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Tuesday, January 15, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..


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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
IS IT RIGHT?



Is it right that a guy of 30 still stays at his family house, working but the family still provides food and shelter because they see it as their responsibility and they can. So his salary is basically for his personal upkeep only till he moves out which he plans doing next year.

My question is this guy brings his supposed girlfriend home, she stays indoors all day doing nothing, when we cook he comes take for two, when we don't he enters kitchen, use foodstuffs bought by the mom, prepares for them both and takes it in. 

All she does is eat, watch TV and go back. He does the cleaning and cooking and washing of their dishes. It's a family house and it's just one kitchen.

 Is it right for her to just remain indoors?. 
I'm asking because i feel it's not proper, they are not engaged or anything but she spends more time at the house than her own house, I think it's because the house is more comfortable. What do you guys think? she's in her mid twenties.



*So she should come and slave in the house when they are not engaged or married?If you ask me,i dont see any big deal with her staying in the room and not coming out...Please remove your nose and eyes from the relationship,if both of them are OK with it,wetin concern you?It is in Nigeria that you will see petty things like this concerning relationship....I am sure you are the guys sister,right?Look for somewhere to go and spend yur time and dont poke nose into anothers...*tongue click*
Note that this is my opinion,if it doesnt tally with yours,dont be rude.

136 comments:

  1. Poster pls get busy. Look for something to occupy your time. Shior......

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    1. When u come and overstay in somebody's house, people will see you finish.

      While the guy tries to engage himself and fill in for the girl which is ok, the part that will definitely get the others mad is

      " when we cook he comes take for two, when we don't he enters kitchen, use foodstuffs bought by the mom, prepares for them both and takes it in"

      He should have cooked for everybody, take his 2portion and leave the rest for others like they do for him.

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    2. Pls let me perch here. This is really funny. poster who are you again? neighbour, sister or house help? So you really have time to monitor other people's life when you are supposed to get busy with yours? You even had to bring it to sdk. Na so the thing pain you reach? Shame on you. Oversabi! You can kill. I'm sure you are also jobless like the person you just reported. Pls mind your biz and don't goan poison them one day saying it's d devil's work. Leave his girlfriend alone. I'm sure the guy is not even complaining. So you want her to do everything for you cos she is the first to have a bf abi? Look for your own boyfriend and be spending time with him. maybe you can be doing all his house chores as a good wife that you are. Ehen to the guy and his babe, All I can say is Na Wah!!The girl try o. She try well well

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    3. Poster this is how witchcraft starts

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    4. She coming there and staying indoors all the time without lifting a finger is a no no for me.@Blessed Princess

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    5. Chisos! Stella oh that up there is the father of savagery...
      Aunty you Don hear am nah...
      there's nothing more to be said (I can bet she wasn't experring that...Lol)

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    6. I don’t even care if she works or not, they should better not touch any food I cook cus o hate feeling used. The most annoying thing is the kind of irresponsibility the girl is showing, who comes to someone’s house and stays this long? I trust my mother, not under her roof, she will tell you to get your own place so you can continue living in sin πŸ˜‚ she will still harass you in your own place by the way...
      Girls these days no shame

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    7. Stella what re u saying? If she doesn't want to "slave" like u wrongly put it then she should remain in her father's house. Who then should slave 4 her? Ill go to d market, work my ass out n prepare meal only 4 one irresponsible adult 2 come take 4 two? Then when theres no food he comes out 2 cook only 4 two.

      Poster it is unacceptable to me. She either learn to help out with li2 chores even if its coming out 2 help with d dishes or her man start thinking of buying her fast food anytime shes around or she remains in her father's house. Namsense.

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    8. What’s is the mind your business for? The girl is eating my food free and you said I should mind my business? She too should mind her business by buying her own food and washing up too.

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  2. The young man complain give you?
    Do you know the worl her waist is doing for him indoors?
    Do you know what goes on behind closed doors?

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    1. 1.if I hear my daughter is staying that long in a guy's family house I will give her a dirty slap. If it is his personal house it is pardonable but not the family house. Even if u are staying in a face me I slap you please respect yourself and don't go around embarrassing yourself na dat kain tin dey cause see finish syndrome.
      2. Anywhere you try and make your presence felt, let pple say if this girl was here this place will be neat. U don't have to be a slave, learn to use your intuition and stop giving excuses for laziness.
      3. Na wa for the parents of the guy which kain training be dat.
      4.las las the guy will leave that girl due to see finish plus negative remarks from the family mark my words.

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    2. You think some parents encourage their male kids to leave & go live alone? They like them under their roof... eating free food, so they wont complain about anything or else the boy will vex & start looking for his own place, wetin concern them? If ur daughter isnt well trained to respect herself till man marry her, whats their own? Theyre both adults, they should enjoy themselves as long as no one is screaming r*pe

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    3. When I met my first boyfriend, I visit him when we are on holidays. His elder brother had a girlfriend that was living with them. She does housework from morning till night. Everybody will be sending her up and down. I will go stay for half an hour and zoom off before they start looking for me at home. The sisters started complaining that when I visit, I just cross my legs and then get up to go without doing any house work. They complained to my boyfriend so I stopped going there o. When it was dumping time, they dumped both of us and moved on, that lady almost went mental cos the guy got married to another lady immediately he left her.
      The whole town was feeling sorry for her, nobody remembered me o. When I went to pay her condolence she told me she regreted staying there and not thinking about going to school.

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    4. 16:59
      You went to pay her condolence, did someone die ?

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    5. @ Anon this matter reach to cause death.....please extend my condolence to her 😁😁😁

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    6. Dumping time and condolence visit got me,this is too hilarious

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    7. anon, how do you guys gbensh comfortably in that house knowing dully well someone might be at the door listening to different sound of music or someone might just be at the window peeping?? just being curious o. Don't you feel bothered that you might be disturbing the whole house with your moaning while gbenshing and breaking the bed? Anyway that was in the past sha. moving on

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    8. Pay her condolences indeedπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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    9. Chimooo who did this to you modella??? hahahahaha

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    10. @modella, I never know prick that time😁😁😁😁😁. I always cross legs with the sisters.

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    11. Sweet chocolate thank u jor.

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  3. the guy is not complaining but you, judgina are complaining? If you dont want, please tell "the guy" to move out of the family house.
    what you think is right/wrong is irrelevant cos my dear, your opinion is a non factor in this matter!!

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  4. I used to act same way when I visit my bf....I stay indoors,and he brings good. There is nothing wrong with that.

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  5. Guys pls don't be 30 and be living in your parents house to avoid chronicles like this. And if u are, don't bother taking ur girlfriend home.


    It's annoying to ur sis for her to be cooking for her and it would also be annoying for her to come to ur House and be doing chores for your family members

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    1. God bless you, Eka! I stay with my brother for now and he brings his girlfriends home. I know how it feels for me to cook and they come to eat, drop the plates and go. I'll really feel used if i have to always cook and include you as a girlfriend EVERYDAY!!! While you sit inside doing nothing.

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    2. Eka don dey mature. Love is indeed a beautiful thing. Love this u.

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  6. lol Stella Don provoke.well like you said this is Nigeria and that's almost everyones expectation when your bros bring his babe home. as for the lady, no one is asking her to slave when she comes around but common sense should tell her to shake body na. who's she forming indoors for

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    1. It’s not only Naija jare.
      If the guy was staying with his parents over here, he would be contributing to the mortgage and buying groceries. Not to mention, they would still expect her to make dinner sometimes since she’s practically living there.

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    2. Thank u jare anon 17.20 .who will cook for you while u cross your legs in the abroad .the policy is Do It Yourself unless she and her bobo choose to eat out all the time

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    3. Mortgage ke! By the time my first son is 30yrs old I'd be done paying off my mortgage and I'd encourage him to start early too so he can pay off early so no living under my roof at 30! Even if my siblings visit frm naija with their family,I make sure they pay somthn to cushion the effect of groceries and Bill's for the month, since you have money for vacation, dont come here and leave me broke. The babe shld respect herslf and stop visiting the family house.

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  7. Nawa


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  8. Poster, mind your business!!😑
    From your write up, I guess your are either the help, sister or relation. Mind your business.
    What a chronicleπŸ™„

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    1. I don’t think it matters if the poster is a help or whatever, she does have a point. If the girl wasn’t staying there so much, nobody would care but if she’s practically staying there, then it makes sense for her to act like she’s staying with people

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    2. Na this crazy mind ur business mantra make Naija bad like this. When you see something wrong, condemn it

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  9. Tu'le tu'le. Aunty/uncle daleru daleru. Sogba e. If the guy is okay with it, i don't see the reason you are taking paracetamol for someone else headache.
    So, the girl should cook for the entire house? Kaso fun ko fo o. Radarada.

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    1. 30 and u are still complaining he is staying in his parent's house. what will u do if u were to b my neighbors sis he is 41 and still stays with his parent

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  10. Poster please are you related to the guy or the girl? This one you are complaining on behalf of the family..

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  11. And this girl wey dey write so no dey her horse band home so. Once them see anything wet resemble relationships na to scatter am just dey hungry them

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  12. "She spends time at his place more than her own" yen yen yen, your brother's dick game is tight, stop d jelosi. i for one won't allow my brother's babe into our kitchen excepts she offers to...and those days she comes out n offer to help me wash plates.

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    1. Like seriously??? Wash your plate??? Aaaahhh

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    2. She is talking about real plates, not the other plates.

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  13. Stella I'm with you 100% on this one poster,the babe is not doing anything wrong ooh. So you want her to become your household slave so that you can love her and call her good girlfriend abi? Abeeg free the babe ooh, she can't come and go and kill herself to pls you guys.
    #girlfriendnotslave#

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    1. Madam keep quiet. So you don't see anything wrong with it as per gf not slave, so she can't wash the plate she used in eating? Food that wasn't even prepared by her the least she can do is show appreciation. You people will be dishing out what you can't take. If she practically leaves there,by the way how would a grown woman be comfortable in staying in a family house instead of talking her gf into getting a place. She needs to come out and help out,nobody is saying be a slave but sometimes come out and help out

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    2. Yeah I support girlfriend not slaves. but the girl does not have sense. going to stay with a guy in his family house 24/7 haba na. At least the visit shouldn't be everyday to avoid "see finish" from people like this poster. If it's his personal house it would be better not family house. Can't deal mehn. Na so the thing sweet her reach

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  14. It is completely non of your business.......

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  15. Stella,sometimes I ask myself what kind of a person are you.
    Poster Your brother and his stupid girlfriend are wrong in all levels.

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    1. Even in the Western world, the girl's attitude is bad. Very poorly raised chick it appears...

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    2. I have an inlaw that has been staying with me for the past 9 months. He doesn't do anything except to eat, sleep, watch tv, eat some more, invite females to my home, snap pictures for the gram and be forming fine boy with pimpled face and eat some more. Very annoying and lazy and it irks my soul. As soon as he decides to go finally I will make sure he never steps feet into my house again.

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    3. G. Wagon what stop poster to simply talk to her brother to stop letting the girl dish out good from their kitchen when she cooks? Why Will she be like nosing into their relationship and wanting the girl to be performing wife duties in a family house.

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    4. He dey see free food and shelter, where he wan go? Ikwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwa

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    5. Thank you! Finally someone that’s not kissing Stella’s a**
      There’s no where in the world that this is good behavior. Not when she’s practically living there...

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    6. some people baffle me with the kind of advice they dish out when obviously they can't take it,which one is gf not slave, so e good for the sister to slave for her abi,chai thank God I don't have a dunce for a brother

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  16. What do you want her to do?

    When I was single I used to go to my boyfriend's family house and I bet you I was always inside his room. His mum even used to beg me to come out and be with them in the sitting room but I was more comfortable being in the room and it wasn't a problem. Though I used to show face ones in a while if they are cooking or gisting generally.

    Like Stella said, if the boyfriend is not complaining who are you to poke your nose? Pls leave them to live their life.

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    1. So why didn't you marry him?

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    2. Anno 16 :`10, thank you very much for that question, How do you expect the guy to mnarry her with the atitude she came with

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    3. Must every relationship end in marriage? All these anonymous self...

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  17. 100% agree with Stella. All these jobless sisters. The fact that you turned yourself to a slave in your boyfriend's house doesn't mean everyone else is like that. Leave them alone. Tojubole

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    1. It is for the betterment of the said girl not the poster. Helping with chores doesn't make you a slave.

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    2. MNGW, leave these tigers online and cats in real life. In ur house if you eat, don't you wash your plates?

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    3. 21:01 if you actually used your brain to read, you would see that the boyfriend washes up all the dishes.

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  18. I believe he is your brother.. he isn’t complaining, moreover they are not engaged nd that’s not the guy’s house, so y should she come out? If I am d one I won’t even come out too... come out to do what for u? Clean d house nd ur brother would not still marry her? It can also be an arrangement bye them that she stays indoor while he prepares food since it’s not his house but his parent’s.. get a business and mind it my dear.. when ur brother is ready to settle down, he should get her a house nd she would act like d woman of the house.. I would also behave like her cos technically, that’s not my guy’s house

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    1. Then have some shame and don’t go and live there! How can you be f**king a guy in his fathers house, with the whole family there. No be sneak come and go thing oh, staying there day after day. Where’s the shamefacedness? Who is raising you people?

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    2. Sneak for what?
      Havent they done worse?
      I hate pretence..
      Im not fucking someones husband

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    1. Thats the only question thats bothering u

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  20. Gbam. I think it is the 1st time I have agreed with you significantly. It is when she starts coming to cook that she will now have to cook for the entire family and take turns to share plate washing.

    The only thing is I expect her to at least try to relate with other people in the house and not be a total recluse. It might be a pointer to the fact that she will not interact with the family if they eventually marry themselves.

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    1. The way you people say plate washing gaan

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  21. Well this is not a matter of are they engaged or not(looking at this wholistically). First, why does she spend much time at the guy's place when she has hers. Secondly courtesy demands that you at least help out in a place you frequently lay your head regardless of whether its a relationship or not, its just good to assist and if the person doesnt want to assist in the house then such individual should stay in his/her place.

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    1. Thank you very much, NObody said she should come and be slave, but courtesy demands, that is the right thing to do, while go to some one house, gross leg and be lazying around, you should behave like a wife material.

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    2. Who cares about wife material? Just behave like a decent human being with home training. Which means you lend a hand in a place you’re staying.

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    3. How do wife materials behave! Mtcheew whosoever is reading this. If you like pack sock away, clean the whole house, use your money to repaint his family house..... If unku doesn’t like you, when it’s time for marriage you are a gonna.

      Don’t Go and be forming one wife material and become old all of a sudden! Who wife material epp? Man wey wan marry you no go stress you at all! At all!

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    4. Sugar, God help that guy that married you. A decent human being knows he/she should contribute his quota wherever.

      If you don't want to, stop frequenting his family house

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    5. Lolll@ you 'should behave like wife material'. Hungry slavish desperate smelling local mentality. That is why your husbands and inlaws treat most of you like trash. You will sit there grinning like an ape nodding like a lizard trying 'to behave like wife material', whatever rubbish that means.
      You for kuku carry mop and scrubbing brush and bucket na, 5am spring up like a spider and start mopping the gate like a good wife material that you are.
      Aranko!!!

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  22. But me I feel the girlfriend should just help more in Terms of washing the plates or staying in the kitchen when they cook once in a while.

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    1. Automatic housegirl she will then become

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    2. Stay in the kitchen and do what exactly??
      The boyfriend washes all the dishes they use.
      So what is it exactly you want her to do?
      You people haven't said it yet.

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  23. Stella me too i opinion ur opinion, kai motor don jam English ooooo. Aunty poster no vex but you be olofofo marry your own business or better still try to find love biko!

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  24. Yes, the girl is not a member of the family yet, nevertheless, common sense should tell ANY regular visitor to a home, who partakes in the meals, to occasionally help out if not frequently...

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    1. He likes her like that, its working for them.
      free them jo.

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    2. He de f**k am like that, when the time comes to marry, he mind will start remembering these issues

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  25. but why will you be following boyfriend to family house sef.

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  26. On this one i agree with stella. If this girlfriend even comes out to cook and clean she'll never get it right in ur eyes! She will never win with you guys!
    Aunty sister of the boyfriend please mind your own business! I'm sure u r jealous cause u don't have a boyfriend or maybe u do and u made yourself a slave at his own family house.
    I even like the guy for cooking and cleaning up after his babe and keeping her locked up, it's also cos he knows the type of family members he has.
    But he needs to move out sha oh! 30yrs is too old to still live at home for a man. Uncle please save well and stay far away from this poster

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    1. '..she stays indoors all day doing nothing' Wy don't you give her work na as a principal that you are???

      That is when she will come out now and you will say... 'ehn she did not keep the kitchen neat'. 'She did not sweep the 5 years of dust accumulated under the cupboard'. 'Ehnn, her hand made the soup sour'. 'ehn she ate 1 egg instead of half'. 'ehn dis wan cannot even cook sef'.

      Let her stay where she is.
      You have nothing to complain about ba other than she is not manking herself 'useful' ba, as assistant househelp that you want her to be.

      To show your mentality, you are not even asking her to bond more with you lot, or get to know her more as an individual, you want her to come out and be doing what exactly?? So you can have more to jabber on about since there's nothing tangible to occupy you.

      The brother kuku knows how you lot are that's why he doesn't encourage her to come out, and he makes sure he washes up all the dishes etc so you wont have something to complain about there.

      Is she your girlfriend?
      Is she your wife?
      Did she come to fuck you?
      If you need housegirl go and employ one.
      If you want her to join you to do something ask her to.
      Simple.
      Instead of sitting there jabbering away and running down someone.
      Mouth like sour soup.

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  27. Stella high πŸ–‘ you saved me from typing. Silly entitled sister, proving what I don't know. Mtchewe

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    1. Y'all should swear down that I can take it if u were in this posters show.what sought of home training that living in a family house with a bf and yet u can't lift a finger.Nawa o

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    2. Listen to these lots at ur own peril.. Na them dey turn house help for man.

      What on earth will make a sensible girl stay in the boyfriends family house all the time. Don't you have shame?

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  28. Hmmmmm.....this was me many years ago....my Fiance lived in his parent's house until we started making preparations for marriage. To tell you the truth, I used to stay in his room whenever I went visiting because that was his space and I felt very comfortable staying there. As time went by, my mumm-inlaw and Sister in law dint like the fact that I was always indoors even while they cooked sometimes....as soon as they corrected me, I had no choice than to blend in because I Love my fiance(Now Hubby) so much and I also wanted peace! So i assisted them in cooking and cleaning whenever i went visiting and that even made me to learn how to prepare some of my hubby's favorite food from the way his mum prepared them (I'm a PRO now....lol) Poster, my advice to you is that you should be more friendly with your brothers girlfriend and try to correct her in Love! She might not know what she's doing is wrong! I understand how you feel and I also understand that your brother's girlfriend wants her privacy with her boyfriend.... But I am sure If you try to correct her like my own sister-in-law and mother-in-law did to me back in the days....i am sure she will change if she truely loves your brother she will make amends I promise you!

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    1. one million kisses for this message.
      Poster pls take this advice and ignore the pple currsing you out.

      How can a lady sit comfortably in another woman house without doing anything and feels comfortable.
      Pls this isnt about being slave or maid to them..

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    2. You were a fiance.
      You were recognised as their husbands intended wife.
      This one is just fuckmate.
      Let her stay inside that room before clap go enter dance.
      The fault is from the foundation. How can you bring your fuckmate/girlfriend to stay with you at the family house and they even allowed it???
      Lolll.
      Different different families na im dey.

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  29. Stella I disagree with you biko, girlfriend help out the house when you can, U can't eat the food prepared by another and still not wash plate or sweep the house, them train you well so? Poster don't mind these BVs, that girl isn’t trained and isn’t OK for the said over grown baby elephant staying in his parents’ house and bringing girls to the house. Untrained children everywhere.

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  30. Kindly advise ur brother to move out. But how do u know he is not contributing to the household?? Must ur mother tell u everything? Besides is the gf ur cook?? Mscheeew u are they type of SIL that will kill her brothers wife

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  31. I disagree with Stella on this oh.. if she can't assist then she should stay in her house. sister cannot be slaving for wife to be. tell hr brother u can't cook for her anymore period..

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  32. I can never be 100% comfortable visiting a man in his family home so often. Perhaps she stays in the room so she doesn't become too familiar. Her behaviour shows poor upbringing to me, but I am old school.

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  33. Yes, it is right. Mind your business. If you go to your boyfriend's house and slave, good for you. Let her be, please. Get busier.

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  34. Stella I disagree with you biko, girlfriend help out the house when you can, U can't eat the food prepared by another and still not wash plate or sweep the house, them train you well so? Poster don't mind these BVs, that girl isn’t trained and isn’t OK for the said over grown baby elephant staying in his parents’ house and bringing girls to the house. Untrained children everywhere.

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  35. this is Africa, no mother in law will like the lady's attitude, but your Bros sef, wetin gun dey do for family house at 30?

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  36. Enter your comment... Why do I have this feeling the poster is talking about me

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  37. Your brother is deeply irresponsible and your parents clearly enabled such behaviour. No single bone of responsibility in his body, no strive for independence at all. Working at a ripe age of 30, making no plans to move out and start planning for his own family, yet has the guts to bring in an equally irresponsible lady who comes in and out like her family house is a war torn zone. Babe, you have absolutely every reason to be disgusted.

    Your brother seems like one of these overgrown babies destined to end up with a concentrated liability. More than any thing, I detect that you are smart enough to realise that your brother and the kind of girl he is messing around with are likely to wear out your parents with mental, financial, emotional and general commonsense problems in the very near future. It is not right at all, it is not a good look and should never be encouraged.

    The right thing to do is move out to his own place, come visit regularly if it's the closeness your parents desire and, keep his relationship away from your faces, space and finances (with all that food they are eating) , till he is sure she is the final bus stop for him. Then she can come around and feel at home all she wants. How your parents don't feel insulted or repulsed by these clearly shows an imbalance in the manner you and your brother were trained. Now one has a sense of decency and, the other is empty container.

    Sadly, its not really your fight. It is your parents place to talk and your brother's place to act right. What you can do, that is if he strongly listens to you is, gently draw his attention to how inappropriate it all is. In a non-judgemental manner, make him see that it demystifies and brings zero respect to him and his girl going about things as he is doing. He needs to show respect for himself and your parents by not flaunting a clearly low-ambitious woman in your faces. If you guys are very close, stylishly direct conversations to choosing partners who inspire one to be better, add value to themselves, reject a mediocre lifestyle, decent to respect future in-laws and can package their hubby well in every aspect, as much as the hubby allows. Do it in a nice, friendly manner. In a few years time, if he grows up, he will be grateful for you. Don't go talking the lady, your brother gave her leg and besides, if she senses her love/stomach is threatened she may turn your bro against you guys and this can go on for years if they marry eventually.

    Truth is, your brother is not exposed/mentally mature and, is not aware that his fellow men have opened eyes. He is still stuck to that archaic, local, destiny-twisting loving. Your enabling parents didn't teach him and, you stomping around the house with disgust and getting visibly upset when nwababy shows up will only make him defensive and instigate 'protective instincts'. Many men will grow up at home, right circle of friends/associations or with the right woman and, the right woman may not necessarily be his wife. Befriend him and give him ideas. In time, he will come around and not kill your parents on time with this current behaviour.
    Good luck.

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    1. Yaba left escapee15 January 2019 at 16:59

      Wait oh...
      Too many funny people on this blog believing their ideology & perception to life is the right way.
      I'm sorry to open your eyes with this my comment... but do you know that NOT everyone in life wishes to be married & have kids!! Yes! They dont want that commitment & responsible for anyothet human being under the term Family! That doesnt make them abnormal or irresponsible, its their choice & theyre happier that way.
      The parents havent complained.
      The boy hasnt complained.
      The GF hasnt complained.
      The electric bill doesnt increase each time she visits.... so i dont understand this painment oh, is it jealousy or what?? You think life is all about one route? There are so many.... we wont all take same path my dear!
      If you eventually find someone that loves & accepts you just the way you are, you've found a rare gold without minning, its working for them, if shes creating a mess for u to clean i'd understand ur anger!

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    2. Aunty eskis, she say e plan to move out next year.

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    3. Demystify means to make something clearer.
      How is that word used in the context of what you are saying? What does it mean?

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    4. Wow! From the little chronicle up there you conclude that she is she is a low ambitious woman. And that the brother is not mentally mature/exposed because you think his way of loving is archaic?

      Wow! Just wow!

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    5. This 'ananleesis' made me laugh like a hyena.

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    6. I agree with Empress. I think poster's concerns are less about the gf helping out with chores and more with the propriety or decency of staying over every other night. I would never do such a thing because I have self-respect and pride but people have different values. What do your parents think about it? If they have no ish with it then let your brother be.

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  38. So helping out in the house automatically turns one to a slave? who raised some of you? Even the rich don't have this kind of mentality

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    1. Believe me most of them shouting here are house helps for men.

      It's only on SM they have power

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  39. The only thing I agree with Sis is it's annoying that the guy is taking the food they cooked to a girlfriend that never helps them cook the food or even speak to them. it's like they are the house help for her. That is a bit annoying

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    1. So one extra portion of food for a human being is what is causing this? Lolllll.
      If it was a man, the boyfriend was housing would there be any complaint?
      No.
      Address what is palming you poster.
      Address it very well, because you sound like a cantankerous, busy body, pepper body kind of person.

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  40. So I will slave in the kitchen everyday to cook and u (supposed brother's girlfriend) will come and eat 7 days in a week without rendering a helping hand not even once..well thank God ur boyfriend knows how to cook if not when hunger sampe u then u go know say no be everyday u suppose come family house come find man..abeg make una they talk true sometimes

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  41. And this one is a chronicle too right? Madam get busy pls bcx I can't make any sense out of ur chronicle... Awon monitoring spirit!

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  42. @Yaba left escapee, you are not opening anyone's eyes because I can see through you and your 'fake woke'/'narrowly intelligent but eccentric attitude. You see, I stated family for a reason and not marriage. Unfortunately you chose a narrow-minded approach to define family as husband, wife and kids and went on foaming in the mouth. With a very diverse world and definition of family now which could range from friends, single parent homes to the very traditional definition you jumped on, oh well... I almost forgot, your trying too hard persona chose yaba left hilarious as I. D.

    In your small mind, it is Empress CHO you will school today... Hope you stopped to catch your breath at least lol.
    And then jealousy, electricity Bill, ancestors complaining, painment and others you were throwing about.
    Don't believe your hype just yet dear.

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    1. Yaba left escapee15 January 2019 at 20:36

      Mtcheeeeew!!

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    2. Lmaoooooo! Different different people na im day for hia!

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    3. Chei, I love you Empress!!! Thanks for that clapback! Loooool!

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    4. Give it to them Empress. One thing I discovered on this blog is that many women here have no values yet they claim to be christians. You cant control what a grown man does with his private time and in his private space but you don't have to defend what's not proper. It's inappropriate please.

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  43. Thanks empress cho for saving me the stress of typing again after my comment disappeared,one word for the guy brainless,one for the girl useless!!

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    1. People are living their life based on how they see fit, cus u dont agree with it, ure calling them brainless, na wa o.
      He has a job oh, plans to move out oh.. yet brainless cus he pampers his GF.
      Tueh for una.

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  44. You said it all,i could add more but no need

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  45. Dear Sister of the boyfriend.

    Please talk to her lovingly about it. She might have her reasons (Yes! I have a friend who almost died because her suppose in-laws won’t give in to her “flimsy “ excuse of not being able to fry chicken due to her health...... After the whole frying, the real drama started. Her Inhaler couldn’t help her as she had to be rushed to the hospital to be stabilized). Ain’t saying this is is the case but please ask.

    See you won’t marry your brother. You can’t! If he choose to treat his woman this way, there is nothing you can do about it. It’s left for you to lovingly draw her close. Stylishly ask for her opinion on minor things... Should i use this instead or that? Engage her!

    Seee I am tired of all this in-law battles. We need to accept the fact these strangers we share bond with (by marriage) all come from different backgrounds. What is the norm in your house might be totally unacceptable in hers. Communication is the key. If you reach out to her and she still choose to remain in her space, please let her be.

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  46. So she will enter house, carrry face, straight to the bf’s room. 30 mins later, broad is out after sweating a bit, rummaging in the kitchen for food to take back inside πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
    Chai
    Chop
    Do another round
    Broad comes back out, check pantry, rustle up something light, take
    Pass, pass una for sitting room, fiam to his room πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
    Then una no go hear anything again....
    Till next day...
    Uncle will come out to take some breakfast in...
    And so on and so forthπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
    4 days this week, 3 days next week, 5 days another week, laidat laidat
    πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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    1. Iz like you read this with the two eyes in your left foot ba.
      Kpele.
      'Broad' does not come out to do anything.
      'Broad sits bumbum inside the room.
      'Broad receives food from 'broader' who goes in and out to fetch it.
      'Broad' ko, narrow ni.
      Mtshweeeeeeeeeeeeew.

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  47. In my fathers house it is a big offence to allow visitors make their own food even if they are regular visitors. Moreover, where I come from, we love feeding our guests. We derive joy feeding others.....

    And errrrmmm Unku brother sef should do and move out! Hian! Women are trying ooo. 30 and still in your fathers house. And you ‘wee na ‘ bring woman and be doing lovey lovey on top. What nansense!

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    1. When u are almost always there, u stop being a guest!

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    2. I'm honesty not comfort with a stranger in my kitchen.

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    3. Poster I think you are just jealous. This is how my boyfriend treats me and everyone is happy. Even when we go to his parent's house or sistwrss house, he tells them not to stress me. That instead they should tell him whatever it is and he will do it. He keeps telling them that I'm someone's daughter and not a slave.
      Anyway sha, that's because I told him right from the beginning that I don't like to be stressed. I am a Queen so treat me like one. And that's exactly what he does oh

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  48. Poster what do you expect her to do, Show she is a Wife material of a gazillion yards to the guy or the parents? Being a third party in the relationship, Abeg comot eyes and ears from it and Let them be. Na their way don't let it give you Headache

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  49. The girl is probably shy and not that comfortable around the family so I wouldnt blame her. Poster, learn to mind your own business.
    If it pains you so much, go and drag her out of His room and force her to cook and clean.

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  50. A sensible, ambitious ,non longer throat girl will know to respect herself and sit in her house and maybe visit not too often. But no. This one will cross leg in the so called boyfriends family house, eat up all the food and do nothing except fucking.

    Your brother should be slapped for having an almost live in lover in his father's house and the girl should be ashamed of herself for agreeing to this stupid arrangement without even doing Nada at least once in a while

    Where I come from ,YOUR ASS WILL BE KICKED.

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  51. This is a case of a cheap hungry urchin! If she can not help in the kitchen as per "girlfriend not slave" why go there often to eat food prepared by them and still leave the plates for them to wash? So the boyfriends sisters are the ones good to be slaves abi? "Mind your business" mantra is the reason the society is full of misfit people. No wonder most ladies can not keep a relationship or marriage.

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    1. Do you peopleread at all?????
      Where did you see leave plates to be washed??
      Or you just read comments and add 1+1 to create 19??

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  52. She should spend more time in her own family house

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  53. This poster sounds like the sister's friend that has a crush on the brother....LoL

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  54. My pride and self-respect will never allow me go to my bf's house and camp there for days on end sneaking around like a mouse. My parents will never tolerate such in their home no matter how old you are. As for my siblings, the kind of dirty eye you'll get sef won't even allow you think of staying till the morning. I know we all want to get married but please ladies have some dignity and class. This is how you marry men who don't respect you after marriage coz you threw your self-respect away while dating.

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