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Friday, May 10, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative.....

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
A DIFFERENT KIND OF BABY DADDY


Hello Stella, I want to say that your blog has been a blessing to me in ways that I can't explain. God bless you as you keep up the good work.


I need you and my fellow blog visitors to kindly advise me on how to handle this issue that is currently draining me emotionally. I need to know if I should become a better woman or receive sense.


I am a 36 year old medical doctor, currently going through a divorce. I left my ex husband after I discovered so many dark secrets about him and their plot to kill me.
To the main issue, I left my husband without a dime, I moved with my daughter into an uncompleted house and worked two tedious jobs to provide for us and a maid I hired to help me with the baby. I am very hardworking and intelligent and this made me get into the good book of some destiny helpers and I started getting jobs that will pay me like 1.5 in two months. Sometimes, I get it about 4-5 times in a year.


My ex started trying to kidnap my little baby so I had to move into a well secured place and it cost me about 2.3m. Over the years since I left my husband, I avoid men and kept celibate. I met this guy and fell in love with him almost immediately, I have never felt that way before. He brought out another aspect of me that is not too medical and serious. He was so warm, caring and always makes me laugh. He lives in Benin and I was in the abroad at the time.


I came back to Nigeria and went to visit him and we had sex that same day. I don't know what happened to me that day, i peed all over the place. I became ashamed and he later cheered me up that I shouldn't be ashamed that he liked it and that he has only seen it in porn.


After I had my first child, I had complications that would make it almost impossible to he pregnant. I discovered that I was pregnant for him, I didnt know if I should be happy or worried or sad and considering my divorce, I was just numb.
I called him and told him and he was so so happy, he made me feel better and assured me that we will be fine.
After a couple of days, I guess he told some people and they poisoned his mind and he started behaving funny. I told him point blank that I will not attempt abortion, asides being a pro life advocate, I have had a previous abortion that almost cost my life and I asked God to spare my life and I will never ever do it again or encourage anyone.


I finally told him I have had an abortion after so much argument . We stopped talking, I was sick all through the pregnancy, I couldn't work as much and my family supported me, I went to meet my mum in the US and had my baby there. After I came back to Nigeria, baby was about 4-5 months then, he suddenly started sending me love messages. He kept doing that till I couldn't ignore him anymore, we started talking. One day he said he wished we had the baby, that he regrets what we did. He said he wants to start a family with me and told me the people that poisoned his mind.


That night, my best friend encouraged me to send him a photo of baby and i told him that I didn't do the abortion. I had to lie to him cos i wanted peace to go through the pregnancy. He was so so happy and started saying that we need to get married. He became more serious as before. In December he came to see us for the first time and we started planning how to live together. I wasn't desperate for the marriage thing as I wanted to migrate and settle down first.


Here is the major problem. We are two worlds apart. He runs a mini provision shop with his mum and they barely enough money to run day to day. He said he was very sick at a point and couldn't get his University certificate. He doesn't lie to me, he told me he got married twice (court wedding) to travel abroad but it didn't work. The first girl abandoned him and the second one didn't work. He is someone I can trust and I really believed in him.
My two kids are dual citizens and I have (UK, American and Canada visa) i intend to apply for Canadian permanent residence and I want to include him as my conjugal partner, it has a lot of financial requirements and I am struggling to get back on my feet while solely providing for my two kids. I intend leaving in December.


We were discussing one day and he asked if I can get a small car for him to use for Uber so he can move to Lagos. I asked if he can do it and he assured me that he can do anything to support me, I felt the seriousness in his voice and I told him that I will look for money. Our budget was a small tokunbo Corolla of 1.3m. I had just paid my rent and school fees so I had to ask a doctor friend who agreed to give me 1.6m.


He sold the car he was using for 400k and we used the money to get a small bq for him close to me (I share my apartment with a friend) but he comes once in a while when she is not around. I discovered that he was now preferred camry instead. I bought a 2009 Toyota camry XLE for 1.65m. Only for me to find out that the drivers license he was supposed to do before coming, he didn't do it. His mum later told me that it was her fault that she's the one that was supposed to get it for him.
I had a fall and broke a bone in my leg, I was doing all these running around from Lekki to Apapa on my leg with the cast and crutches. I come back and do school runs, cook for the kids, I cook his food separate cos he has heart issues so he is not meant to eat red oil, red meat, Salt etc. 


He doesn't complain or disturb me but he doesn't offer to help either. Like he will not even offer to help with school runs. He only does things when you ask him to even when it is glaring. He will be on his phone or on the TV for a full day. It just doesn't occur to him to help. Even if he sees that I am struggling to lift something with my bad leg, he will just be there, until I ask him to and he will do it happily.


I have taken him out a few times and when I ask him to drop his phone and be looking to know landmarks he will either tell me that he has Google map or he will get angry that I am talking to him anyhow.


What caused the final issue now is that I told him to find a licensing office near us and go and do his license but he was insisting that I should take him there. I told him to either use Google map or get an Uber. He refused. I finally accepted to take him there and asked him to come over to my house so that we can move as I am going out in the morning, I woke at 5:30, prepared and got the kids set, he was still in the room on the bed pressing his phone. I left for school runs to beat traffic thinking that he would be set by the time I get back but I met him still pressing phone. I got angry and asked him if I should spell out things before he will know what to do.


I was inside the room when I rushed out to see the little baby on the floor bleeding profusely, he had stormed out of the house, drive off and left baby alone on the chair. Apparently, baby was trying to follow him and fell from that height cos he's just 13 months old. My maid was in the kitchen and he couldn't ask her to come and get baby or close the door. He just left my door open and walked away. I put a call and he didn't answer for like 5 times, I was on my way to the hospital before he answered, I shouted at him and told him that if I had met him in the house I will break his head. That is what he is holding on to now, that I said I will break his head (and he believed that I would do it?) . As I am typing this he has moved out of the house back to Benin.


When all these were happening, I called his mum. He calls her anytime we have issues. She came to Lagos, I thought he was going to pick her cos he has been with the new car, I was surprised when she called me while I was doing school runs, I quickly dropped my daughter and went to pick her. She started telling me that her son tells her everything, that he has not broken up from her and that I should be taking him round and helping him do things like washing, cleaning etc. I take food to him and he won't even wash his plates. His clothes same. I offered to wash once but he said no, so I asked him to wash so I can come and dry for him in my house since he doesn't have a hanger.


His mum just sighted him and said, aaahhhh, his room is so small, the toilet is smelling(meanwhile it's dirty clothes and filled bin), that his son has lost weight and she is taking him home. I just lost it, I told her that how many of their relatives has ever borrowed them 10k? I am trying to get him to be a man, it's like a tortoise pulling a Carmel. It was over one month and all he does is sleep, eat, watch TV cos the light is quite steady. 


Then she gave me the shocker, that her son cannot do driver work, that if I am serious that I love him, that I should open a pharmacy shop for him. That I am too money conscious and I am putting unnecessary pressure on her son and I don't feed him well. That as she came, I should have taken her to bar beach or even take her out. 


So, I asked her if I would use grass to open the pharmacy shop, shop rent alone is 2.5m here in Lekki, what will happen to the 1.65m I borrowed to buy the car for him? Is it not money I will use to do all these? Taking her out, cooking good food for her son, is it my teeth I will use? I told her that I was trying to save money for our travel. In all these, she never appreciated me for taking care of her grand son and even making effort to help her son. I turned to her son and asked him why he was quiet and his mum was accusing me like this. He said nothing, I told the woman that she can take her son and go and left them there. She started calling that she was sorry. I kept on bringing food for them till she left and her son followed.


Now, I heard he is saying that I have bad character. His mum told me that his son is not the hustling type and he told her we are moving to Canada. I should just help him get to Canada. That he cannot work under the sun, that it gives him headache but that if he gets to Canada, that the cold weather will help him work. 


All these happening, he hasn't even started the work o, all we are dragging is to wake up early first and have your bath. That's all. For someone that doesn't have a certificate and has this kind of attitude knowing we borrowed money to get this car, how does he want to change in Canada? Right now, they are asking me to help him with money to get a car he will be using since he left Lagos, no one is asking how I will payback the money I borrowed or take care of his son.


The only thing is that I have never loved anyone the way I love him, I also feel somehow that he loves me but he wants me to keep pampering him. He doesn't have an independent opinion. He is so spoilt at 35 and he expects me to be calm. He sees how much I struggle to hold the grounds, I hardly sleep at night, we have a target, all I think about is how to get us settled, I am under constant presaure. My maids family is demanding 500k from me. She has finished secondary school and I want to compensate her for staying with me when I had nothing. She has written GRE, IELTS and Mcat and passed, she wants to study medicine when we get to Canada . 


I see his face anytime I look at my son. I miss him because he is the only one I am close to asides work and he is fun to be with except when duty calls. My baby girl is so fond of him cos he has time to play with her and patient for her endless conversations. He is really a child at heart. At the same time, I don't want anyone taking me for granted, I need someone to help me no matter how little. I have never asked him to contribute to take care of baby. 



He hasn't called me since he left, I haven't called him too. Tho I called his mum to make sure he got home safe. I am currently looking for someone to rent his room so I can send him the money. I don't know if I am so hard on him, I really took care of him just that I am always busy and expects that he can just make a little effort. Could it be culture shock? Should I reach out to him? I feel so empty and If I have to move on, I will hands off from men and relationships.



Hmmmmm my dear it is better for you to be single than to be involved in this Negative nonsense you call a relationship..Do not attempt to marry this man or take him abroad otherwise you will learn your lesson the hard way....shine your eyes and stay woke.....GOSH!!!

254 comments:

  1. Huh I’m confused and really want to give you a very hot slap.
    You went through a lot with your ex husband so you should at least be wiser but here you are doing booboo the fool for a no good man.
    When I started reading this I thought you needed help in keeping your ex husband from taking your child from you not knowing that the welfare of your child isn’t so important to you because you’ve gone from frying pan to fire.

    Are you Bob the builder? If you don’t have what to do with your money, why not open accounts for your kids towards getting them the best education? God has taken this baggage away from your life yet you want to go back to it. I’m certain that this man is married and only wants to use you for financial gains. No one poisoned his mind, he is the poison you should avoid but would you listen? You’re dick whipped and love sick. Get a grip woman, If that place itches you so much then buy a dildo or worse a sugar boy to help. What’s all this nonsense? Don’t you women get tired of trying to buy a man to love you? You need help seriously because if this isn’t jazz then I don’t know what it is.

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    1. You Nailed it! Poster, take this advice up here.

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    2. Madam you are looking for love in the wrong place. This man is only using you please dump him. Stop being needy it is not a crime or sin to be single. Women stop building your lives around men. This chronicle is making me so mad how can an educated woman be so so stupid

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    3. Get a sugar boy you say. That's how they start off being sweet and taking care of your sexual needs until they start being demanding, asking for more, threatening and blackmailing. and in turn like the poster above you start catching feelings and also expecting more commitment.

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    4. Please shout it o, one would think such a woman would learn from her first marriage but No she didnt. Its so sad she can let a man- child with a foolish mother drain her of her finances with stupid love stories.
      Who told her he loves her, that love is in your head woman. You know the truth but you dont want to accept it. Focus on your kids, as hard as that can be that should be your priority. Run from that thing you call a man, he would drain you till you have nothing to give your kids and that is if he doesnt kill you.
      What kind of love would make you be stoopid. Please wake up and stop sleeping. i no dey proof read abeg, the chronicle dey vex me. Radarada

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    5. Yaba left escapee10 May 2019 at 16:25

      Benin jazz i tell you, each time he travels he goes to renew it, he'd be back...
      See the effrontry the mum had cus she trusts the potency of the jazz!

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    6. Dont give him another chance in your life or that of your children. Anyone who feels entitled doesn't need help but scholarship and that you dont have to give. So sell that car and pay your debt, rent that house and use the money to open and an investment account for his son.Move on like you never met. Dont let him come with the story of i will or have changed o. close your ears and heart, it would hurt but you have to do it for your sake.

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    7. Doppelganger, I no like you. You don insult me for an innocent comment before. But I swear, your head dey there. I feel like joining you to slap madam fool in love.

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    8. This is the most heartbreaking story I have read on this blog. Woman,I don't even know where to start from. I just wonder what really is it that men want . where person wan see 10 K borrow pessin for this country as everywhere dry so. Even my own siblings abroad buying houses upandown won't even give me more than 100 dollars to start business. This thing called love, and some genuine guys will be out there looking for someone to even show them small love. When girls these days are looking for the ones that are well made to spend on them . run for your life and don't look back, he took advantage of your vulnerable state. He has lost a good woman and will never get your type with the way he is. I just hope nor be jazz

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    9. This guy just lost a once in a lifetime opportunity. Osalobua.

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    10. Madam do not I repeat DO NOT take him to Canada you will regret it.

      They say if you want to catch a monkey you have to act like a monkey.

      1) start telling them no more canada because no more money and tell your maid to keep shut too

      2) one day just disappear to Canada and never look back

      3) I know you love him but he doesn't love you he is an opportunist. Start forming sorry if he ever calls you and forming love because you know your plan.

      Forget love and USE YOUR BRAIN!!!!

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    11. I am more pained by the words and deeds of his mother. This man will never change with a mother like that. A lizard in Nigeria can never become a crocodile in Canada. Imagine the Entitlement, saying you should have taken her to the beach and wanting to secure the relocation of her son.

      I’m proud of you for calling out their rubbish. There is no issue of culture shock here. Most Nigerian men are hardworking and hustle for their own money that’s why they are loved all over (lol). Sell that car like 16:29 suggested and offset the loan, then flew that “negative nonsense” as Stella rightly put it.

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    12. Wtf did I just read πŸ™€. What's with you ladies and prick. Small banging and you say u r in love. Maybe because he re-disvirgined (if a word like that exist) you that's why you are so attached. To me you are a big maga, he only came back to drain you. For your own good don't have anything to do with that guy anymore.
      Ps what hospital do you workforcos I don't want a doctor like you treating me.

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    13. People no de fear HIV again oh, first day, its bad enough youre opening nyash, then you do it without condom join.

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    14. Sugar boy is even worse...The best bet is a rich married man to satisfy her sexual need...Also learn to guild your heart no matter how sweet the dick is...πŸ‘Œ

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    15. My head aches just reading this story. The writing is glaring on the wall but you're choosing to ignore it. You're just a means to an end for him and his mother. So you better put love aside and focus on your kids and yourself. All the best

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    16. It's either she's under a spell,as in serious jazz or plain stupid.
      The hand writing is all over that this man does not love you bit after financial gains. Dump him and move forward with your life and kids.
      This Chronicle is so annoying. You don't have brain or what? Hissss

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    17. POSTER, PLS LEAVE THAT BOY. YOU YOURSELF ARE NOT A SMALL GIRL TO BE HANGING AROUND RIFFRAFFS. HE IS A RIFFRAFF.

      I SAY THIS WITH UTMOST RESPECT TO BENIN PEOPLE. MANY OF THEIR MEN ARE LAZZZZZY!!!MY HUSBAND IS ONE OF THEM AND I KNOW HOW MY LIFE IS. IF HE'S NOT THINKING OF ABROAD (INCLUDING JAPAN, SOUTH KOREA AND HUNGARY), HE'S WAITING FOR ME TO SUPPORT HIS LIFE EVERY DAMN TIME. THIS IS ME THAT IS TAKING CARE OF OUR CHILDREN SINGLEHANDEDLY. AND THEIR RELATIVES CAN NEVER EVER HELP THEM. THEY DON'T HELP EACH OTHER AT ALL. PLS CARRY YOUR REMAINING LEG AND RUNNNNN!!!

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    18. GIRL YOU BETTER LEAVE THIS SITUATION YOU CALL RELATIONSHIP AND RUN TO CANADA WITH YOUR CHILDREN. YES I'M TYPING IN CAPS CUZ I'M LITERALLY SCREAMING AT YOU. please send us an update

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    19. Also, people should stop marrying or dating downwards, esp when the woman is 'up' (a la osas and gbenro). it hardly works when all the butterflies have died down. Look at you nne, responsible doctor, intelligent, hard worker, beautiful, strong, go getter, level headed, good family background. What are u looking for in a school dropout soon-to-be-yahoo boy? Snap out of it. Pls.

      He will use u to get to Canada, continue sleeping and watching tv, spend ur money, and send the remaining one to his local, bleached, pidgin-english-speaking-and-breathing Benin girlfriend. Women and love sha. Is it our curse???

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    20. This is the most stupid chronicle ever.
      38 year old medical doctor with no sense.
      Dual citizenship with no sense.
      Travelling all over the world, still with no sense.
      Mother of 2 with no sense.
      Abi did they do Benin jazz for you?
      Indulging a grown ass man.
      You are not desperate you say, so hat are you?
      Even if you never faint any other man, you are better ALONE.
      Do it for your children.
      That man will kill you one day.

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    21. they have said it all.. .All I can add is get wisdom like the Bible said he who have ears to hear should hear.

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    22. Aaaaah, babe why are you acting like you aren't a Nigerian? From the middle of the post I my heart was just shouting this guy is a scam. From your story, I feel you are just a total walk over, you are too soft and allow ppl take you for granted. Both the man child and your maid, please discard them. Focus on your kids. If you bought the care in your name, please sell it and refund the money you borrowed. Leave start applying for visa for you and your kids and please leave this toxic life you are living, you deserve.

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    23. Poster, you didn't even need to buy him a car. A serious person will hustle for a car to drive on uber. Uber has car owners who are partners . they give out car to a good driver who can prove himself. You should have asked around first. Stop throwing this money around. It's not that easy to get. You should let people prove themselves first. If you sell that car now, you won't get that amount back. A car is a liability in a way. The moment u drive with it off the lot, it's value depreciates.

      PS. Rent that house and keep the money.

      The guy is a disgusting ingrate. Look at him talking about sun. I know how hot the sun is in Benin. Ewu!

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    24. How can a poor lazy expect to be pampered? Madam, ran for your dear life.

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  2. You are a means to an end, see His history with abroad girls ....this relationship will drain you, I'm sure he will come back, can u toughen up? Stop being a maga n a mugu, but then u can't advice a woman in love until they removed her eye. You bought him a car n they are expecting u to open a pharmacy for him, how many have u opened for your siblings? Taaaaaa wake up.

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    1. You dey mind her, as Alhaji bringi bringi where she be, such people no fit give their family member one kobo, yet them go kill themselves for dick where no even consider them as anything.

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    2. My sister, thank you oooo....
      The mouth that woman should to say open pharmacy se f should be slapped. Is her lazy son a pharmacist ni that he wants to open one sef, tah!!!!

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    3. Jesusssssssssss i am so angry that I could not even finish the chronicles.
      First of all what will warrant you a medical doctor,doing well for yourself to get involved with this sort of man.
      Where did your paths even cross. A drop out that is even lazy join and a mummys boy.
      His type shld not even be toasting you talkmore of you agreeing for sex to even enter the equation.
      Thank God you are even doing well. Pls that man and his mother are bad luck and gold diggers. They have seen their meal ticket.
      That man is going to draw you back in life,career wise,emotionally and spiritually.
      He is going to drain you financially to the extent you will be tired of life. This man is bad market.
      How I wish you didnt have a child for this lazy bastard so nothing will ever tigh you with him.
      This man is what they call Destiny destroyer and life manipulator. If you stay with him know you have 3kids now. You will house,clothe and feed him just as your child.
      If I were you I will leave him and his bad luck in Nigeria and start a new life with my kids in Canada.
      Ladies never ever date a man that is below your class. It never ends well. Pls marry your class or higher abeg. Your mentality can never be the same. It will be every day fight. That is when his family will say you have bad character. Leave them to marry their type abeg.

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    4. what did I just read,I'm so angry and couldn't continue reading,if I write what I'm feeling right now,I will insult you,Who did this to you?leave him and his family and face your life,discontinue all travel arrangements for him.

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    5. They said that you find love in strangest places and places that you knives knew it could be. Falling in love might not be controlled but using your head while at it is the real deal. You deserve more than this after what you passed or still passing through. You took a big risk, you deserve much more for a person of your class. What is wrong with us women. Please channel all your energy and relocate your kids and your maid to Canada and leave the idiot here to regret all his life. How can you want to kill someone that is trying to help your ass? Without any degree certificate, what are his prospects? How many girls will even look at all these guys with 2:1 seeking jobs all because they have prospects? This one is not hard working, not rich, not exposed and yet doesn't even lick the ground you walk on. He should be worshipping you. I wish I can see you face to face to talk some sense into your head. I don't know why this particular story is paining me so much. Poster abeg, I am on my knees, don't ever, I mean don't ever talk to him again. Throw away your phone, what is all this. This will never end well and he won't change.

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    6. Yaba left escapee10 May 2019 at 17:05

      Very annoying chronicle i swear, if you check well now, he'd be a short man.

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    7. She really needs to wake up from the slumber of annoying love that has blind folded her thinking. So, you dont have a good friend or a family to talk sense into your head.
      Poster, are you wired to be a burden bearer of a lazy guy? Break free from this situationship and forge ahead.

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    8. I am a man. I am 34yo. I have a fiancee. I have had 2 gfs before her. I have never ever ever ever, collected a dime from any woman that i did not pay back with interest. I can humbly state that I can be termed a catch. But I would never I repeat never leech on a woman. I am doing well, but na where your money end na there another person own start. Meaning even before i met my fiance, I dated a girl whose father is mad rich, I mean the money was mental, yet, I could not and did not ever go out on a date I didnt pay for. It is called man pride and some of us Naija men have it in droves. Poster I pity you. I repeat I am sorry for you. You see that abroad I have lived thre. UK to be precise for 3 straight years and i observed a lot. Madam that guy oes not love you. He is shameless and so is his mum. They will finish you. Abi is it that you think you are not beautiful or cant find another man? Like what is is? What would warrant you allow such? I am all for love with all your heart, but while at it take your brain along. This man would be your undoing. No sentiments here just facts. This man and his mother would drain you, then he would move on to the next. Forget potential, I was private schooled all my life and went obtained 2 degrees abroad, but when i hit rock buttom and my folks had some financial mishap, I worked 12hours standing 6 days a week,in a freaking cold factory and drove taxis as well to make ends meet. Now all that is in the past and life is good. I did what I had to do to make ends meet and cater to my fiance who was still in uni.....and she was none the wiser. My point is that a man should make your peace and comfort his number one priority and take away your stress, not the other way out. There is only one way out. Go cold turkey on his arse. This guy is full of talk and excuses and at 35 sorry to say its already who he is.

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    9. This doesn't look ordinary oh. I hope you are not under a spell. Borrow money for a shameless man. You need to talk with someone older and spiritual oh. I didn't say you should go to any prayer house oh

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  3. from what i read, you guys are not married yet all dis baggages..he is obviously there for the money and abroad waka

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    1. @Olawealth

      Sic. spanner
      It is OBVIOUS

      Make you carry that ya "so" and "very, very"
      throway for inside gutter inugo?

      😊😊😊

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    2. She has refused to believe and accept the obvious, shes still in fantasy land and believes it is love, no one would love you and treat you like trash. You have a good heart, and he has capitalized on your weakness and it seems you are desperate to have just any man in your like not minding whether or not he has something to offer. Better pick your shoes and run far away from him. If only you go hear and let him go.

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    3. Yaba left escapee10 May 2019 at 16:30

      Yes!
      Hes a Leech.
      His presence is a catalyst to her destruction, but that yeye love wont let her see!

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    4. Guy wen suppose answer you ma ma sef . opportunity wen guys dem dey find day and night. Abeg madam come Cary me commot for this country,I fit be your house boy sef.

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    1. Poster, u are stupid. Yes, you are very stupid. Infact, u are an idiot. I would not allow an idiot doctor like u treat me.

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    2. I am so angry right now, what the hell did I just read no??!!!...
      Excuse me Madam doctor the poster, it is easier to take care of babies dan to take care of an adult brat!!! What the heck are you bringing on yourself? Quick one, did he go with the car? If not please sell it and repay the loan ASAP! Yes, please rent out the room and add the money to the money you are saving for travel.
      Yes, you need a man, but not a liability that will make you feel you owe him everything!!!!
      Best riddance to horrible rubbish ooo..... you have your plate full already, don't add dis adult brat that the mum is trying to pass her liability to you. Damn!!! The man want to be kempt and the mum even demands it of you!!! That is just the height!!!
      You will be so used, yourself esteem will be in deficit and you will be begging to remember who you really are.

      Please, move to Canada in peace and continue living your life, you never can tell what life has in store for you when you get there. But that pit of a man you descended into, pls climb out of it before it buries you.

      As they (the man brat and his mum) have gone, please bid them farewell and pray they forget the way to your house. Don't let them blackmail you emotionally with their calls, drop your phone and let them talk to the air when they call you, your mum have reach. In fact, please tell your mum and if you have a sister about them, I am sure they will help you more than us here

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    3. Poster when you had sex you didn't urinate, it's called squirting. Please it's nothing to be ashamed of.

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    4. I don’t even know what to say to you Poster, I don’t know if this is jazz or you are just stupid!
      Don’t call him, cut him off from your life and let me tell you now that the greatest mistake of your life would be taking that guy abroad.. Lool @ what his mom said about him not being able to work under the sun and that the weather in Canada will suit him.
      Serious one chance!

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    5. Poster, if you mistakenly come to Canada with this irresponsible liability of a man, you will never forget the experience and if you separate from him, he can file for spousal support, yes, if you live together as lovers in Canada and wish to separate, he will have all the rights of a husband. Lazy people cannot survive in Canada, please ask around.

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  5. Yaba left escapee10 May 2019 at 15:14

    Chai....
    Encyclopedia, i'd read later.

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    1. Yaba left escapee10 May 2019 at 16:21

      Some chronicles eh....
      To slap the poster go just hungry you!
      Thats how i felt while reading.
      The biggest mistake you'd ever make in your life is to carry that IDIOT to canada, he shouldnt even escort you to the airport.
      If you like keep looking at the good sides & mumu love! YOU WILL REGRET IT!!!!!!!! Yes i'm shouting!!!

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    2. please leave the douche bag and his family and run for your life,they're gold diggers,receive sense,their is no future for you and him,with all what you wrote here,regrets and pains awaits you if you don't dump his sorry ass.

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    3. Poster pls escape before they re-enforce the juju they used for you, thank your village pple for fighting back and giving you this small sense that you have. If you love urself pretend like everything is fine till you finally make ur escape out of Nigeria. That family is out to end you and they will take any means necessary, pls continue to pray! Your kids are you priority, don’t let that man make you loose d opportunity to meet your destined abroad husband, he is d devil tryna truncate ur destiny!
      Hian! The amount of mumu-ness you have exhibited already can’t be normal Biko.......run!!!

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  6. My dear writer, be wise! be wise!! be wise!!! You have already gone through so much, i don't think you really need more wahala.

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    1. Them need to slap wisdom enter your head. You are the one helping him and not the other way round. With all the baggage of two kids. Even the one I have, me and my husband are sweating hard to keep up with baby food and things. Please leave him your heart will heal. Medical doctor, you will find better man in that Canada that will worship you. I am happy that you can take care of your kids.

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    2. Stupid nonsense medical doctor. I've never been this angry reading any Chronicle here before. Damnnnn you're so stupid, this excuse of a man and an excuse of a mother does not love you, the mother knows, they're just using you.

      You want to take him to Canada!!!!! Abroad no be for lazy people Luke him oo, the man go finish you and when he is done using you he'll find one fresh young girl.. what am I even saying abeg abeg you're stupid.. you say you're not desperate? Na lie

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  7. Let me ask you a question?
    Will you cease to exist if you stay without a man?
    What if your baby had died as a result of his stupid anger?
    You have to abort that plan of taking him with you to Canada o,if not,he will leave you for another woman.
    Focus on your self and your kids,leave men alone for now.
    If you must date a man,choose carefully,dont allow your good heart to make wrong decisions for you.

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  8. My darling sister, RUN RUN,as fast as your legs can carry you. They are using you. Take that car back, sell it, pay your debt, rent out his place, keep the money for yourself and kids.DONT TAKE him to Canada , they are using you, you will regret if you take him. They will never appreciate you. He is a man child, forget him .

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    1. Not just a man child, a spoilt brat man child!!! They are usually terrible!!! You can't have them as friends, they will drain you, you cant have them as neighbours, they will frustrate you, you can't have them as colleagues, they will make you hate your job. Now she is thinking of having one as a husband, hmmmm.... she wants to send in the real chronicle, this one will be childs play relative to the load chronicle.
      An adult that needs to be told what to do?!!!... oh no pls, you don't want to go down dat road.

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    2. Please run run run run oooooooooooooo.. You are more than enough, you deserve the best.

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  9. Poster,I'm on my knees begging you in the name of God. DON'T marry this guy,you will live to regret it if you do. He and his mother are only using you as their meal tickets and passport to go abroad for a better life. They are leeches,parasites. Please don't fall for their gimmicks. A lazy man in Nigeria will be worse abroad. The person that cannot work under the sun wants to work I. extreme cold....olorun oba o. Please don't call him again. Pleaseeee oooo. Take your children and run from him and his evil mother, God will send your own husband to you,this one is NOT a husband. I'm so angry and sad reading this. Please poster don't fall for their stories o. He doesn't have any heart issues...its a lie ooo. God have mercy on this your daughter and open her eyes,please God

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    1. I mean, you were born and breed in naija and you can't work under the sun, pls how did you go to school?!...
      Smelly excuse!!! Tueh!! !!

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    2. I think the poster knows the truth, she wants to hear it but has refused to accept it, you should have learnt your lesson a long time ago, but dick and the idea or just having a man no gree you. If you like read all Stella and the Bvs have said and still go back to him or take him abroad, believe me that would be your doom and your chronicle would be a book. And sadly no one would want to learn from your story cause its one filled with obvious truth that a lonely woman claiming to be in stoopid love has refused to accept

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    3. Poster please I'm on knees too., there's no road or future there oooooooooooooo

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    4. After u take him to Canada, the mum will start disturbing too so u guys can arrange her own visa too of course with the son there to pressure you. Both of them will ruin u n ur daughter's life. They only one they may spare is ur son. U are not in love but in lost

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  10. Poster, this guy is just using you .They know that you are a means to his ambition.Travelling to Canada.He was never serious with you.You are in the relationship all by yourself dragging him alongside your kids ..

    My advice,Ignore him and the mother.They are parasites sucking on your good πŸ’“..πŸ‘©‍πŸ”§reset, researchπŸ•΅️,runnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnπŸƒπŸƒπŸƒπŸƒπŸƒπŸƒπŸƒπŸƒπŸƒπŸƒπŸƒπŸƒπŸƒπŸƒπŸƒπŸƒπŸƒ.

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    1. She is obviously training 3kids, good thing she has a handy maid.

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  11. I couldn't finish the story before dropping this comment.
    Madam, drop that man and face your life and that of your children. That and his mother has seeing you to be a cash cow.
    He can't do anything better, but will get worse and you will end up frustrated.
    Dump him like a bad habit.

    Nothing good will ever come out of that relationship.

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    1. NOTHING GOOD WILL EVER COME OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP!!!!

      Some men are so lazy and stupid at the same time, opportunities will slap them in the face, and they wont know...

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    2. Now, you know why the other babes dumped him

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    3. Even Don agrees you should drop the man!!! All I typed disappeared but a little now, the man child and his evil mother see you as their ticket to the good life and one day, after you all have found yourselves in Canada, it will be time to bring mother evil but the story won’t end there. Your loved ones will wake up one day to your obituary or is it your enemy’s obituary with a cock and bull story of how you or your enemy as the case maybe died and that would be all but on behalf of you and your enemy I say God forbid!!! Doctors are known to be intelligent, start being so.

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  12. This one hard ooo.


    The cons outweigh the pros.

    Please, there is no road in this one.

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  13. Poster rent the room and send him the proceeds and then hands off him. Why should u get yourself entangled in this when u obviously have a LOT on your plate? Please, leave this adult child alone and do not make the mistake of taking him to Canada.

    Sell off the car and repay your debt, face your work, make enough money and leave with your kids and maid. If u are lucky, u might meet a better man there if not, then u face your life, at least u are lucky u have kids to take your mind off things.

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    1. Na if she go hear o, make toto no scratch am this night, she go forget everything wer we talk for here.

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  14. Story so long.. Ma, you just got yourelf a liability. He's not into you trust me abi am sure he's a fine man. Yoruba call them faworaja. He will do worse. Cut off asap and take care of your children. You have great patience sha. Welldone.

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  15. Chai
    Wetin I go tell this girl now?
    Naija girls abiakwa ozo, hoya ho ho hoya!😯😯😯😯

    Apart from (Stolen) forks, chop belle full, shoot off and offload horsebands, una get any other work?

    "I love him so dearly and butterflies starts tingling in my stomach..."
    Shuoooooo!
    No be only butterflies o. Spiders and scorpions go soon join party when this drama wey you set up there matures.

    If you closed your legs, this drama for reduce. But whosai,
    Fork must show like the oxygen wey una dey breathe. And you go dey fork soteee, una go use una sitting room and bedroom do urine swimming pool
    for porn. Or sorry for fun.
    Isikwa nu m kwuo gini? 🀐🀐🀐🀐

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    1. Yaba left escapee10 May 2019 at 17:13

      Lol... urine swimming pool for fun

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  16. What did I just read? I can't take 1/2 of this bull shit you wrote up there,to what end exactly?.Are you this dumb or what.For your sanity,take a long walk away from this trash,nothing is encouraging in this relationship,its simply toxic.Complete trash.

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  17. Babe, you have 3 children incase you dont know, one has a biological mum with you as the adoptive mum

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  18. It is better to stay single, focused and healthy than to carry a baggage that will keep you stress and drain you. That man is like a baggage.

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  19. FORGET HIM! I know it's easier said than done but you've survived the first,you will survive it. Don't take him ABROAD OOOO!

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  20. This is scene one
    When subsequent scenes play, you will have children
    in all the countries of the world including Afghanistan,
    Sudanistan, Somalianistan etc. Jisie ike.

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  21. This is my first time of commenting on a chronicle. Please note very well that this is a self-inflicted injury you are trying to give yourself. You can never be happy in this kind of relationship. This man will forever take you for granted and the greatest mistake will be to take him to Canada. His entitlement mentality and that of his Mother should be enough to trigger you to pick race. He knows you desire love and don't want to be alone. How can a woman be this hardworking and then allow such a man into her life? In the minimum, the man should be able to take care of himself and his mother without bothering you at all. Please do away with him and don't let him play on your intelligence. You are better off being single please. Put your trust in God and tell him the kind of partner you want.

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  22. God just saved you my sister.
    Put on your dancing shoes and give him praise.

    He can't work under sun. When he gets to Canada, he won't work because he can't work in the cold.

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  23. Ahhh what a chronicle. Choi. Madam you went from frying pan to fire. This your baby daddy is one chance. All he's sticking around for is to get to Canada once that happenes you will see the real him this one he's showing you is intro..That guy doesn't love you, care about you or even regard you in anyway. It won't be easy but try raise your kids get out of the country find your balance .. If you continue like this you might loose your mind.

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  24. I stopped reading at the paragraph where the baby fell, please leave the gold digger.

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    1. This one will dig till he digs your grave

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  25. Please don't waste your time on that man,my opinion himself and his mum wants to go abroad and they are using you as a tool to achieve that. Focus on your kids and forget the guy. They don't love you,it's obvious.

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    1. I don’t think it’s about a road. Dude has missed the chance twice and he’s about to miss this one . He’s probably scared of going abroad and his mother wants him near her so she’s willing to overlook his bad behaviors

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  26. Maga don pay...in 2019! It is sense you need to receive.

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    1. She still hasnt received sense oh, shes feeling bad that shes too harsh on him

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  27. So long a letter by Mariama Ba,Poster,you are in a relationship with a child;infact,you are dating yourself.Pick up your self esteem and build yourself,why will you keep wasting your money on a lazy Nigerian youth who cannot even think for himself.leave him and walk or run as fast as your legs can carry you

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  28. I cannot believe what I just read! Poster if you are my sister, I'll just kidnap you, take you faaaaaaaar away from that opportunistic parasite and his mother, delete all their contact from your phone, sit you down and talk to you so that your eyes can open to see your self worth!
    What is this? This is not a relationship! A 35years old man with zero sense of ambition looking for whom to spoon feed him and his mother?! Why are you doing this? This is not what love is. This guy doesn't love you, he's just using you to seek greener pastures. Jeez! I'm pissed honestly.
    That car was it registered in his name? I hope not oh! If you have a second one, sell the one you bought before and put the money on fix deposit pending when you travel. Don't ever give him another dime; this one you want to rent out his room and send him the money. Which money? Is he allergic to making that money? He's not the hustling type, he can't work under hot sun bla bla bla YET he didn't see Dangote linage to come from? Yeye dey smell!
    See ehn, you and your kids will be fine. There are better men who you will meet, this man is NOT one. Relocate and start a new life and leave this leach in Benin where he belongs with his mom and their tiny shop. Taking this guy anywhere will be your biggest mistake and undoing.

    Why is your maid's family demanding for half a million? You are taking their daughter to Canada to train her as a doctor and they are asking for 500k?! You need to sit down and ask yourself how and why you manage to surround yourself with people like this who wants to do nothing but rip you off. They're very ungrateful and whilst I get you love her, nobody should take advantage of your good and kind heart with such demands. Tell them that 500k you can't give them because it's what you will use to facilitate her travel and Kickstart her education. If they are not ok with it, they can take her back that you will look for another girl to go with. Then sit down and watch their head reset and if it doesn't, that is their loss. As if when she becomes a doctor won't it be to their benefit?

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    1. My dear this whole story tire me., like why having all these leeches around you!

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    2. Trully its like her good heart gets the best of her, thats why people take advantage of her, her you paying her off? or after payment you'd still take her abroad? If you are paying her off, you can negotiate the money, but if shes going away with you and youd sponsor her education then dont pay a dime or you pay her off to go.

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    3. This poster senses is gone..as terrible as it sounds. She will still marry the man, carry maid to canada and still be the man married to herself.
      She will never have sense. At this her age with these signs, yet this story, 3 kids...her biological 2 and forcefully adopted 1...no sense go enter

      Poster , if you see my message and want the best for your mental health...please click on my ID and send me a mail. Mental health is my field, I am a psychiatrist , we need to really talk. At this rate , I fear you wont listen to advice and to be honest with you depression is real.

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    4. Her senses is far gone, she needs Solomon’s capsule...
      I was angry all thru

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  29. Stella has said enough already ,run run ooooh

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  30. What a confusing story. Who will finish this incomprehensible write up. All I know is that at times it is more honourable to stay off men once you have a child and a steady income. As I am now, I have about three of them on my case, it is all phone call, if you press me so much I will pursue you with a high request. At night I sleep like a baby.

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  31. what nonsense! Doc. please, you are too intelligent for this liability. Abeg move on, they think they are doing you favour. Why fall for a guy without certificate? Most f them have irritating attitude

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  32. Stella has said it all . Run as fast as your legs can carry you gosh Can't you see he's of no good use to you. I know you love him but run and don't look back. He's so entitled and lazy .If you end up with him you will be working for both of you till the end of your life.

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  33. I really admirer ur effort and courage, dont let anyone bring u down with him,that guy is so lazy and taking advantage of u because he knows u love him...so guide ur heart,dont call him,let him come to hes senses..if he really want u,he will come back and change if not u have to let him go..u have 2kids already dont add another adult baby

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  34. Yesterday's chrochro and today's chrochro..😫😫😫😫😫😫😫

    Like I'm so angry very angry..

    Madam.. Please and please cut off from this man and his mother..

    You have tried your best enough.

    MOST MEN OF NOWADAYS ARE LOOKING FOR GREEN FIELD TO LIE DOWN AND SLEEP.
    NO ONE WANTS TO WORK OR HUSTLE..

    imagine, #1.6million for a car and he's behaving like this, even with travelling abroad and other entitlements, he's still misbehaving.

    If na my business I see girlfriend dash me 1.6million, I go dey wash her pant self..

    Mumu man.

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    1. Lol, oya Ola come and wash my paent o. With all the benfits and more.

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    2. I trust you Ola. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚.
      This kind opportunities de only land for mumu men their lap.
      This life eh.

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    3. Washing of pant na big thing for a guy to do? Something wey guys dey do still spend more than 1.6? Before you see my 1.6 you have to be ready to do more than that. πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„ 😏

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  35. Poster receive E-slap!!! This man-baby has wrecked you emotionally. If you continue this relationship, then we should expect more chronicles from you. You had better face your life and two kids. This one no be husband o! Na liability!!!

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    1. That guy is a narcissist, he has drained her emotionally that she has nothing left. She has so depended on him that he now seems like the air she breaths, he is toxic and she knows it. Anything that doesnt bring you peace or joy should be done away with. Guard your space woman, so you can be sane for your kids.

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  36. Yesterday's chrochro and today's chrochro..😫😫😫😫😫😫😫

    Like I'm so angry very angry..

    Madam.. Please and please cut off from this man and his mother..

    You have tried your best enough.

    MOST MEN OF NOWADAYS ARE LOOKING FOR GREEN FIELD TO LIE DOWN AND SLEEP.
    NO ONE WANTS TO WORK OR HUSTLE..

    imagine, #1.6million for a car and he's behaving like this, even with travelling abroad and other entitlements, he's still misbehaving.

    If na my business I see girlfriend dash me 1.6million, I go dey wash her pant self..

    Mumu man.

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  37. His mum and him are trying to use you as maga,he's not domesticated at all which is a problem with most Nigerian men but not hardworking to even mk a living for himself is worse,see his mama mouth like my son canot work under sun then whose child can work under sun to get her son food to eat,if u take him abroad,don't come complaining,he'll do worse,bet me,before December that you'll be leaving they'll pretend to change and come pleading so he can at least crossover,be wise and receive sense...

    Zinny

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  38. Gbam!!! Stella has given you the best advice so far and I concur.... I wish you all the best!!

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  39. If you are willing to accept him the way he is, you may have a great relationship
    He doesn’t want to work . There are menlike this and women too it’s just that it’s more acceptable in society for women not to work. Your kids like him and you’re a hustler. You need someone you trust with them . If you move to Canada, childcare wi be even more expensive. If u can trust hi to take care of the kids, that will really help you. This is who he is. If you can’t deal with a man that ant hustle, then move on. Sell the car and move on. There are guys in that same naija and on this blog that will happily follow u to Canada

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    1. Anon you are very mad, like craze dey worry you abi. If this poster na your sister you go gree make man do am like this abi? abi if na your mama you go allow man treat am like this abi? Dont give meals you cant eat biko, if you have nothing good to say then stfu.

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    2. this is the stupidiest advise ive ever seen..Please can u check the level of your IQ? i bet u dont have a brain..Wtf is this is who he isπŸ™†πŸΎ ayemitemibami,definately u are just like the man in this story..A leech and a lazy warthog

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    3. Yes I gree. Nothing wrong with being a stay at home dad. I can gree for my man too. Y’all be fighting over nothing sometimes. The guy doesn’t want to work and if she’s fine with it, nobody should shame her. I only get pissed at guys that won’t work and won’t help at home. U can’t have it both ways. There are many homes like that in the USA even naija homes. Woman has a good job and man takes care of home front. Nobody is dead yet. Daycare can run you over $800 per month per kid. If the man is working sef how much will he be making. If the man doesn’t stay home, she will either spend up to $1600 or more for daycare that may not even be good sef or she’ll not be able to work as she pleases. Choose

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    4. @anon 17.26 u want to act smart but u not smart..Wat woman wants to date or marry a lazy man..dont disrespect other men nd talk about them being stay at home fathers,many willingly weighed their options nd decided to quit their jobs,my bf talks about being a stay at home dad nd trust me,the guy has made enough money to last generations,there are stay at home dads that still drop sumtin..dont compare that situation to this lazy brat here..This one wants everytin handed to him on a platter of gold,he cant take care of the kids or do the chores,nothing! pls look for another instance as this did not enter at all

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    5. You’re mixing apples and oranges
      I’m saying dude doesn’t have to make a dime if that family dynamic works for them. She’s a doctor. Some doctors get paid more than 4 people’s salary in the states. At that point, money is not the issue
      Who will watch and raise the kids while doc is making money
      If a woman doesn’t want to work outside the home and has young kids, no one complains. Free the girl abeg. Poster stop wasting money trying to help him work. He doesn’t want that type of job

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    6. Anon 17.26 read the Chronicle again and you will see that this excuse of a man does not even help at home. He wants the poster to always spell out things for him. You can't e a man, sit at home and not e proactive na...that's nonsense.

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    7. Did you not read the part of her nanny going to Canada too?

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    8. @anon15.32 God bless you for this comment the only person apart from me that analysed this from a different perspective. Be the husband while he becomes the wife . You already have a maid case closed. Even white men are like this. Some women gladly pay for their husbands to be a mummy to their kids while they pay for everything else. Your first husband was he also a man child or man? If the latter was the case and it didn’t work then check yourself. Pele just relax and be the husband inugo

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  40. Are you sure his mother has not tired you with juju. Please use your sense. I don't know why some girls fall for this kind of men very lazy ass men. Even if you take him to that Canada you will be responsible for everything because he will still not work. Please borrow sense and run they are better men out there that are hard working and can complement you my dear. Repeat this to your self everytime you think about him(I deserve better).. hugs!! Love is a crazy thing.

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  41. All these ladies that can't help their fellow ladies but will immediately be nice when they meet a useless man. The way girls give sex still amazes me,is it that easy to part your thighs for someone who isn't married to you.hmmm

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  42. Hmmmmmmmmm.
    Madam, you've 3 babies.
    My advice, none because you'd settle later.
    *sips kunu aggressively*

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  43. Enter your comment...my dear, as a medical doctor that works tediously for her money especially in Nigeria, u are supposed to enjoy your money and not wasting it on an ingrate of a man.please runnnnn

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  44. Madam so you didn't learn anything the first time? At 36 one will expect that you be matured and firm. Is this the kind of life you want to expose your children to? You better have a rethink cause that man is nothing but a Leech and he wont stop till he has leveled you to the ground

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  45. it is a pity...
    child at heart my foot! more like to fool at heart.

    konikoni Love.

    criminal mother.

    gullible poster, but I don't blame you. that's why "love is wicked".

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  46. Massa. The Man is a boy oo. I am just laughing at you ni. Marriage no be joke o. Continue being the man in this situation ship. Last last your heart go scatter when him reach canada

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  47. Poster please move on. Your baby daddy is still a baby.

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  48. My ex husband is a Benin man.Dear Nigerian women, run away from Benin men! Please! For the sake of your sanity. They are all leeches! Stella, please publish my comment. It might save someone.

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    1. Oh no don't say that Dearest anon. I am married to a Benin man and he takes good care of me and the kids. Pays all the bills without any help from me. He still helps me around the house and with the kids as well. People even get surprised when I tell them that he is Benin, they think he is an Igbo man.. i am not working at the moment, I'm taking care of the kids. I'll get back to work soon though.

      My point is, its it's not about the tribe, it's about the individual.

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  49. You want to rent his room out and send him the money... room you rented with with YOUR OWN MONEY!
    Brain dey pain you. You are just one hell of a foolish woman. I dislike idiots like you with passion.

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    1. I understand your vexation anon...I'm angry too, this poster is just something else

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  50. God forbid at my age, divorced with 2 kids i give myself such headache! I am too selfish with my happiness and peace of mind at this stage of my life, that NOBODY can disturb me only my kids. I have not given up on love but i am just not interested in anything complicated. Giving up on love is not what will make you happy or whatever you think, most of you women think if you are with someone, you have to sell your sense and soul. Life is not that hard! It comes at a certain age, when you meet a man, you go for the one who gives you peace of mind and in the meantime, you don't lose yourself. It is companionship, and if you always think your happiness will only come when marriage is involved then you will suffer. Sometimes, just enjoy being with someone, laugh and make yourself happy and if it does not work, don't force anything, let go and move on!

    After everything you have been through, this is the type of man you want to end up with? Do you even love yourself? Being celibate or being proud in the fact that you don't give men chances or wont love is not the ultimate and won't make you any happier in life. Take life as it is, one step at a time. It is no coincidence this man has been married twice, he has some kind of thing going on with his mum and you better don't expose your kids to that. He will NEVER get better, and i am telling you here, once he gets to Canada, he will do everything to bring his mum over. You are better and Too big for that. Men don't finish for market my sister, you will meet MEN and fall in love over and over until you get the right one and that is if you don't take everything serious like your life or happiness depend on a man, nope! I love being in control of my emotion, i can really like you but if i sense that you are not giving me or bringing what i want in my life, you are gone and i won't even feel a thing! I conditioned my mind as such that i don't lose myself and peace of mind. Woman take control of yourself at such a point that nothing moves you!

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    1. Being celibate or being proud in the fact that you don't give men chances or wont love is not the ultimate and won't make you any happier in life".I give you back your words @ Anon 15:45,you have lied.I am in my late thirties and will be 40 this nov and I am so single and have being a celibate for over 2 years plus and still counting.I am very proud in not giving any man a chance in my life and I have over 30 of them blocked on my whatsapp and does not pick their calls either.I am very happy and have my peace of mind and full joy because I have given my life completely and genuinely to CHRIST.I was a bitter,angry,depressed and almost at the verge of committing suicide when I was dating.I feel miserable and used when I had sex then but all these had stopped when I accepted CHRIST into my life.I am a very nice person but men took advantage of me and used me as their door-mat.I have never had a good relationship throughout my 30 years plus (39years) in this wicked world.I know my worth now and still have a lot of love inside but all those love are given to people that are genuinely in need,my siblings,my nephew,my neighbours,close relatives,colleagues and my aged parents.I will also adopt a child to show all the love and care.I am happier now than ever and cannot trade my happiness with anything even if it means I remain single all my life.I want to commit the rest of my remaining life serving GOD ad humanity.Peace and love Anon.

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    2. I did not lie, the reason you are happier is because you have been dealt with and was looking for marriage in every man you have been with. You did not love yourself to begin with, you attached your happiness to men and they dealt you a blow. You are a battered woman who is not lucky with love, you might be happy now but you wont be in the next 10 years. Everyone needs a companion to grow old with, old age and loneliness is a death trap. The best thing you can do for yourself is to learn to love yourself now, make up your mind about You, any person who comes to your life is a plus and if it does not work, you will still be happy. God was not stupid to create a man and woman, even priest sleep around. At a time in your life, you will feel it! Don't deceive yourself.

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  51. That man does not have any business being in your life @ alllllll.
    Please move on, relocate and forget the bastard and his family.
    He will so drain you and drain your destiny ehn.

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  52. What is really happening in this world?

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  53. HELLO DEAR, LISTEN AND LISTEN GOOD, DO NOT MARRY THAT MAN, IN FACT DO NOT ATTEMPT TO CALL HIM OR THE MOTHER EVER AGAIN, YOU ARE A GOOD WOMAN AND YOU DESERVE A LOT BETTER THAN THIS, THIS MAN AND THE MUM ARE USING YOU, DO NOT LET HIM BACK INTO YOUR LIFE, FOCUS ON YOU AND YOUR KIDS, YOU DONT NEED HIM, PLEASE MOVE THE FUCK ON. AGAIN AND AGAIN, THEY ARE USING YOU. THE LORD WILL BLESS YOU WITH YOUR OWN MAN. Sometimes God sends an ex back into your life to see if you are still stupid! Please let him go, God loves you enough to rescue you from him the second time, i hope and pray you listen

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  54. Madam, leave this scam family alone naa, why do you want to train an adult ? Are there no responsible men you can fall for? Since you are rich get yourself involved with a man who is well brought up please! Or your village people are after your happiness

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  55. See auntie, auntie wey mumu

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    1. Auntie wey no get sense.
      Auntie wey love de control

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    2. No na see doctor, doctor wey no wise. Sorry poster. This is me hoping you would do better.

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  56. I didnt finish reading the story. Too pissed. Foolishness everywhere.

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  57. I was just reading and hope that you still have the car, at least try selling it to see if you can recover the borrowed money and get Feb off your many problems.

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  58. Madam Dr. You said to advice you to receive sense or be a better woman or to receive sense. Dr,you have been the best woman. Not even better. Now it is time to receive sense. RECEIVE SENSE! That relationship will continue to drain you.

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  59. can somebody woz this girl fr me? my friend wake up yu no no benin people . when they finish with you eh

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  60. abeg i fit buy the car from you? idiot

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  61. The kind of thing you read on SDK blog...….mtcheww……..

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  62. you said you are intelligent and a kiosl provision owner and her mum are using you like this? My dear you ain't intelligent!

    I beg you in the name of the Lord to leave this man alone. Erase everything about him and move to Canada with your kids. We all know he will come back begging, my dear please DO NOT ALLOW HIM CLOSE TO YOU AGAIN! can't you see that this guy wants to use you|? It looks like you are desperate for a man and then want to settle for anything. JEHOVA!

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    1. Don't use the name of your God in vain.

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  63. You are so desperate for love that you turn to a fool. You don’t love yourself that you let him and his mother treat you like salve. You better forget him and love yourself(build your self esteem

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  64. Poster, you need deliverance. I don't know where your baby daddy and his mother carried your name and picture to. But you have been jazzed.

    If you need to do all night by yourself talking to God, do so you can be free. Someone treats you like this, you're saying you love and trust him yet you don't realise it's not ordinary eye? Be loosed in Jesus' Name!

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  65. Poster,are you sure you are a medical doctor or a herbalist?Is like the guy thing get honey and gold.A medical doctor having sex with an unknown soldier without condom.

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  67. I don't usually comment on chronicles, I just read and read people's comments. Honestly, I got angry reading your story that I couldn't even read to the end. Lemme just summarise my opinion,I just have a feeling that they might go diabolical on you soon, seeing you are their meal ticket. This is a situationship you have put yourself. Please do yourself a favour of cutting off completely from mother and son. Block them from all angles. It is not compulsory that you should be married, and please get closer to God. Thank you.

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  68. Both mother and son are USERS. I'm surprised you can't see the handwriting on the wall, it's crystal clear. You need to remove your emotions and think with your head, not your heart.

    So much drama in one single life. Haba.

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  69. Hey poster, is ur first name MAGA-reth, ur write up shows everyone around you is a user, they take pleasure in zapping you, from the lazy guy, to his mom, to the maid! I'm too pissed!!!! wake up and use your head please.. E-hugs

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  70. I thought I was seeing a Nigerian movie...
    Why creating another regrettable scenario for yourself.. Please, sit and think about what you actually doing to yourself... a man who possess those kinda attributes, is a demon waiting to be winged. And yoh just about to wing him, thereafter he will rebel against all the good things You've built. Now, how do you define love? think about how you react towards his affair relative to the sincere love you feel. Now, do you see the same poise of love in him for you.. His mum is the one with his senses and she is manipulating you through him for her void gains

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  71. What nonsense is this?
    My heart was just beating reading this
    You are not smart and it's obvious just book smart and that's it which is very sad.
    Ah

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  72. Drags every women ears.. No woman MUST have anything to do with a NONSENSE in guise of Man form..in the name of RELATIONSHIPS and MARRIAGE. @ 25 every man must have defined his FUTURE (it is OK if still struggling but let the vision be clear)
    So you fully understand why you need to exercise patient.
    Nobody delivers POTTY PROTRUDING BELLY, anaro amu mbekwu afo amu..
    Every man must be like ADAM, ISSAAC, JACOB, DAVID, BOAZ, JOSEPH..
    bia anunty chronicle, calmly dispose that Which you shamelessly named a Man and focus on being YOU..
    Osim my daughter misses him (miss fire) hey nwokem do 7 days mid -night prayer, prayer point is
    Every opportunist, every lazy ass man, every irresponsible gold digger in my life, let God kpa matches eluigwe on them and set them ablaze as they all Summersalt and die dead death..

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  73. Madam. You need help. This is a spell abeg. Have never read anything worse.

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  74. I was pissed and couldn't finish reading your story. From the part i read,enough already wharis is this?

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  75. But Madam i dont understand you o.... after all you have been through you are still willing to be providing for one man . Better dont bring him here unless you wan use juju tie am down to become your maid . how will he add to the family abi you go send am go back to school again as e be say you be egbewaja? How can you not see that they are trying to use you how can you nottttttttt.
    Please move on and cut all connection with him and file as a single mom case closed .
    when you move here and get settled Love will find you ...selah

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  76. poster RUN!RUN!!RUN!!!.
    THE MOM IS APOLOGIZING BECAUSE YOU HAVE MONEY
    HE IS A SPOILT CHILD.
    THE PERSON WHO POISNLONED HIS MIND IS NO OTHER THAN THE MOM.AND SHE EVEN SAVED YOU FROM A BULLET.
    STOP BEEN EMOTIONALLY DECEIVED .
    STRONG YOUR HEART AND DUMB HIM
    THIS TYPE CAN CONNIVE WITH THE MOM AND KILL YOU IF THEY HAVE FINISHED USING YOU .IF YOU HAVE PROPERTIES THEY WILL TAKE IT.YOUR KIDS WILL SUFFER .THEIR FATHER WILL NOT GIVE A HOOT.THAT HE HAS SHOWN YOU WHEN HE LEFT THE HOUSE IN AMGER.RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN
    You don't want what happened to your first kid to happen to the second .but u made a mistake by fallen in love with the wrong person.move on

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  77. Hmm... You fell in love with a mama's boy and a lazy man. You need to reset your brain. Mother and son see you as a means to an end (relocating abroad).

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  78. You're his meal ticket. He know it, his mother knows it, but YOU HAVE REFUSED TO SEE THAT.

    Better talk to yourself, stop giving him money, collect your car back, halt travel plans for him and see how he behaves towards you.

    Don't give him a dime, don't cook for him and watch him torment you.

    He is with you because of what he gets from you, he doesn't love you, you're his meal ticket.



    From all you have narrated, you are the one running after him, you're playing the role of a man in this relationship and that's the surest way to get heartbroken.

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  79. Poster cut your losses and start afresh with your kids.save money and travel to one of d countries ur kids av citizenship.and don't include him in ur future plans.dont take him abroad also.he and his mother are out to run u down financially and more self.take ur kids and run if u want a good future for ur kids.

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  80. Sweetheart pls run away from such a man. Forget love oh, after a while reality will set in and u won't see this love and "he's fun to be with"u are talking about. U can only take the horse the the river but u can't force the horse to drink, so no matter how hard u try to help him, my dear he won't change. In the end u will resent him and he will slow u down in life cos u will be the one struggling for ur kids and him. Pls be strong, make up ur mind and move on, go to ur abroad and forget abt such a man and his mother, they want to use u. My 2 cents oh

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  81. Madam pls leave that gold digger and run for your life, they are just using you dear and don't ever make the mistake of taking him to Canada,don't even call or send him any money again, get your mind off him and take care of your children I know it's not easy knowing that you love him but trust me you will be fine, you deserve better darling you can't stay at that hurtful place anymore, if they don't know your worth and appreciate what you have done by now, stop trying dear just let him go okay? It's all in the mind and you can do it! Stay safe.

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  82. Benin jazz has hooked this poster....
    Or the village people are out to get her
    Or her ex husband is out to finish her

    One way or the other, this poster is not in her normal senses.

    Madam poster,
    1.Do not marry this man
    2. Migrate to Canada and not with him as a conjugal poster
    3. Why is your maids family on your neck, where you owing her salary? Anyway lemme wish you well on that because I presume the maid has really helped you when in need and she has being nice to your kids. I pray God gives you the grace to do right by the maid and say no to this man.
    Remember, you had sex and had a baby , a consequence of the sex but marrying the father of this baby shouldn't be a consequence as well.

    Better fo for prayers to release from whatever hold on you, for the mans mother to say her sun cant work under sun like ssy sun no dey shine for canada.
    The mother even has the guts to tell you to send them money..pamper him..buy him.car....chai. mama has lock your picture inside bottle

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  83. CHAI MY 1ST TIME TO MAKE COMMENT ANTY STELLA PLEASE CAN YOU HELP DO A FOLLOW UP ON THIS LADY>>>>>>SHE REALLY NEEDS HELP AND RESET HER BRAIN. Please poster i use God name beg u care for your kids and 4get this lazy adult child man....u are too kind hearted for rubbish

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  84. She's book smart not street smart.

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    1. I can tell you for free that I am also not street smart but nobody can play me like this.

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  85. Poster, too many issues here. Are you sure his mama hasn't locked him in a bottle. Apart from the facts that he's not driven and totally irresponsible, his mama seems to be his biggest problem. It's highly unusual for a mother of a 35 year old man to act like this. Imagine her son can't drive uber eventough her son requested for it. Nigeria is too hot for her son, it's cold weather that would suit him. Her son is lean, you aren't feeding him properly. This is all shades of wrong and the fact that you are too lovestruck to see it , means your village people never surrender from your case and your marital destiny is under attack.
    I think you should forget this man, in short forget any relationship for now. It won't be easy to stay alone, but focus on your relocation. As a medical doctor, don't think you will easily get a job in canada, if you successfully get your PR, you have series of exams to write in canada before you can practise there. You don't need distractions from a man-child, remember, you actually have little children which will make your settling in even harder but it would be worth it at the end. Let mama continue to mother her baby, God will strengthen them both.
    Finally, please develop a "I'm better than this attitude", I don't want to be presumptuous but I'll say due to your bad marital experience, consciously or unconsciously your self esteem has been eroded. If you change your mentality and believe you deserve better, in no time, a genuine man , that is a man in all sense of the word would locate you.

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    1. My ex husband's mother was exactly like this. He was and is just useless. 5 failed marriages later and they are still blaming everyone but him.

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  86. I feel pity for you Doc. I'm sorry people abused you on here but hey it's SDK, blunt people on this blog and you asked for it. I am a GUYMAN myself all na working , I must tell you,you are being used. Move to Canada, find peace and let that lazy fool go,You have a good heart another man will come your way.

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  87. You are such a desperate woman. You deserve to be slapped, who this did to you woman?

    is it your man, or your 5 years old son that you are talking about like this? Dem born you born me wey dey use you clean ground? What is WRONG WITH YOU WOMAN?

    Are you fat?, ugly? crippled? What kind of household did you grow up in that you think this is how a loving household should run? Where are your family members?

    i will help you cast and bind this kind of stupid jazz that they have used to tie you and your brain. Ah ah!!!

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  88. Do not take this man anywhere. This man is a scam. Run for your life and for sanity sake in futur. Abi, they jazz you?

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  89. Poster RUN FOR YOUR LIFE & SANITY. You need to block this guy & his mom everywhere possible on this earth.
    These people are parasites, they can never amount to anything good, they are lazy & worst of all users,they have seen your desperation & weakness & they wanna play on your intelligence,unfortunately for them you are smarter than them. They are out to suck you dry & wreck you...
    Please run ASAP.
    For now forget about man matter. Relocate to Canada or where ever you feel suitable, live your life with your two kids, I trust you will be fine & at the right time God will show up for you in the love /marriage department. God didn't make you a slave or paymaster to any lazy fool. It is well with you doc

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  90. @Poster,I am angry and burnig with fume on your behalf.What kind of stupid love is this?I am a single lady in my late 30s and I walk with grace and grandeur because I know whom I am and the Lord that I am serving.I have made a lot of mistakes with men in the past but these mistakes has strengthened me.It is very obvious this fool is using you but you are foolishly,stupidly and hopelessly in love.I put it to you,there is nothing like love,it does not exist and I will never fall in love with what the world term love.I only believe in the unconditional love of GOD Almighty.Get a grip of yourself and block this guy from your life.You were even married before and yet to learn your lesson.You need JESUS CHRIST and you will realise what you have been missing when you commit your life to GOD.I wish I can see you face to face to tell you about myself and how I found complete joy in the Lord.I love you poster and God has given you lovely kids.Please focus on them and make them your priority.I am not married and will be 40in November but I am happy and wants to adopt.

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  91. You need a slap and four packs of Solomon capsule. Take two caps three time daily for five days. Your not in love, you just want a companion.

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  92. Where in lekki do you live? You deserve corporate punishment. Se e gbadun? Stop spending on Men!!!!!!!

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  93. WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU???? What more can this man do to you???? Where is your self esteem and pride?? Money you should be saving for your children's future you are spending on the most useless of men. DUMP HIM NOW!!!

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  94. Please ma, with all due respect, block this guy everywhere, sell the car and move on. A man that asked you to abort his child is a No No.

    You can sell the car to me. Am looking for one to buy, seriously

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  95. i just dey VEX now, which kind MUMU/maga/mugu be dis Girl naaa, are you that desperate? are u that Urgly? you dont have a family to spend your money on? are u under curse? they Jazz u? haba. u said ur a doctor and ur dis senseless. a lazy jobless Gigolo man and his 419 mother are using you and ur still asking question. in this hard time a full grown man said he cant work under de sun, he has heart issue, and Kanu nwankwo that has heart problem used it to play professional football for years under sun and under cold. DO NOT make the mistake of taking him abroad ooo cos na frustration go kill you der, and he will look for 120 years old Oyibo lady and marry and inherit all her property. if he cant work under sun, he can write Books inside the house der, he can write songs and sell to Artist, he can write movie and sell, he can read soo well and become a motivational speaker, he can read the Bible soo well dat he can even be a Pastor, weather fake or real pastor. he can learn hand work, soo many hand work you can do inside house without sun touching you EG Tailoring, Saloon etc. Madam if i see you near that man again i will send spiritual slap to u, the type i heard they send to Rochas Okorocha one time. its not by force to be with a man, ur mate na reverend sister without a Husband and God has blessed you with 2 kids and ur still looking for a man. na your type de make men underrate women, i think you have low self esteem. this same man is busy chating with other women in your own house you paid for, telling them the same tin he told you taht made you fall for him, thats his work, he is just looking for who will take him abroad, cant you understand. let me stop here pls borrow yourself brain.

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  96. some women actually live in denial......a medical doctor..
    why so dull????

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  97. Unfortunately this is not a matured man that you are involved with, this is a boy. I feel bad that you probably thinking that you couldn't get pregnant had unprotected sex with him and got pregnant, but have you checked your hiv status? Just as how you got a baby he could have transmitted something to you, and why do I feel like he is a person with bad personal hygiene. This dude is a heavy load around your neck and I do not see how taking him to Canada is going to change his mindset, his other two attempts to get abroad tanked likely because of his attitude. My dear, he saw opportunity to improve himself and you were lonely and horny. However, you have ambition and drive and there is a lot to say about these qualities, they have the power to push past anything and achieve their end. So I think you will triumph in the end, but you have to use wisdom going forward and measure a man fully before you lay with him or get emotionally invested. May God be with you and your children.

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  98. Madam your story is pathetic. Drop this man now, he is dead on arrival and is kind enough to show you his true colour this early. You have a life of your own, make the best of it. If your story is true, u should move on and forget him

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  99. Madam poster, closely analyse the comments from diverse people from different walks of life. Do you notice one significant thing? Your Chronicle made alot of them angry and wonder if you're under a spell. Some even desired to slap you. It's that bad.
    Look for a trustworthy friend or a family member to help you disengage yourself from this bondage you rope yourself with if you're weak.
    Also, engage in serious prayers for God to help you with wisdom to do the needful.
    You don't deserve leftovers, you are much more than this. Love is not selfish or stupid. A man cannot profess to love but instead of joy and happiness, you are reaping sorrow. Wake Up from your slumber and give your self brain. There's no future with that lazy man. You will regret it if you continue.

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  100. I really need to drop this... Poster please draw closer to God ASAP. Make Him your everything now, because I think they have jazzed you because your write up is worrisome I swear.
    Cut them off without any notice, change your number if possible and don't allow anything or anyone resembling them close to you again. You will soon find your level in Canada. This man is not right for you. You have his child I know but a man who can not even be motivated to hustle for his son and be mindful of his well-being (imagine meeting your baby bleeding as a result of his action) should be cut off!

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  101. What did I just read? Poster I wish I could slap you from here to reset your brain. What kind of mumu is this? Ples leave that "child"you call baby daddy alone. You better stop the Canada paper you are working for him or else you will regret it

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  102. Dear Poster,
    Leave that man alone. He has no good plan for you rather than to drain u to the very end.

    Don’t u there take him along to canada. If not he will get there and leave u alone. It will now be everyone hustle for urself. Babe, he doesn’t love u a lil bit. Less i forget, don’t send any money again to them.

    The mother and the son have seen that u are a desperate mother in need of a man. There are better men out there. U might fall into d hands of a better one when u leave. Focus on your children and invest in them.

    Have a Trustee account for them.

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  103. Honestly, you need an e-slap from Stella to help reset your brain

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  104. Poster, please pray hard. Ask God to help you overcome every manipulation. You will be fine. Just block the man and his mother and move on with your life. He will never change because love is never enough to change a man.

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  105. I dont leave comments on issues like this but my dear, drop this man and his mother like the bad habits they are. You will suffer if you marry this one plus himself and his mother will show you pepper. I dont do mother inlaws that cannot tell their children the truth. Please keep looking as you have not found husband yet. Better still, stay away from men at this point. This right here is a disaster that has happened already...count your losses and move on please.

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  106. Why are some women this stupid? Why not buy a vibrator if you can't hold body? All these nonsense about seeing his face in your baby's face means you want to take him back if he would come back. Tueh! Some women really have self esteem issues. Someone left you when you were pregnant and came back when he thought you had the abortion. With everything you typed up there, you want to send him money when you rent out the BQ. Mumu. Dont start putting money aside for your children. Take him to Canada as the super'man' that you are and you would see fire. They mistakenly showed their hand too early, they will start calling and be sweet and charming to get him to Canada. He can't work in his car, under the sun and thinks it's Canadian cold that will freeze you till you can't feel your fingers and toes that the lazy dude will strive in.
    How long has your maid being with you that her family is demanding for 500k when you are planning to take her to Canada? It seems you are just a push over.

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