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Saturday, December 08, 2018

Saturday In House Gists -Keeping Malice And The Consequences....

In relationships, family, etc Some people should get awards for keeping Malice...






How long can you keep malice?


Is there anything like positive Malice? That is you kept Malice and it changed thins for the better?Or was it Negative and destroyed the relationship beyond what could be repaired?

How do you get past the malice stage and embrace peace?
Or are you one of those who always apologises just to avoid the other person starting off with keeping Malice?

Lets gist!!!!

57 comments:

  1. I can x someone like forever especially of the person really hurt me. I act as of the person didn't exist.

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    1. E bi like say ya IF don dey turn to "of" these days.

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    2. Lol my phone screen don dabaru and it's affecting the alphabets.

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    3. Sometimes it’s not malice malice, sometimes it’s good you just give people space

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    4. I am keeping malice with my darling husband at the moment 😌. He really upset me when we took the kids to take pictures with Santa at the shopping mall.
      I will do my shakara till bed time because we don't carry over anger to the next day 😏🙄👹.
      God have mercy 🙄😱🤷

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  2. Anyone keeping malice while dating you, just know it'd get worse in marriage.

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    1. I can so relate with this. Her keeping malice was worse after marriage and has lead to separation. I'm now enjoying my peace and loving it.

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  3. Sometimes its good if you wanna reset the person's brain. Been keeping malice with a friend, one year and counting.

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    1. Jumai, 1 year and counting? You get mind ooooo 🤔, receive honey into your life my dear. Its not worth it cos ure definitely giving yourself heartache as well, you can keep your distance but malice: chai

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    2. So it takes 1year for you to reset someone's brain? Guess what,the person has moved on

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  4. The weapon I use for my husband is keeping malice. I'm not good at keeping malice but my husband can not stay an hour knowing you're angry with him so I pretend as if I like it😂

    Hope he won't see this cos he has started reading SDK. Dunno how to make him stop.😂

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    1. Hahaha, he will read it n u want him to if not na anon u for use, I cant keep malice, if na me offend u or na u offend me, na me go be d first to talk to u, peace of mind na d koko ooo

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    2. One day ya onya go nab nkakwu eh.
      You go KEEP ya malice, all these "snatch and jerk" Naija girls go collect am for KEEPS.
      Make you no come write "snatch and vamoose" chronicles o.
      Ekwuchakwa m.

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    3. Lolz... Anonymous I don't want him to read it ooo

      Beloved ezigbo nwa how you dey?

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    4. Before we married, I could keep malice with him and he will be the one to make peace. Immediately we got married, the table changed. I will beg n beg before he will answer me.

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    5. because he has won election na.No need for campaign again.. Hahahaha.

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  5. I was trained nt to keep malice even after quarrel,the next day we greet,BT bcos we settle doesn't mean I act foolish. I had neighbours who kept malice for years. Hate only brings one down

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  6. That woman that threw away my pizza, I'm so keeping the malice, before they will tell her, I'm d one bewitching her.

    Sky come n take okpa, I can prepare it.

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    1. Did she tell u she's starving? Or ur those seeking out widows to make pity party? Then u'll announce it to the whole world that ur feeding a widow.
      Mchwetxxx😬
      Please learn to be sensitive around other people! It's not everybody that's interested in charity things things like that, pity party or just entertaining that kind of things in their life no matter how broke, poor or beaten down today. Some people have self dignity, pride & self respect not to accept free food or eat from handouts!!!
      Ok

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  7. When I was in jss1 i kept malice with a male neighbour in our compound for 7years.. Not exagerating .
    At the end of the day the girl he called me a witch because of that i was the one poisioning her mind against him .. He got the girl pregnant and left her to her fate . she got pregnant in jss2.
    The child is a teenager now

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  8. I do keep malice before especially when I was in secondary school. But when I read what is written in the book of Ephesians 4:31-32 which says "Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamour and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another as God in Christ forgave you..I let everything go, I don't have any reason to keep malice, I quickly apologize when I know am at fault.

    Life is too short to have anyone in mind.

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  9. I don keep malice with one married woman who I can call a sis cos we are from same state and we are colleagues in same office. This woman had to rub it on my face with one other single chick in our office by telling her she will miss her and who will be coming around to give her gist all this she made sure I was there while she said that..she said it bcoz the other girl who happened to live close to her comes to her house all the time and me I don't even have the strength to be going to a married woman's house. I wasn't even brought up that way. In fact the only time I ever left my father's house was during youth service. We don't even travel to visit relatives so I am not just used to all that. But I noticed since the day she said to the other girl just to pepper me was the day I realized the thing has been paining this my colleague. Me self I have distanced myself from her

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  10. Im very food in keeping malice...maybe because I'm used to my own company.. Even in a crowd or party u dont see me gist with others. I will just be playing with my phone. If anybody wants to keep malice with me im ever ready. Im always looking For ho to block on whatspp or delete from phone contacts sef.
    I can recharge N200 and it will last two weeks. I don't cally colleagues except its work related
    I don't even know any other mothers at my kids sch sef neither am interested in nknowing...
    Mummy A mummy B abeg everybody face your front.
    I would have fit into abroard lifestyle cos i sabi mind my business wella...i can live very well by myself.
    I never answer d door when it rings cos whoever is there wants to talk to my hubby not me.
    Im a good morning kinda person and waka pass. No asking after the family or how was your night? Wtf kinda questions are those?

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    1. Loool. Ua always looking for who to block??? This one na psycho case oo🤣🤣

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    2. You just described me...... no 'famzing' with neighbours, a good morning and waka pass kinda person. People might describe it as 'pride', but it isn't.

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    3. Lolll

      You never see anything.

      The day you are in need or your house is burning or armed robbers come, don't be surprised that everyone faces front.

      You never see anything for life.

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    4. Na wa. No wonder most of your comments dey be on kind

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  11. My own is each time I am not in speaking terms with someone, each time I see the person from afar, my heart skips even when it is the person that hurt me. I am always not at ease with myself till I make it right.

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    1. Same here!

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    2. We are in the same shoe but this my friend I will not talk to her.

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    3. Same with me,I am not always at peace when I keep malice. I love my peace of mind so much but people tend to take me for granted because of this saying I am peaceful person who don't like wahala even when they know they are hurting me.

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  12. My wife can keep malice for Africa!, she does not forgive, she doesn't say sorry even when she is wrong and will always find a way of roping it around your neck, she can also nag ...I saw the signs while courting, but I thought it will die down but hey it's getting worse by the day, she makes me so depressed most times. She will provoke you to the extent of...me sometimes wanting to hit her, even if I walk away I will still come back to another round why I am a weakling for walking out. I can't even describe it. I have talked to her on several occasions but no changes at all. My hope now is on God alone. Please any relationship expert in the house I need counselling please.

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    1. Please Oga how did you see the signs and still went ahead. Eh God.

      Please either pray for her or instead please leave her and get your piece.

      Dont go into depression cause of another human being or kill another person pikin cause you got angry.

      Some women and mouth. GEEZ !!! God Help You !!!

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    2. Oga this is abuse, you better leave that wife of yours.

      Please dont die of depression or hurt.

      Run dor your life.

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    3. Na follow-come.
      Theres nothing you can do, i feel so sorry for men that arent enjoying their marriages, especially if they dont deserve such, so many ladies are terribly behaved.... if u dont have kids yet, just know it'd get worse and worse when kids come, get out now and breathe fresh air.

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    4. You need to activate your ignore button in your wife, as a man learn to walk away no matter what. Never you lay your hands on your wife, find away to over look her nagging, her malice spirit and find away to make her realize you love her. Tell her you could love her Moore if she can stop nagging and keeping malice. You have work to do on your wife, that is why you are a husband, your job is to train your wife into who you want to be with.

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    5. Marriage is meant to be enjoyed not endured. She needs counseling not you. Maybe a little time away from her (say 2months) can reset her brain.
      Or better still, walk out of the union. Don't live a miserable life.

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    6. Men are not rehabilitation centers @Courtesy.

      Like y'all advice women to leave. Please oga leave.

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    7. Hmmmmm 🤔 how easy it is for people to advise one to leave his/her marriage, marriage is not child's play or a bed of roses you know. Oga please don't leave your marriage but rather find a better way to punish her like; pressing the ignore button, treat her like she doesn't exist even though you do not mean it, I tell you her brain will reset and she will think twice before acting out next time, in fact, make her feel you're no longer interested in the marriage sef, but please, don't hit her. When she comes around, make her know that her malicious attitude is affecting your relationship with her.

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  13. I just activated my malice button few months back. A person I called my friend went behind my back to back mouth me, she said terrible things about me to people, the funny part is that he never confronted me to ask me anything but she kept on saying things she does not know about me. This is the person we eat together, go to occasion together, someone I surprise her during her birthday, graduation. I could not believe she will do this to me. She was happy with my present condition, she was laughing at me about my situation but she never know that God is the master planner of our life.

    I called her one day when I kept on getting calls and complain from different people, I got so tired of my gist on everyone’s lip so I gather courage to call her, expecting her to admit and apologize or say something nice to me, she insulted me, called me a fool, said why didn’t I con to face her face to face that she would have tear me apart. After so much insult from her, I dropped the call and I have never Allred her again. She called me severally but I refuse to take her calls, that same moment I blocked her on all social media even through calls. Let her stay far away from me cos she is never a good friend.

    I will keep the malice with her cos I don’t want her to be my friend anymore.

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  14. I can't keep malice oh. Everyone in my life knows that, I can be so disturb ehh till I reconcile with the person no matter how they hurt me, but immediately after that reconciliation each man to their tent. But I wish I was the type that knew how to keep malice ehh, Cos some people can be so annoying.

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  15. Miss ESS,we are in the same shoe.I can give room for someone to display very well but once i X you,its forever,its not about keeping malice but about having my space undisturbed by valueless people.

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    1. I did that in Secondary school not anymore Again....

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  16. I hate keeping malice

    Instead, i'll make peace with you and avoid you

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  17. I dont know how to keep malice infact its morelike a weakness. Even if it was the other party that caused the whole ish. I will still apologise n carry own as though nothing had happened. I guess it stems from the fact that I don't know how to stay angry. Once I'm angry and I didnt express tge

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  18. It's not really malice per say but there are some people I decided to just cut off from my life for my own sanity.

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    1. True that! I cut people off easily. I'm highly intolerant!

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  19. Am a friendly person bt once am done am done, cut the person off and face front no time to waste time

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  20. This is so me right now, wish I could be able to ignore hubby for at least the remaining days of this year, but I'm tired already after less than a week. How could he hurt me so deeply and feel he can let it just slide by acting all nice no matter my reactions towards him. He's not keeping malice per say, but finds it difficult to apologize for his mistakes until I decide to broker peace. He takes me for granted because he knows I can't bear grudges for long. I think will share my story on sp tomorrow and see if that will make me feel better since I'm not the type that discuss my marital affairs with people no matter who.

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  21. Growing up, I didn't have a problem with keeping malice no matter the length. One minute we are good, the next you hurt me and I DON’T SEE YOU.You are GONE! No remorse.
    Years later, I can’t hold a grudge.No strength😩 I just eliminate bad energy. If I can’t get rid of you, I blank my mind.Blanking means, We are good,but not good good.
    Whatever you say, do, I really do not care. I can nod and agree to anything, because I have built myself to never let you in where it hurts most. So there is a boundary... Talk till eternity,insult me ooh, do anything... I’m not moved. We are not enemies either.
    How can I even allow someone make me restless with these battalion I have here tugging at me every minute?
    In a nutshell, I DON’T HAVE TIME for drama. It drains me.

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  22. Don't keep malice but just know when to draw the line.

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  23. Malice sometimes miltate to full blown hatred and it is somehow a sign of weakness. Confront whoever offends you, get the bad blood off your system instead of stewing and boiling inside.

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  24. My husband can keep malice eh!!! Even at the smallest things.
    Well, iv learnt to ignore him. Right now he is keeping malice and staying away and im fine. I don't weep or pine anymore. When he s tired we resume talking. But me beg unnecessarily? Never

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  25. My bf sits comfortably on this table. Keeps malice a lot,will to weeks without calling or sending a message. Always agressive when you try to correct the statement as insensitive. Gosh! Can't deal. He believes we are getting married next year, God forbid!!!

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