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I'm so sad right now.......
My boyfriend just broke up with me today without me offending him....
All he said was that he doesn't see it working again and our future is not certain.
I cried my eyes out but he didn't even look my side, asking me what I'm doing, 2 hours of crying my eyes out... another ex recorded
How do I start again?
When will I ever meet someone I can call my own?
I'm depressed.
At 25 plus I'm still looking for another relationship....
Will things ever get better?
No shoulder to lean on anymore,and seeing him everyday will keep this pain burning...
Can i ever move on?
No friends to tell or share my pains with..
Words fail me and seems I'm not even lucky in love..
I'm tired.
I'm weak.
I'm depressed.
*So without a man you cannot function?look at your reaction...you are depressed because a man called off a relationship?what if you dodged a bullet?
You don't have friends?what happened to the ones you grew up with or made along the line?good or bad,you must have friends!
The minute he didn't care when you were crying was when you should have dried your tears.....
pick up yourself and make something worthy out of your life.stop being depressed because of a man who must have moved on..train your mind to restore to default when a lover walks away!
He said he doesn't see a future with you,doesn't mean you don't have with someone else..He has just released you for the one meant to be yours to find you.....it is his loss not yours so stop crying......
He said he doesn't see a future with you,doesn't mean you don't have with someone else..He has just released you for the one meant to be yours to find you.....it is his loss not yours so stop crying......
You mean you're just 25+, what kind of mentality is this?
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Wack mentality
DeleteDepressed cos of a guy?????
DeleteLol, exactly!
DeleteStellz I agree with you jare. I had to learn to make my mind return to default settings in such situations. Poster learn this.
DeleteI don't even know again. I had to double check the age.
Deleteseriously I don't even understand how think again
DeleteMy dear I am 30 and I don't even have a boyfriend. My ex just suddenly stopped picking my calls because I demanded repay a loan I gave him. This is after all the emotional trauma he put me through expecting to be the one chasing him all around for attention. At a stage I became tired of the whole thing and demanded for my money, and that's when his real intentions came out. He just stopped calling and picking my calls. I guess I was just an ATM and after I became wise by demanding for my money, he ran. What am I trying to say, you shouldn't be scared of starting afresh. I am not afraid to start afresh too and I will be wiser next time. So be strong for yourself because your happiness is in your hands.
DeleteMy dear....depressed at 25 because of a man?
DeleteBabe...face God and face your self...
I dated a guy for 6years . started at 23years and broke up with him after my 29th bday....my dear....I didn't bat an eyelid because he was cheating and the only day he raised up his hands and he hit me I broke up and never looked back ..I was done...he never proposed buy he saw my parents...deceitful child....I. Couldn't even blame him .wasn't I the one who forgave a wandering dick that came home with a certificate. Yes I was the helpless.. I felt the 6 years must count. Not long after I ventured I to another relationship within a month...this one proposed but another deceitful child ...as he showed me a sign of his guymanism..I kicked him to the curbs ..o boy he kept feeling he was Gods gift to the human folk and doing me a favour .We didn't last a year. His ring I returned. Today barely a year after , at 31 I am married to the best man ever. I am not even pissed at my ex..I sing shout out to my exes cause they were the best in the sense that ...I would have misses my husband.
You want to know how I got 2 rings in the span of 2 years and a wedding followed by a blissful marriage in the same 2 years. ..which I couldn't get in the past six years?
Answer....dry your tears, close your legs, work on your self, revamp your self. ,get your groove back ..make some mad money and ball hard.. Whilst doing this make sure you put God first..my dear they will line up and even contribute to your wedding to just one ..you will be shook
21:52, I loove you gurl, your last paragraph is everything, but young ones will they hear? Mba. They are on instablog arguing for bbn housemates without pay. At night they are acting wifey for a man who doesnt value them. Learn, women learn.
DeleteCcccorrrectyyy
DeleteYour are beautiful and awesome but you are not oxygen #constantreminder
DeleteAnon 21:52 I wish i could give you a BIG hug!
Deleteask me? very yeye mentality. Nigerians or whereever she is from shud stop this marriage by fire by force. marriage is good but not a do or die affair pls. live your life and if it comes so be it.
DeleteYou go dey alright last last. Welcome to the single girls club
ReplyDeleteYou know the problem ?
DeleteFork.
Stop giving them booty.
All these stupid gum body that will chase away their female friends immediately they see a man
DeleteOpen toto give styles pass married women
Suck dick till they chock on it
Cook more than calabar lady
Why won't he dump you when he has seen it all
Me i go remain virgin till i marry
Na only my husband go see my nakedness
Wipe your tears
I am sure it's because of one dirty broke guy you are crying for
You rudely right...girlfriends are bae...the good ones o...do not cut them off cos of a man...continue to have hang out and have fun with them esp if you are not yet married and no kids to drain you...poster you will be fine. I got married at 37, a single mum...best hubby....my friend started again from 38 after a mind shattering breakup to study medicine...she changed her mindset about a lot of things in life, became a lot nicer and relaxed. At 35 she met this man...wonderful and handsome....became a doc at 37, married and has a son. Guess what ex came back to drag her...he had married and divorced. Poster focus on you...be a nicer, classier version of you. Learn something new- French maybe...explore..live, Love and laugh.
DeleteIt is well sweetheart....your own will come and it's gonna be a happy ending.
ReplyDeleteNow Stella, this is a good advice.
DeletePoster please dry the tears already and move on, that guy is not for you
DeleteMy dear. When people leave you for no reason or no fault of yours. Please gladly let them go. They don't deserve your tears
ReplyDeleteThose tears are letting out the pain, cry some more & let go..
DeleteYoure this hurt cus you love is deep, you assumed he was your last bus stop... we've all been there, its a good feeling to have experienced love, most people that'd insult you have no idea how awesome love feels, its just sad if it ends, but its still worth the experience if u ask me, you'd live & learn my dear.
A wise astronomer said "You only see the stars so bright when the nights are darkest"... he was right!!! Now your stars are about to glow to those deserving eyes. Words will not mean much to you right now cis ure folled with grieve & confusion but have it in mind that some doors must close for a better opportunity to open.
Be strong!
So my brother's girlfriend told me that she had a problem with one of her lecturer, when she was crying before the man,he told her that tears doesn't move him. She said she quickly cleaned her face and left. Las las she don dey alright.
ReplyDeleteSweetheart move on and stop crying for someone that does not worth your tears. You are very young for this.
#in Chief Linda's voice # Are you fat and ugly?😂😂
darling you deserves better jor
*Deserve* Say it...good girl.
DeleteHappy sunday
Oh deserve😄
DeleteI blame autocorrect😂😂
At 25+ and you already lose hope....do you know what God has in stock for you,my sister no man can make you happy except yourself
ReplyDeleteYou should be thankful he broke up with you and didn't waste your time by continuing the relationship...now cry a lil,pick yourself up and move on.soldier go,soldier come but barrack still remain.
ReplyDeleteMy dear dis poster has'nt realise Wat God just did 4 her. Do u want him to marry u in self pity and treat u like trash, a broken relationship is beta than a broken marriage, I wish I had dis opportunity 6years ago to dump my so called husband who later left d house 4 me 6months ago. Im planin to leave b4 d year runs off. Ur happiness should not depend on a mere human bcoz they will disappoint u. Love wit ur head love ur life make money and live life as it comes
Delete@anon 17:08
Deleteso sorry to hear what happened to you...God will bless you with someone better
Cry no more,the one meant for you will find you .
ReplyDeleteStella, you tried on this one. Poster move on pls
ReplyDeleteHe who doesn't have eyes can't see
It's amazing that the things we cry about today become things we laugh about tomorrow. That's life. Appointments come in the guise of disappointments sometimes so pay attention.
DeleteIt's important we learn to build our world round one person - God. Cos truth is: man disappoints but God never does.
Get up and move on, it's a choice. You either stay there and get caught up in ur past or you dust yourself, learn ur lessons and move on.
You don't need a man to feel that void. Believe me, if u walk into another relationship (or even marriage) with that mentality, you will get hurt.
Learn to be a better person, and a better person who loves u the way you are will come knocking. Get God involved. Stop make no marriage ur life's priority. Focus on the why you are here. Equip yourself. Build character. Have great relationships and don't see every man that walks into your life as a potential husband. Trust me, they will sense your desperation and run.. .probably after leading you on and using you.
Above all trust God and His plan. If you don't know Him, I invite you to do so. All the best.
So sorry poster..ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜
ReplyDeleteWhere i am here single..!!😤😤😤😤
Well..
Poster get busy.. Find things to do..
You will be fine🤗🤗🤗
Don't kill yourself because of a man, he is not God!
ReplyDeleteHe is not for you, if he is, he won't break up with you.
Your man will come!
Stella, you are talking like you've never experienced heartbreak. It's one of the worst feelings one would ever feel, especially if u really loved the person.
ReplyDeletePoster, cry if u want to. Then talk to friends about it. Allow them insult him for u and join in the insult.
In a matter of weeks/days, you will start forgetting him small small. Delete and block him everywhere to avoid temptation of trying to contact him.
You will be fine
It seems u and d poster no well... It is good as she wan enter depression at 25 cos of being jilted.
DeleteContinue pampering her. Iran.
So she should come and go and die on top his matter okwaya?to the point of depression. Owu broken engagement ka owu broken marriage? Ya wurugodi any of them life goes on.
DeleteShe was fornicating with him for all I care.
People be using that word 'depression' anyhow.
poster I hope you have a job or something doing, because this one you are crying like he's your 'great provider' I wonder oo.
You go dey alright nnu. NBD
It seems u and d poster no well... It is good as she wan enter depression at 25 cos of being jilted.
DeleteContinue pampering her. Iran.
Anon 15:55 you made me laugh out loud seriously
Delete*Larry was here*
Poster sorry for what happen? Some men no matter what you do. They still won't feel the relationship. Is better you marry a man who can go to the moon n back for you than to marry one you love more than he does. Just take time to heal. I am sure your own man go come.
ReplyDeleteIt is well o, all this people that use to cry after break up, nna b better person o
ReplyDeletemay we b say as I dey date u I don dey plan my exit
who gat time for radarada
Why are women so scared of being single? I understand that it's great to have someone to share your life with but you should never make a man the essence of your existence. Your life shouldn't revolve around a man.
ReplyDeleteYou need to love yourself and make yourself your number 1 priority-at least until you have kids.
If a guy doesn't think you are good enough for him take in good strides. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. It only means he's not the one and you're a step closer to meeting the right person.
Don't spend another moment wallowing over a guy that you won't remeber in a couple of years.
You'll be fine my dear. Your man will locate you at the right time. In the meantime, take sometime off dating to enjoy being single. Work on yourself confidence, socialise with different people but most importantly, take time to reflect on the mistakes you may have made in your previous relationships. Learn from them. Figure out what you really want in a relationship. These will help you make a more informed decision when chossing your next boyfriend.
If u like work on urself till ure 99% perfect, you can still be dumped after u date a "good man" for a long while.
DeleteAnon15:50 very true
DeleteTrue! But she's not working on herself to please any man. She needs to do it for herself. From her narrative you can sense that she feels it's weird to be single at 25. She may have given him the impression that she's desperate to be in a relationship or she may have come off clingy or possessive. Whatever the case, there's always something to be learnt from a break up.
DeleteI used to be in a relationship where I cry myself to sleep every night, my bf is a professional at abusing emotions and he doesn't even know it, he feels he's the best that has happened to Nigeria since jollof rice. I had to stop calling him n even though the first 2 months were hell for me, I endured and now I'm gradually regaining my self confidence.
DeleteYou'll be fine baby girl
Awwww stay strong hun! Channel your energy and thoughts to positivity only.
ReplyDeleteDon't cry, I know it's difficult but yea you gotta be strong. Your own man will definitely come
Ahahahaha.... Isssshhh.... Rubbish and nonsense
ReplyDeleteKill yourself ooo my dear.. Nigeria population go reduce by one.
There are thousands of girls out there dt are not married not to talk of being in a relationship and they are well advanced in age.
My friend is 26yrs,she said d last thing on her mind in marriage. She is in d US now pursuing her masters cum PhD.
U lack self esteem and too desperate reason d guy said he doesn't see d future of u too together.... U didnt gv d guy breathing space hence d comment.
25?? Please go and sit down. When people over 35 haven’t died. Get busy my friend!
ReplyDeleteMothers, please teach your daughters that the other half of their DNA isn't with a man. Teach them that nobody can make them happy. Teach them that they should know their self worth before going into a relationship.
ReplyDeleteYou cant teach the heart how deep or shallow to fall in love....and knowing your self worth doesnt barricade you from feeling heartbroken if a genuine relationship ends!
DeleteYou'd only walk away with ur dignity intact cus you know ur worth.
Oxygen don't I just love you right now 😘.
DeleteBut Oxygen knowing your self worth will save you from making poor choices. Many women cannot independently make good choices. At the start of the relationship is when to ask all the important questions before saying yes to dating. If both of you don't have same values, and are not on same page, stay single. Courting is when to ask even the deepest questions, or don't marry. You must not accept every offer of relationship, you also must not accept every marriage proposal. As adults we live with the choices we make. Making good choices is an important life skill. Amaka is right abeg, its too heavy a burden to place on any human being, expecting happiness from a man.
DeleteMy dear move on.
ReplyDeleteGod will send someone who will love you like no other.
You are crying for Nonsence fuck boy, My friend you better stop if I hear say you Cry again Ehen hmmm...can he even pay your bills or rather take you to Dubai..Dnt mind him is a monkey..
ReplyDeleteyou re here again with you and your Dubai😅😅😅😅
DeletePele ,pickup itself,sounds like my little sis, yellow pawpaw...if it's you ,remember what I said "let it go,build up your career or biz,make money and men will respect you"...
ReplyDeleteAt 25 years and you are acting this way? Make friends, join church groups to take your time, learn a trade to take your time and don’t make a man the center of your universe. People are waiting until later to get married now. Please don’t place a man first. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteU tried Stella, I hv never seen u typed long epistle in a long time. She should not stop crying, she should continue.
ReplyDeleteMet one Ibo lady through my sister, she is over 35 and not yet married. I asked why not married, she said most of d guys she has seeing and those she has been introduced to didn't go to school and she can't see herself getting to an illiterate, it can't work.. That is a lady dt knows her onions.
Some ladies in 20s are even rejecting proposal, this one is crying on rejection. What has she achieve in her life.?
Man is her priority. wat a shame
Shut up there!
DeleteYou people will just open your mouths and talk rubbish all over the place, if u dont know what heartbreak feels like just waka pass, i know what shes going through... and i know how painful it is, exept u werent trully in love with the person, we all respond to crisis differently.
If that lady has set one yeye standard for herself to remain single till 50, thats her life. We cant all go same route. She that is rejecting non graduates.. is she complete? Or you think shes got it all. If shes not also lacking something vital in the eyes of men with degree, shebi theyd have been flocking to her... why only illiterates coming her way?? Like attracts like my dear..
Thanks 16:03. The one above be talking shit
Delete@Anon 16:03.Are u Okay?.what rubbish are you saying? I bet u don't know d meaning of depression.Depression is tantamount to suicide. Someoneone got jilted at 25 and depressed cos of dt, Wat u could say was "we handle love differently.
DeleteSo wat should happen to 2face other baby mama's, dey ought to hv been depressed when he picked Annie.. Show me a married couple dt has not gone thru rejection. Some were rejected more than 5 times before settling down.
D poster need to work on herself, she has low self esteem,if she was d other lady at 35,she would hv been married all in d name settling down and thereby making herself happy.
@anon 16:03,go to Aro and see ladies that are having mental issues cos of ds similar problems,all because of man,so next time,if u don't know Wat to say, u keep shout. ...D poster is not even sure if her future husband is d future president of USA or Nigeria.
The guy didn't comit any crime by leaving her, he has his reasons... Crying for 2hrs and going to depression is bull crap.... #angrymood
Don't mind them ,in as much as she has to move on we all know that a breakup can be very hurtful
DeletePoster please cry the way you feel the pain after that wipe your tears, look good and keep yourself busy with work, friends or church .Dont rush into any relationship for now and don't make the mistake of contacting ur ex.Just believe you deserve better and God has someone better for you.
With time you will be fine .
Stella just told you the truth. Crying because of man, Nne you no try Rada Rada. Take your self out and treat yourself well, pamper yourself for not being with in loveless relationship. Yours will find you and you will bless the day the ex broke up with you Biko. Thank God you are free.
ReplyDeleteWhile in d university,I had a friend dt dated a girl throughout their 5yrs in school, d 2 families don knw d guy and d lady. After NYSC, dey were planning of settling down when dey discovered dt dey were both AS. Today,dey are happily married to different partners with lovely and beautiful children.
ReplyDeleteTo d storyteller,cry if u want to but move on wt ur lives... Las las, u go dey alright.
Who told u theyre both happy? Looks can be deceiving oh.
DeleteTheyre married with kids doesnt mean theyre happy.
Wen a guy breaks up with you in such manner, it's simply coz he's started seeing someone else. Cheats everywhere
ReplyDeleteLol... who do u this thing? You must have fallen for one Y demon pele
Deletemy dear the wound is fresh that's why u feel the pain,trust me in few months u will forget it happened..get busy with other things u love doing.make yourself a better person for you! and you alone.any other person should come second ,love yourself first that way u dictate who stays in your life and who overstayed.u will be fine.#hugs
ReplyDeleteI perceive, you have an intoverted personality hence the reason for your 'zero' friends list and fear to start all over again. My advice is, do not let emotions consume your thoughts because sooner or later it will be history. Just know that whatever you are going through now is temporary. You are still young @ 25 even @30 to start again. Don't let your emotions be your reality.
ReplyDeleteSELAH.
Go and follow Juliet Ibrahim on IG, youre both in same whatsapp group!
ReplyDeleteHeartbreak is so damn painful... not everyone feels that pain, we all love differently, some just move on easily without tears.... others like this poster will have sleepless nights & soak her pillow for days, then the memory will linger for weeks, but it sure gets better with time, nothing will help but time, just keep urself distracted and keep off his page and pics or you'd be prolonging the pain. SORRY DEAR! Thats life.
I am 32 oooooooooooo and not in a relationship. I supposed don kill myself 7 years ago..... Mumu geh
ReplyDeleteShut up old woman! Must you abuse her? Frustrated being
DeleteYou too mumu.
DeleteWho wants to date a mumu at 32?
You sound like a clingy/needy woman. He probably got tired of you. Guys like confident women and it seems you rely your emotions completely on him. Who has time for that crap? Heck I’ll get tired of you as well. Stop relying your happiness on people. Work on your depressed mood or underlying issues, work on your self worth, improve yourself. Start working out, cut down white carbs, eat healthy to increase serotonin in your brain (feel good hormone), stay in sun every morning to get enough vitamin D to boost your mood, see a therapist or someone close to you, work on a new skill or hobby to keep you busy, step out of your comfort zone and make new friends! Start with just 1 or 2 friends. You need to seriously work on yourself first to attract good men that will cheerish you! Work on yourself madam! Else men/people will continue to take advantage of you.
ReplyDeleteYou mirrored my reservations. She may be possessive or needy. She needs to work on her self confidence.
DeletePoster, even having a casual relationship with a person, it hurts a little when you break up more less somebody you are actually in love with. That said, you cannot force the guy back into your life. For now try as much as you can to work on your pains. You can cry but don't take it too far to the point of depression. You will be surprised that if he has a change of mind and comes back, you will see him as a spec.
DeleteLove your self girl and look for things that will make you happy. Don't jump into any relationship right now. You are very vulnerable at the moment.
If na by confido then woman like Toke & the others shouldnt be single na.
Delete@annon 17:14. Ahhh so you’re saying toke is a confident woman, If you equate designer bags, shoes, IG pictures, surgery, general show off as being confident, then there’s a serious problem among our women. I believe naija needs to have a women’s center and tools to help build girls self esteem/self worth, so they can learn to value themselves.
DeleteYou will be fine. Remove that depression from your mind, you will definitely meet the one for you.
ReplyDeleteIf it’s any consolation to you my dear poster, I am 30, my boyfriend broke up with me recently. I cried...privately, I prayed, and I threw myself into work and fun activities with friends and colleagues.
ReplyDeleteHe has called and tried to talk to analyze things, I told him to move on cos that is what people that breakup should do, and when he kept calling on video, I blocked him and deleted him.
He doesn’t deserve me, I was 100% faithful and loyal and I’m a brilliant beautiful lady...yes I believe I am and you should too, if he doesn’t see it, he is not right for me.
Forget this hype and fear becoming aunty gwegs because you deserve to go any and be happy than rush and be sad.
I have friends that married early, I won’t lie sometimes I think they are lucky, being out of the dating game and having kids, but other times when I’m honest I know that only very few of them do I truly admire, and those are the few lucky ones that married decent men...the rest I watch how they give up on life and just focusing on kids and being wife.
So cheer up but first cry your heart out and then wipe those tears and go out there and live! You deserve someone that will love you and treat you right, that person hasn’t come so go on and live and focus on making money, looking good, enjoying life, learn to laugh again and be open to friendships! Stop making your relationship with your boyfriend your only relationship(for future) relationships.
And take this from me....you will be alright....hugs and kisses
Poster this advice is the best. My boyfriend of over 2 years texted this morning with all sorts. Asking that we should break up, I told him to get on with it. This one is even a boyfriend that I don't need anything from. He just called this evening that we should meet. I told him I'm too tired to see him and I'm ok with his decision. Get busy darling. You will be ok.
DeleteTo date this anonymous just hungry me... plenty sense wont kill u.
DeleteAnon 15:51, I just love you and pray that the Good Lord will put a huge smile on your face soon.
DeletePoster come closer for E-hugs. Dry your tears,ok..He's not meant for you. The one meant for you will surely come. I wished you never shed those precious tears in his presence. You've made him start feeling fly. As for seeing him everyday, as time goes on you will defiantly forget someone like him is existing. Always look good, nice hair do,glam up your face,wear nice perfume, always make sure you look sexy and attractive believe me you will see men rushing you like hot agege bread while you miserable ex will be regretting he ever let you go. But this time around, when they start rushing you baby girl don't keep one boyfriend again ooh. Keep like three or four serious suitors at your beck and call. Play your game well. Life itself is a game and the best player takes the medal. Nothing like I'm faithful to one person in your dictionary anyomore,bcos nobody wey faithfulness don EPP. The one that put a ring on your finger and pays your bride price is the only person that deserved your faithfulness. I was also faithful to one guy until I learnt my lesson the hard way. Now, I'm faithful to nobody until I'm legally married. I'm not saying you should be sleeping around ooh,just make sure you always have stand by guy so that any day the main guy walks away you will smile and tell him to go to hell while you move onto your next boo.
ReplyDeleteNo time to dey check time.
All the best poster.
You are only 25 for pete's sake! Why are you girls this desperate when it comes to men? Do you really want to be with someone who does not care about you? Don't you have dreams? goals?
ReplyDeleteDon't get it twisted, you are lucky you have a medium you can communicate. 13 years ago, we had none, and i was 25, no friends but my boyfriend and the choice of not having friends was my then boyfriend. we were together at least 18h a day. he broke up with me for no reason but instead of me to let him go, i cried, begged, almost committed suicide until he took me back. we got married after 2 years and it was the worst mistake of my life. he didn't love me but pitied me, our marriage was empty, i was the one doing all the work to make it work. the first to apologised even when i am not wrong, tolerate his cheating. he took very good care of us, and never lay his hands on me but i was lonely. i left after 5 years, he actually was in the habit to threaten me every time with divorce. one day, i decided to have self love and took my kids away. he still provide times to times, he married the girl he was having an affair with, i knew about her.
Today, i am happy, i have my confidence back, i have a career, and guess what? i decide who stays or go in my life. i am dating a very great man who adores me, i don't even know why he does love me like he does. next year, we will be married. he loves my kids and makes me happy. it took me 10 years to realise this.
There is more in life apart from men, men are attracted to confident women who have it together. Don't try too hard, dont be desperate. Just live !
Close your leg till marriage oh, make me sef advice you.
DeleteYou are only 25yrs old o....Don't worry dear you will start over and it will be better than before. My own broke up with me at 28yrs, 3months to our wedding after 4yrs of courtship. It's not gonna be easy but you'll be fine eventually. Stay strong.
ReplyDeleteLet me use Kerry Washington as an example, because she is Nigerian-adjacent.
ReplyDeleteWhen she was in her 20s, she was engaged to another actor. She did interviews talking about her upcoming wedding. She did photoshoots in prospective wedding dresses etc. The wedding/marriage never took place. Can you imagine how embarrassing that must be for a public figure?
Well,she didn't let deter her. She took movie roles, did Broadway etc. to further her career. Then came the show "Scandal", which made her one of the highest paid actresses in primetime TV.
In her mid-30s, word comes around that she has gotten married...and 10 months later, she has her first child. She met Nnamdi whilst doing one of her Broadway shows.
If you look at that pix of her in Igbo attire from her MIL's event (Stella posted it a few months ago), you can clearly see a woman in love! A woman fulfilled!
Had she gotten married in her 20s...which most deem as "ideal", who is to say how her future would have turned out to be?!
We all have different paths! You have the rest of your life to be happily married. Do not let the ideology of marrying before 25 lead you to misery.
God bless you.
DeleteAnd please,always keep a spare tyre or a side nigga when you start dating again cause these niggas ain't loyal.😉😋😋😋
ReplyDelete@25 you are still young. Just like Stella said,pick yourself and dust up your life. you can meet someone within 6mnth and settle down. love and marriage doesn't take eternity to happen. Depression is not good for you, you need to find your confidence and wear it like a cloth. love yourself more and treat yourself right. there's a special man out there waiting patiently for you. yes only you. (abeg no die before time ooo) Darling stop crying take it as God knows best
ReplyDeleteJust believe it's coming from God for better things to come your way. It's okay to cry. But while at it, block him on all your social media handles and try to avoid anything/place that would remind you of him. And please, get yourself busy with different church activities just to take your mind off him. Believe me, you will forget him in no time. It's not easy though but with God on your side, you shall overcome. this.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all you need to start making
ReplyDeleteFriends. Forget all this talk of I don't do friends. I take my friendships very serious. In times of break'up like this those are the ppl that will pick you up. Abuse the guy well on your behalf,you will vent and vent to them. I remember one break-up I had. My kolo friend called the guy up and cursed his life. They would come,take me out,we joined gym 2geda.just stuff to forget him.
You are 25 my dear,heart break isn't easy but it is normal.
You must not be in relationship 24/7. Use this time to make friends, develop yourself, join a group in church, socialize.
Your life as a young lady shouldn't be all about being with a man. You also need to have a life outside a relationship. When you make a man your alpha and omega they start to get choked and feel they are more than they are.
Take time to heal. But pick yourself up and move on. Time heals all wounds.
Please, go and sit down and stop talking nonsense. You have dated more than two men 25? Another ex recorded. Did u sleep with all of them? The major reason ladies cry so bad and feel like the world is going to end if a relationship is called off is that, they've given their bodies to the men several times and it's hard to let go
ReplyDeleteIf you dated a man and never surrendered your body to him, if he called off the relationship, you would walk majestically knowing he never had carnal knowledge of u.
Stay away from men and enjoy your life. If you find yourself in another relationship, don't ever sleep with him. Okay? You will be happy!
Move on.
Oh shut it! So if you lose a huge sum of money today you won’t grieve because you didn’t fuck it?
DeletePeople have different priorities and attach heightened sentiments to various things. People also have different emotional stability levels. She said here that she’s a loner and sadly she built her walls around him. Now he’s dumped her and she’s devastated. Whether or not she slept with him it would have been about the same feeling. What’s so difficult to understand?
The only issue i feel she may have is her view on her age and starting a new relationship. Please Let’s try to be reflective of what we call ourselves.
My dear I have had a no sex relationship were I was still heart-broken when we broke up.
DeleteI had invested two years of my heart and emotions and time. And the plan was we were going to get married before i saw the real him..
You have the right not to like my comment but don't tell me to "shut it". Air your opinion politely or just move to the next comment.
DeleteLilian, everything is not fuck.
DeleteThank you Ivannah...
Anonymous 18:19 yes, you would be heart broken if a relationship you were in was called off, it is normal but trust me when I say the heart break you felt would have been worse if you had given him your body too. That is just the truth.
DeleteSelective amnesia? Were you polite to the poster? Anyway my apologies for my tone.
DeleteIvannah
Lilian, see how hypocritical you are? You don’t want t be insulted but read your first line to the poster.
DeleteThank God that I’m not Ivannah cos I would curse your head off. She even apologized to you in spite of your rudeness.
Btw, sex doesn’t constitute the totality of emotions in a relationship. When you’ve invested years, it hurts! You’re very insensitive and that arrogance and self-righteousness could be your undoing if you repent
**dont repent**
DeleteMy dear it hurts truly but see i am telling you, it will be okay soon and you will be fine. Just last month i was heartbroken too, he picked up a quarrel with me over something minor i was wondering why he would take it to heart that much. I did not understand till he sent me a text in a few days that he had decided to go back to his ex and marry her i even replied i don't care thinking he was just trying to hurt me this happened on a Wednesday nna by Saturday oga got wedded in Church. Bottom line oga had another relationship tey tey i did not know my relationship with him just clocked 3 months. Yes i felt it in my heart that something was not just right but just hoped it was just me being distrusting. Nne i cried too but why am i telling you this your man has someone else and that's why he broke up with you with no remorse. My dear i have forgiven him o, even sent him congratulations you know why it helped me heal and accept it. So cry if you feel like it if you have a friend that's loyal share with her or him it lightens you up. Now i don't even remember him cos i knew I'd be okay in just a matter of time. Sorry!
ReplyDeleteTrue talk
DeleteMy dear I understand how you feel but that's not a reason to be depressed.
ReplyDeleteAnyway he has done his own and that's is his own loss. Stop crying and move on, go out more and catch fun. The truth is sooner or later someone that is yours will find who will adore you and worship you.
And for now, stay away from men and enjoy being single, be free and happy with yourself. Don't rush into any relationship now, you need to define yourself and able to stand on your own in case anything happens. Then always prepare your mind for the worst in any relationship, change is constant and anything can happen in a split seconds.
God will change your story, just find something to keep you busy from thinking about him. God help you.
*If you want to enjoy a man, don't make him your alpha and omega, let him know it isn't a do or die affair, na that time them go sit up, if you let him know you can't do without him, that's when misbehaving will start.
@Anon 16:03.Are u Okay?.what rubbish are you saying? I bet u don't know d meaning of depression.Depression is tantamount to suicide. Someoneone got jilted at 25 and depressed cos of dt, Wat u could say was "we handle love differently.
ReplyDeleteSo wat should happen to 2face other baby mama's, dey ought to hv been depressed when he picked Annie.. Show me a married couple dt has not gone thru rejection. Some were rejected more than 5 times before settling down.
D poster need to work on herself, she has low self esteem,if she was d other lady at 35,she would hv been married all in d name settling down and thereby making herself happy.
@anon 16:03,go to Aro and see ladies that are having mental issues cos of ds similar problems,all because of man,so next time,if u don't know Wat to say, u keep shout. ...D poster is not even sure if her future husband is d future president of USA or Nigeria.
The guy didn't comit any crime by leaving her, he has his reasons... Crying for 2hrs and going to depression is bull crap.... #angrymood
Dear Poster, I totally understand how u feel but trust me All things work 2geda for good. This was me last year wen I found out a lady was 6 months preggy for my ex and he was begging me to forgive him dt it was a mistake,I almost ran mad but today I'm happily married to a man who adores me and I am so grateful for past disappointments. So wat I am saying in summary is that although it might look like its d end of d world, trust me there is GOLD ahead of u. All u need to do is BELIEVE.
ReplyDeleteMove on already my dear, he doesn't deserve your love, love will find you in the least place where you don't expect
ReplyDeleteSo me that the husband deliberately disappeared into thin air and went incommunicado simply because he became tired of living a responsible life I should kukuma commit suicide abi?
ReplyDeleteJust ordinary boyfriend and at 25years and you're here sounding as if you a death sentence has been passed over your life. If I hear that you don't dry those stupid tears and focuse your mind on pushing your career, making money moves and living a fabulous life! You're 25years babe! If I know what I knew now and at 25 I would have made badass moves over my life instead of tying myself down with a man that wasn't worth it (it's his loss anyway because I'm still going to make my 30's rock!)
Cut your losses & death weights and move on puleaze!
Poster move on already, the guy is not into you. You want to die cos of one prick where millions of prick are moving up and down. Who told you that if he walks away you will never see another man to love you, why do you want to dew in the past? Cheer up, face front and see your man.
ReplyDeleteYou are sounding this way just because of a bf, what will you do if your husband end the marriage with you? You better come and take hot slap from me to clear your brain. Move on please.
You see how loves makes u weak n vulnerable? My dear u can fake love, fake it and let him feel ontop of d world, meanwhile ur heart is guarded, that way if a breakup comes, u take it like a champ...love your man o, but don't lose urself in it, don't make him d air u breath, u will choke If that oxygen run low.
ReplyDeleteThanks@all for all your advices
ReplyDeleteI really appreciate you
God bless SDK family.
I'm now feeling better
Thanks once again
You will be fine dear,I understand what you are going through,my ex proposed last year November, beginning of this year he went cold on me without a reason,I tried to reach out no way,mid year I heard he got some else pregnant, guess what,he got married last month,4 years of dating ,you are still young,things will fall in place for you,do you and live life,I am 32 but I am not bothered
DeleteYou better feel better. No man is worth it for you to go into depression. You are far too young.
DeleteTrust me there isn't hardly a woman that hasn't been through heart break before,it is normal.
Even as a married woman your husband will do some heartbreaking things to you.
Never make your existence be about a man. Have other friendships and interest. Another human being can't complete you. You have to have several strong relationships in your life. Be it friendships,kids and your immediate family.
You're just 25years babes, 25! You never even start life believe you me. You're just starting out in life...experience it & discover yourself/purpose in the process, build a solid financial foundation for yourself and you will find out that you will be better equipped to deal with anything life throws at you.
DeleteIf I could rewind my life back to when I was 25, trust me, I would have different priorities. Seeking and finding my purpose in life would be my priority not having a boyfriend. There's a time for everything I've come to understand that now that I'm much older. Change your perspective poster. Any man who leaves your life is doing you a huge favor. In addition to creating room for the right one, now you have a fresh opportunity to find yourself and your purpose. Husband will more than likely be on that path. And if you ever find yourself in this position, never ever cry in front of him. Tell him 'o yeah I think this is what's best for us'... then go home and cry in the shower. Learn to walk away with dignity. There are many fishes in the sea. You will smile again. You will fall in love again. But first, find yourself and your purpose. Goodluck
ReplyDeleteNonsense chronicle. Mtcheeww
ReplyDeleteYou will get over it. So many of us have been through that road.its normal to cry etc but then,comfort yourself and compensate by being more successful.
ReplyDeleteNo man is worth my tears again.