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Friday, February 22, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

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MARRIED TO ONESELF

Hi Stella,


I am writing this with deep sorrow in my heart. 


On Valentines day my husband disappointed me again. 


We lived apart for 3 years, and when we were reunited in 2017, I discovered that he had been talking to a white girl. He claims he never did anything with her, he met her through Church. She was visiting from her country, and during that period it seems they went on dates together to different spiritual sites, I don't know where else they went to, or what they did ( as he claims they never had anything physical).



She ended up going back to her country. And then the next year I got a job in the city where he lives and moved down to be with him. I also had a baby that year,in addition to a toddler, that period was one of the most stressful times of my life as my work involved long hours, and working on weekends. My husband helped out with the kids a lot that period which I remained grateful for (Thankfully my work hours are better this year, and I am now doing most of the work) 


Then I discovered that though the white lady had gone back to her country, he was still skyping with her and even sent her a valentine present, all the way to her country. He would complain to her about all the work he was doing at home, send her pictures of our kids, talk about how he could look for a course in her country to do. After I discovered all this, I approached him , my annoyance was that this same man would complain to me about money, but had money to send someone valentine present in another country, he would complain about no time, or he cant think of what to buy for me, or he doesn't know how to surprise me, blah blah blah, but could go out of his way to surprise, and plan something for another girl.


After we went to talk this over with a priest, I asked him to cut all ties with her,  he agreed, but then later he admitted that he still sends her messages on special occasions. Then last year Valentines day he didn't buy me anything, or even send me a happy valentines day message, despite my going out of the way to do same for him. 


He later claimed that because we were quarrelling, and he was busy at work, blah blah that it was an oversight, and promised to do better. This year I kept on reminding him that I needed him to show up, and do something for me. On my part he already told me what he wanted to valentine which I agreed to get for him, he was also happy when on this last Valentine, I cleaned the house top to bottom, despite my busy schedule, and said that was what mattered most to him. 


The morning of valentine he asked me whether I could get someone to watch the kids so that he could take me out. I agreed. Only for him to come back by 7pm to complain about how untidy the house was blah blah blah, and after we had an argument about the house, he said he was no longer going out again. I reminded him that why is it that today of all days that he decided to complain of an untidy house, and why he couldn't wait to complain after we came back. As it is I am just tired an demoralised.



 We never go out as a couple, he never does anything to show appreciation., he never does anything romantic to make me feel valued as a wife. When i complain he says that the 3 yrs we were apart wasn't he always sending me valentine presents. I am just tired and fed up of feeling unloved in this union. He can go out of his way to romance someone in another country but cannot do the same for someone living in the same house with him.




How you ended up settling for this as a Marriage i don't know but you both don't seem to be in love and should discuss freeing yourselves...

92 comments:

  1. So sorry about this ma'am maybe you should seek a counsellor or something. Talk things out and pray harder.

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    1. Poster just take good care of yourself and ignore him. Love yourself and take yourself out to fancy restaurant, buy nice gift for yourself. If your horseband die today (God forbid) won't you live your life? Start treating him like a roommate. Make sure you ignoreb him to the extent he will start asking you if you're seeing someone else.

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    2. he seems uninterested in the intimacy of this relationship, he drifted away those years and it seems hard to get back.
      He is attracted to the white lady and seems to have fallen out of love with you. Just do you cuz you can't force a dead horse

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    3. Nice advice ever. Poster take this advice and watch urself have the peace of mind u crave for. Snub him like kilode.... I hate nonsense....

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    4. Princess intelligentia. You are right, thumbs up

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    5. This is sad. Why are some men like this? What has she done to deserve this? Why marry a woman just to turn her into a house maid, cook, cleaner and baby factory, then ignore her emotionally, like she is a robot? Madam take very good care of yourself and pray. This is just sad. May God touch him.

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  2. Please work this marriage out. God hates divorce. Kids are involved and it does not always end well especially in the Nigerian setting. You may lose those kids.

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    1. Ummm. Things work out when both are willing to make it work . Both!

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    2. Poster, your home is not tidy enough for your man. The secret to your happy home is to make it welcoming to your man. If it's too much, get a cleaner and watch your man draw up to you again.

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  3. The poster is in love, but the husband is seeing somebody else.

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    1. Poster this so simply to advise. Your dirty and most especially I don’t think you have sense. The man is fed up with your lack of sense and dirtiness. The day you cleaned the house he was so happy and even promised to do a lot for you, Val’s day he came to meet a dirty house,outing canceled. don’t you have sense to know why he doesn’t value you? From your write up you sound so childish, like a woman that all she does is complain with out given and smart talk.

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    2. Anon 15:39 so this is all you could deduce from her write up n you have the guts to says poster doesn’t have sense.

      May God save u from vileness and bitterness. Nothing good ever comes close to people like you. Lick some honey n mind your business

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    3. So why cant he help her clean their house? Isnt it their kids messing up the house? They both go to work. So he can help her out on weekends. So is it solely her job to clean? Then he should make it solely his job to provide the funds so she can stay at home and give him a clean house all the time. Hiss!!! He is just a very inconsiderate man that is not satisfied with what he has. Imagine a married man importing his girlfriend from overseas and i am sure she stayed at his place. Madam take care of yourself and ignore him. People should learn to be sensitive of other people's feelings. I am sure if she does half of what he does to her to him, he will commit suicide. They always dish out what they cant take.

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    4. @fine I’m not surprised they say the truth is bitter. In English simple compression . We are giving a long story to read,but when the questions come it’s just the little things that makeup the idea behind the story and most times people fail to understand those little things so they fail. I don’t have to read everything to know that her problem is dirtiness and not talking intelligently. Men hate dirty and witless women trust me.if you speak smartly your husband wit always want to have a conversation with you and ask for your ideas in what ever he wants to do.

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    5. This anonymous is going to be a wife beater if he's not one already. Such level of disgusting. In his mind now, he made mega sense

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    6. Anon 16:24 and the rest of you who are quick to jump to conclusions with asking questions,why not invite the lady to your house and live with her for a month, maybe then you would know if she deserves all the empathy she is getting.

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    7. @Eka why is it that girls don’t ask why some beautiful girls go from juju house to juju house, from pastor to pastor seeking for a husband. While some that are not as beautiful as them have been married 3 times to not just a man o, but to very rich men in the 3 times . I do not have any reason to beat any woman or man, I can’t stress my self with that. If it’s a man I call the police to pick you up and I pay , if it’s a lady I just work away and drop the relationship, yes I’m not married but rather than beat my wife I will ask for divorce. If her matter pain me too much.marriage no be force .

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    8. @ fine why he they pain you na, abi you self na dirty woman?

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  4. your man is not into you anymore

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    1. He was never. Relationship of convenience

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    2. I think her man is one of those men that loves a very clean surrounding. Poster since you are very busy with work and your kids, why not hire someone to clean your house daily? It also seems your husband's love language is acts of service, read it up and apply it. It may help him fall in love with you again.

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  5. My dear, some of these men are so selfish and I noticed its the men that have working class wives who help out financially etc at home. The level of selfishness these days from men is so overwhelming. I feel you should keep talking to him, tell God about it too and try to love yourself more by taking care of yourself more. Spend on yourself and make yourself happy.
    Na wa for some men oh

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    1. It is that selfishness that drives them to seek out working women in the first place.if only we knew before saying I Do.

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  6. Poster if he doesn't "romance" you, pls romance yourself. If he doesn't love you love yourself. Marriage shouldn't be a do or die affair even when you're inside it. Your happiness shouldn't lie in the hands of your husband. Make yourself happy and ignore him. Take yourself out, meet people and look good for yourself. Stop waiting for a man to place value on you. Treat him like a fuck mate and a baby making machine. Kaput!! Me I don't have time to wait for my husband to make me happy, when I can get happiness in so many ways. As long as he fulfils his financial obligations.

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    1. πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘
      Take urself out,let him watch the kids,enjoy ur life,love yourself,romance yourself,start making friends,forget about him,marriage is not a do or die,let him be,stop nagging him.

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    2. That's it ebby4me



      Madam please snap out of the mood swings

      You give him so much power over your well-being
      Love yourself and treat him the way he treats you

      Find interest in other people and things

      He will begin to miss all the excess love that your are currently pouring on him

      Do those things of old that made you stand out once upon a time
      That made you attractive

      Please try and stop complaining about his nonchalance

      Don't go and kill yourself o!

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  7. E bi like say this ya (Naija) horse-band don dey do im own Abroad Wifey Hunting (wetin woman fit do, man fit do am tinye jara 😊). Im wan use one stone kill three fowls; vamoose go abroad, marry girl collect papers, come "study".
    Them fit no get "anything physical" but them fit get something spiritual.
    My advise to my sisis be say, anytime oga (wey suppose be on top) get job for another state/country, make all of una move once o. That three years apart na im (wan) kill wetin remain for this una marriage so.

    Make you corner am make im tell you wetin the white sisi been dey gi am wey you no dey gi am. All these una (fowl) fight no go solve am. Ekwuchaa m

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    1. Ode read to understand before u come with your disjointed pidgin or creole , always typing trash

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    2. @Anonymous 15:47
      Thank you for reading "thrash" always 😊

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    3. Trust me, nobody reads it. We just skip because not only is it stressful to read, it doesn’t make sense afterwards. And I’m not 15:47

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  8. This doesn't seem cool at all. You just have to talk to him and if no changes yet, just focus on your kids and career, for now.

    Give him some space like you don't care though you're still doing your wifely duties in the home. Don't let his behavior shoot your BP up. You have your kids and life to worry about. Lastly, commit all to God in prayer. It is well

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  9. This is really sad. Why must he disappoint his wife every valentine? He probably has developed feelings for the white lady and resents you for calling him to order. You need to use reverse psychology on him henceforth. Stop showing any interest in celebrations that include him, like his birthday, your anniversary etc, take care of your role, duties and responsibilities without any other extra. No extra care or pampering for him. His type usually enjoy getting all the love and affection without the need to give back in return. With time he’ll change his way because no man likes being ignored. If he were consistent in sending you gifts while you were away, why not now?
    And for the unmarried or newly married, if you can, please don’t stay apart from your husbands in the early days. Live together until a solid foundation is established because some of these men will enjoy living alone and start seeing their partners as inconveniences.

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    1. Nobody will intentionally want to stay apart from their newly Wed partner except circumstances demand that.

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  10. Really sad what Nigerian women go through in the name of marriage. You’re working but still expected to do most of the housework and take care of the child that bears his last name. Things these men would never put a white woman through. And yet so many women still act like it’s cooking or housework or submission that make men behave well. Wish you all the best dear, you deserve better and I hope you get it no matter the route you take.

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    1. Ann 15:19 stop sounding childish. What do you mean by Nigerian women go through with Nigeria. Men. If it’s so cool oversea why do they divorce every second, most people don’t know what they have till it’s gone, go abroad and see how foreign girl they rush Nigerian men.the truth is some Nigerian women have gone so lazy that they want a man to do everything and like we all know empty barrel make the loudest noise, they have nothing to offer in a marriage or relationship but sex and so they feel entitled to God knows what. You done see girls that are married to rich Nigerian men complain?Because she says she works like most claim,but they don’t tell you they contribute nothing to the house,what kind of stupid work is that? She said she went out of her way to buy gift for him, what exactly is out of her way? Did she rob a bank or kill someone for it? You need to know ur self worth, saying things they can’t put a white woman through is degrading of your self, because same thing you say here a white woman can never say, even if her black or white husband is bad, she can’t go so low to compare her self with someone else like most black girls do.im 27yrs old and not married, I have a job that pays me over a million Naira a month, I go to the market my self, I clean my self, I feed my dogs and bath them my self and it has not killed me. Just as it’s fun for a good man to provide for his family , that is how it’s fun for a good woman to run her home which includes cleaning and cooking. If either of both can’t do this in a marriage then they should please stay out of marriage it’s as simple as that not by force.

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    2. 15:58 pls shut up u clearly don't know what you're talking about. White women date naija guys because naija guys don't treat them the way they treat naija women. Naija guys treat naija women the way they treat their sisters. When I'm around my bro think he should do nothing domestic .This is how we grew up. Mom didn't make him do any thing. We are grown now and he thinks all women serve him. Same guy married to white woman and acts difft

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    3. Ann:16:36 that says I should shutup, have you asked why he acts differently with a white woman? Or do you think he will act same way with all black women? Are you too stupid to understand that some women enjoy their marriage? It’s the way you lay your bed you will sleep on it, I just advise that you women should have self worth and don’t think because you fuck a man he should do what every you want, sex can’t do that but brains can. You forget to tell us that his white wife provides for her self and don’t depends on him for everything like most of you Nigerian girls do.their is no man that will share 50/50 house expenses that will expect the wife to do all the domestic work, that is not possible. Contribute equally and see how they will act, this white girls share 50/50 and go check very well does White House wife do all the work, go watch desperate house wife and stop believing what your head tells you.

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    4. Anon 15:58... I laugh in Spanish.. I have nothing to say to your type except.. when you get married, come back in 5yrs and re-read your comment. You will figure out who is truly childish

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    5. what is this aunty single saying? you are not yet married and you think it's that easy? you are very funny to even compare raising a child to taking care of dogs, go and marry and get a child then come back and tell me howfar

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    6. Lol 15:58 u know nothing. Sorry but there is a lot of growing up left. No naija man will share bills and not share chores?. For real? Joker. Naija men will watch you pay all I mean all bills and not help because their mother didn't ask their father to make Garri and his can't be different

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    7. Ann13:32 I give up on people like you,you keep comparing a lazy mans and a lazy woman . Why dint you read the part I said if a man can not provide for the family he should forget about marriage and if a woman can not take care of her home,make she too rest. Why involve in something you can’t do. So how did our mothers that took care of 5,6,7 kids in does day not die? Un own na just 1 child or sometimes 2 and una carry una case go court. Al it if women are doing it and not complain and a lot of men are providing and don’t complain. Lazy people check una self well.

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    8. Anonymous 15.58 don't mind all these aunty gwegwe under your comment, they are the bittered and self entitled that got nothing to bring to the table but want a man to do all for them. Keep on being yourself.

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  11. Let me just shut up!

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  12. both of you are failure in this relationship.so do not reenforce failed relationship.move on.
    your relationship is inconclusive.avoid a rerun.move on pls.

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    1. She is not a failure .she didn't cheat on him. He did

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  13. Hmmmm, this is deep oh,take heart poster.

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  14. The Lord is your muscle.

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  15. The Lord is your muscle.

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  16. Leave him let him go and meet the white lady...when that one put pepper in his eyes, he will know that EPA and IYE are not the same....

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  17. The Lord is your muscle, Dear.

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  18. You love your husband but he doesn't love you in return

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  19. Haha freeing gini? Just like that?
    Well poster your husband intentionally picked a quarrel after you both have agreed on a date so heartbreaking.

    You may consider not pressurising him again.. Just press the ignore button.

    When a man is head over heels with the wife, he goes all out to show how much he cares.
    Also put your eyes on the ground, the white girl might not be your only contender. Ciao

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  20. I guess the other lady has gotten his attention alot. This is your marriage and I think you have to fight for it...That 3years gap really brought alot of issues into your home
    Both of you have to come clean and fight for the love again.
    I know is not easy handling the little ones, going to work and fighting for your hubby's attention.
    Take out time and look for another way to get his attention back. I guess complaining about it is not working out now
    E-hug!

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    1. That man is gone. Untill the relationship he is carrying in his heart with the white woman fail,he will never come back to sense. Her cry and pain mean nothing to him. No body, even priest can stop his plan. Have been through that in my husband's hand. Drity house or whatever are just excuses.

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  21. What a pity, ur husband doesn't know ur worth, how can you be repeating / reminding him of what he is supposed to know or do, guess he's catching feelings for d Oyibo babe, talk to him once more to unburden ur heart and watch him from afar,if he doesn't change, start ignoring him and focus on ur kids, make urself happy and live ur life, shebi na because u care,u dey complain and telling him his faults,by d time u ignore him, his brain will reset, make sure he carry out his responsibility as d head of d home ooo, no go carry two people load only u.

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    1. He doesn't appreciate her at all. Even without love, can't he treat her with kindness? What is the big deal in taking your wife out on Valentine's day, especially when you have discussed it and you know it will make her happy?

      He even stood her up and decided to fight on said day. He can't even pretend to his wife that he is the kind of man that doesn't do Valentine because he went out of his way to please the white lady. Or maybe he is trying to manipulate that one too. I pray your husband doesn't bring a curse on himself by his actions. It is very bad to grieve your wife, especially when she is faithful and trying her best.

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  22. ThankGod u have kids........ Just stop caring, wake up everyday do ur work at home, go to your paid job, come home load ur phone call ur family and gist...... go to bed and sleep. Ignore his ass and he will come around...... you care wayyyyyy too much!!!

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    1. Bikonu, poster please nne don't do this o, this one is high on kainkain dry gin with dogoyaro leavesπŸ˜‰

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    2. Kidjo anon 15:48 Is so correct!!!
      She will keep hurting until she learns to ignore. I am in a similar boat with poster (though slightly different circumstances).

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  23. Nne, try and clean up more often. Get a cleaner if you can afford one, do little things you don't use to do, he may not change but try. All the best.

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    1. Exactly! The problem here is dirtiness! The man loves a clean house but is too lazy to clean it and the wife already has a hands full with her career and kids. Get someone to tidy up for you daily and I believe things might get a bit better between you too.

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    2. If he is so concerned why can't he pay for a cleaner? Some men look at their wives as slaves, or another man's child they can maltreat. Wickedness at its peak. Some saddist horsebands enjoy seeing their wives stressed out and ugly, so they can have excuses to go out there and make it rain on slay queens. Anoffia! Cultivate your own garden, dem nor go gree.

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  24. You should get a marriage counselor, he has obviously fallen out of love with you

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  25. I just want to ask, cos you said you cleaned the house top to bottom and he was happy. Are you are dirty person? Seems he loves cleanliness, are you clean? I don't know why I picked up on that. Please look into this because dirt kills love too. Please look into your personal hygiene too, if all this is good then my dear this is the bitter truth, love is out of the window.

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    1. Even if she is, breaking a promise is completely irresponsible. Poster find a friend and start enjoying your life. Even the best of men don't always want to go out.

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    2. You made sense Tiana, I have met a lot of men like that. They hate dirtiness with a passion but are very lazy to clean up once they get married.

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  26. Make yourself scarce

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  27. He has grown out of love or never loved you.Begin to pay more attention to yourself.be happy,look good,smell good,take your kids out.forget he exists.He will have a rethink,if he doesn't then so be it.you alone holds the key to your happiness

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  28. He doesn't seems to be in love with you anymore, just take care of yourself.. and watch and pray.

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  29. Moving forward, focus on your child and yourself. Look out for your happiness, love yourself and try spoiling yourself. The choice to be happy or sad , in whatever situation you find yourself, lies solely with you. Do not give anyone the privilege to be able to mess your emotions up

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  30. At times a man's brain is wired to only hear a woman's needs cos he is a fixer! - Tell him what you have told us that you are feeling unloved and unappreciated, even though he is a good father and you appreciate his help - You need and yearn for romance love and gifts from him.

    He is not a mind reader and stop the complaints or else you would drive yourself out of your marriage.

    The white woman is not the problem here. This is your marriage, you either make or break it, the choice is yours.

    Good luck

    From a woman

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  31. As in ehh, that man isn't in love with you, you are a burden to him & he is obviously looking for a way to discharge you. He's taking the next available bus out of your life, he is only here cos of the kids. I pity you madam. You need to find a solution ASAP, you should leave him & try start a new life . Or pray God redirect his senses back to you. It is well with you.

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    1. Poster don't take this advice oh! Try and make your marriage work. Things have not gotten bad beyond repair yet.

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  32. Poster, it's very normal for couples to fall in and out of love while still married, but you can still get your man back abi you wan let oyibo snatch your man😎😎😎 oyibo wey nor get level for where Nigerian ladies dey(according to my white frd)πŸ˜…
    Oya drag your ears and listen
    Take note of what he's been complaining about,i.e dirty house, maybe your looks inclusive. Try as much as possible to clean the house just as he likes it
    Check yourself, what were those things that he liked about you before you got married (could be your cooking, dress sense, dancing, jovial nature etc) try to start dressing nice by wearing sexy things.

    Don't NAG, All men hate nagging be it from wives/girlfriends.

    Love yourself too, love and pamper yourself. sometimes , we show others how to treat us by how we treat ourselves, love yourself by pampering yourself to nice treats

    Appreciate him for the lil things he does( that's how to get a man's mumuest button)you must ve seen that woman on ig, that knelt down, praising her husband,She knows what she's doing sis, try this and see if it doesn't work ..
    If after doing this then he's still talking to the lady, get her contact and confront her😬😬😬(the kingdom of God suffereth violence and violent taketh it by force, you must take it by force my sister) Matt 11:12..

    PS, I DEY HIGH ON BAILEYS BUT I KNOW SAY YOU GO PICK ONE OR TWO THINGS FRM WETIN I YARN😎..GOODLUCK OMOMI

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    1. So on point πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘Œ. Oya poster come and read this comment and put it to work ASAP!!!

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    2. Women yaff suffer. Chai! Men their own is to be issuing orders ba? Relationships that work very well have 100% put in by both, also they work at keeping love alive, tolerate each other's weakness, while supporting each other's strengths. They pick up the slack for each other. That's love. Smh.

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  33. why were you guys separated for 3 yrs? were you in jail or what?

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    1. Stellz baby another rib cracking comment here ooo

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  34. We're you married to him before the separation?

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  35. Just him be for now
    Press the ignore button

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  36. Sweetheart, marriage is one of God's gifts to mankind. However, if you have the misfortune of choosing the wrong partner, that gift becomes a curse and a nightmare you won't have the privilege of waking up from. If your marriage was built on the wrong foundation, there isn't much you can do to salvage it.

    Absence, they say, makes the heart grow fonder. However, your absence can make a man who was never really into you, realise that he prefers his life without you in it. Then he starts acting up like a recalcitrant child when you guys get back together.

    Honey, when what ought to be isn't what is, you have to work with what is. Divorce isn't as easy as people make it seem, especially when kids are involved. You have to put on your big gal pants and learn to take charge of your own happiness. Try to continue your wifely duties as best you can but please don't let him see you falling apart. If he sees that you are happy without him, you'll be amazed at how fast he will start trying to get your attention. Most men can't stand being ignored.

    As clichèd as this sounds, start living for your kids and your job. One of the remedies for an unhappy marriage. Do all you can to make those angels happy. It's not fair, I know my darling, but you have to make the best out of the situation you find yourself in. I pray God heals your home.

    e-hugs and kisses.

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  37. Long press the ignore button.he does not know what he wants.did u use pregnancy to trap him??start ignoring him and work on ur self .ur talks should majorly be abt d kids ND watch his reactions

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  38. Madam you're the one putting so much unnecessary pressure on your husband just because she's talking to a white girl in a far away land.
    Can't you talk to him without bringin the woman into your conversation ? Free your mind and stop reminding him about her, just act as if she's not in existence.
    Stop snooping around.

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  39. Poster, I'm so sorry about what you are going through. I want you to go up a notch as per keeping the house clean. This doesn't give him the right to neglect you the way he does, but, I think cleanliness is a deal breaker for your hubby. I sincerely think you guys do not have issues

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  40. Madam let me break it down for you. When it comes to you he has the horn effect. With the Oyinbo woman he has the halo effect. If you like clean from morning till night it will make no difference. So what to do. Ignore him. He has made up his mind to go after greener pastures and you are in his way. Stop looking to him to make you happy. Act as if you don't care. Focus on your kids and yourself. Get help with cleaning so he has no excuse. I bet the Oyinbo woman will not put yo with half the crap you do. I know this for a fact. My cousin married one and he is now the houseboy and Nanny.This was a man that boasted that he will never enter the kitchen. And by the way his wife is a stay at home mom sef

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  41. Sounds like my husband. Mine was exactly like that. I stuck it out and endured and what has been my reward? A baby outside and sleeping with countless woman. Poster by this behavior he already has a girlfriiend. Think of what u want to do well. Me I dey in the process of wakaing. I even blame myself for staying this long.

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  42. Pls stop showering love to him,sometimes too much love causes problems. You have 2 children take care of them and also yourself. Trust me if you focus on yourself he might fall in love with you again and above all keep your home and everywhere clean. You can have a makeover sha

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  43. Please poster, I suggest you give your husband space for a few weeks. Just tell him you need a break from this marriage and go away for 2 weeks or so. Take your kids with you because these men move mad. In the time away, do not contact him at all and take the time to see whether you still want to be in a marriage where you are unloved, unappreciated, neglected and disrespected. I suspect you will reach a reasonable conclusion at the end of your time away

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