How does one get s depressed to the point of wanting to end their lives?Have you ever been depressed?or you know someone who was?How did they overcome it?How does one recognise depression before it gets really bad?
In what ways can one help a depressed person?
Like i asked up there,what are the signs of one who is depressed?
Please make us understand this if you are going through depression and reading this....
I want to read comments to learn. To anyone going through this condition may the Lord heal you.
ReplyDeleteAMEN!
DeleteI am at that point right now. The only reason I am still holding on is this baby I am carrying in my tummy. That is the only reason I have not left this world. Everything seems not to be working around me and people don't believe me when I try to explain, so I just keep to myself. Hubby is just there. It is well. I hope I can hold on for long.
DeleteDepression is like a spiritual matter o, there are forces behind it. The bible says we wrestle not against flesh & blood. Depression is spiritual because it always seeking to kill them
DeleteMay God give us the strength we need
Even d rich ones dey depressed, that one dey surprise me
Sdk am not depressed but am sad,very very sad. I went for general check up after I mistakenly picked myself with a needle and I found out am hepatitis c reactive. Am not sexually active. My last relationship was two years ago. Although I pricked myself with insulin needle why taking care of my diabetic friend early this yr, I knew I was supposed to go for check up immediately but I don't know why it skipped my memory to actually go for general check up immediately. Am so sad,I didn't even go to church. I can't discuss it with my family or any body to avoid gossip. I've being calling my community physician but his no has not being going through. God help me to pull through. I've being sad to the extent that I can't eat food since I got the result. I know hepatitis c virus is not deadly but I've being asking myself where I got it from. Why me? Lord see me through as I commence treatment for this disease. Am already worn out by by PEP treatment am taking for needle prick injury.
DeleteWhat's with life and wahala self? When I think am getting it right and enjoying my life the devil comes with his tribulations. I know I will triumph. Many are the affiliation of the righteous but the Lord sees them through.
My dear pls still hand for at least for the sake of ur baby 👶.buy believe me God will make a way
DeleteNot bragging but I have everything money can buy and stil very sad. Most especially about people pretending to be your friend or spiritual advisers that only cares about what they can benefit from you. I have no true person to turn to or tell my story that has been genuine. Is alll about give give and the moment you didn't give, off they go. And that makes me more depressed not having a genuinely caring person to be there for me and not for my money
DeleteAnonymous 17: 33.please dear, stop looking for genuine friendship because you might keep getting hurt always. Just enjoy life as it comes and expect little or nothing from anyone so you don't get disappointed. Not everyone is made to have friends and I was in the class for years until I luckily got one, and that person came when I wasn't expecting it. So live life dear, talk to yourself, use a mirror to do it. Laugh loud during your quiet time, shout at empty spaces.. .. 😂😂😂. Do anything to make you feel good and stop placing your happiness on people. #onelove#
DeleteStella many things can cause depression.
DeleteI don't like using negative words to define myself.
Right night I'm in a toxic environment ,living with people that don't know what love is.
I'm totally broke n jobless but learning skills to help myself.
When you cry all day that your body is used to it ,to the extent of crying with no cause even in the dream.
Stella I sent you mail.
Bv madam so so gra gra
17:33 your happiness doesn't depend on any man. Make yourself happy. The real ones will come your way at the right time.
DeleteEverything we encounter in life is a lesson, it's either it makes us stronger or weaker. Choose wisely.
Help whomever you wish to help , if you choose not to, you don't owe anyone .
Don't feel sad, trust me there is a reason for everything.
*hugs*
16:25 felt really sad reading and I wished I could hug you.
DeleteDon't give up on God because he would never give up on you.
Everything will be alright.
15:43 hold on to God and your baby.
DeleteGod has never failed.
I av been having sleepless nights for a long time now ...dunno what else to do. I have prayed, fasted n taken all sorts of drugs.i have also taken those detox drugs plus probiotics ..all ranges of antibiotics before then too for 5 years now ..this yeast infection has refused to go.im tired and fed up ... when will I be free. Please anyone with advice...I av practiced sugar free diets n all d home remedy u can think of ..I av also used different herbs..all those complement that are anti fungal I av taken ...dunno what else to do
DeleteDunno if d first one was published..been having yeast infection for years now..taken all ranges of antibiotic then later detoxifier n probiotics..done herbs too but none seems to work ..gone on several sugar diets n all plus all home remedies online but it had refused to go ...dunno what I’m doing wrong ..all anti fungal supports I have used but this thing has refused to let me be ...what more can I do I’m slowly loosing my mind
DeleteI know Stella was coming here;
ReplyDeleteA lot of those Instagram displays of
"celebrities; Nigerians I mean" are fake. They just want to be envied and to attain the status that their "fans"; their supposed fans expect of them. It is this fake standard that is not attained that gives them the dip.
Help? By seeing these folks as humans with faults and not giving them pressure. Being simple friends with them and not expecting so much.
So all I typed went off? Gosh.... Can't type again ooh.
DeleteDepression isn't a day thing but a growth, it starts with sadness->> feeling useless-->>feeling empty -->suicidal thought
ReplyDeletefrom my own experience try not to allow it grow,the moment u start feeling sad try to think of something to cheer you
search deep within u for a reason why life is worth living, example is considering that person who you know will forever be sad if u should end it
listen to some Christian songs that elevate the spirit
some Hip hop does more harm than good, it is almost like an intimidation kind of music, Simi,Adekunle Gold and some old school music help relax the mind.
My opinion
Hmmm thanks for this. The best is to start looking for ways to be happy when sadness creeps in. May God help me
Delete....in Japan, doctors will prescribe "Forest therapy" to treat any form of depression and anxiety.
ReplyDeleteThe natural scent of the trees increases activities of the natural killer cells that boosts your immune system, which in turn boosts resistanxe against stressed nerves...but here in Naija, most doctors will recommend Prozac, with a long term side effects that comes for your ass.
You want naija doctor to prescribe forest therapy fa? And send people to IGBO IRUNMOLE??? no abeg. Kolerwerk
DeleteI think depression has to do with mental state of being. Though often time alot of people confuse depression with hardship and brokenness. Truth is that in depression one can lost consciousness of things as they are often no longer themselves.
ReplyDeleteA rejection, betrayal of trust, death of a love one and loss of material possession or assests can trigger one into depression when they allow the emotion to get the better part of them.
Helping a depressed being is a difficult task that require a trained counselor. It isn't that easy, for patience and endurance are required to handle such cases. I think showing commitment of care and love could go a long way to help a depressed being gain sanity. Some of them need that assurance of care and love to be okay.
There is something very wrong with you. You are not resilient but a chief strategist. One day bush meat go catch the hunter.
DeleteNice one.
DeleteHardship and been broke can lead to depression oooo. You feel useless, entirely useless especially when all your efforts are not working.
DeleteJust my opinion.
Hormonal imbalance is one of the major causes of depression.
ReplyDeleteI have siblings who have been depressed and I'll say, it's kinda medical. For one of my siblings it was triggered by stress/lifestyle changes for the other it was childbirth. For both it starts as a feeling of sadness and withdrawal continuously for 2weeks, please if you notice this, it is the best time to seek help. After hat initial stage, they both didn't take pleasure in activities or persons that gave them joy/happiness and then withdrawal from friends and family, this then progressed to the feeling of emptiness, hopelessness and then one of them experienced hallucinations before they each had suicidal thoughts. I guess the thought arose from the emptiness and withdrawal from people, community and all. Treatment medication, personal counselling, family counselling to make other family members aware, exercise, exercise and reduction of stress levels.
DeleteThis is real depression you describe here. All others saying they feel depressed is due to societal pressure, hardship.
DeleteI'm currently going through that phase due to the situation that I found my self couple with being pregnant but I don't want to think about ending it all because I believe in God and I know this too shall pass and my dear bubbly daughter makes me hold on to life each time I experience heart skips.Your blog also helps in forgetting my worries at times
ReplyDeleteGod gat you Mom Ella
DeleteThis too shall pass, it's just a phase
Continue to pray to God and never undermine the power of praises and Thanksgiving.Read the word of God daily and avoid lonely places.
God will deliver you safely and there will be light at the end of the tunnel soon in Jesus name. 😘
We are together. it's tough, can't even pray. I just hope against hope that my God will make a way. I love my little boy too much to get suicidal. Although, I'm not particularly excited about the unborn baby. Just waiting for 9months to get here so I can I have my normal hormones back.
Deletehmmmm Stella I was almost falling into depression o, there are somethins that happens to you in life, that you just feel like the end has come, I'm not depressed but sometimes I'm so very unhappy with life ,that I withdraw and I snapped at everyone around me, your blog had been a huge fortress to me
ReplyDeleteDon't worry things will be okay and fine with you. Believe in God and yourself.
DeleteOne of the many causes of depression is hormonal imbalance. This is more common in women after childbirth or major surgery. It is a mental and health issue that should be treated by licensed doctors or therapists. It also helps to have a support system (friends and family) that understands and care enough to be there for you 100 in your time of need.
ReplyDeleteWhat doesn't help is asking people to snap out of it because it is not a choice.
A lot of people confuse sadness as a results of disappointments,frustration and bad business with the depression. So how many of us here knows what depression is?
ReplyDeleteI am here to read comments
Depression as to deal with when you withdraw from people and nothing motivates or makes you happy again. Even those things you derive joy from as turn to sonehting that makes you sad, you won't just see any reasons to live anymore even when there are 1001 reasons to live for. You will just be frustrated about everything. God help those passing through this phase. It is well
ReplyDeletehas to do with*, has turn to something*. these*
DeleteDepression is not a day thing
ReplyDeleteit starts with thinking,feeling empty,feeling useless and feeling like you are the worst person in the world.
when handling a depressed person,all u need to is to keep assuring him/her that there are a thousand and 1 reason to be happy
do not say harsh words to the person if nt u will cause more harm dan good
will be back to write more on that because i'm a survivor.
Enter your comment... anytime I don't have money I'm always depressed😁but once money don come I'm undepressed lmao
ReplyDeleteYou were never depressed. You probably was sad because of your financial situation. I don't mean to sound insensitive but many people that claim to be depressed don't really know what it means.
DeleteDepression is more than simply feeling sad, fed up for some days nor is it a sign of weakness or something you can snap out of.
Symptoms of Depression varys from individual e.g lack of interest in something that you use to love, lasting feeling of unhappiness, hopelessness, feeling very tearful, feeling constantly tired, not sleeping properly, not having sex drive and body pains.
Treatment include lifetime changes, medication and therapy.
Mental illness doesn't necessarily mean that someone is mad it's something that is beyond ones control and if not untreated can be bad to the individuals and their loved ones.
Thanks SJ for this. I am a psychologist and I keep trying to explain to people that depression and extreme sadness about a particular situation are 2 different things.
DeleteI was once depressed after I was lied against by someone I never expected and saw my life destroyed.I was 16 at that time. For more than 10 years my life was stagnant. I could not sleep and barely ate. I kept thinking about what was doNE to me. The pain was too much. I had lost everything. Friends, education, hope. I spent most of my time daydreaming about if things went differently or me going back to those who hurt me as a successful person. I thought in this way they would love me or respect. How stupid I was. Instead on focusing on continuing my education, find a good job and living my life I was living to impress the same people who hurt me. Well my depression turned into psychosis and I almost became mad. All I can say is that I was healed by the grace of God. In a month I will go back to school and I'm slowly but surely taking my life back. I think when you are depressed you need people around you to love you and respect you. You need to hear and feel that you are important and you mean something to someone. You need people and things that will make you laugh and you need to rest and not be bothered about bills etc. If you are a religious person you also need to hear things that uplift your soul and learn to have faith. I'm grateful for where I am in life and I will work to be where I want to be.
ReplyDeleteSo glad for you!
DeleteYou’re that lady in Italy that wants to study nursing right? Whenever I see your comment, I just know. Your life is a testimony baby girl, we thank God.
DeleteDepression seems to be common in women than men. Lack of joy, reduces interest in things that use to bring the persons happiness and this lead to depression. Bereavement produce mode change that can also lead to depression.
ReplyDeleteTo avoid depression.
1. Make your self happy
2. Avoid stress
3. Stop thinking
4. Go out for window shopping.
5. Attend church activities
6. Go out for evangelism
7. Show love to your neighbors.
8. Eat well
9. Pray earnestly.
Those item you list up there are you for real? I love your write up dear. So much point therein.
DeleteShe listed all those things because she's a mad person. How can going on window shopping, evangelism help with depression?
Delete👍👍👍👍
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 anon you are wickid 😂
DeleteLol Kaii anon16:30, you is not nice at all
DeleteAnon looooool
DeleteStop thinking ke? What mumu advice is this?
DeleteEveryone be forming counsellor in their ignorance.
I am struggling with depression and I pray I overcome this urge to do something to myself. I feel pity for this innocent child sometimes. Mine was caused by my ex husband who battered me with emotional and physical abuse. He gave me scars all over my body. Moving to my family house, my own dad is also abusing me emotionally. Treating me like I'm not his daughter. I see why some women prefer to die in abusive marriages. If only I can turn back the hands of time.
ReplyDeletePls Moreena if you can get out of ur dad's house and find somewhere else to stay pls do. And pls get professional help, God be with you.
DeleteMost families here don't encourage their daughter to leave her husband even if the man wants to kill her, even pastors like my church own will advise that it's better she dies there than leaving because it's a sin if she leaves her marriage for whatever reason. They will say she should stop doing the things that makes her husband to beat her and that if she dies there she will go to heaven and God will take care of her children for her. Lol
DeleteMoreena, your dad will keep frustrating you because people including religious leaders will be putting pressure on him to chase you back to your husband house. They will ask him if he wants to marry you. They will tell him to talk to both of you and ensure you live peacefully with your husband. I still remember that banker that was killed by her husband(the Akereles). Anytime her husband beat her and she run to her father's house, they will chase her back to her abusive husband until he stabbed her one day and killed her. Hmmmmm
This one that you have a Child , no one will accommodate you o. If you have money, it's better you rent one room and start life afresh. This is Nigeria for you
Stella I feel like dying
DeleteThe pain in my heart is too much to bear. It's like the whole world turned against me. Even you follow. You swallow my comments most times
Sorry dear, I can feel your pains.
DeleteIf there is anyone that can't handle, fear, anxiety and pain then it's me.. My depression started as a teenager. I was molested by our house help (she) from age 9-13..the fear of leaving school and going home everyday, knowing the fact that she would spread my legs whenever I get home and hurt my vagina with her fingers while she instructs me to do same (sobs) five years of Constant pain and fear of my mom dying if I ever speak about it.. To my mom she was the best house help on earth, she praises her till date. She was about 20yrs then (my house help) I grew up and I hated myself, the pain remained in my head.. At 16,i attempted killing myself but was saved by a neighbor.. As I grew older (20yrs of age ,I was diagnosed with hypertension, my blood pressure never dropped below 160/120 ..i was placed on pills, I couldn't breath ,attend lectures or walk ,I had so much anxiety and panic. .I am 30now and still battling with hypertension and depression.. Few days ago, I cut my hair with scissors and cut myself with my broken mirror.. It's just too long for me to keep writing.. Depression is real and I am one of the victims of it
ReplyDeleteThis is sooooo sad. You honestly need to forgive yourself and know it wasn't your fault. I don't know what you are going through but I have also been raped before at the age of 25 by a trusted friend I went to visit. I didn't keep it to myself,I told my parents,told his own parents and was ready to report him to the police. His parents came begging. When his mother a woman of 70 came to kneel down and begged I and my parents I had no choice but to forgive. Mind you I didn't forgive him I just pitied them enough not to report to the police and warned him to stay far from me.
DeleteBut I told myself I will never be a victim. I won't let a rape define my life story. I won't give another human being that power over me. No one is worth scattering my life. I didn't even tell the guy I was dating. That will curse a whole set of problems. I am married now and never told him. I won't allow the rapist that power to soil my relationship or marriage.
I don't even think about it any more. I saw the bastard rapist at a wedding recently and the idiot was still staring and listing over me. I gave him a dirty look.
I sincerely hope healing finds you. E-hugs
This has opened my eyes. Parents need to very close and very watchful of their kids. Even the female house maids abuse both male and female children.
DeleteThat is why i discuss abuse with my daughter of 3yrs. I tell her no one under no circumstance is supposed to touch her peepee. Whether male or female. That is a bad thing and she must tell me immediately. I also personally bath and dress my daughter even though I have a nanny. Just for that bond and to watch out for any changes in her body.
Your story is an eye opener. Sorry for all you went through. I think you need professional help.
House help? oh God pls remember this your daughter. I pray for total restoration in your life. Pls stop hurting yourself. You can still be alright if you seek professional help
DeleteIt is well with you annon.
DeleteI think you should talk with your mum about it, maybe it will make you feel better.
Anonymous 14:41 your story mad me sad. I can't imagine what you are going through. Have you tried medications, therapy and life changes? I believe with them three you will get better. Don't give up. Good luck.
DeleteI think you need to speak to your mum or a professional. Please do all you can to let this go and not rule over your life.
DeleteNow this is d real depression
DeleteU need professional help and u need to talk to ur mom about it. If u don’t u may not heal. It is well
DeleteIt is so sad how many disasters these helps cause in homes. I pray you heal anon. Pls tell your mum so she will know what that lady did so she will stop talking good about her. Then seek professional help. It shall end in praise
DeleteShe needs professional help via a psychotherapist. Her mum won't be of much help at this time.
DeleteDepression is as a result of a chemical imbalance in the brain. It is an illness just like asthma and hypertension. Please don’t confuse depression with sadness o. People that are depressed have difficulty concentrating, forget things easily, loss of interest in life etc. It is not because of thinking too much either. Just like most diseases it’s cause is unknown but there are triggers such as genetics, environmental factors etc. Depression is being treated by drugs just like other illnesses and by a pschiatrist and other members of the health team. Please don’t suffer in silence. It can be managed and people can achieve their full potential in life.
ReplyDeleteDepression is as a result of a chemical imbalance in the brain. It is an illness just like asthma and hypertension. Please don’t confuse depression with sadness o. People that are depressed have difficulty concentrating, forget things easily, loss of interest in life etc. It is not because of thinking too much either. Just like most diseases it’s cause is unknown but there are triggers such as genetics, environmental factors etc. Depression is being treated by drugs just like other illnesses and by a pschiatrist and other members of the health team. Please don’t suffer in silence. It can be managed and people can achieve their full potential in life.
ReplyDeleteI don't know where to start from but when you think you've overcome Depression? It silently creeps up on you and throws you down the dark hole again. Happiness is temporary for depressed people, I just discovered that and when your strength has failed you, you end your life. I've been there and I do not judge those that have ended their lives. They simply couldn't hold on anymore. The last ounce of strength they had is probably gone and they thought they'll never have a chance at happiness.
ReplyDeleteDepressed people pretend alot. They pretend they're happy. They smile when you're around them. They laugh at your jokes and even offer advise when you seek them. But it'll take a lot of probing and curiosity from you to see past that facade and question if they're truly alright.
I've suffered depressed for years now. At a point I almost took my life, I didn't… don't know why. I still think I should explore all options before towing that path and then I've thought of my mother, that woman toiled hard for my sake and my sisters. I'm scared of breaking her heart. She'll lose her mind if I leave her but then, I'm still exploring my options.
You know, when it seems like all of life's problems is heaped on you, you asked God...”Why?”. Depression overtook me when I was 22, nothing was working and my Dad is a classic example of a dead beat dad, his major investment is in alcohol. I am 27 now, I lost my job last year. It was a dark time for me. I was so broken cause I didn't do anything wrong. I told myself I wasn't going to go back to being depressed, I tried to stay sane and I invested in clothing business, my business ain't growing. I do not know what to do anymore. Runs has never been an option for me but it feels I should tow that path so I won't starve and my family would stop suffering. I can't even raise rent on my own, I've been squatting up and down cause returning to my Father's house would mean giving up. I've stopped going to church. I feel God doesn't love me enough…
I wish I could pen down all that life has thrown at me. I'm broken. My life is at a standstill but I'm still here, maybe not for long. I'm still here.
From the begining I felt like I was typing this...depression is deep.mine caused me hormonal imbalance period seized and came with excruciating pain when it manages to. I was loosing weight but smiling on the outside. Mine started from relationship issues.and it truly never goes away,I was happy for a few months and now it's back despite that I'm married. But I'm in a distant marriage atm.ive tried to pierce myself with a knife more than once but I think about my mum and sister and I drop it. No I'm not broke not rich either but comfortable.when I'm around people I'm the liveliest. Sometimes I get scared of being by myself but I am 90% of the time. My parents got separated when I was 10 so I grew up needing someone to be a companion , I felt like being in a relationship would validate me. I was wrong, I got married but I still don't feel happy , only seasonally. But I'm too ashamed to leave...what will my mum say, how will she feel? My husband is a nice guy, what will be my excuse. I have refused to get pregnant cos I don't want to birth a child with my present psychological problem.i realized something is wrong with me in 2015. Making 3 years living like this
DeleteI know that feeling but I believe you should have a baby it will help you get out of depression. It is working for me like I am no longer sucidial because I now have a genuine personal reason to live and I now feel that there's God and he truly loves me for giving my daughter to me. Suddenly I am hopeful and thankful. Some days it is tough but God's word and my daughter keeps me going always. I have so much to say but my daughter needs me. E hugs 💖 💜 💛 💖 💜 💛 💖 💜 💛
DeleteDepression is a state of mental health. It can be triggered by a lot of things eg. Loss of job,death of a spouse,childbirth, I mean a lot of things but we can only be responsible for our happiness and state of mind! We need to know that we have no power to change things we only have choices in life so we should make good choices in life. We live in wicked evil world and unforseen circumstances like being in the wrong place at the wrong time. You have to make yourself happy and live for yourself. People now take things for granted.In our world today a lot of bad things are made to look good. There is law of karma. There is law of retribution,There is law of nature so this world is a balance between good and bad. We should make the good choices and leave the rest to God Almighty!
ReplyDeleteAbeg when most Nigerians say they are depressed, they're just broke. Credit alert cure their depression sharp sharp. Sometime ago, a particular Bv wrote in how depressed and suicidal she was at that moment. Money was raised, depression and suicidal thoughts disappeared. Please I'm not mocking anyone cos it happened to me too.
ReplyDeleteDepression is real, an illness. But we abuse the word so much here.
Gbam
DeleteCastle Windsor credit alert can't cure all depression. Can money bring back death child?
DeleteMajor depressive disorder which is also known has Depression is a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act. Fortunately, it is also treatable. Depression causes feelings of sadness and/or a loss of interest in activities once enjoyed. It can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems and can decrease a person’s ability to function at work and at home. Depression symptoms can vary from mild to severe and can include:
ReplyDeleteFeeling sad or having a depressed mood,Loss of interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed ,Changes in appetite — weight loss or gain unrelated to dieting,Trouble sleeping or sleeping too much,Loss of energy or increased fatigue,Increase in purpose,less physical activity (e.g., hand-wringing or pacing) or slowed movements and speech (actions observable by others)Feeling worthless or guilty,Difficulty thinking, concentrating or making decisions,Thoughts of death or suicide
Symptoms must last at least two weeks for a diagnosis of depression. In major depression, mood and/or interest (pleasure) are decreased for most of two weeks.
Being sad is not the same as having depression.
You can be sad when you have a loss of a love one-The grieving process is natural and unique to each individual and shares some of the same features of depression. Both grief and depression may involve intense sadness and withdrawal from usual activities. They are also different in important ways:
In grief, painful feelings come in waves, often intermixed with positive memories of the deceased.
Before a diagnosis or treatment, a health professional should conduct a thorough diagnostic evaluation, including an interview and possibly a physical examination. In some cases, a blood test might be done to make sure the depression is not due to a medical condition like a thyroid problem. The evaluation is to identify specific symptoms, medical and family history, cultural factors and environmental factors to arrive at a diagnosis and plan a course of
Another type of depression is
Seasonal affective disorder* is a form of depression also known as SAD, seasonal depression or winter depression. People with SAD experience mood changes and symptoms similar to depression. The symptoms usually occur during the fall and winter months when there is less sunlight and usually improve with the arrival of spring. The most difficult months for people with SAD in the U.S. tend to be January and February. While it is much less common, some people experience SAD in the summer.
So most importantly get help and take your medications.
Never give up in life on matter what.
ReplyDeleteTo be very sincere I don't know whether I'm depressed or just sad cos there are many things have prayed and ask God for years n yet to receive it n instead I'm seeing him do it to people everyday. There a point in my life that I just feel like I should just sleep n not wake up, envy dead people, wish suicide wasn't bad before God.
ReplyDeleteBut with all honesty if suicide wasn't a sin I'm so conscious about heaven that the devil can't push me to commit suicide. But if suicide wasn't a sin I would have end it all tey tey. Every little thing that happen in my life I will be so happy n want to live forever and a little obstacles and desperation I just want to end it. So don't know whether mine is depression or being sad.
if suicide was not a sin, my dear alot of people would have taken that path to say bye bye forever to this evil and unfair world.
DeleteDepression cannot be completely cured but it can be managed with drugs and therapy according to a piece I read. This is why I'm trying my best not to fall into depression. My company is owing us two months salary now, another job is not forthcoming maybe because of my age and being a single mum as I always tell them I have kids during interview. I try to look at the positive side of life, some nights my kids and I go to bed without food, I feel sad most of the time but that is not depression, SADNESS is mild compared to depression. May God help me to keep my head up cos honestly, it's not easy being both mum and dad. May God heal all depressed and sad hearts.
ReplyDeleteDepression is a mental illness. It isn't sadness or being broke.. it's waking up every morning and nor wanting to get up,it's feeling like you're stuck in a darkness and no matter how you grope you can't find the light,like you'll never be happy again or feel anything again. It could lead to bulimia or anorexia,emotional abuse on self(being too happy to others to make the feeling stay) or others,or substance abuse just to feel, to feel anything. Trauma of various sorts is the trigger. Over a period of time it festers to gross feeling of worthlessness leading to suicidal thoughts..substance abuse always seem the quick way out as you feel a zigzag of emo under influence. But the after effects drives you deeper into the ditch. Your money can't save you. Maybe find you a good therapists.. but these days it's harder to find one you can click with no matter how high profile they seem.. depression is a mental illness not a fad or cool tag as it seems now.. if you need google for a definition then you've never being diagnosed.. a close niche of friends who understands goes a long way..family's cool too but most families have got high expectations that weigh on the members making hard for them to open up..
ReplyDeleteBrrrrrrrrrr.. typed too much already..
Get help,talk to someone if you feel this sort cause each symptoms is kinda peculiar to people. Please Don't go without a fight.
Well I can comment on what causes depression having suffered from it. OK I am 43 divorced, no children, no job, in serious debt. No one really knew until after a while my pastor started to notice. Most depressed persons do not want to get help. I would sleep and sleep and sleep. I did not want to live. I thought of ways to end it but knew deep down hell awaits me. So in was like Lord, take me in my sleep.
ReplyDeleteI hated waking up in the morning and intact dreaded the DAY! Slowly slowly I started reading motivational books and one day I listened to TD Jakes woman thou art loosed. It ministered to me. Every word was real. It felt personal. So I said i will try and help myself so help me God too.
Depression.
ReplyDeleteI do not even know where to start from. The only two things that give me joy is when my baby smiles and when i read somw really hilarious comments here bur then once i go offline,reality still stares me in the face.
I am just generally and always Moody now. Is it tfact that I stay in my parents house with two children and jobless,the snide remarks,heing judged by people who are better than me. Two months ago my dad called me a witch.
This is me but with a child and hopefully I will not be called a witch ooooo. My dear block the remarks by rejecting it in your mind first of all and do not dwell on those useless things they say please before you start cursing your kids. I am talking from experience aside hilarious comments here please start building your inside speak positive words to yourself and kids, read God's word or listen to God's word all the time follow Joel Osteen , Paula White, Joyce Meyer, TD Jakes etc on Instagram and Facebook they preach soul lifting messages without judging you. Try it and you will start feeling better little by little. E hugs 💖 💜 💛 💖 💜 💛 💖 💜 💛
DeleteI wasn't clinically diagnosed but when I lost my job, I couldn't sleep for a month.I would hear traffic like an expressway in my head. Other times I would hear a voice telling me to jump down the balcony. I had to confide in an old friend who encouraged me to try to leave the house more often. My marriage is bleh, a week after marriage noticed my husband would only talk about dinner or lunch. I was the happy cheery kid who wanted to take over the world but for some distractions. My life feels like someone else's, no challenge no excitement and weight gain, as I take solace in food.I'm even slowly embracing atheism. Deep sigh
ReplyDeleteHoney leave home take walks...watch people. ..speak to yourself about who you were and who you really want to be. Do this often. It will shake up things foe you and shake you out of your almost dead state of mind. Keep hope alive
DeleteThat period I did nt use to sleep just so I could lay awake and AIT to see if truly I was a witch. Most times I just sit and stare till tears come.a friend gifted me 500 naira which I used to buy half crate of egg to sell in someones shop which I had 250 gain nowshe said she also wans to sell.in fact I am tired.I wish i was never born
ReplyDeleteSee Depression is a disease and anyone can get it, I was depressed two years ago because of what happen to me and I couldn't tell any body I remember hating everything around me and everybody I just hated life in general and think about suicide every day what really hold me back was the fear of hell but sometimes i forget about it and want to kill myself but I thank God because he was the only one that help out of that trying times even my family didn't know I was depressed they didn't even know I already planned the day I was going to kill myself
ReplyDeleteThat's why I don't hang around people who are always happy. It makes me feel like my life sucks
DeleteStella I feel like dying
ReplyDeleteThe pain in my heart is too much to bear. It's like the whole world turned against me. Even you follow. You swallow my comments most times
Haha haha very funny. Sorry about what you are going through
DeleteMy daddy's death sent me into deep depression. It's been 7months now and it's still so fresh. I'm locked up in my room now crying, as if my heart is failing. Smh I pray everyday for God to help me beucase the pain is just too much. I feel guilty living while he's there under the ground.this is not fair, he was a good man,it's just not fair. I called my mum the other day, she said I'm possesed with the evil spirit.
ReplyDeletemy youngest brothers death triggered my depression 2yrs ago, frenemies,and self centred neighbours/ inlaws ,Land disputes, buying stolen item for my business all happening at the same time escalated it. Thank God for the word of God. I only realised some months ago that I was going through depression. Thank God I slipped back to sanity.
ReplyDeleteDepression is real fam! Mine was triggered when i lost my mum in 2014. I just kost total interest in anything that matters before. I suddenly hate going out just want to be at home alone in my room with my thoughts. To eat became a burden. I suffered depression for 2 whole years. My dad and relatives all think i was grieving so seeing a Dr was never an option but deep down inside i know i'm not only grieving but something is wrong somewhere. I suffered alone in silence before i finally met an awesome friend and with her help i overcame it. Although sometimes i feel like i will be back to that state but it never came as hard as the first time. Depression is real. And all it takes apart from seeing a Dr is to find someone to confide in. Someone to tell what you're feeling, someone that will not judge or blame you. Please lets all live in peace and treat each other the way we want to be treated. Depression can be triggered by the slightest thing you never think will trigger it. I was there once and alhamdulillah i'm now happy among the living. Bv ummie Hajra.
ReplyDeletePeople should learn better how to handle betrayals, rejections, sabotage, loss, bad things in life in a positive way.
ReplyDeleteFor example here now is Meghan Markle whose biological family r hell bent in destroying her happiness, killing her joy & taking away her shine. What does she do?
* bow to them? Loose focus on what's most important to her future stability & security in life? Self destruct so that others will be happy?
Nooooo..oh!!!
What u do is physically, mentally, spiritually & psychologically block, shut & remove any entity that undermines u with impunity!!!
No shame, no regrets!!!
Re invent urself, move on...sharp & distance! Use ur time & opportunity to embrace a new thing & new beginning. BURY WHATEVER CAUSES U DISCOMFORT, SADNESS, INSECURITY, FEAR & FEELINGS OF SELF UN-WORTHINESS.
Too much money can cause depression. Fears of the unknown too
ReplyDeleteDepression is real and can lead to death if not managed well. From my own experience I think it's more of spiritual. A strange voice won't stop reminding you of what you have lost or going through. How you cannot bear the pain and instead of living for nothing then end it all.
ReplyDeleteI experienced depression when I lost most of my assets and my loving Father in a strange mysterious ways. Life was horrible and hard to continue living. Is it the mockery or disgusting questions people keep asking.
How did I survive? That incident pushed me to be closer to God. I find solace in the word of God. Good friends were also helpful and comforted me. It was not easy and it took years before things turned around again for good.
Once you start hearing voices in your head telling you to end your life with suggestions of how to go about it. Shout it loud. I don't want to die and if I kill myself I will go to hell. God loves me so I won't take my life. Hold On to God and trust Him to pull you out. Surround your self with positive people and avoid being alone.
When I feel depression creeping in, I drive to a burial ground and tell myself,"I am doing a lot better than these folks". It works like a charm. Call me a saddist, but when I am down, I look at other people and try to imagine the kind of problems they have that they are hiding.
ReplyDeleteThat's the spirit, dear, that's the spirit.
DeleteYou're not a sadist, more like a psychopath. If you have to think of other people suffering in order to make you feel good, then yes, you truly are deranged.
DeleteHahahahahahahahaha so Stella contributes to your depression with her comment pot
ReplyDeleteStellar Stella I was depressed during the month of May and June, I am just starting to put myself together. Nothing was working for me (not like its better now) my job (they closed down at the end of June), my parents always having stupid lousy arguments (they have been married for 36 years) at the end of April my mom moved out to her house. All my life there has never been a full week where they didn't have stupid issues my mom will explain how my dad did some thing to her in 1983 and my dad will tell me how my mom left him in the rain when he was still chyking her(and I'm like "I wasn't even born then). My elder sister and her husband always having issues. My brothers bleh. The only person making progress so far has been lastie she's just written her final exams. Had a broken relationship because his extended family said my villa is Osu (nice as he was its good riddance for me cause I absolutely hate marriage before him my last relationship was in 2010)
ReplyDeleteIt started with thinking, then over thinking, then sadness sets in (nothing will make sense, no amount of shopping, going to the movies hanging out with friends will do.) You may smile on the outside but inside a hollow feeling envelopes your heart (your physical heart ni o). Because nothing improves you'd want it all to end that's when you'd begin to contemplate suicide by the way I was in the choir ( I don't do church anymore cause they don't really care when you speak with whatever leader they tell you it is well nothing. Church matter is for another day)
I didn't harm myself cause I kept talking to myself LOUDLY. Even when the sadness overshadowed me yet again and again I said the little scriptures I could to myself slowly at first then loudly. I couldn't pray either so I read the Bible one verse when I remember to.
I remember one day I called my younger sister and while talking she told me "even though you laugh I know you are sad" next thing I was crying I cried sooo much that day and I poured my very to her, she was shocked that I who lights up any room with jokes n laughter was contemplating suicide. The main reason I'm alive now is because I'm a coward I couldnt kill myself (I told my sister I wanted to sleep and never wake up it felt likw an easy way out) I also hate pain and believe in Hell and I thought of what my death would do to my mom (I love her too much to be the cause of her death because she will maybe not physical but mentally she wouldn't have been the same.)
I have just started coming out of it slowly but steadily. I applied to write a professional exam, My prayer life has improved ( I don't pray for myself only I always make sure I pray for those I know that are in need) I just stay alone do my chores, study for my exams (which is in August). Call my parents as often as I can, not to settle anything as I have left them to whatever they decide but to tell them I love them. My sis n her husband have better relationship now my brothers are picking up now.
I have always had few friends and they knew I was bothered (I didn't tell them I was suicidal sha) but kept calling and encouraging me.
I know I will look back and smile one day sha. Everything may not be totally great at last but I'm certain I will be happy.
Oh my God! So many depression stories. May God heal you all.
ReplyDeleteDepression is real. Very real.
ReplyDeleteDepression is real,der coms a point in ur life wen everything jus falls apart,I have been der,no moni in ur account, no love,notin seemed to make sense,most tyms you jus need to hang on n believe God for a miracle, that's life and its sucks.
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