I saw a rant on instagram a day or so ago and this very beautiful babe in the diaspora was so upset that her Aunt called her up around 6am to ask her when she was bringing a man home to Marry her.....
She flipped and dropped a video warning all her cousins to warn their parents to stop calling her to disturb her and she said she would be attending the Family Christmas party in the Village and issued a warning that anyone who asked her that question would be shocked at what she would do!
I have passed that stage of anyone pestering me for nonsense marriage. I don't even give that chance, where will you see me, call me for stupid question and I give you serious warning.
ReplyDeleteyouve been married b4 with a son from your own words, so why should they bother u?
DeleteMy dear sister be checking your FSH and your AMH. It is very important don’t leave that to chance too. Ovaries are diminishing my the day the month. Millions of older ladies are dining it very hard to have children now because no one creates awareness for these tests.
DeleteAnon 08:56. What is FAB and AMH? If you don't mind please shed more light on it. I'm guessing it's checked at the hospital right? Is it a fertility check?
DeleteAnon 8.56 you are part of the problem creating unnecessary panic amongst women. So she shld just go and get pregnant for anyone because of FAB whatever.
DeleteMiss Ess i got married at 36 and even before the white wedding I was pregnant. Traditional was march,white wedding was May. I was even feeling ill on my Trad day couldnt eat was thinking malaria not knowing it's morning sickness.
My friend at just 31yrs her mother inlaw to be is just like this poster up here,doubting her fertility at just 31 and asking her if she's still fertile.
No one wants to have babies late. But shit happens.
What she means is that those that are married and have children early will make it to heaven while those that are single or barren will not see God. Hope my explanation is clear.
DeleteMy sister called to tell me that I should just say yes to any man and if husband didn't come, I can just get pregnant for anybody just to have a child. I said yes I would have done dt like she did and married just anybody that has forced me to pay her children's school fees and meet her needs and even making the man bold enough to ask me for money to meet his own needs when he can't cater for his own family.
Who wants to be rushed will be rushed.
DeleteKnow what you want out of life.
Yes I do feel the desire to get a partner and settle down but I don't want to land myself in chaos if the right man has not yet come.
A man and not a boy in a man's body.
I can't be building castles in the air.
My life, my race, my choices, my fulfilment.
Chop knuckle shugargirl
DeleteShe is Right.
ReplyDeleteMy people if any one constantly ask you when you would get married, ask them This question "When will die"?
But don't ask your parents o
that na village ppl question oh, if they fall sick na you...
DeleteAsk them if there husband is available for marriage. Next time they won't ask you again.
DeleteTools them rush you?
ReplyDeleteIs regret rushing you in ur present marriage??
It's annoying actually. People tend to play God in other people's lives, they forget that everyone has their pace and time.
ReplyDeleteSomeone once told me that if anyone ask her when she'll get married again she'll ask the person when he/she will die. Equation balanced!
Some people need to be pushed to sit up... not bullied sha, but in a loving way.
ReplyDeleteThere's no loving way to it.Pushed to sit up how? So it's the lady that will start looking for hubby huh? Or end up marrying someone they aint compatible with.
DeleteSit up in what way na? As in they should go and look for the husband by fire by force?
DeleteYou can push or nudge a man who is May be already in relationship. All these ones that have been dAting a girl for 10yrs like my senior bro.
DeleteHe got married at 38 after dating the girl for 10yrs. She's the one that gave ultimatum that she is 35 in 10yrs relatnshp.
Lol what does this even mean. Why do they need to sit up anyway? O so so marriage ?
DeleteThe best thing to do is totally blocking both ears to such people. Never letting anything they say comes to you at all by occupying your mind with positive thinking and also praying and believing that one day they will not have anything to pester you about.
ReplyDeleteToolz is so right on this one, the Pressure on the single ladies is soo much, sadly even in churches.. SMH
ReplyDeleteThose that wants to be rushed should enjoy it
ReplyDeleteSame reason I haven't called my uncles & aunts in a long while. As if finding Mr right is easy. 🙄 🙄
ReplyDeleteOnce they start talking like this, tomorrow we will hear divorce story
ReplyDeleteStop wishing ppl bad.
DeleteTools was with demuren for 9 years before they got married so i doubt she's referring to herself
DeleteAnd shantelle that up there is wishing people bad???? Oya clap for yourself and face front ishie
DeleteI'm not shantelle but yes bjac it is wishing her bad. What does divorce have to do here now ?
DeleteWe won't hear divorce ijn
No o it's wishing them well,'hantku'. Married woman cannot advice singles in peace again. It just has to be divorce on the way. Mtcheew!
DeleteThe best answer when they ask you is no answer.
ReplyDeleteWhy should that even disturb anyone if God hasn't caused my Mr right to find me,then it's definitely not the right time. Forty plus x still waiting but I know God cannot fail. I flaunt my freedom at their faces they dear not ask
ReplyDeletecurrently as i speak am so bitter, am married,no domestic violence, am just not happy. He doesn't listen to me and that annoys me. I have been angry since yesterday, slept and woke up still angry.
ReplyDeleteI am on my work desk , feeling jittery and anxious about turning thirty. Like my birthday is in 3months time and just looking back thought I had achieve more than what I have now. Just a regular job that just pays my bill not so fantastic. Relationship I don’t even where it’s headed. God pls hear my prayers. It’s almost the end of another year again. I need a change. I don’t want to be depressed.
ReplyDeleteTake it easy and make yourself happy. The right man will come someday. Happy birthday in advance.
DeleteOh you remind me of how uneasy I felt the year I turned 30. My life was a far cry from the plans I had projected and the efforts I had put into life. So I wanted to fast track my life all within a year and then I almost made the craziest mistakes of my life.
DeletePlease take that pressure off from yourself before you hurt yourself. You will have many more years to celebrate on earth way beyond 30. It is normal to feel like you're in the middle of a crisis but you will adjust once you accept that life is a journey. Some get there early and while others get there late. Don't mess your life up just bcz you're in a hurry to achieve all your plans at 30.
Keep dishing advice instead of wrestling your husband in the other room. Biological clock is ticking.
ReplyDeleteShut up!
DeletePlease enjoy your single days to the fullest oh.
ReplyDeleteI love my hubby and kids but sometimes I really miss my single days so much.
If you don't enjoy your being one...becoming two wouldn't be an easy process