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Tuesday, June 18, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

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Hello house,

Please I need advice I am currently living in UK as an illegal migrant and trying to change my status. I met a man whom is compatible with me and is everything I want but the problem here is he wants me to get pregnant for him first before he will call my people for my imego( I am from south east and he is from south south).


I grew up in a Christian home and I feel it will be a bit embarrassing.... I am thinking of ending the relationship (by August) and hoping to meet a man that would do things the proper way.


My female friend advises that I should give him what he wants, She feels I am not smart enough,that is streetwise or that I am naive for trying to do the right thing...

Please whats your opinion on this





Hmmmm....... in Matters like this,you should really know what you want so that when it backfires,you blame no one else but yourself...
There is no guarantee that if you get pregnant,he will call to do the Imego and then Imego in Nigeria cannot change your status in the UK unless you do a civil Marriage (court wedding)..So please dont get it twisted.

The man is also trying to prevent you using him just for paper,so he is trying to deal..
If your situation is really really SOS,then remember that Desperate measures call for desperate actions oh..
Good luck.

102 comments:

  1. Look for oyibi and marry naa.

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    1. Even if you find man wet go do it properly, you may be denied permission to get married (you must give 72 days notice for any marriage in the UK, if one of you is not a settled citizen). Settled mean British it have indefinite leave to remain in the U.
      But if you have a baby for the man (if he is a settled UK citizen), you can fix your illegal status as the parent of a British child.
      If the man is also illegal or a student , don’t go there oooooo.../


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    2. If the man us British, as an illegal immigrant, you will have to go back home and do the marriage and then apply from Nigeria.

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    3. If the man is a British citizen please don't miss this opportunity because you can get a permit through your baby..But make sure you confirm he's status first ooo....I made the same mistake and it took me 12yrs, I waited for my baby to be 10yrs before I got my work permit

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    4. just be careful, because if he doesnt claim the child after birth...double wahala for your head o

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    5. Africans always using children. Imagine getting pregnant just cos u want "documents"..not out of love.

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    6. All lies. Nothing wrong in doing things the right and proper way. My sister is suffering from this and she is only basking on her Kids eligible age to secure her papers. Too many people with good advise but hasn't experience the situation themselves. Also men abroad are worse, they always have hidden motives and you won't find out cos they know you are naive till they are done with you. DO THE RIGHT THING.

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  2. Embarrassing ke? Stay there and tell us how you are a Christian. If you were, you wouldn’t be living there illegally.

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    1. Exactly ..you de claim christian but living illegally. I cant deal with all these fake asses

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    2. 🀣🀣🀣

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    3. Chai😁😁😁😁😁

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    4. If you are a christian,you wont be having sex with the man before he will say get pregnant.
      Anyway, don't come back to naija without your papers,be wise,look for someone else.
      Imego without papers dat one na naija citizen o.

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    5. If you are a christian,you wont be having sex with the man before he will say get pregnant.
      Anyway, don't come back to naija without your papers,be wise,look for someone else.
      Imego without papers dat one na naija citizen o.

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    6. Alternative Facts18 June 2019 at 16:40

      You people are too judgmental abeg! So she’s not a Christian because she’s having sex? No parent would be happy to find out that their daughter has gotten pregnant out of wedlock . That’s the point she’s trying to make.

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    7. @Alternative.. Once you get to abroad, what your parents thinks don't really count, plus she is an adult. It her life, not her parents..

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    8. Anon direct your anger to God who frowns on sexual sin, meanwhile staying illegally isn't a sin but it's agains the law, God clearly advised foreigners be treated well.

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  3. Exactly as Stella said. Imego won't change your status.

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  4. Madame Koinkoin18 June 2019 at 15:04

    Stella don't hammer am today, o girl read in between the lines, if your case na sos you can aswel have to sit down and ask yourself if you can do it

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    1. Listen poster and listen good! Having a baby with a British passport or legal resident doesn’t change your status, as a baby mama there’s no law under the UK immigration law that allows you stay in the uk as a babymama but there’s a law that allows for a baby father to stay. So do not make mistake n get pregnant, if he wants to help the only way is for him to marry you end of.

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  5. Guy man wants an assurance my dear. Go ahead with. Nothing spoil. After all,life itself is "risk" taking.

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  6. Stella you said it better. Poster follow whatever your conscience dictates to you. If you feel as a Christian it is embarrassment, then don't do it. Remember, in this life, nothing I mean absolutely nothing is guaranteed.

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  7. What has gotten pregnant got to do with compatibility? You are already living as an illegal, so imagine having a baby to care for when you do get pregnant and this man changes his mind.
    There are some suggestions that shouldn’t even be given a second thought. He knows you need him for your papers and if you give in to him this one time he’d continue to make new demands. I’d assume you’re already sleeping with this guy, so what if baby doesn’t come? You’d have exposed yourself to STIs etc. I won’t do it if you ask me but I won’t even live in the UK illegally in the first place. Peace of mind is far more important to me than always living in fear of getting caught.

    Also, you need a better friend.

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    1. Doppel, lately I am beginning to fall in love with your style of comment. Your point is very clear and straight forward.

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    2. Best advice!

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    3. Doppel bu Nwa Azuru Azu! Your Mama train you wella Doppel. Your sense too much. Poster this advise is the Gaskia if you ask me ooooo!

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    4. Doppel bu Nwa Azuru Azu! Your Mama train you wella Doppel. Your sense too much. Poster this advise is the Gaskia if you ask me ooooo!

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    5. Doppelganger you saved me from typing. Poster a man who doesn't trust you and want you to get pregnant 1st is who you want to marry?

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    6. If say na for USA I would have advised her to get pregnant. Even if the man takes a walk, the child will be an American citizen and it will be a plus for the poster.

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    7. DoppelgΓ€nger
      Bless you.
      Poster listen to her ☝️☝️

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    8. Doppel leave this subject for those of us living in the system....If the guy is British , she's settled no matter the outcome of the relationship.

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    9. @ blessed princess the child will be British if the man is and she will be given her papers based on the child, as a parent of a British citizen. So it’s a win win situation for her. But you only can decide what you want. Just make sure the man has British passport or indefinite leave to remain. Be smart, if you love him and are both compatible as soon as your papers arrive, then you can marry legally here or in Nigeria. I would advise you to think about it carefully and make sure you both love each other and are ready to face the storm together. I wish you well...xxbarbiexx

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  8. Court wedding first my sister to legalise your stay!!!!!... you're illegal and he's telling you about pregnancy instead of helping you first mtschewwww

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    1. She can't do court wedding in the uk as an illegal , that's y the only options are kids or coming back to Naija to marry which is a long process , that's y most women haven kids to have their papers, so guys know belle is d easy route for an illegal, I need to love in d uk to understand certain things

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    2. An illegal immigrant cannot have a court/registry wedding here in the UK. Her only way with her status is to give birth and claim through her child who would get British passport through the father.

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    3. Thanks Anon, since she no wan belle first and claiming Christian (I hope she's not servicing the guyπŸ€”) make she go back home and start afresh🚢‍♂️🚢‍♂️🚢‍♂️🚢‍♂️

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    4. really? then she should get pregnant for the guy, and forget this her brought up as a Christian thing. have they not be nyashing all the while?

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    5. That’s why the guys actions are suspect. He can do the wine carrying in Nigeria which the u.k won’t acknowledge but he knows his family will acknowledge. Then get her pregnant and marry her in the u.k
      There is zero risk to him if he does it this way. She can’t get the papers without getting pregnant so he’ll get his belle. What she’s asking for by way of wine carrying firstvis not too much
      He doesn’t even have to go. He can just have his family go to hers. Meanwhile guy man is not the only one in the u.k. Also keep looking small. A child is not a game.

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    6. She's even lucky to get such an offer...Most guys don't go for girls without paper again

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    7. 🀣🀣🀣🀣

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  9. No one is there with you, you're the only one that know how critical your condition is.
    If you can't go with his plan, fine. I'd you can find another man to go along with your own plan, beautiful. If you know you can give him what he want, be coming back to Naija.
    Good luck.

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    1. Don I am illegal and I can tell u loads of guys won't marry oo, Na bell pay people use get paper p cos marriage means he would spend money to come to Naija to marry and even if he can pay bride price without going to Naija,they won't do it ex wot pregnancy

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    2. Hmmnn.. i understand you @
      anon15:24

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  10. Tell him he can do imego whenever he wants. Five years time sef, but you guys should wed officially in the UK now, so while he starts filing your papers you can try for pregnancy.
    If he says no, abeg waka.
    The life of the undocumented enh? E no easy. I have seen a lot on telemundo.

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    1. It doesn't work like that. Pregnancy is the answer.

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  11. Do you love this guy?

    I don't know, feels like both of you are in the relationship for different reasons.

    I could be wrong.

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  12. What you don’t want, you don’t want.
    Don’t let your friends push you that way.
    Being smart is doing what you feel is best for you.
    I really detest guys who use “get pregnant first before we move forward”as a condition.
    If pregnancy happens on its own, it’s fine. But using that as a condition to move forward is a huge NO for me.
    What if you give in to his demands and in the end, he does not marry you πŸ’πŸΏ‍♂️

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  13. What happens if you don't get pregnant? I hope you are aware that the guy can determine whether you get pregnant or not, no matter how many times you have s*x.
    You need to be sure that he isn't taking advantage of your situation.

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    1. How can the guy determine whether the woman gets pregnant or not? Please enlighten me here, I'm confused.

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    2. Pls I want to know too. Married but its like hubby doesn't want me to have. He has children from a previous marriage. Thank you.

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    3. He can fix himself
      Vasectomy means he’ll be shooting blanks and you’ll be hoping for belle

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  14. you are better off, finding a caucausian that you can grow to love, marry and start a relationship with than trust any of these 9ja guys in the UK. Even without immigration restrictions sef those guys are out to use our 9ja sisters how much when you have immigration issues

    At the end of the day, you wear the shoes and knows where it stings the most - sign up to these christian dating sites and i am sure a genuine white guy will hit you up and your problems will be solved.

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    1. Yinmu. You think Cacusians don't use illegal immigrants? Sit down there, not when they know you're desperate to get paper.

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    2. You think say oyibo guys never sharp? I am on a dating site as an illegal and d oyibo would ask how long u have been in d country cos they know people are looking for papers , so they have met girls who don’t have papers, it’s a bit tough that is y pregnancy seems an easy route , d fact he wants her to get pregnant doesn’t mean he would abandon her and when u de abroad de find paper, what your family thinks doesn’t matter as u are trying to build a life here or u go back to Naija

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    3. What your family thinks matters that’s why dude is reluctant to go do the wine carrying
      If he didn’t care, he would tell his parents to go do the marriage rites up to a level and then get her pregnant. This has been done by many men
      Why is he refusing

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    4. Anon 20:56 have you traveled before or have any experience about what's happening to her? You don't know anything but you said its been done by many guys, which guys?

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    5. Don , Anon 20:56 is right
      Imego isnt necessarily to get papers it's so as a Christian when she gets pregnant her family wont say it was out of wedlock. If the man truly loves her he would have done her imego. I know someone that went home to do it and now their son is 2. Noone will say the girl isn't married. Eventually she will use her son to file in the long run
      And yes I know people that are currently trying different methods to get papers

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  15. don't agree, he doesn't love you.. if he loves you he will marry you and change your status..have you shown him its only papers you want? any relationship with conditions attached is not pure so na you sabi. you can get pregnant and quarrel then he refuses to file for you cos una quarrel.

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    1. You don't know what youre saying. Illegal immigrants can't get married in UK.

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    2. They can actually are there are steps

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  16. Poster like Stella said, it depends if you’re desperate to get it sorted then it calls for desperate actions. However, I will advice you to choose wisely. If God forbid this doesn’t work, then you don’t have just yourself to look after but a baby as well and it will be TOUGH!

    I can assure you that not all men need you to take in first before marriage. I studied in the UK, and before my student visa expired, I met a British citizen who was happy to have a relationship and marry me BEFORE we had our son. So yes, there are men who are happy to get married first before asking you to have a baby.

    Also, I feel like Nigerian men can sometimes be controlling and may use your route of entry into the UK against you if you both have disagreements.

    All in all, just be careful. I hope everything works out for you.

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    1. U were not illegal, u has bosa running to marry, u can't compare your situation with hers, as guys would even prefer to marry u than her

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    2. You still had visa running so he married you with visa on ur passport, u are not on same page with the poster

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  17. My dear I am in same situation with u am doing me I am trying to have kids to change my status too.. it's almost impossible to see a man that would marry u with this ur status issue, I am telling u from experience, anyone here who doesn't live abroad as an illegal immigrant would not give u d right advice but would only talk about doing things right as a Christian. If he would marry u when u have a kid fine if not fine too, u can't have it al when u are illegal , most people even gave birth to men who they don't love just to settle down in d country, u don't want to know what people go through, when u have d child , u will have your papers , as long as the guy is British.. take my advice or go back to Nigeria to look for a man to marry u properly .. hmmm if I tell u my story nd people 'a story hennn , u would know that Pali matter doesn't involve morals, even church help their members by fixing them up with people to regularise their status.. be wise or go back to Naija, I am illegal and know what I ma talking about ooo, people wey de stay Naija don't understand ooo, having a British child is a way to regularise your stay and I am telling u that seeing a man that would just marry u as an illegal Im d uk is almost non existent Cosby most of them would say u should give birth first .. your situation is d reason y it is hard

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    1. Na wa ooo. Life isnt supposed to be this hard nau. See all the stress people go through to get PR.

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    2. My dear @ anonymous 15:18 only those of us in the system understood what's up...A lady without papers in UK has no value to most Nigerian men...I came here over a decade ago and got pregnant for a guy without paper , I went through hell because I was naive then and had my second baby...I almost ran mad with depression but I had to be strong for my babies living in one room...In everything thy lord see me thru..I registered my first child last year and I got my permit this year.. My advice for any lady is to make sure the guy is a British if not ??? 10yrs is a long route

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  18. Do you want marriage? If yes then get him to pay your bride price first.

    Do you want papers? If yes then get pregnant and when you get your child's British passport, apply as a carer/parent of a British citizen. That way you'll get residency permit to stay and work in the UK.

    Make sure you verify he is truly British before you enter one chance Because I know someone that impregnated a 'British citizen's so he can get residency only to find out after the child was born that the lady had limited leave to remain.

    If his intentions are good then there shouldn't be a problem doing the needful at home.

    The ball is in your court so think wisely.

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  19. "I grew up in a Christian home ... it will be embarrassing..."
    Nne, you do not fear God but your family. The resolve of people
    like you do not last. It is not when things are smoothly going
    that you know one who is a follower of Christ, it is when
    the challenges of life show.
    Why are you an "illegal immigrant", doing something illegal and
    hoping God will back your illegality?
    Must you marry someone in the UK to exist?
    Why not come back home and be patient for God to give you
    a good and perfect gift in a husband?
    Ajuju ka m na aju gi...
    The path you are taking will not yield any good but regrets.
    Remember also that there is a hereafter. You've boxed yourself
    into a corner and Satan wants to take advantage of it to destroy you.
    If others are doing it ... do not follow the multitude to do evil (google it).

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    1. If the man impregnates you and is no longer interested in the marriage
      You would have committed fornication, sold whatever soul/faith you have so far and
      you will be deported with a child.
      How about that.
      And Satan will be rejoicing.

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    2. Thank you Anon 15:22. I want to sympathize with you but I can't since you're living in a foreign country as an illegal immigrant already. You seem to be a person with no scruples or moral values or standards and that's why you're prepared to do anything whether right or wrong to get what you want. I pity you because down the line, you won't like where you will find yourself. Your life is going down a wrong path and you need to press reverse gear before you get to a dead end. Come back to Nigeria and try to go back legally. If you can't stay in Nigeria, you can always process papers to another country from here. In the meantime, ditch that friend and that man coz they are no good for you. If you marry that man, mark my words, you will regret it.

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  20. How long have you been seeing this man? Has he always known your illegal status? You claim to love him,does he love you too?
    Like Stella said you need to make this decision by yourself so whatever happens you won't blame no one. Secondly desperate measures.....
    Anyway you both can sit & talk about this,tell him your fears ,let him tell you his too,I believe you both can work something out.

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  21. you are trying to bend your rules and compromise and you know it within yourselve. Sometimes when you're desperate, what looks like a solution will come and its only left for you to discern. But if you ask me,you deserve more than this.

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  22. Before giving advice , know that as an illegal she can't marry in d uk as she won't be allowed to marry or they come to Naija and if that happens, or might take a year for her papers to come out, which might frustrate the guy.. guys there na pregnancy them dey always suggest cos that's what 95% of U.K. Guys would suggest to am illegal girl.. that's just the truth

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  23. I grew up in a Christian home but your are illegal there, hmmm! abeg think very well and look for another excuse, leave Christianity out of this

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    1. Leave her and let her be preaching to herself there.

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    2. It’s not hard to understand
      Just cause you don’t live holy doesn’t mean you want to embarrass your parents

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  24. What if the guy change his mind at the end of the day .one thing we have to realise is that change is a constant thing.You just can't afford to birth a baby with ur illegal immigrant status.Before u do anything verify if the guy is truly a British citizen. I hate relationship that's attached with conditions.If u are truly a Christian as u claimed then that guy is not for u.He just need a bedmate.

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  25. Sweetheart, I don't like this, I don't like this one bit. The fastest way to make me lose interest in a relationship is by making any form or resemblance of ultimatums or caveats. When a man who isn't my husband yet, starts laying down conditions for marriage... no dice! Hey! But that's just me. I was raised with the mentality that a man should BEG for my hand in marriage. Like my late Nana(God rest her soul) used to say to me " if he asks and not begs, then either I was a bad teacher or you weren't a good student". Of course, she meant it as a joke. However, the moral of our joke is, you should be so amazing during courtship that your man will not only ask but beg to be your husband. So when I read stories like yours, I'm hardwired to revolt.

    It should be a hard "NO" from you. Please, my darling, never allow pressure or pleasure put you in a position where a man feels like he is doing you a favour marrying you or that you have to prove you are wife enough. No, honey, it is he who should prove that he is man enough to be your husband. It is only after marriage that the roles somewhat reverse. It now becomes your duty to prove to him that he made the right choice.

    If you respect the institution of marriage, you should know that you don't marry out of desperation or as a means to an end. As for having a baby to fit an agenda or a narrative, babies are way too precious to be used to prove any point. I'm not sure what your illegal immigrant status has to do with this, unless he is a citizen and you want to use him to your advantage. In my mind, that's not street smartness, that's desperation from a lady who thinks less of herself and is quite shameless.

    Sweetie, you were brought up in a Christian home but what are your values? This chronicle suggests, you wouldn't mind compromising if you get enough support. Please, my love, DON'T. In life there are no guarantees, best to live life with a clear conscience. Don't do things you don't have peace within doing. What if you get pregnant and the relationship goes south? How will that improve your present predicament? Once you get pregnant, you've proved your eagerness to be his wife. He can marry you traditionally only, and insist you return to Nigeria. He is now your hubby, no? Will you disobey your husband who has an edge over you? You've given him too much leverage and he will continue to press your buttons and pull your strings.

    Don't be dependent on a man, was it a man who got you to the UK? Assuming you didn't meet this man, are you saying you would be hopeless? There you go! Now act like he doesn't exist and find a way to sort out your immigration issues like the independent lady I believe you can be. Listen to your head and not your friend. It's your life not hers, you alone gets to live with the consequences. Do the right thing.
    e-hugs and kisses.

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    1. Ronalda has been here, Oh how I Love this himan being called Ronalda!

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    2. Anon 17:35, I love Ronalda pass you o!

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  26. To be a pregnant Christian is embarrassing but being an illegal Christian immigrant is not abi? Well done -Couples for Christ

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    1. Being an illegal Christian is not embarrassing
      You don’t have belle poppping and it’s not written on your head. You’re just trying to survive

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    2. 😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁

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  27. Think about it,pray about and shoot your shot but maintain your Christian identity oo

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  28. Are you sure the guy in question is British?

    Please don't judge her.
    She know where it pinches.

    Staying back and being an illegal immigrant can cause one to be stagnate for years.

    Are you educated?
    How old are you?
    Can you send shelf the idea of pregnancy and make some money to save for any kind of contingency plan whether in Nigeria or the UK.


    The stories I have seen and heard in the UK with immigration issues make me think it's best one stays in Nigeria.


    And yes those UK men are heartless when it comes to marriage and paper thingy.



    Keep praying while in this dilemma.

    God help you.

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    1. Staying back and being an illegal immigrant can cause one to be stagnate for years. 

      I can't tell you how soooo true this statement is. It is terrible, wasted lives and destinies.

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    2. True @ at 18:36 ..Alot of potentials being wasted away because of immigration issue...

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  29. Be sure his a British first. Getting pregnant is the easiest way to get your papers, but since your a Christian I will suggest you come back to Nigeria where your not illegal.

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  30. Hmmm,this is somehow. But i suggest if you have to go down this road, go for a proper correct british citizen probably a caucasian and have a business arrangement. ivf or artificial insemination and plan to keep your baby no matter what.

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  31. South south????? You must be mad! Are u aware these pple dont have one single culture and they give birth to kids out of wedlock like water? Im igbo also married to a south south man and i totally regret it my dear.theres nothing as good as marrying your tribe and who tells you your papers are gauranteed when you take in.my dear you better use your igbo brain and run for your dear life now that it is yet day. In my next world i will never date nor marry any south south person (rivers/delta/crossriver/bayelsa) person dem no get culture oh and dem no dey sidoon for marraige

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    1. lol if she get ears make sge hear word.

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  32. Every action has it consequences,be fully ready for every action you take. Only Nigerian ladies in the UK who wears your shoes would be able to really advise you well.

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  33. I see baby mama things loading!
    My dear, if u don't have money to find someone to pay for paper marriage, get papers in dignity and not be vulnerable to bastard breeders and wicked men looking for desperate girls and women to take advantage of abroad. Then go ahead and take 1 chance here!
    Because the black / african mind is not yet evolved to do such good, unless of course if u r like the Nigerian, Dr Omalu (see movie concussion) in America, who saw a rape victim from Kenya, desperate homeless and stranded woman there in America & accepted to accomodate her for free with no conditions, brought her home, then cleaned her up, wifed her immediately and gave her everything!!!

    The black/ african mind otherwise is programmed for suffer...head things, or to inflict suffering on others.
    This Nigerian man with bitico passport that is telling you to 1st get pregnant and he will go marry u traditionally back home; how did he get his papers? did he marry before? did he use oyibo or another woman to get his papers? what makes u think he will not use & dump u same way or manipulate u like he has done with other girls or women in his life before?
    if he badly needs child(ren) then why don't he go to orphanage and adopt ? without playing any hanky panky things with a girl or woman that is not his wife (legally)????
    Beware of such men who look for the cart in front behind the ox, to almost immediately fell pregnant for them to start having doubts about u, question ur character, ur faithfulness to them, ur background, whether the child is their own or not!!!

    look around and compare (foreign) black women married to oyibo men abroad, even without papers when they first hooked up with that oyibo man. How many of them are excluded from the man's protection, goodwill, generosity, favors, money, better life things and enjoyments from marriage???
    It is always the other way round for black women to grinding like slaves..24/7 suffering in "marriage" with a black man.

    Sorry to tell u this, the african/ black/ naija man is not yet capable or there now at the level to assure u of better things in life, protect, cover u up from the harsh realities of life abroad where & when u in need of a strong anchor, a divine helper, true defender & God sent man.

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    1. Well said....Only few of them have good intentions..Treating our women like trash.

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  34. If there’s a precondition, I would say ‘red flag’. Madam akalanyasaaa...

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  35. dear BV. i hope you get to read my comment. My sister was in this too. She got pregnant twice for the same guy. They did their traditional marriage here . He even came here for it but guess what he never filled for her. My sister suffered. as in suffred well. Took her 10 years as illegal to get her papers. He even wrote to the home office about her illegal status just to get her deported so that he can be collect the children's money. Once a man begin to put condition to your marriage RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!. A man does not need to love you but as long as he wants you as his wife he will do the right thing including marrying you properly filling papers for you e.t.c. Stella pls post. I am not putting my name so dat i will not be decoded. My sister's story is so long but she suffered as in suffred.

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    1. That's a long time Canada way/ scam marriage things. They'll quickly marry u, but then fail to sponsor/ file ur papers. As long as u r not ergonomically perceived as of any value, u r nothing to them but baby mama ..for the men & sperm donor for women..if u r a man.
      U r better paying someone ready for business(no hanky panky involved!!!) to get papers rather than entangled with messed up, wicked situation with naija men or women abroad.
      They r in a cult, same whatsapp group members, inventing different ways, tricks to exploit, take advantage of vulnerable single person. Either rope them into scams, steal their money, all while forming friendship or into relationship. All na wash!!!
      They will set u up to suffer, watch u suffer, laugh at u, ridicule & humiliate u & the kid(s) scorn & mocking u blocking every chance they see as escape & freedom from the bondage they put u in the 1st place.

      Now, run for ur life!!!!
      Return to sender any bastard breeder, wicked man, scammer, love peddlers, frenemy in disguise targeting u & recruiting for victim. Bastard breeders r reserved a special place in HELL FIRE!!!

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  36. my dear in life have learnt that whatever I want I pray to God to make happen in his own way. you cannot guarantee anything albeit one with conditions. I moved to the UK with a spouse visa to my Naija/British husband. we had issues when I travelled and he refused to approve papers for me to get my indefinite leave to remain....to cut a long story short, we were estranged for some years and only now back together. I have just filled for another spouse visa so we can all travel with the kids who are British citizens courtesy of him...what am I saying, even if you marry him there is no guarantee your papers will eventually be regularized as at when due. let your actions be based purely on you love me I love you, lets marry and hope to live happily ever after..if you have no papers go back home and don't marry a man cos of papers. if you don't wanna go back home and can still remain pray for someone who will love you and wont give you conditions...oyibo or naija it is possible. impossible for others might not be impossible for you, just let things be done properly then God will do the rest

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