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AMERICAN GREEN CARD BROUHAHA
Hi Stella, please I need your red pen. My mum lives in the states, she filed papers so I can get a green card and come join her, that was before I got married...I got married 3 years ago, now the papers she filed and my green card is ready..
Hi Stella, please I need your red pen. My mum lives in the states, she filed papers so I can get a green card and come join her, that was before I got married...I got married 3 years ago, now the papers she filed and my green card is ready..
I had to leave my husband and child in Nigeria, traveled to the states for 6 months to go get my green card..it took three weeks for my green card to be mailed to me, surprisingly after that I got a nice job..but after some months, I had to resign and come back to my family in Nigeria.
my husband and I are confused about relocating because he doesn’t wanna move to America cos of his growing businesses we believe so much in and I wish I can move there cos I know how independent I became with my job over there...I graduated in Nigeria many years ago and I haven’t been able to get any jobs, even business is really hard but I was in the us for a few months and I was working and earning. Having a green card is like a dream come through for most people and a great opportunity not just for me but for my children.
America isn’t heaven, it’s not easy there either but it’s far better than Nigeria..it’s easier for me to achieve my dreams..
Some times I feel like abandoning the green card and just stay in Nigeria and manage, do business and see what the future holds, my hubby also says he doesn’t want to be selfish and doesn’t want me to blame him in future, he says if I really wanna move I can go and he can come visit us every other month, I wldnt be able to come visit Nigeria anytime I like becos I will be working and America has laws about leaving for green card holders..but still he says he doesn’t want a long a distance marriage and to be honest I don’t want that too..
Nigeria is just getting harder by the day, do u think letting this opportunity go is a mistake? Please share if you have been in such a situation before..
*Hmmmmm i cannot say anything concerning this cos i havent been in this situation but i would advice that you take only a move that makes you feel at peace within yourself....After all na only green paper e be!
If your husband gives you the go ahead then it's ok. You would be doing your family a whole lot of good. Best wishes.
ReplyDeleteCan’t he you some time to go back and get a job, this time with your kids, people do long distant marriage and it still works so what are you scared of, I will chose anything that gives me better opportunity for my kids cus that’s paramount.
DeleteYou can be coming home to check on your hubby and he can be doing same, we don’t know how 2019 will be even though we hope for the best, don’t give your all for your man before you regret it like that woman in acrimony
It's like this poster wants to stay in Nigeria and be "dragging me" with the likes of chikito, queen and other anonymous on this blog.
DeletePlease for "MY" sake accept the offer for a chance to a good life not just for you but that of your family and kids future.
If you sacrifice that opportunity for that marriage, bet me, you will suffer yet in the future!!!!
DeleteYou will so regret it...
If you say you have a green card, I believe you but this your situation sounds fishy. I feel you should be careful because you can’t take your children as they just filed for you, you can’t be filing for someone else.
DeleteAmerica is not bed of roses especially for a new comer so I’d advise that you save money first before coming.
cant you both go? gfree nigeria and free the bussiness. he can get a greencard from you abi? no problem. move to america and be happy
DeleteThis one is hard. With the way Nigeria is now especially with Buhari 2019 anybody who can run should run.
ReplyDeletePoster as far as u r leaving with ur kids pack ur load immediately n leave n let ur hubby come c u as much as he can. A man DAT will stay will stay whether far or near n a man DAT will leave, will leave. Do it 4 ur peace of mind n d future of ur family in case DAT ur Hubby's biz doesn't work de will be another option for d family to fall back on. Also try n file for his green card while u r de
DeletePls relocate with your son, your hubby can come to visit you from time to time. Instead of you searching for job in Nigeria. And you can file for the green card for him later. God bless you
DeleteMy dear if na this men they will make you see reasons why they should go. My dear you better go with your children any man tht wants to stay will stay abeg forget distance it's easy though. Like me my husband is in far away China and i'm here in Nigeria with our son managing our Business. With time you guys can be together.
Deleteif u leave your husband in Nigeria, say good bye to your marriage. It's not worth it to be rich and single. Ask our celebrities to tell u as e be. Family comes first
DeleteAh madam this 1 strong gan
ReplyDeleteif i'm in ur shoe,i will take my child along to america because his future is assured there
if it wia to be a man that got the opportunity,the won't let it slip.
madam wisdom is needed here.
also put it in prayer
I’m begging you please relocate. Your husband can come from time to time since his unbiblical coed is buried in Nigeria. But I’m also sure that if you go, you will be responsible for his enjoyment in Nigeria while you slave for extra hours. But that is another tori for another day.
ReplyDeleteWhen I tell people to relocate it’s not because of them but for their kids. Nigeria isn’t going to get better. Take it from me. Even the politicians have their wealth and kids stashed in foreign countries. Relocate so that your children can have access to a level playing field. Put your kids first and relocate. If you don’t you’ll regret it in five years time. Mark my words. Nigeria is not a family friendly environment.
If I were u I will take this anonymous advice
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DeleteSome women sef, if na man he won't even think twice....madam better be logical and keep emotions aside for now
DeleteI didn’t even read it and I said it up there. You will so regret it! Allow that man to be maniipulating emotionally with words like’ I don’t want it to be like bla bla bla’ your children will so hate you for it
DeleteDO NOT LEAVE YOUR MARRIAGE AND KIDS FOR PEANUTS. Pray that your husband has a change of mind about the family moving there or else, stay with them in Nigeria. You do not know the value of what you have until you lose it. If you do not have that husband and those kids you will age in days even with your green card.
ReplyDeleteIf you take this advice madam you are on your own. The country is nosediving and nothing is working. If you think your husband will leave you and marry another woman, believe me you will see a guy to msrry you as time goes on.
DeleteWhat rubbish is this one spewing? She will age without a husband and kids because to low esteem, underachiever like you marriage is a woman’s greatest achievement...rubbish
DeleteThem don come. Awon Ruth aboko ku, to ru ori oko d'orun...... mtcheeww 🙄. Oloshi, shebi marriage is your biggest achievement! Don't listen to this one o, poster. Na their type dey go gbensh outside take feed husband .
DeleteI feel you should stay behind with your husband if he providing and treating you well. Cos already he complaining of the long distance thing. Anywhere I can't tell the trust n relationship you guys have cos that will go a long way determining the advice. If he treating you well n you are not lacking in anyway stay put.
ReplyDeletePoster weigh your options,weigh your marriage, does it worth it? If you relocate and leave your husband in Nigeria will that make you happy? Hope you will not complain when he decides to marry second wife. Do whatever I'll make you happy.
ReplyDelete3 is too much and 2 is too small. Now you have husband and kids, you want America?
ReplyDeleteIf you move to America, "side vultures" will devour your husband and turn your kids into slaves.
If there is a trusted hand to run your business while you all go, that would have been better.
But in that case, to convert that green card to citizenship and file for your husband and kids, you need to be in America for 6 months in every year for five years.
Sit your husband down and count the cost. Above all, pray -God can do all things.
Pray and seek God's face to support any of the decision you take ,make sure you hear from God before you decide but I believe with God your husband can have a change of mind because with the situation of the country now one should not let such opportunity pas one by.Goodluck
DeleteA man that wants to be taken by side vultures, as you call them, will still be taken. It’s becaue you’re getting it on a platter, that’s why you aren’t valuing it. The women (like the one that wrote her series sometime ago on this blog) who go to America to hustle it out for the card, even fake divorce and marry to get it, not to mention others who have to take school route, and other opportunities because they understand the needs to provide that opportunity for their children’s future... but not you! You think staying back will make the man love you more, you think that’s a sacrifice for your home, come back in 5 years time and tel me how it went down
Deleteyou have an option that can help you hold your green card for two year while u decide On moving or staying.read up I131 or travel document.
ReplyDeleteYou have to file it while in the states.it will allow you to be out for maximum of two years while your GC will be preserved.
Best of luck
In Trumps America i131 is a huge gamble.
DeleteI believe u going might break this marriage, considering the fact that u both don't like long distance relationships. Do what makes us happy, but don't be selfish.
ReplyDeleteI smell a rat here. How did your mother file for a green card when you are above 18 and married? It is only possible for folks who are under 18 and single.
ReplyDeleteCheck well and be sure that your mom and co did not play any ojoro. If you build your immigration on falsehood, it is a matter of time before the jailer comes calling.
It is very possible to file for someone that is above 18 but it only takes a longer time to come through.i know a couple of people one is married with kids and he is above 30.he was filed for by the mother.it came through after a very long time.
Deleteshe wasn't married wen her mum filed for her
Delete@Anonymous 15:37
DeleteKindly go to US immigration website and get your facts.
Anon 15:37 is right. You can file for older than21. It only takes longer.
DeletePls ur hand should say one thing so dat u can decide... Which one is he doesn't want long distance relationship but can be visiting u every month. Poster my advice for u is MOVE. If not for anything,move bcos of ur children
ReplyDelete*husband
ReplyDeleteOf course most girls here will tell you to leave your "selfish" husband and kids and go Yankee. But ask yourself these question:
ReplyDeleteDo I love them?
Is he loving and committed to us?
If I leave in pursuit of "this dream" and lose them, how will I feel?
If your mother did same to you, left you with your dad as a kid, will you
consider her same way today?
How genuine is this "green card" seeing that you were not your mother's dependent per say
what strings did they pull and what compromises were made to secure a green card?
Please relocate. If marriage wan kpai make e kpai.
DeleteSo far u are relocating with it kids, please do .
Just don't be foolish enough to send him all your life savings.
Btw, who said d marriage can't kpai even if u were here with him?.
If it was a male writing this, and the wife told him that y'all would have told him she is wicked.
Stella post oo
If your husband is a loyal, faithful man stay here with him. However if he is a cheating philanderer, that will likely cheat on u again,leave him and travel cos anytime he cheats or betrays u,you will regret not leaving him and relocating..
ReplyDeleteJust yesterday my sis hubby told her to choose between her marriage and career now this.haaa!!!
ReplyDeleteWell i've never been team relocating abroad..I prefer going for vacations and enjoying my money in Naija so i won't be in a best place to advice you.
Your hubby seems to be in my team also but "the BUT " i saw there is that he doesn't want a long distance marriage.Now this is serious!!
I've heard several times that marriage requires a lot of sacrifice and compromise so i believe it plays out in situations like this.
He doesn't want to give up all he's toiled for and you don't want to give up the American dream so its a bit of power tussle.
Now ask yourself what you want more, your marriage or your "American Dream" if you can honestly answer this then you have no reason to be confused.
Story story.
DeleteI hope after reading dv stories here u didn't advise her to quit?.
If she quits na dv and insults u go hear next
This woman does not have money of any kind. The business is for her husband and her making the point of independence might mean that the money is not at her disposal. So please do not come here and make comparisons that are apples and oranges.
DeleteFrom painful experience of people around me, I’ll say please explore the green card option. The ones saying don’t go for your marriage won’t tell you that being around 24/7 does not guarantee a faithful husband. It also won’t guarantee that your marriage will be happy. My do we African women believe in babysitting a man who will always still do what he feels like.
ReplyDeletePlan your relocation in such a way that you have visitation time in between. My girlfriend stayed in Nigeria while I left. Today she’s so full of regret and what ifs. The job her husband had is now nothing after inflation kicked in with four kids. Now she’s looking for loans to sponsor her first kid to college in the same Canada she rejected for family unity. Everyday it’s fight for money with she and her husband. He’s cheating on her with different small children and shame won’t let her leave because it would highlight years folly in her earlier decision.
I left and today my family members are with me and doing modestly fine! It was so rough in the beginning but it got better with time. Understanding and prayers kept us going. My kids are getting quality education and healthcare while my husband is in medical school and I’m an educator. No fear of strikes, Sars, power outage, corruption etc. People used to mock us but now they’re asking us to show them the way. I look at their big houses in Nigeria looking old and thank God for the grace to take that shaky step. I’m not saying some are not flourishing but they are fewer than those who are struggling to eat.
I will advise you to pray and take that bold step. It’s the end that truly matters.
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DeleteMadam Pls go to America with your kids come visit your husband or he comes around, men are the most inconsistent being on planet they can change anytime pls don't mortgage your future for any man hence you might regret it
ReplyDeletePoster my own opinion relocate but for a period of time. It could be 10 years and relocate with your kids. Have a plan with the backing of your hubby. That way you can file for your kids too and they can start school and get settled there. Your hubby can be coming around to visit. And pls save enough for your coming back to establish in Nigeria. Who knows maybe in 10years time Nigeria can be better.
ReplyDeleteBy that time your kids are grown, they have the green card and are almost entering college. You can leave them with your mother while you come back to Nigeria. That citizenship is very important for your kids. It's gives them better opportunities. They can decide to remain in America or come back to Nigeria. Let them have that option.
I know someone whose mother won visa lottery in 1998. She took all her kids and her husband. Now that they are all grown and finished university. She and are husband are back in Nigeria and doing business. Even their first born is back here too now as her hubby is based here. And their 3rd born too is back working in Shell. The koko they all have their passports now and got quality education. If they decide to come back fine, if they don't fine. They have their passport and they have the choice to live in either place.
If your husband were to be in your shoes , he would be in America by now , think ma'am
ReplyDeleteHome is where the heart is madam,ur heart is telling you rightnow,nobody else's advice is best for you
ReplyDeleteLet your children be a bit older before you take them, if they go too early in life, America will mess up their thinking and turn them to homosexual/lesbian. The people living there will never tell you this, that is the downside to living abroad. America is not heaven o !
ReplyDeleteSee this ode !! No be only homo and lesbo!! Fool
DeleteIn other words, everyone there is gay abi? Please.
DeleteSays the person who does not have children abroad. meanwhile the gay people in Nigeria are what?
DeleteWas in similar situation,did distance marriage for 3yrs before hubby's bizness started going downhill in abj,in. these 3yrs we both visited as much as we could, hubby has lived here for about 21mths, life is better here for us..everytime him go dey say I for don enter here since o.like u know it is not easy.file for them with your green card but if your mum filed for u as single,get a new marriage certificate with a date later than green card.I filed with my green card.it works.took them 18mths to give him a green.Goodluck.
ReplyDeleteIt felt like I wrote this,the only difference is my husband's biz is in Lagos and he still operates it from here.He never stops whining about how he should have been here earlier than when he got here. Poster,do exactly what this anonymous said and within 5 years you will become a citizen (after filing though) and then you can both decide to go back to Nigeria if he still doesn't like it here but atleast you must have secured your stay in the US as a citizen and decide to travel back and forth at will.
DeleteThis one na serious matter
ReplyDeleteMadam i will choose the greencard if i were you for your children future, your husband can be visiting same as you. Just pray about it.
ReplyDeleteYou have Green card to work in America and you are here Asking uestion, My dear when ya hubby did not feel your presence with his kids for some months he will Surely have a change of mind and also relocate..
ReplyDeleteTravel your travel, don’t let the green card waste....
ReplyDeleteU feel having sex with your husband everyday will keep him from cheating on you.stay in Nigeria.
ReplyDeleteLol...joke of the century
DeleteThe fact here is if your husband is trustworthy,faithful and GODFEARING he would ask you to go while he holds on here there should be no fears or worries of distance if both of you have the aforementioned qualities,the main thing here is listen to your heart,seek God,do what gives you peace,I hope you don't regret your decisions later,if I were you n.a. abroad things,no mincing words,your only fear here is leaving your husband,once again if he's faithful and you sure,no worries,I have a feeling already that you might regret it if you decide to stay back here,goodlucknin your decisions
ReplyDeleteMadam, please bette relocate and secure your future and your children's own.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm...this ish us somehow abeg..think well
ReplyDeleteⓂc pinky
You choosing GC is for the benefit of the whole family. Abeg don't let this opportunity pass your by and no mind Stella
ReplyDeleteAmerica straight madam.
ReplyDeleteExplore business options, since your husband is a businessman, what business can you do for yourself whilst in and out of Nigeria, everything should not just be about work. Beg husband to borrow you money, go on holiday and explore. Nigerians are creative and industrious, use your GC well.
ReplyDeleteMadam listen to the quiet voice and forget about this market noise. STAY WITH YOUR FAMILY. Grow with your husband, don't tear your family apart unless you don't value them, America is not heaven. I pray you don't remember this comment and the likes.
ReplyDeleteDon’t listen to Don!! Be a strong woman, make the move abroad abd your husband will thank you later.
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ReplyDeleteAbeg mother's also do omugwo in America. My mother just finished one and she's on her way to the next child's house.
DeleteIts always one of you that will talk this junk. Yet it is our men that are abroad with their wives in Naija. Marriage is beautiful but if you are not realistic, you will suffer and that is the hard truth. People do not criticize women who want to be housewives, we just ask women to shore up! If you are sitting at home better have all bases covered as possible. The only people who lose out if things dont go as planned is women and children. The men are always ok. Las las them fit abandon ship.
DeleteMadam pls go...this was d same mistake my dad made, my useless Uncle advised my dad not to leave us and come back to Nigeria....at d end of d day he died n left us and his kids dey go school for obodo oyibo....
ReplyDeleteAm his personal karma...
Reading these comments brought tears to me and I am very emotional This is exactly the journey of my marriage for 14 years now. God has been faithful. BV,It is not going to be easy but take a bold step . Both you and hubby must be highly disciplined and sacrificial to have a long distant relationship. But I think you will be grateful in the next few years if you relocate,provided you are in agreement with hubby.
ReplyDeleteSame old mistake our parents made and they are regretting it today, seeing as they were quite comfortable they felt relocating to start off with minimum wage jobs was too low for them. All said and done they regretfully regret that decision not to leave when they had the opportunity to. I won't pass on this privilege you have for the kids sake and their future. I want them to get the best of both worlds. You both can decide to relocate back or spend every other month here, it's the sacrifice you have to make for them pls do it. It will benefit the whole family in the end
ReplyDeleteHusband didn't give you go ahead that is a why he still said he isn't comfortable with distance marriage. I bet if he was in your shoes(sides where switched) he would quickly talk you into staying back & you visiting, now he is being selfish why acting like he isn't. Who is he deceiving? I feel you can make your decision to go & always visit Nigeria on leave holidays. If you remain in Nigeria you might never get to achieve your dream,this naija wey work no dey, you will just be that wife that keeps depending on her husband. Another good thing about going to the US is that your kids gets a chance at quality education,diverse opportunity they wouldn't have had if they were brought up in Nigeria, so think about your child.
ReplyDeleteLook if you think he will start cheating on you when you leave then better forget that thought cos he's still going to cheat if he is the type whether or not you are living apart. Good luck
Take the bold step go with your children. Life is a lot better there as long as you are not lazy
ReplyDeleteThis chronicle reminds me of myself . 20 years ago. I had all the opportunity to relocate with the children. My husband was not keen. A die hard believer in Nigeria. His business was upwardly mobile. He didn't want long distance marriage. I listened to him. Today I so regret it. If he can today give me 5k for housekeeping in a month, he has tried. I blamed him for a while but afterwards I stopped blaming him. I blamed myself. My daughter has been denied a visa 3 times. To a country where she would have ordinarily by now been a citizen. I have no one to blame but myself. We pray. God answers. Then we throw the answer away. The marriage I stayed back for is nothing to write home about today. What is the use of a marriage where all you try to solve everytime are financial problems. I should have taken my decision then. My entire family live in the United States.Theyve been there for over 20 years now. I'm the only one here in Nigeria. My husband wasn't supportive of moving then. He said if I like, I can go but he won't move. Exactly what posters husband is saying now. Let me advise you correctly. Move. Then encourage your husband to be investing his profits in the U.S which is a more stable economy.Give your children a lifelong opportunity. Sometimes men cannot see far. Think of the long term benefits- not the short term. Your staying in Nigeria doesn't guarantee a happy marriage. My advice...
ReplyDeleteJust my 2cents.
ReplyDelete25 years ago, my mother was in this same situation she listned to her husband and stayed while her friend left. Now guess what,
Now all her friends kids are doing extremely well, while we stayed in Nigeria with little or no future. Hardly get a good job despite having masters degree.
I finally found myself in America. Now a nurse practitioner. Let me be honest,the journey wouldn't be easy at first but it is worth it.
There is no future for those your kids if they stay in Nigeria.
Secondly, wasn't it couple of days a BV wrote about her husband going abroad for contract marriage. If your husband had this opportunity, he woiwo have bought his ticket before your opinion. African men are super selfish. If he wasn't, he would consider your kids future.
I keep telling mom's in your shoe, do this for your kids future and not your husband. Tomorrow with that man is not a guarantee, but your kids are your compensation.
Leave to America and forget that man's ego. Your kids would be grateful to you in the future.
Nb:- American isn't easy, but the step is worth it.
If my mom took this step, I wouldn't have passed through so much hardship.
However I'm grateful cos now I make $180k a year and a home I bought.
I have to send my story to Stella someday to encourage alot of Nigerian women.
The difference between a man and woman is so evident here.A man with his logical straight forward thinking would have up and left but women their thinking Is always laced with emotions. That's why at the end of the day, women are always short changed. This love you are feeling will fade after a while, I had a family member that had the opportunity of going to the abroad when she was younger but stayed back because of the same reasons you stated, she has grown much older and she is full of regrets. Girl you better use your head.
ReplyDeleteWomen are only logical when a man has dealt with them. before that, we lose our brains and think with our toes, while men use their brains and think on their toes.
DeleteDear Poster,
ReplyDeleteThe residency requirements for green card is not for ever. I believe you need to live at least 6 months of the year in the us. Pray and sit with him to go through it on their website. Let him also understand that after 5 years you are eligible to file your citizenship including him. It used to come out within a few months but DonT has extended to a year plus with his anti immigrant policies.
It’s not good to burn your bridge for this trip especially a bridge like your spouse. If citizenship is your goal, try to get a flexible job or online face to face combo school to retrain within the 5 years. People live here 2 months and Nigeria 2 months alternating the months to get 6 months residency requirements. Just keep adequate records. Maybe if he recognizes that it’s even temporary he may have a change of heart after all people leave their spouses to study in other countries and even here, some couples live in different states. Nigeria is just the size of Texas so if your job requires a temporary move to New Jersey or Seattle, unless you keep moving everyone with you, you will pick a location to settle and ultimately look for an opportunity there when it arises. From Chicago to Los Angeles is almost the same 6 hours as going to Europe from there. However, a green card (the card isn’t even green) is not in my opinion worth breaking your home and if it’s a good marriage for. America is a very lonely country with not a lot of old friends and relatives and you can’t press the next door neighbor’s bell to gist or collect knorr cubes. I know many 40 and 50 something’s here wishing they hadn’t left, thinking they had a better chance of reducing their loneliness in Nigeria. It’s a very lonely country. London is different as it can sometimes feel like Lagos because it’s just 6 hours and many have a cousin or sibling nearby. At the end of all the advice and prayer follow your heart but pray so you don’t regret later. Explain the duration to him though.The card is a transit card towards citizenship for those interested. Goodlluck!
I completely disagree on the loneliness aspect. One will be lonely if you don’t socialize! You’ll Find like minded people to socialize with. I live in America and yes we do like our privacy. Privacy does not equate loneliness. Poster if you miss this opportunity you will regret it. I repeat, if you miss this opportunity, you will regret it. You can find temporary jobs working with temp agencies so it’ll give you flexibility to travel. Your kids future is very important. Your husband is super selfish. As a woman it’s important to have your own money. Maybe hubby feels threatened who knows. Good luck.
DeleteI forgot to add that once you all get passports, the residency requirements is no longer there and you can be back to living and traveling together.
ReplyDeletePoster, something is not adding up. On second thought, your mom could not have filed for you beyond a certain age. I’m beginning to doubt some of these posts. There are age restrictions on a parent filing for a child. I’m sorry if yours is a true situation but e get as e be!
ReplyDeleteNo mind her oh!!!
DeleteStup1d, 1diot girl & ungrateful child. See how she's saying she will throw away GC just for husband, cheap marriage to a man who can't give het any "assurance" other than claiming to be "her husband in nigeria"
Ndi ara !!!
After all according to stella, toilet paper, newspaper & green card r all the same papers..oh.
She will throway the GC & stay behind in naija, be begging for crayfish, phone card, awouf money for herself & family in Nigeria.
For this type of a child, I'll rather adopt a dog or cat!!!
Useless child who can't make good decisions for life now. Choosing a man/husband over her economic stability & financial security, physical welfare & better future.
There are no age restrictions. There are marital restrictions. If you are a green card holder and your child is married (even after you have filed the green card) it automatically removes them from the process. If you are a citizen, it puts them in this long queue. However there are no age restrictions...yet!
DeleteAnon@us 4:55 my mum filed since I was 14years old...I stated that I wasn’t married when she did..now m 20smthing
ReplyDeleteSo what’s your plan now ???
DeleteWhen I relocated to the USA a few years ago. I was heavily in debt when I left Nigeria. I am now debt free and
ReplyDeleteIn the process of paying cash for a house.
Back home I could barely afford to pay rent. You would badly regret it , if you do not take this opportunity. Your decisions should be ALWAYS about your kids and their future.
Poster, you are a GC holder. Enter the US every 6 months. The guys at border patrol will hassle you but tell them you have to do the back and forth until your children, spouse can join you in America. This will just mean you can not file citizenship for sometime. DO NOT GIVE UP YOUR GREENCARD. Every sensible married couple will make sure you do not put all eggs in one basket i.e. both spouses are working, there are options for the children to the best of your ability. Long distance marriage is tough but hunger and lack of fulfillment is tougher.
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