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INSECURITY IN MARRIAGE
Good day Stella.
I hope my msg meets you well. I have been a follower of your blog for over 5yrs now but do not make comments at all. Thank you for allowing yourself to be used to bring fun, entertainment and information to people.
Pls keep me Anonymous on this.
A friend of mine is having this issue that on her permission asked me to share with you, eand the house to advise where necessary.
Even though I have told her what I think.
She has been married to her husband for some yrs now, though no kids yet and all have been going on well till early part of this year when they started having on and off issues.
The issue they are having is the hubby's too much involvement on social media, having lots of single female friends that he goes about liking all their pictures. His carefree behavior of doing things like he is single.
Recently now the main issue is his Close friendship with this particular girl whom the wife has told him she is not comfortable with. The funny thing is the husband of my friend got to know this girl in church a few months ago through my friend cus she was her leader in a group, which her husband belonged to too.
To my friend's surprise one day she wanted to use the hubby's phone to make a call and noticed a name saved with initials on the call log and it turned out to be the lady's number. Her hubby had already gotten this girl's contact and saved it with initials instead of the full name and had already started calling her privately to discuss only God knows what.
So this act of the husband sent some curiosity signals and made my friend to dig more and she found out they have already started following each other on Instagram, her hubby went to like all her selfies from the first day she joined Instagram in 2015 till date. And the said lady is someone that she and the husband just met 3 months ago. And then she also noticed chat he had with the lady he deleted.
My Friend saw all this and now confronted the husband with all she noticed, told the husband to unfollow her on Instagram, and end the friendship, he was defensive at first and was seeing no wrong in what he was doing, but later unfollowed her.
Now last week my friend decided to check the lady's profile and noticed the husband still goes to like the lady's pictures even as he has unfollowed her, when she confronted the husband he said she liked his pic first that is why he went to like hers so the lady won't notice he unfollowed her.
My Friend felt betrayed bcus the act of the hubby showed unfollowing the Lady was not from his mind. And she was angry and hurt,so she reported the issue to his elder brother 4days ago who spoke with him and he apologised and said he has decided to cut off and not let anything affect his marriage.
Now today my friend noticed the hubby has been friends with this lady on Twitter too, and she saw one of her post she posted yesterday and the day b4 that he liked.Whereas he apologised and promised to change 4 days ago. And my friend even saw that her husband had been liking all the lady's post, tweet and retweeting her tweets. . My Friend also found out the lady had been opening up some personal details of her life to her husband. And this is a lady that has never said hello to my friend on phone or chat b4 even though she had her contact, but she and my friend's hubby chat and connect.
Right now my friend is feeling hurt that the husband is behaving inappropriatly as a married Man cus from all indications he is having a crush on the lady which he is denying and not accepting and so she wants him to severe all forms of connection so it won't go into another level, but the husband is saying she is being paranoid and its all in her mind and that there is nothing between them. And that besides the Lady is no more in the same state with them so nothing could happen.
My Friend has gone as far as telling the hubby to choose between their marriage and his friendship with this lady. The husband has not said anything about that for now.
So pls what do you guys think, is my friend overreacting? Is she feeling Insecure? is she wrong by asking her husband to cut off the friendship with this lady? Did she take it too far by giving the hubby the ultimatum? Is the behaviour and actions of the husband appropriate for a Married man? Does his actions not mean he is crushing on the Lady?, Should she let the husband be and let him continue being friends with her,?. If you were in my friend's shoe what will you do.
Pls your advice will be appreciated.
Thank you.
Good day Stella.
I hope my msg meets you well. I have been a follower of your blog for over 5yrs now but do not make comments at all. Thank you for allowing yourself to be used to bring fun, entertainment and information to people.
Pls keep me Anonymous on this.
A friend of mine is having this issue that on her permission asked me to share with you, eand the house to advise where necessary.
Even though I have told her what I think.
She has been married to her husband for some yrs now, though no kids yet and all have been going on well till early part of this year when they started having on and off issues.
The issue they are having is the hubby's too much involvement on social media, having lots of single female friends that he goes about liking all their pictures. His carefree behavior of doing things like he is single.
Recently now the main issue is his Close friendship with this particular girl whom the wife has told him she is not comfortable with. The funny thing is the husband of my friend got to know this girl in church a few months ago through my friend cus she was her leader in a group, which her husband belonged to too.
To my friend's surprise one day she wanted to use the hubby's phone to make a call and noticed a name saved with initials on the call log and it turned out to be the lady's number. Her hubby had already gotten this girl's contact and saved it with initials instead of the full name and had already started calling her privately to discuss only God knows what.
So this act of the husband sent some curiosity signals and made my friend to dig more and she found out they have already started following each other on Instagram, her hubby went to like all her selfies from the first day she joined Instagram in 2015 till date. And the said lady is someone that she and the husband just met 3 months ago. And then she also noticed chat he had with the lady he deleted.
My Friend saw all this and now confronted the husband with all she noticed, told the husband to unfollow her on Instagram, and end the friendship, he was defensive at first and was seeing no wrong in what he was doing, but later unfollowed her.
Now last week my friend decided to check the lady's profile and noticed the husband still goes to like the lady's pictures even as he has unfollowed her, when she confronted the husband he said she liked his pic first that is why he went to like hers so the lady won't notice he unfollowed her.
My Friend felt betrayed bcus the act of the hubby showed unfollowing the Lady was not from his mind. And she was angry and hurt,so she reported the issue to his elder brother 4days ago who spoke with him and he apologised and said he has decided to cut off and not let anything affect his marriage.
Now today my friend noticed the hubby has been friends with this lady on Twitter too, and she saw one of her post she posted yesterday and the day b4 that he liked.Whereas he apologised and promised to change 4 days ago. And my friend even saw that her husband had been liking all the lady's post, tweet and retweeting her tweets. . My Friend also found out the lady had been opening up some personal details of her life to her husband. And this is a lady that has never said hello to my friend on phone or chat b4 even though she had her contact, but she and my friend's hubby chat and connect.
Right now my friend is feeling hurt that the husband is behaving inappropriatly as a married Man cus from all indications he is having a crush on the lady which he is denying and not accepting and so she wants him to severe all forms of connection so it won't go into another level, but the husband is saying she is being paranoid and its all in her mind and that there is nothing between them. And that besides the Lady is no more in the same state with them so nothing could happen.
My Friend has gone as far as telling the hubby to choose between their marriage and his friendship with this lady. The husband has not said anything about that for now.
So pls what do you guys think, is my friend overreacting? Is she feeling Insecure? is she wrong by asking her husband to cut off the friendship with this lady? Did she take it too far by giving the hubby the ultimatum? Is the behaviour and actions of the husband appropriate for a Married man? Does his actions not mean he is crushing on the Lady?, Should she let the husband be and let him continue being friends with her,?. If you were in my friend's shoe what will you do.
Pls your advice will be appreciated.
Thank you.
*There is something called ''Sixth sense warning''and Every woman has it.
No matter how much she snoops or complains and no matter how far apart both are,if they want to meet,they will meet.
Tell your friend to stop giving herself high blood pressure and watch how things turn out....you cannot force a man to behave married or responsible if he doesnt want to.....Let her occupy herself with things that will take her mind off this issue and stop being scared of someone snatching a man that might probably be wanting to be snatched.
Please tell your friend not to worry about her husband. Most men are looking for fun outside. There is really nothing u can do about it but ask him to use protection not to give you Stds, peace out.
ReplyDeleteMadam narrator in 2nd person. Yes na you and ur husband matter b dis. But anyways, just get ur mind PRI occupied with something else, soon u will forget it and trust me friendships like this no dey last, he will become a pest to her( which one is liking pix from2015) d girl go taya trust me.
DeleteYour friend should get a job if she has none.
DeleteSo both of them are church members and christian spoiling the name of God. Shame on both of them because the wife had no child.
ReplyDeleteMadam stop having HBP. You can do better than your horse band and the Youth Leader abi na women leader
If your friend is in coza then she should forget it, all those girls that are forming leader are there to sleep with people’s husbands, and boyfriends, they even talk about it within themselves
DeleteYou can force a horse(band) to a stream but you can't force him to drink water.
ReplyDeleteGbammmmmm
Deleteadvise your friend to let her man be. he his an adult and he should know what us appropriate or not. let her just over look the friendship BTW her hubby and the said lady as if it doesn't even exist. most men don't like to be treated / controlled like baby.
ReplyDeleteMy dear your friend is overreacting. And I guess it's because a child has not entered yet,so she's afraid of losing her husband.
DeleteLet her stop bordering her self,the friendship will soon fizzle away. It doesn't even matter if her husband is crushing on the lady or not, men knows what they want. No body can replace a wife, with or without a child. Let her relax ,very soon she will be occupied with child/ children that she wouldn't even have time to worry over nothing.
The same you women will say men are like babies yet they dont like to be controlled 😂😂😂
DeleteThe man's "brat" is elongating and the "hole" is opening . . . it is a matter of time
ReplyDeleteSmells of diabolism and can only be matched by godliness; prayers/fasting/charity
No your friend is not over reacting.
DeleteShe is not insecure, she is acting as expected
She is not wrong for asking him to cut It off.
Yes, she went too far with the ultimatum.- what if he vex choose her? Lol
His behaviour is not appropriate.
Yes he is crushing on her.
She should let him be.
I've been in a not so similar situation before. A lady was being too forward and he acted nice and all. I asked him to shut her down. He did.
But if he didn't, believe me, I was ready to have a good night sleep, cos at the end of the day, the only person you can truly control is yourself. Others are just by trust.
My point? As she has made her point, she should keep calm be happy snoop in peace and attack silently. She know her husband best and so can decide how to do this.
No your friend is not over reacting.
DeleteShe is not insecure, she is acting as expected
She is not wrong for asking him to cut It off.
Yes, she went too far with the ultimatum.- what if he vex choose her? Lol
His behaviour is not appropriate.
Yes he is crushing on her.
She should let him be.
I've been in a not so similar situation before. A lady was being too forward and he acted nice and all. I asked him to shut her down. He did.
But if he didn't, believe me, I was ready to have a good night sleep, cos at the end of the day, the only person you can truly control is yourself. Others are just by trust.
My point? As she has made her point, she should keep calm be happy snoop in peace and attack silently. She know her husband best and so can decide how to do this.
Theyre on the first stage of cheating... emotional cheating gives way to the physical. Its also difficult to call it quit if the person clicks so well with you, saying all the right things with lots of shared interests, it mostly ends in disaster.
ReplyDeleteShe should also find a chat buddy.
All this talk on top the hubby liking pics on ig,nawa o.they've not gbenshed and she's disturbing herself like this, if them come gbensh nko? Your friend needs to calm her titties.
ReplyDeleteIt's obvious he has a crush on the babe, even her at a point in her life would have had a crush on a guy.
Your friend is just being insecure.
Wtf are u saying??? Somebody's husband oh not boyfriend. I'm quite sure u ain't married, that's why u can sound so shallow about this
DeleteInteresting...same happens to you hope you will take your own advice.
DeleteYour friend is over reacting tell her to stop giving her husband headache. All men are cheat no too ways about it.
ReplyDeleteIf she like, let her give her husband an ultimatum it will not change anything about him.
Who told you all men are cheat, Abeg talk about ur husband and focus on ur Lane.... O. B. O
DeleteThe fact that the husband saved the lady's name with initials is a big red flag, but the truth is, she cannot control that man. If she blocks one way, he will find another way. Tell her to report him to God, watch war room, relax and eat barbeque chicken.
ReplyDeleteShe should not give herself hbp because of a man.
Thank you!!!just like Stella said,every woman is blessed with 6th sense,you feel funny about it then there's something fishy.don't be too pushy with your husband,before you know it the lady's name will begin to Echo through the house and causing you more headache,I don't want to sound like I always do but let it go,start ignoring and praying instead!
DeleteA friend of mine that's happily married(dey def have thier ups and down)says once in a while a friend/ex/colleague starts showing up on her husbands phone too often,shed complain for a bit making a joke out of it and watch,if its getting more often she prays about it @midnight for 3days asking God to keep the lady busy and off her husband and fiam,whatever it is will fizzle out!
God hears prayers at all hours.
DeleteStella said it all. Nothing more to advice her, her husband knows what he is doing cos it's quite obvious he has a crush on the lady already.
ReplyDeleteOnly liking of pics o, what if she actually saw evidence of a sexual act that has taken place? Thing is, a man will always be a man, the earlier u accept that they ain't saints, d better for you.
ReplyDeleteI Don’t trust any man, since i saw my husband sex chat with one smallie in nigeria.. Now my own is even worse, i dont have any moral again..
DeleteWhich men? The ones who know right
DeleteYour friend has too much time for frivolities. Advise her to plant a garden so she can spend all the extra time she has on tending her plants. Her hubby can not be tamed. She either lives with it or leave. These men who can not stay off social media or blogs are not husband materials. She chose him, and I bet she knows the man she married, so why complain now?
ReplyDeleteShe should calm down, though not easy but she just needs to give herself peace of mind before things falls apart. Her health is the most important here.
ReplyDeleteStella has said it all
ReplyDeleteMc pinky
A friend that knows too much...
ReplyDeleteYou don't comment but you want us to crack our brains and advice your friend abiiii!!! The only word I have for your friend is no marriage in heaven and a man with a wondering cock cannot be controlled. All this wahala cos he dey like picture for twitter Abi na instagram. It is well with her ohhhh!
ReplyDeleteAunty Stella the love I have for you has tripled more than anything else, your reply is the best
ReplyDeleteLmao... You wrote "been Married for a while, no kids yet and all is fine"������ yeye dey smell
ReplyDeleteInstagram slay king #followforfollow #likeforlike.... married to sister charity the monitoring spirit
ReplyDeleteWhy is She giving herself stress because of a girl, until She gives birth for her husband that marriage is not secured. I Any sharp girl can get pregnant for him.. Thats how i snatch my Hubby, i get pregnant quickly without any bride Price, we live happily, he cheats but i dont care because i cheat once in a while when im bored
ReplyDeleteYou cheat once in awhile. What if you got caught? Is getting not a sign of being desperate
DeleteI pity you cause you ain't married if he hasn't paid your bride price be dere doing sharp girl when in fact you ain't sharp
DeleteAre you serious 15:30?
DeleteSee dusty yan.
DeleteAm tired of all these chronicles of married women.
ReplyDeleteMadam may God help your friend..
And you too stop poke nosing.
Byeee.
Your friend should get herself a side boo too. Simples
ReplyDeleteTell your friend to start follwoing the lady on instagram and twitter and she should be chatting her up too. if her hubby comments on it she should comment under his. she shld post pics of herself and her hubby and tag the lady. The aim is to also make her feel uncomfortable
ReplyDeleteLovely comment. I wonder how some ladies feel free to be friends with someone's husband and not the wife in the same church..... only a woman knows a woman n vise versa... I'd your spouse isn't comfortable with something then i should cut off cos at the end it will boil down to that same wrong lane..... I pray they dissolve it sha
DeleteBest advice
DeleteLolz....
ReplyDeleteThe man has to be left alone, there are lot of things running in his mind that need side attraction...
Wooh.. I v talk my own, I may be wrong thou
It’s you poster. Your husband may just be tired of your marriage and looking for a woman outside to have kids for him and marry him. The lady probably knows this. Sorry. If he divorce you God will bring you your own man and your own kids.
ReplyDeleteJust like that???????
Delete15:37 you are mean and may you meet people like yourself.
DeleteNot everyone has patience to wait to have kids. If he wants to leave, nothing can stop him. He’s obviously making the moves now and not really caring about his wife’s feelings to do it so publicly. I know many women this has happened to. In fact my own uncle impregnated another woman and had 3 kids while my aunt adopted a child. When the man started devoting more time to the other woman and kids she carried her daughter and left the country for them. When a man knows he is not the cause of a delay in children, they will find their kids outside. Men are not loyal
DeleteGbam.
DeleteShe had time to monitor her husband phone. I can't even have high blood pleasure over a man.
ReplyDeleteMadam no man likes to be controlled. Why not stoop to conquer? Act undisturbed. From what I read, your hubby still loves you. Calm down and stop issuing ultimatums. Have a heart to heart to him then get busy. He will come around.
ReplyDeleteThe truth with most men is that they attached much importance to kids. Immediately they got married and children are not fortcomming, they start misbehaving. I really do not know what to say here because I am very sure her husband will date that girl last last.
ReplyDeleteAnd the sad part is, it is mostly the fault of the .an, if they can't have kids
DeleteKids are not the reason Men cheat,a cheat will cheat whether with kids or not,most marriages that break up have kids in it.I have seen several women who didn't have kids and their husband's stayed with them.It's not kids that make a
DeleteShe's over reacting.
ReplyDeleteYour friend have time ooo, Abeg she should not go and have Acute headache on top of husband oo..tell her to take it Easy biko life nah Jeje ok..
ReplyDeleteMadam don’t u have pastors in ur church? Take him for counseling, let a pastor speak to the two of you pls. I’m sure they’ll call the girl to order too
ReplyDeleteFirst of, for a friend, I think you know too much. 😏😏
ReplyDeleteMy advice, learn to trust your husband. If he says nothing is going on, believe him until you have proof that he's lying cos for now, you don't.
NOT ALL MEN cheat! Bye.
Shebi when I say 99% of men cheat or will cheat, y'all come and shout that I have low self esteem.
ReplyDeleteThe only ones that don't cheat are the ones that haven't been caught.
Enjoy ur cheating husbands abeg.
Eka, you are so right. It does not matter who or what the wife is. Dem de cheat well well. Even in the church. Some women or girls just make their fellow women miserable. Most men don’t even see anything wrong with this. They see it as a game.
DeleteTill you bring the survey that you have conducted and approved worldwide that 99% of men cheat, then we will listen to you. For now, go pick up your remaining 1% self esteem from the bin where you left it.
DeleteEka Joy funny you.
DeleteA lot of men don't cheat,it's the bad ones that cheat,I have loads of friends and they mostly hate cheating but recently I joined one training school another type of people and I found out a lot of women cheat,it depends on your circle and the upbringing of the people you hang around.
DeleteJust like some men believe all women are prostitutes and there are no virgin's around.
DeleteMy husband had better not try that with me. It's either your friendship with the girl or me. Well he knows me too well not to try that nonsense. I wonder where you see all guys from.
ReplyDeleteI too totally agree with Stella, pray and watch the events unfold. Just be faithful and sincere on ur own part. ... Peace.
ReplyDeleteLiar liar, you are just boasting. Just thank God he is a good man
DeletePoster, i know it's hard to ignore his misbehaviour but try and press the ignore button. Focus on your heart desire to carry your own baby because unnecessary stress will affect you one way or the other.
ReplyDeleteAlso, remember that prayers can move mountains and turn around situations that seems difficult. My dear, tell it to Jesus for He is able. Shalom
I just feel betrayed right now ... I have been completely honest with my so called hubby in terms of finances and thought the feeling was mutual. I hardly spend on myself.. trying all I can to build up savings for the family.. only to realize this man was paid above 5m and he didn’t let me know about it.. meanwhile I collected huge loan on my salary that is yet to be paid back for the family project. Just within 1 month he squandered the money... on nothing important.. Meanwhile we have not even paid the kids school fees... I feel this man can even kill me if he can do this to me.
ReplyDeleteEiyahh.. Sorry ma'am. Even with the way married women on this blog keep shouting about how to handle our finances well in marriage, you still went ahead to be honest with your husband in this 21st century.
DeleteBut why can't you enrolyour kids in Public Schools,if your Child isn't attending Corona,Greensprings,British school etc then don't waste your money on all these private school.save your money and allow the man carry out his responsibilitie. STOP MAKING MEN LAZY BY SHOULDERING RESPONSIBILITIES MEANT FOR HIM,instead help him by cutting down on expenses,like school fees,cook cheaper food with more vegetables,wear cheaper nice clothes etc that is the way a woman should assist a man not by completely taking over his job,you are n assistant don't overdo the spending.
DeleteReally!!bcos u are doing Mrs independent.he started giving to his girlfriend.mrs give urseif some brain
DeleteCalmdowm ma'am,please talk yo him asap let him tell u how he spent it,please be patient,may God help you!!
DeleteSo you marry and can not strive for better on top of one irresponsible man in the name of assisting him...wow. Madam do not worry now you know this man can not be trusted...act accordingly
DeleteUr friend is overeacting tho...take stella's advice
ReplyDeleteIf you talk from now till next year. .. he will not not change.
ReplyDeletepls give yourself rest of mind,avoid knowing who he follows or unfollow.
Ignore him, na him go tire last last.
i swear down, no man will cheat on me, i will make sure he does not have an erection for any woman except me as long as we are married.
ReplyDeleteBravo 😂💪
DeletePoster I have found out that their is something's we can't change what we then need to do is just pray about and leave the rest you will be surprised he will still turn around to bad mouth that lady.if you don't trust your hubby it is always advisable to have your savings just in case it doesn't end well but bear in mind that absence or presence of kids doesn't make a man cheat or faithful. A Cheat will always come up with an excuse.
Delete17:07 pls pray nt to jam a side piece wey sabi. One wey kno her waka proper. Hmmm
DeleteMadam spend that energy you use to snoop to upgrade yourself to levels your husband never thought possible. I used to be like you but one year I gave myself brain, worked on myself and started earning as much as hubby. Now he is afraid of the calibre of people I meet, the conferences I attend and all that and I am too busy for all that snoopy stuff. Tables have turned.
ReplyDeleteThis is what more women need to do
DeleteThis is the only way forward, only if we women know. I am also in the same place you are, hubby feels threatened and started acting stupid. He even called family meeting on me and said he would prefer a woman whose role is in her home. Can you imagine that. Now he wants a divorce cos you can't say I should not do business. I still handle my role well despite my business.the house/home has never suffered cos of my business. Manipulative fool like him.
DeleteYou are his wife just be calm.he can't have anything serious with the lady but I understand her fears cos she is Ttcing but most men can't handle polygamy so just take it easy with him and don't nag.I am dating a guy whom my married friend wanted to date for reasons I don't understand but I got to know she was making passes at him and had started dressing like me to attract my guy,then I was watching my guy too and caught him looking at her one day like that,I was angry gave my guy the silent treatment and distanced myself from the frenemy after reporting her to one if her friends and of course my guy corrected himself.The married hoe was so pained,use the silent treatment for him,most men won't change if you confront them on issues probably because of their ego.Let him know you are angry without quarrel or argument. Talk to him only when its necessary and see him chang,if he ask you what the problem is tell him there is none.my dear you will smile after sometim.
ReplyDeleteIf trulythis lady is a brethren,call your pastors attention to this matter..so he can talk to tour husband.your husband has to shut her down by himself.the pastor knows what to tell him,he will deliver himself from that mind bondage cos your hubby soul is obviously lost to that lady.pray..unfortunately, that's the only thing you can do to help him.
ReplyDeleteSo not involve Pst or in your home. You are mature enough to handle your famil matters. Stop embarrassing your husbands before pastors who are no better than them. I’m a pastors wife and friends with pastors wives, I know what I’m saying
DeletePoster, this is about you not your friend, we are not fools. Yes your husband has fallen for that girl and there is no going back.
ReplyDeleteShebi it was on this blog that we read that most of uou were saying you won’t mind if your horserings have female friends. Then where are all these replies coming from? The few of us that said we do mind, cos once there is frndship btw a man and a woman, it is just a matter of time that one falls for the other or they both fall for each other, THEY came for our heads. I hate double standards.
ReplyDeleteTo me, this is inappropriate behaviour but many people don't take such things seriously until shit hits the fan. My advice is for you to tell her to not react rashly henceforth. Since she has warned him to desist from such behaviour and he has refused to listen, allow him be because truth is you can't control another's actions. Let her cease to threaten him, just give him enough rope to hang himself. Such people only learn the hard way. Only pray that the consequences will not be something that affects her.
ReplyDeleteIf you follow Derrickjaxn on fb/social media, this is the topic he addressed today. Watch that video to get some more perspective. Goodluck
Goo to a fertility clinic and get pregnant for your husband
ReplyDeleteStella is sure right about 'the sixth sense'. Your friend is not paranoid but she may have overreacted with the ultimatum. From now on, she should hope for the best but prepare for the worst. In the meantime she should no longer discuss the issue with her hubby or anyone else for that matter. That means she has to take the issue off her mind and be at peace. To achieve this, she needs to engage in a project. Someone suggested gardening (which is not a bad idea). Other considerations include yoga, scripture study, joining a humanitarian cause, writing a professional exam etc. (Let the Holy Spirit guide her in choosing a project). But please don't indulge in cheating (it is not a good form of revenge cos you only hurt yourself more). Remember that all things work for the good of them that love God. Therefore this experience that is a stumbling block will eventually become your stepping stone. One love sis.
ReplyDeleteI had a similar experience too. In my case, my spouse wasn't stalking the person (who I will call A) in question. Rather A felt comfortable discussing emotional issues with my spouse despite that we have a good support system in my religious organisation which A could have used. A even tried going out with my spouse on Valentine's Day (like seriously?!). Spouse and I have had discussions on this issue twice and spouse has promised to cut A off. In the meantime I have promised not check spouse's phone conversations anymore (even though we both have free access to each other's phones and social media accounts). I just believe if something sinister is happening, that information will come to me on a platter of gold without me seeking for it. I really hope that that day does not come cos spouse is really such a good person. But in the end I cannot condone abuse (emotional or physical) in a relationship and marital cheating is emotional abuse.
ReplyDeleteTell her to contact Jaruuma empire... Her husband will run back to her... I don commot
ReplyDelete"My friend, my friend"....lmaooo but you can remember days and minutes. Facial expressions and emotions. "My friend, my friend".
ReplyDeleteShe has done well so far but she also needs to reach out to the girl and tell her to stop her friendship with her husband...
ReplyDeletePoster, you said you have been a follower for five years and you never comment for once. You now needs my own comment. God forbid. I no get advice for you.
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