STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
A FRIENDS FRIENDLY HUBBY
This has been bothering me
I had a friend who we were very close and all when she was in Nigeria. When she relocated to d US I was happy but I missed her a lot. She was always checking up on me every now and then to know how I was doing and all.
One day, I was with some other friends when my phone rang and it was a strange number. I picked it only to hear my friends husband’s voice. I was so happy thinking they are both in the country. I was confused and I called his name to be sure he’s really the one (cause he doesn’t have my number) he confirmed that it was him. I asked how is Ur wife sir? He said she’s fine, she’s told me a lot about you that’s why I’m calling. I smiled and asked if they are together, he said no.
I was now confused. I then put the phone on speaker so my other friends can hear ooh. He said can you meet me in Lagos? I was like Lagos, what’s happening there? He said like I told you earlier my wife has said so many good things about you so I’ll like us to sit and chat.
I asked him, “sir is your wife aware of this call”?
Honestly, by this time I was thinking the wife was there with him but just wanna know d kinda person I am. Immediately he said please don’t let her know I called you, you know how you women are..... Shock hold me o.
Since that day my friend haven’t dialled my number. I tried to reach her on Facebook but she acted as if nothing is wrong but she was kinda off.
Now, I can’t tell her what conspired between me and her hubby and I don’t know what the husband told her. This life sha. I planned to asked the man on Facebook if he told the wife anything but on a second thought I don’t want to even contact him at all.
I always put it in prayer. Anyone that tarnishes my image without me doing anything wrong may God punish the person’s generation born and unborn.
I just miss my friend but I can’t kill my self now.... abi???
*You should have known that the minute you didn't honour his invitation,he would quickly do something to tarnish your name so that if you tell your friend,you would appear like a liar...
You should have told your friend casually ''Oh your hubby called me to say hi and wanted to see me but i was very busy...''
He may have destroyed the friendship between you both but i still think you should ask her why she is cold...push her into saying something and tell her what happened....you have nothing more to lose and she may not believe you sef but at least you tried...
I go with Stella
ReplyDeletePoster b4 I proceed, how did u come 2 d conclusion that ur friend is cold cos of what transpired btw d hubby n u regardless of d truth? 4 all u know she just might ve been caught up in her own probs.
DeleteMy advice, leave them alone. When n if she misses u she'll contact u.
My question is WHY will he ask you to see him without the wife's consent? Are you unhappy that your girl friend is acting up or you are regretting the fact that you did not meet up with her husband? Side chick alert. @Blessed Princess
DeleteBlessed princess, are u alright at all?
DeleteGud question 19:26
DeleteAaaahaaahaaaahaahhah anon 19:26 thanks for saving me the stress of typing.
DeleteTranspired not conspired. I say you leave her alone. If the situation presents itself, you both can talk if not, don’t push it. If I were your friend, I would have tried to find out from you if the husband said anything about you. Your hands are clean right? Leave them alone
ReplyDeleteEeehya.
ReplyDeleteHe obviously told her something
Free them na, friendship is not by force
Call ur friend casually and greet her.tell her the hubby called u should meet in Lagos but u declined o.hope all is well with them.make sure u tell her for posterity sake.another thing again.is it long did the call come in
ReplyDeleteMy dear it’s been long. My friends that were witnesses to the call asked me not to tell her anything bkos it might cause some trouble for them. That was why I didn’t want to tell her. If it was a boyfriend issue, I would have called her sharp sharp but now this is her husband. I didn’t want to be d cause of any problem they’ll have as a couple
DeleteSic. spanner
ReplyDelete"What conspired between you and the husband?"
Mmmmmmhh, looks like you implicated yasef in this ya tori o. Me I come think say nothing TRANSPIRED between you and the horseband?
When it is "abroad" and come be USA (A for America, not Afghanistan), I weak and taya for my Naija girls o. Enwe wey be monkey talk say na only the pikin wey dey im belle im fit swear say im no chop banana no be the one wey im carry for back.
That prayer wey you tell "god" make im punish generations unborn na bounce o. Baba God say na to pray make ya enemies do well na im he want.
Anyway, make I tell you wetin dey. Just chill, sidon dey look, truth no dey sink, im dey float like oil on water. Na ya friend go spill eventually..
na u type all dis confusion,or u do copy and paste from "I must be a blogger" site
DeletePlease sit ur “sic” ass somewhere. U sabi English like this naim frustration still wan kill u? Unam ikot. U think is everyone that’s crazy about abroad. I have been to the US and I was practically crying to come back to Nigeria
DeleteYour other friends whom listened to the call when yoh put it on speaker, haff epp you do legwork to your friend; afterall, all work na work
ReplyDeleteHmmm....your head they there. Poster beware of your friends
DeleteMention it casually to d wife that her Husband called..but men sha, why tryna be friendly with ur wife friend without her knowledge? On a good day ur husband has no business being friendly with your friends, simple.
ReplyDeleteBlackberry, the man wan gbensh her. Some men sef Na wa.
DeleteMy sister I tire oo.... it’s not every friend that can be a Pamela
DeleteLol your friend's husband need a biff on his left cheek
ReplyDeleteShe has moved to the abroad and may the caught up with life or just ignoring old friends. Don't tell her about the call. She has enough problems
ReplyDeletePoster, try and reach out to your friend. Tell her you have been worried with her sudden change towards you, tell her everything that happened with her husband and bone face. If she believes you, good, if she doesn't, still ignore her and move on with your life, at least you have cleared your conscience.
ReplyDeleteNo one is indispensable in this life
Men and their wondering Dicks
ReplyDeletePoster just forget the matter and face your life at least, your other friends heard the conversation when you put it on speaker so at least one of them would be able to defend you if the need be.
Also I suggest you download "Call recorder app" on play store or Apple iOS...the app records all calls so that next time if he calls,you can save the recorded call and then forward it to your friend to clear your name,incase he has tarnished your image before her.
That App has saved me a lot of headache especially when it comes to reporting a call incident.
If you think you want to blackmail me I will play back your gist for everybody to hear...download it and save yourself the hassle of dealing with nonsense issue like this in the future.
LEP😛
Are your other friends friend to her ? you never know maybe one has gone to say something to her and since you haven't said anything to her she is questioning your friendship. Just my two cent though
ReplyDeleteNo, They aren’t friends to her
DeleteThis is why I don't joke with call record,would have simply sent it to her. Next time be smart,all these yeye men roaming around .
ReplyDeleteI’m not thinking if she will believe me or not. That’s her bizz. I just don’t want her to have Issues in her marriage bkos of me. Some people might say I told her that to destroy her marriage or bkos I’m jealous she left me in Nigeria.
DeleteSo this supposed good friend of yours that you love and miss so much and you do not care if she believes you that is her business? What an interesting statement to make.
DeleteWhy would she have issues in her marriage because of you? How many marriages develop issues because a husband decides to call the friend of his wife once? Could he not have been calling you to find out if you had anything you wanted him to take back abroad for her? Could he not have been calling you to pick some ankaras for her? Could he not have been calling you because maybe she was sick or suffering from something and he wanted to see if you could visit to surprise and cheer her up? So madam, why would she have problems in her marriage for the one call that could have been for any number of reasons unknown to her?
Because my dear Detective Inspector Gadget 21:19, according to the poster, he immediately asked poster not to tell his wife he had called much less asked for a date in Lagos.
DeleteIf husband was planning a surprise for wife, he would have immediately said it. Immediately. A colleague's friend's husband called me as I'm the closest to her in the office to set up a surprise for her, mind you this is somebody I had never spoken to before. So I know how that goes.
As for the rest, 'take items abroad' 'picking up ankara', 'cheering up his wife' etc etc it's obvious you watch too many low budget movies and know next to nothing about Nigerian men. Loll.
And you still cannot answer the one question everyone is asking if this man called her just once, she never met up with him or spoke to him again why would she be panicking that the one random call is the reason the friend is acting off with her? Abroad life is not a bed of roses, any number of things could be going on with her friend why she seems distant.
DeleteNo inspector Gadget about it, no Nigerian men about it, when your conscience is free your mind is at peace. Her mind is unsettled for a reason and only she knows why. It cannot be because of the supposed love she has for her friend, because she said she doesn't care if her friend believes her or not that is her business, but she doesn't want her to have problems in her marriage because of her, this statement does not strike you as odd? A guiltless heart would not assume that one random call from a friend's husband automatically means they are going to have problems in their marriage. Something is not being said and one wonders why.
Maybe your other friends told her stuff. You never can tell,
ReplyDeleteThey don’t know her
DeleteJust like U posted it here, U can forward it to her on Facebook, excluding the insults... U took too long though, she might have a hard time believing it but ur mind will be @peace & free of wandering.
ReplyDeletePlease don't tell your friend her husband called you, its putting salt fr injury.Leave the Lady with her abroad palava and know that frienshp ain't by force
ReplyDeleteYou made a mistake by putting the call on speaker. It is one of those "friends"that listened to the conversation that told untrue tales about you,to your friend in US. Believe it. The truth will come out one day.
ReplyDeletewalahi, your other friends that listened to that phone call are spreading tales.
ReplyDeleteshebi you wanted to form saint and put the phone on speaker.
mumu
They aren’t mutual friends. Chai! Before u insult someone, first make sure ur head is correct. Habba!!
DeleteMadam poster, littering this post with ‘ they don’t know her, they don’t know her’, how are you sure? It takes a mischievous soul to search out someone on FB and reach out if they’re he’ll bent on doing so. So never say never
DeleteGod please ,save us from such men. The thought of a man going so low as to call his wife's close friend!!.uwa ntorrrr.
ReplyDeletePoster leave them and face your life. Time will tell, and if it doesn't, your conscience is clear.
DeleteI dont get how one phone call will get you all worried like this?...Is there something you not telling? Did you meet the man?
ReplyDeleteExactly! The friend may even be in an abusive relationship or suffering from depression. Why would she even think the one call is the reason especially if she never met up with the man or spoke with him again after that. I am sorry this chronicle is like going to the river to get water with a straw basket. It just ain't holding up.
DeleteReading this did remind me though of why I choose not to be friends with husbands of my friends. A respectful acquaintanceship is enough for spouses of friends, nothing more.
I believe she met the guy. She probably had sex with him, and the man stopped calling. She is scaretd the guy might tell the wife. Could also be, she dm'd the man on social media, that's how come he got her number. I don't get this name tarnishing assumption sef. Girl, you are your own enemy. Your friend or husband doesn't have your time.
DeleteI believe I missed the part where the man told you how he got your number since he neither lives in the states with his wife nor had your number before his wife travelled. Does your number show on your Facebook profile page?
ReplyDeleteIf you can provide or get a satisfactory answer to how he got your number and what gave him the 'liver' to call and invite you to Lagos for "a chat", therein lies your answer. If it's not what I'm thinking, then block your friend on all your SM handles. If she doesn't call you to know why, forget her. If she does, tell her you were upset she set you up with her husband despite your years of friendship. That accusation should loosen her tongue and provide you with answers. Bring us gist afterwards biko because there is more to this gist if your version is a hundred percent honest.
Your story is only half. Did you meet him in Lagos? Did you sleep with him for cash or kind? tell the whole truth and complete your story before asking for help.
ReplyDeleteAnd this one is chronicle too right?
ReplyDeleteso immediately the call came in, you just decided to put it on speaker and you claim it's the first time he's calling you...
ReplyDeleteWho does that. Some of these ppl must think we were all born yesterday. They send in their half baked stories hoping nobody sees the holes in the fabric.
DeleteStella said it all.
ReplyDeleteDon't know what tell you if your conciensce is clear you shouldn't be panicking that your friends husband called, kini big deal
ReplyDeleteSomething similar happened to me in school, my friends boyfriend who acts like he doesn’t see me travelled abroad and started calling me, the first time was weird, I just answered normally in a very awkward manner.
ReplyDeleteThe second time he called, my friend was in my house, I just picked the call and said loudly that his girlfriend was here and gave her the phone. That was the last time he ever called me back. What was more shocking was that my friend started avoiding me and never spoke to me about the fact that her boyfriend who is not my friend called me...
Just ignore and move on poster
But did your friend's boyfriend asked you to meet him in Lagos or anywhere else?
DeleteYour case is not like this one because you acted honestly immediately.
The cases are similar but I guess this one acted dishonestly cos it is curious that she avoided all the comments up there asking how he got her number and if shehad had sex with him to this one!
DeleteVery curious!!!!!!
Dis you know him before your friend left naija? How did he know you are not in Lagos?
Poster its as easy as telling your friend " your husband called me a while ago hope everything is alright back there with you. Did you give him my number as I am not sure how he got it"
ReplyDeleteSimple, unless there is something you are not saying. Also let us know how it goes.
What games are this husband and wife up to?? Just stay silent and observe. It was an innocent call and your conscience is clear. You may call her and ask if everything is okay with her. If he calls you again, then tell her. And also, those other friends had no business listening in on your convo with another friend's hubby. Learn to be discrete in your communication. It's not everything you'll expose on speakerphone. Trust no one. Most Android phones now have call recording. It's best you rely on that for backup.
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