sure you are at peace with all the worst scenarios so that you can deal with whatever lies ahead. Cruel facts like, you may never remarry, you may get your heart crushed by several men and end up miserable, you may remarry and find out your new hubby is worse than your ex-hubby. God forbids that any of these should happen but you must be sure you can handle it just in case life happens.
3. You and your angel are now a package, you go together and your ex will always be a part of his life. Your angel also plays a vital role in the selection of a new man, if you are so inclined, it's no longer all about you.
4. Remember men have generic characteristics and even a good man make act in a way which reminds you of your ex. That's why it's very important to allow time pass before getting involved with a new man. You must make sure you heal completely before letting another man into your life.
Honey, go back to the drawing board and be sure of what you want. Such life altering decisions shouldn't be made post-haste. I pray you find peace with whatever you decide.
#e-bearhugs.
I LOVE YOU ALREADY! SO MUCH WISDOM. DO YOU HAVE A BLOG WHERE I CAN COME FOR ADVISE OR A PHONE NUMBER I CAN CALL?
DeletePoster1. Stay away from bad news. Your ex is bad news. You need to be strong. Hes threatening to take your son away from you? Hes a terrible person.How can he be saying he wants you back and in the same breath threatening you? Hes a psycho sicko. Dont leave anything to chance. Strategise to shake him off your trail.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 - You will have twins. You probably ovulated from both ovaries that week. So One for A and the other for B. Hearty Congratulations on your double bundle of joy.
Poster 1 the decision is yours to make and no one else but bear it in mind even if he is a beast he is your child's father. I am saying this because I was once in your shoes and when I gave birth my husband said I called his mum a witch which I never did or would have done.to cut the story short I had to go back to my dad with no dime though I was working. My family was pissed; I started working I bounced back but he never sent a dime.Called him several times but he said I should go and beg the mum then he would consider with pride.In all these I had God and a wonderful pastor.We prayed and kept calm when he asked to see his son a yr later without both sides family knowing I refused but I understood it to b men's ego so I went to his family first and told them their son's decision for which they agreed and then I went to beg my father.My pastor said one thing that two people can't b immature at same time one has to be the mature one if both can't and for my husband sake I had to be. If one is quarrelsome another has to be calm.Today the man doesn't want the child tomorrow he will be searching for him.So first thing forgive then decide if u want to go back.if u do u need both families in agreement if u don't settle it amicably and move on.
ReplyDeleteMARRIAGE TAKES WORK AND MATURITY TO BECOME SUCCESSFUL. IF HE IS IMMATURE, YOU BE MATURE. DO YOUR BEST FIRST, LIVE YOUR LIFE, YOU ARE NOT TIED TO HIM AT THE WAIST. BTW, HOW DID YOU CONFIRM HIS CHEATING?
ReplyDeletePoster 2: abort the child and start back . Think about the shame u wld face and all that. Just remove it lowkey
ReplyDeletePoster one,kindly don't go back to that useless man,he doesn't worth you. Just take good care of yourself & your son & I'm sure at the right time,true love will find you again. Poster two,you be ode,mumu. Continue opening your tohtoh for every guy who comes singing marriage. Confused nonentity
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