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Thursday, February 07, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative.....

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
TO SPILL OR NOT

Hey Stella,


Please i need you and fellow BVs to give me quick advice on what to do about a simple but big issue.


I moved to a new city and this Nigerian lady someone introduced to me housed me, helped me get a job and has been like a good sister to me.


Her boyfriend is American, they met online and started dating before i came to stay with her, she left the dating site when she decided to take him serious, she said the guy also went off the site after they started dating. I have met him once and she introduced us but i greeted him and stayed out of their way so i don't know if he recognises me or not.


So I also paid for the online dating site, many people like me and message me and I've gone on dates with some and have made friends there too, I also have some serious chikers now from there, I tell my friend and show her some of their pics and i tell her when i accept to go out with anyone just to be on the safe side and also ask if she met the person when she used the site. so i have been very open to her about what i am doing and she has been open to me too.


so today, someone liked me, I checked and saw that it was my friends boyfriend, the same one she left the platform for and who told her he also left for her.


I don't know what to do, normal me would have just said 'see o...is this not your guy' but Stella I've been through so much in the hands of ladies and their false accusation and suspicion. I don't want her to feel bad or end up feeling jealous because she is really taking this guy serious and believing it will work out.


Please what should i do? I don't want her to be used by the guy and i don't want her to waste her time with him too cos she is really putting her whole mind in the relationship. But i also don't want to bring any bad blood between me and her because truly this lady has been an angel to me. I don't want to see her get hurt and i know she could meet someone if only she will know this one is not taking her serious. because she left the dating site, she cant see that he is back on it, and he knows that.


But i am being careful, cos if my revelation breaks them up, she might hold a grudge against me, and i don't want that. I am not interested in the guy o...not at all, I just don't know how to reveal that the guy is still online looking for relationship while she is forming faithful girlfriend you know


you people should give me sense how to expose him without hurting my friend or making her start thinking the guy is interested in me.

Thank you




*Its not the grudge that she will hold against you that you should be scared of,you stand a risk of getting hurt by him if he is crazy in the head cause she will definitely tell him about it...This is very risky and i would advice that you delete that profile and shut up.......it might even be a set up cause its too much of a coincidence...

Please do not tell your friend anything,let her find out herself that he isnt faithful..that is if it is not a set up oh...

60 comments:

  1. First use wisdom.u are in place where u don't really know anyone.just lockup and go to another dating site.KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT

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    1. Please dear make sure you KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT because spilling might make her feel insecure thereby making her send you out of her house, remember WINTER IS HERE. Please just keep mum and continue enjoying her help SELFISHLY because that's all that matters, leave her alone with her lying, cheating and a potential Heartbreaker because your happiness, comfort and all you are gaining from her is paramount till you can afford an apartment of your own, exactly when she is like a sister to you."The thriving of evil in our society is because the good people have refused to speak out" Thanks in advance on your silence because with this tread of silence amongst ladies yours isn't far fetched

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    2. Anon, thank Yoj very much. People are wicked. I’m looking ag stella’s advice and reading others and I’m like ‘wth’.. she’s an angel and a sister to you and this is what you do? You’re not a good person. I pray hod reveals it to that poor lady so she will know to stay away from you.
      Imagine?
      If you’ve been so open with her, isn’t it a question of ‘ babe, see wetin my eye see’ and you show her. What’s there? She will even value your honesty and friendship even more, but if you keep quiet? Tufia

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    3. No need Deleting your profile . Just ignore his profile . That way he can't see your profile or commincate with you. And I suggest you keep your mouth shut.

      She will find out on her own, that the dude is not loyal.

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  2. Aunty biko let me advice you now eh, drink water and mind your business. The fact that he liked your picture doesn't mean anything, that he left the site doesn't mean he can't go back once in a while and doesn't mean he doesn't love her. Please do not tell her anything! I mean anything!!! about this like, a like doesn't mean anything. Take your mind off someone's boyfriend and go get yours.

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    1. My advice is for u to block the guy on the platform and pretend he never liked u or chatted u up nd don’t tell her else ur things would be on d street

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  3. Pretend you didn't check who liked your pic, since its just a "like". Keep mute, she will definitely catch him by herself.

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  4. Nice comment from Stella. I was going o tell you to tell her cos of how nice she has been o you but delete your profile nd lock up like SDK said.
    U sef leave online dating. It hardly ends well.

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  5. O girl, face your front. Dont tell your friend and if possible block the guy from viewing your profile.

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  6. Poster please leave the dating site, do not respond to his message and don't tell your friend anything. Keep quiet.

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  7. The least you can do for your friend is to save her from a time waster. Whatever she may assume is nothing as long as your conscience vindicates you.

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    1. Gbam!!! Poster,tell her the truth as is... whatever she makes of it is her business. She'll be more hurt if she finds out you knew about him all along. Don't delete your profile, simply block him.

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    2. Poster pls ooo, don't breathe a word...close shop so DAT whenever shit cast, u won't be implicated with a "like".

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    3. Implicated with a like🤣🤣

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  8. And make sure u keep evidence of the discussion incase the guy later tell her.

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  9. First if the guy is akata, just unmatch him and go your way! You see that thing inside you that’s doing gish gish to expose him will mess you up so bad. It’s winter now and I’m sure you don’t want to be out looking for apartment in this winter. Your story sounds like you don’t have documentation yet so it will be very hard if this thing backfire so you should fight for your head first! Forget that she is nice to you for now o and don’t go and be forming Jamie Bond.

    One thing I have learnt about women is that they are afraid to start again so they’d rather manage the one they have. If you tell and the guy begs her and they make up, just forget your friendship with her because he will hate you and when the boyfriend hates you, you don’t stand a chance o.

    Lastly, I will say it again. It is winter, you can’t know the pain of America till you are homeless. Nobody will accept you o! To be doing Captain America and saving people from heartbreak is not the reason you are in America o. Borrow yourself brain and I am a guy so I know how this things work.

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    1. Poster, please follow this. Leave that dating site. And focus on getting a job and moving out.

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    2. Thanks ace. She might even know, but is turning a blind eye cos of 1 or 2. Mind your business poster.

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    3. Thank u, if she likes, let her open her mouth like crocodile under hot sun.

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    4. Ace,You have said it all. A Lady in love somehow and some times acts overboard.Hardly listens to sincere advice until it clears from her eyes.
      Your friend is in love so she won't believe you but will term you an enemy of progress.
      Focus on your life and let them be.

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    5. God bless u Ace..you are very smart

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  10. Babe. Just ignore the guy. Don't tell your friend what you saw. Maybe when she is in a good mood during discussion. Tell her if she does not think there is a need to get back to the site and say hi to her old friends. Allow her to see things by herself.

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  11. Dear poster, Let her find out herself, learn to use the MYB code ok

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  12. I don't think you should tell your friend, just block the guy. You can even stay off the site for sometime.

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    1. Exactly she should block the guy so he doesn’t have access to even chat u up Nd peter d when u see him like u didn’t even know he was the one that liked ur profile

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  13. Don't tell her anything for now, go on with your normal life... Give them time,the truth will reveal itself.

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  14. I'll keep saying it every opportunity i get.

    IF YOU ARE MY FRIEND, AND YOU KNOW SOMETHING ABOUT MY BOYFRIEND THAT'S HURTFUL/DAMAGING AND YOU DON'T TELL ME, THE DAY I DISCOVER IS THE DAY WE STOP BEING FRIENDS.

    You are not different from scornful people, the ones that sit somewhere hoping somehow you get hurt so they could gloat about how they knew before you did.

    I speak for myself.

    Ma, bring up a discussion about that dating site again, show her your recent likes and then show her the boyfriend casually...

    She decides to stick to him? Fine.

    She doesn't? You have done your bit.

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    1. They are not actually friends. And if she brings up a discussion about the dating site, it will be a case of "You know I'm in a solid relationship and you want me to cheat on my man cos you're envious and single!"

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    2. Take this advice and be homeless ina bit.

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    3. A man of God that calls himself my friend don do me like this before. When I broke up with the guy, he now said he knew the guy was bad! It was that day the friendship died totally in my heart!

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    4. That's in Naija abi? Not in America because if she send her packing, can you give her a room in your father's house? Not everything eye see, mouth go talk.

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  15. This is too much of a coincidence but it could still be that your friend knows nothing about it. My advice is, you don't respond to any of his advances to you. Just see and ignore till he gets tired so incase your friend finds out,you will show her your phone to scrutinise. Don't delete no profile for no stupid idiot.

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  16. Too many times the people on dating sites are just after sex or to catch some fun, its on rare occasions you'd find someone looking for something real. Poster this is where that saying of 'drink water and mind your business applies. Don't like him back and don't reply his messages, delete them if he sends them to you and move on like nothing happened.

    People in love never see an on coming trailer till it hits them. All the best dear and keep being good.

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  17. Drink lots of water and mind your business...

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  18. I have been in your shoes - down to the "she housed me in a new city" scenario. Do NOT say a word. Don't even behave like you know anything.

    In my own case, the lady in question got it into her head that I was talking about her on the phone. She claimed to everyone - including the person that introduced us - that I was discussing her on the phone. My saving grace was that I record my calls. So, I played the recording immediately after I got off the call - which was when she accused me. She was dumbfounded that a) I record my calls, and b) there was no mention of her. She had even tried to claim I had gossipped her in my language. Lo and behold, the only thing I had said in my language was a greeting. Then, she said maybe it was a different call. I gave her the phone and showed her time stamp. The person who introduced us was very disappointed in her, especially as she actually called him while I was still on the call to report lies - he told her that I won't do such a thing. He called me to ask me, so I emailed him the recording and he was like, "Did you give her this recording? Where and when did you talk about her?" Then, he called her back. She was so ashamed that she couldn't even apologise. I thanked her and left her house the following week; no energy for some kinds of drama. Turned out her boyfriend I had never met, was a married man. And he didn't want me staying in the house he was paying for (she told him about me before I got to her place). I honestly didn't know; I assumed they were married and he lived abroad cos that's what I had been told. Even the person that introduced us, thought she was married. She wasn't wearing a ring, but that doesn't mean anything - I'm now married but I don't wear a ring (yet) for personal reasons.

    Don't give anybody ammunition to set you up. When a woman wants to be deceived cos of a man, it's best to leave her to her own devices. If you're still at her place, start looking for your own place.

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  19. Madam poster unmatch him na and don't tell your friend anything. If he already sent a message ignore and unmatch him sharp sharp.

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  20. Please block him and don't say anything.

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  21. Poster. You have to keep shut and let her find out by hersef. Block the guy or leave that site.

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  22. If I were you ooo I will block the Guy.. Babe you in. American o make person no come pour Sand for ya Garri..

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  23. This is a tough one but i will advise you block the guy

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  25. Just mind your business and say nothing. Avoid any form of communication with the guy and if he graduates from liking your pictures to chatting you up, leave the site asap and just maintain the friends you've made from there.

    The reason I'm saying this is cos you're abroad if anything goes wrong, you might feel the pain more. Just face front biko.

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  26. My dear, just block him on the site, drink water and mind your fuc##### business. I would only say something if she was my blood sister.

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  27. It’s simple , Unmatch him or block him there’s not point deactivating your account ..

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  28. Please, just follow Stella's advice.

    You and a good man will find each other off site

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  29. I would have adviced u discuss with her but I had a change of mind reading bvs replies, it's a 2 way thing,if she finds out u knew and didn't tell her she could get angry and she may not find out, just log out of d dating site ,dnt go there ,and do as if u didnt even recognise who liked your pix,dnt reply d guy and stay away frm him totally

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  30. It has been said and I will say it again, MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS. You should also start looking for somewhere to stay.

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  31. Don't conclude so yet. A 'like' does not mean anything until he chats you up and start professing love . But until then ,I will advise you totally ignore him and don't entertain any chat with him. And then mind your business. If you tell her now and she confronts him, he could tell her he just decided to like your picture since he recognised you. Don't make her to be suspicious of you when you don't even have a concrete evidence. Peace

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  32. Sister just mind your own business and pretend you are not aware he liked your picture. Who liked picture epp?

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  33. I fear nothing and that is why I would tell if it was me. I hate deceit in its entirety.
    However, I wouldn't go running my mouth only coz of a like or one random contact. But If I ignore you and you continue to cross boundaries with me, then I will expose you because you must take me for a mute fool to try such nonsense knowing I am close to your girlfriend. let us say No to deceivers and manipulators. Even if my friend hates me for a while, she will finally come to her senses when she realises I was only concerned for her as opposed to her finding out that I knew all along and said nothing.

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    1. It’s not just about the like, it’s the fact he is online while she has gone offline in the name of being faithful

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  34. When on the dating site pls be very very careful...a lot of sick people out there. Oyibo madness different oh. Our people dey pull clothe dance for road but oyibo u no go know oh...trust your instincts and always go to an open place first...if you go person house no drink anything oh...eheen

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  35. Did anybody like your picture??I thought you disabled your account from that site a while ago??

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  36. I'm not sure why everyone thinks you're still depending on your friend .it looks like you have a job now .Tell her

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  37. can u tell us the name of the site please.............

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  38. wetin be the site name na? ,lets try our luck

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