We attended a family function recently in the state where I grew up. There I saw an old family friend and neighbour, a woman in her fifties....... let's call her Mrs Ben.
I went over and greeted her, Tee my daughter too greeted her and sat on her laps. When we left her seat, immediately, a cousin came to me and warned me never to go too close to her again, I should greet her from afar, she also warned me to take my daughter FAR from her.
Surprised, I asked why....
I was told she had the virus. Without asking for her HIV story, this aproko continued and told me that Mr Ben her husband infected her and died a few years back leaving her to battle with it while also taking care of their five children alone.
Surprised, I asked why....
I was told she had the virus. Without asking for her HIV story, this aproko continued and told me that Mr Ben her husband infected her and died a few years back leaving her to battle with it while also taking care of their five children alone.
What?? I exclaimed, Mr Ben is dead?
Mr Ben in those days was a community d**k. He was an engineer, comfortable but very adulterous. Anytime he got a contract and made money, he would disappear with one of his numerous girlfriends. He would go for weeks and return back home when the money had finished.
Mr Ben used to bring women home to their matrimonial bed in his wife's absence, he even impregnated a neighbour's sister.
In all of these, Mrs Ben was a Godly wife, an enduring and patient wife who would forgive him and welcome him with open arms whenever he disappeared and re-appeared. She turned deaf ears to people's advice back then to leave the marriage especially when side-chicks started fighting her on the streets.
This woman was and still a lover of children, friendly and peaceful. Now she lives with this stigma for being a 'good' wife? I was even told she was laid off at the school where she worked as a Principal when they heard she had the virus.
Hmmmm. I kept thinking of her all through the next couple of weeks after we returned to Lagos.
Are there people here who had been infected with deadly diseases by their partners?
It is well o.
*Eyaaah,poor Lady.
Mama Tee
Mama Tee
It's well...
ReplyDeleteI pray for wisdom in the medical field for them to get a cure.She should continue living her best life.
This remind me of my former neighbor..The husband was a wandering dick and soon married a second wife.He stopped touching her(the first wife) and the newly weds were peppering her with their love.
She faced her kids,business and God though she came crying to my mum sometimes.The hubby contracted the virus and passed it on to wife no 2.(Sadly they were diagnosed at the AIDS level)
First wifey moved out of the house and went to Church to share her testimony thanking God for saving her.
Later they will say leaving a cheating man is not necessary cause it rains everywhere.
ReplyDeleteThis would have been my mom but she died 18 years ago in an accident. Daddy
Deletehas the virus now , he loves women more than his life and was reckless with women.My mum never enjoyed her marriage and i don't know why she stayed.
My childhood friend was infected by her husband. The husband's family members tagged her a witch when the man died. According to them she infected him through witch craft. Oh how she suffered! Her only child eventually died before she also died. May their souls R.I.P.
ReplyDeleteJesus!!!
DeleteOh my God 🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤
DeleteI have a relative. He left his wife in our home state and came to Lagos to hustle for some years. When he made enough money, he went back to pick his wife. She came to Lagos but kept feeling ill. And then he sent her back home and remained in Lagos with the kids.
ReplyDeleteOne aproko from my home town came to get machines from Lagos and landed in our house. Long story short, she told us that the man's wife has HIV and has been sent back. That he was very angry because he had been away for years and when he went to get them he finds out she is positive after her being ill and not responding to treatment.
She died a few years later. The golden question now is: Does the man havr HIV or not? Bobo is not telling anyone. Its been about 10 years now and we dont know. But he looks alright and relates moderately with family members. He has not married again, either. 🤷♀️
My God has been so good to me with divine health. I thank him.
ReplyDeleteI Was at a Lab centre once like that when a pregnant woman came to do hiv test with her hubby. She was so angry and you could easily tell they had a fight before coming out that day. She was even mean to the front desk lady.
Result came out, outburst started. Apparently the hubby infected her with the virus. Both were carriers, she thought of her baby, walked out on the man who was speechless all through. I felt for her.
Fine couple like that. The man's wandering pp caused it.
U know d most painful in all this? The medical association practice, No disclosure. patients, Doc confidentiality very painful, most Family Docs knows about this and can never share it with d partner involved.
ReplyDeleteHad a discussion with a Doc friend in Apapa many yes ago and he told me, a lot of marriages r suffering from HIV but d other partner is not aware.jezzzz.
I blame such women cos na her type go stay for DV marriage, wld I stay if hubby has a wondering dick? It depends, some men r acute womanizers but extremely careful, u can always tell .
lemme share a wonderful secret I learnt from my Uni days , wen u r seeing a guy, pls observe him very very well, observe his diets, medication, skin and etc, never forget to SEARCH his TOILET BAG, na there dey dey hide drugs go tru it thoroughly, u must see something, Viagra, condom,( if he is into stupid ritual sex,toys go dey, HIV drugs ,infection drugs)
Don't just jump into bed, stay at least 3days with him and observe b4 opening ur walls of Jericho( not a guarantee anyways) ,.The WICKED and mischievous ones will slide there hand , pretending to play with ur clit,meanwhile they will full off dir condoms and pour rubbish inside u. Be guarded everyone.
Why not abstain from sex (actually fornication) until you are married?
DeleteWhy all these tumbo tumbo with your life and eternal life?
You go dey search everywhere like rats looking for food in the toilet?
Ur Mumu button don lost aswaer. @16;08. Oh yea righteous Eliza! B fooling urself there JUDGINA. Practice mks perfect wen I marry d searching will continue. May God punish u there ewu! He without sin
DeleteThis woman did not do anything wrong going by this story.
ReplyDeleteThe wrong ones are:
The gossiping neighbors including your "aproko source"
The school that laid her off; all the teachers in that school.
May God see that woman through.
Some of those avoiding her now will even die before her.
What a queer clime.
And you forgot the dogband wey dey browse any available hole?
DeleteThings Are Really Happening Oh
ReplyDeleteI know a wicked guy living with HIV. My friends cousin. I heard he has been positive since university days.
ReplyDeleteMy friend told me the guy recently impregnated a young girl and his mum was travelling to see the girls parents.
I got so annoyed,seeing for marriage or what exactly. This young girl is not aware of the guys status.
Wetin concern you?
DeleteMake the girl close her tohtoh.
My elder sis lost her life and that of her 4 kids... her husband infected her with the virus
ReplyDeleteMarried men n HIV are like 5 n 6..cos they waka pass single men
ReplyDeleteYou are right
DeleteAnd they don't like using condoms with the side chicks
I pity our women
i never told anyone this.... Before my husband died some few years back from HIV related sickness, He infected me with it(almost killed him when i found out). Sometimes i get so depressed and want to take my life but when i look at my children i have a change of heart cos i want to live for them and not turn them to orphans. On the other hand God blessed me with an amazing man that was also infected by his late wife( So he says)... and we thriving. but just the thought of taking drugs daily is tiring. They should quickly find a cure for HIV na.
ReplyDeleteThat's my prayer too that they find a cure for it.please be strong for your kids and keep taking your drugs.❤
DeleteI think regular health checkups are important and please if your husband decides to be a he goat, it's either you leave , stop everything sexual or better still use protection!
ReplyDeleteMiss Kay Darl. It is not possible to deny him sex or force condom on him, he can rape the wife. Remember they are still married and live under the same roof. Hmm
DeleteMrs Gee, just say you want to fuck. How is it not possible to say No and stand your ground to a wandering pick?? So you will rather be infected with a disease? I hail una.
DeleteI wish Nigerian ladies in marriages can value themselves more. We have been taught to please our men without thinking of ourselves. Dont starve him of food, don't starve him of sex. Even when he is a cheating bastard. And the fact you cannot use condoms with your husband.
ReplyDeletePls if you have a community dick husband, think of your kids if you don't value yourself.
If you advice women to leave their cheating husbands, they will refuse and attack you for trying to 'scatter' their home. They prefer to use excuses like - "men are naturally polygamous", " as long as he's fulfilling his responsibilities" all in a bid not to be accused by society, of not being able to 'keep her home'. They turn a blind eye to the fact that society will not be there for you neither will they care about you when you get infected with all sorts. And if you die, you leave your children without your care. I've encountered to many cases to type.
ReplyDeleteZukky spot on.
DeleteSince the man is dead what can she do to him? If my partner infects me with deadly disease, I don’t know what I will do to him till then.
ReplyDelete@ Excited Courtesy,i reject this kind of 'if'for you & your loved ones.
DeleteHIV or it's senior brother AIDS will not know your doorstep.
And if you infect him nko?
DeleteNa your horsebands dey write all those anonymous bomb posts?
Poor woman
ReplyDeleteBut as a married man why not use condoms if you want to cheat
ReplyDeleteMy dad has a wandering dick and he's been living with HIV since 2001.Falls severely sick sometimes but generally looks healthy.Takes his drugs meticulously. My mum is negative. I don't know how she did it as far back as 2001 but she didn't let my dad infect her even before they found out and she has remained negative. Everyone should go for regular testing and if positive, start taking drugs.No one should die from HIV to me its not a death sentence living with my dad, I don't even get why people are so ashamed. My dad has lived through diabetes,high bp,HIV and prostate enlargement. Know your status and decide to LIVE!
ReplyDeleteA Neighbour also infected with HIV, I got to knw wen she came for family planning procedure n Doctor was like u nurses should b careful cuz she's positive meanwhile nobody knw we were Neighbour, I was surprise and at d same time not scared coz I knw is not that serious unlike HEPATiTIS-B. And that's doesn't stop me from buying things from H
ReplyDeleteNa to promulgate law wey go dey punish any partner wey infect the other partner be am. Suspend that nonsense doctor-patient confidentiality when the disease is contagious and enforce compulsory two times a year hiv testing for couples for government hospitals. Maybe all dz men will then start to use condoms. Women sha enter one chance with dz marriage and sex matter. Na only God dey save us. What if your husband is not a lowkey ashewo? Na dz ones worse pass d one wey everybody don sabi say na tuface. E.g. Whobefranklin
ReplyDeleteMy mums friend died some years ago from the virus,husband infected her. It was at her dying moment that it was discovered that husband dearest had been living on arvs for about 9 years earlier and he never disclosed his status to the wife nor did she find out. Beautiful woman died and left beautiful children. The evil in some people ehn. .
ReplyDeleteSoooooo many men do this. They will know that they have contracted HIV, be diligently taking their anti retroviral drugs and not tell their wives. So many women find out very late that they have gotten infected.
DeleteEeyah. This is so sad
ReplyDeleteHmmmm dis world is deep oo! A classmate of mine way back in secondary school her is Gloria her father is a very prominent man of God in a popular church in Abuja. She got married to a HIV positive husband her wedding was the talk of the town they received 8 cars as wedding gifts. She didn't know that her husband was positive he infected her she went for test and it was revealed to her at the hospital when she was always sick, she told her husband he confessed to her. The husband then told her to not to take the ARV drugs that they should pray and seek the face of God for healing. That was how she foolishly believed the idiot. The husband was secretly taking his drugs she died after 2years,no child. We cried during the funeral she was the first daughter of the family with a younger sister. The husband is still alive. Wicked husband from the pits of hell.
ReplyDeleteWhy did you mention her name?
DeleteSo her church doesn't do magical test before wedding?
The man is wicked sha. Gosh!!! Evil man
BV Swag I didn't use her real name thanks I know the confidentiality involved in HIV status. Thanks!
DeleteKnow your fiance, boyfriend, husband,boo,bae,manfriend,lover, sweetheart,sugar daddy HIV status oooo! I am shouting it oooo to avoid stories that touch
ReplyDeleteHow can she do wedding without knowing her spouse's status?
DeleteBe faithful to your partner, no, they won't listen.
@Nkiru
DeleteAll those your long list, it is only HUSBAND that has the license to enter that place.
All those others in your lists are "strange men" and they are all there to deposit strange diseases.
Why not summarize by just telling them to close tohtoh till they marry; even you?
DeleteAnon@16:48 I know right but am just saying it as it is. Ladies will always have boo, boyfriend, fiance,boo,bae,sugar daddy, boyfriend,man friend but abstinence is the best policy! Husband na I'm get license to knack but our husbands are they faithful?
DeleteMadam estate owner me I don't know if they did test before marriage. I only know of the what happened after marriage.
DeleteSad
ReplyDeleteCome to think of it, can a woman deny her husband sex on grounds that he cheats? He can rape her cos they live under the same roof. If he rejects condom, what will one do? He can also rape the woman if she doesn't want to give him raw. The best is to leave him, separate from him.
Are you sick in the brain?
DeleteAre you okay at all.
Do you think rape within marriage is ok?
Is that how you were brought up?
Any man who rapes his wife under the guise of marriage is a BASTARD DOG.
And anyone who believes this is normal is a FOOL.
"Come to think of it, can a woman deny her husband sex on grounds that he cheats? He can rape her cos they live under the same roof. If he rejects condom, what will one do? He can also rape the woman if she doesn't want to give him raw."- Mirrors a defeated and brainwashed mind.
DeleteSorry u hear?
Keep using leg to reason and make lame excuses at your own detriment.
Emancipate yourself from mental slavery, dear woman.
This is so disheartening. I wonder how everyone knew about her status in that town. It is well with her
ReplyDeleteWow!
ReplyDeleteAll these stories are so sad.
ReplyDeleteI pray peace and health into the lives of all who are burdened by this virus. Pls let us always check our status, testing every 6months is important so we won't be taken by this virus unawares. Trust no man.