SINGLES MINGLES ISH
I am sending this in to thank you for the single and mingle series. I'd meant to do this some weeks back but haven't had the time. I know many will disagree with me, on the issues below, well they are just my opinion. Especially after readix-datingy comments on feedback about the last S&M.
I often wonder why its okay for we ladies to insert "financially stable" or "must be comfortable" in our posts. Yet we criticise a guy's post for mandating same criteria in his post? What happens to at least "earning a living"? I know finance is important in a marriage, but it shouldn't be the norm for unsealed relationships or dating - my opinion though.
Except discretionary. In dating no part owes anyone anything. You do things out of your volition. Except one is trading something for another thing, then it is understandable. Yet we are so critical of a runs babe trying to earn and pay her bills, while many are guilty of same act but hide under the cover of 'dating or in a relationship' doing worst runs than even an escort.
If you date a girl/guy and realise he/she is not buoyant enough, and hence can not meet your expectations in this modern day arrangement called x-dating. The onus is on you to reappraise the relationship on the grounds of the reason(s) for it in the first place. Let someone who loves him/her Financially aid him.
The mentality that a relationship must end in marriage is wrong, else we would not have had to deal with immature heartbreaks and the ex(es). Or the notion that someone must be responsible for taking care of another's bills is bad. It merely underline an uncouth mindset. Except of course, its a choice that must be emphasised for reason best known. Some relationships are matured friendships that are necessary for our journeys, so let's learn to discern and be motivated by this fact. Nothing is greater than understanding the purpose of anchors, before jumping on today's norm of exploitation.
Just as there are broke guys, we do have our own broke ladies too. Only that the ratio is more telling on the guys. The annoying episodes are fellow young ladies, who are yet to empower themselves and are incapacitated financially and mentally. By establishing or having legitimate sources of income, jostling for the charade of marriageable "comfortable or financially stable" men. And end up forgoing their self-value in that process. When the abuse(s) starts (because they will come in this case), they'll come with their chronicles vilifying the men. Majority of the men are scumbags but must we arm them?
A high number of today's women are better empowered, educationally and financially. And are breadwinners in their respective homes, factually. Little wonder the men are scrambling all over the place, in their 6s and 7s. Higher percentage of men are attitudinal and habitually insecure, to dating or married to an independent woman.
They see them as competition, rather than being motivated by their decision to assist and complement. The reason men are intimidated and would rather date someone that is dependent on them, for almost everything other than spirituality, is control and abuse - mostly psychological.
I think for fellow young ladies, our first objective should focus on empowerment, be self-sufficient however minimal. Then build purposeful bridges of friendships for networking. Rather than belittling our self-esteem, which society had conspired to be subjectively submissive in all ramifications. Nothing is as endearing as having the grace to pay your own bills independently, before contemplating marriage. Marriage is a school even our parents are still battling to come off, with a good degree. If they honestly tell us what they had to put up with, we'll learn that even your own peace is not enough for marriage. But if we must err, then let them not hide under the illusion of their holiness to crucify, those who opt to rather be worldly. Than be dependent-puppets in the hands of such "comfortable or financially stable" men.
Relationship is deeper than handouts. Build character in them rather than be blinded by material things, yet critic runs. And it all starts with friendships, even a serious relationship at a point in it function was a friendship of a sort. Although there are no definite age for marriage but on S&M it is crowded by sexes in there 20s, both broke ass guys and girls. So also, permit me to use the derogatory as used by fellow bvs "fuckboys and girls."
I met 3 guys in the very first edition of S&M, when email was it. Two of them were too ego driven, maybe because they were comfortable and financially mature. But attitudinal immature. I come from a comfortable home too, so there was nothing they have on offer that has the X factor. They believed everything starts and end with money. They forgot the late MKO saying "Oju ti owo" (shame on money). When it was obvious his wealth could not save his 1st wife's from dying. But amongst those 3, one stood out. Financially we were worlds apart. I had blocked him like twice. I was so intolerant of him and very impatient too. His emails were so ordinary. Our whats app chats were "Hello" and "Hi". He persistently sent me mails.
Eventually we became friends and stayed at it for 2yrs. Then I got to know he was a good, honest nice guy with a near empty pocket - I thought the good in him was there as a result of his being broke. Like they say, no one is more loyal than a broke. In those 2yrs, I grew to learn patience and tolerance. Which helped me mature. Today we are a couple - it was my choice, one of the best and most thoughtful thing I have done in my 33yrs. With 2 loving boys(twins), a peaceful home, a very adequate and understanding spouse and with our last pregnancy. A year and some months into dating, I took him to meet with my parents. And for the very first time, since I started dating "comfortable guys." My parents called me aside and told me, I brought a different guy with a good personality.
There opinion at that time didn't really matter, because I already saw in him beyond whatever they'd seen. And that thing is what all my exes never had. My life journey was peaceful with him, and has remained that way. They were not surprised when we chose to marry. We have an understanding that respects each other spaces, which could be akin to beyond comprehension. And compromised a lot of our ego for our happiness. I had read virtually all books relating to dating, relationships and marriage. Attended lots of singles programme. But none prepared me for my marriage. Because I got to understand that eventually we are the architect of our peace and happiness. Nothing is as easy as written. We trusted more regardless, found our joy and stuck to it, regularly watering and manuring it. It comes with it hurdles. But the resolve to stay married to our happiness, exceeds our individual desires. At the very beginning of dating, he exhibited signs of being married, as stated by Joro in one of his posts as posted by you some weeks ago.
I remember crying to my Aunty that I have fallen in love with a married guy. She asked how I found out, and I pointed out all the red flags. Then she laughed, and said oftentimes, things are not as plain or easy as they seem in our heads. That rather than wallowing I should seek clarity and be even more prayerful. To think that today, I married a broke I met on your blog still amazes me. I work and earn very well, but he earns a little more than me now. He was the only poor guy I ever dated, and he is the best of them lot. Interestingly he is Igbo, from Imo, while I am Yoruba, from Ekiti.
S&M is a fantastic platform, but many like me then, often go in there with the wrong intention, motive and notion. For whatever it is, remove the ecstatic kid off the reserved adult you are claiming to be. Be accommodating, patient, with the characters you meet there. Most have a big status than we assume, others are people hoping for goodness, a minority are leeches. Sieve through, be less judgemental, be open-minded, we all have our flaws. You just might not see what the person you contacted or vice versa, is going through at that point within the circle of their lives. Like a friend I kept close, also from other edition of S&M. Often tells me: people come into our path for various reason(s), be cautious, find the purpose and reconcile it with God. Some people are just helplessly good, simple or pain. And meant no harm, other could be a disease to our healthy life.
If you find a good character or personality on S&M keep them close. You don't know why the universe brought them your way. We can't always eat our cakes and still have them. I realise the good ones are often the most irritants.
Thank you Stella, your S&M is a success for me and I'm grateful that it gave me the man I needed, irrespective of the one I wanted. You gave us joy I never thought existed with today's guys. Don't be deceived, many have profited and benefited from S&M but aren't coming forth. I was a part of that until now.
Bv Desola
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PROPERTY NAME
I recently got access to acquire house project loan with a prepayment plan of 30years.
While sourcing for land i got an opportunity of a cheap and reliable one which i can easily pay half payment for to secure it while i pay the balance later.
Now my actual issue, which name do i use on documentation of this land.
Note that i am married with 4 kids and i have a very good job.
My husband on the other hand is not financially stable, he his a good father and sometimes take care of us when he has money.
I have been the one sustaining the home.
There are records of him cheating on me though and emotional abuse but for sometime now, he has changed and we are patching the marriage.
With many stories going round, i really don't want to make mistakes on this particular property due to the fact that i will be paying for it through most of my life.
If i take my husband completely out of the plan, how do i explain to my children when they grow up? Will he support me building it?
How do i handle building project by myself knowing the type of country and state we are.
And if i use my husband name to purchase the land, won't he deny me and my children?Will he now take all the glory of my hardwork
Will his family not lay claim on my property?
Note that he his igbo while i am Yoruba.
I need advise please.
Please buy your property in your name alone but if you are so uptight about it and care to what people say,then buy it in your kids names but do not include his............Its like buying something with someones name...if they come to claim it,how will you explain it is not theirs when the receipt says so?
Be smart!!!
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TEEJAYS CORNER
WHY ARE YOUR PRAYERS NOT ANSWERED?....
So often I have heard people talked and asked why aren't their prayers been answered, or are there a set out standard in praying. I read a comment sometime ago about a lady who lamented on how she has prayed and fast, yet there seems to be no answers forth coming. She went further to say, "God doesn't love me, else He would have given ears to my supplications".
Why are some answers to prayers delay? Could there be a reason for such delay?.
In one of the biblical record, we read how Daniel prayed and an answer was delivered his way but there comes the Prince of Persia who withheld the answer. After a period of twenty one days through the intervention of an Angel, Daniel got the message.
Sometimes what we had prayed for may have been released to us long ago but we are spiritually blind to see or understand about the devices of the enemies, and as such we begin to question the power of God. "We shouldn't be ignorant of the devices of the devil" says the scripture. Always pray with the knowledge that there is a set time for an answers to all prayers.
Another reason for an unanswered prayers is praying amiss and in doubt. One who visit the herbalist believes so much on the potency of the charms received. You see them with so much trust and confidence that they are willing to do anything to get an answer. There is this mindset that makes them believe in quick answers or solution to problems and with God in prayer, they feel it may be delayed. Even when they pray to God, they do that with doubt and even pray wrongly in most cases.
Faith is a major determinant in prayers to God being answered. One thing I am yet to understand when some persons pray is why they will be shouting and repeating of prayer request to God. Do they do that when they visit shrines? Even before you pray, God already knows the heart. You don't need to shout, jump, gyrate or even whip the wind with canes to get an answer to prayers. Who did come up with such mode of prayers?
Jesus prayed to God in a short words "Father I know You have always listen to me, hear me now so that this people will know You sent me". So simple... After that He exclaimed, Lazarus come forth!!! It was done. Peter at the beautiful gate, "silver and gold we have none but in the name of Jesus rise up and walk". It was done without stress, shouting or jumping.
Now let's look at Elijah prayers during the contest with the prophets of Baal. "At the time of sacrifice, the prophet Elijah stepped forward and prayed: “Lord, the God of Abraham, Isaac and Israel, let it be known today that you are God in Israel and that I am your servant and have done all these things at your command. Answer me, Lord, answer me, so these people will know that you, Lord, are God, and that you are turning their hearts back again.” you know the rest of that story how fire came down on the alter.
In summation, when you know the real God you serve, you don't need to panic at challenges or doubt when you pray. Just a few words from your lips in faith and God will honour His words. We shout and repeat words when we pray because we are in doubt. When you pray, be sure your intentions are right and do not put God to test with your request to know if He truly answer prayers.
TEEJAY.
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ACCOMMODATION NEEDED URGENTLY
Good day Dear Stella and bvs. Please I am in dire need of an accommodation in Abuja, specifically in areas like Zuba, kubwa, Jiri, or Maraba.. It should be a Single Room or A self Contain with water Supply. Please house agents on this blog or any bv with good info should Kindly contact me via this mail cokafor942@gmail.com.
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VACANCY
Juice factory in shomolu needs a driver and two factory workers
Driver's salary is 35,000 naira monthly.
Factory assistants- 20,000 naira each monthly.
Please call : 09035499530
Raw Food Supplies Directly From Jos Markets.
Christmas is just around the corner. Looking for where to get your raw food supplies? Look no further as you can order for your Irish potatoes and fresh vegetables directly from Jos Market.
Call/WhatsApp 08037429000 to place your order today.
Bv Jostified Mom.
For those who tried contacting her before but complained she was unreachable,it was because her phone had problems but she has fixed it..Please contact for business if what she sells interests you...Thank you.
C200 Mercedes Benz 2004 model automatic transmission, registered Nigerian used
Price: 1.2 million naira (slightly negotiable)
Location: Lagos
Color silver
In good condition.
Buy and drive away.
Call 09072300391 if interested
VACANCY
Juice factory in shomolu needs a driver and two factory workers
Driver's salary is 35,000 naira monthly.
Factory assistants- 20,000 naira each monthly.
Please call : 09035499530
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Raw Food Supplies Directly From Jos Markets.
Christmas is just around the corner. Looking for where to get your raw food supplies? Look no further as you can order for your Irish potatoes and fresh vegetables directly from Jos Market.
Call/WhatsApp 08037429000 to place your order today.
Bv Jostified Mom.
For those who tried contacting her before but complained she was unreachable,it was because her phone had problems but she has fixed it..Please contact for business if what she sells interests you...Thank you.
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C200 Mercedes Benz 2004 model automatic transmission, registered Nigerian used
Price: 1.2 million naira (slightly negotiable)
Location: Lagos
Color silver
In good condition.
Buy and drive away.
Call 09072300391 if interested
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NEEDED URGENTLY
Please we urgently need supplies for 5000MT+ of crushed PETs Bottles, from anywhere in Nigeria or in Neighboring African countries @ 100/kg. We'll come pick it up from your location. Dealers should contact me on 08069413834
crushed pets bottles?Please oh does anyone know what this is?
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Selling out my infinix HOT5 gold.
USED: 3 months.
In a perfect working condition.
Price: #30,000
Location is Bayelsa.
Contact: 07011949578
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Accommodation NEEDED URGENTLY
Good day Dear Stella and bvs. Please I am in dire need of an accommodation in Abuja, specifically in areas like Zuba, kubwa, Jiri, or Maraba.. It should be a Single Room or A self Contain with water Supply. Please house agents on this blog or any bv with good info should Kindly contact me via this mail cokafor942@gmail.com.
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AVAILABLE FOR SALE
Location: VILLA ASOKORO.
7Bedroom in suite
1Self contain chalet
2bedroom BQ
Swimming pool
Good parking space
C of O available
PRIZE: 600M
2) 750sqm and 730sqm land available for sale
Location: FHA LUGBE
Title: FHA
Prize: 6M each
Contact: 08037311417.
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I have new,authentic,lovely and affordable Christmas arrivals for sale. Tops are available from as low as 3k and dresses from 5k. Tops, dresses,shoes, skirts, jeans and bags available.
In the spirit of Christmas, I would be giving away 500 recharge cards in any network for the first 3 callers , no strings attached.
Please call desleek Couture on ; 08052834338
Instagram:@desleekcouture
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DJ NEEDED URGENTLY
I am in need of a dj to play at at event on the 18th on the island( ikate). Please let your price be fair. Send a mail about service charge to forandrioddownload@gmail.com
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LOOKING TO BUY A PHONE IN PORT-HARCOURT
In the spirit of black Friday, I'm looking to buy an iPhone 6plus. It could be new or premium used but please let it be very neat and not a stolen phone, and also very affordable.
I'm resident in Portharcourt and will pay on delivery.
Thanks, I could be reached by 07064670927
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DIAPERS FOR SALE
We’re a wholesaler of molfix and virony diapers, wipes and detergent. You can contact us for all sizes at wholesale price.08020657417 or visit our store at awoyaya. We also offer free delivery service to those living in awoyaya. Ps. Those outside awoyaya will have to pay for delivery.
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Good afternoon lovelies 😍
ReplyDeleteI saw this and I don't think it is true.
"Secondary school reunion is a scam... Nobody misses you. They just want to know if you have made it in life."
True or False???
I attended just once.
Desola, my immediate sister name sake
DeleteAre you related to Reuben Abati??? Lol
You have spoken so well, congratulations darling.
😂😂😂😂,very true,I still attend sha to pepper them😂😂😂😂😂😎😎😎😎
DeleteI want call it a scam but it's TRUE though...its just a means to keep tabs 😁😁😁😁
DeleteDesleek conture, thanks for the airtime.
DeleteHope to buy those beautiful tops.May customers rush you this season
True
DeleteIt's not 100% true nor false.
DeleteA lot can happen at a reunion. You can be a blessing to someone that is still trying to stand on his/her feet and vice versa. I'll say have an open mind and forget what any other person thinks.
Hehehe 😀😁😀 partially true
DeleteCongrats Desola. However, there are many gold digging guys out there. The luck you had was you studied him for a long time and met a responsible man
DeleteBv desola you sound like a cool headed woman.may God's blessings never depart from your home.
DeleteI was a participant of the very first SnM in 2015 and i met amazing people but lost my phone 2016 and loss all ny contacts cause i couldnt get back due to some circumstances.
DeleteAre you related to Abati...😂 😁
DeleteOlori help me ask her oooo 😂😂😂.I thought the write up was short, along the way I noticed this might be Abati people, my sister I no gree read again oo. Haba wetin happen.
DeleteI wan correct something; Noodles, e.g. indomie no be food. It is a dessert not a main meal. It is too processed that it has little or no nutrients. All the women feeding their kids with indomie are creating junk heads. I remember one day I hadn't eaten for a whole day and the only thing ready was indomie, after eating it, I had dizziness and was fainty. And if you feed your husband with indomie because it is easy to prepare, it is laziness. Do not complain that he is "an indomie man", yes one minute to prepare, one minute to finish work in the other room. You reap what you sow.
ReplyDeleteThe Chinese serve that meal with a whole fish; how many of you eat a whole fish in a meal?
Na you Sabi, leave our indomie for us😎😎😎😎
DeleteDon't mind those lazy mothers... why not prepare pastas for them at least make sure u have already prepared stew you can always mix the pasta with.
DeleteMost children ,their example of their best food is "indomie"
Tomorrow una go complain of diseases you cannot explain
Lady bug it is too early to begin to suck blood.
DeleteWho ask u, izzit ya money dey use to buy it? Gbegboron
DeleteAnd why all the "aturesses" wey dey visit motherless babies na indomie them dey supply?
DeleteNa only question I ask o.
Anon you wicked 😁😁😁😁
DeleteMe I come confuse o
DeleteAll the chicks for BEP yesterday just dey chant "I go make indomie for am"
Later una go complain say na indomie man. No be indomie you dey feed am with?
You wan make im be eba and egusi soup man?
14:37 😂😂😂😂
DeleteIt is all due to poverty, do you know how much a cup of rice costs?
DeleteLol
DeleteYeah yeah am here today
ReplyDeleteWho knows u? Taaaa
DeleteThat lady that wants to buy a land or property, please buy it with your children's name. So that no one will feel offended because they are your husband and your kids. That's what my brother is doing. All his properties are in his children's name. If the wife talk, he will Say are they not our children? What is theirs is ours too. This is to avoid but God forbid if anything happens to you tomorrow, so that your children won't suffer. The only thing My brother put in his wife's (as joint ownership) name is their family house. Other things are in his children's name
DeletePlease let patch here.
DeleteThanks alot Stella for the advert, may God bless you abundantly.
I came very late to IHN today, cause I was charging my phone.
Thanks to all the customers that have started calling.
May God bless & crown all our efforts.
Good day people.
So about RHI yesterday,twitter folks are not smiling.They dug up a pic of Nina and Iheanacho and they shipped them as #Nicho.Some others shipped the three parties involved as #Nichoko.🤣
ReplyDeleteRead that the footballer was at Kokos party and they claimed he dumped Nina for Koko because of the Miracle drama.hmnnnnn,One of them should publicly claim him lets know the legit ship mbok.
Its a wowza!! #Christmasfever
Hahahahahaha,omo see gobe? I cnt wait....for this drama to unfold.
DeleteNa wa
DeleteThis one sweet me sha.
DeleteAmebo
DeleteLol@ Nichoko...very funny
DeleteTwitter generation
Twitter is bae.....lol @nichoko
Delete
ReplyDeleteI surre, I surre to ur ileke idi o!
I surre, I surrender to ur ileke idi o!
Mr. Eazi ft. Simi issa banger!!!!!
Kelvin DAT Edo Boi (Stellz Cousin)
Kelvin d bweest presser, hope u've lost sum weight 🤣🤣🤣
DeleteGoodafteroon everyone.
ReplyDeleteAftarnoon dearie
Delete
ReplyDeleteSo much love my new look lately... Nice build up and a good hair cut. This barber is very good at it and a professional with a touch of excellence. Being simple rocks.
Remember, no one has the power to pull you down unless you give them the opportunity to do so. You are absolutely responsible for how you chose to feel and react.
I am so happy for the man I have grown to be. Ours is to plough and not to plunder. Still enjoying the rest free day at home watching some good movies.
So happy for you, May God bless you with your rib
DeleteYinmu,like it's not your body we saw the other time,unless you went under the knife, there's no explanation fi rthis new look you are describing 😎😎😎😎😎
DeleteAmen... Hahaha@my ribs. It's a light build up dear and not the heavy type.
DeleteHahahaha lady bug don't I just love u.u hold sword for hand and u finish them.
DeleteKidjo with the teeth
Castle with d gist
Giveaway princess with d babiyala
Ladybug with the sword.
Yori yori with the 2 face
Enjoy Teejay.
Deleteladybug and Teejay name 5n 6. For every Teejay comment, there must be a lady bug reply.
DeleteFor the SnM update... One thing I will say here is that, most successful and great marriage today weren't made by already made couple as at the time they met. Most of them started small but successfully progressed into great success. Do not neglect anyone for no one knows what tomorrow holds. A rich toaster may become broke in marriage tomorrow.
DeleteThanks dear at Cutest Pat. That is how e suppose be sometimes.
DeleteYels ooooo teejay blow ur trumpet, you need to see my new hair cut OSHA PRA PRA OSHA pro pro.killing them with ma hawtie
DeleteExactly bro @Sealord... But you are still owing me a bride ooh as you promised. I didn't forget naaa hahahahaha.... Please show working so my dream will be fulfilled.
DeleteTJ darling am enjoying your write up
DeleteYori'm thanks love... See one anonymous down there is already crying for my calling you 'yori'm' and I bursted out laughing as if someone was tickling me. Chaii this life sweet ooh when you no longer give a damn to some inconsequential idiots.
DeleteTJ allow them to cry more. I have prayed for them on my comment. They can go there and carry shovel .
DeleteI can feel it and I love it😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
ReplyDeleteHARMATTAN😗😗😗
Afternoon lovelies
Heat wan kill us here. Walahi, The sun here can roast someone alive. 😥😥😥
DeleteSo wettin make we use am do? 😏😏😏
Deleteeya, get an umbrella dear,Nigeria sun is not skin frdly @Rhoda Rex
DeletePerky boobs:Shove it inna yo pumpum😤😤😤
We all are on a journey in life.
ReplyDeleteMany are running towards a set goal.
We prepared for it. We gave so much time and all our strength. We gave our sweats, we deprived ourselves of our comfort because it takes much more to achieve anything good in life.
But in as much as we try, nothing seems to favor us.
All we get is rejection, bad luck, stagnancy.
we get to see our peers and friends who are journeying with ease, they appeared less troubled. With no problems. Everything looks cool.
For us, We keep failing where others are succeeding. Everyone's getting it while we can't.
Prompting us to take it to our hearts, compare them with ourselves, leaving us broken. We tag ourselves unlucky and very unfortunate.
But then,
Life is like that. It's a place filled with huddles; Huddles of pains and disappointments, delay and failure. Challenges and brokenness.
A battle field!
Let me tell you: Regardless..lets keep moving just as we have been... We keep living.
Even when it appears that you ain't going to make it... Keep striving.
Even When it appears that the only vehicle of life have left without you... Keep standing!
Something better than a vehicle is coming.
When every of your peers are far ahead of you... Never lose all hope in yourself.
Just keep faith.
Keep hoping; just because of you, that word hope exist. Believe it!
Everyone in life is destined with their own programmed movement.
They left you taking the bus because 'theirs' was meant to be that way. Let them go.
That's their own time to leave.
Your own time will come too; and it is near. Its soonest. It could be a better 'means' than a bus.
Just hang on.
A little more time will do.
Maybe today. Maybe tomorrow.
But till then
We keep our hope alive and we remain strong - Repeat this each day!
WE GET THERE, when we get there. _Oluwanishola Akeju
Thank you so much for this you spoke to my soul.
DeleteYou've got all you need to succeed in life.
ReplyDeleteLook within you, harness your skills, believe in yourself,
Compete with YOU and trust God totally.
You will get there
My fellow bvs are so damn predictable.. 😂 😂 so you'all think if truly I have issues I'll bring it here, when brain is not paining me.. Yeah right.. 😂 😂
ReplyDeleteStandard perky boobs reporting 4 trolling duties... 💃 💃
Perkyboobs ladybug how hustle.
DeleteMay your perky boobs fall flat till it touches your toes
Deleteungrateful person, you are boasting here after I don give you bf abi😏😏😏
Good afternoon my people.
ReplyDeleteHello everyone. Your advices are needed, so I just finished my OND program and I'm currently on my compulsory one year I.T, apart from working for a pay, what other thing can I do to add value to myself before going for my HND program?
DeleteCutest teejay, hope you're still enjoying ur 1k airtime?😏😏
DeleteLearn a skill.
DeleteGo the IT route. Learn web development and uiux design. It might not be easy at first, but with time and effort you go begin make money. You'll thank me later.
DeletePerky boobs how come about 1k airtime? Are alright???
DeleteLearn a hand work
DeleteRE: SINGLE/MINGLE "ISH"
ReplyDeleteThere is no justification for a girl running runs, she is not
"earning a living", she is earning her death. Do not hide under the umbrella of dating to justify your narrow minded view.
If we want to tell the truth, we ladies are the ones that need the dating posts more; yes, we have a biological clock we are very much aware of. NOthing wrong with wanting to know what your dating partner does but when there is desperation to get rich, escape poverty or travel abroad all on the platform of dating, that is when it is wrong and it does not ever get right. In the end, lives will be ruined due to this undue pursuit of personal agenda in dating. If it is not love, it is not dating. If someone is earning a living and is dating, it should be known.
I read that thing, I no understand wetin that girl there dey chant sef.
DeleteI kuku stopped trying after the first time I tried it, once I mentioned I'm a student that is it no more chatting even from girls. Most People this days goes into a relationship with the mindset of what they can gain from you and that is so wrong what happens to creating a genuine friendship ? That poster said the truth abeg.
DeleteI don't even bother anymore.
And pls change that mentality that women needs relationship or marriage more.
Anon 14:38 you have said what i wanted to type. i dont get the head or tail of her point.
Delete@Sunshine
DeleteAbeg make you put sunshine for ya grammar. E go help you well well for S&M.
Once I mentioned that I'm a student, THERE IS NO MORE CHATTING . . .
Most people THESE DAYS GO into RELATIONSHIPS
And that is so wrong. WHAT
Change that mentality that WOMEN NEED RELATIONSHIPS or marriage
I'm here to talk about what I noticed about some bvs.
ReplyDeleteEka joy,please be you! Do not ever kick any body's a** you and I know that lolo ideato's stories are fabulous but it seems because she is your only friend here you can't tell the truth.
Teejay,you are the most annoying irritant I have ever seen your life fits your status wtf is yori'm I hate the sound of it and I hate to read it. My goody two shoes weldone.as a parasite and an irritant that you are nau.
Yori Yori,you are a hypocrite.
Castle Windsor,you think you are wise? You want to use stories to scheme bvs abi weldone up you!
Lady bug, xp say you get money and I know you hate begging. Please don't stop being you! Since Eka is now kissing a** my dear,if you see any scammed point them out osiso.
Eka Joy come with tipper truck plus shovel to carry this shade.😂🔊💃😋🙌😭
DeleteBuahahaha buahahaha
Desleek couture....nice outfits
ReplyDeleteMay sales rush you
Greetings Ya'll
ReplyDeleteConvocation Loading...
IHN Is here,God help me bcs i need a miracle in my life,God connect me to people that matter..i dnt wanna give up.
ReplyDeleteWith ur foul mouth u think God answers such prayers? Naaaaaaaaaaa 😏😏😏
DeleteSurely He will dear. Just believe in Him.
DeleteThanks Tj..@okiroyalty.
DeletePlease those of you who are expert jeans buyers, please how do you do it?
ReplyDeleteHow do you select correct BLACK JEANS that does not fade??
Me I'm just tired of spending money for even the ones I buy in boutiques that fade in a blink.
Some boutiques sell China jeans/mass production.
DeleteBuy stock jeans and say bye to faded jeans. If you're in Lagos, check mandilas in Idumota for a genuine stock jean seller.
Chocolate the thing tire me, I swear. If you know how much I bough supposedly black jeans on Allen from a very popular boutique...
DeleteI'm in Lagos, but how will I even know genuine stock jeans in that Idumota?
Everywhere, China mass market drop offs.
You can go to Yaba Tejuosho market they have correct stock jeans.
DeleteAll black jeans fade, it all depend on the rate at which it fades.
DeleteHOW TO KNOW ORIGINAL STOCK JEAN
Delete1) Get a white handkerchief then soak it in water(make it damp before entering the store you want to shop from)..
2) Ask the seller if its stock Jean and if they say "YES" with enough confidence,tell them you are going to "TEST" it ooo before buying(they would agree once they trust their product)..
Now once you get the jean of your choice,use the white damp handkerchief to scrub the jean gradually;That's all..
If its stock,it wont stain the handkerchief at all,but if its not;you would see the jean colour on the white handkerchief instantly..
This is the easiest way and works 100℅...#Wink
You can add small detergent to the white handkerchief self without the seller knowing(Klin does wonders,just buy small and add in a small bottle water which you would be using to test before paying)..
Most sellers who know this trick would tell you "WE DONT DO THAT HERE OOO" once they see the already damp white handkerchief...
Hope this helps..
@MARTINS ABOY
Its very few stores I'm sure of CORRECT stock in the whole of eko,very few and they cost more than the regular,yaba is used UK and could serve a bit too!!!
DeleteOtimkpu martins. I love this experiment
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I think crush pet bottles should be pet bottles that has been crushed or reduced to something flat...
ReplyDeleteBvs are too big to be gathering pet bottles up and down... Lol...
Hajia Teemah
Ndi Pharisee I hail o
ReplyDeleteDesleek Coutoure
ReplyDeleteThank you so much, you recharged my line ending with 56, Etisalat.
Thank you, God bless you.
Thank her with your ID now, just like dietitian nezz, Oginidi?
DeleteAmanda, please don't STUPID.
DeleteYou're an OLD woman, act your age.
If I had an I.D I would use it.
It takes NOTHING out of me.
I have called her to thank her.
I sent her a text to thank her.
And then I typed a thank you message to thank her.
I'm not going to manufacture an I.D just to please an Idiot like you.
Last year, I gifted almost 50 books here in December.
I don't remember anyone asking me for my I.D before accepting my gifts.
GTFO off my way with your wrinkled shrivelled self.
Is it 500 naira recharge card that someone will be hiding to receive?
Some of you speak like the abject FOOLS that you are.
And I don't blame you, you don't even know what it is to give.
But you must perch like a vagrant Owl monitoring anyone who receives.
Mtsheeew.
Comman take ID from my anus now, ozuo.
Jesu!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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No be everyone una go use soakaway 'maouth' dey harrass for ID like say you be police wey dem give work ehen
Buahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
Make I look for wetin I go give dis year.
Anonymous 15:12 you really provoke ooh... Person no fit follow you play small again?
DeleteOmo see yabbing! Mogbe
DeleteOh my goodness. See serious isho hahahahaha.
DeleteUna go kee person. Amanda oya bring rake
Ah ah someone cannot play with you?is that how you use to do?
DeleteIkwakwakwakwa no nonsense antonymous
@Teejay What kind of stupid, idiotic 'play' is that??? Is that how people 'play' with you? That's fine.
DeleteLet them not stray from your tribe.
Imagine this klown trying to embarrass itself with its 10MB.
@14:45
When I see people with leaking, pockmarked mouth, I make sure I teach them some manners so they never stray from the people they should be 'playing' with like your clans person up there @ 16:19.
It's social media yes, but it shouldn't be the end of basic manners especially in situations that don't FUCKING concern you in ANYWAY. IDIOT.
I will say it again, I gave almost 50 last year December. I never asked anyone for an ID to collect them. The post is still there on the blog. The person who collected never bothered to thank me or even acknowledge to Stella.
Did I die?
Did I complain or bring her name or her husband's name (the person) she sent to pick them up. Left everyone face God.
Why then will one lost hungry mongrel who doesn't know where her torn egusi stained wrapper is facing be DEMANDING I use ID as if I left an ID in her anus and forgot to remove it? How is it your business?
Have you given a torn 1 naira note in your life???
Odede, learn to bridle your tounge.
It has not yet seeped through the crater in your brain that NOT EVERYONE will choose to have an ID here?
Kpele, you will learn today, willy wonka.
As said before, I've sent a text, called and pasted a Thank You for the giver. But make sure you come back to give me an ID so I can type something again that will satisfy you, one legged judge and jury, alabosi oshi.
#hungryidiotscrawlingeverywherelikelicefeelingsmartandwittyyoudontknowyouaredaftlikeanemptykomkom
Ah! Annon 15:12, was all the name calling neccessary?
DeleteLike damn!...
Amanda doesn't insult people on here, she actually respects herself. Going off like that on her is just mean. Chai!
This is too much chai!
DeleteExactly @ mummys girl, Amanda didn't even insult her so what is all these insults for? All because she said use your id? Na wah.
Delete@ Mummy's Girl what's my business with wha she does here???
DeleteWhat's my business?
My business is with how I AM addressed.
People need to understand that though it's social media, you don't need to tuck whatever does not exist as your manners and act like a nitwit.
Online Sars apprentice.
I will never in a million years chuuk mouth in a comment that doesn't concern me, much less when its between a giver and a grateful recipient that does not concern ANYBODY.
Or did the giver complain to her that I didn't thank her anyone.
See shiny yellow shovel teeth shouting, 'wey ya particulars, wey ya ID', even have the effrontery to compare me to someone else, dunce.
Better don't try that rubbish with me again, I was just nice to you today.
Hahahaha... Did I hear you say nice? Abeg no jam me ooh with caterpillar ooh. Your own warrior reach person to avoid ooh. Truly no be everyone person fit play some kind play with lolzzz. Abeg make I go sleep ooh... Still recovering from illness before you pursue me for SDK.
DeleteGood afternoon Stella and bvs,the sun is hot,enjoy ur day
ReplyDeleteWho be dis one again? 😏😏
DeleteRetired slay queen,Mrs I'm too good aside makeup what else are you good at? Maybe lying.
ReplyDeletelolo ideato,Na wa oh! Why you come dey lie like this? To to gain attention on blogs 2 of us know say you dey like even that pic on your dp no be you! Why you dey fool yourself? You are be living in your fantasy and foolery why! Why!! Why! !!!!
Let me stop here today I will be back from more observations.
Bye for now.
peace out.
See ehn u can try that shit up there with any bv I don't give a damn but I take this ur gbagun (cos that's all u have) beg u no just come near my RSQ u hear ba.just practice this ur writing skills elsewhere o b4 u miss for this earth.
DeletePlease hold it there . What has RSQ done to you if she is only good at make up nko how does it concern you. Mkpi hausa. bitter soul. obi onugbu. Nonsense
DeleteThanks 16:01.
DeleteIn fact I am posting hot new make up tips tomorrow.
Pepper body them go die.
Please leave RSA we like her.bad belle
DeleteRSQ, Ignore these FOOLS.
DeleteBring your tips, I mega appreciate them and the effort and time you use to make them.
One hungry,lousy,dirty looking, razz thing will just sit by roadside by mechanic workshop chooking mouth in what does not concern it, joyfully misusing the 10MB they dashed her.
Ok, how do your make up tips even concern that nkapi now? Someone that cannot afford 80naira Davis eye pencil.
Abeg leave that hungry mongrel. If not that you have an ID, I'm sure one nkapi will come out demanding you use the ID you left boiling in her anus, because the nkapi is sure you must have copied your tips from her grandfather's house, azen.
Anon 17:32 see as you expose your lineage shior.
DeleteWhen I started reading this comment 17:32, I know you were that anonymous up there with sledge hammer. Please how do I identify you so I will be avoiding your wrath? Hahahaha... Your finger no be here then I imagine how the mouth go be. Some people dey learn work where you dey I swear.
Delete18:12
DeleteGo and find out what lineage means. Ask someone to translate it to your native language.
Don't be 'playing' with multisyllabic words that you know nothing about.
Stick to signs and symbols.
Babanla Idiot.
BV Desola you hit the nail at the head. Thanks for this write up, we all(guys & ladies) can learn from this your story, it applies both ways. So insightful. Everything you said is on point. ✋
ReplyDeleteIHN came late today. Been refreshing and refreshing. Teejay, thanks for that piece up there.......Good day all
ReplyDeleteYinmu.. Famzy oshi
DeleteYou are welcome dear. Have a nice day too.
DeleteMadam with all you've narrated, it's advisable you buy your properties in your name to avoid heart break in future.
ReplyDeleteOh My! I didnt know we have a Ruben Abati as a Bv. Its not that serious abeg. What again sef?
ReplyDeleteAbeg help us tell her..
DeleteSee Epistle.
please buy the property with your child's name as stella said. it will save you a lot of explanations in future.
ReplyDeleteDesleek, you dont have whatsapp no, hope you will reply DM
ReplyDeleteThe woman that married via SnM , all you said its the truth esp the part of you got what you needed not what you wanted.
At times, we ladies look out for some A list things from a man and God isnot about the list but he sees we need mental, physical able person and with time financially will set in.
Everything i typed juat disappeared oooooo mtcheeeeeeew
ReplyDeleteKpele o
DeleteBut if you type that your "juat" even phone go confuse.
Welcome back steffy...
DeleteSteffySofynSoFlySoJuicySoNaugty
Deletethank God for your life. welcome back.
Hahahahahahah werey anonymouses i miss you sha.
DeleteChike and the river how are u dearie. Choi i miss you like i missed my tap head.
Thanks blackberry how are u sister?
I'm fine.
DeleteWonderful write up Desola, May God keep blessing your home.
ReplyDeleteGood afternoon all, Keep enjoying your day
Hello
ReplyDeleteHello urself
DeleteGood afternoon Stella & bv's! IHN is loaded today o!
ReplyDeleteI love the writeup on S&M ish, God bless your marriage forever. I've never taken part in S&M, I could give it a try though, who knows when the next one is holding?
Tee Jay, God surely answers prayers, good thing you used those bible stories as a reminder of God's wonders, I'm glad I read through.
Stella, your sign out meme is very thoughtful! Have a great day ahead guys!
Yes Allure He does all the times but the problem with people is that, they want to dictate to Him and not willing to walk in the process.
DeleteBv looking for a phone, go to callus miller.
ReplyDeleteSingles and mingled poster, congrats on your success story.
ReplyDeleteProperty poster pls buy the property in your own name. Very dicey issue!
All he best to all the sellers featured.
Goodafternoon.
ReplyDeleteGood afternoon good people here.
ReplyDeleteThank you all for your input on my request yesterday about Ibadan, thank you and God bless you all. Please I'm still here to enquire about something.
If I get to Ibadan where or which part should I go to to get 1 room and to start business with a very little amount not up-to #10,000? Thank you very much.
You can do your business around agbowo side that's opposite UI main gate. If you are not the shy type you will make your money
DeletePlease guy how many days after my period will ovulation start. I don’t know when I ovulate
ReplyDeleteFrom 5 days after
Deletedon't be a lazy youth..google
DeleteIs it the 14th day starting from the day my period starts or I have to start counting from d last day of my period? Let’s say I started menstruating today now, when will I likely ovulate? Pls help a smallie
DeleteYes the 14th day starting from the day of your period started. To have a better chance start having sex with your spouse on the 10th to 16th day of your ovulation circle. The day you start your period is the first day of your ovulation circle. Hope this help? may twins fall on you and pls relax your mind, anxiety and stress is not good for you especially when you are trying just enjoy your sex life and remove your mind. All the best dear.
Delete*start counting day 1 from the first day you started your period
DeleteLa sunshine you are a sweetheart. Thanks! Amen oo as d twins falls on me.
DeleteJelly kisses to u.
The woman that wants to buy property, please do so with your name. If possible use your maiden name.
ReplyDeleteMadam use your common sense to buy the property in your name. U don't need us to tell you the truth! Avoid stories that touch. After all you said your husband is not faithful. Shine your eyes ooo!
ReplyDeleteTo the poster that wants to get a land pls i beg you with everything you hold dear use your name or your children's name, if you must use your husband's name make sure you include your own name to the document. for example Mr x and Mrs h chukwudi and you don't ave to hide the fact that you have a property from your husband carry him along. That's my 2 cent
ReplyDeleteJostified Mom and Dessert couture, God bless your businesses.
ReplyDeleteGood afternoon all.
Castle i went back to some of the post i missed and i enjoyed all of your write up please start a series na.
DeleteThanks Steffy dear.
DeleteI'll try.
Thanks dear, God bless yours too.
Delete*Desleek *
ReplyDeleteStella can you imagine just bcos he's giving me 5k,10k he now want me to spread legs.
ReplyDeleteClose your cookie jar and also stop collecting his money.
DeleteHahahahaha oshofree is not good ooo. You have to pay na
DeleteTo the poster that wants to get a land pls i beg you with everything you hold dear use your name or your children's name, if you must use your husband's name make sure you include your own name to the document. for example Mr x and Mrs h chukwudi and you don't ave to hide the fact that you have a property from your husband carry him along. That's my 2 cent
ReplyDeleteThat's it share your tattered giveaways in your area this blog is not a DUSTBIN. Thanks stella for the meme
ReplyDeleteGood afternoon beautiful people. How are you all. 2face reporting life and direct.
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha some people are really having sleepless nights. I wish you all more sleepless nights Amen and Amen
. Thank you Jesus for the sleepless nights they are experiencing hahahahaha.
Desola congrats. Congrats to all needing congrats.
Una doh
Madam property, buy that property in YOUR name. Don’t buy a property in your husband’s name, someone that is not even faithful untop.... shior. BE WISE
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