STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
THE PLACENTA QUESTION
Good day Stella.
Please I urgently need your advice. Please kindly post as a chronicle so I can get to hear different opinions regarding my issue.. Thanks!
I am currently pregnant right now and my Edd is close. Now the issue is that my hubby is from the riverine area of Rivers State, while I'm from the East.
My FIL is insisting that my hubby must bring my baby's placenta back home to him as its their custom and tradition. When I had my first baby, he was out of the country & I burnt it after anointing with oil..
This one now they are insisting I don't just understand, is that the norm and traditions in Rivers State? Please kindly help coz I told him that I'm going to burn it as I did the first one, but he's insisting that he is the child's father as well and he has more right as I do, moreover his dad is a very religious person so I shouldn't be scared of anything..
After anointing and praying over my baby's placenta can it still be used for anything good or bad? How do I handle this situation?
Good day Stella.
Please I urgently need your advice. Please kindly post as a chronicle so I can get to hear different opinions regarding my issue.. Thanks!
I am currently pregnant right now and my Edd is close. Now the issue is that my hubby is from the riverine area of Rivers State, while I'm from the East.
My FIL is insisting that my hubby must bring my baby's placenta back home to him as its their custom and tradition. When I had my first baby, he was out of the country & I burnt it after anointing with oil..
This one now they are insisting I don't just understand, is that the norm and traditions in Rivers State? Please kindly help coz I told him that I'm going to burn it as I did the first one, but he's insisting that he is the child's father as well and he has more right as I do, moreover his dad is a very religious person so I shouldn't be scared of anything..
After anointing and praying over my baby's placenta can it still be used for anything good or bad? How do I handle this situation?
*I dont know anything about this but sounds somehow.
Where are the Rivers state people in the house, your attention is needed urgently.
ReplyDeleteAm from Rivers state the riverian area also. Never heard of such before. Did not even collect mine from the hospital,it was disposed there. All my siblings same thing. Maybe it's just his family tradition.
DeleteHnmmmm
DeleteI am from rivers state all these are superstitious beliefs.
DeletePoster I beg you in the name of God Almighty never ever hand over that placenta to your father in-law. If I tell you the kind of evil that could be done using a child's placenta you will rather runaway from that marriage that hand it over to your husband. Stand your ground. Forget that talk that your father in-law is spiritual, spiritual my foot. If he's spiritual why fighting over the placenta for it to be sent over? Moreover, most Ogboni and occultist people hide under deacon and elders in church so don't lemme them fool you. Most people that demand for placentas are usually in the Ogboni kingdom and they Mostly used it to renew their old age. Some also steal the child's glory thereby rendering the child efulefu for life. Many more evil things they do with it. But lemme stop here. If you know ,you know.
DeleteShine your eyes before mmiri ncha abagi naya there.
Tell the one of the hospital personnel to hide it fir you agter delivery, then come later and announce to you and your hubby that they have disposed. Later take the thing and dispose properly joor. Village kor, tradition ni!!
DeleteNo need to argue with them, just say you have heard. Thing is they would be hanging around for your delivery date so you need a plan. You need to go somewhere like Luther to deliver your baby but go beforehand to speak to someone in charge say the matron or medical director. A plan can be hatched where the placenta is not released to anyone but sorted immediately. Are they going to fight the medical director? You sef will look sad after that you needed the placenta o. Sorry but I feel your husband is the one who actually wants it and you know what for
DeleteMadame look for an old midwifer or an old matron, ask them to tell you the name of the part of meat that looks exactly like placenta. Arrange with a meat seller to get you one, let one of your trusted family be around to get it for you from the meat seller as soon as you go into labor,remember to carry the hospital along with the plan. Give your husband that while you keep the real placenta. Every meat seller knows the part that looks like placenta and the animal with the exact human size.
DeleteMuch ado about a
ReplyDeleteP lacenta
In spiritual matters...ignorance is not an excuse and don't trivialize the placenta issue. When you give birth, you can give it out to anybody you hear?
DeleteWhat in the Okija shrine-ojuju calabar-pericoma na anyi ajo alu-ala nwanyi asaba is going on here? 🤪
DeleteMumu dey disturb you. Hahahahaha
DeleteBefore you married him, didn't you know about such traditions?
ReplyDeleteWhy are "religious" people following traditions?
What actually do they do with the placentas, have you bothered to find out?
Look at Scriptures before taking any step:
Romans 6:13 Do not offer any part of yourself to sin as an instrument of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer every part of yourself to him as an instrument of righteousness.
If they use it as "offering to evil -devils" in such "traditions", you and your kids will be having the repercussions. Let your husband be the man and handle it.
I taya o
DeleteSo if una come live for USA, you package placenta post am for DHL so them go obey
foolish traditions?
And wetin ya husband dey there dey do; make im bring im papa to order na?
Oh shut it with this "before you married him" phrase. How does it even apply here btw.
DeleteI tire for her
DeletePoster im not from either of
ReplyDeletethose places you mentioned so i don't know what to tell u except pray that an emergency trip comes up for your husband just before labor starts, so you dispose of it however you wish.
Lol
DeleteNever heard of this sort of tradition
ReplyDeletePoster,Its your child you Carried in your womb for nine months without your FIL helping you to carry so..Only you have the right to do what you want irrespective of what they think.
ReplyDeleteMind you, that placenta was the only thing that connected you with your bby,don't compromise!
Do what you want.
After that, buy cow placenta and keep in the freezer for him to give his mum cos peradventure he is around while you give birth, the doctor will hand it over to him.
ReplyDeleteFantastic idea!
DeleteCow own will be too big, find goat own
Deleteapt!!!!!
DeleteLol... But really it is so weird. I thought placenta ish is so sacred so why is ur FIL asking for it? Please find ways to avoid giving it to him.
DeleteGbam!!!
DeleteYou have said it all. Goat placenta to the rescue.
DeleteThat is how they tie down innocent babies destinies to demonic deities. These things are fetish and have repercussions on the future of the child. Do not give it to them.
ReplyDeletePlacenta is not tour babies. It is yours. You grew it, so tou decide. If they cant handle tou burning it, then they have ulterior motives. Do not compromise. Religious ko, religious ni. Dont you read the news about so called religious people that are fetish in hiding?
DeletePlease don't answer them. It is your body,your placenta and your baby. No one has the right to dictate what you should do.
ReplyDeleteI have heard of some families where all their placentas are planted under a particular tree in their family compound. I find it occultic.
I don't believe in such things pls. Maybe you can connive with the doc and nurses in the hospital to claim they have disposed of it when your husband come asking of it after delivery.
I don't like the idea pls.
FIL this MIL that........ when will Nigerians learn to marry and face their marriage. This is part of the reason why marriages don’t last. Too many external involvements
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of entitlement mentality is your husband having by saying he has right to the child than You? A child you pushed out? A placenta you pushed out? Give no placenta to nobody Mami. Let them know both the baby and the placenta came from your tummy and you have the right to it.
ReplyDeleteAll these kind stuff sef, kids will just be experiencing some kind stuff they know nothing about later in life,. I thought hospitals dispose of it? we don't use placenta for anything, d hospital disposes it. don't let any generational stuff be passed onto ur baby o, just tell d hospital to dispose it n feign ignorance.
ReplyDeleteHospitals dispose ke? That one is even worse cause some hospitals sell them to people
DeleteIf Nigeria wasn't backwards hospital should dispose without patients having fear or doubt.
DeleteMeanwhile, poster don't you dare give your in law the placenta, it's creepy mehn, tradition my black hair.
I'll rather donate donate the placenta than give it to FIL to do whatever.
This isn’t an issue, u can ask ur husband to tell his dad u are worried nd need an explanation on what it’s used for and if no explanation is given, just prayband give it to them, no evil would befall ur child except u believe it would
ReplyDeletePlease don’t listen to anon 15:09. Fight for your baby, no one has right to take the placenta. What if you are based abroad? If that child has issues later in life, you will carry the cross yourself. Your husband can even remarry but your child is yours. Tell the doctors not to allow this, not to hand it over to your husband. Tell someone in your family to stand by you, involve your pastor, fight for your baby’s life and destiny!!!
DeleteExactly @ anon 17.36.
DeleteThank you anon 17.36 for the clear rebuke! Clearly Anon 15.09 is either far from GOD and or the realities of this life....
Delete'but he's insisting that he is the child's father as well and he has more right as I do'
ReplyDeleteOh God, every day I ask why I was born in this demented, curse, primitive, retrogressive society?
WHY?????????????
I join you ask why oooo
DeleteLol.
DeleteConfide in a trusted (and tough) person and ask them to be there with you when you give birth. So, even of the hospital gives your husband the placenta, the trusted person and still get it back from him. Then when you are strong, you can then annoit and burn. Or just continue to talk to your husband...
ReplyDeleteThe whole thing sounds/looks shaddy.
She need God more than ever since hubby too is insisting on giving FIL
Delete'but he's insisting that he is the child's father as well and he has more right as I do'
ReplyDeleteOh God, every day I ask why I was born in this demented, curse, primitive, retrogressive society?
WHY?????????????
Sorry but there is no way I'm handing over my placenta to anyone. Fyi info placenta is a part of your own body, it;s not a baby, so don't understand why husband said he's the baby's father too. Placenta is entirely different from the baby. It's yours. Jeeez sounds too fetish.
ReplyDeleteGbam
DeleteDone with weak men. Your husband can’t back you up?
ReplyDeleteMy husband is going on about a bloody seperation just a few weeks to delivery. Can’t wait to pop champagne celebrating his weakly broke ass goodbye.
Good luck with your placenta ish
Pray for you and your baby. Focus on you and your baby. It is well with you. Don’t let any man stress you o! Your life is precious. 😘
DeleteThe FIL is a Punkass for demanding for that which does not belong to him. She should never allow her husband to do that whatsoever
ReplyDeleteI was told that planceta smells after some days so how did u burn it to ashes with d wetness
ReplyDeleteSo if u gave birth in the abroad or in a prison clinic, ur hubby and his father will insist that the body parts ie placenta rlare transported to Rivers?
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm this is serious.
ReplyDeleteJust be careful sha. Don't know what to say. Maybe it is traditional and it is still diabolical too
Hmmmmmm!!!
ReplyDeleteHearing this kind of issue for the first time...
Side eyes at your fil
Religious person ok oooo
Will read comments today.
ReplyDeleteMy question to your poster. Did anything go wrong since your first baby's placenta did do go to Father in law? Since they didn't see the first one and everybody is fine including their culture why is this one special. Ask them questions. Do not be quiet. Pray and tell God to take charge and distract them, in fact let hubby travel . So that you will handle it yourself.
ReplyDeletePoster,don't ask any questions. Your husband doesn't have more right to the kids..smfh..Burn it, and tell the nurse you don't want your husband in the labour room...What right has your father in law to demand for anything? Did you get married to him? What the F? I hate Some African backwards mentality mehnn...
Deletedo not give them is better the marriage break .do not.do not
ReplyDeleteThought placentas are meant to be buried? Now it's a FIL that's requesting for it??
ReplyDeleteThis has an occultic undertone to it.
Now is the time to watch & pray.
Or as someone suggested up there, can you arrange for it to be swapped with a cow's??
I hate unnecessary interferences, why can't people respect boundaries for crying out loud, look at what a preggy woman is facing. Why are people so self-centred.
ReplyDeleteYour FIL is married, if he want to keep up with tradition, he should go and have another Child. You can mess with me, i can take it, mess with my child, no I won't take it.
My dear, you only die once, dont let it bother you, you are the child's mum, protecting the child and yourself should be the priority. Why is your husband weak? Is he still depending on his family for money??? Please oooo trust no one.
Are you sure it is not your husband that wants to use it? Using his father as a cover up? What did they tell you they want to use it for? If I were you,I would not allow it.
ReplyDeleteEnter your comment...na WA o
ReplyDeleteDon't do it.
ReplyDeletePray about it.
Let ur hubby be away on a business or work trip when labor starts.
then you do away with the placenta yourself.
Some Igbo traditions encourage such practice. They bury the placenta in their ancestral land. Frankly speaking, it is devilish and retrogressive. If you can find a way to avoid it pls do!
ReplyDeleteposter, i actually dont buy the idea.ifi wont give up that placenta for anything in the world.dont be surprised ur FIL didnt ask for it. maybe it would be ur husband wanting to use it. because i believe your father in law would not call you on the phone for such. Rather he went through your husband. so i would advice you call your father stylishly to verify and maybe get a good reason you should do it
ReplyDeleteMy dear ask them and know what is needed for.
ReplyDeleteMy sis married an Ngwa man in Abia state. When she delivered her first child, her SIL told her that they will bring her baby's umbilical cord when it falls off. Though she gave them but she said she regretted it, that had it been she knew she would had insisted on not giving
The other pregnancies she refused to hand over anything.
Pertaining to your question on whether it is a norm there, it is possible. But you can ask your 'nwunyedis'( co-wives), or are u the first DIL in that family? Ask them if they did same thing.
My placenta was left in the hospital.
My dear find animal placenta e.g. goat and give it to them......or better still plan with the nurse , come up with stories they would buy.some people just be looking for ways to cause chaos in homes.
ReplyDeleteLUTH doesn't even give the placenta to anyone it belongs to the management, all this unnecessary traditions, I pray God delivers Nigerians from religion and cultural slavary
ReplyDeleteDiabolical stuff. Better buy cow placenta like Bianca said and give it to them. He has more rights because he is the father? Give him the cow let him do with his rights. And please watch out for yourself. Not everybody that says God walks in total righteousness.
ReplyDeleteJust be wise
ReplyDeletePoster forget your father in-law being a religious man. Na only ur heart you know oo.
ReplyDeleteI'm from Rivers nothing of such, except it's a family or compound thing.
ReplyDeleteEnter your comment..my dear please don't try it.
ReplyDeleteif you are cool with your inlaw (wives),kindly ask them how far. cos me i no trust ya hubby
ReplyDeleteDon't try it,if only you know about placenta bondage, you will not even allow them take it
ReplyDeletehmmmm, this sounds so serious, but I advice the woman to be careful and consult wide before embarking on that journey
ReplyDeletepls don't give your FIL that placenta oo, the man might be occultic.what ever they want to use it for will affect your child's destiny. don't let your child suffer for what he or she doesn't know any about.
ReplyDeleteNo, poster please don't give the placenta to your FIL, but this one the son his supporting him is what I don't understand.
ReplyDeleteThey do it in my area of Rivers state ,I don't know what fir but fathers plant itin plantain sucker for each child but it is not compulsory
ReplyDeleteAm from that area,don't give him,unheard of.FIL dey lie😏no tradition like that.
ReplyDeleteFor the sake of the unborn child and yourself, do not give that placenta to anybody. Many people's destinies have been destroyed using their placenta, first hair on their head, blood during child labour and even first sponge used to bath them.
ReplyDeleteNo gree for your husband,confide in your own parents too.
Tell him ,u had a retained placenta, which was removed through MVA.that after the MVA.it was bloody,then disposed by the doc.
ReplyDeleteNa simple issue na. Agree to it wholeheartedly. Don't argue. Then after birth tell your husband that the placenta scattered inside your tummy. They had to bring it out piece by piece. Tell am say na God save you. That due to the pain you fell unconscious and didn't know what they did with it. Let a nurse hide it for you to give your mum codedly. All these kind in law matter them no dey win the argument. Just agree like a mumu and do what's on ur mind. Let them give u space to birth your child in peace.
ReplyDeleteYou too sabi abeg!
DeletePoster, do not argue with them.
Madam dont ever try it
ReplyDeleteFear don catch me.Poster please don't tell ur husband when in labor,if possible.Let him arrive after delivery. Na wa
ReplyDeleteI am suspecting that your husband want's to use it for ritual. ABORT MITION!!!
ReplyDeletePlease I beg you with whatever that you cherish most, DO NOT GIVE THEM THE PLACENTA.PRAY WITH IT AS YOU DID BEFORE, UNLESS IF YOU DON'T LOVE YOUR CHILDRENS FUTURE
ReplyDeleteDo not give the placenta to anyone. Dispose of it by yourself. Tell your Doctor not to release the placenta to your husband.
ReplyDeleteYou may be threatened, do not mind. Protect your Children with your life.
They have no business with your baby's placenta. Pls anoint it and burn it. Those people are evil and fetish. If they need placenta, they shud born their own pikin. I attend MFM and what I have heard about placentas no be beans. Be careful with such family. Better still you people shud leave this country
ReplyDeletePoster,I think the main issue here is lack of knowledge/understanding.
ReplyDeletePlacenta is part of the uterus of every pregnant woman.....to nourish the fetus, that later came out as your baby. It is, therefore, yours, NOT YOUR BABY'S.
Also, if you are asked now, you will surely claim to be a Christian yet cannot differentiate between evil practices and Christian practices. I'm sorry to be blunt but it's better one is either hot or cold but NOT LUKEWARM. The living and practices of every Christian should be dependent on the traditions/doctrines of the Apostles as, taught by Jesus Christ, our Saviour.
Where does your hubby/FIL get their tradition? Be reminded that any tradition outside Christian belief is not for ANY Christian.
Finally, your decision on this depends on who you REALLY are - a Christian, a traditionalist or a heathen?
Listen and listen real good: DO NOT GIVE YOUR BABY's PLACENTA TO ANYONE.
ReplyDeleteIn the case of my siblings and I, our placenta was burried at the foot of a tree as a way of designating a tree to each person. It wasn’t anything diabolic or fetish, more like fun. I have a palm tree, while my sister has a mango tree, and another,an orange tree. Some of the trees have even been cut down, but while we were growin up, it was fun to show friends my tree. In the case of my much younger siblings, their placenta was disposed of at the hospital, which i believe should be the standard practice. It is my opinion that the placenta should be disposed of in the hospital, but you and your husband should discuss in detail,the intention behind the request. Like you said, if they are true christians, the intention might be something harmless, as was in my case. After this discussion, you both can then reach an agreement.
ReplyDeletePoster,you should apply wisdom in this situation. Remember Eve in the bible? It was sense that she used to make Adam eat the apple that God Himself forbade him from eating. So use that sense, find a way to go to your family house close to your due date. Find an excuse to remove yourself from where your hubby is,even if you have to quarrel with him,and go to your family,let the person you trust go to the hospital with you. Don't let that placenta get to your hubby or fil,that's my two cents.
ReplyDeleteMy friend had this same issue, but the only difference is she gave them the first son placenta and took her bath in a river without telling anyone. Time to have second baby the mother in law came again to collect the placenta of the child, then she reported to her family, it lead to a breakup as her family won’t allow such fetishness. The family claimed is Omoku tradition, I asked everyone I knew in ph no one knows of such tradition. Dear poster don’t give them any placenta, the child will be in bondage. Pray over the placenta and burn it let the family do their worst.
ReplyDeletePOSTER YOU CARRIED YOUR BABY FOR 9 MONTHS, THE BABY DEPENDED ON YOU FOR ITS SURVIVAL. YOUR LOYALTY IS TO THAT BABY MORE THAN YOUR FIL AND HUSBAND. I BEG YOU IN JESUS NAME . DO NOT SEND OUT THAT PLANCENTA. EVEN IF YOU ANOINT IT, DONT YOU DARE IT.
ReplyDeletewell i am from delta state (ndokwa east) and my family does it, its not diabolical for us, and they don not force u to bring it. they use it to plant pear,guava, mango etc... when we go to the village my grandma use to tell us which tree is ours. i can come back from the village and tell my cousin i saw your pear tree its growing bla bla bla.its not necessarily a tradition sef.
ReplyDeleteno gree oh the days are evil. he for kukuma ask for your head
ReplyDeleteWhat if it’s your hubby that codedly wants it? Me sha I take home, rinse off the blood and bury deep in my backyard. I noticed tomatoes growing there recently sef. Be wise!
ReplyDeleteIs ya father in law well so? Se oloriburuku ni won? Does his son have or produce placenta? Collector of placentas oshi! That man is not busy. You people should give him first class family problems so he can focus on more important things in that family. By the time they call family meetings like 8 times in one month, placenta would be the last thing on his mind. Peace ✌️
ReplyDeleteDon't allow it pls.all those whose placenter were used to plant fruits,know that as the fruits grows well, your life does the same.if it withers, your life withers.this things are spiritual. Keep your child placenter far from them.
ReplyDeletePoster, do not give your baby's placenta to any FIL or anybody. A lot of things are tied to that. Please do not give it out. Use wisdom and follow them in order to protect your child's destiny.
ReplyDeleteIf i tell you stories about placenta and how lives, glories and blessings have been stolen you would shiver. Be wise and observant.
The world is full of evil intents and dealings. Be wise. Let God help and direct you.