I am currently dating this girl who would call me about fifty times a day just to talk about things she could easily discuss when we see each other or when we talk on the phone at a reasonable time.
It has become a distraction from my work, the same work I use to finance her expensive tastes.
I once tried taking a break from the relationship, and she stalked me with so many DMs and emails that I had to block her. When she realized she had been blocked, she started visiting my neighbors in my area and standing outside my office gate, even when I closed late.
When I complained, she would say she missed me. I told her that if she truly missed me, she would wait for me to come back from work and then tell me everything on the phone when I call, instead of sleeping off before I get home. She was always asleep by the time I returned around ten in the night.
I had to start ignoring her calls because she did not seem to understand that answering too many personal calls at work can be detrimental to my career.
Then she started nagging that I no longer answer her calls. Meanwhile, she is at home all day doing nothing because her work is remote, yet she would be asleep by the time I close.
I fear for my safety because I already know I cannot marry her. Who has been in my shoes or has any advice to offer? Because in this Nigeria, I do not even know where to report her.
HA!!!.....If you have tod her how this stalking doesnt go down well with you, and if you have told her to stop and she is still doing it then look for a way to subtle break up with her......stop taking her calls totally ,stop funding her expensive lifestlye, stop giving her gifts or taking her out....Just break up without saying aynthing and make sure you stay away from any lady until this one leaves you alone........Meanwhile you can report her for stalking but dont expect the police to protect you, just dont stay with her in a private place oh...
She's living with you from what I read. You should start by living apart since you both are not married.
ReplyDeleteAlso, since you don't have the intention of marrying her, why not end the relationship and not let her waste her time with you.
Read to comprehend before you comment
DeleteWhere did he mention that they live together?
DeleteAra love ana agba ya?
ReplyDeleteBlock her sick head off and focus on your job.
Una no even understand his problem here,she knows his house and his office even if he block her she go still gum his body😅
DeleteMaybe you start doing something that irritates her just to scare her away from you My bad advice though 🙈😅
You have done everything by the book so the next stage has to be strategic.
ReplyDelete1.Start nagging.
2.Don't give her money, pretend to be broke. Expensive chics can't stand broke guys, you will be shocked she is protecting you because you are an asset.
3. Time for her to move out. Don't stick up the house. Bring in your friends to crash, your sisters and their loud friends.
Do the opposite of everything you have been doing.
In a nutshell, give her body heat she will run.
Poster ignore this advice pls her type has coconut head . Just run for your life
DeletePlease follow Stellz advice on this one ..
ReplyDeleteNa this kind movie I dey watch sef. Love, lies-broken minds. Chinonso Arubayi wan use insecurity frustrate Ik Ogbonna. I am just about 20 minutes done. She almost killed herself die for him house because she couldn't accept the break up.
ReplyDeleteIK con fall in love with an Epileptic babe(Bimbo Ademoye)
DeleteIt’s like she loves you
ReplyDeleteWhy does that bother you
Abi you don’t love her too
Are you okay?
DeleteIs this how you go about stalking and be deliberately disgusting to people you love?
Again, are you normal?
Another crazy loco spotted
DeleteThe problem is that you when you guys experience a behavior you are not comfortable with in a girl you can never tell her or advice her on how you would like her to behave. How will she change if you don't let her know that you don't like her behavior? How will she know that she's not doing the right thing?
ReplyDeleteThe problem is that when you guys experience a behavior you are not comfortable with in a girl you are dating you can never tell her or advice her on how you would like her to behave. How will she change if you don't let her know that you don't like her behavior? How will she know that she's not doing the right thing?
DeleteSlim shady the guy already said up there he told her but she did not listen. What else do you want him to do?
DeleteOh, ok am sorry, I just saw that
DeleteDear Poster, why are you two living together? Now that you are changing your mind about her, it will be a challenge to let her go.
ReplyDeleteShe is not well, this is obsessive behaviour.
Take your leave and travel after breaking off things with her. The way it's going, this relationship will not end well except you put things in place.
Where did you read that they are living together? Na so una take dey fail exam
DeleteWhy did you start leaving with her in the first place.
ReplyDeleteI have no advice for you other than that you should pray she does not harm you.
What you describe up there is already a form of toxicity. And if you attempt to break up with her she may harm you in anyway.
You sef no too get respect
ReplyDeleteHow is she doing nothing if her work is remote
“she is at home all day doing nothing because her work is remote, yet she would be asleep by the time I close.”
Get some military guys to scare off, she will obliged.
ReplyDeleteI quite agree before them kpai man pikin in the name of love,
DeleteWhich kain wahala be this??
Stella's idea is great, stop giving her money, in case she has the keys to your house, change he locks, is there a friend you can stay with for now cuz i fear for your life. Stop taking her calls entirely.
She is crazy af
If I were in your shoes, I'd stop seeing this as someone who simply "misses" me and recognize it as someone who repeatedly ignores my boundaries. Calling excessively, showing up at my workplace, and contacting my neighbors are not healthy behaviors. That thing no be love na either obsession or trying to stalk to know if anything or anybody is touching her bank/ATM.
ReplyDeleteSince you already know you don't see a future with her, be honest and end the relationship respectfully. Set clear boundaries, document any unwanted contact, and prioritize your safety and career. A relationship should bring peace, not make you fear losing your job.
Na naija young love be dat
DeleteYall should chill
He will marry her
This is very uncomfortable. Please tell her you're not interested. If she refuses get a restraining order
ReplyDeleteThis one na one chance relationship
ReplyDeleteRUN
ReplyDeleteThis is called ife gbigbona, run for your dear life.
ReplyDeleteI feel the lady may just be in love
ReplyDelete