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A CHRONICLE OF STUPIDITY

Dear Stella,


My name is Bims a single mother of 1, I head a new generational bank.
I was promoted to his post only about 3 years ago, there had been this older colleague who I used to confide in from time to time, we used to work till very late and hang out till very late.


On one of the days when we were hanging out till late, I had told him about my failed marriage, my divorce process, my in law and all the issue I was going through, I was crying and in the process he started telling me how much of a let down his wife was,he told me how he wishes he could leave her, how she wouldn't cook for him, how she wouldn't have s#x with him, how she wouldn't spend her money on anything in the home, how she was emotionless bla bla bla .

Subsequently he will show me WhatsApp arguments between himself and his wife, I asked him if he wanted me to intervene, I will give him tips on how to fix the issues in his home.

Somehow I we started to have feeling for each other and started dating .

We will spend every possible free time together, we became inseparable, I experienced a kind of love, he will call his mum and ask me to say hello, I met his really close friends, his cousins, uncles like 40% percent of his family members.


After about 4 months into the relationship, we travelled to Paris and he proposed to me in the presence of his cousin.


I accepted the proposal coz we were in public, when we got back to our hotel room, I asked him what that was about, he said he meant what he was saying , I asked him how he would tell his wife about the relationship, he assured me that he could, he reminded me that his father had 4 wives and so did my father too, he said he had her control button and she wasn't a problem.

7 months into the relationship I had a party at my house, and he came with his wife, somehow we exchanged phone numbers, but never really spoke.


In the course of the relationship, I became like his go to person for everything, I got close to his siblings, and friends, nieces and nephews, i turned myself to a money bag, i was in love.


Funding his family vacations (his wife and kids), paying his kids school fees, fixing his friends and nieces and nephews with jobs because due to my position I had connections.


Sometime in December, I asked him when he was going to tell his wife about me, then I heard the craziest news, he told me to get pregnant, only if I got pregnant, then he will be able to tell his wife and then his wife and family will have no option but to accept me, but he couldn't tell his wife, he asked me if I wanted his wife to die of high blood pressure, I flipped, I asked him why all of a sudden he wasn't ready to stick to the agreement.

He knew pregnancy wasn't an option at least not before 2022, he knew I had restrictions, because of work and certain factors .


On Christmas day, I posted a picture of us on my WhatsApp story, subsequently I would post random pictures of us, we will have fights about why I shouldn't post my picture for his wife to see.


She will see it and they will have issues, so she kind of knew about my existence.

I got upset and even posted raunchy ones, I was furious and upset.


So she knew, they had a rocky marriage then after then they sorted their issues and swore to her that there was nothing between us, he begged me to bear with him.

Every time she called he will beg me to pls not talk, so she wouldn't hear my voice.


From time to time she will still accuse him of being with me whether or not he was with me, he will swear that I wasn't there and even do videos to prove that I wasn't.

He begged me to please get pregnant, I was irritated, I reminded him that he knew I couldn't get pregnant now.

I was so pissed, then I called one of his brothers who said I should remove the thought of marriage, his brother told me in plain English, to forget marriage talk, he will never marry me.


At that point, I got a wake up call, this guy wasn't going to marry me, in fact he had used me to acquire a 5 bedroom house in VGC, his family had travelled to countries , he had been to over 5 countries too and I felt my investments were enough, I had to pull out or else I will be very stuck .


So precisely we had planned to go to Spain, but I pulled out, i asked him if he will tell his wife who was funding his trip, he so no? So instead i went with my son, he also had political ambitions and i was going to take him to meet with the godfathers in his state, I cancelled it. He was due for his promotion and all they needed was my approval. I ignored it and I left the country.


He sent me a stinker , telling me never to call or text him again, counting the things i promised to do but never did, calling me a home breaker and a promise and fail, telling me I was impatient, and that if only I had waited he will have fulfilled his promise.

I took his words for it and told myself it was time to take a bow.

I never called him, blocked him off WhatsApp and every platform, deleted his family and friends .


Then his friends started calling me, begging me, telling me to take it easy, asking me why I blocked their brother / friend, telling me he fell ill, sending me pictures of his medication, I blanked out, I was done for good.


He has tried to reach me but I am done, I enrolled him for his PhD, his results came to my mail, I sent it to him as a text message, ignored his response telling me thank you.


I have decided to love myself, I realised it wasn't worth it, I lost myself in the process of the relationship, I loved him whole heartedly I was ready to go the extra mile for him..

My fear was what if he never kept to his part of the agreement by 2022? What if all he needed was to achieve all he wanted to ? Why ?
A part of me misses him, a part of me is glad I was able to move on and leave.

Just thought to share my stupidity with people...

*I felt like landing you a hot slap while reading!!!

This guy used a very old format on you and you fell hook,line and sinker..

Dont ever let anything make you love yourself less or even think about settling for less again....NEVER!!!

Thank God you came back to yoursense after spending so much to acquire a 'second hand 'man that was not even honest with you.

Babe geh,love will find you!!

Please if you have Vacancy mail me,we have some people here who will need your help...BE THEIR ANGEL!!!