STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
BIG DILEMMA
Help me o, I am in a dilemma
I have two friends am close to,a guy and a girl,lets call them john and Shayla,few years back they both decided to take the friendship to another level and started dating,so I was now in the middle. they loved each other so much that I used to get jealous of them.
Last year December Shayla called me and told me she was getting married, I was happy until she told me it wasn't to john,but to some other guy,that he just got back from the States and is obviously loaded and he loves her and they've been seeing each other for a while now,I screamed and asked her if john was aware and she said no and begged me not tell him, that he will find out on his own,she said she couldn't wait any longer for john to get a better job and she's the first daughter in her family and that her people are putting pressure on her to get married and john is aware of that fact,she said the most important thing is that she has fallen out of love with John, that's she just tolerating him and she now loves dis other guy she's getting married to.
Now three days ago john walked on me telling dis gist to my sister, thank God he didn't know who I was talking about, he asked me who the unfortunate guy was and i told him it was a story someone told me at work, he just shook his head and said eyah that he prays such a thing doesn't happen to him cos he wouldn't know How to react cos he is a very emotional person, I felt like telling him that his girlfriend was about getting married to someone else soon but I couldn't.
We are going forward with the wedding plans, her wedding is coming up next month, she's still dating john, and he still doesn't know about the upcoming wedding, worst case for me she made me her chief bridesmaid,I have met the guy tho and he seems like a nice person, the first time he saw me,he took I and shyla shopping, he bought us lots and lots of things that I couldn't even believe it,he saw my phone was bad and promised me a phone, yesterday he got me an iPhone through the help of Shayla, like I couldn't believe it,even till now, the guy is obviously loaded, but I feel terrible about the whole thing,i feel bad for liking the gifts,now am feeling like I betrayed my friend,I feel so terrible,I feel so sorry for John but Shayla doesn't, what do I do?
Help me o, I am in a dilemma
I have two friends am close to,a guy and a girl,lets call them john and Shayla,few years back they both decided to take the friendship to another level and started dating,so I was now in the middle. they loved each other so much that I used to get jealous of them.
Last year December Shayla called me and told me she was getting married, I was happy until she told me it wasn't to john,but to some other guy,that he just got back from the States and is obviously loaded and he loves her and they've been seeing each other for a while now,I screamed and asked her if john was aware and she said no and begged me not tell him, that he will find out on his own,she said she couldn't wait any longer for john to get a better job and she's the first daughter in her family and that her people are putting pressure on her to get married and john is aware of that fact,she said the most important thing is that she has fallen out of love with John, that's she just tolerating him and she now loves dis other guy she's getting married to.
Now three days ago john walked on me telling dis gist to my sister, thank God he didn't know who I was talking about, he asked me who the unfortunate guy was and i told him it was a story someone told me at work, he just shook his head and said eyah that he prays such a thing doesn't happen to him cos he wouldn't know How to react cos he is a very emotional person, I felt like telling him that his girlfriend was about getting married to someone else soon but I couldn't.
We are going forward with the wedding plans, her wedding is coming up next month, she's still dating john, and he still doesn't know about the upcoming wedding, worst case for me she made me her chief bridesmaid,I have met the guy tho and he seems like a nice person, the first time he saw me,he took I and shyla shopping, he bought us lots and lots of things that I couldn't even believe it,he saw my phone was bad and promised me a phone, yesterday he got me an iPhone through the help of Shayla, like I couldn't believe it,even till now, the guy is obviously loaded, but I feel terrible about the whole thing,i feel bad for liking the gifts,now am feeling like I betrayed my friend,I feel so terrible,I feel so sorry for John but Shayla doesn't, what do I do?
Should I tell him? If I tell him, Shayla will know it's me and she will feel betrayed, I still love the both of them, they've been nothing but good friends to me, they've always been there for me,I just don't want to betray any of them, I feel really bad, pls somebody advice me on what to do,please...
*Ah this is a tough one oh!!!
You don't need to do anything,its none of your business and Shayla is the one who should be worried and if she is not then you should not be....Either way you would be betraying one friend for the other.....Telling John might be very risky..let him find out himself.......
Once ya'all hear a guy is from Abroad all ur senses fly away. This reeks of so much deceit am just speechless.
ReplyDeleteJohn will pour acid on both of you because You both betrayed him. You in person are a friend with benefit, that is why you are more loyal to Shyla or whatever her name is than the poor John.
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Just to marry abroad?
No scruples at all? 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
This is not surprising at all but
still very painful 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Honestly this Chronicle changed my mood
Deletepush shyla to tell him force her sef, tell her you can't be involved with her anymore if she doesn't tell him, shebe you've collected new phone, just tell him abeg.
Deletethis guy can faint when he finds out she's gotten married without his knowledge abi will she still be dating him after marriage? force her to tell home, cuz he is your friend too.
ANG food is ready for you and Ceaser .
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But men do this to women all the time so why is this one special? You better keep your mouth shut what's your own? Reverse this table now and see that John will do this same thing and clean mouth.
DeleteI am cold,someone please get me a blanket.
DeleteVery wicked sets of people.
DeleteSomething similar happened to me 3yrs ago. I was dating this guy. From the get go his sister introduced us, that her bro was looking for a wife. The sister is close to my elder sister. We discussed marriage right from the start.
DeleteThis guy was based in another city but he comes to my city often for business. He came on one of his trips and I attended an event with him.
It was his friends girlfriend at same event that told a friend of mine she knows to tell me the guy I am with is engaged to a girl in their town and their wedding is in 3months time. Obviously her bf and mine are friends so she attended their introduction.
This guy continued dating me and was getting ready to tie the knot with someone else. If not for the girl whose conscience pricked her and decided talk.
I felt so betrayed. Even more betrayed by the sister who introduced us. Because all along she knew her bro was getting married and she said nothing.
Till date she and my senior sister who were childhood friends don't talk again.
The abroad guy will shock shayla & be som1 that beats women for sport & she should not dare run back to john
DeleteLol... I'm laughing out loud 😂 right now.
DeleteI'm just chilling, waiting for Caesars epic reply to this poster.
Babe, your quest for constructive advice is quite late. Redeem yourself by being "shylas" conscience since hers has turned to ashes... I guess you cashed out with your iPhone... Enjoy
Sadly this might become my story my mom believes I was bewitched reason I am not married, meanwhile I have a bf who fed and helped me from my second year in school till date. I am the Ada she feels I am insulting her if at 23 I am not giving her grandkids and pumping money into the family as a corper.
DeleteI have to follow her to a native doctor for cleansing and sacrifice so suitors would start coming and they'd pick one, no this is not the first time, last time I followed her to a place my boo's business didn't survive, my health didn't get better. When I complained she said my bf is a bad person as he doesn't want to meet my parents (note, that my parents are separated and quarreling anybody he meets first is an issue but has met n spoken to siblings and friends).
I am going insane as I really need to escape her, and her fetish madness just like dad did
Ure not in position to tell John but u can compel Shayla to do d right thing or walk away from all the drama. Personally I cant b a part of that wedding if she's still dating John. U sha get sml long throat. Tell ur friend if she aint telling John she should start looking 4 a new bridesmaid its that simple.
DeletePoster. Start dating john lowkey, seduce him & see wht Kayla is keeping him around for..the d is probably magical. U guys might get married set. Leave kayla to marry the JJD who might even have another family abroad.
DeleteShayla should tell John that her parents mounted pressure on her to marry and since she's the first girl, bla bla bla.
DeleteBabe, if I were in John's shoes, I can become suicidal after finding out. Call him aside, make him promise not to mention it to anyone then tell him. If you dont, he will hate you too cos you are the chief bridesmaid. He will think you two deceived him and hate you
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DeleteI was dating a wonderful man that loved me so much that it seemed too good to be true but then I left him and married someone I have no business getting married to because we are not compatible at all. My BF is a million times better than him but I was pushed out of bliss to pain by forces of darkness(story for another day)
I was behaving badly and when he couldn't bear it anymore, he broke up with me but came back begging and crying for us to get back together. The good part of me wanted him badly but I was acting like a headless chicken.
I told him about my trad a week to the date and he was broken talk more of when you allow the person to find out. She needs to tell him immediately for her peace of mind. It might mean nothing now but when her eyes clear and if she has a conscience, she will hate herself for not telling him.
I live in regret every day and wish I could turn back the hands of time.
I even dreamt of him at night
I miss you so much J
aunty, drink water and MIND your business
ReplyDelete@Sylvia
Deletewhat of if soon, you have a man and your best friend treat you like this
and everybody will have to mind their business?
How about that?
You folks think that going abroad is going to heaven, all your problems
gets solved?
Odimma.
I dont think it's fair for her to mind her business honestly .
DeleteHowever the man in question would feel betrayed in the end .
Encourage your friend to tell him. Make her see reason why she should tell him. So it doesn't come from you but he is aware else he won't forgive both of you.
DeletePoster pls don't mind your business. This same thing happened to me years ago. It's almost 15 years now. I'm in talking terms with the guy now though very far away but I still can't bring myself to forgive his two best friends. Those people made me the greatest fool on earth. Even when I sensed the truth, they convinced me that it was my imagination.
DeleteYou forgave the guy that deceived you but can't forgive his friends?
DeleteMind your business because you didn’t intervene when you should have and Shayla is wicked.
ReplyDeleteJohn would be angry at not just Shayla but also you and it would be deserving because you should have insisted that Shayla tell him the moment you found out and backed out from helping her hide her secret or participating in her game.
What she is doing is unfair to not only John but her soon to be hubby. You have also sold your loyalty for money, imagine if Shayla’s hubby to be was a street urchin. Would you have agreed to be her chief bridesmaid? Anyway, I hope John finds out and stays away from you both because birds of a feather flock together. See your mouth like iphone, that’s how Seun Egbegbe started.
So much wisdom 100like
Deletewell said Doppelgänger But wait oo for John not to have noticed it means shayla is still actively dating him -_-
DeleteSome men are just not sensitive, if not he'd smell the changes a mile away.
DeleteAll you telling her to mind her business...Isn't the person she's betraying also part of her business? How heartless! My God! No friend, I repeat, no friend will make me abandon my values and principles for any reason. I will never be a party to hurting or betraying another person. If you can't make her tell the truth or do the right thing, then what kind of friend are you? Why are you helping her deceive someone else? The punishment due to her from this will also fall on you coz you are an accomplice to deception. Remember there's Karma. I hate people who have no principles.
DeleteLmao
ReplyDeleteShe loves him so much. Reason: He just came back from the States and is well LOADED.
I met him and he seems like a nice person. Reason: He took us out for shopping and bought us beautiful things plus a brand new iPhone for me.
You and Shyla are one and same. Love of money would be your doom.
Goodluck!
So it is now a taboo to be attracted to a rich and nice guy?
DeleteMtcheweew!!
Pinklady, I've noticed you.
DeleteNope! It's just embarrassing that that is all they can say about the guy. What does he do in the abroad? which in the abroad is he? What is his lifestyle like, is he a church person, club person or all work and no play person? What school did he attend, what is his level of education, what kind of family did he grow up in, what 're his future goals and ambitions, what is he currently doing about them, had he always been generous or it is only a Epping tactic?!!!...
DeleteI mean loads of questions to ask before you get impressed that he is loaded or you want to marry him.
Anyway, nothing do Shyla, she is only making her choice; but dear poster, you are the longer throat betrayer here, imagine you accepting to be the maid of honour, going shopping with them and keeping silent about the doom to your friend, John! Na you I fear pass.
To show your loyalty to both of them, first: get ur friend to tell the boy what is going on or stay away from her wedding plans. The guy will be more hurt when he knows you knew all along and did not tell him. Already, he will be hurt when he hears of her wedding and you been involved will be pepper and salt added to his injury.
No! It is not your place to tell him, but it is your place to push or friend to tell him or you stay away from the wedding. The shopping and fone is your settlement for been a part of the betrayal. That is your 30pieces of silver, enjoy it while it lasts.
Not a crime pinky, the crime is stringing an innocent person along. Hell hath no fury is not about women alone poster, just bear that in mind as you go helping your friend to walk down the aisle.
DeleteAs in eh.. See the way she kept emphasizing on the loaded.
DeleteRich and nice indeed!!!!
Delete..... theyre always nice when they take you'all shopping & spend, you've drawn your conclusion on just one outing & a promised iPhone, no wahala na, shes fallen out of love with Johnny boy, she should keep walkin', but abraod & marriage doesnt always translate to happily ever after you know?!
ReplyDeleteI think you should drop serious bread crumbs for John to follow & find out for himself, you owe him that if trully hes your friend, which is the lesser evil here?
I'm just wakginf for the real Chronicle cos this right here is a Preamble .
DeletePoster please keep us updated when your friend starts regretting her actions.
*waiting.
DeleteYou my friend are in a messed up situation. But who are you loyal to? Obviously Shayla...you just collected iphone.
ReplyDeleteSomething tells me John will be successful later in life.
I wish all of u well
Poster is more loyal to iPhone and shopping,
DeleteHer interest lies in where the honey is flowing from .
So because Shayla left John for a better guy,John will be successful later in life and Shayla will regret her actions....as an online seer that you 'is'!
DeleteAre you sure pinklady is not shootergyal?
DeletePinky no. Going with a richer isnt a problem, after all who wan suffer. But hiding d truth from someone uve been with is plain evil, worse is, she's still actively leading John on. Question is until when? If she claims not to b in love with John anymore then telling him off should be easy except ofcourse she still loves him but cant let go of her new found ATM. That singular act is what will bring about her doom.
DeleteI will advise you to persuade Shyla to talk to John and tell him the truth. If the wedding is gonna happen next month it will be fair for Shyla to open up to John. All that glitters are not gold. Shyla should put herself in John's shoe and think about how she would feel if John has betrayed her like this
ReplyDeleteLemme wait for the insults if at all i'd read any cus if the tables were turned they'd call the man a scum and all bad names, now its a woman dumping a man without pity.
ReplyDelete#Reasonwithme.
The girl is wicked.. some women are scum
DeleteYou would read insults dont worry ,
DeleteAs for me I'm hoping she gets ditched. No human deserves this kind of wickedness even the so called abroad man doesn't deserve such a wife ,
Imagine if he experiences a down side of life , she is going to jump on the next bus.
This girl is a Yahoo girl.
Reading this actually angered me,
ReplyDeleteNothing in life is promised I had a cousin that got married to someone else rather than the person she was with at that time .
Today she's broke her husband batters and maltreats her, the dude she dumped is a big boy in an oil company she begs him for money .
People should stop trading love for money, it never ends well.
Your last paragraph is not always true though.
DeleteNothing is promised in this life. It doesn't necessarily mean that they'd be bankrupt and all what not. Dont forget life is in stages and phases .
DeleteIt could mean anything.
Caesar food has landed ,
ReplyDeleteYour lunch is served ,come and rant .🚶🏽♀️🚶🏽♀️🚶🏽♀️🚶🏽♀️
He rants only in the morning and hibernates all day gathering hatred for women, so expect him 2mr. Hes a smart guy but deeply wounded, he needs genuine love from a woman, but with a heart inflicted with chronic paranoia, even an Amish girl will not make a good wife!
DeleteYou'll see him tomorrow morning. Wait for it!
DeleteLmao Yaba the Solomon!!!🤣🤣😂
DeleteHe should purge himself first of the hate and healing would take place .
That Shayla is heartless. Why string him along like that? Poor boy!
ReplyDeleteShe's very wicked I had a roommate in law school that did same .
DeleteIts quite unfortunate, nothing is promised in this life.
The earlier people realise this the better for us all .
I'm surprised at Shooter gals comment
DeleteLmao anon why are you surprised?
DeleteBetter close your mouth, don't say a word to John... He should find out himself, but that your friend is wicked oh... She would have inform John and just end the relationship with him... Why the deceit? Some women are scum
ReplyDeleteWhen he finds out , her demeanor would betray her cos it would be evident that she was in the know from the inception.
DeleteYou guys should stop blaming shyla, u are not in her show.
DeleteBroke guys are loyal when they are poor.
The guy i stood with for 8 years is showing me pepper, i regret not leaving him when i had the opportunity to.
You have already choose where you want to be, the lady's side. You had been bought over with gift.
ReplyDeleteI wonder what you're going to tell the guy when he found out you're the chief bridesmaid.
I wish the guy well and I hope he will be able to bear the heartbreak from those he love and cherish the most.
Maybe she will tell him that she was informed an hour before the wedding. I feel so sorry for him.
DeleteProbably she was told an hour before the wedding to become the chief bridesmaid too.. Abi?
DeleteMadam Stella, I disagree with you on this. Poster please have a talk with Shayla. Tell her how you feel about her intentions and keeping John in the dark. Ask her, how she will feel if it is the other way round? If John finds out on his own and does something drastic, your conscience won't let you rest.
ReplyDeleteDid you say "Ask her"? When she has already sold her loyalty for iPhone and others???
DeleteJudgment time?
ReplyDeleteyou all are my witnesses that I always
warn Naija girls and warn people of
Naija girls' atrocities.
Una see wetin dey happen when abroadina shows up?
"He is so nice..." because he buys lots of gifts and is "loaded", that's all that makes a person nice?
Ajuju n' ese okwu?
All you girls married or not are all
cheats; once someone abroad shows up,
you will all vamoose, break hearts and vanish!
Tufiakwa!
See how you girls have set up this boy for suicide or something nasty?
This is how madness dey take start o.
Solution: Both of you Naija Pharisee girls should "woman up" to ya mess and clean am.
Call John or wetin be im name and tell him hoo haa that you are marrying. I said this because, nothing
will make you leave the abroad guy; you will see his true colors (married abroad with kids etc.) when the chips are down.
Your judgment day is coming, wait for it.
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Food is ready!!!
DeleteANG
DeleteToday I'm sitting with you on the judgement seat .
This right here is worse than sorcery, this girl is a very mean-spirited person, her conscience has been seared with iron,she's greedy and a dangerous specie to the Male folk.
I'm here awaiting her Chronicle cos she would regret this heinous act.
@Yaba left
DeleteThis one no be food o
It smells like acid, acid, acid
chant with me; it smells like acid, acid, acid...
Lmao Yaba I said it oh that food is ready for ANG and Ceasar the wounded Lion.
DeletePlease go and seat down.
DeleteFor the first time, I'm with ANG today.
DeleteChanting with you @Anon15:49
DeleteIt smells like acid,acid ,acid!!!
Beats native drum
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Acid acid acid acid
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@Fav1
DeleteWhy not at least spell "seat" well?
If you give me a SEAT, I will SIT down.
But I will not close my mouth or stop typing the truth
John will pour acid on you and your friend because he will eventually believe that you both planned it... and you can't deny it in front of John since you are her bridesmaid.
ReplyDeleteLet's just pray for his sanity , cos he already said it that he doesn't know how he would react.
DeleteWhen I had this type of experience I didn't know whether to keep a straight face or cry, I didn't know if I should laugh or scream. My sister oldest sister was at home that day. This two mutual friends of ours came. I entertained them. Then they brought out the wedding invitation. He invited my family and left me out🤣🤣🤣. And sent a message that he could not come in person because he was afraid of how I will react.
DeleteNysc saved my sanity. I went to camp the following Monday before their wedding on Saturday. I was fully occupied in camp. By the time i got home, i had to hide myself. My job saved me. Today I'm the one laughing. I never wished them bad all through my shame. Today, they are no more together. The woman has gone beyond but God knows I never wished them any evil.
Eeyah..i feel bad for John o! See betrayal. Shayla no try at all
ReplyDeleteDouble betrayal right here.
DeleteI dontd think she should mind her business ,especially if John is faithful and true to shalya he deserves the truth.
What is the guarantee that John will marry Shayla when the money comes. I honestly do not encourage timewasters. I just hope Shayla truly knows the man she's marrying and is not enticed by his gifts. Hope his not into 419 and hope he really loves her. How are we sure that John will still marry Shayla when he blows? Let her pray very well about it.
ReplyDeleteKpuchie onu nsi gi a osiso
DeleteYou don't get it, do you?
DeleteThe issue isn't whether John will marry her "when he blows" or not; but the deceitful game she's playing.
If someone is a time waster and you feel the need to move on, you should be honest with the individual upfront and call the relationship off, rather than string them along and betray them in the manner shayla or whatever is doing.
This, right here, is the point.
Nothing is guaranteed but doing the right thing is always more honorable, no one deserves deceit.
Delete@Chocolate
DeleteExactly !!! This isn't about her decision to marry a more well to do man but the deception and betrayal not just John alone but the intended husband .
Cos people do wrong doesn't make it JUST.
Honestly, Shayla needs to tell John simply because of his sanity. It will hurt when he is told now but it would be better for him in the end. The betrayal will hurt more if he finds out on his own, especially after the wedding. Please advice your friend to tell her John so she can end things with him amicably rather than allowing him find out about her upcoming wedding with the US guy and also the US guy finding out she is double dating.
ReplyDeleteExactly my Point!!!!!
DeleteJust for the sake of his Sanity !!!!!
@Stella you got it wrong!
ReplyDeleteSo it is good to betray a man; John
But not good to betray Shyla
How about loving your neighbor as yourself?
If John were to be your brother, will you write that?
Ko si ore mo....ka ri eni ba rin lo Ku...my friend...my friend....ode!!!
ReplyDeleteZero loyalty... See how you have flopped when your loyalty as a friend is being tested..
I reject a friend like you...olojukokoro!!!!😈👿
🤣🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣🤣🤣lmao your last line tho!!!
DeleteE reach to reject !!
Tell your friend to tell John. Persuade her to tell him. it's unfair to both John and the to be husband. your job is to make sure the mess is fixed well the thing is John might never forgive you both and the grudge will be a long one . Money dey confuse both of ona sha hope the guys money is legit sha.
ReplyDeleteU don get iPhone na, Shyla don buy your conscious...
ReplyDeleteVery foolish girls. The cost of her conscience is iphone?
DeleteWhere is blackberry phones today?
in a few years iphone too will be obsolete
But a good friend is one that can comfort you in your
down moments.
Judgment day is coming.
Conscience you mean .
DeleteGirls are easily bought over like that with gifts
DeleteYes my spelling teacher, I don't even know why it came out like that...
DeleteTo think that I hate iPhone with passion, somebody somewhere is selling her conscience for iPhone. Tueh. I hope you have the same experience when it's your turn.
DeleteI just tire really ,
DeleteIt's not even about the materialism attached but stringing on two men at the same time ,
Someone up there said this is something men do all the time, cos a man or a woman does wrong doesn't make it cool .
We should be conscientious and imagine if we were the victim.
🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣🤣anon 16:49
DeleteLmao !!!
Isn't it this same apple tbag destroyed the world ?
Eve come and see ya ancestral great grand daughter o.🙆🏽♀️🙆🏽♀️🙆🏽♀️
Anon 16:49 do you hate it cos you can't afford it? Wetin concern your hatred for this post now
DeleteShooter can't love u less mehn,girl u rock, don't mind that anonymous, that excuse is broke people's excuse, anonymous biko shift go one side
DeleteShooter gyal or whatever you call yourself. Only ANG knows what you are shooting. You have come under my comment again today. I know girls like you will sell their mothers for iPhone so I'm not surprised you are all about the cost of iPhone. It's your type that will betray a friend for a pot of porridge. Pauper let loosed with an android. Get your miserable self from my comment. Miserable sod
DeleteAll this anger cos you can't afford even the cheapest iPhone. You're a poverty stricken child of a demon. I only interact with the high and mighty and not destitutes like you cos you obviously have nothing to offer. Only you poor and broke, you belong in the slum with your likes. Imbecile!
DeleteStella pls post o
why do I think that John will be your future husband? Or is it Nollywood playing in my head? Loll
ReplyDeleteIts nollywood cos John deserves better.
DeletePls dont tell John let him find out on his own. You cannot cry more than the bereaved
ReplyDeleteDon't mind the silly girl if you are so concern why not talk to your friend to tell him herself.
DeleteI know you're a woman.
DeleteNo sane man will write this.
Poster is actually silly ,she knows the right thing .
DeleteBut ofcos she's contemplating losing her goodies if she does the right thing.
Stella your advice this time is faulty
ReplyDeleteThink about this guy and what he is being subjected to
He deserves to be respectfully told by this two ladies he
trusted so much. It can happen to
anybody. Rethink this your piece of advice.
Hope you will post this comment for a balanced discussion.
Mind your business isn't always applicable, this is one of the exception. Isn't it the bible that says we should be our brother's keeper ?
DeleteSee gbege
ReplyDeleteWhere is Ajuju n'ese okwu
DeleteDunno If I got it right.
What if John is a BV?
ReplyDeleteI just pity the poor guy. Some ladies get mind sha.
🤣🤣😂🤣🤣Point !!!
DeleteAbroad and money sabi give them mind to shit on anyone...
DeleteYou think whats doing Regina is clear eye?
Leave clues for john to find out. And please advice shayla to investigate the abroad husband and his wealth source, be wary of gifts
ReplyDeleteTell Shayla to tell him and stop planning with her till she does tell him.if it were you how would you feel
ReplyDeleteImagine John disrupting the wedding 🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteWhy will you be tell your sister publicly something your friend confided in you. If you must tell, watch who and where you disclose such.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, going shopping and receiving presents is where the issue. The way it is now, you have been bought and your loyalty must be with Shyla.
Otherwise, if I were you, the moment she told me her plans, I would have feigned that I was busy and cleverly avoided both of them and their drama. That way, you don't get caught in the middle.
For now, the deed is done. Drink water and mind your business. You might as well kiss your friendship with John goodbye. He will come around in the future.
By the way did John propose?. That is the problem with most men, they will not propose until another man will come and take their babe. To me no news is good news, call him and tell him now before he sees you at the wedding day shinning teeth as the chief bridesmaid.
ReplyDeleteI swear 2 gad, you have problem with comprehension. F9 you got in English darling.
DeleteWhat is the relationship between betrayal and proposal?
Acid is waiting for Shyla and her friend.
Kaiiii girls🤓🤓🤓 because of abroad money, because of shopping, because of iPhone you sell your conscience.
ReplyDeletePeople are wicked. 🚶🚶🚶🚶🚶
i pity you the poster more,becos you will receive more of the blame if you talk or dont talk...how do you think the guy will feel seeing you as her brides maid, if you talk trouble, you dont talk trouble this is a conflict conflict decision any1 you make has a bad effect .....all men are scum na so e dy start
ReplyDeleteI can totally relate to what John is going to go through. It is not a funny feeling to realize you have been played. Why do people keep deceiving people like this? It is a very wicked thing to do.I will rather be told to my face than to find out on facebook or from a random person how my supposed Fiancé is married... Hardcore people everywhere.. Anyway John is better off without the both of you. You are aiding and abetting,you are not any better.
ReplyDeleteMay God bless you my dear!
ReplyDeleteAll these broke boys only have their dicks and attention to offer.If they eventually make it big,most of them leave after wasting the girls time.
Shayla did nothing wrong,she is a wise babe!
John wont commit suicide after he finds out,he should try his luck elsewhere
It's not about him leaving when he makes it big. That's inconsequential in this chronicle!
DeleteThe bone of contention is, why not be direct with John and break off the relationship with him? Why string him along? That's totally wicked and unacceptable please
loud it @pinklady
DeleteBroke guys are time wasters
Pinklady what do you also have to offer as a lady apart from sex? If this was your case hope you will say same thing. Hope you will call the guy a smart one and not rant and cuss. Don't dish what you wont like to be served to you
DeletePoster, the only thing I deduced is that you are losing one of them as a friend and we all know who that is.
ReplyDeleteYou 've already betrayed one so go ahead and enjoy the goodies.
Same thing I said she's surely going to loose one of them hence her contemplating but its almost a case of highest bidder considering her newly acquired telephone 📞☎️📱
DeleteAbegi nothing is guaranteed in this life. what if john leaves her to go marry someone else when his financially ready or you lot think men don't do it ? my problem with that your friend is she would have told him and let him move on. Things are happening most people coming here to talk will do same. I rejected a rich guys proposal to marry my boyfriend 6 years down the line and we are still struggling abegi. And you poster mind your business if you like go and betray your friend jealousy
ReplyDeleteHow about this "what if"
DeleteWhat if she gets busted and loses both of them ?
What has jealousy gotten to do with anything?
Is your conscience awake?
Ps don't insult me I'm just asking.
And what makes you 100% sure that you'd have been flying happily to Paris & Dubai every month if you married that rich man? You think money always guarantees happy marriage?
DeleteYou better work hard on ur own as well, cus i can sense youre somewhat blaming your husband for ur present condition... maybe your village ppl have your file opened sef thats whats affecting his growth, who knows? Your type will be cheating!!!
Anon 17:51 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣😂🤣😂🤣🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣😂🤣🤣😂🤣😂🤣
DeleteAnon 16:38 what are you doing about that? Hope you ain't sitting down waiting for the man alone
DeleteAnon 17:51 you made sense until your last paragraph, not everything village people. most marriages encounter challenges in the early years of marriage just as some in the later years of their marriage.
DeleteAnon 16:38 just keep trusting God one day things will change for the better. I struggled with my husband for so many years before God finally answered us it wasn't easy I almost gave up by leaving my marriage but I thank God for not making that mistake. I was mocked, laughed at rejected and what not but now we are much better by the Glory of God. Just keep trusting God he see yours your pain. Wish you all the best
If I were u, I would tell her to tell john or u would.
ReplyDeleteJohn would hate u...kai, he will hate u n shayla..I can feel it....hallelujah!
You this foolish poster will do the same thing if it was you. you actually wish it was you right now self if not why didn't you reject all the gift that was bought for you since you since you feel bad for john. coming here to form like you care stupid money hungry Nigerian girls. I pity the men who take you lot seriously
ReplyDeleteSee anger 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
DeletePoster run for your laife
I can't imagine myself hurting someone else deliberately. This is upsetting, I need to use the loo. My tummy just turned. Lady iPhone collector, you are a Judas. You have sold John for iPhone and rubbish. May God Almighty have mercy on you. Go and buy sim card and send details to John. Mitigate his pain a bit. Aha. That shit can kill that guy. My brother developed high Bp because a lady he loved and trusted left him to get married and had the audacity to send my family an sms inviting us for the wedding. She had my mom's blessing, my brother was true to her. His first love, claiming she is a believer. My brother is permanently on drugs and have had a crisis that nearly killed him. In as much as I don't know how long your friends were dating but help John ok!
ReplyDelete🤣😂🤣🤣@ Judas ,
DeleteDon't worry she would even Peter one of them and If abroad deal doesn't work her friend would Tonto the guy.
This poster cannot even pretty Mike her friend in 40 seconds what a shame .
These are the kind of shits that make men not loyal.
Deleteas for me I will collect the iPhone and still tell the guy after all it was a gift. I did not beg for it.. if I call you my friend I will tell you the truth, if you hate me so be it
ReplyDeleteVery wise and you become a hero and get more gifts,
DeleteAki ya right !!!
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DeleteGbam
DeleteBut john is broke nau, so she should not go for the person that will take care of her because of what exactly? Pls bvs u guys like to add sentiments to everything, if he will find out on the wedding day then so be it, he won't die,he is not the first neither will he be the last to be dumped, my only problem with dis poster is her trading her loyalty for iPhone, girl u suck,you are not a good person, people should be weary of friends like dis
ReplyDeleteBeing Objective isn't the same as being sentimental this isn't about wealth it is about integrity.
DeleteShe should breakup with John that's all we are all entitled for our decision in life but ought to be considerate when its injurious to another .
I think the problem here is it’s now close to the wedding day
DeleteThe deed is done
Only thing now is to make sure John doesn’t scatter the event and from the way he sounds, waiting till after seems to be the best option
You no suppose agree to be her bridesmaid, just attend the wedding. Do not tell John, let him find out and explain to him that you didnt want to meddle in the matter.
ReplyDeleteJohn will Pretty Mike the two of them dont worry .
DeleteChei the power of money. You too have been bought
ReplyDeleteHer soul join
DeleteWhat men do on daily basis, is it because this is a woman that it has become news. Abeg, me I hear sthing.
ReplyDeletePls take Stellas advise and mind your business, Did John gave her engagement ring? or even promise her marraige? if you dear tell John, your girl friend will not forgive you and her desperate family that has seen rich obodo oyibo man that want to better their lifes will not spear your life, even if the man is a drug dealer dey will not mind as far as he has de cash, dey can even kill you for spoiling der business this hard time, people will even say its out of jealousy that you spoiled the marriage. just advise her to tell John herself, you can even send it as chat so that when the cheease are down John finds out and come for you you can even show him the chat showing your not part of it. or if you like John too much you can even back out of the Chief brides maid and return their phone, but pls dont spoil her wedding by telling John.
ReplyDeletepls somebody should tell me how to get ID, am tired of Anonymous.
Forget the abroad part
ReplyDeleteJohn was wasting time and the girl is gone now. She owes him nothing
They were not even engaged. Bye John
Bye your conscience.
DeleteWhat happened to breaking up with him? Why is she still actively dating him. If that was done to you, story for don change on how he used you bla bla bla
DeleteWhy is everyone just shouting Nigerian girls and abroad, what has that got to do with anything? i dont live in Nigeria and i see lot of Nigerian guys who are dating girls(Nigerian) here and before you know it he has gone to Nigeria and he is married while the lady here is heart broken . leave story madam poster drink water and mind your business if John no follow you talk again make he rest .
ReplyDeleteobviously as human Shayla is wrong but face ya front abeg.
Poster, send me John's number let me start consoling him for the heart attack that's about to take place. Is bad sha. Anyways, let it also happen like that cos some men always feels they're the only one that can do that to women and get away with it. It's well. Well. it's not only about going for shopping and collecting iPhone, don't forget to pray for shayla so that her had i known won't be too late.
ReplyDeleteDead body don get accident o! Serious matter. Poster, whatever you do, DO NOT ATTEND THAT WEDDING!! Whether your friend tells John or not, do not attend. Tell her to get another CBM jeje. After the wedding, if John asks if you knew, tell him she made you swear not to tell anyone before the wedding. He'll probably still keep his distance but a part of him will forgive you for not attending.
ReplyDeleteMy own is that if you go and do amebo now and he now hurts her or her family, you won't forgive yourself. Na one scorned guy throw fire for house that day on top say babe give am red card. Imagine how Shayla would feel if you didn't turn up as her CBM without prior notice. Yet, she's planning something worse for John who you still find the liver to refer to as "friend". Nne, unu ge gbu madu. All of una, una doh o. I fear who no fear una.
Your friend is heartless that's all i can say.
ReplyDeletePoster, you're wicked. Kai! Even Shayla doesn't know she's learning work where you are. Chief bridesmaid position for a wedding founded on deceit and iPhone were enough to buy you. You and Shayla are friends cos you're exactly the same. I almost feel sorry for you cos John will pour both of you acid.
ReplyDeleteStop telling yourself that it's not your business cos it is. Try and redeem yourself from the spirit of greed. Return all you've eaten from Shayla and her abroad boo whose source of income you don't know. And tell John!
It's not my intention to laugh but permit me to laugh 🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteLmao @founded on deceit and iPhone 🤣😂🤣🤣🤣
Chai
😂😂😂 this got me laughing like a mad man
DeleteI felt very bad after reading this chronicle.
ReplyDeletePoster, please l have one question for you.
How would you feel if John was your Brother?
Please, if the wedding date is fixed, tell Shayla to let John now.
I feel very bad for him. Things like this is enough to give one a severe heart break.
John seems like a nice person. The only snag here is him not having enough financial backbone to get married now. I bet you John will never trust the next girl he dates because of this. Na women de make Men misbehave sometimes. I feel sorry for John's next girlfriend.
Poster, convince Shayla to tell him otherwise you deserve anything John does to both of you. Do not forget that if John finds out last minute, he might storm the wedding venue and disrupt the ceremony.
John might end up worse than Ceasar if care isn't take .
DeleteI felt very bad after reading this chronicle.
ReplyDeletePoster, please l have one question for you.
How would you feel if John was your Brother?
Please, if the wedding date is fixed, tell Shayla to let John now.
I feel very bad for him. Things like this is enough to give one a severe heart break.
John seems like a nice person. The only snag here is him not having enough financial backbone to get married now. I bet you John will never trust the next girl he dates because of this. Na women de make Men misbehave sometimes. I feel sorry for John's next girlfriend.
Poster, convince Shayla to tell him otherwise you deserve anything John does to both of you. Do not forget that if John finds out last minute, he might storm the wedding venue and disrupt the ceremony.
Nawa ooo, if dis ain't wickedness then I don't know what is, you and ur friend are wicked people, and you both deserve each other, Chai the only person I am pitying is the poor John,I feel sorry for him, women and money are like bread and butter, they don't care who they hurt in the process,mtewwww
ReplyDeleteSuch wickedness! I hate deceit in all shades and forms whether from males or females. Poster you are as heartless as your friend. You're no better than her let me tell you. You both are wicked and greedy souls. You know what??? Go ahead and keep living a lie. Don't tell him or advice her to tell him. Don't do the right thing. Don't apply wisdom, don't use your sense. Let him find out on social media like you wicked souls are planning. He'll be broken but he will heal and God will bless him with a partner he deserves. As for you both, you shall surely reap the fruits of wickedness you are sowing.
ReplyDeleteTell your friend that you are giving her 3 days to tell John or you will tell him. Simple.
ReplyDeleteThis is rubbish. The person that sent the message should refuse being a part of the wedding. Being a part accepting gifts and not telling John makes u as bad as shayla.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, I will suggest, you make Shyla pay 2 million or more into John's account, then a week or 2 later, she let him know.
ReplyDeleteA brother can't be heartbroken and broke at same time.
As for you, you can't be her chief. Explain to Style that it will be betraying John, and you can't. Be willing to return the gifts they have you.
You can attend the wedding, but can't be her chief.
When John eventually finds out, he will know you stood for what's right and didn't support Shyla in anyway. Let him also know it wasn't in your place to tell him, but Shyla.
All I can say is that you are a very wicked person. You and your friend. And the seeds we sow today are the harvests of tomorrow. So continue.
ReplyDeleteGbam!! Say it again. These girls are very wicked. The tears John will shed will not go unpunished. So long as he was faithful and have clean hands. Shayla, will look for a man like John and regret her actions. I say this because some of these abroad men nor be am. I have a friend that was showered with lots of goodies like that and at the end of the day, the girl joined him and found out dude is a cab driver while na Doctor she be. She took off oo!!
Deletewhat if the guy is married in the united state, I just hope she's not going to be his Nigerian, she should investigate properly that was how I found out one idiot like dt was married in the us, try and visit him in the us but before then google his full name
ReplyDeleteIt has happened to me too. My man went behind my back to marry a girl i used to see phone call disturbance from. Whenever i asked why d girl is calling he will tell me she is looking for relationship. Meanwhile, his whole family loved me so much. But even though the loved me, they encouraged the guy to marry the other woman because she is extremely rich but today, its not even up to a year, the problems they have can last 20 couples a lifetime. His family has not seen a kobo of the money she promised them, neither has she bought cars for them. Infact they cannot even go near their son's house. And d woman does not pick their calls. Im here still shining and d guy is coming back to beg me for love.
ReplyDeleteIt is not your place to tell John, but you should have refused the head bridesmaid position if you knew deception was going on. Your friend can break it off with him without going into the gory details. Or she could say she was betrothed from childhood and the people only recently came to collect on the promise and site cultural things her ancestors did. There are ways to soften the blow of letting him know she has to move on. Yes, options are limited and she may have to lie, but better to do it that way than let that innocent man suffer so.
ReplyDeleteSome ppl have actually gone insane with deceptions like this. Please implore her to tell him and you can even pull our of the wedding. You don't have to be a part of it!
Poster, you're really in a dilemma. your friend caved into pressures from family. However, she should have told John. It is really not your place to tell John. Why dont you drop subtle hints so that John can pick up and complete the puzzle himself. This is a betrayal. happens too often sadly everywhere.
ReplyDeleteShe has chosen what she sees a an exit route to help her family at least that is her reason. Dont crucify her. But for her to continue to deceive that young man, fuck him and lie to him is nothing short of wicked. And another good man will be turned into a bitter doubting thomas.
The was how I didn't break up with my boyfriend early enough before getting married to someone else and I feel so bad about it now. I can't seem to forgive myself even though he said he has forgiven me.
ReplyDeleteNo one deserves this kind of treatment
I had my reason for doing that but it doesn't matter anymore. Looking back, I have realized that there is no justification for that behavior.
i will advice you attend the wedding as a guest, the chief brides maid thing will make john hate you more... go as a guest who knows you might end up marrying john.........
ReplyDeleteposter I hope you get to see this. you have 3 options. 1) Tell John yourself (let your friend know before hand that you are telling him) 2. Force your friend to tell him herself 3) send an anonymous message to him (get a new SIM or so). Whichever you decide on, I don't think it's a good idea to be Shayla's Chief Bridesmaid.
ReplyDeleteposter I hope you get to see this. you have 3 options. 1) Tell John yourself (let your friend know before hand that you are telling him) 2. Force your friend to tell him herself 3) send an anonymous message to him (get a new SIM or so). Whichever you decide on, I don't think it's a good idea to be Shayla's Chief Bridesmaid.
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