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Thursday, June 27, 2019

Labour Room Drama 262

This is a narrative like none other.................WOW!!!





I got married as a virgin at 16+, took in at 17, birthed my first child few days to my 18th birthday. 

I knew close to nothing about pregnancy, and my mum was in another state. 


GSM wasn't yet in Naija then, too. I registered for ante-natal very early. My pregnancy journey was pretty smooth, save for heartburn and bronchitis in the first trimester. Gbenshing was a daily thing till a day to delivery. Lol

A day before delivery, hubby and I returned from an evening stroll so sat outside the compound gisting. Few minutes later my mum-in-law arrived from the East. She knew my expected date of delivery, reason she came. We welcomed her and went inside.

The next morning being Saturday, hubby went for his usual trainings at the stadium. I was doing the chores while gisting with mum-in-law. I started having cramps, like menstrual cramps but didn't remember it is one of the signs of labour so waived it off and continued with what I was doing.

When I felt like to wee, I went to the toilet and when I wiped I saw blood. That was when it clicked that I might be in labour. I came out and told mum-in-law what I saw and the pain I was feeling. Also told her my doctor asked me to come to the hospital as soon as I saw the "show".

In her bid to buy time, she told me it was nothing that I should go back to what I was doing. She just said I should let her know whenever the pain starts. Little did I know she was timing the contractions.

She later asked me to go shower and get dressed so when hubby returns he'll take us to the hospital. While waiting for hubby the pain got unbearable so I told her I was leaving for the hospital and she can come with hubby if she wants.

We got downstairs and met hubby playing with the neighbours' kids. Immediately he saw us he knew what's up so quickly opened the car and off we went. We got there I was checked, admitted, then given enema.

I have this thing for toilets. Unless it's super clean, I wouldn't dare sit on it. So after the enema I had no choice but to use it and hubby was shocked...according to him, that was when he knew it was a serious something. Lol! After emptying my bowels I went to lay on the bed.

When the contraction starts I'll hold onto the bed and be screaming. A nurse that later came to check me taught me a trick that helped, even my mum-in-law started panicking when she no longer heard my screams - she thought the contractions had seized.

The trick:
Whenever a contraction starts, relax your entire body, more like a 'surrender' - you know that relaxed feel you get when you exhale after inhaling deeply(sorry, this is the best way I can describe it), then open your mouth and breathe through it slowly, like you are counting your breathe. DO NOT pant.

Note that if you do this exercise correctly, you will be greatly relieved. Trust me!

I followed her instructions so I stopped screaming cos I felt much relief whenever I did the breathing exercise. At a point, mum-in-law asked if the contractions had stopped and I said no, that the nurse gave me a tip.

Not too long, I started feeling nauseous. They brought me a pan and I threw up in it. Few minutes later I told mum-in-law (hubby had gone home to shower and change) to assist me to the toilet to poo. I didn't even know when she ran out to call the midwife because by the time I managed to stand up from the bed, she was by my side and asked me to lay down.

I insisted I wanted to poo but she said she will check me first. She did and asked me to follow her to the delivery room.


We got there, she burst open the amniotic sac, I was given an episiotomy then she said I should poo when I get the urge again. At the 5th (or more) push, it started raining heavily and immediately, my princess was born weighing just 2.5kg.

In all, labour lasted for about 5 hours, or less. We were discharged the next day.

I was made to believe the myth that if you don't give your hubby s*x, he will seek it elsewhere. I gave in on the 3rd week when my stitches were yet to heal. Oh how I was hurting! Did it stop him from straying? Of course it didn't!

My mum-in-law stayed 2 weeks, then my mum came and stayed 2 weeks too. They left an inexperienced teenager to fend for herself and newborn. I'm thankful because my early experiences prepared me for the future.

PS: my little princess is not-so-little anymore. She's now an undergraduate. She is the fattest amongst her siblings, despite they weighed far more (3.5kg & 4.2kg)than she did at birth.




WOW...............thanks for the contraction tips,I am sure the pregnant BVs would read and practice when they are in labour...
I have so many questions to ask.......looks like you Married with your consent?At 16?

42 comments:

  1. I guess early marriages where the norm those days before gsm.

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  2. yikes married at 16? that was too freaking early man.. anyway thank God you came out fine n all. can imagine your daughter now looking like your younger sister.

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  3. This labour room drama is ancient but I read it like it just happened. Lol

    Lotsa child brides back in the day so I doubt consent was a big thing then, Stella.

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  4. Wow! Thanks for the tips. Was discussing birth stories with my friend yesterday and I also got good tips. I will never forget this your tip.

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  5. The tip no dey work abeg cos i tried it so many times.If na shout go help u,shout! If speaking in tongues do cos the pain is always unbearable.

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    1. Hmmmm...I tried too o shii did nothing!!!! Maybe I didn't do it right shhaa... Damn labour pain na dieeeee mehn...second to none

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    2. But do you know while shouting, you are using up your energy at the wrong way, you need energy to push,your voice might be gone by the time you shout and shout in labor pain.

      The BREATHING exercise works if you know how to use provided you have low threshold of pain.
      but never scream or shout when in labour, it drains the energy and makes you weak.

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  6. I like the way you write madam, very easy to read. Even had to screenshot the tips. God bless you ma'am for sharing

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  7. So after 3 weeks,you immediately resumed sex so your husband wont cheat,not considering the stitches and health.Wehdone ma!!!

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    1. U don start to judge ...amebo like u. Mtcheeew

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    2. Your response is coming a few decades late. She doesn't need this response now. Take the lessons and leave out the rest.

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  8. Thanks for that trick.... Noted
    Was 3weeks not too early to do??

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    1. i have a friend who resumed on the naming day although it was the husband that was disturbing and didn't let her rest.

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  9. Wow!!! Your children will be looking like your siblings now. Congrats

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    1. My first thought o, if her first 20 then she should be about 37 or max 38

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  10. You are blessed madam...I really don't know if those tips actually work with everyone because our tolerance to pain differs especially when it comes to delivery be it early or late conception/delivery(as in age wise). I had my first child at 41+, got to the hospital at 8:20am had my baby at 10:45am and didn't shout all I was doing was holding my breadth, crying silently and praying. What I know is that anyone who experiences the bloody show go through a painful labour/delivery but if its mucous with water its less painful and quicker..may God grant all our expectant mothers a safe and less painful labour/delivery.

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    1. Not true ma'am. I experienced the bloody show for my daughter and by the grace of God my labour wasnt so painful. Just felt like menstrual pains but a bit more painful.

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  11. Contraction relief to noted. Thanks a lot.

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  12. The tip helps but not total elimination of the labor pain.
    . screaming out your lungs is waste of energy.

    If you marry early and lucky to birth your kids, You will enjoy it.

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    1. If money Dey. If not you go suffer small but time to enjoy will come by Gods grace

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  13. Interesting I learnt from this one

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  14. All I saw there is that u gave in to have sex so ur husband won’t cheat... u try well well.
    Always put ur self first no matter what. How some men are ok having sex with someone in pain beats me.
    Some men can’t just control themselves walahi

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    1. Chief judge

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    2. Kai Anon14:40, who do you this kin thing???

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  15. Lovely story madam. Labour pain no be here

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  16. Wow! You and your children would look like siblings. God bless your mother-in-law too.

    I wish i married early, not 16 though. My plan was to be married at 24 years and finish having my three kids before 30. I'm my 30s now but no husband, not even a bae. Haven't dated in over 10 years. Still a virgin. Thank God for life sha

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    1. Same plan I had....Marry at 24-25, have my 2 kids before 30. But life happened.


      Hang in there, your time will come. Thank God for life.

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  17. Lai-lai! Thir trick cannot work on kids of these day. That time that you want to relax ur nerves, dats wen they will try push their way and cause ur body to vibrate..... abi na wen u try to inhale, dem go push der own breath tru ur nose and mouth. Odiegxu!

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  18. Lai-lai! Thir trick cannot work on kids of these day. That time you want to relax ur nerves, dats wen they will try push their way and cause ur body to vibrate..... abi na wen u try to inhale, dem go push der own breath tru ur nose and mouth. Very hyperactive generation. Odiegxu!

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  19. No Stella, I was actually FORCED into early marriage. Really don't like thinking about it.

    Thanks for sharing

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    1. Awwww it is well, thank God we don’t always look like what we’ve been through.

      I enjoyed your story, it’s just like it happened yesterday lol

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  20. See as una dey talk on top sex after 3 weeks. 3 weeks loun loun. when I know a couple that had sex at the hospital there, right after they had the baby. Can’t tell y’all what happened next cos they will decode I’m taking about them.

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  21. Thanks for sharing your story dear poster....that technique did not work for me o....the pain was unbearable..no matter what i did...but thank God for being faithful....sorry for the circumstance under which you got married....thats life..it is fair to some people and unfair to others...

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