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AGE BROUHAHA
Hello Stella.
I have been dating my woman for 6 months now. I don't know her age. I spill the question and she got angry saying a woman doesn't tell her age. I want her for marriage. I don't know a better way to ask her how old she is. Other ladies I have dated don't have a problem telling me. Even our pastor know about us. Please advice and keep me anonymous. Thanks.
Hello Stella.
I have been dating my woman for 6 months now. I don't know her age. I spill the question and she got angry saying a woman doesn't tell her age. I want her for marriage. I don't know a better way to ask her how old she is. Other ladies I have dated don't have a problem telling me. Even our pastor know about us. Please advice and keep me anonymous. Thanks.
*Does she know your age?If Yes,then she is probably older or same age with you and is not comfortable revealing it....You cannot definitely marry someone you dont know her age.....Please make her feel comfortable and let her know that you dont care about how old she is......With time she will reveal..
Please if she is not telling you her age,she is not telling a lot of other things so be careful...Ask for genotype and all the necessities before marrying her......
I don't get it; why won't she tell you? Please let her know its important. If she will hide something as simple as age, I wonder what other things she will be hiding.
ReplyDeleteI don’t and will never disclose my actual age to anyone instead I add.
DeleteY u wan know? 🍆
Me wey be say because I ask of name he no gree follow me talk nko? I come do research find him name come call am that name, since that day, bobo no gree follow me talk o. Bobo dey your lane make I dey my own o, no space for bad energies
DeleteShe should've just told u any age since she's secretive, anything she tells u would probably be a lie.
ReplyDeleteSo why do Naija girls breathe out lies like ikuku eh?
DeleteAjuju n' ese okwu
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My husband didn't know my age till after marriage. He asked me, I didn't tell him. He's older than me though but I didn't tell him till after marriage. Well I still didn't tell him till he saw my birth certificate.
DeleteHow weird.
DeleteAnony 19:00 can I know why you took that decision not to tell him.
DeleteWhat’s difficult in telling you her age?
ReplyDeleteIf she can hide something as simple as her age from you, brother be careful.
Such people are full of deceit.
“A woman doesn’t tell her age”, she is speaking for herself. Please keep asking her until she tells you. Don’t ask her like you are trying to expose her for something but maybe find a way to bring it up while you both are having an interesting convo.
ReplyDeleteAsk her every and anything if this is the woman you want to spend forever with. Maybe the question startled her and when next you want to ask her no need to remind her that she didn’t respond the previous time. She also isn’t comfortable with you, else you wouldn’t need to ask it would come up during conversations and just say it naturally.
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DeleteDoppelganger your head is there!
DeleteIf you are very serious about marrying her,do not let her age stop you.If you keep pushing her,she might lie about about it and you wouldn't want that.
ReplyDeleteLife has taught me not to ask too many questions...sometimes you know the truth even without asking.
Rubbish advice...
DeleteMy brother, ask every every oh, plus strong evidence, she fit lie say she be AA wen shes AS, is that wat u want to reveal in marriage?
Really? He shouldn't be bothered about the age of the person he plans to marry? See yarn oo.
DeleteMy brother keep asking, a woman doesn't tell her age as what nau. She is most likely trying to hide the fact that she is older than you are from you.
Oh wow poster please dnt listen to this advice. This is a man thinking of marrying her. The age thing should even be among the first things you know about someone you are dating.
DeleteBefore y'all start masturbating under my comment,have you asked this "brother" why he did not marry any of the ladies he dated before this lady in question?
DeleteThey all told him about their age and yet,he did not wife any of them!
Why didn't he ask her about her age before exposing their relationship to their pastor?
If a lady refuses to tell a man something as simple as her "real" age,it means she doesn't trust him enough or see him as a serious suitor!
@poster,you are not serious about this lady,you are simply looking for an excuse to validate the cold feet you already have!
I fear who no fear all these church "brothers"....na dem!
Pinkylady you add LOL at the end of that comment, cus you must be joking!!!!
DeleteAsk other people na
ReplyDeleteOr figure it out with style
Ask when she graduated from secondary school
What set
That bullshit!!
DeleteIs he dating other people? How shameful would it be asking them for ur GF age?
So something as little as her age is treated as FBI confidential secret, this poster seems to be begging her for marriage, & she knows... you think it'd end with her keeping her age a secret? Wait till u eventually marry her, even if she tells you her age today, she'd keep alot of secrets from you when married, how long will you keep playing forensic investigations?
Please if she cant put her cards on the table, shes not ready for marriage.
True @ LEP, imagine getting angry cos he asked her age.
DeleteWhy am I not seeing “POSTER RUNNN”
It tables were turned, you know the answer 💁🏿♂️
Abeg abeg there is a reason she’s sensitive about telling him
DeleteAll na love dance. He can dance with her or dance out. everything is not fight or right sometimes just play the game
Maybe she doesn’t trust him not to tell others anyway just relax and you’ll know soon enough
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DeleteWhich kind yeye love dance, you have a name for any rubbish, simple question, she cant open up, her type go bring another man pikin carry give you, na this poster i blame sef, hes a weak man.
DeletePOSTER, start keeping secrets too, even if she asks you your favorite colour tell her its a secret, tell her ure going to the hospital, if she asks why... tell her you cant reveal, laugh over it but dont tell her anything, it'd bite her....
Maybe guyman talks too much. So she feels he will broadcast
DeleteA younger guy has been asking me out for awhile now. He knows I am older than him and he doesn't mind. But he still wants to know my exact age. I'm older with 3 years and some months, still I am shy to tell him. A part of me doesn't want him looking at me as old even though he insists my age is no problem.
ReplyDeleteYour woman is probably just shy and scared. She doesn't want you looking at her as a grandma. So you have to assure her of your love and commitment and let her know that her age will change nothing.
DO NOT LISTEN GO TO STELLA's 2nd paragraph. She hasn't lied to you and her refusal to tell you her age doesn't mean she is hiding or lying about other things. She just doesn't want you to stop looking at her as your Lil cute pumpkin.
So why are you not telling your age?
DeleteYou people will hide your ages instead of your vjay?
So even when they have reached Pastor, shes still keeping it a secret, is that one normal? For how long?
DeleteIt’s not hard to reach pastor level
DeleteSome people reach and still don’t marry
Heck one guy was telling me a few ago don’t ever leave me, what will I do without you. Well he sef don leave
It may be your boo that sent this chronicle ohh. Pls naa tell him the age. But afterwards just jokingly say you are a forever 16 or forever 21!!
DeleteMtcheeeeew!
ReplyDeleteYoure not serious!
If she cant tell you her age, is it genotype she'd tell you?
Genotype is not age
DeleteYes genotype is not age, but they can both make or break a relationship.
DeleteU say age can make or break and then say you don’t understand why she won’t tell
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ReplyDeleteIf you love this lady, stick around, she will turn around.
If you love this lady, you should not
be forking right now. You should be
asking questions and trying to know her better while
she too gets to know you better.
You should be discussing relevant issues that concern the family you
envisage; number of kids, career, finances etc.
I don't understand why Naija girls like to dey hide their ages o.
Why, why, why, why????
And to the person wey you want to marry
you , you dey get angry with for asking about your age? 😯😯😯
"Women don't tell their age...?" really, where is it written?
Ajuju n' ese okwu...
Naija girls, please tell us if it is true that una no dey tell una ages
and why???
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Because of age shaming. There is absolutely nothing wrong with an older lady and younger man in many parts of the world, except Nigeria. Even the whole Megan and Harry love story will not change us. We have such a shaming culture. How many times have people age shamed psquare's wife Lola? So yes that is exactly why women hide their ages.
DeleteStick around for what exactly?
DeleteThank you Tobie. Age shaming is rampant in this country. Some small guys decide to turn you to Maga and behave as if they are doing you a favour once they know your age. They stop acting normal. I like how westerners don't really care once they are into you. Here even family members and friends will advice him against dating an older woman. So yall are not in her shoes. You guys don't know how mature she perceives the guy to be or how serious she considers the relationship.
DeleteHow do you know they are fucking? Ajuju n’ese okwu 😉
ReplyDeleteHaba ! Which kind woman be that. The reason She isn't telling her age is either bcos she's older than you or same age. And one way or another you must have given her the impression you don't appreciate being with a woman older than you.
ReplyDeleteIf you love her & want her for marriage then you need to make her know you don't really care but you need to know how old show is.
But nawa. how do u keep such info from someone that close to you? Me I never reduce my age,i rather not tell you. Once we get to a certain stage in a relationship ,I have my original copy of my birth certificate on my phone,so if I tell you my age & you doubt I quietly send it to your email or WhatsApp...no time. If you don't like me cos of my age it is your loss.
You are dating your ancestor. A lady that is younger than you, your age mate or 1-2 years older than you will not hide her age from you if you ask her.
ReplyDeleteThe 'ancestor' and 'gwegs gwegs' or whatever is all part of the age shaming. It's all talks and jokes to most of us but it does hurt people deeply.
DeleteSee one of the age shammers.
DeleteWhy are we all making excuses for this big sign because its coming from a woman. Some of you are saying she hiding her age doesn't mean shes hiding other things. I lol; poster if you were my brother, I would personally drag you out of that relationship. A woman doesn't tell her age; says who? Your girlfriend comes across like a manipulative person, keeping secrets to manipulate you into marrying her.
ReplyDeleteWhat's there about her age that she can't tell? She's definitely speaking for herself. Maybe she feels you're not serious with the relationship or she doesn't want to have any commitment with you so no need spilling too much.
ReplyDeleteIf she knows yours and refused to tell hers, then there are other things she won't say.e.g medical history or condition, genotype, Hiv status, blood group and even what she graduated with from the University. Keep asking her but the ball is in your court.
The first question I ask any nigga before dating is AGE.
ReplyDeleteForget her. Shes older than your ancestors.
If she hides her age from you, she sure is probably hiding something else from you.
ReplyDeleteI don't know why some women who have achieved so much in their lives keeps hiding their age.
If you can plan a trip with her that would involve getting her passport, maybe her real age will be there, better still, ask any of her siblings how old they are (siblings closest to her, like her elder/younger brother or sister)
She's probably older than you.
Abeg free that babe. She is shady.
ReplyDeleteCorrect. She's shady, that's it.
DeleteGbam or insecure or suspicious of your intention
DeleteAge is just a number. Tell her you’re making plans to travel with her... and there are some travel forms to fill...
ReplyDeleteI don't even understand how people who hide their age do it...like how do they celebrate birthdays?writing +1 every year??
ReplyDeleteHow about telling her to send you her CV,that you want to send it to someone for a job slot?? or does she have siblings? you could ask either the younger or older one their age and then do some subtractions or additions...
Do not go on with a lady that can not be open and tell you something as simple as her age. That is a recipe for disaster! It means she is either extremely insecure or has other sinister motives you don't want to know. Do not go on with her without knowing her age. There is never a good reason to lie to an intimate partner about biodata. Never! Please it's just been 6 months, calm down. If you go ahead and marry this woman with this age cloud hanging, you are in for a lot of terrible surprises in your marriage. This is a RED FLAG. If she cannot trust you to love her whatever her age, then she would not trust you with other important things in the future.
ReplyDeleteWhen I met my partner I was 19, on our fourth date I said that I would not date anybody more than 26. He thought I was 26 and I thought he was 25! He asked if I only date my age mates because like I stated, he thought I was 26. I said no, 26 is not my age mate, I am 19. His countenance dropped immediately and you could tell he was so sad. We had been seeing each other for about 2months. He said nothing that night about his age when I asked.However,the first thing he said when he visited the next time was his age. Showed me his driver's license and passport and said I know this might be the end of what we have but I can't be dishonest about this. He was 31! 5 years older than my eldest brother.I thought about it really, really hard. To be honest, I already liked him and his age did not matter to me much when I really thought about it. It's been 7 years since and we are planning on becoming common law next year. My friends don't know his age, they might think he is a creep or something or I have daddy issues. I am not ready to defend my love or relationship to anyone and you know why? It's not their business.So you see, she is bad news if she can't reveal her age. Every serious responsible adult ready to date knows this. I don't even know why she would want to be with somebody that she is ashamed to tell her age. Again, red flags.
Advise; Ask her again nicely. Let her know that it is not about age but trust and just basic knowledge of an intimate partner's biodata. If she still declines, then you should really think about your future together.
My girlfriends husband doesn't know his wife's true age. She claimed to be 29yrs old cus her documents carries her sports age. She's into sporty games so for that reason,she reduced her age; where as,shes 34yrs old. If she knows yours then it's normal you know hers where as i would suggest you forget knowing hers.
ReplyDeleteForget what? He need to know if he choose to.
DeleteProbably, you must have talked down or negatively about women being older than their partners. She is older than you no doubt. But keep asking her nicely, i met someone recently i asked him his age, he told me and i told him point blank we are age mates, Dude said his next birthday is in August,which will make him a year older,i started laughing the way he quickly reminded me, that age isn't maturity, i told him its not even a year, its months. Talking about age with him was comfortable. I still have left him in the friend zone, i will laugh, laugh and fall in love. I want someone 3years older.
ReplyDeleteSo poster, make the age thingy not seem like a big thing. GoodLuck
Oh no, babes please don't tell me the only reason you don't want to be w this man is cos he's only a few months older. He doesn't even mind. The time is 2019!! What is wrong with nigerian women??
DeleteThat is how some people miss their blessings. Kontinu .
DeleteBros na your aunty be that o, she no wan make you run away when you hear her age. Just mali her like that, she will tell you during the honeymoon.
ReplyDeleteRubbish. My husband us older than me yet I didn't reveal my age to him. Poster you should guess her age range from her behaviour, friends, classmates
DeleteWhy do you want him to be guessing her age? He's not your husband that took shit from you @anon 19:04
DeleteNa quiz?
DeleteWetin dem dey guess?
Oga,maybe she's older and don't know how you would react if she tells you..or maybe one way or the other you have expressed how you can't stay with an older Lady..
ReplyDeleteIf the age is really an issue for you and you really want to know;here is what to do..
Note down all the banks she operates with;then few weeks from now tell her you need her to open an account with a bank you know she doesn't operate with;so she can help you do some savings with it from a business you are expecting..If she asks why you can't use the banks she has already;tell her the business money can only be paid into that one you mentioned etc..
The day she is going to open it,opt to go with her then when you are sure she has filled in everything on the form,you can then stylishly distract her to see the age..
@MARTINS ABOY
Runaway o! If she can't tell her age trust me she doesn't love you as much as you love her and maybe- she even has another potential suitor in the wings who is older than she is. Na experience the talk so. She probably loves you but is worried about what society will think- definitely older than you are. Like someone said, once she can't tell you her age, there are many more secrets underneath. There are so many ladies who had children when they were younger and pass their own kids as either cousins. Siblings or even relatives from the village- just to present themselves as "chaste" for their suitors. One of my neighbors back in the day had a kid when she was about 15 in secondary school. She hid the pregnancy from her parents and teachers successfully and delivered the child in the hostel all by herself, not a sound from her. When she was going to dump the child in the latrine she was caught and her parents were called in. From school straight to village for one year, then back to town, and school-without the child. To this day she calls the boy their cousin and eventually married one Lebanese construction worker like that- off to wherever he lives she went- without her cousin. The young man is well into his late 20s or early 30s now. So please if she no gree tell you here age , painfully withdraw from pending DOOM. It is as painfull as her being a SS genotype.
ReplyDeletePOSTER RUNNNNNNNNNN.
ReplyDeleteTell her to give you her Curriculum Vitae. That someone needs her CV urgently for a job or a better job. You will see everything you want. Even though she lie about her age in the CV. Subtract like 2- 3 years from what she has on her CV. Matter closed.
ReplyDeleteMaybe her football age will be there.
DeleteYou mean you are in a relationship with someone? and you don't know her age? Bro that's not a proper relationship. RUN 🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️
ReplyDeleteI know ladies are usually sensitive about age disclosure, however, if a lady who has been dating a guy for 6 months, not only gets upset but still refuses to tell her man how old she is when he asked, it will be safe to assume that something is amiss. It's even more worrisome if she's aware that the relationship is Altar bound.
ReplyDeleteJust out of curiosity, did you ever tell her the age or age bracket you prefer?Perhaps she knows she is older and she is scared of losing you or she isn't taking the relationship as seriously as you are, so she doesn't see the point in "full disclosure". It could also be a personal reason best known to her. Whatever the reason is, or reasons are, I will advise you to hold up marriage plans because if she is this sensitive and secretive about something as banal as age, can you imagine the other "ballistic" stuff she is keeping safely tucked away in the proverbial closet?
I know most people have "a little something" they wouldn't want their partners knowing about but those are usually serious or very personal stuff. Certainly not something as elementary as age. Some ladies may reduce their ages when asked, but bluntly refusing to give even an age bracket is quite unsettling. If I were you, I wouldn't trust anything she tells me and that's one of the wrongest ways to start off a marriage.
Everyone has the right to have a particular age preference when it comes to marriage. I don't think it's fair to hide your true age as if you're trying to hoodwink a man or woman into marrying you. While it's not necessary to go tell it on the mountain, you should be confident enough to tell your partner how old you are. If it happens to be a deal breaker, so be it. Move on with your dignity.
If you guys were already married, my advice would be different. Like I always say, if life or limb is not threatened, I believe all should be done to preserve the marriage. Luckily for you, you aren't bound by marriage yet so you can pay more attention to potential red flags and avoid a union of resentment and distrust. In the alternative, if she has other amazing qualities and she's all you want in a woman, you could assure her that her age wouldn't change how you feel about her (if that's the truth). Then give her more time to open up. However, be mindful of the fact that you would be doing this at your detriment because she may end being a very secretive wife with a lot of skeletons in her closet or she may turn out to be the best wife you could ever ask for. It depends on if you want to take a chance on her. Be sure you are making the right decision. Good luck.
In as much as she has refused tellin u her age then,,there are so many thinys she is still hiding from you.
ReplyDeleteU try shaaaa.....immediately i keep asking u about ur work n u keepin hiding or trying to decieve me then its giod as saying goodbye.
Try and talk to her if u love her n if she is not ready to,,bro,,run faster than aja nsare
I have a different opinion though.I feel shes a cool and truthful lady.Note that she could have lied about her age but she chose not to.She'd rather not tell you her real age yet based on probably the age difference or your utterances towards that direction in the past. Please talk to her and dont think she's hiding other stuff because of that
ReplyDeleteShe's not truthful and she has a lot of hidden secrets.
DeleteI have a different opinion though.I feel shes a cool and truthful lady.Note that she could have lied about her age but she chose not to.She'd rather not tell you her real age yet based on probably the age difference or your utterances towards that direction in the past. Please talk to her and dont think she's hiding other stuff because of that
ReplyDeleteGuy, if she can't tell you her age, believe me, she will hide a while lot from you
ReplyDeleteYou don't need a a secretive woman that can't share ordinary age with you..
Poster, she is definitely older than you and she is afraid you would look at her differently if you know and leave her. Most women are age sensitive. You can take this to the bank.
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