Hmmmm....
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
MARRIAGE NOT ON THE CARDS
Good Day Stella,
I don't know where this post fits (weda na chronicle or just some random post) but please just help me post it.
I'm a young lady of 26, and I don't think I want to get married. Since I was young, i've always told my self that I dont want to get married. About kids? I've always known I will adopt.
I wasn't abused or raped.
My mum gets angry each time i tell her this.
Please, I want to know if there are people who also feel same way. Guys feel I'm crazy each time I tell them that I don't want to get married. I have a boyfriend and I told him from the onset.
And NO! I didn't grow up in an abusive home, my parents are still married, as a matter of fact this is their 34th year of marriage.
Am I alright?
Am I alone?
Does any other person feel the same way?
Please pardon any error you may find.
Thank you!
I don't know.
ReplyDeletePoster nothing is wrong with you. Marriage is not for everybody.
DeleteI feel the same exact way. You are not alone. Unfortunately, in our part of the world, women are expected to aspire to marriage. I've never been interested in weddings or imagined my wedding day. I have a bf now, he's a great guy and he wants to get married but I don't. I want kids though. So no, don't feel weird because there are many women like us.
DeletePoster no get wahala at all. There pple dying in Syria. Don't waste our time please.
DeleteUu go fear Anon...
DeleteMc pinky
Nothing is wrong with you, whenever you feel like it, you can but if you don't, don't force it, we all ain't born to get married.
DeleteLive,
Laugh,
Love.
Above all, love God.
Their is nothing wrong with you. Instead of you to marry with this mentality and emotional abuse your partner, better remain single. Everyone must not marry, it not as if marriage is a certificate to heaven.
DeleteThis writer is a lesbian
DeleteMy dear there's nothing wrong with u jare. I even thought I wrote your chronicle. I feel the same way right from my teenage years. Though I'm trying to deviate from it shaa. I'm more of a career person, nothing more.
Delete#IDontGoAnon!
I use to feel that way before... Its probably cos of other people's experience that you have seen...
DeleteDont worry, you will get over it..
Anon 18:48...Amebo!!!Na you know.
DeleteNne you are not alright, you have a spiritual husband.
ReplyDeleteUre a big goat, fan emmanuel... Peanut sized brain.
DeleteSpiritual kwanu.
DeleteI yaf die here with bvees response
Mc pinky
Marriage is not for everyone, but if u choose to toll that path just know that u'll face a lot of opposition and difficulty from friends and loved ones, cos this Africa and we've not developed to that extent.
DeleteHaba. No o Fan Emmanuel. I no support you for this one. I'm like that too. Most of us are not thrilled with the whole idea of getting married. I made the decision for reasons best known to me. Financially I'm all the way up and I'm not even up to 28. Of course the suitors are coming and I'm in no way interested in same sex anything. I just don't partake in that girly dream of a fanciful wedding, dress and all and a happily ever after. It's absolutely normal.
DeleteWhy are y'all cussing Fan out? The poster don't want to be married but wants intimacy with a man which is meant for married couple. Poster has a boyfriend but don't want to get married.
Delete@Fan she needs to be delivered from her spirit husband no doubt, plus she needs a shrink.
Fan is right she has a serious& very jealous spiritual husband.
DeletePoster this is the manifestation of marine kingdom
DeletePlease meet T.B Joshua. You need deliverance
DeleteSome people are wired that way...relax you are fine!!
DeleteIs Oprah ur mentor?
ReplyDeleteJeez... Google is your friend, educate yourself on why Oprah didn't get married.
DeleteErhire, u need that education more, who's talkn bout the reason?
DeleteGood question
DeleteLol... Ode!
DeleteYour mindset is just......low!
DeleteI'm not with you mbok!
ReplyDeleteSome pple are ok with your line of thought, you are ok, 'nothing does you'.
But moi, j'aime Marie et get enfant.
There is nothing wrong with you .
DeleteLive life! Love life !
When the right man comes, he will change your mindset .
If it remains the same , enjoy yourself babygal 😘 don't let it get to you .
You need deliverance
ReplyDeleteNigwrians and deliverance, if i sneeze twice & fart at the same time, i need deliverance...
DeleteNot only that.. If u try say u nno wan chop sef nna deliverance.
DeleteMc pinky
U don't want to get married or hv children. What then are U doing with a boyfriend?? U should hv used Iron sponge on it anytime it scratch u
ReplyDeleteHahahaha hahahaha 😁
DeleteU b negative wire I swear
DeleteMc pinky
😂😂😂😂😂
Deletewayray!
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DeleteChai, peace maker,U get bad mouth.
DeleteHahahahahahahahahaha
DeleteJeez 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteGuy, idi bad! 👦
Delete@peace maker,you have come again
Delete😀😀😀😀😀😀😀
Lol,inukwa iron sponge.
DeleteThis is d very time im reading this guys comment n laughing! Usually I scroll pass.
DeleteHahahaha!!!
DeleteOMG!
You are sometin i cannot explain... Lol
James, Onye egbuwari isi.
DeleteLol ....na wa o
DeleteI feel you dear and there is nothing wrong with your choice not to marry but please stop saying it out loud because many people will never understand it.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is not compulsory. When I was in secondary school, I wanted to be married at 18 LOL but now I'm not interested. I just want to be a baby girl forever, I probably wouldn't adopt because my older siblings have kids and I have taken care of a couple which makes me feel like I've been a mother to them at some point.
Don't feel sad that your mother doesn't get it, she never will. Just do you and live your life who knows you might change your mind someday and get married when the time is right with the right person.
Dopple just say you no see man to marry you and stop consoling yourself. Aunty gwez, no wonder you give out some funny advise.
DeleteU nailed it dear
DeleteMc pinky
Doppel what happened to you and that chronicle poster? The one whose babe was a married Woman and was shocked to find out.
DeleteGist us ooo
@Happyheart, sorry I don't chase men. He asked that I mail him to hook up and I never did.
DeleteIf you have a follow up question, please send an email. My email has always been in my profile and anyone who wants to reach me can do that via my profile.
Exactly. The right person might just come and everything will change
DeleteDoppel you seriously have psycological problems.
DeleteI feel sorry for you.
Doppel...you are fine jare,the right person will come
DeleteJESUS CHRIST!!! On a second thought I doubt if this wasn't written by my sis because she has been saying same thing though in her own case because she has searched and got tired. My dear poster you are too young to numb to such a conclusion.marriage is good, don't go there,and with time you will understand.
ReplyDeleteStop deceiving your self my friend...
ReplyDeleteYou don't want to get married because no man that you love has ever asked you to marry him!...
Say the truth abeg...no REAL man has proposed to you!...
Go and settle your marine husband so you can meet someone you that can wife you!..
Lol
DeleteChoi...you dish em hot...lol...
DeleteYou are right
DeleteYou may be alright. Some people do not like marriage.
ReplyDeleteFan Emmanuel, what has spiritual husband got to do with this?
Every thing my dear. Every thing! How can a normal human being say this? Aka ji this girl
DeleteUnu anghorizina onwe unu!
Dumb skull fan Emmanuel!!! No wonder u put ur life savings on mmm... low IQ somebody... idiot
DeleteFan emmanuel you are so local and unexposed.....read widely and get informed. From today let it register in your medulla that there are always exceptions to some rules duh.so not wanting to marry makes u abnormal? If u ever live abroad you will just die of culture shock....she is very normal. If marriage was that compulsory I believe God would have made it a condition to make heaven, but cos he knows some people might not get married he only just insists on celibacy lol...that's my interpretation sha
DeleteHahahahah Hahahahah I have a feeling that fan emmanuel & queen is the same person cos they write alike.
DeleteFan Emmanuel..your way of thinking is shallow.
DeleteIt's simply a choice..you are absolutely normal... people think marriage= achievement or a fulfilled life but it's a choice...and it's your choice .. nothing wrong with that
ReplyDeleteIt's alright like that, not everyone is meant to marry but then if you choose not to, if you are Christian you should then dedicate your life to the things of God, not knacking upandan all in the name of being a spinster. However if knack dey sweet u well well abeg try marry u hear.
DeleteOh well..
ReplyDeleteThere is no chronicle here my dear.. This is your life, so it's your decision what you want to do with it.
As for your mom, don't expect her not to feel angry at you. Your decision is a very selfish one because every mother wants to see her daughter get married, get pregnant, give birth and they'll go for Omugwo..you know how mothers love their grandkids.
Just try and make her understand this is what you want and hopefully with time, she will understand and learn how to live with it!
All the best
En thym kroniku.
ReplyDeleteYhua laif, yhua dezishion.
Yes, yhu ah olrite.
No, yhu ah north aloan....
No, eye dun fil the seme wer, dunno if eniwan hell doss.... Bet cuont me awt!!!
Yhu ah whalecum, dun menshion.
What the Fuck are u writing?
DeleteWhat d fuck are u reading.. Can't u comprehend with my head, brain and mind
DeleteMc pinky
Hahaha this villager self
DeleteEnd time chronicle
DeleteYour life, your decision.
Yes, your alright
No, you are not alone.
No, I don't feel the same way. Don't know if anyone else does but count me out.
You are welcome, don't mention.
That's what he's trying to tell her. I don turn interpreter play play
Olodo....are u sending msgs to your ancestors?
DeleteMy dear, you're very much alright but our society will never support it, in fact they will think you're mentall sick. The fact is most of your kinds have been forced to marry and the marriage won't just work out. My advice is, just try and give birth, it's not a must you marry. There was once a man you want someone like you on this blog, you have phobia for marriage and there's nothing anybody can do to help you out of this, just settle for baby mama
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Please can someone send 50k into my account? I want to check if my alert is working...
ReplyDeleteJust withdraw the amount you have left and see the alert working....kikikikiiii
DeletePls send ur account details and FULL NAMES right under my comment u never can tell what I'll do OK?
DeleteVictorious u want to help the anonymous withdraw so h/she can get alert?
Delete😂😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteLol...cray cray people full this blog.
DeleteThere's absolutely nothing wrong with you, you're jst a realist & refuse society & peer pressure to alter ur mindset... i'm an Atheist & i know what it means to take a diffrent route frm the norm.
ReplyDeleteWhy dont you transfer to my account and you check if your alert is working as you will see the debit? inukwa akuko.
DeleteQuick one, at what age did u stop believing in a supreme being if u ever did, and what prompted it? Just curious
DeleteAfter i left the seminary school in Rumubekwe PH, i battled with the thoughts for 3yrs, grabbed a bright torch with duracell batteries and shovel, i dug deep & did my personal research, i was still filled with the fear of eternal damnations, then i finally became Agnostics when i visited Australia, 80% of them are atheists, and they opened my eyes wide..... Best decision of my life! Although i don't condemn any religion or any form of indoctrination, i found happiness the day i lost God, i'm as light as a feather. #AtheismRocks.
DeleteNo wonder u re so brilliant. From your write-ups it shows. I pray u still find God.Amen
Delete@ Atheist, may God have mercy on you. It is ONLY a FOOL that says there s no GOD. There are traces of God everywhere. GOD, HEAVEN and HELL are Real.
DeleteWow. Aethist how do you cope in a society like ours? Do you proclaim your belief just via virtual reality or it's something you proclaim to the face of people in reality? How did your friends, relatives and associates take the news? And lastly have you ever been assaulted by anyone or any faction as a result of your belief?
DeletePlease I hope you don't mind me asking all theses questions.
DeleteAtheist the devil is fighting for your soul.....Jehovah God exist and if u want him to reveal himself ask him....I lived in London for just 2 years and I almost started to doubt if God existed...oyibos have lost it but you have some left who have deep revelations......a family friend almost lost their son to atheism when he lived in Sidney for some years but he was restored by the time he relocated back to naija...u will definettly end up in hell if u continue the atheist path..
DeleteAtheist, I need to interview you... Lol, but would be in SP post tomorrow.
DeleteHmmm! There's a lot i'll like to ask you, but unfortunately I can't here. I wish you the very best. Didn't know that about Australians tho.
DeleteAtheist you are coming back. Light as a feather indeed.
DeleteWow .hhmmmmm may you find God again.
DeleteThe truth is you have not met the dude that will sweep you off your feet. When you meet him na one hand marriage go use hungry you. Anyway when you eventually meet him make sure you let us know.
ReplyDeleteSince she doesn't want to marry
DeleteThen let her dedicate herself to the work of God. She can't just be in this world for nothing. Marry no, born children no, reverend sister no, I mean God wasn't crazy when he made her a woman.
Exactly @judith, you can't just be chopping banana and say you don't want anything, that's being selfish
DeleteUhmmm. You are not alone. My dear poster. Funmi Iyanda seems to be on that list if I'm not mistaken. Anyways something must have driven you into this. If you don't wanna have babies. Why not either join the Convent. Rather than gbenshing whoever you feel. At least that way you'd have a purpose.
ReplyDeleteFunmi iyanda is a lesbian. She lives openly with her partner in London.she only pretends when in naija
DeleteWhy be so selfish?
ReplyDeleteYour mother got married and gave birth to you, so why don't you want to do same and give the poor woman grandkids? If I be your mama ehn..na correct pigeon i go knack for your head(just joking)lol
My dear I perfectly understand this your decision because of the plenty wahala and headaches that comes with being married these days. If you are absolutely sure this is what you want, then you should go for it.
FYI- Your mom will never be okay with it, she might be resigned to her fate eventually. But she will never like it.. Just saying!
Its your life ,it's your choice..
ReplyDeleteYou are very normal and there is nothing wrong with you. I used to be like that as well I dont know what changed but um now 36, married with a baby boy and expecting a little girl this coming June. Dont just worry and stress yoself you'll see, things will turn out ok and perfect for you.
ReplyDeleteYeah..poster I feel u will change too.
DeleteU dont want to get married as in ,u don't want comments but can have a partner?
ReplyDeleteThese are two different things.
Some celebs don't want commitments so they get a partner and starts having kids(Timaya for example) probably bcx of their views abt marriage.
Is it that type u want?
U didn't state any reason for not wanting to get married so my dear,u dnt have a case.
U must get married!!! Whether u like it or not .
just say ur village pple are after u for now as no REAL guy is coming ur way.
If u are a nun now,i will hear.
As far as u allow gbenshing wt ur boyfriend,be ready to settle by fire by force
In fact when real guy come u will be d one begging and proposing marriage
Childish comment. What is wrong with not being married? Is it a crime? So because her mother got married to have her, therefore she must marry.Everyone have their lives to live in this world,so which ever one you want you go for it chikina! A mother must not force a child to do what she doesn't want to do, she's an adult and knows what she wants especially in marriage, having children or going to church. Probably,she will come around in due time.
DeleteVery childish and daft comment. @ehis.
DeleteSo because someone else does something, everyone else must. No wonder most of you sound like you have very low intellect on this blog. As if you have pure dust on your brain. Grow up, don't just grow old.
NO ONE HAS TO STATE REASONS FOR NOT WANTING TO MARRY. LET PEOPLE BE.
Poster, do you. 7 billion people obviously cannot want the same things.
Do you and be at peace or follow society's hare brained dictates and live in misery.
Ehis, I don't agree with you. No village people any where.
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DeleteShut up u two
DeleteObviously u guys are sadists if not u will get d humour in my comment.
It's a subtle shade ode pple,i was only playing around.
I met this Yourba guy online he lives in America he told me that he has a wife but not properly married to her that he pregnant the lady and the have 2 kids but the wife left him when he was still in nigeria because of financial issue.
ReplyDeleteNow his saying that he want to marry me he always sent money to my account every month for my up keep my problem now is that how am I sure if what he said about his wife is true I have gone through his facebook pictures to see if I can see his wife or if he post any of there wedding pix or any pix the snapped together but I can't find any
I ask him if he do call his wife he said yes that he calls the wife only when he want to speak with his kids I also ask him if the wife want to come back for him will he accept her he said no am confuse I don't know if his lying because he always ask me for sex video and I will do it with him, is he really saying the truth his 39 am 28
pls bvs I need your advice on this. Stella please post
Im in my Mid 40s,made the decision in my very early 20s. No marriage, no kids. I still havent regretted my decision. Im strong so I dont give a damn about what anyone has to say. Bottom line is, Im happy. My Family has accepted my stance. And I dont see it any where in the Bible where it says, I must marry, so Im at peace with myself. PS: I love romance, but playing wife and mother aint on my favourite list.
ReplyDeleteWay to go dear. But me I'll like to have kids sha. Based on a mutual understanding with my partner of course and also adopt 1 or 2 kids. Different strokes for different folks.
DeleteMarriage is not for everyone but um hoping you're not fornicating and later call yoself a Christian.
DeleteI hope you don't fuck around
DeleteAs there is no place in the Bible that says u must marry, there is a place in the bible that says fornication is a sin
This one is an old retired club girl that saw no one to marry her, they full my estate, single grey haired hoes, sleeping with young boys.
DeleteYou warning her, doesnt ur Bible tell you not to use vain and vulgar words? Same mouth you use to praise God is the one you use to say F words. Pluck the log from ur eyes.
DeleteAunty marriage is not for sex only ......so she must not be fuvking around ...
DeleteCome back and type this when you're 70. You think if you happen to be bedridden, any house help will agree to wipe your shit
DeleteDear Poster, i understand you, not everyone is willing to go through the stress of pregnancy, child-bearing and up bring as well.
ReplyDeleteOn a second thought if your mum had made the same the decision you made or (about to make) i don't think you would ever exist. Please take out time to rethink your decisions.
You're fine biko...not everyone can conform to the dogma. Do you abeg and don't let anyone live your life for you.
ReplyDeleteEnjoy single life pls. Marriage is a prison, I enjoyed it, I'm 45 still single but I'm tired, adoption ain't easy and taking care of a child is not beans, I'm well to do, personal house n two cars but it gets lonely, I had a partner but he's married n always goes home to wifey, I figured for how long? He got a younger girl n didn't have my time again, I guess I look old, lol, I don't know what to do again.
ReplyDeleteAre you o.k at all?
DeleteAhu adikwa gi?
Aka ji this girl (in fan Emmanuel's voice)
Lmao.... Your own is different biko.... Lmfao
DeleteSee them, retired oloshos. Kikikikikikikikii
DeleteAre you dating my man, do you stay in LANRE ebegbune str Ajao estate, if yes sorry, he is mine for over 3yrs, he got me a nice ride for my last birthday,
DeleteBut u lied u claimed you don't want marriage but u nearly tear him & his wife apart last 2yrs, well I refuse I fought him big time, when he made up wit his wife, he bought me my ride to say thank you for being a good friend.
Look for another man for bobo he is a gonner, serious aka jide go ya, till he finish my house in my papa compound then I can leave him. Sorry oooo, meanwhile am engaged to be married by Dec, he won't knw till he is done with my house. Tnks madam rich woman.
DeletePlease can I come and live with you for some time? I'm very humble please. Thank you
DeleteHahaha, this is the real chronicle. Poster save this somewhere so you won't have to type in 15 years to come.
DeleteMarriage is not by force. Back in secondary school I wanted to be a single mom. No order to be taken from any man. Get preggers and birth the child no attachment with any man. Until I met him. I am married two years now after dating for 8 good years. When you meet him you will forget about your plan abi want ni. Marriage is way beyond procreation. The companionship is sweet. Good your parents are together so you understand what a home is.
ReplyDeleteDon't however me pressured into getting married.
All the best
We have brain problem and need to be evaluated. Simple
ReplyDeletehahahahaha Oprah is not her mentor.
ReplyDeleteYou are an adult and you have decided. Dont let anyone force you. Afterall Apostle Paul says if you can stay without marrying it is ok but if you cant hold body, better marry to avoid fornication or adultery.
But your parents born you, if they had taken that decision, will you come to this world... My dear dont be selling fish oo
Poster: You have just exposed yourself to more ridicule here..It's your choice on how you want to live your life..That means you sending this means you dont know what you want or you want to validate your stance by asking people...I tell you that you will keep asking people to validate stances concerning your life..This question u asked is not necessary..Its your life , deal with it..You owe no one any explanation...you dont need to know if someone else shares the same stance with you to validate yourself...so invariably WHAT DO YOU WANT??
ReplyDeleteYour spiritual husband is very wicked
ReplyDeleteand stubborn, I swear down. The deliverance you need is from a Church not yet registered
Nothing like spiritual husband
DeleteLolzzz.
DeleteWhen the right guy comes, you will testify...ask Tontoh b4 her ish.
ReplyDeleteIt is your life and your choice do whatever pleases you
ReplyDeleteI used to say the same thing too.
ReplyDeleteBut I thank God that all the thoughts are in the past now because I'm happily married and I'm blessed witha beautiful daughter and another one on the way.BUT MOST IF ALL,MY HUBBY IS REALLY WHAT I WISHED FOR.
PLEASE DEAR ALWAYS SEEK THE FACE OF GOD BECAUSE THAT DECISION AND THE SIRIT BACKING YOU UP IS NOT ORDINARY.EVEN IF YOU DON'T WANT TO MARRY ,BUT YOU REALLY NEED A KID/ CHILDREN BECAUSE OF OLD AGE AND MOST IMPORTANTLY,YOU NEED TO BE CALLED MUMMY AND GRANDMA.
THINK TWICE
My dear Mr right is yet to show face, i use to feel that way bfor but now when mr right came all my thought became marriage. We are getting married in June.
ReplyDeleteMy dear it is not a must. Different strokes for different folks. If you adopt you will help to build a future for those helpless kids.
ReplyDeleteSo Far so Good..I havent met a very serious one..anyway there is one on my case whose major concern is that we are both dark in complexion and he is scared that we may give birth to shadows (really so crazy). and to say that he hates Lagos but he wants me to do the whole sacrifice...Its so funny..he has been calling but i wont pick it cause am not even interested in the first place...
ReplyDeleteI will like to meet you dear poster, I think like you too but don't want kids as I have babysitted nieces and nephews(might change in the future). None of my friends understands and definitely not telling my parents now as I am not ready for any family discussion.
ReplyDeletePlease remain childless n single till u clock 6 n 70s, enjoy your old age alone.
DeleteSeems you are demon possessed
ReplyDeletePoster are you a lesbo?
ReplyDeleteA time will come in your life when you will be so lonely and all your acquire wealth will not be the solution to curb your loneliness.
ReplyDeleteOMG is this my story 😢😢😢😢😢. It's just that I grew up in a bad home where my dad's love of women and forgetting his kids' need isn't paramount.
ReplyDeleteA time will come in your life when you will be so lonely and all your acquire wealth will not be the solution to curb your loneliness.
ReplyDeleteBabe.. There's nothing wrong with you at all. I used to be the same as you... I didn't want to get married and was determined that I would adopt due to fear of Child Birth but I have decided that I will have CS when the time comes.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, long story short - I have been with my BF for 3 years now. He has been patient with me and now I can definitely see myself as a wife, whether its his or someone else. What I am trying to say is, when the right guy comes along your mind will change by itself. Nobody will have to force,You wont see it coming and you will even start obsessing about weddings. Don't rush yourself :)
And if it doesn't happen, I personally don't see anything wrong! Not everyone is meant to be a wife or Mother. A lot of people wont agree with me but I think you should relax and take each day as it comes :) If that fails - Marry Jesus! lol
Poster you haven't been in love, I mean the kind of love this man just sweeps you off your feet and you don't even have a say in the matter.
ReplyDeleteI laugh, you haven't met that man yet trust me.
I had a friend in secondary school who said same shit you also said. Infact she was one of the first to get married. They didn't have a kid immediately but they have a son now.
On child matter when you are truly in love you will want to make that man happy and if having a child will do that, nobody will ask you before you get pregnant.
Except on rare occasions like Oprah winfrey o. But I think hers its more psychological. She got pregnant by her uncle at 14, had the baby but the baby died.
This is Africa my dear, forget all that oyinbo reasoning.
If you say such things to my mother, she will take you to deliverance straight. That demon gats to come out.
Abeg drop that talk of sweep you off your feet! It does not make any sense. Love and marriage are not cause and effect! Not wanting to marry has nothing to do with falling or being in love! People like your friend married because they assume marriage would guarantee them a life time with the man they love. I am ridiculously and deliciously in love with my partner and we have been together since I was 21 and I have never thought about getting married to him or having children. I love him to bits and we are still good together(I would be 36 in June). Although he did dabble with the idea of marriage about 8 or 9 years ago. I quickly shut it down and he came on board fully with being happily unmarried. So all your points of meeting the right man holds no water.As if everybody who married did because they met the "right" man. Those who married after saying they didn't want to, always wanted to! They just wanted to marry who they loved more than others and not settle quickly. There's nothing like the right man. No man or woman is made specially for anybody. For every man you think is the right one, there are thousands out there who are "more" right. Please you people need to tone down on the "you have not met the right one yet." My partner (45) is as right as they come and we are both happily unmarried and childless. Couldn't have wanted it any better.
DeleteYou are not alone poster... I don't wanna get married as well... My boyfriend has proposed 4 times and I said no each time... I will eventually cos my mum is on my neck, I just don't see myself getting married...
ReplyDeleteAmen my dear, may you never fall into the sham called marriage, rock singlehood, when we are in our 60s we look for a sugar son so we don't die without an heir.
DeleteIf ur boyfriend is rich & generous Pls hook us up, he will be ever grateful to u.
DeletePoster drag your ears and listen to me, You are NOT Wrong and there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. Right from 16 I have never wanted to get married! 14 years down I have added no children except for adoption. In fact as soon as I meet somebody, I say no marriage and now no kids save for adoption. Nothing do you sister! Carry on and don't let anybody scare or guilt trip you into marriage. Trust me, its boring, overrated and not worth the hassle of the "beautiful thing" they constantly peddle in your face. Personally, even if I wanted to get married there's no way that's possible, I don't believe in bride price paying or ceremonies, so trad marriage is out, I am agnostic, so church is a no no and I don't believe a signed document does Any thing to good for my relationship with my partner so how then can I be married? Frankly, I am not interested in calling anyone husband. That term irks me and makes me uncomfortable. Please poster you decision is valid as long as you are happy!
ReplyDeleteAdoption won't be easy for you, marriage will never be your portion, you will live long till 100 a look for who will run errands for you, it's a good prayer for ur type of mindset, don't reject it, it's fun having strangers around u in ur 70s, old runz babe wey dat cudnt get a husband. Idiot. Say a loud amen.
DeleteHonestly, u dont sound happy.You sound angry... Maybe people always run away from you.
DeleteDear Stella please why can't you create a segment for this? I feel we have lots of us that are like this I'm well, able and in my 30s yet I have not thought about marriage. I just feel marriage is not my thing and I hope the ladies can understand💯 What works for A may not work for B👍🏽. I'd like to meet people of my mind and spend time with them... Kindly drop comments if you interested....🙌🏼👌🏾
ReplyDeleteIf u ever get married, may it crash, keep sleeping with poles husband and waste away.
DeleteAssociation of Ndi ogbanje na enye nsogbu.
DeletePoster,you are very alright,I'm a guy n have same intentions too,my parents are always sad when I say so,but I don't care
DeletePlease am interested, can we be friends? Marriage is not my thing honestly
DeleteYou are very very normal my dear. I was once like you but due to family and societal pressure I dabbled into marriage and I must say it wasn't a pleasant experience and I left after 8 years and I'm very happy being single.
ReplyDeleteHope you are not the divorcee sleeping wi wi uncle with two wives, failed woman.
DeleteI'm 23,and yes,I don't intend to be married or eve have kids,so I see your point poster.Ppl just assume the whole world should live by their rules.I read comments here where Ppl were like poster Ur being selfish, what if your mother decided not to give birth to you now and I'm like really??do you Ppl think everbody is happy to be born into this messed up world?if I had my way,I would choose to never have been born,and so im not happy to exist in this world. I've had a very difficult life,and I know I'll do every thing not to bring another person into this world as a kid.but Ppl will never understand. If your life has been OK or awesome don't think everyone life has been,and don't just assume everyone has the same goals
ReplyDeleteSave this post, may ur wish be granted, no child shall cry in your house, selfish hoe.
DeleteDon't worry poster, hopefully you'll find some guy who would sweep you off your feet. It's okay not to find closure in certain things but at the end ''lines would fall in the right places ''.
ReplyDelete"None should make lack her mate"
ReplyDelete"None should make lack her mate"
ReplyDeleteposter pls come bk when u r 40 or 50yrs, atleast by den we ll knw u r serious.....
ReplyDeletei just want to cry, to let go of the hurt i feel inside.
ReplyDeletethe hurt i cannot explain,
i want to lean on a shoulder with a comforting whisper in my ears that everything will be fine,
i want to love and be loved back,
is it too much to ask of you' GOD...
so depressed....
Anonymous 17:22....Cry if you want and just tell God exactly what you want and how u feel.....it's not too much to ask of him but sometimes he doesn't answer the way we want....be strong and keep yourself busy. We all go through phases in life and sometimes feels like a never ending story but trust me there is light at the end of the tunnel and this too shall pass...big hugs darling....
DeleteDo you have an email?
DeleteAww..eyahh..it will be well anon.
DeleteThat's life, everyone goes thru painful stuff, but d beautiful part is u come out big bold n strong!
Hold on tight dear.
Anon 17:22 God has heard you. You will be loved very well. The man will forever kiss the ground you walk on. Dont lose hope on God/
ReplyDeleteLet me whisper in your ears that everything will be fine. If a sister in my church can get married after the husband threw her away to a wonderful man in Canada, what about you? You will get a good guy. Cheers
I use to say the same thing, don't know what made me changed my mind. Can't really tell if am happy in my matrimonial home now, but i really wish i followed my heart.
ReplyDeletePoster, you are on your own...
ReplyDeleteLol....was just discussing this with a colleague today.....told him I know a woman who just wants to be a single mum with no husband but he said she was lying and just pretending or maybe abused.....I told him do u know we have women in naija who do not want to get married but society has made it compulsory? Dear poster pls do whatever makes you happy Abeg....my own take is if you want be yourSelf and still please God then no sex things oh..lol baba God say na only for marriage bed u get that liscence...marriage is not a ticket to heaven and not everyone must marry....nothing absolutely wrong with u babe
ReplyDeletewow! what a feeling... this too shall pass!
ReplyDeleteDear poster nothing is wrong with you but can you stop having sex and just dedicate your life to the services of God by becoming a reverend sister. Having sex with a man who has not paid money on your head is a sin.
ReplyDeleteThis same topic made me quarrel with someone bitterly. I said marriage is not for everyone!! Not everyone should get married especially him cos he's always fighting with his girlfriends . E nearly chop off my head . I'm single I'm happy . I have kids but don't want to marry again . I can't share my space for too long with any person they start getting on my nerves.
ReplyDeleteThis same topic made me quarrel with someone bitterly. I said marriage is not for everyone!! Not everyone should get married especially him cos he's always fighting with his girlfriends . E nearly chop off my head . I'm single I'm happy . I have kids but don't want to marry again . I can't share my space for too long with any person they start getting on my nerves.
ReplyDeleteAll man to his own
ReplyDeleteNa you sabi
ReplyDeleteThat's cool. Totally fine. Just as long as you know sex outside of marriage is a sin. If you're willing to be celibate then go ahead
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