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SERIOUS ADVICE NEEDED ASAP

‎Hello Stella, please help me share but hide my identity.  There's confusion right now in my life. I have two stories to share but one at a time. I need serious advice please from you and my fellow blog readers. 

Last year January, I met a guy, he was 37 then, an only child, a nurse, doing really well. So you can imagine when this guy came to me for a relationship, after doing small shakara for him, I agreed to date him a month later.

 It was a long distance relationship. I just finished University and was waiting to go for youth service, he kind of brainwashed me to select the state he's in during registration. I did and fortunately was posted to the state. We all were happy. But my ppa ( place of primary assignment) was in another local Govt. So we ended up not seeing each other often. 

But I try to go visit him once in a while. It was during one of my visits that's I noticed him chatting with a particular girl. Normally I don't touch his phone, even though he scrutinizes my phone anytime I visit him. So I took his phone when he was sleeping and checked his conversation with this girl, though he deleted them before going to bed, the girl sent a last message which he did not read. She told him that she loves him and will continue the conversation tmrw and ended with goodnight my love. Fast forward  to the following morning, I confronted him, he told me the girl was his ex, that there nothing going on. Ok, agreed. 

We went to the market, bought things and I went in to cook. He started chatting, after eating, he went to take a bath, I took the phone and checked, my eyes couldn't believe what I saw, there right in my presence, my boyfriend was sex- chatting the girl he claimed was his ex. Because I was already dressed and was waiting for him to finish bathing, I left the phone open on the table and left with my bag. Fast forward ‎to a month later, after much begging and all both from him and his friends, I allowed him to come visit me where am serving, imagine someone that came for us to talk about things, he came loaded with packets of condom.

 I was so crazy that I threw him out of my house. Then the beggings and promises followed, he solicited the help of his friends, they called and apologized on his behalf. Only for me to go see what could be done and if we can salvage what's left of the relationship and the first thing this guy want was sex. He was just all over me. I told him to calm down and let's talk, he said after that he couldn't hold himself anymore. I pleaded, he refused, I threatened to shout, and cry rape, that was when he stopped. I went outside the room to cool off, when I got back to the room, I met  him masturbating. While on it, it was abusing me, saying that it's my fault. 

I couldn't stand and watch the nonsense he was doing, but there's no way to go back cos I had no one on me. I asked him for tfare,he promised to give me only if I help him out. I sat on the table where he kept his wallet and managed to take just 500naira. At least that would take me to a bank to get money for myself. I left, I waited for bike, it was during the scarcity. I couldn't see a bike, I decided to walk.

 Then I saw a car coming with speed, when it got to where I was standing, I found out that it's my boyfriend. He stopped and came straight to me, asking me to hand the N500 back. I was so embarrassed, people were passing, and looking at us. I asked him if he want to embarrass me here, he said yes that I should give him back his money. He opened my bag and took the money. 

I was left stranded. I had to beg a bike man to take me to a bank then I paid him. Since then, I decided to forget him and move on with my life. Because my sister wasn't aware of all these, she called him weeks ago to inform him that I will be joining my mum in the US after by August. So for the past 2 weeks, he has been calling, crying on phone and begging for me to forgive him and accept him back. He gave his mum my number, and the woman has been calling me, that she want to meet me and all that. 

I need some serious advice, cos right now I don't know what to tell the mother. What should I do? Please Stella your red pen is highly needed too. 

*Are you so naive?My friend wear your running shoes and RUN!!!