STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CONFIDENT AS VERSUS AS COUPLE BECAUSE OF CVS
Hi Stella
I would like you to post this on your blog because i really need opinions. i know it is not a news anymore that AS+AS Genotype shouldn't marry but sometimes it just gets complicated especially when u'v gone deep into the relationship before discovering and also when the guy is close to been perfect.
i have been in a relationship for 6 years now. the relationship didn't start as perfect we had our disagreement a lot sef. we made things work, learnt from our differences and we got to a point where we understand each other. His family likes me and mine likes him too.
My mom made it clear to me that i am AS since when i was a kid before i even understood the meaning of genotype. i knew i was AS but he wasn't sure of his, his first result came out as AC and after 4 diff test it was AS. while looking for a solution we came across CVS since my guy saw this solution he just locked up he wasn't bothered anymore he doesn't see it as an issue anymore, this guy has so much faith in us that sometimes i feel guilty i am the 1 with the doubting spirit. Telling my mom or any family member is not an option because they will so not agree, it seems i am in this alone.
The thought of CVS scares me i was dealing with this when i met a guy online i asked of his genotype he said he his AA he claims he did it twice @ a point i was wondering if this is GOD testing my faith. my self & this online guy haven't met he said he will come around soon and this online guy acts funny sometimes.i don't trust him.
My 6 years guy doesn't give me any wahala o na me dey wahala d guy sef. Am i supposed to leave my 6 years relationship for some1 i barely know just because of genotype? plus i would like to ask does who have done CVS if it was worth it.
My dear this love will not be worth it when the wahala begins....please forget that six year old relationship and walk away now or both of you should go and dismember your reproductive organ to prevent child birth,then you can go on with your loving.
We have enough cases of children birthed becos some people THOUGHT they were in love...it is the woman who is always left with the sick kids whilst the man moves on with his life and goes on to even re-marry.
Just mention "marriage" and the Naija female has brain failure!
ReplyDeleteAnon ooooooo
DeleteⓂc pinky
Them no dey hear word o... What is love compared to the agony and pain u want to subject ur future unborn kids... Tueeeh
DeleteKaiii, Anon will not kill person.
DeleteNot mine. It skips and sabotages the entire relationship
Delete@Posh Hajia
DeleteYou no be woman?
If I say "mar...."
See now, her brain don fail already.
Dear Poster, the only reason your husband isn’t looking for trouble now is because he has seen you, one who is ready to compromise, he must have been looking *whispers*(men also get pressured to marry*) it would only be a matter of time before Power changes hands when kids are involved, not to speak of that money you think he has for cvs, he would give you 102 reasons as to why the kids can “manage it” while he’ll use the funds for other urgent needs.
DeleteBy then, it will be too late and you are left with the consequence! Best believe without a doubt, he would gradually lose interest in the marriage & move on while you run from pillar to post.
This love you speak of now, remember there’s really no love when there’s no peace of mind, anger & hatred becomes the order of the day.
Remember the 6yrs you’ve spent is way little compared to what’s ahead of you two should you marry/go your separate ways.
They say Abortion is a sin killing innocent babies in the name of SS genotype,who is fooling who? Why get married At first, Poster marry you heartbeat Ehen when time to cook soup reach you will Enter kitchen Alone...
DeleteStill on the AS and AS ish?
DeleteYou people won't hear!
You won't listen!
Forming long time relationship!
Love and long term relationship IS NEVER enough.
I wish una luck if una decide to marry.
Una choice!
Una life!
Let me answer you from a contemporary medicine point of view
Delete. . how comfortable are you guys financially?
How ready are you emotionally?
You do know you cannot attempt spontaneous pregnancy? So family planning is a must
Have you seen a fertility specialist?
Have you researched the procedure, the different variables, options and outcomes for yourself?
Do you trust his love?
I have personally recently seen more than 5couple undertaker he procedure and have great outcomes. So I can say it works. I am not going to say throw away your love but be ready to start off and stay on all medically advices regulations at least, till whenever you have your desired number of kids
I don’t understand the uproar. People are using medical sciense to get pregnant, get multiple birth pregnancies, choose sex etc, if you and your partner are willing to do this, why not? But first off, check your pocket and see a fertility specialist immediately!!!
@ anon 03:53, chop kiss!!! Kisssss
DeletePeople with backward myopic mind set, that are not following up on Medical Research. There is a solution but only for the Strong-minded. People will tell you leave the 6year relationship like it's so easy to pick up a new one. @ poster read anon 3:53 comment, medical research has gone far beyond what we think now, but if your mind and finances can't take it then don't go into it...Period!
I KNOW SOME ONE WHO HAS DONE IT. THERE PARENTS REFUSED SO THEY CUDNT GET MARRIED THE GUY GOT HER PREGNANT THROUGH SOME KIND PROCEDURES LIKE THAT IN THE ABROAD. THE BABY CAME OUT AS AS THEY GOT MARRIED AND ARE HAPPY. THEY WILL SONN KNACK AOTHER ONE SHA. ALL IN ALL THE PROCEDURE IS EXPENSIVE SO MONEY MUST BE READY ON GROUND
DeleteBy the time this guy begin pay guitar with ya tohtoh and you will be screaming "harder, harder, release everything inside bla bla bla . . . " you no go remember or shout any CVS or CMS . . . it is only after ya tummy don full you will write us to ask if you should terminate or flush it out. You go become terminator and cleaner in one swoop
ReplyDeleteAnon, she need your advice either to continue with the guy of 6 years or not.
Delete@Cutest pat
DeleteSee eh, e get the kin advice wey you dey give people like that.
No matter wetin you tell am, she go marry the guy.
Na to point out the consequences sure pass.
The decision to marry or not is the ladies'
To have sex or not is the ladies' decision
To kill a baby in the womb or not is the ladies' decision
If you get pregnant, you go born am o
ReplyDeleteAnd if you born am, you no go suffocate any child o
Just know it now!
Anon who do you like this? Lmao
DeleteAbeg, tell am.
DeleteSo if you detect through CVS (assuming you have the money) that the child is SS, you kill am; no be so?
ReplyDeleteAnd you think that is not abortion; murder? And you think that God will be happy with you; he said he hates "hands that shed innocent blood" (google it).
Poster please please and please just forget the six years old relationship and move on
ReplyDeleteI know of someone who claimed they will go for cvs and so on, now they have 3kids who are ss. It's not been easy for them at all, they are planing to go for bone marrow something, I can't really explain and our prayers now is for the kids to come back alive. Even with all their wealth, they don't have peace, the love they claimed they had, that made them deaf to advice is now dead.
Please poster I beg you in God's name to quit that relationship, it's not as easy as you think o.
U have said my mind. SS no get business with love o! By the time that ss kid is born, your marriage will be filled with regrets.
DeleteEhya... I left my relationship of 6months too cos of this genotype ish. We are both AS and I don't wanna take chances abeg. I really don't know what to tell you now cos it seems you are so in love with him. Unlike me. i wasn't really in love with my ex tho. This genotype something ehnnn... *sips zobo*
ReplyDeleteIf that ya ex be billionaire, lives abroad, make you talk true, you for abandon am?
DeleteGood decision you made. You did well.
DeleteAnon 15:22, truth be told i wont abandone him if he were to be a billionaire. I will stay and reconsider and even love him more. But as he doesn't live in d abroad and he is not a billionaire, I nor fit continue na. After all, it's better to cry in a mansion than in a "face me I slap you" apartment. I cannot use my two korokoro eyes and bring a child an innocent child to this world to suffer for my sins all in d name of love. biko.
DeleteThanks jare @TJ
@Modella
Deletegood you came clean
But na there we naija girls wahala dey start
Una go go marry billionaire cobra come dey suffer in
silence and write one sided chronicles for pity parties.
Modella was that why u made ur MD sack that innocent dude?
DeleteMagnificent respond I saw up there on red. Stella your reply was apt and direct. Do you say love? When it is obvious of what the result will be. My dear when it starts happening, you will understand that thing you are calling love now will travel far away and his opponent hate and sorrow will show up. Please just take a walk.
ReplyDeleteDon't ever make the mistake to marry out of sympathy. Don't let your emotion fool you please....
Any love you have now that will cause an innocent child to suffer tomorrow, isnt love again but being selfish and wicked.
ReplyDeleteSo I married my husband as a virgin despit our genotypes because I knew about CVS.
ReplyDelete1st child - AS (CVS @ LUTH, Idi Araba).
2nd CHILD - AA (CVS @ High Rocks Fetal Medicine, Lekki).
Done with child-bearing unless God does otherwise.
- My fiance then now husband is one in a million husband. He gives me so much peace so why will I leave him because of genotype.
- I didn't want to give birth to an SS child hence I needed to carry out the test.
- I believed God could give me healthy children.
Bottom line, decide on what you want and go for it.
DO NOT MARRY AN AS GUY WITHOUT CARRYING OUT THE TEST DURING PREGNANCY.
IVF with PGD is an option.
Those that have aborted severally will still come here an discredit CVS.
That is worked for you doesn't mean it will work for her.
Delete@ Poster prevention is always better than cure.
Too correct woman of faith. Thanks a million for such kind advise.
DeletePoster, listen to this person to ur own detriment, u might not be lucky as she is.
Delete@Minnie Rexpect, and for your mind, you think you've adviced the OP abi? Poster Let the still small voice within you guide you.
DeleteMadam abeg how many ss did u abort? U don tell the story now e dey swt but im sure u skipped the part of aborting some b4 getn the AS and AA.
DeleteTrue @ decide what you want and for it. I know two couples who have gone that route and it worked for them. If it doesnt sit down well with you, then leave it as is.
DeleteSome people are soooo shallow minded man! As, SS, AA..... what happened to faith, commitment, sense.
DeleteNot saying act careless or anything and I know havin an SS child will be difficult but all these comment is an indirect insult to those with SS genotype and their parents.
Maybe people should start checking genotype before starting a relationship. Once you’ve come this far (poster) genotype should not be the deciding factor.
It can go either way - marry AA man / woman and still have a tragic pregnancy.
People need to be more sensitive especially when they respond to a chronicle.
My babe is as and I am AA, you need stay with her for 5mins when she has pain and u will never think of risking it. Forget love when it comes to genotype. The stress doesn't worth it.
DeleteThanks a lot for this i really appreciate you sharing ur experience and i apologize on behalf of bad comments
DeletePoater, , its a No No jare
ReplyDeleteⓂc pinky
PGS and PGD with IVF
ReplyDeleteIs it free? Plus ivf is a gamble..nothing is guaranteed.
DeleteThey will plan it? Everything is life is a gamble, nothing is guaranteed, even life itself!
DeletePeople use IvF for all sorts of reasons, even to have a male child so yes, she can do it. She’s not entering the marriage carelessly but it’s even better cos she knows the issues and can plan for it.. people enter with the expectation of natural pregnancy and still have to find money for ivf later on... nothing is guaranteed 🤷🏽♀️
Pls don't go into any wahala with your two eyes opened, love won't be able to help you when the major crisis starts ooo. Love will disappear instantly and as for the CVS, how sure are you about it, pls don't go looking for trouble wey dey sleep.
ReplyDeleteGod help you
hi dear i have done CVS before and i am currently pregnant and booked to do another one on 29th of august at st thomas hospital london. I and my hubby are both AS and once we do it and the baby is SS , we terminate it immediately. we have one healthy AA now so just looking for one more child and thats it. you know CVS is free here. as for the pain, it only last for 1 minute that the needle goes in and thats it, and you take things easy for few days to avoid miscarriage. you can pm me for more details. if you can bear the stress of pregnancy and termination, you can go ahead
ReplyDeleteSee as women dey talk "termination" as if na orange them dey shoot commot?
DeleteNa baby o.
Free or not, you go pay for taking lives!
"He who has ears, let him hear."
DeleteThanks a lot i appreciate you
DeletePlease what is CVS house?I need to know.
ReplyDeleteChorionic villi sampling
DeleteChorionic Villi sampling
DeleteThey check the chorion; which bears the genetic material of the fetus
and if there is genetic abnormality like sickle cell disease, they will
kill the baby.
So it ends in abortions and sorrows.
@Anon 😂😁😂😁😂😁
DeleteAnd what is so hilarious here? @Cutest Pat
DeleteLol. This anon no get joy at all. 😂
DeleteMy dear leave that relationship please 4 ur sake and it child's sake. I have a close frd her daughter is ss, wats she's going through nau ehn even d child, dey re always in d hospital d girl is so sharp but we don't even knw if u can survive. D pains dat child goes through almost everynite is out of dis world, d mother doesn't sleep most nite d father nau sleeps in d parlor jus so he won't be disturbed,she hardly goes 2 her shop. No love is worth it please
ReplyDeleteNo be both of them born am? Why should the father be sleeping while the woman keeps sleepless nights???
DeleteLazy Nigerian fathers.
If it is fucku fucku, they are ever ready. Carry responsibility na, they will be doing like someone that has epilepsy. Mtsheeew.
Man is not to be trusted.
ReplyDeleteAnd when I say man, I mean both men and women.
I am an AS and can only take this risk with any man if I am so so rich and can easily fix any cost to the entire procedure of birthing non-SS kids.
So many people got married on such notes and once the crisis set in, the love grew wings.
You'll get several opinions here, but above all, you'd be the one to wear the shoes. Choose wisely
This AS genotype tho, you'll meet someone and will have to have back until you get to know the genotype.
Good help me oo and bring only AA dudes my way
Husband and I are both As, ThankGod for cvs @luth we have 3kids free of sickle cell.
ReplyDeleteAnd how many did you murder in the process of sampling and birthing those?
Delete@ Jesus Christ 17:00.
DeleteThat is not your business.
Face your own life or what exists as is.
That commentator is facing hers.
@18:12
DeleteYou see as you easily called "Jesus Christ?" Good.
Let's get into his word:
Matthew 26:52 "Put away your sword," Jesus told him. "Those who use the sword will die by the sword.
Also see: Genesis 9:6, Prov. 6:16-17
If you like, use pills, curettage or anything you like to kill, IF YOU DO NOT REPENT, the same weapon
will be used to kill you before your time.
Anony 17:00 asked a very valid question.
DeleteCVS and ivf with PGD are all gamble. Poster, I know it's a dicey situation considering the years invested in the relationship but I will advice you quit.
ReplyDeleteMedicine has come a long way. Two AS people can marry and have children these days. IVF is always an option. With IVF you can not only select the gender but also you get to know the genotype beforehand.
ReplyDeleteWait until your boyfriend find a sharp AA chic that he likes, women are forever carrying load that nobody begged them to all for man.da!
ReplyDeleteMy observation from time.
Delete6years relationship does not guarantee a successful marriage even if both of you are AA sef. Why even use a child’s life to play? Nigerian men hardly know how to be emotionally supportive, it’s better to just carry the cross you cannot avoid than to carry one that you could have prevented. You will be surprised how love will turn to hatred.
ReplyDeleteKids grow and leave and at the end it's going to be both of you left till death do you part.
ReplyDeleteOn that notperfect, then it's left to you to decide what's more important.
Bear in mind tho, raising an SS kid is a trial in patience and faith and can put enormous strain on the lives of the couple.
It's not always bad news tho,but truth is, you're never at ease.
Everything else is a gamble of sorts so be quite circumspect in your self debate and may God lead you
poster marry ur love biko thats if u have the cash and the strength to go through the trauma even if u don't have u can save up. CVS is around 250-300k, alot is happening now a days in marriages than for you to loose your happiness all in the name of genotype. i wish you the best
ReplyDeleteIt is your choice , life can be funny and tricky . You can marry someone who is AA but does that guarantee you happiness, peace and joy. Follow your heart i know someone who went ahead and she is doing just fine with two healthy children .....
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