This one is a no- nonsense MIL...heheheehehe!
I have two stories to tell. They didn't happen to me but na real story.
My friend just had her first baby and the mum came to do omugwo for her.
She was granted 2 weeks leave. Fast forward to some days into the omugwo, the girls mother cooked rice for the family,her son-in-law returned from work and she served him dinner as usual. The young man went to eat his food, to the 'suprization' of the woman, the man started yelling o o o that he was served food without plantain (he likes his rice with plantain).
This woman had no idea of this and the daughter didn't inform the mother. The girl begged the husband to stop yelling and she offered to fry the plantain for him, the woman accepted to fry the plantain so as not to trouble her daughter That night so packed her bag and left early the next day.
She told her daughters that omugwo has been cancelled for all of them, if you born and need omugwo you have to come to her house. Fast forward to the second pregnancy, as delivery date dey approach, this man met the woman and asked for forgiveness, begged her to come and do omugwo, as the girl born she pack her things come her mama house for omugwo. End of story.
The second story
Those of you that stay in the East especially Anambra State know how strong Abakiliki women are. My neighbor an Abakiliki woman that has a small stall in the neighborhood open shop oo, for afternoon she go back house born pikin.
Those of you that stay in the East especially Anambra State know how strong Abakiliki women are. My neighbor an Abakiliki woman that has a small stall in the neighborhood open shop oo, for afternoon she go back house born pikin.
E never reach evening she come out to dey sell for her shop. If they tell you say she born that day you no go gree.
In summary, I'm just trying to say that MILs are not always the evil ones, even the men can make an omugwo unbearable for their own MIL. Secondly, having someone to so omugwo for you is a privilege and we should learn how to appreciate little things, imagine the Abakiliki woman's problem is not even omugwo, she's thinking of how to make ends meet cos her husband is always drinking. Let's learn how to appreciate little things, whether it's your MIL or your own mother that came for the omugwo; just look for a way to make things work out for you two.
Yes,you are right MIL's are not always the problem!
Ok, thanks for this. But honestly, I can hardly decipher the reason for this narrative
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
See me asking myself the same question o!
Deletei concur to what you said.
ReplyDeletethis poster na amebo,abeg face ur life.
Delete@the first story, there is no peace in their home and it affected the MIL. The horseband cannot just start shouting and quarreling the MIL bcos of plantain if he loves his wife.
ReplyDeleteI don't even understand this your story at all. First, after the mother forgave the son-in-law, the daughter still went to the mother's house for omugwo?
ReplyDeleteSecondly, abeg how abakiliki women dey behave? Coz this story no just get head at all.
Abakaliki women are strong. I remember one that carried pregnancy and wanted to climb tree, Na beg people beg am ooo.
DeleteYou must be an olodo not to have understood anything written up there.
DeleteJames hater, I agree o. Olodo like us. Hehehehe
DeleteHahahaha....that abakaliki woman is a strong woman
ReplyDeleteThat's true
ReplyDeleteWhat a silly insensitive man he is,if he so much luv plantain with his rice, he sud have fried it himself instead of yelling and making a nuisance outa himself... Yeye dey smell
ReplyDeleteVillage women are more stronger dan township women na....
*faithful bv*
My dear Its true with some men they cannot eat their meal without some certain things,my hubby own is ugu leave o,you serve him food with ugu leaf if not na quarrel,he kicked a meal I made for him away cus I couldn't go out to get d ugu cus it was raining heavily
DeleteAnon. Ur husband has a fundamental problem to kick food you made for him because ome ingredient is missing?!! Better take him for brain check. What kind of men do you people marry? A man who can't state his displeasure quietly or bear with u for one day cos of a missing ingredient? What example si he leaving for your kids especially male kids? What happened to manners and communication? No wonder there are so many insultive women on this blog. Many of you are married to animals and abusers in the form of men. Tufiakwa!!!
DeleteExactly... imagine kicking out a meal I made cos of a missing ingredient... you are obviously not his better half... mayb better-quater. Mtcheeew
Deletenice one, short and brief. yes ooh mother inlaws are not always the problem. thats why i keep praying for a mother in-law who isnt an undercover witch.
ReplyDeleteOmugwo makes nigerian women fat with protruding bellies. U don't eat n lie down cos u just delivered, heck! Be active.
ReplyDeleteLol..i love the first story
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmnn
ReplyDeleteChronicle #1,the husband is a very rude & arrogant man. So if the wife behaved in the same way towards his own mother we won't be saying the same story right now bcos both of them ll join hands to deal with the wife bt his MIL packed her things & left without creating problem,infact his own mum won't leave bt stay to sniff life out of his wife. Wo It is well in Jesus name
ReplyDeleteI love that woman already. A no nonsense mama. Who get time?
ReplyDelete#No matter how "busy" a person is, if they care, they will always find time for you*
ReplyDeleteWho broke ur heart? Jst send chronicles
DeleteUr absolutely right, I remember one woman from my village dt went for her daughters Omugwo in Lagos, after 3 weeks she came back with her daughter and the new bby, the story is for another day, the girl married a beast.
ReplyDeleteThat Abakiliki woman is a gangster kikikiki.
ReplyDeleteThat first story: na wah for the husband oo. So he was screaming because he was served rice without fried plantains?! Even if it were his wife that cooked it, that is so wrong! What happened to having a dialogue with her?
ReplyDeleteHow I Met My Husband
Ok...
ReplyDeleteLearn to write properly
ReplyDeleteHahahaha that Abakiliki woman go back house go born, come back sell for shop as if she went to shop or something. God please give me that kind of strength if I get pregnant again. Chai!
ReplyDeleteHow I Met My Husband
Or better still go back to primary school
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteFirst MIL making sense..
ReplyDeleteNo Time for Yeye
The Nkem Owoh pic always crack me up.
ReplyDeleteThat first story tho. Lmao.
ReplyDeleteI totally detest people who can't improvise. "I can't eat rice without plantain", I can't eat food without meat" I can't eat beans without liver", I can't drink cold water tea", I can't eat food with fish only,", I can't eat food with no pepper", I can't blah blah blah.
You make nonsense rules and allow them govern your life.
Provided it's not for health reasons or culture sake, it's all BS to me.
I was a boarder for 6 years, 4 years in University school hostel, I live alone", Nna I can eat anything with or without. Provided it's safe and clean.
Story 2- Women are the strongest beings.
Ebonyi state people are very hardworking, everybody knows that. They have to be, especially the women, to provide for their families. God help us all.
My dear, there's nothing I can't eat now. You need to see how I make due with what is available. My friends always ask me how I learnt how to do all those disgusting mixings;my reply to them is that 6 years in sec sch no be waste.
DeleteTrue talk
DeleteI like you already Oliviasilk.
DeleteGuess who?
@James Hater-- Dear, I can eat anything. I remember how I ate snail stew back in Sec school for the first time, I liked it. Meanwhile, In my family, snails are cooked ONLY with bitter leaf soup. Now I cook my stew with snails when I am feeling "healthy".
DeletePeeshoes- Thank you.
Lmao @ Anon. I like you too! And naah, I can't guess! Lol
I love you already Oliviasilk. My hubby is so sickening into this whole 'choosy' thingy. I can't stand onion in my food. I can't eat beans without plantain. And if i ever have to eat it garri, then there must be groundnut. I don't eat goat meat but he totally enjoys goat head mix and the list goes on.
DeleteI on the other hand, love my egg sauce, beans, noodles with plenty of onions, goat meat etc,but he just won't have it. It makes me sad attimes why he won't shift ground even the desirable isnt available. I feel bad too that i have to give up these things for him and he doesn't need the need to forego some even if it's once in a while for me. *sadsigh
Olivia silk guess what? I NEVER boarded or stayed in hostel..but I was raised to be able to adjust to circumstances. Especially because my dad lost alot of money when I was about 5 years old and most of my secondary school days, we had to make do with what we had. I was particularly a VERY choosy child. My only brother too same thing. When we complain my mum will spank us and tell us to kneel down. When hunger mama you you go grab the food with both hands. Who loose?
DeleteSo home training plays and important role too. Now I'm a certified foodie turned chef.
Dont mind all dis yeye men forming lord of host... as if dey eat out(iya basira) wen dey wr bachelors. Its even worst wit those men dat cant boil a decent hotwater witout adding salt or sugar......Tnk God for DH, humble n flexible even admist d wealth..
DeleteMadam poster Abakaliki is not in Anambra. Ebonyi state pls.
ReplyDeleteYou're stupid see will not let you read and understand. The writer (myself) was trying to say that those in the east will know esp those in Anambra will know better cos there are so many of them living in Anambra state.
DeleteYea so many abakaliki live in anambra in short that's their own oyibo town
DeleteLike you just spoke to me.been having issues with my mum,gave birth last week.but she jst comes to bath baby in the morning and evening and goes about her bizness during the day.I take Kia of the babay throught out d nyt as I wouldn't want to stress her due to age
ReplyDeleteStop having issues with ur mom, are ur hands broken?
DeleteApproko I salute you,I learnt from your gbeboru. The man in the first story no try at all, he no get respect. Would he have done that to his own mother? Very ungrateful. The second woman na real strong woman. I respect her type, a lot of Nigerian women are the breadwinners and they never seem to get a break. My prayer for her is that she will enjoy her children when the time comes and they are grown. Stella, I rove you. Approko keep it coming dear.
ReplyDeleteI think the second woman is the bread winner of her home or maybe things r so hard that's why. I don't blame her at all
DeleteJasmine, blocking in school won't make you know anything. What are you thinking? It's stated there already.
DeleteAnon 15:58, blocking in school? Hahahahahaha. My dear, u wish
DeleteThe first guy does it to his mother too. Such attitude doesn't spring up from nowhere.
DeleteSome men are kolomental ooo.
ReplyDeleteI can relate to poster 2.. that was how one woman gave birth in the morning and we saw her at home, watching clothes and cleaning the house, see as we opened mouth.
Madam just now now. she say yes, what can she do. she cannot sit down and allow her house to be dirty. We have strong women. This woman was from the village when they married her. She is strong jare. Mama Esther
I want to be like that but I'm so tired. My say if it's to go n make another baby, I won't be tired.
DeleteMy cousin does same o but her own na because her mama too like trouble so she no want make the woman come scatter her marriage. Her FIL is not strong so MIL can't travel.
DeleteYes u are right... I know of a woman who delivered in the morning nd latter in the afternoon she went out to fetch water her neighbors were just shouting at her "even if ur body strong no mean say u go do this kind work ooh" that was her 5th child lmao must pple re strong
ReplyDeletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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I know of abakiliiki women very well. I used to live in the east. their women are very hard working but the men are sth else. 99 percent of agberos in on it sha are from abakiliki.
ReplyDeleteHahaha....I like the mama of the first poster. Some men can be very silly, you dey show yourself for the mother of your wife. Someone that is doing you guys a huge favour. Poster you're so right having someone there with you is usually such a relieve and should be appreciated.
ReplyDeleteAfter 12 hours labour for my first child, I came back home nd worked. After my daughter, I baked d next day and bathe her myself as both mothers were sick to come for omugwo. Bodies r different bt it is God dat gives strength sha, I must admit!
ReplyDeleteSame party blood, same feathers
ReplyDeleteAbakaliki women hustling is their second name and they like living in anambra state. Go to awka and the rest na dem full their
ReplyDeleteThis is a make up story..does not even sound real.
ReplyDeleteTainz still